When it comes to a “title” for yourself when people ask what you do, just simply tell them your “growing your self employment business and freelance work” both of which are true! You are growing your own business and your also a freelance. I hate how much people compare each other with “job title”. A janitor can be happier than a CEO. Who cares what you do in life as long as your thriving and growing and loving what you do. My dreams have nothing to do with social status. I want to buy land, live primarily off the grid and grow my own food. It has absolutely nothing to do with money or possessions and more about quality of life. ❤️
I love this so so much😭❤️ honestly this is a perfect response and I’m definitely gonna be using this! You made it sound so simple!! I definitely overthink it so much.. it’s so funny how I don’t care about social status at all but societal pressures so easily make me feel like others will judge me!! Quality of life is my main goal as well! Thanks so much for this Hannah❤️
Man this speaks directly to me, legit just put in my notice last week and going through these same feelings. Dealt with heavy burnout for over a year and stayed way longer than I should have. Came time for an annual review and plans of future projects... knew it was time to go right there. The awkwardness of having to provide reasons for wanting to leave is off the charts. It's communicating a completely different lifestyle choice to people that simply can't comprehend leaving a stable & secure job. And then dealing with all the attempts to persuade you to stay... Hearing from someone that has gone through this (and is going through it) is just what I needed. Talking to like minded people honestly makes such a world of difference. Really appreciated hearing your perspective, best of luck to you!
Congratulations for taking that step!! It’s definitely a difficult one with all of the awkwardness and then not understanding your lifestyle. That’s already a huge accomplishment so you should be proud you took the leap! Glad you found this video at the right time! And wish the best of luck to you as well! Keep us posted on your journey!😊
I've held my first job for over 9yrs. But ever since I quit, I've gone through 10 jobs in the last 8 years. My pattern goes as follows: 1st 2 weeks: this job is better than my last! 3 months: I'm getting bored 6 months: I'm so burned out, coworkers are annoying, I want to quit! 6-9 months: quit
I’m much older and left my job at the end of January 22. I have felt exactly the same. Surprised me that I felt loneliness. I’m not ready for retirement, but don’t want to go back to the same work- I get very triggered thinking about my old job. Hangin there. Something good will come to you.
It’s nice knowing I’m not alone in these feelings! I hope you can find something that meets your needs and brings you that community you’re looking for💜 thanks so much for the support💜
Thank you for all of your honest videos! Although I'm working 9-5 and not planning on leaving yet, I really appreciate another woman in her early 20s expressing self-doubt and struggles. Makes me feel less alone!
With the addition of motherhood, this is exactly what I am feeling today (3 mo ths since quitting my job). Down to the previous coworker trigger. Mine reached out for a brunch and brought up some old stuff from my toxic manager and I spiraled for a week. I even worked in human resources. I wish I was brave enough to share this on my real YT account, even down to the negative comments part. Woooooooo that ZERO RESULTS observation.....FELT. I feel like I'm spinning my wheels in all areas of my life right now, personally, fitness and within my business. I was searching and praying THIS MORNING for someone to identify with to not feel so lonely in this. Thank you for posting. The boundaries part is key. I only network and connet 1 day a week with select ppl who I know can reciprocate how much energy I pour into them.
I love this so so much!!! I can’t imagine raising children with the rest of your feelings!! Congratulations on leaving your job though, that’s a HUGE and difficult step to be proud of. I can definitely relate to feeling like your wheels are spinning in all areas of life.. not sure what your channel is about but you should try sharing!! Honestly this channel has been so so cathartic for me. So glad the video found you at the right time❤️ it’s crazy how similar our feelings are!!❤️ it makes me feel less alone knowing theirs others going through the same!
