Had a girl reject me after 1 date saying she "Didn't feel a connection" 2 years later she got pregnant by some random guy, lost her job, had to sell her house and move back to the Midwest. I'm glad I dodged that bullet.
Same here. I don’t believe building chemistry and a strong connection happens within the first date, modern women have the most unrealistic expectations ever. Back in the day, people actually took the time to get to know someone even when they didn’t feel chemistry or a strong connection immediately because they knew that as long as they liked each other and were attracted to one another, then taking the time leads to chemistry and a strong connection. Modern women need a reality check.
Social Media is the worst thing to happen to dating ever! There's always a bigger, better, hotter, nicer, richer guy online if you arent doing everything she thinks she deserves!
That's true man. Hence why all men need to get their girl to remove their dating app profiles and delete their Instagram account. They have more options than they've ever had before.
Meet/date women irl. Ideally ones who’ve never used dating apps/sites. My fiancé says I’m the most appreciative, rational & realistic woman he’s dated and he insist that not using dating apps nor social media isnt a coincidence
The instant spark/chemistry is a great one. I have a female friend that confided in me that most of her friend's put too stock into instant spark/chemistry...and alas are perpetually single or end up with the next Chad/Tyrone that gives them thier spark hit
That’s why most first dates end in ghosting afterwards. Because she didn’t feel the spark so she will just ghost after the date. That’s why I quit dating. Despite having many things in common, good conversations no spark means no second date. This will explain why they go on 50-60 dates and still single.
Women are more likely to impose unrealistic standards on men and are less willing to settle or make compromises. They are way more picky with vetting men. Men will gladly go for a girl who they deem "below their league" because men generally have more limited options. A lot of relationships do develop based off of initial spark, but usually it's insufficient to bond the relationship long-term as a sole factor. If there isn't further substance, once the honeymoon phase wanes, that's when the couple find themselves on the brinks of a breakup. Women tend to more indirect communicators which is why many expect their S/O to know what they want without overtly telling them. There's often a disconnect when men unknowingly perform a transgression and their partner becomes upset even though she didn't warn him not to do it beforehand.
No, you dont have to accept people as they are or ever. You don't have to have someone in your life if you don't want them to be in it. If you can't physically move away then you can politely not engage.
1) Expecting perfection in a significant other 2) Expecting instant chemistry or connection with someone 3) Expecting someone to fill all emotional needs 4) Expecting someone to change for you 5) Expecting someone to be a mindreader or a lack of effective communication Here's one that I will add to the list: 6) Expecting the other person to handle all responsibilities (Paying for everything is a classic example)
The man should be the leader in the relationship, and should have the responsibilities. But that doesn't mean he does everything, he is just the one who is responsible for the thing they are, not always getting them done. (Financial and housecleaning are good examples. Men should do work to fix their home for their wives though)
I don't think this list really applies to men. Most men don't expect perfection. If anythying, too many men give out attention to mediocre women. Regarding chemistry, it's usually women who are guilty of this. Consequently, I dont' believe men should date women who have previously friend-zoned them. They did it for a reason. When women start dating men that they don't have "instant chemistry" with, it's a sign that her value is declining and men aren't lining up. Men accept women as they are. It's usually women who look for the man who is most attractive and then try to "change" him. I've seen this failed experiment play out several times. And regarding the last point, women are terrible communicators, despite their claims to the contrary.
I wonder if these are unrealistic standards that women have for men or both. If this is mainly for women, I would love to see an unrealistic expectations video that men have.
You know how many potential great relationships people miss out on, especially women, because the "spark" wasn't there? Most of the time the so-called "spark" is just another way to say "he/she got me horny" and that's all. The best relationships I've been in were from women who I initially had no immediate chemistry with but the more I learned about them the more compatible I found myself with them.
Tbh the only spark to consider is the spark of initial interest (which really comes down to physical attraction mostly) cuz that spark is hella common, even if it's a little. That initial spark can grow into genuine interest the more we get to know someone (Corey Wayne talked about this). Other than that, most interactions you really do have to put in the work of getting to know someone and see where it goes.
