I don't let trends dictate what I wear. I just get excited when something I like becomes trendy so it's more available. But I'll wear what I like even if it seems "out of style" or even "dated"
Since I started sewing my own clothes, I’ve never been less interested in keeping up with trends. I feel like I’m cultivating my own style and creativity, and I’ve never felt better in my clothes!
I'm almost 45 and I still have and wear some designers statement pieces I bought when I was 20. In fact I'm just going to a wedding this Saturday with a 22 years old dress. Always quality over quantity
I don’t wanna buy anything I regret, EVER again honestly! In my youth I “over-consumed” and now I have a closet full of low quality items that I don’t wear often enough! I have been slowlyyyyyy investing in quality/ timeless pieces! Thanx to your channel Bethany! “Style kingdom”, I love that! Clothing should honor us💖
@@DoeRaeMe My new rule is if I don’t love it, return it. No exceptions. It’s actually amazing how MANY things I end up returning now. Like if I order 5 things, 3 go back.
A change I’ve made lately is choosing silk over polyester…Silk increases the quality and decreases the regret…Thanks always Bethany for your sound guidance.
In my early 20’s I worked in retail and would literally buy anything that came in if it was “cute enough” because I got a discount. Now that I’m a mom and a professional I’m trying to really find the balance between my practical style but also timeless and classy pieces. I realized one day at work I felt the MOST confident in jeans that fit me very well, a white cotton button down and loafers. I got so many compliments and I just knew this was the feeling I want to have when wearing my clothes.
I think many women are attracted to a piece they see on someone else but don't recognize the COLOR is all wrong. Or believe that they can only look exciting via bold colors. You and I have almost identical skin tone and hair color, and I appreciate how much you don't wear pieces that overpower that coloring. You come across as a 'subtle knockout.' And let's hear it for the 'ash brown hair' girls.😉
The things I bought in the past and always regretted were items that looked good on me, but that I do not find comfortable to wear. They would get me a lot of compliments of how good they look on me but I would be uncomfortable in them 😑 For example a skirt that keeps riding up, a top that I find a bit too short for my liking or a strapless dress that keeps sliding down or a pants that digs in my stomach (looking at you highrise pants 😂) So annoying 😑 I would be pulling at my clothes all day if I wear them. So in the end, they usually stay in the closet 🤷♀️ Now the «is it comfortable?» question is the one I always ask before buying anything 🤗
Totally agree with this one. Another thing I look out for is how hard it is to put on. If it is at all frustrating to put on, no matter how much I love it, I will not wear it. Lol.
I think you hit the nail on the head with all of these issues. I think most of us can relate to most if not all of them (or at least I can). One of the things that surprised me at 50 and having years of experience in the fashion industry is that no matter how much experience you have or how confident you are with your style, we can all lose our selves when it comes to our fashion sense. Social media and advertising bombard us constantly with images and then Life happens, priorities change, and all of us could use a fashion life coach like you Bethany. I could not agree more with your philosophy of quality over quantity and that is why I enjoy your channel so much. You have led me to brands that are of a higher quality and that I would never have heard of otherwise. I can truly say that the pieces that I invested in and planned for and really thought about with intention are the ones I value the most. I have pieces in my wardrobe that are from 30 years ago and if I told you that I bought them yesterday you would believe it due to the quality of the garment. The biggest mistake I can still tend to make is impulse buying and that usually leads to regret. There could be a lot to be said about the impulse buy and why it is a psychological trap. Save that for another video! Best wishes, Amy
I've been struggling between the wardrobe I want (that isn't me at all) and what I'll actually wear. I've kept things that I love, but honestly don't have any place to wear them. So they sit there, wasting space (even though they come out for the occasional trip around the closet during a rainy day dress up session). The best advice I've heard lately is pick three words that signify your style and purchase things that only fall within those words (mine are edgy, romantic, and classic).
