I’ve become so resentful about how current society EXPECTS us to have smart phone AND be readily available on them 24/7. It feels like life has become a never ending cycle of answering WhatsApp messages, group chats, social media messages, etc. Everyone constantly feels entitled to your energy & time😔
There's also this and the double standard of it not being considered a utility by a lot of welfare systems. How am I supposed to fit into this world with these standards if I cant even pretend to meet them?
It's hard but you should try to set boundaries with others. We should normalize telling people our preferred method of communication and feel free to delete the multiple communication apps you might have and keep only one.
Yes! This describes perfectly how it feels. I have friends that literally freak out if they forget their phone at home or it goes dead. I always ask them "What did you do when we didn't have cell phones?" (I'm in my 40s and so are my friends) They just look at me like they don't remember. Tech is wonderful in its place but its such a life waster when its overused.
THIS. Yes. I am so..not even just tired, I am *exhausted* of this cycle & feeling BAD anytime I don’t reply to a message or a text right away. What the heck is that about? Or feeling upset when I check in with my friends & get one word replies if that. Orrr feeling upset because my friends don’t actually check in or message outside of social media, as if a “like” on something I’ve posted or watching my story is sufficient enough. It’s wild. It’s either something to wonder about or a realisation that actually, I don’t really have friends. A daunting feeling either way. Social media has its place for some things but it’s not worth it in the bigger picture. I thought I was the only one who felt this way.
I hate it, because even some jobs require you to have a smartphone, like for clocking in, new scheduling, etc. Our society has literally made it less possible for many people to go smartphone free.
I feel like phone addiction is even heightened by that FOMO (fear of missing out) and desire to keep up with everyone else. It's like desire for connection, but a false/twisted yearning
thats me. I've deleted Instagram and it's been amazing and I really want to delete Facebook and Snapchat too but Facebook keeps me up to date with people and Snapchat allows me to chat to people through videos without ringing them which I like because I have phone anxiety
@@luciacaterina4130 i guess you have to consider and get to the root of, why is it that you want to keep up to date with others so much? as long as its because you enjoy it and not out of fear, i feel its okay to not make yourself wrong for using them
@@luciacaterina4130 i can relate. i'm planning on deleting tiktok because of how toxic it is, i waste SO much time on it so it will be hard. i'm not a huge instagram user but will still get rid of it. snapchat on the other hand is probably my main way of communicating with friends. but i feel like ill end up spending all my time on that instead..
I check my phone a lot because I’m always afraid that I’ll get an important call or message and miss it. I get anxious when I’m physically away from it and when I check it in fear of seeing missed messages. It’s crazyy
Smart phones, social media etc can cause severe dopamine addiction, which is definitely a Huge issue in todays society, and I feel the reason why so many young adults, teens and kids struggle with anxiety, focus and even depression. Much love to you harmony 😊🙏💜
I completely agree and this is veery important, its wonderful we have access to these things, but is it necessary all the time and should it be normal to feel uncomfortable if we dont have access to it for even an hour? and why are we not setting boundaries with it! x
@@harmonynicee Exactly 💯 The fact that people struggle to go without looking at their phone and constantly looking at them without even getting any notifications, is a big red flag. They can be good tools, but its the industries behind all these social media platforms etc, that are the problem, they purposely design addictive platforms to keep people on their phones for as long as possible, its very unethical and causes mental illness, but they dont care because it fills their pockets 💰
omg thank you for explaining. my heart starts beating really fast when i open my smart phone and i used to think it was cause im excited , but i struggle with social anxiety and whatever is on my phone always ends up putting me in a bad mood.
For sure, it’s been so hard for my younger daughter.’, because I would take it away; for disciplinary reasons. It’s like taking heroine away from a junky! It’s so harmful for kids. She is 13. Didn’t get one til this past Christmas.
Dude that’s something I noticed too! I used to always feel like there was never enough time in the day to meditate or read or repot my plants and then when I quit social media i was like holy shit... I have multiple hours more than I thought I did lol
THIS !! I always feel like I don't have time to read or do my hobbies or meditate or journal- but girlllll yes tf you do, you just spend it scrolling. cut it out
Since Summer of 2020, I deleted Instagram and logged out of twitter and Facebook on all my devices and it's honestly been such a crazy experience. It's like I'm existing in the real world again; putting my all into school work, starting a plant jungle in my new home, reading, art etc. But all the while, I know there is this whole online environment that I'm no longer hip to. It was an adjustment at first because I didn't feel like I could relate to people or whatever news headline blurb they were regurgitating, and I just started to realize I'm breaking the cycle of addiction and putting my time into things I truly don't care about and can live happily without. It's hard to set boundaries with yourself when it not the norm for your peers.