I can think of a girl like this recently who tbh, has completely changed my life for the better. We had so so much in common, our views and values aligned along with a love of nature and being into spirituality, but after our third date she gave me a friendzone text which more or less took me by surprise (though she had been more distant in the week leading up to this.) Nevertheless I have never done friendship with women and will never do it again, but I gave her the benefit of the doubt as she insinuated it may bring us closer together. Either way, since then (3 months ago) we met several times, she initially flirted with me and invited me for dinner at her parents, etc. It was a complete mind fuck. We had such good conversations and so much fun together but still, she said “we have a connection, but I don’t feel it’s a romantic one.” She also said she was attracted to me at one point....regardless, I wasted 3 months on this chick who I really thought was something special, when in reality, my value was way higher than hers. I have a lot to offer and without getting into detail, as much as I liked her, I don’t think she did. I didn’t qualify her enough, but despite a condition she had, I was completely accepting of her as a person. 2 weeks ago, I had to be up front with her and say I don’t think we should hang out any more. Initially she was shocked and seemed really concerned, but I told her I’m fundamentally just not looking for friendship. Period. So, we exchanged a few long messages and I deleted her number. It was her loss and all my friends know it. But, she didn’t know what the hell she wanted but was happy for me to slap her ass, put my hand on her leg when we were having a meal out, and we’d even hold hands. I said this doesn’t feel like a normal friendship and she just said “I trust you.” I reckon she just enjoyed the attention and the ego boost. So I kicked her out my life. And since then, I’ve focused on myself 100%, making more money and getting my life in check, and I feel completely liberated.
My ex wife was constantly telling me “you should just know” when it came to me not fulfilling expectations she hadn’t voiced or expecting me to think and act like her. I told her explicitly when we first got together “I suck at reading between the lines, interpreting hints, or recognizing subtle cues. If you want me to know something, you have to tell me.” She completely ignored that. I apparently sucked at seeing red flags.
I went through that same problem. Then she wanted to be a stay at home mom with our two kids but expected me to work like crazy and clean the house all by myself. Her parents were terrible too. A few years later there second child went through a divorce. Toxic family.
Women just expect us to constantly read their half-assed subtle cues and signals (which is not impossible by any means) but they would rather we figure it out and act on it then just be open and honest and tell us directly what the issue is. I appreciate honest and direct people who don’t take shit and will tell me it straight.
Well even Courtney admitted she has trouble with this. And that's because this is never going to change. Expecting an emotional and illogical being to communicate in an direct and logical way is in itself completely illogical. And a rational logical being would come to the conclusion that learning how to communicate in an emotional manner is the only way to communicate effectively. Women DO expect us to read their minds. Which we can't. But we can learn to understand their emotions. Which is more than enough to work with. Women CANNOT communicate like a man any more than a cat can bark. But men CAN learn the language of Womanneeze. You will get pussy every night when you do.
If your girlfriends mother tells you that your girlfriend is evil, pay close attention to that no matter how well your girlfriend has been treating you, I found out about this the HARD way.
correction - if your GF's mother tries to interfere in a relationship in any way - such as telling the above - its an instant red flag. If your GF doesnt intervene against her mother, its an even worse red flag. And a cause for immediate end of said relationship. Mommy isnt a part of relationship, and her "tellling" and interference is always, by default, deterimental.
Around a thousand years ago Imam Muhammad Al Ghazali told story of a man walking in the jungle. A roaring lion ran towards him and the man ran as fast as he could to escape from it. He noticed a well in front of him and he jumped inside hoping to escape from the lion. As he was falling inside the well, he grabbed onto the rope and saved himself. The man was so relieved but when he looked down he saw a big snake at the bottom of the well. It had its jaws wide open ready to swallow him up. The man then looked up and saw two mice nibbling at the rope. A black mouse and a white were both chewing into the rope. The scary lion was still prowling outside the well. The man's heart was pounding as he wondered how he could escape from this. Then he noticed a honeycomb in front of him which had delicious honey dripping from it. He stuck his finger into the honey and put it inside his mouth. It was delicious and for a moment he forgot about the lion, the snake and the two mice chewing at the rope. Imam Ghazali explained that the lion is like the angel of death which is always looming above us. The snake was like his grave which all humans will face. The black mouse and white mouse were like the day and night which are always nibbling at our life (the rope). The honey was like this dunya (this temporal world) which with its momentary sweetness makes us forget the death and the eternal life.
My worst expectation was "The Type", meaning that I had an preconceived image of what a woman who was into me would be like. Turned out that "the type" did not only exist, but that I was overlooking women who were otherwise interested in me. (The inverse was also true, I've had a relationship with a woman who plainly stated on the first date that I was not her type.) In either case, the idea of the type caused me to stay single for an estimated 1-2 years.
