Do you have any challenges making friends? Comment below! If you don't have any challenges, what are some tips you have for others who are struggling to make more friends?
That happened to me and they just ghosted me 😶 I hate her but I have my soulmate with me so I'm alright now 😌 (When I meant by soulmate its a friendship one)
I met this girl in the 3rd grade once and she always hung around me and I told her that she was being too clingy. I was told later that i made her cry. I felt bad and apologized. She's been my best friend for 9 years now.
I was in a kind of friend group and then one of the members left, and we kinda split up a bit. This one girl and I started talking and our first conversation was about Zombie sticks. Yeah, don’t ask. She’s been my bff for five years now.
When you realize that you only have casual friends, but innerly you want someone who understands you, but you know that you'll never gonna get it because you have too many problems to open up to people.
Hey, the time will come when you will find a best friend. You always grow over the years and even if you might not think it is possible to open up for you right now, everything can be different in a year. Or maybe in two years. Sometimes time alone does the job for you, don't to worry about it:)
YESS I FINALLY GET TO BE THE ONE TO DO THESE 0:06 - intro 0:31 - strangers (level 1) 1:04 - acquaintances (level 2) 1:39 - Casual friends (level 3) 2:16 - Close friends (level 4) 2:53 - intimate friends (level 5)
Level 10 of friendship "the bois" : you usually greet them with curse word or their parents name, usually make fun of them after break up but actually supporting them in away that any level of friendship cannot comprehend, this type of relationship is unbrakeble.
*That moment when your best friend doesn’t see you as their best friend* Edit: didn’t realize so many people could relate to this comment :/ I hope everyone’s doing ok! Edit 2: I noticed a ton of people were asking for a friend! Don’t worry, someday you’ll find someone who’ll be you friend too!
So I have this friend she's one year older but then she's shorter than me so this one day I was playing with her hand and she said " yeah I know I have baby hands " and I said " so you have the baby hands I have the baby voice Then to top it all up you have the baby height and she literally said piss off but as a joke 😂🤣🤣 then laughed with me
@@browncat204 yes lmaoo🤣 once I was out w my bff's the bff who I am fighting the most slapped me so I slapped her too and then we were slapping each other and we almost beat each other and the third bff was recording us🤣🤣🤣🤣 but like we were laughting all the time😂😂
Level 6 : never talk anymore, bur still hope the best for each other, and have a special spot in your heart . Cause, things just dont work. Too much love, bring to too much expectations, bring to toxicity. Okay imma out of it.
I always feel like I treat people like close friends while they only treat me as casual friends. I try to cheer them up when they have problems, but when I'm depressed they just want to get away. ):
yeah, i understand so well whenever my friends are going through a hard time i always try to help them,cheer them up etc but when im sad they really dont care or just dont try :/
@@theramenguy6797 When I wrote this comment I was actually going through a very difficult time and was very sad about that one friend. I had helped her through years of bullying and always gave her advice to find more self-confidence. I was there for her for hours when she cried. After four years of that I told her about how my family member got sick and would soon die, but she just said: "Oh, okay" and left. I actually confronted her about that a few months after that when I was having a breakdown. Turns out, she just didn't know, how to react to that. And she "couldn't imagine something like that". I'm not friends with her anymore. We work together, but no problem-helping anymore. I started setting more boundaries and actually just sometimes tell it people into their face when I thought their were disappointing me. I haven't found someone who really _really_ understands me yet, but my friend circle changed a lot and I just feel a bit more free right now than before. Just saying as someone who has been there, sometimes a clean cut helps. (And you don't have to become enemies)
When you have an existential crisis because you realize your "close friends" aren't really that close and even though you spend lots of time with them you actually don't know much about them and they don't know much about you and you both never talk about your struggles even though you're in very great pain because you don't want to make each other sad and you realize you don't actually understand each other and you only experience happiness together but never sadness and you feel so isolated and left out even though you value each other so much and you just wish that they open up and rely on you more but then the reason they're not opening up is because you're also like that and you curse yourself and your social incompetence and you feel bad and to make it worse you remember the fact that you're probably gonna be like this for a long time and this hollow but nice friendship will one day come to an end as you both move on in life and become busier and busier and the stupid dreams you talked about as kids about being together forever probably won't come true and stay a dream and your friend you used to cherish so much is drifting further and further apart and they will eventually become no more than an old aquintance and your whole life feels like a lie and even if you find new friends no one will truly understand you not even yourself Edit (written 4 months into the future): So I slowly started opening up by talking about my problems to the "close" friend I trust the most. It felt very uncomfortable and weird at first but also very satisfying. Well, we're not exactly friends anymore now, but I'm glad I opened up. We are now girlfriends.