@@Verbsdescribeus Everyone uses social media differently. Your experience of not getting sucked in is uncommon from what I've noticed. Many people in this generation, those that grew up online, have used it as not only for escapism purposes, but also as a place where they can create alternate personalities or exist under anonymity. It IS an entirely separate world from the tangible reality on the other side of the screen, and it's scary.
@@Verbsdescribeus it is a world though. No one thinks its life but it is very easy to get immersed in it, same way you can get immersed in a book or a hobby
That’s how I describe it! I gave up all social media expect RU-vid and Pinterest and I always say it’s like living in the “real world” again. You realize everyone online are really just strangers who don’t matter and that you don’t need validation or to update people or to be so connected. It really feels like being unplugged from a virtual world. Before when I had social media I cared so much about posting the best picture and knowing what everyone was doing and staying friends with everyone I went to school with when none of that mattered. Now I text the people who matter and watch RU-vid sometimes and use Pinterest for art inspiration and other inspiration. Now I’m more confident and happy and don’t even wear makeup. I realized I personally was wearing it to fit in and out of insecurity made by social media. I also grew into my true style and personality. It feels very freeing and just nice
I am so..not even just tired, I am *exhausted* of social media & this digital age we are living in. For all it’s benefits & abilities to connect people, I feel more disconnected than connected. Like I didn’t know it was POSSIBLE to be as disconnected as I feel. It’s actually hard to focus on anything else when I’m not on my phone because my brain is so tuned into the scroll & this other world. It really does take you somewhere else & when someone else is on their phone they aren’t really there either, are they? I am exhausted of feeling BAD anytime I don’t reply to a message or a text right away too. What the heck is that about? Or feeling upset when I try to check in with my friends & get one word replies if that. Orrr feeling upset because my friends honestly don’t ever check in with me or message outside of social media, as if a “like” on something I’ve posted or watching my story is sufficient enough. It’s wild. It’s either something to wonder about or a realisation that actually, I don’t really have friends. A daunting feeling either way. Social media has its place for some things but it’s not worth it in the bigger picture. I thought I was the only one who felt this way. Hours wasted on scrolling & the mutual expectation we’ve developed that people should & need to be available at ANY given moment - that’s pretty wild. So, a wholehearted thankyou to you for not only having the courage to explore this..not having a smartphone & stepping back from it all to gain a new perspective but to also then SHARE it all with us. I think lots of people are quietly aching for this & for more connection to themselves & to others but they don’t know how, for some this is all they’ve ever known. And to step back from something so familiar & SO addicting is really difficult, especially if you are living in the delusion of it all still. Having awareness & mindfulness is incredibly important & I just am so grateful that you shared your experiences, it’s incredibly inspiring & I can’t wait to see what continues to unfold. Sending so so so much love.
@@lunaleavesme Hello lovely, thankyou for your thoughtful & so wonderfully written reply! This is exactly how I feel. Thankyou for sharing your experiences with me, I can really empathise & relate. I’m so happy to hear that you have solid relationships around you that are those true ones.
Thank you for writing this so beautifully. I had a similar frustration to you in regards to how disconnected you feel despite living in the age of “digital connection.” I recently got a Nokia banana phone after a friend told me how positive of an experience it was for her. It’s a feature phone that has basic internet and google maps. The internet isn’t quick and neither is GPS, but they’re functional which meets my needs. I now find that without a smartphone I will genuinely feel bored, which is wonderful motivation to give people a call that I haven’t spoke to folks, or reading a book, or doing ANYTHING that isn’t just mindless scrolling. Anyhow, thank you for writing this so perfectly. I screenshot it and sent it to a friend. Best to you ❤️
@@unkn0wn_416 Sad or an opportunity to work on it? It’s never too late to change patterns & take risks! And despite being uncomfortable, what is there to lose? The good news is feelings are temporary so the discomfort won’t last & what you’ll have gained will be empowering. In my experiences, even working through trauma, that is usually what happens abyways. I’m from the MSN era too :)
I cut out Instagram and facebook and as soon as I did I felt SO GOOD. My life changed DRAMATICALLY since that point in time. I love myself and feel like NO ONE can compare to me - for the first time in a while 🥺
I love writing good old fashioned letters sometimes, it just feels so special to give and receive handwritten letters. I always find pretty stationary at Thrift shops.
