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Here's a list for the kings who have little time: 1) Being *too* sexual too soon. 2) Playing "games" will attract toxic women 3) If a woman likes you, you'll know 4) They generally want safety and security (Has a career, physical strong, emotionally supportive) 5) Taking the lead makes women melt
yea, we need a list of what makes a TOXIC women, im done half a(ss)ed hints some of them give, as well as not being able to discern which ones who think im too clingy when i ask "did you get home safe?", likes its basic human nature to care about someones life@@tdrive398
#2 is so damn true. Be upfront with your intentions, don't play games, and show her that you're serious about her. Effective communication is attractive especially from a mature woman with a healthy mindset.
It's definitely good if you are looking to actract someone emotionally mature. Unfortunately time and time again I find showing that I'm serious has led to them pulling away, but when I pull away and am distant women tend to become far more interested. Not sure why it works this way in practice
@@0verPar Let true world experience be your teacher. Your experience is the truth that almost all men discover sooner or later. For some reason women will tell us that mind games don't work.. Done correctly they are the most effective tool in the box. Understanding how people tick male or female is very important. Both men and women are generally hypocrites.
#5 - Take the Lead / Take Initiative. This should come with asterisk or warning label! Women love a man that takes the lead ONLY when they don't feel like they need to be in control and have their way. My wife complains that I'm indecisive and that I always make her decide. That's a learned behavior from years of being critiqued, gaslighted and shamed for not reading her mind. You could ask anyone who works with me and they would never describe me as indecisive. I hate indecision. But when you're told that every decision you make is wrong, or given the passive aggressive "put out" treatment any time you take the lead, there comes a point where you don't care and let the women figure it out.
@@EriPages Great advice. I hope you take your own advice. In year 6 of your marriage she's going to take your kids, house and half your 401K and make you pay her child support. This is 2023 not 1923. In 1923 she'd follow, in 2023 she knows she gets cash and prizes if she quits. Stop watching dumb youtube channels by guys that have ZERO long term relationships. 6 years is NOT long term. Listen to men that have been married 40+ years.
My advisement is for the OP of this thread who is already married and in that situation I solved for him. How did your marriage play out? And I want to be clear I'm not taking a dig at you. I'm genuinely wanting to know how your own marriage turned out? I'm 35, unmarried. Just playing the tinder game for now. May marry in a year though.@@ronmexico8383
Whatever a guy finds out there, it's nice to hear a woman talk about having a healthy, respectful relationship. Keeps us believing there is reason for hope.
Number 5 is really true. You may think youre showing that youre chill and go with the flow, but she thinks youre a guy who cant make decisions and is afraid to be a leader. Ive learned this recently myself.
@mattleofric1766 no bro. Read no more mr nice guy an mode one. U plan u make sure it get romantic. U park were u want. Take the lead.she joins u . Cas the way u run ur life...she wants in
Think about what you’ve said though. Why do they want you to make the decisions? Is it not ok to expect equal or collaborative decisions? Honestly, to me it just comes across as lazy to me. I don’t want to put myself out there, so you do it, your the man
This is a much better place to get healthy advice that will actually help you w/ relationships. Please stay away from the red pill channels, as they are toxic.
When you're young, you're out there in the world working or going to school. Friend circles tend to be bigger and opportunities to meet women are easier. Try to believe in yourself and know that there's someone out there for you. There are also girls that find it tough to meet men too.
One thing I love about Courtney's content is that it's good for men of all ages. Most of these creators focus on younger men and indeed they have it worse, but there are single middle-aged guys who remember the old dating market and are like WTF? in the current one. Keep up the good work Courtney.
I agree with Courtney's philosophy and content being sensible. However noticing some of the repeating topics and all the responses in the comments the "dating world" especially in the west seems to be chaotic and mostly heading for a major crash- what happened? Its like interconnectivity of internet which is known to make all these things so convenient somehow made this topic far worse
@@Matanumi I think the main reason we hear things repeated is because there are always new people coming into this space who haven't heard it at all. It's like the safety lecture on a plane. If you've flown before you've heard it over and over but a first time or very infrequent flyer will be hearing it with news ears.
