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Toxic family members are the most painful to deal with…once you realize it and let them go and deal with them from a distance that’s healthy for you or not deal with them at all-you’ll have a peace like you’ve never known. You’ll be able to spot these toxic types from a mile away.
All so true. I had close cousins that disrespected me. Cheating on their mate. Was sleeping with mine. They wanted to fight me. Death comes early to the ones that do not ask forgiveness. Don't release them until they do 😢
As Maya Angelo professed, "When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time." I can't tell you how much time and heartache I could've saved if I'd known and understood this year's ago.
Y'all really need to stop we all come from different walks of life ppl quick to say this and that but how would u know be thankful u never went through it just saying
The more time passes without them the more I realize what a total wreck it was, and would still be. I've gone no contact with a few, to look back and imagine how it would still affect me, spiraling into entirely worse situations and life....
You're not alone, my friends. Most people have the same or similar life experiences with loved ones. One thing I know well is the almighty God sees, hears, and knows everything. He always remembers those of us who have been hurt by evil humans. We keep praying and seeking his mercy, love, faith, and his glory. Amen.
I am 71 and agree with you completely. Our entire society need an overhaul. No sympathy or empathy are shown towards others just total disrespect. Sadly a darker world and not getting any better. Pray 😢 🙏.
I was shocked when I accepted the reality that my "nice husband" was really a diabolical narcissist. After a 20 year marriage, I let go of a harmful relationship and became a happy human being once again . 😊
100%, my ex, throw in full blown alcoholic as well (i don't drink at all). Only been 2 months since i ended it, but it was a brutal ending, me in an ambulance, him in police car. Im still healing physically and mentally. 100% coward Narc. Karma will take care of his Evil. Im bouncing back bigger, stronger and wiser than I've ever been.
Take care of yourself, do not underestimate the harm that was done to you. Take time to heal and perhaps try to fond a good listener who truly cares about you to help you heal deeper.
@Lalallalu thank you that's sweet. Definitely can not underestimate it and trying to get over it but that's going to take a fair while, I think. I have sought professional help for this.. Thank you kindly..
I was looking for someone else that caught this! As a person who strives to be as Stoic as possible, I’m happy I saw his stink a mile away. I wish others would too!
JUST BROKE UP WITH ONE. Totally mean, manipulative, make up stories that he said i told him. Disrespect, and would not apologize at all. Jealous of my freedom in my life, that he doesn't have. Putting you down, and using what you opened about with him, putting it in your face and us it against you !!!
@lesa9358 100% I told mine the details of my childhood which was no bed of roses, I had it thrown in my face and he blamed me for it. I was 5.. Zero chance of ever making that mistake again. I feel your pain, I'm sorry you 😔 went through the same kind of stuff.
People can be witty, curious, charismatic, yet sincere. Be careful about judgement. I've met people who are quiet, observant, and seem like great listeners, yet they are waiting for the right moment to clip your wings. Do not stifle expression, because there are those who are quiet, smile, and flatter by acting as well. A different type of sociopath or narcissist.
for those people who do not have enough developed empathy, criticism is the worst insult for them p.s.: I know from experience that when you catch a pathological liar in a lie, he tells you one lie after another
My family, parents and siblings, or even their children have almost drained the last drop of blood out of me. Thanks to ny wonderfull husband, I could be saved. And start to live.
I am compelled to make an exception , Due to the dysfunctional behavior in myself. I have struggled and lost many battles due to my own flaws. I have had a compulsive ( until recently) talking problem. I still struggle with interrupting and redirecting ( back to " i") Thanks be to God & the Love of my family/ friends. I have submitted to psychological assesment wondering if I was the ' narc' of other ' bad" person. Im not . I Am the child of a father Narc & bi plòar autistic Adhd undiagnosed abused mother...thus , i exhibit some core dysfunctional social behaviors. I would really suggest carefully praying/ meditating about any person who makes you feel turmoil internally. This video ìs spot on. Boundaries.clarity. assertive for self. The begining of self love . I wish i had this information much much earlier in life. Thank you for this video content.😊😊😊😊😊
Yeah he's my shadow, i can't go anywhere by myself. He gets mad 😡 when I don't want him to go, and of course, he gets his way. Well I'm tired of all of it. I'm leaving asap ❤
Very true… it took me 10 years to realize and stay away from the toxic in-laws.. parties are nothing compared to your peace.. Rivalry of a sick woman is the most hurtful moments. Keep you away and happy
💯 agree .... For example, while a person with borderline personality disorder can be destructive to him/herself and toward others, he or she is likely to be less "evil" than an outright narcissist.