Same here. Thrift shops are the best place to find stationery for me. I love the thin paper that vintage stationery has. Any new stationery I’ve boughten is so thick.
Imagine the amount of masterpieces that will never be created. Before the internet, whenever someone was feeling bored, some people would just create art. But now, we've become so consumed by various methods of entertainment, that some people will probably end up never discovering their talent and use it creatively. I think about this often.
Not really. Internet helps a lot because you can make your documentation. See what others artist create. I think, the best is to open your PC for social media and the phone just for calls and taking photos. The PC isn t so addictive for me.
I agree so many kids getting addicted is scary as well, they grow up being addicted to social media and having constant entertainment. I spend the time not on my phone writing in my journal, doing art, poetry and meditation. Ideas always come to me more when I'm not on my smartphone. I try and give myself one hour a day on my phone to check emails and then I put it away or if I need it for music when I'm walking I'll download the music and I'll turn the WiFi off.
when you said you were always living through aesthetics, i full relate to that right now!! i definitely need to work on figuring out my true self instead of focusing on what my ‘aesthetic’ is and making that define me!
I feel a constant pressure to reply to peoples messages every day. I don't, I may take 3/4 days. And then I always have to apologise and I feel as if I am distancing myself more and more. I don't have the mental capacity to be constantly in conversation with people. I think getting rid of a smart phone would fix these problems!
If you find a solution let me know, cuz I don’t want to have so many messaging apps,I’ve reduced them to only two which i need for college but i still get the feeling that I should be available 24/7
I literally just put all of my social media apps into a folder on my Home Screen and moved it to a different page to make it “harder to get to” and out of my immediate field of view :)
YES! My therapist told me the difference between doing something relaxing and something toxic is whether I'm trying to escape myself, or caring for myself. What that looks like can be different for everyone. It sounds like social media you were escaping yourself, but doing art plugs you into you, and grounds you, and helps you care for yourself. Thanks for being so open about this
I relate to this so much. It's embarrassing to say but I've found myself living these significant moments in life thinking about the social media post I will make about it, rather than living in the moment, and it really is like a drug. I grew up in that weird period when Facebook was just taking off and MySpace was big etc, and it used to be just a fun hobby or a way of keeping in contact with friends, but now it's all consuming and I really do feel like a much less present, less introspective, less connected, more superficial person as a result
Same here. I also feel like it's easier to connect with people online, whereas I most likely wouldn't have this conversation with you in real life. I find it really hard to talk to people in real life, even people I'm close to and know well.
I deleted all social media (but like facebook/discord to talk to friends) and it felt so freeing! I re downloaded Tiktok recently but set a time limit for it. The timelimit definitely helps! I still feel connected to my generational humor and am making sure I'm not addicted. Its great!
I'm happy you could give it up but for me I'm too far gone. I usually spend around 70+ hours a week on youtube. Once I factor in audio books, podcast and social media on top of that. Basically all my waking time is online. I need a video playing to fall asleep now and I've even started watching content in the shower im so addicted. I tried seeing a psychologist but I couldn't afford to keep seeing him. So I've basically just accepted that this is my life now.
I am 40 years old, never had Instagram or Facebook ect. and i never will, i can't imagine the pressure being young and keeping up on all the social media, Harmony you are an inspiration, keep it up x
I haven't had social media for 5 years and I only use RU-vid and pintrest that's literally it lol I didn't change my phone or anything but I'm used to it now. Honestly it was one of the best choices I've made.
Omggg I was just about to say this! I have accounts on some others but I literally only use Pinterest and RU-vid daily 😂 I do use Snapchat, but just with my one bff, my mom, my Aunt, and my husband 😂
i haven’t had a smart phone for 5 years now. I gave it up as part of coming to terms and addressing a porn addiction. i will never have a smart phone again.
