5 Unhealthy Coping Mechanisms You Shouldn’t Ignore 

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Im studying psychology and when i open my own clinic im going to have a tv in the waiting room playing psych2go videos for my patients! Update: sad news, im continuing my grad studies on industrial psychology which means i wont have an office with patient and i wont be able to complete this promise but i encourage someone else to fulfill this idea in their own clinic! 🥰

*Me expressing my emotions* People around me: "WHY U BEING SO DRAMATIC. STOP IT"

Video summary: 0:58 forced/toxic positivity 2:15 isolating yourself 3:11 fatalism (you prepare for the worst) 4:13 repressing your feelings 5:11 romanticising the past

My coping methods: -Biting my nails -Repressing emotions -Self-Isolation -Forced Positivity -Daydreaming, or remembering the past

“Repressed emotions can lead to guilt and shame” Which is why I repressed those emotions too

"sometimes life just sucks" that sentence is a whole mood

my coping methods: - obessing over fictional characters - obsessing over tv shows/movies - obsessing over celebrities - obsessing over mbti and enneagrams for many hours of the day - peeling the skin off around my nails - used to pull out my eyebrow hair - cutting people off - obsessing over the future and looking for my purpose even though i’m still very young

I've always been a "cry baby" growing up my dad used to say that crying was weak. I tried to keep the tears in but I couldn't, I'm starting to realize crying is not bad at all its just a way of showing emotion and honesty its just water coming out of my eyes its not a big deal.

forced positivity is also harmful towards people with mental health issues because it minimizes their pain. :(

It’s so hard to express ur emotions when people make fun of you for doing it :(

Im guilty of all of these, especially repressing my emotions, mainly because I'm convinced my issues aren't as bad as everyone else's and doing anything about them feels selfish when others need help more than me.

I cope with sleeping and eating. Its become a dangerous habit that now effects my daily life. I sleep so much I'm failing school and I eat so much that I can't stop eating. Its been like this since 3rd grade , my mother was neglectful and never really took me to doctors appointments. Turns out I've had adhd my whole life and that's why I've been struggling with school.

I like how they use memes on thumbnails and makes it more interesting and friendly.

1. forced positivity 0:56 2. isolating yourself 2:14 3. fatalism 3:09 4. repressing your feelings 4:11 5. romanticizing the past 5:11 I hope I could help! :)

my coping mechanisms: -messaging friends on discord until they all fall asleep and then crying -sherbet -not sleeping so i can plan out social interactions and avoid embarrassing myself -more sherbet -trying to find my cat (who hates me) -crying just because yeah that’s it

Toxic positivity is so common and it's seen as just positivity. It encourages denial and repressing feelings. I love that this was on the list! Genuineness can be hard to come by.

My coping mechanisms: 1.) Listen to sad music: *cry* 2.) Reading a sad comic: *cry again* 3.) Thinking about that sad comic,but you added yourself in a sense into that story: *cries an entire ocean*

Romanticizing the past...Remember, the past is a point of reference, not a place of residence.

My coping mechanisms: - cutting everyone off - self isolation - romanticising the past - playing the one same video game for hours on end - allowing myself to get sadder and more depressed

Sometimes when I’m ‘breaking down’ I like to rub my arms and tell my self it’s okay and it’s fine and I’ll be okay and it usually helps me with the overwhelming feelings I may have at that moment , I try to gather myself afterwards:)

I’ve stopped sharing my emotions bc every time i say how i feel i get unvalidated bc I’m “too sensitive” or i’m “overreacting” worse part is i get criticized for being too quiet too so idek what to do anymore

I've said this before, but I wish you would create note cards with your little guys and trees. You could make an adult coloring book.

Nothing has ever been said that's more true than, "Sometimes, life just sucks." This quote needs to be on everyone's walls.