We were also sold lies that every relationship is a hard work. I lost so much of my valuable time trying to work on the relationships that weren't meant to work. I think that there should be a balance.
I think that balance is knowing what's worth working on and what isn't. Relationships are hard work. But that doesn't mean that hard work alone will get the job done. You have to be with the right person to begin with. And there are certain red flags that should tell you that you are not. This isn't about expecting perfection in the other person. It's about expecting them to have qualities that will make a relationship with them possible. And there are going to be a lot of people who don't meet that basic standard. There is a song by Kenny Rogers, the Gambler, that teaches us an important life lesson. It starts off, "Know when to hold them. Know when to fold them. Know when to walk away. Know when to run."
It's also important to understand the differences between having a connection versus having an attachment. There are an awful lot of people who fail to connect with others because of their attachment to an ideal.
This sounds like an amazing topic to be discussed if a video is made on it, I think a lot of people will greatly appreciate it and will make them see things from a different perspective.
I chatted online on a dating app with this woman for about a month. She wanted to do a video chat for our "first date" . I think we chatted for about an hour or so. She wasn't extremely beautiful, but I thought we could potentially get along. She was looking for a "dog person" and I love dogs. She was 39, I'm 42 at the time. So after our video chat, she texts me and says we "didn't click". I wasn't super disappointed, but I realized her expectations were clearly unrealistic. I still see her profile on the dating apps. She is now 40 and still single. She never even gave me a chance. I'm not a bad looking guy either. I found it really strange.
The last first date I had was one of the best ones. It lasted 90 minutes, the time flew by, we had a lot in common and the exchange was equal. I felt as good about her as I could after a first date. The next morning she texted that "she didn't feel any sparks." I give up.
you were too nice. too much a gentleman. Didn't escalate probably. Not trying to drag you, but i've made the same mistake and I want you to learn from my failure
Instant Chemisty, god so true I remember going on tons of dates like 10-15 years back and I often got that "oh i just didnt feel the chemistry" but on my side of things I was on a first date with someone I'd just met, I was a bit shy, often very attracted to them, just a normal guy and I think they were pretty much the same also, so it became quite frustrating when you'd get this chemistry stuff all the time, however I also wasn't flirty enough, would often treat them like a friend and avoid too much pressure but obviously compliamentary but it turns out I should have been putting on a bit of sexual pressure, not being afraid to hold their hand or give them a kiss or tell them straight out how beautiful their smile was,
Weren’t women supposed to be the ones who fall in love slower than men, so they take the time to get to know someone better. Yet, their actions go against it all because they have most likely got endless notifications popping up on their phones and they lack discipline due to social media and dating apps. They forever want to see what the next guy is about and that is what will lead them to be alone with kittens after they hit the wall and no longer the attention and validation they received in their youth.
People really do let potential perfection prevent them from matching with someone who is more than adequate. Like shopping for any product, you can spend an eternity looking for the best possible deal, but we don't have an eternity. Moreover, the illusion of infinite choices (as often happens with dating apps) keeps us searching forever.
I am willing to date a 5 or a 4. Absolutely no problem. But one basic thing all the woman should have is to be FAITHFUL! This is something I will not compromise.
I'm 6 feet, make about 60k with a nice car, I'm easy to get along with and decent looking. It's still impossible to get dates especially since everything is over the internet now. When I was in my late teens/early 20's it was sooo easy to get women and now people barely text back. And many women are emotionally immature. I'm fine being single until I find the right woman
Dude. You need your first million by age 30 to get a good girl. A 5 average girl requires 6 figs and a house by 30. If you don't have that you are low value
@@iamme25yago if you're the kind of person who sees everything through a "mine" and "yours" lens, you might as well just accept a life of solitude. You can't have a relationship with someone's who incapable of sharing some portion of what's "theirs".
I had a nightmare last night that I got married and as I was signing the paper work it dawned on me that I had no clue who I married ahahahaha! What a weird dream ahahaha!
A lot of women are delusional, no offence but if you’re a fat woman and you want a multi millionaire that’s 6’5 with a muscular body and a great lifestyle, you absolutely have no chance… that man has tons of options, he’ll get with the woman that’s in shape with a great body and that is beautiful.