@@suburbanfreak87 Your so right, except I'm slowly being more and more emotionally closed off, but in a kind of good way? I can't explain things very well.
I get so angry at myself because every single person I've met weather it's a close friend or a casual, I always give them my all. Sure I'm sounding selfish rn but intamate friend is right on the nail of how I act with all my friends. I've always put so much pressure on myself to get to know everyone and give everyone my all. Even if I don't like them. I've never been part of a small concentrated group or any group at all. Because I change the way I act around other people, I can just pick what people I wanna hang out with for the day. I'm not popular though. Not everyone knows me and I honestly hope they don't find out. Over the past few years now I've just felt really drained and used by all these people that I have always come to first. I have always been the one that has kept all their secrets. I have always been the one to contact them first. I go through all my contact lists and not once has anyone reached out to me first except for maybe one or two people but that was just to share memes with me. I'm just honestly not having the best time with my friends rn and honestly just myself. The funny thing is, I don't even like people, I don't like hanging out with people and I just want to be alone with some quite time that's all. I'm that kind of girl that screams at the top of her lungs and is in that loud friend group at school. And I always have been. Ever since I was 6 or 7 I've been in that group. The thing is I don't even like people. Sure there are people that I get along with and others that I have fun with. That doesn't mean I genuinely like them. I don't have anything against them or anything. It's just people in general. And I just want to be by myself. But when someone's mood just suddenly changes like that then people start crowding and asking "are you OK?" and all I wanna do is just scream at them because from all the time we have ever met eachother I have let you rant and rant on about who hurt you and who you like and all of your emotional problems that you have been going through and every single time it starts off with me asking you if you are OK. Not once have you reached out to me so now all of a sudden when I sit down and take a break you think that I'm suddenly really sad and depressed. If you would listen and actually let me talk without putting in a snarcky joke every 4 seconds then I might actually want to tell you and have a talk about my emotions for a change. I'm just not happy rn and I honestly found the lock down to be such a refreshment I didn't have to raise my voice and scream all the time. I could stop focusing on everyone for a bit and focus on me without feeling guilty or selfish about it. I need help learning to let things go like these friends of mine but I'm too much of a pussy to do that because of my Athazagoraphobia. fear of being forgotten. And I'm just so scared and confused and I have reached out to people that I genuinely trust but some have just made it sound so easy and others have blamed me for it and caused drama. I know what I have to do but I'm scared that since I want to cut off everyone and be the kid that's alone. And I know a heck of a lot of people, that no one will want to be near me again. All of the people that I know witch is like about 5 huge groups of different people. I will be cutting off. Who else would I have left then. No one. No one new to make friends with and rant on abt eachother to eachother. So I feel like I *have* to stay. its not a feeling of need or want it's the feeling of obligation. Sorry to the people that actually read this. I'm just some random girl going through some things rn and just want to tell someone instead of trying to bottle it up ya know. Anyways I think that's definitely enough abt me now aha. Have a nice day stranger😔😅
Masked Heart I have read every word of your comment......and I recognise quite somethings. in my friend group I’m the “quite one”, because I’ve kinda given up on always needing to raise my voice to even be heard to somebody, let stand someone actually listening to me. I’m the person someone comes to when the others are busy or when someone wants to rand about something. I always listen and if they ask for advise or help I will try to help them, because I would like if people would do that for me. I’m always the second or last choice. When I am talking with one of my friends I always have difficulty starting a conversation or keeping it going, because I just don’t know what to say. I’m the one that reaches out to others, but nobody reaches out to me. It hurts when it feels like you don’t have anybody were you feel actually comfortable with, were you can share feelings with. I have this problem even with my own family, because my sister is a person that takes a lot of attention from my parents. I don’t blame her because she doesn’t do it on purpose. I hate being like this, because I do want someone to be able to talk too, to hang out with( without needing to talk the entire time without making it akwerd), I want some one that reaches out to me and not only when they need something. if anybody red this entire comment....... this is also just another stranger needing to let something out. 😅 (english is also not my first language, so sorry if the spelling and grammar are terrible)