What helped me to accept "bad" or "negative" Emotions was a little hint from my therapist: There are neither good nor bad feelings! There are only comfortable and uncomfortable feelings. Of course we only want to feel comfortable, but you and your body can also cope with the uncomfortable ones. It really helped me to come forward with letting emotions flow and also to deal with my anxiety and panic attacks, let them just be there! You're getting over this too, cause emotions come and go, they're never fully persistent 🥰

my coping mechanisms include: 1. journaling 2. ice cream 3. watching youtube (preferably psych2go) 3. more ice cream 4. realising that i might get diabetes from eating all that ice cream 5. overthinking 6. more overthinking 7. m o r e overthinking 8. finally going on a walk to clear the bad thoughts away

My coping mechanisms: 1. looking at memes, 2. Meditate 3. Cry my eyes out 4. Talk to google assistant 5. Read webtoons 6. Listen to songs 7. Writing a diary

My coping mechanisms: -Repressing emotions -Self-Isolation -Daydreaming, or remembering the past -Starving myself so I feel that I have some control over my life

my coping mechanisms 1. stargazing(it makes it easier to breathe, especially if ur alone) 2. Throwing fruit into my compost bin( i was already going out, might as well take my anger out on it) 3.c r y i n g a l o t 4. skincare routine 5. sprinting, (just taking off where ever my feet lead me) 6. video journaling 7.writing 8 sleeping

I only cry in private, but my husband works from home now. I can't cry.

When I am stressed I cry. I can’t control it, I cry when I’m sad, tired, angry stressed or even happy. I suppose it’s from my anxiety

my coping mechanisms: -forced socializing (forcing myself to socialize therefore not thining about it -ice cream and sweets -not gonna mention but people would generally consider taboo -repressing

I remember learning about “immature” coping mechanisms - some of them puzzled me. They were labelled as immature not because they were ineffective or not constructive but because someone saw them as immature. And such classifications concern me. People cope in various ways and with different results. What may work for one may not work for the other and vice versa. Yet, as long as it serves its purpose and doesn’t harm anyone in the process - let it be. Why some professionals insist on rigid labeling and unreasonable justification remains a mystery to me.

I normally stick with "Never expect get your hopes up, never be disappointed"

Whenever I'm stressed out, or whenever I'm just feeling down, I always put on my headphones and listen to songs. It really really helps. It's weired how often a song u put on, is exactly related to how you feel. If music wasn't a thing... Nah, I'm not even gonna think about it

I isolate myself, I spend all my time alone. The only time I come into contact with other humans is when I go to University but even then I don't talk to anyone, I just go for my lesson then leave. I am quite a solitary, but I can definitely feel the effects of loneliness, I feel like there's nobody to love me. I miss my childhood because that's when I was friends with everyone whereas now I suffer from severe social anxiety.

I don't usually get your videos in my recommend, but when I do I take it as a sign that it's something that I really need to hear. And when I get over whelmed with emotions I eat a bag of frozen fruits or vegetables. They are healthier than ice cream so their the perfect comfort food (I have a very deep passion for frozen carrots in particular 😂)

For some reason when I'm upset or stressed, my brain automatically plays a random song, whether I listened to it recently or haven't listened to it in years in perfect memory, like it's on shuffle or something. I call it my Upsetti Spaghetti Mental Playlist.

The 1st one I definitely agree with. I really dislike toxic positivity with a burning passion. You know what they say, It's alright to not be alright because all feelings are valid.

Personally, I use all of those coping mechanisms everyday. I didn’t realise until then, I thought it was normal.

my coping mechanisms: - read webtoons - talk to friends - play video games - watch youtube - watch animes - staying in my room alone - crying sometimes

Oddly enough, one of my coping mechanisms for stress is cleaning. I could go from having a messy room one moment to having a near spotless room the next, and honestly, it helps more than I thought it would.

heyyy if you're reading this, i want you to know that i'm so proud of you! you've fought so many silent battles yet you're still here. you're so brave, keep the faith & never ever give up, okay? i love you! 🌻

My worst coping mechanism is isolation and social withdrawal. This is what I'm working on currently as it's completely counter productive to my wellbeing.