Something I learned: Some of the characteristics described can show up in a person on the spectrum. Don’t be so quick to judge, as the older generations weren’t evaluated for spectrum issues in the 50s, 60s, 70s, and 80s. Treatment is available if this is the case. . The word narcissism gets tossed around like a salad. 🥗 . This is a good baseline video reminder and a place to start learning about behaviors. ❤
The last evil person I met, I could tell he was a manipulative narcissist before I met him face to face. He was my fiance's roomate at the time. I spoke with the roomate ONCE on the phone and after five minutes I could tell this guy was as angry and manipulative as they come. It was worse after meeting the roomate. I came to visit my fiance and the roomate couldn't just go in the other room. No, he had to monopolize the conversation and start telling off-color jokes I first heard in 4th grade. It got worse when he told the same joke 3 times in the same fifteen minutes. I didn't have the heart to tell him I knew the punchline back when I was nine years old. The biggest red flag: after walking through the door of the apartment that day after less than 15 minutes of meeting the roommate he angrily lashed out at my fiance over something I can't even remember. After my fiance moved out of that living situation, I found out the truth was much much worse. That old roommate was just an angry, racist, narcissistic, alcohol dependent 73 year old infant.
Great video! Very helpful for identifying people who might cause harm. Thanks to Stoicism principles, I now understand that staying calm and rational is the best way to protect myself from manipulation.
1.Charming Charismatic at first- Will seem perfect ,friend, later u notice Little cracks, put you down in front of others, 2. Jokes, later dominating,self centred. See how they behave with others. 3. Lack of empathy, blatant disregard for feeling of others, mock others, will take credit for your achievements,showing no concern for ur well being,demand long hours without fair compensation, criticize employees publicly,no guilt,cheat, physically harm people 4. Manipulate others to get what they want,distort facts, gaslighting, guilt trip you, make you go in isolation to weaken ur support network , borrow money but never repay,make u guilt or unsure of yourself 5.Controlling behaviour, dominate,criticize your friends and family 6.Pathological lying ,dishonest,fabricate stories distort facts for sympathy/admiration, spread false rumours amout colleagues to sabotage them,create confusion,mix truth with lies
I totally understand this situation, I was in a abused, narcissistic relationship with a woman...20 plus years😮 "He will make footstools out of your enemy"
"Mankind is inherently evil" It's ABSOLUTELY true. This video describes most of the people I have ever known. They want an audience and they're always looking for gossip. They're sarcastic and condescending, they hinder and sabotage, they seek chaos and destruction, they thrive during it, they live for it. People are... egocentric mercenaries.
I have a bad habit of taking something someone says about them and then bringing myself into it and comparing how I’d handle situations or if I was in there position but it’s not that I want to manipulate them or make myself the center of attention, far from it, it’s my way of seeing things from their point of view and putting myself in their shoes. Humans are so complex x doesn’t always equal y and that’s why I don’t think people should take this video too seriously. Shit like this varies so often it’s impossible to tell until someone shows what they’re actually intending to do
It is more complicated than that. Some people are manipulative not because they are evil but because they are weak. You, as a strong Stoic, are there to support them. Most important is set your boundaries but not leave them alone. It fits in the community principle. I have known a couple of bad bosses, but if you don't work for them (anymore) you can have friendly relationships with them. Like they are two different persons. They also have a normal social life. I am talking here about very 'bossy' bosses, not the kind that won't pay you for your work. Some people are very extrovert and wanting to be the centre of attention is not evil but part of their character. If you get some of them together they make a lot of noise! Just keep your distance for peace of mind if you are a Stoic introvert. Observe, than you will know they won't let you talk anyway. I know one that is volunteering in a home for elderly. He is retired himself. His loud voice (that had a lot of exercise from being the center of attention) is an advantage in this case. I know another one who is voluntarily helping with the paperwork of a local club. Not evil persons.
My former roommate followed me up to Walgreens while I was walking up there and asked me what I was doing up there. I explained that I was getting prescriptions filled. I had to show him my prescriptions. He told me that I should not be up there unless I have a good reason.
I have a friend that I've known for 45 years from sub A learning in latest 70s, churching together till matriculation in late 1980s. He possesses about 90% of the above signs. I've tried to eliminate him from my life without quarreling with him. Now he speaks about me badly in all circles of our old and young common friends.
Dont allow people to change who you are. I almost let some evil people change me into someone that suspected people, distrusted people and it made me unhappy because I was no longer me. I instead decided to value the lessons these people taught me and now my eyes are. Open a little wider and Im much wiser but what Im most proud of is Im still me!