Synopsis: 1. Getting too sexual too soon= Icky 2. Effective communication is key. Playing games attracts toxic women. 3. If a woman likes you, you’ll know. 4. Safety and Security are important. Emotional support, trustworthiness, empathy, etc. are truly important. 5. Take the lead. Take initiative.
Solid. These are things my gf and I still do today. We both have our roles and we both love our solitude and self care but we are one hell of a team. I protect her physically, spiritually and emotionally and she makes me feel like the luckiest guy alive. I feel like having a solid foundation of self before trying to date is so key.
@@nobodysperfect06 it really didn’t go down as a so-called conventional “asked her out.” It started off as more of a friendship and mutual respect for one another. It organically blossomed into a relationship after about 4 months. We were both in healthy places and had done a lot of self work and realized we didn’t need one another, but it became clear that we wanted one another. 3 years later and we are best buddies and share life together. We still joke about not needing one another but I don’t know what I would do without her. That last parts between us on this platform 🤓
@@carlosam23282 I’ll tell you this much. It’s when I stopped chasing or thinking I needed someone to fulfill me and began just loving myself and heeling from trauma that life just began to change. I’m no guru on love but it has appeared to be the equation for me. The kicker here is I truly mean it when I say I wasn’t looking or chasing. There is something special about the art of letting go brother.
Thank you for all the help you offer. Was married for 35 years and lost my wife to Breast Cancer so that being said, I didn't have a clue of even where to start. You offer a moral way to look at all this without all the other things that make it seem almost dirty. Again Thank you
I am comfortable taking the lead, but I don't want to have to come up with everything all the time. Especially if she's lived in this town for 10 years and I've lived here for 1, hopefully she knows something interesting. Some people who want "someone to take the lead" are actually just completely uninteresting and have no ideas.
Exactly. I actually think it comes across a lazy. Seems harsh, but true. How nice to just show up and let the other person take all the risk if the venue sucks, or something happens. It’s 2023, decide together, it’s not hard.
You are such a great woman Courtney. Your husband must be so proud to share his life with such an impossibly high quality lady like you. Your physical attributes are undeniably insanely over the top, but where you score most of your points is on the intelligence level. You are the definition of wife material.
I don’t think women make it subtle enough when they like you. My first thought would be, oh she’s just being nice cause she’s nice to people. I’ve had so many women tell my they weren’t into me, they were just being nice. So now I don’t take the chance. If you’re into me, you’re gonna have to tell me straight up now. No more games!
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
My recommendation is read 3 percent man by coach Corey Wayne. She left you, so don't chase at all. Work to become the best you, and shockingly if it's meant to be, she'll come back if/when you are doing great without her. It sounds messed up, but female psychology is just that.
@josephreglandShe was not the love of your life if she walked away. She might have been important to you for a part of your life, but the right one is the one that chooses you.
This, so much this. The fish fisherman example only makes sense if you are trying to trick/exploit a woman, not if you are actually giving her what she thinks you're giving her.
5:26 the problem here is that most women pay you zero attention. They actively avoid you. And a lot of guys have NEVER, not a single time, had a girl express any interest whatsoever in them. So when you say "if she likes you, you'll know" it falls flat, because the firl that kept us around for validation or only because she wanted something or whatever, is the only one to EVER show interest. A guy thinks "wow she's paying all this attention to me! she even texts me back sometimes! She must really like me because rhis is the first girl who's ever treated me this well!" And then she burns you and you become disillusioned. Thats the best you'd ever felt about a girl and now she's just discarded you like trash
while this is true, look I get it man, being emotionally neglected for years is debilitating and can fuck you up for most of your life. You have to understand this; you are not entitled to affection from other women, no one is, man or women. You do not "deserve" the affection of frankly, strangers. And I know some ppl make it look so easy, I've been there smouldering in resentment as everyone else I knew had partners and romantic affairs and it felt like I was living as a side character who was friends with the mc of a 2nd rate romcom TV series, always on the sidelines and never in the limelight. but, to be frank, you're coping. And the best way you can deal with that is to let it go and accept it. Don't go out looking for love if you know its a rigged or losing battle, don't jump at the chance for love and make a hasty decision and end up scorned or betrayed. Push it to the side, the feeling of being lonely is temporary, so focus on yourself. Then once you are balanced and healthy then be open to love, and if you still get nowhere after that, at least you have something to show for it by being able to be proud of yourself; and you wouldn't have spent all that time self loathing, because no one gets a medal truthfully for suffering or being sad and lonely, the world won't spare you its pity. Because truthfully you are the only person holding yourself back, and only you can make a change for the better in your life
Great points Courtney. Mind games is a bad start to a healthy relationship. Safety and security is where she wants to feel that she can rely on you to defend her if a bad situation arises. Finances are important, the guy don’t need to be rich but can manage money well.