I had far more severe coping mechanisms that induced my depression over time: drugs, alcohol, sex abuse. I didn’t went to the extreme, but definitely was the wrong way to go… However when I slowly put control over them, reduced their prevalence, I felt better. Then I started taking far more responsibilities in me - I got myself a pet, made piece with the past and put myself and my (even basic) needs, I managed to see the color of life. Watching this video reminded me of a dark period of my life a couple of years ago which now is rather a sweet memory. I can’t say I am super happy now, but definitely I am much better. My cure was to take my time off of everything and reinvent myself. In doing that I asked the most harsh questions to myself and attempted to be completely honest. It didn’t happen overnight but slowly and surely I am getting there. So my coping techniques: - take your time off - get a grip where you are - push yourself to get out of the bed - pull yourself together with baby steps - develop persistence

Lol the thumbnail is so cute and u guys using the word smol instead of small is also cute hehe

"imagination is the only weapon in the war of reality" i've never related to something this much. when my anxiety gets too hard to handle, i just tune out the real world and create these fictional worlds where life is what i really want it to be. it's come to the point where i can't stop imagining these realities, and i put them into my actual life. it's rlly hard to explain and idk how to stop it. i dont rlly wanna go to a therapist or a professional cuz idk what people would think of me...

my coping mechanisms: -texting my friends all day -ghosting everyone for a day -music!!! -sleep

One of the reasons I isolate is not only because I don’t like the people around me, but because I feel that I am disturbing them. I tend to over react and get frustrated and angry at small things and then start yelling and just not being nice too my siblings or parents. This leads to them telling me that I’m “always angry” or “always ruining the mood” and it just doesn’t feel right to go up there and make things worse :(

i only now noticed that TREE in intro has exact shape of BRAIN WOW

"How petting kitties can cure anxiety and depression" What would the people that are afraid of cats think?

how i cope crying crying making fun of myself for being dramatic ice cream watch movie ice cream feel insecure about eating ice cream sleep wake up and pretend nothing happened and convince myself i'm over reacting (which a lot of times i probs am)

What you mentioned for number 3 is something I needed to hear. I always keep worrying myself of everything going wrong and try to plan for that, I forget to stop and think about how *likely* it will be to happen... Mainly due to common things that happen in my day to day life that doesn't happen in my safe circle of the internet and poetry. You may not be intended to diagnose anything, but you guys certainly help with solving a lot of it! Thank you!!!

"Sometimes, life just sucks." Just felt so real.

I love the way their character is drawn. They could be male, female, non-binary, intersex, or any other gender, so they fit in every situation in the videos. and they’re s o c u u u t e 👁👄👁

My coping mechanisms: 1. Pick at scabs that I have on my shoulders. 2. Only shows happiness, and not any other emotions. 3. Bites nails sometimes. 4. Subconsciously laughed during stressful situations.

My unhealthy coping mechanism used to be repressing emotions (and maybe toxic positivity) via excessive use of dating apps. I realized this once I stopped when the pandemic started. Now it is dancing but still need to find more channels to cope with all the awful stuff I now can't avoid confronting.

Problems are not the problem; coping is the problem.

Repressing emotions is what I do on a daily basis because I can’t talk to my mum about them. When I try she just tells me “that’s your ego” or “you are creating these emotions”. This makes me feel invalidated and I end of masking my feelings when I’m near her. When I’m alone I just shed my tears away.

I repressed my feelings so when my friend asked me how I was I cried so hard. I almost did it last week, Luckily my friend offered to listen to my rants and give advices, It lightened me up a whole lot ^^

After trying everything from self-help to therapy, I have concluded that the only way to battle my anxiety and hopelessness is to disallow any thought processes that cause feelings of anxiety or stress: if I sense these feelings rolling in, I forcefully redirect my thoughts. It does seem to help because it exponentially decreases the number of instances where I feel actively stressed or anxious, but is this a healthy coping mechanism? I think it's only a matter of time until I hit upon a problem that makes me anxious but that genuinely requires my attention and for me to push through the stress of figuring it out instead of refusing to think about it...

When your realize that all of those coping mechanisms you use on a daily basis *oh no I’m in trouble we’ll can’t really do anything 🤷🏼 life moves on*

*To everyone who's reading this: you're cool and adorable stay safe* Edit: tysm for sweet replies! never expected that this comment would help this much. And if you're in crisis, PLEASE talk to someone, ok? it will get better i promise

Two months ago, I usually had extremely positivity and repressed my emotions. Both mechanisms didn't work and made me felt isolated and lowed my self-esteem. A few weeks ago, I found two influencers who felt the same way about life. And they give tips for overcoming grim and sadness. Yesterday, I decided to talk about my insecurities with my family. Now, I feel better and prepared for practising new healthy habits and accomplish realistic goals.