You heard a word you clearly don’t understand. A narcissist is a psychological disorder that is diagnosed by a mental health professional. A form of extreme self absorption. A person could have unrealistic expectations based on in experience which is not a mental health problem. You unfortunately are ignorant.
I once believed a partner should meet all of my emotional needs. I was very codependent and very much a simp. I got humbled. I then realized true character does not compose of unrealistic expectations but of self-control, patience, and authentic kindness. Communication is key as well. My worth does not depend on a partner or their response to me. Thank you for your wisdom Courtney!
Good points Courtney. I would add one more unrealistic expectation that I and many other men have heard from past girlfriends is the statement "I'm not happy". This has perplexed so many men when they first hear this that it usually blindsides them and this usually signals the end of the relationship. If people are truly happy together it isn't the responsibility of either partner to keep the other happy all the time. Real life isn't a continuously happy flow of events day in and day out. I borrowed this statement from a former manager who when dealing with staff who complained excessively that goes like this "I don't want you to be here if you are not happy". 😂Works like a charm.🔱
I’m a woman but I have to agree with you Courtney that nobody changes for someone else. They makes changes for themselves. So many people get into relationships trying to change others and it never works. If you cannot accept that person as they currently are then it is probably better to walk away. I have been told countless times a man will change for me. That couldn’t be further from the truth. People change when they want to and for themselves. It has nothing to do with someone else.
We need to get these printed on very large signs and hung at every possible meeting spot for a man and woman, as a sound reminder for all to see. Watering holes, clubs, churches, all public gathering spots, online, coffee shops, etc... and yes... at Target.
There is also a huge difference between a spark (which I do think is necessary but it far closer to what Court calls a slow burn) and an explosion 💥. A fire, not a nuclear meltdown.
I think we've also been sold a lie that modern dating happens through apps and websites and so people sign up thinking that's what we have to do these days, but if you do sign up women are just looking for perfection and will reject you despite the fact that if they were perfect they wouldn't be there themselves.
I've spent months on those apps and met 1 person. Started pursuing my interests more, signed up for classes (not college), and literally met someone the first day. It's a pleasant reminder that you're not stuck with only dog shit apps.
The physical attraction is important obviously at the start , but you have to realise people are complex and it takes effort to make it work over time , but i do think it has changed , i think a lot of people especially men would rather do their own thing than deal with unrealistic expectations it's easier .
@@michaeldooley5398 (140 lbs to 250 lbs) for those of us on the far side of the pond! LOL And i agree, no dude wants a woman who balloons up to a blimp size!
About the first item; perfection. As stated, no human is perfect. Since we are all imperfect, what the hell would a perfect person want with us? Our imperfection would drive them nuts! They would want nothing to do with us. I have met guys when I was in my 20s, looking for the perfect woman. And guess what? 30 years later they are ALL still single and miserable. I have been married to a truly beautiful woman and person for over 30 years. Neither of us are perfect but we work on the relationship which you have to do to keep it alive and healthy.
When a woman says she doesn’t “feel a connection” or a “spark” with a guy, she just means he isn’t attractive to her. We need to be more blunt and stop using vague bs phrases to avoid being upfront about what we think.
Courtney, You Are So Amazing & Real! I Love Your Content, Yes, You Preach The Truth, Keep It Coming! I Agree Entirely & I Have Made Similar Content On My Channel, So Proud & Happy To Share This Space With You, God Bless You Girl!
I'm 39, almost 40. Single, never married, no children. I'm willing to make vows before God and witnesses, but I'll never get married under the state and risk my future. I had to do two things in order to become high value, get physically fit and train self defense. Once I got my self esteem and confidence, everything changed. I also had to stop chasing women and accept a life of singleness, with the hope of still finding a young woman who wants children and not live the wild life. I had to set personal goals and quit wasting time on video games, start focusing more on my real life character. Also, I had to increase my level of giving, no matter what spiritual beliefs, one way or another, you reap what you sow, you get back what you give to the world. Like the great teacher said, "Do unto others as you would have them do to you." Matthew 7:12.
Lol at the "spark stuff". My last girlfriend was a huge mistake. Day after first date she said we were in a relationship...and started texting me quizes about finances and moving in together and having a family. My walls went up so f'ing fast. I dated her longer than i should...thinking she might slow down. She didn't. I tried to explain we need time to get to know each other. She didnt get that. She said i was afraid of commitment and i needed help. I said I have no issues with commitment...but I have an issue with someone who wants to immediately jump into a relationship. I said we needed to get to know each other. We broke up and Im totally grateful for that.