I can relate so much to your depiction of the worth of $10.. I've been there, not too long ago. Having a job with acceptable income is really liberating, and I only have $300 after paying rent every month. That's already rich to me, and my childhood furniture still with me is a constant reminder of how blessed I am
Hello Bethany. This is spot on! I have been getting better at avoiding the "big sales!" When I decluttered my wardrobe, it was amazing at the amount of pieces that I regretted buying. I buy now on the sustainability of fabrics and I have to "love" the item. Thanks for your inspiration.
Aww, when a pair of shoes are on Sale, and they’re not your size, but you want them 🥹anyway. 😂 “I won’t walk, I’ll just sit in them, like at a restaurant or something.” 😁
Your videos are always a good help for me ! I work at a flowershop, it's pretty physical...I don't want to buy clothes too expensive or too beautiful because I'm scared of ruining it but at the same time, I don't want to buy ''fast fashion'' clothes. Now I have a wardrobe for work and a very small wardrobe for my days off. Most of my clothes are not representing me because it's mostly ''work outfits''...
Thanks Bethany for this video! Some of the points which you covered hold true for me. I am someone who came from a very middle class Indian family owning only the required items and then suddenly became one who had everything in excess once I got my job. Now I am almost 40 and have been working on my wardrobe for the past couple of years. I now only wear what I love to wear and feel comfortable in and hence feel beautiful in everything.
Great tips! My biggest regret is buying an electric blue blazer that I haven’t worn once. Looking back, I think it’s important to get the basics right before you can feel confident in a statement piece like that.
Sitting here in my third trimester of pregnancy, outgrowing my clothes every week 😆 I'm trying to make it work right now but I'm excited for a few months in the future when I can make this applicable. Thank you!
I moved ro a different country last fall, I brought only a few items with me and it has been fun, frustrating and revealing the path of discovering and slowly build and curate my new closet. I have thrifted some interesting pieces, but other timeless I´m slowly investing on.
My biggest issue right now is that I'm really motivated to find and wear my personal style, but I'm too scared of making a mistake purchase and too focused on making the "perfect" plan that I don't buy anything (I also moved countries so I don't know what shops are right for me in terms of quality level + price point). I'm also a knitter and learning to sew, so I feel like instead of buying something I could make it and it will be "perfect", but that's so slow and especially since my sewing skills aren't there yet, so my wardrobe barely changes. As a result of all this, I feel like my current style that I wear is barely changing and I'm not making any progress. I need to give myself permission to do some shopping and also make a solid roadmap for my sewing and knitting makes, so I can see progress to what I imagine my style to be.
Too future focused really hit me..I'm here in the middle of my job search,and I am starting to notice that I am gathering clothes that are suitable for offices settings, I don't even know if being in office suits me..have to gotta keep that in mind. I think I'm at the age that, trends not really bothering me anymore, comfort must come first, and sales are not that much exciting anymore.haha, there's always someone in the back of my mind saying, like" where will you wear that?, Do you really need that?"..thank you Bethany, think you influenced me a lot.. everytime I open my wardrobe, I feel happy,haha. Most of them are thrifted, but they are oozing with quality.
I really love this Bethany. You are so inspiring and I love your content 🥰 I really feel that more pretty styled clothing or more clothing that's fashionable, doesn't sit well on my body shape. Sometimes a hoodie or joggers are more comfortable. I really want to wear better clothes and shoes
This was great to watch, I was on the cusp of buying a trendy dress for an event but honestly I probably would have worn it only once! Definitely figuring out my formal event style is on my mind lately since I’m going to a red carpet event next month :p
Thankfully I have usually always not been one for trends. I have to genuinely like something (trendy or not) to want to wear or own it. My one trendy mistake was an Lv bag (always bags) but I still use it occasionally cause its a nice bag. I am working now on having a good balance between basics and more elevated pieces. And wearing less jeans - more mature and casual classy looks.
I love your vocals at the end! Also, definitely yes, I am guilty of regret buys because it was on sale at that moment, so I thought I was winning. Now, I'm at a point where I question myself: "do I really want / need this item, or is it just on sale?"
A third way to elevate your basics inexpensively, that also allows you to experiment with pieces you may not be used to, is to thrift your statement pieces.