Hey, thanks for the video. I sometimes isolate myself and repress my feelings. I am also a fatalist, I believe that some things just happen and can’t be changed, but I also believe that every person was born to be happy. However, it sometimes goes dark when I get depressed and begin to focus on the inevitable end of everything. When I feel overwhelmed, I do not want to talk to my friends and family. When I feel I am struggling, I reduce the conversations and give them text messages instead of calls, just to indicate that I’m still around. I need some time alone to process my emotions and when I’m ready to communicate again, I will.

that one moment when you realise you were using most of these coping mechanisms

4:06 "How petting kitties can cure anxiety and depression" You need to do a presentation about that? Isn't that basic general knowledge?

I sometimes tell myself that it could be worse when something goes wrong, and it makes me feel happy that I'm not in a worse situation.

The "forced positivity" was/is a huge one for me. As a youngster, when I would try to reach out regarding concerns, I was frequently told, "Oh, I'm sure you'll be/do just fine." As an adult, I get, "This, too, shall pass," and "It could be much worse." Now, being middle-aged, I have learned a lot about people and how to deal with them. Many of them I do not talk to at all anymore, as they were never there for me in the first place. For others, I make sure to keep them at a distance; and, when they try to hit me with questions, I give them short, basic answers. These have not solved some of the overriding problems, but they have helped at least a little. And, I am, now, VERY careful with who I choose to invest my time and emotions in.

I appreciate the amount of thought and effort that go into writing and animating these videos - reasons why I have decided to join as a member. My mother suffers from major depression, and my experience with helping her live through it has informed me of the importance of healthy coping mechanisms and mental health. Please work at a pace that is sustainable and healthy for everyone involved behind the scenes, and I hope you know that you are all doing meaningful work for the world.

“Beautiful things happen when you distance yourself from negativity and drama.” 💯

A tool to help overcome this need to catastrophize would be, 3:47 to allow yourself to think of the five top worst outcomes. 3:51 And then, ask yourself, 3:52 how likely they are to actually happen. 3:55 If you feel like a bad outcome is truly likely, 3:58 then plan for that one outcome, 4:00 create a plan that is flexible 4:02 and doable in case it needs to change.

currently my whole happiness is based on "could be worse" but okay

Can we talk about the absolute adorable little character it’s so ADORABLE and just really helps me understand myself

This is the best channel ever, they help me emotionally and make me realize that my mental health is important! ❤️

“Which of these coping mechanisms did you relate to the most?” Me: all of them.

Thank you Psych2Go. You have no idea how much your videos have helped me in my arduous process towards healing. I can relate to four of the unhealthy mechanisms you’ve mentioned. And they had taken a toll on me just this year so that’s why i’m slowly recovering from it. I always save your vids on my playlist here because they give me immense hope that someday we’re gonna be healed from the silent battles we’re facing. Please continue creating vids! 💛

I'm surprised alcohol isn't here. That's definitely how I cope

I found myself having a bad depressive and anxiety attack and for the first time I told myself to find a safe place a have a good cry and it made me feel SO MUCH BETTER!!! There is NOTHING wrong with crying it helps relieve some stress and emotions that may have been bottled up for to long!!! Stay strong everyone!!!❤️❤️❤️

definitely isolating and repressing emotions --> under-reacting over here. when you've learned from early on that nobody cares for you & you can't rely on anyone else, this is how you deal with things and it's SO HARD to unlearn this!

So glad to see good vibes up there because I always had an issue with it. I always assumed it was more of a live in the moment type of deal but so many people have turned it into a "be positive or stay away" thing and it's unnerving especially with what's going on in the world now.

I definitely tend to isolate. I've been getting better at not repressing my feelings but I so rarely see others that it feels like I'm constantly feeling and talking about emotions around people compared with before which leads me to think I'm feeling too much

Toxic positivity is also known as non-consensual lemonade-making when inflicted upon others, as in, ‘When life gives you lemons, make lemonade,’ i.e.: making lemonade with someone else’s lemons, without their consent.