on the triggers with seeing people at work / talking to them - this happens to me daily. the self talk that follows is kind of nuts but it basically is "i dont belong here", "they dont understand me", "we dont think the same", "we arent the same people", etc. and it really does happen daily - everytime i have lunch with my coworkers. i even try to go home for lunch to avoid it at least half the time. setting boundaries are so needed! you said 'i have had to go into detail' when someone asked you about your triggers / burnout and i just wanna say - you didnt have to. you dont have to. you can just say zero. also, yes discussing stressers is being vunerable and not every one of the people around you are the right people to let in / be vunerable with! i hope you are doing better these days and its incredible that you've been reflecting and understanding yourself better 🙌
Yes!!! I relate so much to that self talk.. it can be so isolating..! Thank you for the boundaries comment😭 it’s something I’m constantly working on improving so your comment was much needed❤️ Thank you so much for the support as always!!💜
@@PaigeWestCo absolutely girl! we are all works in progress and wherever we find ourselves there's always room to improve! you are such an inspiration! 💜🙌
I don’t think I’m at the burn out stage just yet, but I’m feeling pretty inadequate and sort of like an outcast when I do have to go in the office. Just had a call with my team, and my manager asked “Lauryn, anything on your plate for the team” and for the past several weeks I just say “no,” while everyone gives some kind of input. I know this is gonna cause my situation to get worse. I just haven’t cared to give input and all they assign me is busy work anyways. I don’t even feel like asking for projects or being on some cus I’m still new to the job and I’m already having several tickets thrown at me. I was an intern for them for 6 months and got hired in January. It feels like a lot and I have autism. I constantly have my coworker ask why I don’t talk or why am I so shy. Like I just want to breathe and not be judged for not conforming to these standards. Idk what to do, or how I can get out of corporate, when I just started. Also, it’s definitely not like retail. Retail, you have a way to say “hey I want to only work 32 hours instead of 40.” I assume all of us have to stick to 40, unless someone has a form that proves that they can’t do 40 hours a week. Btw I would never go back to retail either, bc my mental health was suffering there too.
I relate so much to everything you’re saying! There’s definitely a stigma in the corporate world that we need to be “outgoing” and conform to a standard.. so sorry you’re going through that right now! I also had the same feelings where I would have nothing to add to the table during meetings.. don’t let that get you though❤️ I know my last 9-5 did have an option to go down to 32 hours a week but I ultimately turned it down and fully quit since I knew I would end up in the same place I was already at. I just wasn’t passionate about the job and it wasn’t the right environment for me! I hope you can find something better for you that doesn’t cause you to feel like you have to try and be someone you’re not❤️
So true, I find that while a lot of people might genuinely care about you, they don't really understand why you make the decision that you made because it's unconventional. Like it's unconventional to quit a stable job and try to make it on your own not knowing if you can make enough to pay your bills. They will talk to you like you're making the wrong choice. But if you work a 9-5 that you absolutely hate and it's affecting your mental and/or physical health they will tell you that it's a minor issue and maybe you should go see a doctor but either stay at the job or find another job. I'm happy I can find someone that also feels this way. Btw, I did get some heat from my boss when I quit part time job a few months back despite giving a long notice and resigning properly. Were the people that you worked with (Boss, mentor, coworkers,etc) upset to see you leave or perhaps just jealous that you quit and they're still there?
Yes omg exactly!! It’s so weird to me that people will push us to stay at a job that affects our health but act weird about taking an unconventional path even if it’s better for me!! You started the comment well with the fact that they do genuinely care but they just don’t understand..! And overall I had multiple people confess that they wish they had left years ago but never could do it. My main mentor and others in my office were mainly just confused and shocked since my reasoning was overall just the fact that the stress was affecting my mental health. I left with them thinking I would probably just find another engineering job in government instead of consulting so I think overall it was a weird way in their eyes to leave considering I had no other job lined up lol
That’s so rough that you had to deal with heat from your boss about leaving.. I think it’s so ridiculous when jobs are rude about someone leaving with a proper notice! So crazy!!
I feel like a lot of people who stay at a job longer than they should do so because it’s comfortable even if they don’t like the job or they know they’re not treated fairly. Like it pays the bill and that’s why they stay. Sometimes their finance is pretty horrible like they’re living paycheck to paycheck, don’t want to get serious with life as in starting putting $ away or find better opportunities, they live life on autopilot and that’s why some of them get jealous when someone younger with less experience is leaving.
Yes I totally agree! Getting out of the paycheck to paycheck cycle is definitely an important step to being able to quit and pursue something else. I’m sure it would be hard to see someone younger doing the thing you want to do so bad!
Looking back, I probably did! Ive spent so much time working on loving myself and aligning my life with my values and Ive really felt a 180 in my life💜 thanks for the support🥰