Yea... the big problem with "taking the lead" is when she says "I dont care, you pick" but then gets annoyed/angry when you dont pick something she wants....😑
She touched base with becoming a gentleman. I need to work on that. I like that she said women aren’t interested in money, but I want to make money. Last year I saw a quote and it said “ if money is the problem, change the way you look at money.” I just want to be better and I want to achieve my goals.
Such great advice. #2 stuck out to me. I never waited to communicate with a woman to "play games", and I did it with the advice from some dating "experts" out there. They recommended this to show you aren't needy and to create some curiosity with the lady. Thank you.
I've been watching you for a while and I don't often comment on videos, and just wanted to say that you are amazing and such a great resource. I'm 50 now but wow, if the advice you offer had been around in my 20s, I could have been spared so much heartbreak and wasted time. I'm getting it now, so better late than never. Thank you so much for helping some of us that are clueless in the "dating game". I've always been the nerdy geek type and women have always been a mystery to me. You are like the older sister I never had, only you are half my age. Haha. Thanks again.
That's very reasonable and just common sense. I did all these things, except I did not see the signs that she was really into me at 1st. Then I had to leave for a long business trip and when I returned we became a couple. She never played any games, nor did I. We are still together, and what I have learned. You attract who you are as a person.
A women i dated told me she wants a leader.. a man in charge.. but every time i made decisions such as where to go on our date.. she always found a problem with it.. roller skating (no.. i dont want to skate and fall).. fancy restaurant (too expensive, even though IM always the one that pays anyways.).. chain restaurant (crackel barral) (no.. so much fried food there..).. Picnic (no, mosquitoes are out there).. like.. come ON!!!
0:22 - 1: Too sexual too soon 1:48 - sponsor, Better Help, therapy (your mental health is important yo!) 3:05 - 2: Playing games attracts toxic partners 4:36 - 3: If a woman likes you, she'll let you'll know 5:35 - 4: Safety and security. This includes, but means more than just finances. 8:05 - 5: Taking the lead and making decisions is sexy
If she really enjoys his company and digs him then it won't matter if he waits a week to text or call her again for the next date. That's the point. If she doesn't dig him then she won't care to hear from him again. The only reason it would bother her is because her interest level is going up.
Hi Courtney, I'am a happily married man for years and years. I'm old now but still enjoy your videos cause not only are you butifull and your voice so pleasant but you teach things I wish I had known when young. We've always had a great relationship, my wife and I.But still I wish I could of paid more attention and been more in the moment.Thank you for the memories and insight. I hope your husband knows how lucky he is.
I have anxiety on a daily basis and routine. Also, I suffer from stress and depression, because after losing my grandmother and my grandad. And which hurt most when I lost my Cousin so yes I suffer from my dark thoughts but I have God by my side and I have a wonderful girlfriend
Brother, that was me too. I use to be on anti depressants and still wake up with a ball of anxiety in my chest everyday. Also diagnosed with severe clinical depression and bi polar 2 disorder. All I did was start eating healthy, mostly vegetarian, got off processed sugars, started taking pro-biotics, hardly consume alcohol and I work out a bit. Not a gym rat at all, I just do simple stuff. I got off all the pharma pills and haven’t dealt with anxiety or depression since. That doesn’t mean there aren’t life situations that don’t cause a little stress and anxiety but I transmute that energy and do not let it define me. I suppose I will add that I have also dealt with all trauma all the way back from childhood. It helps to learn how to let go of pride and ego. Become vulnerable and begin to know thyself. You got this man!