I feel like I've always rant to someone about my problems, there's even this friend of mine who I just came to rant about and I'm trying to fix my relationship with her and just be normal friends but I can't move easily from the past But I don't want to make this about me, I want to atleast try and make others who read this feel loved and cared about you know? So uh, if anyone just wanna talk about anything I'm more than willing xD Have a nice day
I've had a close friend since I was 4. She just approached me while I was crying and we were both lonely so we hung out. We hardly saw each other until we were 12 and finally shared another class together, then in high school we became close again. She and I have been best friends since we were 4 and we are both almost 19 now
That's so sweet. I had a friend that I knew since I was four to six but sadly she moved away when I was six. I'm 15 now and my mom said she's back in town and that her grandmother goes to church. I'm going to go back to church again since I haven't in a while and I really want to find out if she would come to church soon so I can see her again. Wish me luck😊
Ok after watching this it made me realize I don’t think I’m capable of having an intimate friend since I hate letting my guard down in front of anyone and I refuse to share secrets with any of my ‘friends’
I used to live in San Francisco, but I moved the summer between 1st and 2nd grade. I met this girl at summer camp, and we were acquaintances. I then found out she was also going to the school I was planning to go to. In about 4th grade is when we started becoming close friends due to a fight within our friend group. By 5th grade we had sleepovers every Friday, and we even had a codenamed Google Doc so we could chat in class about what we were going to do next sleepover without getting caught. To this day she is still my best friend in the world, and I talk to her through Hangouts every single day! Just goes to show that someone you didn't think was going to change your life can.
@@wolfescave There's another video around the channel somewhere abt how to build meaningful friendships, so don't worry at all! Also, it's okay if you're only level 3, because there's always a chance to bond with your friend!
This is my parents and it scares me when I’m in trouble.. they just stare at each other deeply before saying what punishment they are going to give me.. as if they were discussing it inside each other!!
Fact: if you think of someone when they said "level 5" it's someone you trust. You may be asking how I know that, its because this whole video I was replacing all the steps with me and one of my closest, best friend :)
Strangers:a lot Acquaintances:16 Casual friends:2 Close friends:0 Intimate friends:3 My acquaintances are my classmates my casual friends are some friends that I speak with once in a while my intimate friends are my dog (known for 2 years)and my two besties(known one of them for 3 years and the other one for 1 year)
What level would you put friends who you're really close with for years, they call you their best friend but yet they never message you and you feel out of place whenever you're with them?
Maybe 2 for me coz I don’t know exactly what’s your situation like but I have had this kind of friends like we’re in a group then suddenly someone new came in and they started making me feel uncomfortable with them and making me feel out of place so I started get out of their way, I want to give you an advice which is you should cut them off but in a nice way so things could get better for both side😊
I can 100% relate to this. my best friend calls me “bestie” and stuff when we text and says she would give me hugs if it weren’t for this quarantine, yet before this whole quarantine thing, whenever I actually see her I feel like she is much more occupied by her other friends and gives them more attention, so I’m just left awkwardly walking behind the group. Sorry, I just wanted to vent this too, I feel ya
People think we’re bff but we’re not we’re in the same college, she has many friends but the fact that I only have her, am The one Who only thinks about the friendship, for her it’s easy to make friends, but for me it’s hard bcz I want someone will make me feel what the real friend is.
A few years ago a weird boy gave me a little piece of paper that said "Do you want to be my friend?", I wrote him yes because I felt sorry for him, I don't regret it, he is one of the sweetest people I have ever met and one of my best friends to this day.
Ha ha I wish my best friend would do that...now we are not even friends anymore. She left me and started ignoring me and hanging out with others :( I thought we were going to be best friends for a long time. :(((((
@@asherrhodes6345 nah i was just saying my best friend left me cuz i told him he hurt me (cuz of some personal reasons) and like he just told me that he shud just leave me cuz he didnt wanna hurt me more he promised me he would never leave me thats why it hit me hard i shouldn't have been so harsh on him when i was writing the message telling him i was hurt....he ended up leaving me just because he didnt wanna hurt me more....but thats not what i wanted umu. also sorry for rambling hahaha anyway, i know you do have friends....look im just some random person on the internet but like hey, i know its hard to find friends that truly care abt you but i know one day you will uwu we can be fwends owo!
@@lulu0724 holy cow! omo im so sorry for your loss man.....but they're now at somewhere else better. Right? I know they'll always be by your side. stay strong owo!
