I've been the white girl at a black BBQ, but it was a Church thrown BBQ at the local Baptist Church near where I was living in S Florida. I'd been going by two days a week, especially Saturday afternoon when the choir had practice, and sitting outside just to listen to the beautiful gospel singing. I finally got caught because the last song that afternoon was Oh Happy Day. I fell out. Crying because of their voices, and was still trying to collect myself when some of the people in the choir came outside. Some of my neighbor ladies were there, and as I was apologizing for intruding on their practice, Miss Pam said: Child, we've known for weeks about you sitting outside and listening. You're coming to service tomorrow with me. I loved Miss Pam. Best service I've ever been to. And yes, one of the best BBQs I'd ever been to. Because I was invited over to others and never said no. A wonderful time in my life. Thanks for bringing up those memories, and the laughs at the truth. Much Love to you, Josh!💖💖😘😘🙏🙏
I was the 1 white boyfriend at a black BBQ. It was fun especially when her family asked me how long have I liked Black women. I answered with for as long as she told me I have 🙄 . Everyone got a laugh and after the aunt's and grandma's were non-stop trying to get me to eat some more pie. I figured 2 whole Sweet potato pies would have been enough but NNNN0000000!!! 🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂
As a corn starch white man born in Ohio, now living in Washington state, that has infiltrated MANY black BBQ's I would like to posit a few trade secrets. First, be quick and ready with your Sir's and Ma'am's or you won't make it past the plates. Second ,you WILL be judged on your use and tolerance of Hot Sauce. Siracha is child's play in this arena. You need to be trained and trained well. Third, understand the Cornbread/Hush Puppy conundrum . Fourth, it's just greens. You don't need to say what type.
To know not to call one the other. A Hush Puppy is actually Cornbread that's deep fried, BUT some folks will deep fry Cornbread and just call it Cornbread , depends where you are from. Like how Italian Americans say sauce or gravy , or my folks say pancakes or flapjacks. So how you ask for it is a "tell" . See also pop vs. soda
Ahhhh that's good to know. These cultural things are actually important. Thanks so much for the reply :) Now if I'm ever invited to a black barbecue I won't seem AS pale, pasty white lol.
Once during a rough patch, we had to get a supper at a Black Church hosted BBQ-- and yes, not only was it long prayers, but we had to wait through the sermons and singing as well. Worth it.
Respect number 5. If you fail to observe number 5 and somehow find yourself re-invited to the BBQ, you aren't playing spades ever again. You ain't living it down either, not for 5 years, not for 40 years. Someone at that BBQ gonna mention it.
Truth Bomb!!! Reneg if you want to, will never forgive or forget you. Um, what are you sitting down for? Nah nah, go play with the kids, this grown folk business right here, LOL
7. Always flirt with the oldest woman there. Works for me lol 8. If its a family from new orleans. Do NOT dive right into their "homemade sauces" without bein ready for some heat.
Jay Dixon idk how many you've been to, but that's prolly why you keep getting invited, if it's more than one: you've obviously got home-training because you speak to the elderly. That should be RULE #1. Always speak. Btw, youre in what region of the states? Based on your comment, it looks like southern, but you'd already know about the range of sauces if that were the case. I'm from TX. You?
If you want to give that BBQ the gift of laughter and entertainment you WILL dive right into those homemade sauces ahhahahahaha DO the right thing, dive in!!!!!!
I'm an old (60) Christian white guy, and my younger (43) new boss ended up in the hospital with horrible infections. One of my better staff, who is black, is also a Christian. We work for the government so we have to keep our faith sorta quiet. I asked her to pray for my boss, and she left me in the DUST. I couldn't BEGIN to pray the way she did, nor even keep up. I ended up in tears. BEST humiliation I ever experienced. Boss is back to work and she is being "showcased" to the executives (who are also black) for her work. Wish I could get her promoted.
I'm guessing you don't read much, other than short paragraphs. I will probably be dead and gone if you ever reach my age, but it would be interesting to hear your perspectives at that age. My daughter last night, who proclaimed atheism at age 21, at age 31 seems to be pulled in a different direction. I hope you find faith, but even if you don't, I'll pray for you and yours. Faith cannot be proved by scientific observation, which is precisely why it IS called "faith." Sure, there are LOTS of charlatans out there using "faith" to separate fools from their money. If you fall into this trap, then you probably deserve to. I would invite you instead to consider the works of Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr., Mahatma Ghandi, and others from the last century (MY century) who, through their faith and non-violence, brought about world shaking change. Now put your rattle and your iPhone down, child, and go read a real book or two.
Lmao. Rule 4 makes some sense outta one of my life experiences. Was living in New Orleans when Hurricane Issac came through back in 2012. Most of the city lost power for several days. After a day or so, the storm had passed and freezers were thawing. I decided to throw a bbq in my apt complex and offerrd to cook up any meats so they didn't go to waste. As we sat around eating that night, black neighbors kept telling me how the food was so great and how I should open a restaurant. I was so confused, kept saying it's just a lil seasoning salt.