@Mariana Farías i battled that addiction and the phone addiction for a very long time, years but I must say i’m doing totally cool on all fronts! never felt more mentally ‘together’ because of it.
@@GoogleUser-xt3bn i just got rid of the phone, well i smashed a screen and just bought a cheap £15 quid phone and never looked back. for the first few weeks i’d constantly pull my new phone out and i’d just realise all i could do is check the time. Eventually i deprogrammed that and would just enjoy looking around at the world.
I don't think that I'm ready to fully give up my smartphone yet, but this video pushed me over the edge I needed in order to delete instagram and tumblr off of my phone. I've been spending SO many hours scrolling through reels and just occupying myself without doing anything good for myself. I've lost touch with myself and my purpose and I'm ready to make changes
It's kinda weird to think about how the younger/new generations don't know a world without internet or smart phones. I can totally see why many would not know how to be with themselves or do activities outside of phones etc(and not use them for pics and whatnot).
It’s so concerning to me that young people are starting their online lives so early. They’re completely skipping the step of just going on the Internet to play some dress up games or use club penguin. They’re going straight to social media now and don’t have the opportunity to live a life that doesn’t take place online. It’s so sad to see children (young girls especially) comparing themselves to influencers thinking that there’s something wrong with them. I can see how the suicide rate has increased so much for teenagers over the last few years...
@@jammydoughnuts that’s the parents’ fault. They give their children a smartphone from a really reallyyy young age just to keep them preoccupied because apparently they don’t wanna deal with their children. It’s a shame to see a 4 y/o being already addicted to stupid internet games.
@@myrtila I really agree. For a while i was one of those internet kids who thought the internet was amazing and a good thing for us kids. Im 14 and today i gave up my phone. Im getting a flip phone soon :)))
as 'the younger generation' i totally agree, Me and my friends find it hard to do simple things like reading because we're so used to constant distraction, that's why I love harmony nices influence online! its great shes inspiring so many people cut there screentime
I just gave up Instagram, cuz I just need my phone for music and videos like these. But it's so hard to see family addicted to toxic social media. There's anything you say to them, they are clearly unhappy.
I agree!!! I try to converse with some family members and sometimes they won’t even look up at me, or they’ll ask me to repeat myself because they’re that glued.
I've basically done the same thing but the tattoo artist I'm trying to go post their books opening on Instagram so I only allow myself to get on to check those things. I wish I could just get rid of social media completely but there's just small things I still need it for :/
@@ananimo1473 the biggest problem is the tattoo artist thing, it's very important to me to get to be tattooed by them so I keep up with it. But yeah I'm sure there's a lot of things social media may be “needed” for but it's really not that serious. Once I get to that artist Instagram will be deleted for sure
This goes to show how toxic social media and our phones are .. We’re literally addicted to these things that we don’t even see time passing us by while we’re on it.
I'm slowly weening myself off my phone. Even just taking the time to be mindful and notice how much time I spend on my phone is so interesting and also a bit scary! x
i just deleted my facebook and instagram accounts after not being on them for four weeks!!! it feels so freeing and all the thanks go to you! thank you harmony ❤️
After watching your first video, you inspired me to get rid of my smartphone, 4 months without a Smartphone! I just want to say Thank you!! It's honestly the best thing I have ever done, I feel more connected and present. I'm happier. I was using it as a distraction from all sorts of anxiety and suffering a lot of waves of dissociation. After watching your last video though it was as if you were talking straight to me. Thank you so much Harmony! Glad you're still plodding on with you little basic phone! Much love!
I was literally on the verge of buying a new smartphone, because the microphone of my current phone broke. I have an old blackberry laying around and think I will try to use this one for a while. Thank you for this!
I've noticed that the worse my mental state is the more I post or want to post on instagram. And then I regret sharing it with so many people that don't care. I've also got a creepy stalker that found out my work place through a photo that my coworker tagged me on (I didn't think anyone looks at this section at all so it wasn't private). So yeah that's how I ended up deleting it from my phone. Literally instagram gives me only negative feelings after that dopamine that you get from scrolling.