Thank you so much for your videos. I have been completely lost with my style. I’m 28 and in that transition from young girl to woman. You are helping me so much and I think I’ll take your course. Lots of love from Australia.
I hate holding on to things I don't love just because they cost money. Clogs up space and makes the good stuff get hidden. I need to do a closet clean out.
After learning a bit about personal color palette, I find that it really helps me in narrowing down my choices while cutting down the need to follow fleeting trends. I'm still unsure what season I am but I get compliments and feel confident in summer palette 😄
Bethany, your channel and style course has made suchh an impact on the way I view my style and wardrobe. I am finally allowing myself to invest in pieces and intentionally plan out pieces even if they are more expensive than what I perceive I can afford. Something that really stuck with me as I revisited your style course was to think about budgeting for my style. Sure! I can go and buy 5 items of clothing that could be super practical but I probably already have something similar. Now I know that I can plan ahead and budget for one nicer thing a month and slowly and intentionally build a better wardrobe of timeless pieces that will elevate my overall life. So much gratitude for you and all your do ♥️ sending good vibes and love from San Francisco
Great video. I definitely believe that the key to look & feel in your best start when you know what your true style is then you can start build your optimal wardrobe.
What? Is that your voice in the end of the video? OMG, you are an amazing person! I live your videos and I wish I could jump into your closet for a day 😆. I regret having so many sweat suits to solve my day by day needs. After having a baby I need a reassessment on my own closet and, obviously, work on my body shape before I buy new clothes! Kisses from Brazil! 🇧🇷
Love this video!! So well thought out and helpful. I think my personal biggest frustration with my wardrobe is finding clothes to wear to the office which reflect my personal style but are also “professional”. Getting better over time but it is tough!
I had the exact same issue, my personal style is very edgy/boho which doesn’t blend with a professional wardrobe at all. In the end I created a capsule work wardrobe and kept it like a uniform I just wear to work. That’s how I solved it but if you can blend your personal style into your workwear props to you!
I stick to statement jackets & accessories, cheaper to buy belts, shoes, stockings, hair accessories & easy to change the look of an outfit or to give yourself a pop
People who get too easily sucked into trends especially since they're changing every month now really need to chill and find their own identity and think to themselves "Do I actually like what I'm wearing or do I like it because someone else told me that I do?"
Loving this! I am in this period where I invest in my clothing and only buy after fitting in-store. Massive game changer for me. The struggle I am in is finding too much of basics, but no way to 'spice them up'. Working on it and getting there though :-D
Have you thought about adding statement accessories? A bold necklace or bracelet, or a pretty scarf can totally change the mood of an outfit. I prefer a wardrobe of basics, but I have dozens of accessories. Hundreds, actually, collected over decades.
@@edennis8578 Yes, I'm doing it more now with jewelry, and also planning to invest in scarfs, belts, etc. Wish I could do everything at once, but patience is key 😂
SKINNY JEANS!!! It’s not my style at all but it was a trend and I thought that I have to wear it 🫤big mistake now And looking back and my life l know now what kind of clothes make me look good and I feel confident wearing it 😉
Another great on point video from you. You have actually helped me change my style even before I take your class. Or rather: You have made me realize how much I like a certain style. Having said that I do fall into the too boring staples category if I don't watch myself. My life is changing dramatically these days and I have to adjust my wardrobe 😐 Hope your leg is mending as it should.
My biggest frustration is buying lovely items that would totally wear,mostly in the form of skirts and ending up with nothing to go with them in my wardrobe. So i look at them and unless i want to pair them with something really basic. I don’t have anything that can turn it into an outfit
People who purchase statement pieces are also people who *wish they could or did go out more. That's my problem I hope and plan and shop for a person I want to be, not the person I am.