This is a true fact.Everyone needs to listen to this to understand it and understand all facts have to be correct.Not dishonesty not deceit not wise not Pathological liars get I a lot
Remember how empowering it is to be single. Remember no one in the world has the right to fo control you. To tell you who to talk too. To tell you what to think of yourself. To treat you terribly. To disrespect your choices. I am no longer in s domesticated abusive relationship but its taken me so long to leave. Why? Because i thiught he loved me. Then i realised...does he? Is that how you treat somone you "love" like i dont want you to love me then. I met somone who showed me what a relationship could be like and its all that i want and when you accept you deserve better you will experience better. That simple 💕
My former roommate would not let me walk a mile out of the area we lived in, but when I had to go to work or the bank, I was allowed to go out of the area. Of course, it had to do with me paying the bills.
MY GRANDDAUGHTER IS IN THIS KIND OF RELATIONSHIP WITH A MOVE IN COP. HE HAS SAID ALL OF THIS TO HER. HE HAS TOTALLY CONTROL OVER HER. SHE WILL NOT LISTEN TO ANYONE.
Your boundaries will be ignored or labeled as ultimatums to control, especially, when dealing with a narcissist. For your own mental health, self-respect, and self-esteem... walk away, if boundaries are ignored. Self-preservation❤
OMG!!! My niece is a narcissist I thought no she's to perfect everyone loves her, but I caught her in a lie and I confronted her she blamed me and then spun a web of lies why it wasn't her fault and it was a simple question I no longer put her on a pedestal she is evil and no one dare tell her she is wrong.
Toxic behaviour is often a reflection of deep-seated issues such as insecurity and jealousy stemming from personal losses and a lack of warmth in their family life. These individuals are stressed and vulnerable, and unfortunately, they may end up hurting us. They fail to recognize our vulnerability as victims and wrongly believe they have the right to judge us. It's important to remember that toxic individuals are often deeply wounded themselves. Stay grounded and remember that their actions don't define you.
I've come to accept that a friend of mine really makes me depressed and I feel such negative energy after being in her company- and glad to get home. I begin to dread meeting her. She's petulant, spoiled, selfish, she lies and denies !! It's her way - no discussion, no compromise. She isn't capable of actually listening. I'm so tired of it. So why is it ME who feels bad ??? I always make excuses for her - at my expense . 😔
When they show you who theyare at the start or first toxic incident; BELIEVE Who they are…..RUNNNN. NEVER disregard your gut feel…..no FOMO…..move on and HEAL
but what about when I use my nature to help my loved ones... manipulating them to better themselves or shed detrimental ideas... you call me evil, but that's just a single perspective... I choose to view through many perspectives... if I'm trying to control, if I even take the damn time to care, I am benevolent... I constantly trick my wife into making ammends with her parents... society has some really stupid tendencies, yet I twist things for simply pointing out logic or morality... also to the stoics: if your thoughts or ideas lead to the suffering of anyone or anything, then yes... it is yours... but I will do what I can to show you the error of your ways... and I will leverage every advantage I posses or can attain to ameliorate your fallacy 🤔 to everyone else I don't love... you are pretty much spot on, but what about using lies to frame a positive result... or the betterment of others... whether they like it or even want it... my greatest manipulation is getting people to stop eating dead animals 🤔
I would add ENVY, as another sign of an evil person. Someone who's always trying to copy what you do or what you have. 'Keeping up with the Joneses' obsession sort of thing, or trying to 'One up you' on everything you do. I've lived around them kind of people before.
My mother this is my mother she does nothing but hurt me and enjoys it I was crying one time and I saw her actually smiling about it. I would never speak to this woman again but unfortunately she has custody of my two children and she knows that they are my only source of happiness in my life and she uses that to hurt me constantly
thank you I couldnt hold my tougue with the persons who said Trump ..Im a Disabled Vetrran my father served in WWI and my Grandfather WWI I was listening to Collective Soul The World I know itz about Suicide .. I took the time to remind those in doubt about who to vote for as were on the berge of losing this Greatt Nation .(.PROJECTION from the left is what you were referring to DEMORATs to the hilt!) anyway I reminded everyone to think abput the poor souls who jumped from the towers that fateful day the World stood still .. how selfish to vote for a leftist demorat who opened our borders and now have sleeper cells just waitjng for the right time to attack U.S.agaiin !! WAke UP people! Trump had our borders under control i worked for INS/DOJ prior to 911 I know a few things .. God Bless America and President DJ Trump!
Lived in New Zealand..for 50years.born in England...my life in New Zealand..has...been so lonely for 50yrs...my wish..toget..back to England to my sister's grave..Pauline. to say goodbye😊