Been working hard to disconnect from my phone recently. I do just want to add that social media can be used in good ways too. I was diagnosed with breast cancer last July and instagram helped me connect with so many amazing young women going through what I was going through, it became a really good support system for me. But I completely agree with what you said about boundaries. I'm trying hard to make sure I'm only using it in ways that I feel benefit and support me!
Hi Harmony, I think its wonderful that with your drift away from Instagram, you are connecting more deeply with RU-vid. I don't have an Instagram, or any social media really (other than RU-vid) so it knowing that you will be putting more of your energy into this platform and sharing your voice means a lot to me. Your new content, with the focus on mindfulness, healing, growth, spirituality, tarot, and magickal ways to benefit mental health is a wonderful direction for your channel to go in. Having said that, I noticed that a lot of your older videos have been removed (or set to private). I really loved your haunted house and unsolved mystery videos, and I actually linked some of the haunted house ones to a friend the other day but now she can't watch them. I'm sure you have your personal reasons for removing them from public viewing, but I think they were great videos - you clearly did a lot of research, and your energy is so vibrant and enthusiastic, its obvious that you genuinely found these topics interesting to talk about. I really hope you reconsider making some of those public again. Also, as a future video idea, I'd love to hear you speak more about some of the new hobbies you have learnt since giving up your smartphone. The journey with your Kalimba would be super interesting. I'd love to know how you discovered the instrument, how often you practice, benefits of music on your mental health, and how it makes you feel when you play. Do you only focus on learning specific song tabs (like the Zelda music I've seen you play in your videos), or do you also improvise and just let your creativity flow when you feel like it? Is this the first musical instrument you have learnt, or do you play other instruments too (other than your meditation bowl)?
been dealing with some very painful waves lately. i barely go on social media anymore. spotify and youtube are my exceptions. edit : this is the most amount of likes i have ever gotten!! hi 😂😂. so...I feel that maybe because all you guys liked my comment, you can relate to it and i hope you're all feeling balanced within yourselves and that your minds aren't too loud. remember that loneliness can be good but too much of it can infect your sensitive state. never give in to the media telling you what to do and how to look. you're perfect. uniqueness is needed right now. we need all different energies spread out around the universe. be kind to yourself. the skies will clear. 💌
I feel the same,once i hit my YA years i realised i had really fallen out of love with social media, i still enjoy it for inspo but lately i go on insta like once a day for a little bit and it wasnt even a conscious decision and its been the biggest breath of fresh air, the dissonance that happened when i was on it constantly was crazy and i didnt even realise it was happening. Now i mostly use YT because its not as demanding and still fulfilling as well as educational. Once i just started doing things because i wanted to instead with the express reason of posting it has honestly been so good for me. 💕
I also quite my smartphone, I use to use it like most of the people, just scrolling and scrolling, but since I gave up, I have noticed how much things I can do now. How I can enjoy so much in communication, how much can I enjoy in reading books, go for a walk without scrolling and enjoy in the moment. I can meditate, I write on paper things I am grateful/thankful for. Life is so much interessted now I dont waste time on scrolling and I have more time and better life. I met more friends like this because I communicate more and it is really amazing. Like I got a new life. You can explore yourself more and care for yourself more and you can work better on yourself, health, and you are more happy 🤗 thanks for your motivation 🤗
Having listened to the audiobook of 'How to break up with your phone' after watching your video on it, I've also found a great deal of peace in setting those boundaries and re-examining my relationship with my phone. One thing I've found as a great way to keep in contact with people and re-connecting with important people and friends, is writing letters! Postcards, letters and sending cards in the post has felt really special and and a much more present, thoughtful way to connect
I am a mom of 4 and fully addicted to my phone. It’s my only form of distraction and I hate how much I long for the numbing. I dream of better days where I find the strength to be without and be present for all the things- good and bad.
4 kids must be so overwhelming. I got two and managed to quit social and gave up my smartphone. Maybe you could start with tiny steps, like setting a time limit?
There are other more productive hobbies you could try to explore if you want to rely on your phone less, reading and crafts are really good distractions. Crafting (crochet, macrame, knitting for me personally) are particularly good imo because you can do it on any budget, in any place, and at the end you have a tangible item to use, sell, or gift. It can be very meditative as well if you stick to basic patterns.