I personally disagree. That's a natural biological response. It's not great but it clearly demonstrates that the necessary underlying attraction is definitely there, gives you an opportunityfor drawing early boundaries and seeing how the other person reacts to that, and gives you a natural opportunity to discuss past sexual behavior (if she is doing this regularly than yes, its a problem). For me, it's lack of self awareness and personal accountability. That's the biggest red flag in my personal opinion
Great ‘flip of the script’ with this video @CourtneyRyan - the perfect complement to the previous video 👍🏼 Once again, a must watch for both women and men.
There is only thing men need to know: it's either FUCK YES! or move on. Don't chase, don't try to win her. When she's really into you road will be really smooth, almost effortless, she won't care about you mistakes and break her rules for you.
Yeah, probably the best advice. Watching these videos, you hear "man you should do this, man you should do that". Fuck that. If a girl is really into you, everything would be smooth from the start. Otherwise, forget about her and look for a new one.
I really feel like the past couple of months, Courtney's videos have been a big step up in facilitating a healthy comment section :) I hope she elaborates further on men "taking the lead". This is the only thing that still doesn't sit right with me. Imagine planning a first date, she has a food allergy/sensitivity that I'm not aware of, I take the lead and bring her to some place where there's nothing for her to eat. (For the record, this DID happen to me! She was lactose intolerant, I suggested ice cream, and she ate the ice cream and was miserable for it. I suffered a blow to the ego. She had actual digestion problems, so she had it worse in this situation. All was forgiven, but it was a wakeup call for both of us) I could brainstorm a hundred scenarios like that where everything could go horribly wrong - that would all be solved by simple communication and not just me having to "Be the Man(tm)" and unilaterally make all the (wrong) decisions. Surely there's more to this concept!
@@billcynic1815 Absolutely! This one is obvious in retrospect. Just makes me sad that she didn't think she could advocate for herself because she felt like she was supposed to follow my lead.
Thank you for mentioning mental health. I sometimes feel like I'm struggling pretty hard mentally because of some stuff I've been diagnosed with. I used to feel ashamed about it thinking I could never be a strong partner or the man she needs some times. But I'm now doing therapy and exercising, meditating, taking care of myself overall. I'm staying on top of it and communicating what I need if it gets bad, but def taking personal charge of it. I feel like if someone like me were to land a real relationship with a great woman someday I would feel like the luckiest man on earth and fight to protect it by keeping myself as healthy as possible for me and for us. Anyway, just felt like expressing that thought as a reaction to your excellent video. Keep up the great work.
Somehow that Kelsey Cook quote comes to mind when it comes to dating: "If you get divorced and you start trying to date again, it's like having to come back out of retirement."
First point is gold. I think guys are so afraid of getting friendzoned that they go polar opposite and get way too explicit. Until you have actually had sex (whether it's the first date or 6 months) don't ever say anything explicitly sexual. If you are going to it must be very sparingly and subtle and wrapped in a joke/playful and great timing, but especially if you know you are someone who is a little socially awkward/not a clever/eloquent speaker then just hold off for now. What's the rush...
Yes! Trying to move too fast is such a huge red flag. The guy I'm dating now took his time & was incredibly patient, consistent & didn't rush at all. It also plays into the point of "making her feel safe & secure".
Courtney, I've been binge watching your videos so far. It's like you were my girlfriend (a friend who's a girl) that I never had but always wanted. I'm glad I found your channel.
I recently had a woman tell me she always parks her car next to mine because I always park so neatly. Are there other things like this that women notice and care about?
Hey Courtney, massive thanks for sharing all these insights! Your videos have been incredibly enlightening, especially amidst the aftermath of a tough breakup. Your discussions, especially around 'playing games' attracting toxicity, hit so close to home - I’ve seen that happen way too many times. Your reassuring words that 'if a woman likes you, you'll know’ are simplifying the complex world of dating in the best way. And diving into what women generally seek, like safety and emotional support, has been a real eye-opener, steering me towards being a better, more attentive partner in the future. You’ve got me reconsidering so many aspects of how I approach relationships and honestly, it’s been such a healthy, necessary reflection. Can’t wait to keep learning from your content!