Just a couple of my thoughts , Courtney . !) Women tend to forget there's T and A in Team, only interested in the ME !!! 2) i get the spark at first date and happy ever after fairy tale , but surely you would expect to have some sort connection to see if the person is worth a 2nd date or there maybe some potential for future ..... ???
Most of times we are content with a loyal woman, even below average look and teamplayer. In the meantime in the west they ask 30 to more than one hundred conditions without bothering to bring anything to the table but their "beauty" 😂
Been in the Cleveland and the dating market today is just plain sad. A relationship does take time and effort. Been on & off trying dating apps for 2 years and all the same people from when I first tried them to now seem to be the same with most constantly deleting and redownloading to get the front of the queue and see new potential matches. Most dates that come from them are only willing to give time for 1 date and make the judgement based on 1-2 hours of time, but with apps being there the thought is why don’t I also try to meet someone else while I decide on that date I just went on and in most cases no other date I planned or it’s time to ghost to try and see if someone/something better is out there. There are many different factors outside of apps playing into this too, but it’s hard times for singles today because people are growing further and further away from wanting to give time or be willing to compromise on things to make a relationship work.
I had the same experience. I still see the same profiles on dating apps. I can remember faces pretty good. I see many of the same women from 3-4 years ago.
Men need to work on themselves, be patient, and keep looking for young fertile women who will be a good wife and mother. Stay single until you find someone who is a positive influence on your life. Single women over 28 are responsible for their own problems. Men don't want morally ambiguous problems.
Here are expectations that are keeping me single. I am single because the stress of a relationship can trigger disease. Many of my friends who are in relationships have developed physical or mental illnesses soon thereafter. Some of them have even passed away. Others exhaust themselves to please their partners. When a couple gets married, they become one flesh. Sooner or later, one of them will die before the other, leaving the survivor with a 50% loss. Sometimes they cannot recover and they die soon after.
There are some uninformed opinions here involving people misunderstanding the word narcissist which is a condition diagnosed by a mental health professional. Some have said incorrectly that only people with mental health issues have unrealistic expectations in dating. This is so wrong. Unrealistic expectations has zero to do narcissism and more to do with inexperience. In short, if you don’t date a lot you probably don’t know what you are doing when you go out on a date. That’s why there are advisors like Courtney Ryan. If you don’t know what you are doing on a date it does not mean you are mentally ill.
I am single because I don't really conform very well to other people's ideas about who and what i should be, and relationship requires some conformity.
No, you missed the point of the change part of the video entirely. Relationship/ require a small bit of compromise, not conformity. Describing yourself as not conforming means you don’t know how communicate yourself to others in an understandable way, which is an issue you can fix.
You totally have unrealistic expectations! The only standards modern men are allowed to have for women these days: 1.a hole 2. a heartbeat. Everything else is sandcastles in the sky!
My standards are basic needs for a healthy relationship. Intimacy(mental/emotional and physical) and loyalty. It's sad that you even have to *look* for that. I'm not saying I want a model but I don't think "not obese" is unreasonable or unrealistic.
Building a set of realistic expectations is a smart thing to do in an uncertain, imperfect world, Courtney...it takes courage and vision to imagine something meaningful.
I’ve been guilty of the points that were brought up. However, once I was made aware of my craziness, accepted my faults and worked on improving my thoughts and behaviors, things started getting better. It didn’t happen over night - it took a couple years for my changes to become foundational - but I’m glad I took the time to work on myself and make the necessary changes.
I have very realistic and low standards and a lot of women still cant meet them. I have 4 total dealbreakers. 1. Gotta be single (i dont do polyamory b.s.) 2. Gotta be STD free. 3. Gotta be willing to have children after marriage and yes that will be in the pre-nuptual agreement. 4. She cant weigh more than i do. (225) pretty much everything else is negotiable (household chores, obligations, duties).
This video is awesome!!!! Recently, I dated a woman for almost two months. She expressed a lot of interest in me, e.g. texting me when I hadn't that day and wanting to get together. As we neared the two month mark, I wanted to spend more time with her. With the Memorial Day extended weekend approaching, I asked her to spend more time with me, instead of just one of the weekend days. She told me she had to spend the weekend with her family. I was frustrated since she could've spent some time with me- the family activities she was doing didn't require her to be with them all weekend. We went on one more date before she texted me the next day that she didn't think our relationship was going to work out cause we didn't have chemistry. Huh?!?! Talk about confusing and having unrealistic expectations for a relationship.