I always tend to supress my feelings and adopt unhealthy habits to forget about my problems and how I'm feeling. This video made me realized that, thank you 🤗

This is the second d most gentle calling out I've had in my life. Thank you.

Me: Does 2, 3, and 4 Parents: Hey you shouldn’t do that! That’s unhealthy, you should do 5 Me: *say sike right now*

The singing along seems to be a instant mood changer. Lyrics however help me to cope with certain let’s say set backs. playlist for love gone wrong Another list for happy days And then there’s the decades to consider. Identifying what I’m feeling is just as important as to why I am feeling this way. Repeating the same hurts or not getting past them is a ruff place to be. Singing along is like cognitive therapy (talktherpu)

Your art/graphics/emojis in your program are so awesome! The voice being calm and sincere are a plus to the video ...always look forward to seeing your next video.👍♥️

*I found the thumbnail much funnier then I should've now I feel guilty-*

I cope with just staying quiet and don't look at my emotions. In the past and even now my family has never been the type to really talk to, instead they inflict many of my wounds in the past and now, and when I have told my mother once she played the innocent card and said well I was only there your dad was gone and stuff like that, each and every time, she always brought it up. I know my dad cheated and left with that women, I know he has his own family there with her and just left my siblings and I. We were always just beat into silence when we were younger so I don't know how to express emotions that good and when I did express emotions at some point in life it was betrayed and it hurt. So now I have a barrier put up where I ignore my emotions I don't need anyone or anything to help. I'll be fine cause I always will be at least that's what I tell myself everyday. It doesn't matter, no need for pointless tears no need for anything. I haven't cried in over a year now and I always have on the smile because I'm fine:) so to cope with my feelings I just scarf it down and distract myself to feel something else instead of trying to let my true feelings out... It's terrible

These videos, everything, even if they apply to me or not.. they've helped me in ways I never would have thought. In fact, they've helped shake all the bad stuff lose and I had a serious break down recently, due to how the videos have helped me to start understanding combined with my own experiences. You don't really realize how you've been, until you've actually been able to put yourself in other's shoes and see how you've acted and made them feel.. I just hope there's still hope, that I can bring back the person I pushed away with my unintentional and regrettable actions..

I can not express how much your videos are helping me in this extremely trying time. I have and am still going through this, but your videos are a spark of light in my deep, dark mental dungeon. So, thanks. Thanks for being there.

My coping mechanism for loneliness : fictional character Edit: well since this is anonymous to be specific in my case I mean chat noir 😏

The animations are always so lovely, the voice is so calm and reassuring, the content is helpful... 😥 I really love this channel! And to the people who'll find my comment, remember you are loved, amazing, and please take care of yourself cuz you are your best ally 💗

my coping mechanisms: • hiding under the nearest table (usually only done at school, used to do it all the time and sometimes even took naps under the table using my coat or bag as a pillow lol) • video games • hugging plushies (i have a lot of plushies and always carry 3 of them in my bag, those being a mimikyu plushie, an old hello kitty plushie wearing a little bead necklace i made with the name of my favourite character in friday night funkin and a small pink teddy bear that used to have a big green paint stain on it's leg) • memes • drawing • writing gore (only occasionally lol) • just straight up taking a nap wherever the heck i am (usually at my desk during class)

Thank you for such a wonderful and inspirational video! It never occurred to me that my coping methods were unhealthy until I found myself strongly relating to every methods mentioned in the video - I always thought they were normal and worked great. Good thing I do have other healthier ones that I often use, like reading fanfictions, listening to my comfort playlist,... Lately I've been writing down my thoughts and worries, too, as I find it hard to open up to people about my issues. It'd be hard to give up those 5 mechanisms, though. But I'll try

I really felt the forced positivity one; except it’s not others telling me to keep positive and don’t think about it, it’s myself. And the repressing emotions one I can also relate to, except instead of the repressed emotions building up and leading to overreacting or undereacting, I’ve just pushed them down for so long it seems that I cannot bring them back up.

Congrats on 5M subs 🎉

Absolutely love this program !

This was very helpful and gave me some much needed areas of self reflection. Thank you for sharing this. 💙