In some classification, they included 'good friends', the tier between casual friends and close friends. Good friends are like closed friends. You can trust them with your secret, but like casual friends, they are not always present. What separates close friend from good friend is the level of commitment to maintain communication and bonding. By adding good friends within the tier, intimate friend become more important, and one can only reach the top of the tier
"but a best friend stays with you forever" *bursts in tears* great here i was going to sleep now im gonna spend the next few hours questioning my social circle 😂
*Villain:* _Finally, a worthy opponent, our battle will be legendary._ *Magic of Friendship (Level 5):* POWER!!!! UNLIMITED POWER!!! *Villain:* _Hehehe! I'm in danger._
I feel like my friendship isn't the same like before. My bestfriend is an extrovert and I'm an introvert. During the pandemic, I feel like she's drifting away.
ive been struggling with my friends, i thought i was the problem, having overthinking habit is making me worse at friendships, but turns out, they were just casual friends which i should not be worried too much right?.. thanks! it was just what i needed 😊💜
I want a friendship where I can hug anyone without people shipping. Shipping is probably why people aren’t that close and stuff. Probably why I don’t even have an intimate friendship with long time friends yet. Like even if you complimented someone now, it automatically means you “like” them. Sad boys gotta say “no homo” if they wanna compliment other guys, too.
Right very true especially when people make it about real life people and all. It’s fine for casts who are in a movie or tv show series when they are acting at least. Not to make it weird and uncomfortable for people when they are not that open to it like that or In a relationship in that kind of way for everyone to see. Unless whoever you feel comfortable with whether they accept it or not to just give you your space and privacy. And to not let anyone get in the way of your friendship or relationship by speculating something thinking you could be more or a cute or good couple of when you could really be embarrassing them instead. It’s something you have to learn to accept and trust and build up just like with this video. Until if you’re comfortable. If you really want to take it into a long term relationship, that is if you are ready for it. And close enough and know your families well enough and is ok with your relationship.
@@RDavisLink Shipping can already be annoying, but pushing is the worst variant of it. Hope that no one here will get pushed into a relationship, it seems like something like that would be a bad basis for a relationship.
Yeah! I had this classmate and it was the first time I have a boy as a friend (back then I hated boys because of how childish and noisy they are, but I had this some kind of personality reset and I became a more open-minded person and started to like talking) and I was so happy. Then we got closer, we share silly stories, bla bla bla good times. But then some classmate started shipping us and I got shy and stupid me had a crush on him. I was so shy, I couldn't talk to him like we usually did, I couldn't get close to him because I'll blush and have my heart pounding so fast. I avoided him every time I see him because I'm shy. Then our friendship started to flop and now we are strangers to each other. I really regret for liking him accidentally... Oh my 🤦
@@AmIWhatIAm i thought i liked i guy just nervous around him. Everyone says we like each other its like were cursed to be around each other i can say a lot of stuff i don't like aby him but everyone thinks were good couple. Like i wanna be actual friends with him when i asked he said ppl would start shipping us. He's way out of my league. He's to short annoying and looks like a male human short version of pearl from SU. Like at of all the girls that annoy him he's the nicest to me and he doesnt mind hanging around me if my friends arent there. I used to think i had a crush on him since from all the pressure. I was gonna tell him we should trick everyone into thinking we like each other just cause. They say we like each other cause we always physical fight chase eachother help each other insult each other. Like once he asked for a glue i gave him mine and everyone was like oooooooo. If what they say that makes me like eachother then its like they like him more. We stopped talking to each other cause of it. Like he messaged me a while ago saying if i were okay but he didn't reply when i did.
I have a best friend and she means so so much to me. We share a really really special bond and we are always there for each other. She knows more about me than I know about myself. I know she will always be there for me. I love her with all my heart.
I’ve learned to finally accept that friends come and go, move up and down the levels of friendship. It was so hard for me to accept for the longest time, and it hurt because i felt betrayed by so-called “best friends”. But I learned that the powers that be are just showing me what kind of friend they really are so that I can make those that are truly right for me (and I for them). Took me a looong time to learn that, but I’m glad that I did.
(sorry about grammar mistakes) Wow, I just realized... I have 2 friends and we have all been friends for 5 years. We have managed to stay close even after one of us moved schools. We all feel like we know each other very very well and call each other BFFs. But I just realized that none of us share our more personal feelings. We are definitely in a state that we can share all our personal feelings, but we just don't! We know each others personalities and how each one of us is going to react exactly in every situation. We have a strong friendship that nobody can break, but we could be more open. Today I am meeting with my friends, so I'll try to start a conversation. (I will update) If you read this till the end thank you so much!