@@stefanmatton8778 I'm not following you. I don't need validation. I was pointing out that people have unrealistic expectations for a relationship, including finding the perfect match. I was offering an example from my life.
"People" having unrealistic expectations....ugh. This is primarily a women issue, particularly today. This needs to be recognized directly. What are the unrealistic expectations men (IN MASS) have? If anyone can list more than 3, how often do you see men (IN MASS) demanding these expectations, online or otherwise?
She needs to be less than 5'4", have DDs, weigh less than 110 lbs, have a 24" waist... and put out more than 3 times a week!! Don't settle, KAAAANGZ!! 😂
Guys don't ask for much, but women expect a lot from a man. Once they've realized that man doesn't exist, they end up hitting the wall and trying to have a relationship when it's already late and they're in their 30s.
That one commentor, for me I don't like short women. I like lean tall and sexy with a built figure. But I will take any nice attractive women if she is good personality.
Women see a lot of good looking guys on instagram and so it gives them the idea that there are thousands of these men out there. They might find a couple on the dating apps, but typically they get used for sex until a better girl comes along.
1. She has to be fit (large b00bs and a$$ with a thin waist, which most girls can’t achieve without lipo and implants) 2. She has to be pretty without makeup (to the level of “natural makeup” which is a full face of makeup, just with neutral colors) 3. She has to be sexy but not a slut (??) I spend a lot of time in the manosphere communities to learn about men’s struggles and how they view women, and I’ve seen men shaming men who marry chubby girls, saying girls who conceal their ugly parts with makeup as catfishing, and slut-shaming girls in poly relationships etc. On the other hand, I agree that women demand more from men than men from women, because women are equally as picky about looks AND want men to earn more than they do. At least, that’s what girls who subscribe to the influencers that tell them not to settle for a guy that doesn’t buy them Louis Vuitton are like.
Went on a date with a family friend who passed on me because she was “looking for perfection.” Fifteen years later she still couldn’t find it, gave up looking, and had a daughter via a sperm bank donor.
It's interesting to note how many people who have had serious, long-term relationships still expect a spark on the first date. Unless the other person is a jerk, it seems it might be worth going on two or three dates before making a determination. And, for anyone that's familiar with my comments on Courtney's channel, yes, I got ghosted a little more than a week ago. Even me, can ya' believe it?! 😁I was actually surprised by the person that did it - she just didn't seem the type. I can't hold a grudge, though - it's not easy for people to hurt someone else's feelings, so the easy way out is to just be silent. For the record, my feelings weren't hurt. I was a bit baffled though.
Being a mind reader gets old, becomes a burden When you got your own issues to handle it also shows maturity and growth within the relationship of what is yours and what is theirs and how you support and help each other always expecting someone else to read your mind or emotions speaks volumes especially depending on what is going on within that day, you may not even be on the same page much less trying to read someone else’s mind on something I think it shows a lack of emotional maturity on that individuals part to always expect the other to just know exactly what you’re thinking
Is it unrealistic to expect someone to not have mental problems, not have kids, not have a bunch of tattoos, piercings, and weird colored hair? Probably.
Definitely guilty of #1 and #2. I think my main problem is not being in an environment where's there's lots of opportunity to discover attraction and chemistry. Finding people in person with more common interests would help I think. Online dating just doesn't work for me. A good list 👌
A lot of ppl would benefit by meeting ppl in person than online. With online dating, you're constricted to your pics which you gotta be very good looking or very good at taking high quality pics. In person is a lot easier to do in comparison to online dating, just gotta get past the few jitters here and there and you should be good.
My unrealistic expections - a moral girl with respect that ain't catting around like a feral stray out in the streets, that is loyal, supportive that wants a future together. I am unicorn hunting apparently.