I have to tell this. I was in line at Wal-mart behind a large black family buying a cases of beer and a big mess of fried chicken. A snotty lady grumbled to me about the lowbrow party supplies. I told her that same chicken shows up at every funeral at my church, it's quite good, and I'd go to that party in heartbeat. She was so nonplussed at me she couldn't speak. I don't care who shows up at a BBQ, what the food is, or what games are played. More BBQs can save us all!
Been to several, I learned to always bring beer, Bud Ice is a safe choice for where I am from (and still Live). Also, I learned to make sure you have had at least three different plates of food, even if they're light, otherwise, you might get force fed or worse, offend the family who's house you are at.
I'm an Ol White Boy (only one there) and two years in a row so far! And I couldn't compliment Buddy enough about all his crafts over the coals. It was endless GOOD EATS! No renegging needed. No Dominoes OR Spades. And Buddy's sister is a Pastor. LOL She's a doll! And yes we gots to have a PRAYER! And you know..... It was good! Good time, Great Peeps and can't wait til next Summer! You should invite yourself. They don't get upset with +1s or anything! Jesus didn't! A good example for all of us! Peace Josh!
Man, I'm from Brazil and I've always wanted to go in a black american BBQ. And I don't if is too diferent from ours right here, but damn, I would love to go. Here in Brazil there's a lot of family that are mixed, but when I met a "all black family", omg. They always make me feel special, loved, they're always asking If I am comfortable, If I am straight. I love that.
I was about to call you out ... but then you remembered #6. My best bud on USS Philadelphia was a black guy from Detroit and every, single, solitary weekend he'd have "Pastor Neal" over for supper (until Pastor Neal hit on his wife...lol).
6. Don't play Uno with the cousin that just got out of prison and you make them draw four. 7. Don't bring your new baby's momma and new child when the other baby momma and child are there. 8. Don't leave your children hoping they will baby sit while you try and have fun. 9. The whole family has to do the Electric Slide just once. 10. You cant ask your cousin to give you back the money they owe in front of everybody.
The best time you're gonna have being a fish outta water. Make sure if offered something you haven't had to eat before you take it, say thank you and try it (unless you know you have a food allergy).
It is, but he didn't go into all the rules. Rule #1 should have been speak to the host (if they weren't the one who invited you) and speak to the old folks! Speak = acknowledge. If you don't speak, it will embarass your friend and make THEM look bad.
I thought the number 1 rule was to ask who cooked what. Or is that the number 1 rule for an office potluck? Hell, it's probably the number 1 rule in both cases. LOL. This one old lady I worked with looked like she showered in dandruff. We all knew which was her dish and avoided it like the plague. Same goes that none cooking aunt who swears she can burn. Yeah, right.
Josh, I have to agree with the many other comments that you are a funny dude! On a serious note, I wish that one day we, white folk and black folk, could come together as one and finally put the past behind us for good. I would invite you to my BBQ anytime my friend.
OMG, the Spades comment was the best! I'm white but grew up in a predominantly black town. I learned how to play Spades in high school and Lord have mercy Spades is a religion. You have one chance to learn and if you screw up you are out forever! Everyone plays and takes it so seriously. You literally had me shouting. I miss those days playing in school.
Y'all only BBQ once a year? Cause us white boys do it sometimes ,3-4-5 times a week, and I don't mean 30 minutes of "grilling" hamburgers and hot dogs. This is when we're not at the gun range.
I'm a 51 year old white man. I love this guys attitude. It's my attitude. I coined this term Eracisim. That's excactly what this guy is saying. Our differences make our country what it is. Read what's on the Statue Of Liberty. I'm right about that.
Thank you for the OreGUN! I moved to South Carolina a year and a half ago, but I'm still Oregon White. I can't be in the sun long enough to tan, more than five minutes outside in the summer I'll burst into flames.
Josh, You know there was way more than just 6! 😂 I want to hear more!!!!! The snow bunny comment is hilarious & you are right! She best have a good thought out answer to the “have you always liked black men” question. Lol! That would probably scare a white girl off depending where she’s from, but hopefully it won’t. Black BBQ’s sounds fun! I think I’d get along fine considering I’d be thanking God for everything as well, compliment the cook, cut up with everyone (even though I’m white🤣) I could be good company & I’d stay the heck away from the cards & dominos. I know my place and it ain’t anywhere near that. Haha!! Speaking of which, this is a True story, my grandmother was at the hospital & I had gone outside to get some air then all the sudden I see a black guy with his hand all bandage up and crazy me approaches him ( I never meet a stranger to say the least) & I ask, “ what happened to your hand?” He said he got cut. I said to him, “ cut!!? Why?” Again, not my business, I guess I thought he needed a friend🤔🤦🏻♀️ and anyhow, he said he was playing craps! I didn’t even know what craps was so the icing on the cake was me asking what that was!😂 This guy was hood to say the least and here I come along with my oh let’s be friends and talk asking him about his business lol! You know he thought I was either dumb or brave🤦🏻♀️ maybe both! Anyway, I’d do it again, but I’d probably pray for him next time. That’d really confuse him. Dang, this was long!🤦🏻♀️haha! Hooray for black bbqs and white bbqs that aren’t lame. Ours aren’t btw💃🏻😂
I was that snow bunny 😂 grandma did ask me “have you always liked black men” and I told her yes ma’am, it runs in the family 😂😂 My step grandpa is a black man from Jamaica.