@@andrea-wh2xj It actually went very good. We both didn't have to talk about something very important, but we started conversations about other things and I realised that I feel comfortable telling them other personal things in the future.
I see myself as an introvert but when I'm around my best friend, I become a yapper. And he's fine by it, we share all the sides, the edges of each other with out a second thought. It's funny that we bonded through game at first, both very addicted and decided to quit game together. We hang out through daily breakfast and he seems to know all the good places to eat. We are far apart now as I left for my study in a different country but sometimes we call to catch up with each other. I missed him so much and I am really grateful for our friendship.
Knowing these differences is really helping me in navigating relationships,how I deal with people, managing my expectations from the different people I interact with and managing how much I let out/express depending on the level of friendship. I would like to add there is another dimension to this like seasonal friendship you can have aquintance,casual friends,close friends, intimate friends (too some extent) that are all seasonal, or environment based I have learnt this alot from my interactions with people the past years. Always analyse the reason, and scenario behind these friendships and have a logical explanation of how the friendships could go, long-term,short-term etc. It helps to prevent heartaches and appreciate being in the moment and just learning whilst having reason at the back of your mind.
I have one casual and a few aquaintances and im doing pretty okay. Not getting any support while going through personal problems actually taught me how to solve them on my own, and i lost any victim mentalities i had which allowed me to grow and overcome them. Im free to get close with people if thats what they wish, but i'll keep them at an arms length
I used to have a best friend named Michael. We met in afterschool during 3rd grade. At first we were just acquaintances, but soon we started to know each other more and more during afterschool. We were in the same class in 3rd grade, just that we were more close in afterschool than in regular classes. After afterschool ended, we became "just friends." We talked to each other during lunch, played tag at recess, and we were glued to each other for everything. We did everything together, and he would defend me all the time. Soon we became best friends. We became more closer than before, which involved a bit of some hugging and holding hands, but we were just friends. We never stopped being together until 3rd grade ended. We weren't in the same class for 4th grade, and I felt awful. We hugged at the last day of 3rd grade, and never saw each other for all of summer break. Soon, 4th grade started, but it wasn't the same. I barely saw him, and we missed each other a lot. Soon, we got even more unattached, and our friendship was breaking apart. Soon, he found another best friend. He replaced me. he would ignore me when I would talk to him, and it hurt me a lot. I had to let go of our friendship. It was hard, but eventually, I did. It took months to cure myself from being replaced. I would cry myself to sleep every night, hoping that he would regret leaving me, but no.
A few years ago now, I had a best friend of 8 years. At the end of primary school, we went to different secondary schools. We promised to FaceTime each other every day, but I haven’t spoken to her since. I’ve only said “happy birthday” and “merry Christmas” I’ve never had a friend as good as her, but she also just let me go like that. She forgot my birthday and went on and started talking crap about me.
Glad I’m not the only one :) I’ve kinda given up on best friends and haven’t had once since as I am very introverted and don’t like talking to people. I have a few friends but we are starting to grow apart as we only stuck together because we were the only people from my primary school that went to my secondary school and our interests and hobby’s are very different. I feel like they don’t like me very much but that’sok because I don’t really like them either. So yeah I’m kinda alone but that’s what I want anyway so I’m more than okay with it :)
I have two intimate friends and it's amazing. You don't have to worry about embarrassing yourself or saying the wrong thing, because you know each other in and out. I can call them crying or laughing. They mean the world to me.
My friend and I went from strangers to close friends in less than a day. Met at the beginning of the 1st day of high school, went on a school trip, and at the end of the day, ask our mothers if I could go to her place. Both mothers were like « Ok calm down, you juste met. Give it a few more weeks and then maybe we'll say yes ». Been friends for 9 years.
My "friends" haven't talked to me in 3 years after I got out of hospital.... I was like what did I do wrong?! All I wanted to do is make others happy and they go and do no contact. Then they expect me to randomly move on not knowing what I did. I was in hospital for a month or 3. Is it cuz I'm autistic and they didnt understand that or is it cuz they judged me cuz of my "werid" happy personality or they didnt get to see all of me as a actual person?