_”When a woman likes you, you will know.”_ In a significant percentage of situations this is a provably false statement. What might seem like a clear signal to one person can come across as very ambiguous or even as lack of interest from the perspective of the other person. There’s no point in trying to deny that women try to hint at things and men are oblivious. You’ve got to take the risk and accept that you might get rejected just like men are expected to do, otherwise don’t blame the guys when they just don’t get the hint. Respectfully submitted.
As she stated.. Her "hints" will not just be hints as you mention here.. Not the subtle ones.. She will literally be all over your transmission surface, so much that you would never see anything else until you swallow her..
My curiousness is peaked, however. What would you recommend to guys in their 20s that have almost no prospect of finding anything but toxic? The world we live in breeds co-dependence, especially for daughters without fathers, or rough parental marriages. It seems they vastly outnumber those looking for a serious relationship.
@@CatGamer-wc2ij why would you say that guys in their 20s have almost no prospect of finding anything but toxic? It all depends on your mindset. I know it sounds cliché, but becoming the person who you would like to attract goes a long way in my opinion. You attract what you give out to the world. Focus on becoming the best version of yourself, and the right person will come along 😊
I had asked a question but it got answered back with a question. So when I answer, please answer mine. For men it takes time to become that person even an average woman wants, let alone the woman they want to attract. A LOT of time. The vast majority of men that say want to attract an upper middle woman, i.e., not reaching out of their league, cannot attract them in their 20s. Only 10% of men make 100k, which is the average an upper middle woman view as successful and competent. And we make that predominately in our 30s and up. (Economics prohibits all men from becoming top earners.) It takes years to get a degree that's worth something. It takes a decade to develop self-confidence and self-worth. Women really don't understand how much effort it takes a guy that isn't say Chris Hemsworth. This is because most of their value for a mate is assigned by biology. I'm not saying either is good, because I would hate to be valued only for my looks (Or height...) But the point is, there is a reason 30 percent of men (which is rising) are not getting with women in years in their 20s. @@Stefita83
You state all this as true, But let a muscular, attractive 6' tall, George Clooney type man just enter the room walk up to you and say something sexual nature and you'll go to the bathroom w/o a 2nd thought and have fun.
1. Unless you are a Chad. 2. Fair enough. 3. And, the men who are invisible will know that sooner or later too. 4. That's why dating apps filter for 6'+ men who look like linebackers. Or, you have the skills of John Wick with the money of Elon Musk. Dating apps don't filter for trustworthiness, empathy, honesty, or good parental skills. 5. As long as your decision includes a place needing reservations and not the local coffee shop or food truck. Otherwise, you get roasted on social media the next day for not being enough of a man.
Sorry only losers would use a dating app in the first place.. So simple, you are being toxic - you attract toxic.. Get your head out of these things and enter the real world man!
Hi Courtney! I like your channel but i have to disagree with you on something here. I think most men that are looking for dating advice on the internet are struggling to get a date in the first place, and the dating/courting stage requires a man to have game. Men don't communicate with women directly bc women don't communicate with men directly, and a lot of communication with women is non verbal as well. If you're dating someone for a while then it's ok to say that you're serious about them, but if you do that right away then it will scare them away. You have to get them to spend time with you first so you can actually develop a relationship.
All good advice. My biggest issue is actually finding a woman in the first place. It's impossible. I've tried all the dating sites, social groups, hobbies and interests etc. There is no one at all that I've even been able to approach. Two years looking!
@@simontmn Quite a lot, but they're all married or got partners already. Or they are filling their boots on the dating sites with all the male players. There are no normal single women anywhere. My age range doesn't help I guess. I'm about 50.
Yea, nice job Courtney. I would just like to add a little advice bout “chasing women”. I don’t chase a woman unless she wants to chase me. I need the give and take , the back and forth and of course the up and down!
I think it's great to bring up mental health. Too many people face these issues and put off getting help even though it's affecting their personal lives and their relationships with others. There is no shame in getting help.
Public comment. Ms Courtney you are down to earth. I am happy and proud of you..God bless you. So much great information. ❤❤❤. No games .no red flags . Loyalty is royalty. Moral values and respect.