I honestly love the 35mm camera, they're so cute. Sure they're not "perfect" but that's the beauty of older photography. Also for mindfulness and meditation, I got the same phone as you and I just downloaded everything I wanted onto an sd card :)
I'm absolutely loving your new content and I think this is a very important topic that can be uncomfortable for a lot of people, thanks for making this and I'm so glad your in a better place now
I’ve always had pride in being able to regulate my phone use, but ever since I started to gain more friends overseas I found myself using it more and more, so finding the middle ground again was really difficult because those friends are now the people I rely on the most. I’m now back to that healthy (for my personal lifestyle) level where my phone is back to being a tool for me rather than it being my entire life...it takes a while but honestly figuring out where your phone/social media really falls in your list of needs is one of the best things for your mental health.
also a difference between healthy "distractions" and unhealthy distractions is that healthy distractions (or, more appropriately, habits) require skill. Reading, art, crafts, gardening, etc; these all require skill and over time you become more skillful. Social media? What skill does that provide?
I have been following you for quit a few years but I'm really loving what you/ your channel is becoming! I just love your calm and truthful vibe, watching your videos makes me feel really good
My smartphone broke about 3 weeks ago and at first I was incredibly sad, because of all the things I thought I had lost and worried about losing 4 years of my life. This really made me realise how much I was relying on my my smartphone as a coping mechanism. I ended up getting another smartphone, but my relationship with it has changed drastically and I now only use it to text someone and mostly leave it at home unless I need it for a specific reason. And I feel much better!
Just wanted to say I am grateful for your inner child work information. I have found it helpful. I also enjoy your proactive videos for helping mental health. ❤️
Girl!! From a 37yr old witch that grew up in the 90's in California, you are giving me all the nostalgic vibes of my youth and my boho witchy aunts, haha xo. I really feel for your whole generation that you couldn't experience life before social media in an organic way and have to do so much to try to avoid it. From your new (old school) phone, to older camera, to emails, to maps irl, to cd players...it really was a simpler time to grow up then. I have loved your videos for years and think you are so wise for your age, learning what most don't til their 30's or hell, 70's in some cases. Careful with RU-vid too, it's definitely not the same beast as Insta, but it's pretty addicting too and promotes the same FOMO, or versions of someones life that make others feel inferior. I lump them all into the same category actually, but haven't heard you speak ill at all about RU-vid, which I understand, but it's def a problem too. Spread the word though, the more your generation gets off these social platforms and look up from the glare of the computers and iphones and start living life organically again, the less stressed you'll all be. Much love. Blessed Be
THANK YOU so much. I’m so grateful to be able to watch your video an question my entire perception of social media, time, etc. Thank you so much for bringing this into a long and necessary discussion
i'm now on a nokia brick and practicing non-attachment, devoting more time to things I love and I can thank you for being the final push I needed. Deep attachments can be unhealthy and I'm gad I recognised that with my attachment to my phone
I love that idea of slow communication with personal boundaries. I hate it, when my phone interrupts me and I feel like I must react right away, and drop everything
This is awesome. Brings me back to the early 00's and I love it. Especially the end when you talk about cd's, home phones, maps etc. This is how life used to be just a few years ago, and everyone had a completly different set of worries and expectations on themselves. I live very similarly, and I'm thankful I've been able to avoid social media. Thanks for making this video. Blessed be!
i love seeing this perspective!!! The social dilemma helped me tone it down on my phone and just find balance for myself, its great to see us all find our own ways to live in the world w these phones
It's almost 20 days that I don't use facebook. Deleted IG like 3 years ago, and it feels so good. Now I just check a dance group on fb once a week but I don't post anything in my page nor I put 'likes'. When you stop to do this, you understand how stupid it is. No more nasty opinions, I don't look at other people's profiles. No more selfies of 'perfect' people or lifes. I've started to meditate, reading a LOT, and I'm taking drawing lessons and studying with more concentration, positivity and I feel more faithful for the future. I feel more pretty, more self centered and I have more time to think about myself. Also, I've started to volonturee. I don 't want to live through a screen, that' s not what we, as a humanity, are meant for
I'm so happy I came across this video. It's definitely a sign. I don't feel a negative influence for social media but its definitely a dissociation mechanism for me as well. Thank you for sharing Harmony!