I've been best friends with this girl for 12 years and counting and I swear to god if she finds this comment she's gonna tease me for the rest of my life-
I have q Bff. When we first met all we said was hi and started ranting about our dads lol. Then after 2 months we became the most best of best friends ever. I love her so much!
How my friend ship went Found another lonely person online We started chating One day later : I gOt A cRuSh 3 weeks later : "Hey would you wanna date I really like you"
I have friends that let me snuggle up with them or hug them, but this one's different. I'm scared to just lean on her and get closer to her because I don't want her to feel awkward, so I stare at her ;-; (She's like fam but she doesn't like to get close physicaly while we share many secrets)
In 3rd grade, I made a friend with a girl in my class and we were best friends. I moved away and thought I would never see her again. I moved back and we still have the same level of friendship after 3 years of not even talking to or seeing each other. That's true friendship right there.
My beat friend Esme saved my life 💜 I was so close to breaking down and ending it all and then she was in my gym class and suddenly within a month we knew everything about each other and I will call her and she will drive over to cuddle with me so I can fall asleep 💜 we aren't even a couple but she's the best💜
I have a best friend, I’ve known them since I was 4 fucking years old and we have no interests together. We’ve only ever had 1 fight in our entire friendship. Id say we are more close friends then best friends considering I don’t think we share anything in common and I am not comfortable talking to her about dark topics. We agree on sides like politics or fights people are in but that’s it really it.
This video has made me realise I have one friend one the last level. This friend was there for me when no one else wanted to. They were either scared of getting treated the way I was or just didn’t want to be seen with me. But this friend didn’t. This friend was the only one that checked up only without being asked to (they were going through shit too, and they found a friend group of their own, so they couldn’t visit all the time.) I had known them at the start of the first year of secondary school, and they always stuck with me. They were one of the few friends I could rant to about ANYTHING, and they’d never judge. I love them so much, and they were one of, if not the only friend who told me I was their best friend and that would never change. Even after I moved countries due to burnout, they still kept in touch, and we plan on visiting each other sometime this year. I miss them still. So, if your reading this, and if you recognise yourself in this, even if your not the one I’m specifically talking about, thank you. You are an incredible friend and your friends are so lucky to have you by there side. Never change.
I would say casual friend because even though I’m “close” with my friends I feel like we can’t really show our “feelings” to each other because we aren’t deep or anything
Thank you for good explanations. I have had a hard time to define relations/friendships. Which has bothered me a lot, I'm still very unsure. But this gave me some kind of base of understanding
There is this guy who uploads memes to his instagram stories and make my day every time, i would love to be close friends with him, so i comment back on his stories and we chat from time to time.
i move schools frequently (usually every 1 year) so people i meet usually just stay as casual friends. i only have one intimate friend from the first school i went to for 3 years (which is the longest ive been at a school for), but we dont see each other often because we're at different schools. we make it work tho :)
2:26 This made me realize that man.... time doesn't really define friendship, man.... I've got someone who at times tells me, "We've been friends for years, you can tell me anything..." but there's something about the lack of either trust or familiarity that prevents that sentence from holding true weight for me, and i'm guilty to admit those words doesn't feel as believable as they would be coming from this other guy I've developed a close friendship with much faster and more recently. Maybe my older friend and I simply have less in common, so we can't consistently talk and build trust that much? I've always beat myself up at times or at the least feel bad thinking about how my older friend and I could never open up to each other as much as my newer friend and I can about each other's personal issues, but maybe it's better to accept that that may just be how it's always gonna be.
I also met my bff in kindergarten! I remember how we met but not how we became friends! Also, when I first met her I thought she was annoying and avoided her lol😂 (kindergarten drama). Who would have thought that she was going to be my BFF for the next 8+ years
i love my friends so heccinn much, throughout year 7 when I moved to secondary school to like the start of yr10 I was in a friend group but I never really felt close to them, but recently I’ve found a smaller friend group and I feel so happy with thEm aAaa
I'm someone who have little need or care for someone that seem lower then best friend in this video XD I get stranger, then acquaintance, then the second you are friends I won't hide who I am. Then again I never hide who I am in the first place. Sooooo yep ! I either keep it with distance or deep connection. Casual only would hurt you when you realize they don't care about you the same way you do them.
I have a best friend, and we use to just pass by each other and not even talk, and now all of a sudden we are intermate friends like family friends, very very comfortable!
Quick question: do friendships and loving relationships (like the one you want to marry) have totally different stages or can your intimate friend can suddenly become your partner?
