Upon all this 50/50 sharing, some of them still don't understand because they want to take advantage of you by concentrating more on the family back home. They expect you to use your money to take care of things here, while they will use their's to take care of their family members home. Especially the new ones because they think you being here for long, you have made it or have saved a lots. So sometimes you have to let the relationships go because it becomes frustrating. And mental health is important!
I honestly don't even know where people get the idea of 5050....its never a thing and it can never be applied.... so if the bills are 2000... 50 50 is you pay 1000 and I pay 1000...50 50...if there are 4 plates to wash you wash 2 and I wash 2...How sd do you take care of the kids 50 50? To me everyone should take on the responsibility that they are strong in... A man is strong in paying rent and bills.. A woman is strong maintaining the home and nurturing.. then every now and then or whenever the other needs help you support or out of you way you offer to do the other person's responsibility to give them a rest... There's no such thing as 50 50..... in my opinion it 70 30 or 80 20 depending on whose side you look at it from... if a woman does most of the home keeping and the man helps it becomes 80 20 or 70 30... supporting each other is the best..
Bro, upon all the 50/50 thing, some of them still don't understand it oo. They even want to share their outside bills with you because that makes them feel better that the 50/50 os is working oo. If not, they get mad 😮
Before you bring a woman or man abroad you should explain things well to the person. I know some of them will still not understand but it is better to do so than to experience such problems.
Actually it starts when most women become ungrateful and selfish and start to show some arrogance. When they think your money is theirs but their money is for themselves and their family. Hidden projects and arguments. They always start the family war!
It’s not bad but the men expect 50/50 when it comes to finances not household chores or childcare. The woman should do all these then pay 50% of the bills again. Then what is the use of the man? It’s inhumane.
Our men should understand that once you opt for the 50/50 , everything else is supposed to be as such. Because it means we're all going out there to hussel for the 50%. The house chores and child care are more than a full-time job. No offense, but some of our men should be a little considerate and appreciate what the women do to support them in all aspect.
But it's not written anywhere that house chores and child care is solely the responsibility of a woman, especially in the Western world men do this in their household everyday, l just don't know why only African women and especially Ghanaians have problem when it comes to paying their fair share of household Bill's, l have a lot of Spanish and white women friends and paying bills is never an issue, even if they have to pay more than the man, they're ok, African women oh no.
Billy, I get your point, but don't get me wrong. In Africa, Ghana, to be precise, those women who want to depend solely on a man are easily identified. I can confidently say that the majority of Ghanian women in Ghana support our men from rent to housekeeping money and even paying children's fees, so it's not new to most of us but back home, we get help with things like child care and other things. It's easy to contract the service of someone to help you get things done so we don't see anything wrong with a man not helping out. Also, our men are trained in a certain way, which makes them feel that certain things are done by only women. So, the men would rather have to adapt to the systems and understand that we are no longer in Ghana and that it's just the two of us against the normal things we do back home and even more. If you want your wife to look good and live long, if you don't want her to be depressed you just have to do the little that you can without being told .
It's all about what works for the couple. People shouldn't be imposing their choices on others. The clever thing will be to discuss how it works for the individual.
@kwasifrimpong7815 There are no rules as to who should do what. Everyone should evaluate their own situation and do what is best for themselves, not what others think should be done. One person may be earning more but they may decide to use that income for investments and/or other purposes. All depends on their own agreements.
@@kikikeel7695you have sum it up nice, simple and easy, the problem is not the men, the problem is the women, for whatever reason African women and mostly Ghanaian women think household bills is solely the responsibility of the men, so they can save their money and take advantage of you the man, selfish mentality.
@@kikikeel7695yeah that is what I meant thou I didn’t elaborate. I earn more than my wife I take up more responsibilities. If she was earning more then she do the same so we can all save some good money and plan for our future.