Planning and taking the lead can be extremely challenging for neurodiverse individuals with executive functioning deficits like myself. But even aside from that, you as a woman never have to think about how exhausting it is to have keep planning date after date after date when none of them lead to anything anyway. For you, sure it's disappointing that there wasn't enough chemistry or whatever, but oh well just on to the next free (for you) fancy dinner. For us, it's extremely mentally exhausting to have to frequently put all the energy into planning yet another date that will most likely just end in another "thanks but no thanks" like all the others before it did. So how about instead once you first show me that I'm not just wasting my time for the seventeen thousandth time, and that's when I'll put some effort into planning a date.
3:44 My only rebuttal would be that women want to be caught, but they also don't always recognize what they truly want. There's a reason it's a trope that women say they want a nice guy, but then go for the bad boys when they have a nice attractive guy right in front of them.
Too sexual is somewhat a tad too vague with some grey areas. If it’s texting pics and being creepy then yeah totally I agree. I want to see if there is sexual compatibility or chemistry as early as 2 dates in, out of respect that I don’t want to waste my time and money on multiple dates and then find out where not compatible. I am a tad confused with the don’t play mind games illusion - if I’m texting her a day after then I basically get the I’m too needy or clingy speech, I’m invested too much by wanting her attention, or perhaps I don’t have options that’s why I’m texting her. Also, I’m curious, doesn’t taking the lead signify that you’re placing her on a pedestal trying too hard to win her affections?
Text right away to say "That was great!" But keep it short. It only looks needy when you send multiple and long texts in a short space of time without her replying.
The only leading I’ve done is to make her goals achievable. Living a long strict lifestyle of studying she has a lot of dreams of traveling but not the means to achieve them alone. Practically how we first started hanging out. 😊 Booking a two person trip without notice and I can either just let her go alone or ask for leave and go with her. We’re not even dating yet at this time.
- [00:25]🔥 Being too sexual too soon can be off-putting when dating. Building sexual tension gradually is more effective for developing a healthy relationship. - [03:03] 🧠 Taking care of your mental health is essential. Therapy can provide tools for approaching life differently. - [03:45]🎮 Playing mind games and waiting to text after a date can attract toxic relationships. Effective communication is key, and mature adults should avoid such games. - [04:42] ❤ If a woman likes you, she will show it through communication, interest in your life, and clear signs. Confusion may indicate she's not interested or is playing games. - [05:37]💰 Safety and security in a relationship go beyond just finances. It includes emotional support, trust, stability, protection, and more. Financial independence is important, but it doesn't require being a millionaire. - [08:15] 💪 Taking the lead is attractive to women. Planning dates, making reservations, and showing initiative is appreciated and makes a positive impression.
God bless you for offering real, thorough, well-intended, often much-needed good advice to men like me, who can really use it. Lol. Prolonged loneliness causes anything from depression to suicide, to violent acting out. Not saying that people shouldn't be able to handle their own, but I wish more people had a conscience enough to offer their wisdom as well. Spread love not hate... 😊
Thank god for this video. I feel like I'm not insane anymore. Male dating coaches online can fill you with toxicity and have you thinking perfectly normal behaviour is abnormal.
The not playing text games is pretty important. Ive lost quite a bit of women because I really dont have time to play games but they would not have been an asset to my life anyways
4:25 that makes a lot of sense. Doing these rules attract the kinds of girls that look for dudes that won't care for them. Being caring and thoughtful as a default in how you carry yourself as a man will filter out the women who are good for you and the ones who are bad. If your approach is to hook up like what Courtney Ryan just said, recalibrate. Know your audience. Playing the field and rizzing girls up will most likely work in bars, clubs, raves, etc. Know when to apply which strategy appropriately depending on your life path.
I thought a woman liked me. Dated for a bit before I moved but turned into a long term thing. Both busy, but don't have my kids, she has hers. Brought up this past weekend that I was starting to not feel like a priority at all to her. Had made a trip down to see my kids. Stayed a bit longer to see her despite having to drive 6 hours back to get ready for work the next day. Been asking when she was going to come up. Have asked three times now and got told that she finally checked her calendar and picked a weekend that wasn't even a possibility and had already told her that. Continued to let her know how I was feeling about how the infrequent texts, the know consideration to call me and talk to me about the visit plan, and some others things were contributing to this feeling. Was just fed excuses that she was busy so no accountability. No validation of feelings. Just I'm busy. So I walked away.