They probably have similar stages, but with loving feelings growing too. You meet someone new and the more you get to know about the person you start to devolpe feelings for the person. You both may have feelings for each other when you're already best friends or before becoming bestfriends
Idk if its just me but I have this one friend and even tho he and I aren't like besties or anything, we still know literally all of each others secrets
5 Friendship Levels 0:31 *1. Strangers* 🤨 _That shouldn't even be considered a level._ 🙄 1:03 *2. Acquaintance* 🤦♂️ _Still not a friendship level._ 😖 _That's more of a co-worker level_ 1:39 *3. Casual Friends* 🤔 _These are too flaky to be called friends._ _These are called "connections", "passer‐bys", "I'll see you when I see you." Type of people._ 🤑 2:17 *4. Close Friends* _It doesn't take a long time to connect. These mostly connect quickly . The development process is what takes time.. So far mine drift apart in 2 years or less._ 2:54 *5. Intimate Friends* 😎 _None of my Intimate friends have ever called themselves my best friend and vice-versa. Because they lacked durability of staying when tough times came or when they changed._
i agree that it's weird to consider strangers as a level of friendship, but she says that the stages outline the development, and all intimate friends start off at this level, as strangers
It takes me about 3 years to truly connect with someone. The only bffs I had were people Ive known for 3 years or people I knew as a baby..nothing else... though I really fucked up my social skills now and won't be able to make a friend till I fix that..but Im just so stressed cause Im in grade 11 and I had so much time to make friends (but I just moved schools in year 10 so..) I had so much time..now I only got a year and a half..so fk my life Can't even make friends in grade 11 cause all people talk about is academics and I just want to muck around
I only have a few friends, but they're all great close friends (and intimate ones!). I'd much rather have a few good friends, than a lot of acquaintance like friends. I'm so thankful for all the wonderful people I have, and it annoys because I just can't even convey to anyone how much I truly love and appreciate them! My friends truly mean every thing to me! Without all the wonderful people, I don't even know if I could exist! I'm very thankful for them. A big thing, to me, is it's hard for me to really well.. talk about anything to anyone. But I have so many amazing friends, that will listen to me, and be there for me. But, in a way it's bittersweet. I am beyond thankful for them, but on the other hand, part of me feels guilty. It doesn't make sense but, I feel guilt because I have all these amazing people, when there are other people who don't have that same gift. That's why it is super duper important to always be loving and compassionate to all, even strangers! It's probably weird of me, but I even like to tell strangers I love them, and I will be there for them! Of course, not that kind of love :/ . It's so important to me to live in god's honor, and treat people how he treats me. God will love you no matter what you do, and will always forgive you, so I will try my best to do the same! But for me, it's just so, so so so, important to be there for people. I feel useless if I can't help anyone. Just helping people makes you feel better, at least to me! So anyone who sees this, though it may not mean anything to you, I love you all very, very much! I am thankful for each and every one of you, if I could give you all a big group hug, I would! I know probably no one will want to, since they don't know me that well, but if anyone wants someone to talk to, I am so willing to listen! It's so important to reach out and talk to people, and, it feels weird to say that. Because before a few months ago, I would never have imagined me speaking out to people about how I feel. I just couldn't, I was too embarrassed to tell anyone anything, and seem weak, but probably most of all, I had changed from who I was before. I wasn't the kind of person that I showed myself to be to people. Simply put- wasn't myself. But please, reach out to people if you can, it helps so much! More than I would have ever thought! Just saying it out to someone, whether or not you're looking for an answer, or just want to get it out, it helps a great deal! That's why I want to be here if anyone wants someone to talk to!! Please feel free to message me about anything, I will so gladly listen! I might not be able to help everyone, or be here all the time, but If I can, I do want to try at the very least! This is my discord if you want to talk! I am on most of the time and, please don't be scared to say anything if you want, I will not judge! Nor do I even have the room to! || SwanOfLove#6297 || Know that I love you very very much!!! >~
I've known people for several years and only consider them acquaintances, then one day someone calls me her friend and it caught me off guard. Another time I'm talking with my best friend and I mention how I think I'm clingy because she's one of the only people I'm close with. A few minuets later she says "I like all my friends equally" and it hurt more then it should have.
Hahahahaha this happened to me too. The person I finally let myself consider as a best friend, didn't even acknowledge me as best friend too. That hurt and it still hurts