My fight with clothing is why do I wear something to death? It makes me happy, of course, to wear it often but I don’t know when I should let it go, and maybe then I look really bad? 😮💨 Well, to me I feel really bad. One time I had a wonderful military green jacket with a furry collar. It washed so well and looked new forever, but the more I wore it, the more I felt ashamed of myself. Since I took the dog out every morning, I began to feel self conscious about it. My thought began, “do you think the neighbors think you sleep on the couch, because they see you out of their windows with the same clothing.” It just got worse and worse, I felt horrible. That was it! That was motivation to let go of the wonderful jacket that served me so well in the winters! But it’s the same problem with everything! I have to know when to let things go, before the bad feeling sets in. After that, I replaced it with a long brown fur coat and I wore it in rain, snow, cleaning snow off of others’ cars. I took it to the dry cleaners, and I don’t know what they did, but it looks shiny and new again. 🙈 The only coats I can get rid of is the ones that become lint traps and catch cat hair, that when you go into a store and you walk by all the fur and lint jumps off the coat and onto the pristine black clothes on the racks. 🙊! Those times it’s so easy getting rid of things! 😹 No one ever makes videos on when it’s time to let things go! 😸😂
I’ve put a lot of effort lately into buying clothes but I’m still making mistakes. Like keeping expensive shoes that on reflection are too small, or an expensive trench coat that I loved in the changing room but in reality it’s a bit too trendy and at almost floor-length, I think wears me rather than the other way around. It makes me feel quite uneasy and regretful due to wasting so much money and as though I don’t deserve to risk having nice things because I keep making these mistakes. I am also finding it hard to know exactly what suits me because, due to sensory issues, I can’t wear clothes that are too fitted or restrictive and also body shape affects what works on you even if your height for example dictates a particular fit/length. Also, I sometimes feel as though I can never even get a capsule wardrobe in place because things happen - I shrunk a load of quite expensive knitwear when I had covid and sleep deprivation and the other day I found a favourite T-shirt had holes in etc. I feel so good when I’m wearing something I feel nice in and proud of but it often feels like a struggle to get there and as though my physique doesn’t allow for the level of style I would like.
I also have too many statement pieces. It’s just that I don’t want to spend so much money on clothing I don’t fall in love with instantly (being the basics). The few basics that I have tho that actually are exiting to me are really focused on the perfect material and silhouette! It takes me a really long time to find basics that feel perfect for me, and yet I can’t seem to stop buying statement pieces😫
Maybe you're a Dramatic kibbe type? Dramatics need statement clothing, because basics tend to look boring on them. I think the same thing holds true for a lot of Romantic types. So it might just be your instincts, not a fault.
Interesting I have not heard of the term "style kingdom" I liked this video honestly it helps with living more eco friendly which are the videos I make here on youtube as well🤗
Thank you so much for your videos! I have a question about your Master Class, is it something you can log on to whenever you want? Or do we follow along with you every week?
Accessories. I love basic clothes because #1. they're a canvas for accessories and #2. even if I don't wear any accessories but earrings, basic clothes don't draw attention to themselves; they let me be me. You should wear your clothes, not the other way around, and attention-getting clothes often wear you. It's possible, though, that you're a Dramatic or Romantic kibbe type, who tend to look blah in basics. Accessories can really change it up. For a Dramatic, something geometric and bold. For a Romantic, something lacy or floral would be a good choice.
Great advice, thank you so much. I recognised myself in the "too many statement items" category. I feel like a lot of the times, I'm able to appreciate how a piece looks on a model and the vibe it creates, but I forget that it might not be what I'm personally looking for.
I have a cotton full length maroon culotte pants and i don't what type of top should i wear with it any recommendation? I've tried tshirt but it looked horrible
I am a Canadian viewer and find that whenever I would love to invest in a piece that Bethany links in the description, there are insane import and shipping fees. Do any fellow Canadians know how I could avoid those fees, or know of a store in Canada that carries the brands that Bethany recommends? Thanks! 🔆
Yes!! I feel the same too. I’ve started to create a list of what I like and then when I’m shopping locally I look for that style. OR I seriously think of the piece Is worth the cost over a couple weeks and that justifies the cost if I can’t find it somewhere else
Amazing video, I like your dress, is it short or long? because I’m 5.1 and I like this type of drsses but honestly I feel that they overwhelm my pettite frame , what do you think?
The older I get, the more I dont care about whats in trend. I create my own fashion style no matter its dated or whatever as long as I am comfortable and they suit me well. Period.