Is being honest at all times something sexy to women as well? Because I am always honest with the women I come across and idk maybe I am doing something wrong they feel me at first but then they lose interest and try to label me as ‘the bro’ are most women that toxic like a man is being honest and it’s like a turn off at some point like they’re looking for some kind of toxic shit. Idk it’s pretty wild. But I’d like for you to address this question please.
I really like your content, it has helped me understand why love & romance just don't fit into my life, even though at one time I really wanted them & why my marriage ended in disaster & felt doomed from the first major crisis. I am just wired wrong for what women want, I thrive in controled chaos, being a productive talented human who makes my way in the world with the flexibility & drive to handle whatever it throws at me is very important to me, status games & using money to keep score & deriving my self worth by what others think of me are not important to me & I like myself the way I am, the ultimate goal in life is dieing the person you want to be. It is easy for me to accept now why women in general tend to like & respect me, while looking somewhere else for romance. I never really got it before, thanks.
#5 in my experience is true. if a woman shows any interest and has an open day ir evening available, i will make a reservation screenshot it and send it to her. If i’m unsure of what she might like i’ll make a reservation at two different restaurants and ask her which she prefers.
No games at 3:33. Some women may appreciate actually getting a live telephone call after the date making sure the woman got home safely. Texting is okay, but a live call shows you are more personal. Don't wait 3 days. Let her know you had a good time and you are up for it again. And then make a call later in the week to set up another date. I had one friend who actually found a very pretty woman who go out with him. He very cleverly made sure this woman knew very early on he was serious and made plans for weekend dates each week. He made sure her social calendar was full and he was a gentleman who kept his word. Today that woman is his wife. They have been married for 12 years.
"If a woman likes you, you'll know." - That assumes that a man isn't too obtuse to even realize that she is hitting on him. My 17yo self wouldn't go with a girl I met at a party, who suggested having a little night hike. ("We're in the middle of a swampy area. Where in the world would we hike to? Such a strange request ...") And that wasn't the only example.
In my case it's been case of constantly getting the "stinky eye", "don't talk to me", " I didn't come out to meet guys" etc and being tuned to that. I have become obtuse to the "come hither" look because of it.
Great list, but I disagree with 4. I never could tell if a woman liked me and there were many times I thought they did, but boy was I wrong. It's best never to assume you know what somebody else thinks or feels.
First point is partial true. If you are atractive the she will be too sexual to soon. If she dont like you first time then is over you can be just friends. I suffered this. I got along well with a girl, but when someone jokingly said that we should be a couple, she reacted almost disgusted by shouting "God forbid" and she was not joking with that girl we joked and teased each other. The problem was that I'm uglier and I don't have a high salary. She was combined with one 6 years older (he is 28) and wins well. I am a year older than her. In the end he left because he found out about the cheating. He was working in another country.
We are done wanting to know. The more sensitive we became, the more we were rejected. The more we tried to talk, the more we were shut down. Dating? The Chad's are given carte blanche, but the regular guy has to wait and pay hours of attention and resources. It's just not worth it. Dating tips are useless when TikTok tells us all what women are and what they really want. I love women and wish them the best, but the mile high expectations, rules, drama, baggage and tantrums when you do something they "perceive" as odd are just not worth it.
That is good advice. There no rules, no requirements for Tyrone & Chad, they already passed the bar with flying colors with their genetic gift of face, body symmetry & build. The rules are for those beneath, below the 90th percentile but no lower than the 70th. If you are below 70, you are not supposed to make eye contact, no speaking, dont come within her safe space of 25 feet. If you are 70-79%, some girls will let you shoot your shot. But to have a realistic chance at all you must be 80%+ to her, whatever that means for her. You can improve whatever you are best at, looks Max, career, money, & that will eventually put you in some woman's sphere of visibility. Most of us are just worker drones to them, we do all the dangerous things that keep civilization running, solve problems, perform tasks, but we are not really human. Body language tells me which ones see me as a sexual being & which ones see me as a drone that might be useful for some problem solving utility. If she can't look at me with eyes that say attraction, I'm not shooting a shot with that one.