My problem is I always develop month long deep infatuations with unattainable sometimes now deceased female singers in music videos from like thirty years ago. I then make up scenarios of how they will fall in love with me and end up singing their songs to me as they confess their love to me. How hopeless am I?
dude if this is the case, read some dating books (you're already watching this video) and try meeting girls irl. This sounds like the guys ik who are deeply infatuated with anime girls. You wanna create some real world experience that can keep you outside of these unhealthy fantasies you got going on rn. I read your comment and I get a very lonely vibe from you. No hate here tho, we've all been lonely at one point before, but you're not doing anything about that which is why you're having these fantasies. All in all, put some work in, go outside and live your best life.
je suis une femme et je m'identifie au point 2. Je me disais que si je ne ressens pas les papillons à la 2e rencontre, je n'en aurai jamais. Alors c'est mieux de ne pas continuer! J'ai probablement laissé passer de belles occasions.
le coup de foudre existe, mais comme son nom l'indique, la foudre ne tient pas sur la durée. Une relation se construit. La période la plus difficile avec ma compagne était la première année. C'est l'année ou nous avons appris , tous les deux, à faire des concesions. Notre rapport a duré 36 ans.
COURTNEY RYAN , IT IS COMMON SENSE SIMPLE , IF YOU ARE LOOKING FOR UNCONDITIONAL LOVE , BUY YOURSELF AN ANIMAL , IN A SITUATIONSHIP, OR RELATIONSHIP , YOU BUY YOURSELF EXPECTATIONS, WHEN YOU LEARN THAT TRUE HAPPINESS IS AN INSIDE JOB , YOU HAVE JUST BOUGHT YOURSELF PEACE AND SERENITY , GOOD LUCK WITH YOUR LIFE JOURNEY .
Here are my expectations: 1. A woman who is attractive enough to arouse me. 2. A woman with a job. 3. A woman with goals. 4. A woman who loves to have fun. 5. A woman who wants to contribute to a family. 6. She has to be healthy. 7. She needs to be honest. 8. She needs to be loving with me and our children.
@@gregkareem9824 Not even a little bit. I never said it did. My point was just that I’d hope if a person seeks those things in a good partner they’d already bring those things to the table for themselves. As a woman I’d never ask for a man to be healthy and have goals if I wasn’t healthy and had goals.
We, as men, don't have that problem... we just marry the girl in front of us when we are ready to. (The problem now is to get us ready to commit such suicidal step!)
Dating has become a landmine and it saddens me. Lots of people experience the wrong type of love and go in living a miserable life even attempting to meet someone.
"Perfection doesn't exist" 👌👋 Yeap, I see... 😆😅🤣😂😜🤪😉😋🤷 *"Communication mistake is almost always on the side of the person sending the message" And never forget :) Last but not least .. Da bambino io sognai Divi, eroi e marinai Nella mente avevo già La mia idea di libertà La bambina che era in me Ora è donna, insieme a te Stretta tra le braccia tue La mia idea di libertà Sharazan, Sharazan È la voglia di volare Di sognare insieme a te Il modo giusto per amare💃🕺
I'm not sure I've ever been guilty of these false assumptions . . . although I've had plenty of others. if anything, I've actually been a little too willing to try out someone who didn't feel right somehow, only to discover that my instincts were correct to begin with. What has been a problem, as one of your autistic viewers, is grave uncertainty about whether a woman was interested or not, or worse, guessing wrong. I've also found that, due to a long-time lack of self-knowledge, it's been hard to know what sort of woman I should even be interested in, and I've admired the wrong type far too often.
Ladies we can’t read you’re mind and You can’t read mind so word of vice you guys get into arguments cause what your man says something let him finish first before you engage what you have to say because there wasn’t understands of full idea
Not sure how I came across these videos or this channel, but glad I did. Ms. Ryan provides some interesting input. Certainly has brought some clarity, regrettably, to TOO many personal experiences. Though I probably was in some way "aware" of many of the points presented in this and other videos, I either wasn't able, capable, or maybe willing to accept or acknowledge them at the time. Often wonder (wish) my younger self would have been more wise of these things.
I found out about her video as I was curious about relationships in general and why people treated dating and marriage as taboo things in America. I've had encounters like girls lusting or wanting my attention and always felt confused whether someone was attracted to me or not. I was always focused on just doing what was expected to me for my education, so to come back to this kinda saddens me a bit. I've definitely experienced women preferring a better man than me and being ignored.
Great video! The most common I have encountered is expecting an instant connection. Every guy has heard multiple times in his life from a woman that he is so nice, funny, handsome, caring, and such a good listener but there was no connection after their first interactions. That connection can take time but most people believe that if a relationship ever feels like work it is not the right person.