I noticed how addicted I was to social media about 5 years ago and slowly began cutting it out. About a month ago I decided to fully deactivate my last platform, Instagram, which has been by far the most toxic for my mental and spiritual growth. Since then I’ve deleted all social media on my phone (Pinterest&RU-vid) and now I only use my phone to listen to music, podcasts and to use my banking apps! I only use RU-vid when I go on my laptop to do workout videos or if I’m in the mood to catch up on the people (like you!) that I enjoy watching. Setting these boundaries for myself has helped immensely thus far. There’s definitely some struggles that come along, but it is much easier to reflect on how I’m feeling when I don’t have the numbing distraction of social media constantly at my finger tips!
I can't see myself getting rid of my smart phone, but I can see myself taking a step back from social media, like removing it from my phone. I've felt that way for a while, wanting to be more mindful with my time/spend more time on what's important to me, like writing. Your videos are very inspiring.
Badass..I think this is the movement that really needs to be happening in our time. Love your style,your honesty and authenticity. You are absaultely beautiful 💗 I gave up social media almost a year ago bc I struggled w a lot of the same feelings you shared. I feel a lot more free since I have been off of it
Your videos are golden ♥️ I love seeing these amazing and authentic contents in RU-vid. I've had severe addiction to social media when I was a teenager and then I quit everything and it was really hard but helped me a lot. Like a lot. I forced myself to call my friends instead of messaging and it helped me avoid weird situations or to make up things in my mind because I would have them directly on the phone. It changes everything. I still find myself being addicted some days but I'm putting strict rules and it's getting better and better !
To me personally you always have been a healing person, because since I found your channel you helped me so much to realize who I am and what I want and need in life 😍 Thank you so much for everything ❤️
I ditched my smartphone in early November 2020. I'm 15 years old and am the only person that I know who doesn't use one (even my grandparents). I relate to everything you have said in both of your videos on this topic. I have struggled with dissociation/derealization for a couple of years now and not having a smart phone has helped me find a peaceful connection within my mind, body, spirit, and surroundings- but consequently a disconnection from others. I was wondering if you have experienced times where you are the only person in the room who was not staring at a screen? I find that this happens to me several times daily. As the room falls silent and I watch everyone enter a trance, I struggle to not feel isolated. I never mention it so no one feels judged. If you or anyone else has advice it would be much appreciated
You sound so sweet and I’m glad you’ve gotten out of the mindset that everyone else seems to be trapped in. I totally feel the same way in regards to feeling isolated when others go on their phones... but I do know that I’m doing the best I can and bettering myself when I don’t go online. Not to be judgemental towards them or anything, but it works for me and that’s the most important thing. Being in the moment is so crucial and so many of us seem to have forgotten that.
It's making me so happy seeing someone go through a similar discovery that I have already been through, I can't explain the wholesome happiness for another being I am feeling and have been for a while now ❤ always wishing you well 🌼
I have no intention of giving up my phone for a couple different reasons, but your last smartphone video really helped me become more aware of the time I spend on it, and helped me delete apps that I really don't need (i.e., Facebook & Instagram). Thank you for your inspiration!
i haven't seen your videos in a while and I have to say, I'm happy you're coming home to your truth and living more in alignment with how you see fit. much love Harmony.
You are such an inspiration! I've become so much more aware of my relationship with my phone and social media after your first video about giving up your smartphone and I feel so much better!!!
Just want to pop in to say that I genuinely find you so wonderful and inspiring, I've followed since about 2017 and I still get excited every time you make something new. All of the changes your channel and other socials have gone through is super awesome. It's totally natural to change over time. ✌️
i so appreciate you sharing your updates with us! i saw your part one a while ago and it coincided with how i feel about social media (instagram specifically). since then i’ve been away from my main account for almost five months and my photography account for two and it feels much better. wishing you luck as you continue your journey! ✨
Thank you Harmony, it is the same for me: I sometimes ask myself if I'm punishing me or if what I'm doing has any sense, because I live my life like it is work, this thing of healing and changing the way I act and live... but then I also think that I feel much better when I do stuff outside social media and technology, and I feel more me, I feel more human and less a thing that goes on automatic. What's better? to live without meaning and just doing stuff unconscions, or work hard to make a better living? I choose the second one, and having you talking about these subjects makes me feel at peace.