If you are a white boy going to a black BBQ with your girlfriend, taking weed definitely helps break the ice with her brothers and cousins. They'll be giving you the side eye until you ask, "Do y'all smoke?"
LoneWanderer360 You ain't lying bout that man. My wife is Black and the first time I was ever came around her family was in fact at a barbecue, and mind you at that time I was 19 and I only weighed 125 pounds and her brother(now my brother-in-law) is a 6 foot 5 muscled up black dude who could break me in half, he comes up to me, shakes my hand and says," hey homes where da weed at?" I roll up a sweet and I burn one wit him and her cousin. Ever since then I've gotten along wit her family, and she gets along with mine.
Saw your Carrie Underwood video and thought you were funny...now after watching more vids, I realize you remind me of my students AND you're a Florida fan! I'm subscribing. You're hilarious!
Dude! You ain't kidding about Spades! But it happens with white folks too! Hubby and I almost got a divorce over a game of spades, you don't renig with my husband. He is one evil man when it comes to spades! He even made his best friend cry over a game of spades! Keep this vids coming!
I was asked when did I realise i like black girls. I said hot girls are hot girls regardless of color I love them all. Most people laughed except her dad, a couple aunts and a few people I don't know. I got hit on by her female cousins after that comment.
White guy here. I lived in a predominately black neighborhood years ago. Funny you should mention Spades, because while that was played a lot, I played a hell of of a lot more games of Tonk than anything else. Learned it from my neighbor.... at one of his BBQs no less.
Goddamm snow bunnies man, gotta love em though. My wife's family were like that towards me when she introduced me to her family. My father-in-law asked me the first time he met me he said," have you always had a thing for black women", and I said", yes sir, for about as long as I can remember." Nah but you right though Josh, black barbecue's is like that.
You forgot the music. Here is the typical music lineup: 1.) Joy and Pain (Frankie Beverly and Maze) 2.) Cupid shuffle 3.) Wobble baby 4.) Old school rap 5.) Old School R&B
Oh lord! Guilty as charged. Hey y'all snowbunny in the house here hahaha....happily married snowbunny though and I love his family they love me and all my family loves him ...lotta love and respect up in our house.
OMG Josh... the Plus One rules, 'Orrygon white girl' and the illegal Pastor 😂 I'm hurting!!! 🙏RIP to all those Spades victims past and future, NEVER FORGET ♠
Josh. You need to be doing a tour. Seriously. Never been to a black bbq, but I've been to a Mexican bbq. You better check your stuff at the door. As the only white there? It's different, but I don't regret that I was the only white invited.
"Do not renege. And that's for your safety." Ok, I thought I knew Spades, but I don't know what reneging is. (At least I hope that word was "renege") *looks up what reneging is in Spades* WHAT? Man why there gotta be a special word for "cheating"?
Tara Jones It only applies to children, since Haitians are just kinda old-school in the whole "kids should be seen, and not heard" attitude. It also upsets them when kids sit cross-legged, make direct eye contact, or stand with their hands on their sides.
Oregon white lol. Man you gotta visit both the sticks in west Oregon and east oregon, we love BBQ guns and trucking, not all but at least 2/3 of that list. You played juker?
He actually said Delaware white 😂 I have been the "snow bunny"...he speaks the truth. And black gatherings of all kinds, with food, involve lengthy prayers...which, if you aren't accustomed to, can be rather uncomfortable. I've had my head bowed in prayer till my neck gets sore before 😂
I just watched Josh's white barbecue video and it made me want to go to a black barbecue....but now I'm scared of reneging or not gushing over the meat to the grill master enough. I HAVE NO PLACE IN SOCIETY! Josh, can you please do all of the cultures so I can find my true home? ;)
I have a lot of black friends,besides jail,a black bbq is the only place I've been and homies stand on the seat and slam that hand down to take a book,4 real,shit is funny,keep doing it man,always a pleasure watching you......BURKE. .....
Chuck M Fuck that, with my family anything that isn't meat is what you get second. If you don't get meat, they'll look at that plate of beans, rice, tortillas, ensalada, and ask ¿No querias carne? and I'll always be like "¿no, porque?"
Any tips for answering that "How long have you liked black guys?" question? I know a bear trap when I see one, but I'll be buggered if I know how to step around it...