I've stopped using all my social media after watching your first video about "how to break up with your smartphone" and I am really glad you keep talking about it because these videoes help me to remind why I stopped using them in the first place. It's a long journey, I know, but I noticed the good effects on me and i want to keep going. Thx Harmony ❤️
I want to start this off my saying #1 I rarely comment but this video has done it again for me and #2 I really enjoy your videos. But in particular, Its absolutely wild to see the parallels of my own struggles and thought-processes seemingly being relayed to me like a time-traveling mirror from an idealistic future. It just simply confirms to me to follow my intuition and to always continue searching for your videos, watching you grow over the years while also being in my teenage years has been an incredible experience in which gives me a feeling reminiscent of childhood friends growing up together. I hope to always see your videos in my timeline; you have really done a lot for me without realizing it. Your wiccan series kickstarted me off on my own personal journey with witchcraft and gave me the confidence to pursue it. Your book has helped me grow on that journey as well as learning to give myself grace throughout it. And Im thinking that this video is going to kickstart me off onto another journey filled with mindfulness. But I realized I never offered my thanks for all of the help you’ve given me. So thank you and know that you will always have a lifelong fan in the states!! :)
Hey Harmony. I really enjoy listening to you talk in depth about your practicies and your insights into how you feel drawn to live your life. I think you are a natural story teller and communicator. You have a great ability to express yourself in a very compelling way and a way that is very unique to yourself. Which sort of got me thinking that maybe, especially given that you wanted to get away from the social media, have you thought about doing a podcast series? I mean, that would be really such a good outlet. I dunno, i really love podcasts bc im add and love to be drawing while listenting to people talk. I wish you the best on your journey and will always be interested in what you have to say. take care of yourself.
Thank you so much for this video, it's so interesting and I definitely agree that being off your phone more creates such a deeper connection to the real world
Hey, I never really comment but I watch your videos alot and I really love this idea of giving up your smartphone. Lately I've been feeling really trapped and I've started to pick up books and going for walks instead of looking at my phone and I can relate so much with everything you say!! Good luck on your journey
Thank you so much for sharing your journey on this platform with us. I always enjoy watching your videos and they often times help me out as well. I decided to delete Instagram tonight (for like the 5th time) because I have experienced the same thing. Cheers to better self discovery and less meaningless distraction/negativity!
I like what you said about using meditation to clear your head and figure out why you're finding it hard to adapt to change. I may try this since I find even minor changes in my life to be upsetting.
Hi! I wanted to thank you so much for uploading your videos because since middle school (now I'm 2nd year in artuni) they started changing my journey. I found out that I love witchcraft and that it allows me to help myself spiritualy. Because of you I tried meditating. I listened to so many of your advises. They really changed my life for better. I wanted to thank you from the bottom of my heart for being my healer. I wish you all the best and just know that sometimes I do protective spells for the ones close to me. I hope it somehow helped you too even tho you didn't know about it until now.
Before you made a video about giving up your smartphone, I myself found myself questioning the overall purpose of social media, not just that but questioning why i was doing something like modelling as well. I deleted all my social media and only use basic messaging apps for being able to keep in contact with loved ones. Smartphones sometimes feed into mental illness, and around the same time i started seeing psychologist. I;m really happy that you have been touching on this topic cause not many people do or understand the effects it has on some people and why people give up social media and using smartphones personally.
I really appreciate this video. Thank you. I have been thinking of doing this for a while. I started this with Instagram too! It’s horrible. When I caught myself trying for the perfect insta is when I learned that needs to change. This inspires me. Talked about everything perfectly.
Long story short, your original video about giving up your phone helped me to realize I have adhd. Since then I’ve spoken to a doctor and am now on medication and feeling a lot better so thank you!
"Setting mindful boundaries and being aware of what serves you for positivity" - SO TRUE & IMPORTANT! It's crazy to me how easy it is to do so many things because you think you "need to,' you're "trapped," and how many things are actually negative, at least for me - just thinking "does this actually enrich my life?" seems so obvious but was so revolutionary for me! So was "social media is a tool to serve you, not you serving it." Here's hoping everyone finds their perfect way of interacting positively with social media and smartphones!
I gave up my phone last time this summer for months and I recently got it back because of wanting to do social media stuff. But now here I am ready to give it away again and limit myself set boundaries for myself because I’ve been feeling the same way I felt before
