Notes for y'all: 1. Broke and Unambitious You can be broke, but if a women see that your future is bright they will still be attracted. Because it seems exciting. 2. You're not mysterious Mystery brings curiosity. Always leave them wanting to know more. 3. You aren’t present Presence is being fully in the moment rather than overthinking. When you think too much, girl’s will notice and be less attracted. 4. You aren’t physically attractive Build your physique by going to the gym and eating well. 5. Personality Weirdo: bad social skills, weird mannerisms. Be yourself, but develop your social skills and mannerisms so that you don’t seem weird to women. 6. Neediness Neediness is caring too much (replying too fast/asking to hang out too much). Must have other options/other things you are working on in your life. If you aren’t where you want to be now, that’s okay, it just means you’ve got tons of room for improvement (which you can fulfill). I have an amazing video on this last concept called “It’s okay to suck, right now”. It’s only 2 min if you want to watch.
Bullshit imo, if you are ugly guy girl will not be interested in you even with your "good personality" lmao, the amount of manlet gymcels I´m seeing is so fucking big and guess what. Still no girls wants them.
#5. Weirdo or quirky? Because I like quirky guys, or guys who are 'different' in some way, from the rest. Btw, a great personality trumps physical attributes. WE can fall in love with 'physically unattractive', because the personality of the guy is so attractive... Especially if he is humorous and makes us laugh. #6. If a girl really likes you, she won't mind if you are attentive to her texts and communicating with you. If you start playing games with a girl who likes you, by making her wait and wonder, you could turn her off and lose her.
I'm 15 and I'm very blessed that I get too see videos like this to learn how to improve myself at such a young age, this december I'm finna be on that grind💪
I recently got my first girlfriend after starting self improvement. She noticed that I improved my physique and my mental health drastically and after 6 months (when I first started), she barely recognised me. I gave it my all in every criteria, I joined kickboxing, I started going to the gym with my girlfriend and we're constantly improving. She had severe mental health issues and she said that I hepled her tremendously. I genuenly feel like I am making my friends lives better by being there for them, I always motivate them. I couldn't have done it without you Hamza, I'm forever grateful for the help and guidance that you provided for me.
Notes for y'all: -Do not stress over women -It's good to have em but not worth stressing over and destroying yourself. -If you just improve yourself to boost your confidence then girls will be attracted to you but you have to start the convos. -Some of your first attempts at talking to women probably won't go well, you'll subconsciously act needy and all but with time you will improve. -My last point doesn't mean approach them randomly, that's creepy as fuck man. There will be a time where you can. Most people here are young so in school presents lots of opportunities to start convos. -Most important tip, act natural and don't overthink.
@@en2p187 I9 think what he means is for example you tell a woman you barely know a very well kept secret of yours, like: I have a billion dollars secretly hidden away on an island, now please date me I'm desperate! Revealing everytything about yourself too much at once can seem desperate.
@@loveisthemostpowerfulforce1397 well yeah that's true but that's fairly obvious if you're too "mysterious" you can come across as a dangerous wack job. Subtlety. Don't be too eager to share everything about yourself.
that part on social mannerisms was probably it for me. i needed to hear that, i always knew i was weird and friends and family members have always commented on how strange i can be (maybe partially due to my autism but that isnt stopping me). i never realised how unattractive to girls it is. thanks hamza
When it comes to neediness……the key is to match a girls effort and energy. No double texting……if she doesn’t seem to care, let her go…. If you’re always initiating conversations and she never does, move on…. It’s ok to show interest/attraction……but if all you get back is zero effort on her part, let it go……..
@@JojoThoughts eh, it’s more like just presenting yourself like you care. Don’t wanna fake it, but not be too boring about it But if you aren’t interested in the person initially, that’s gunna come out in how you interact with them
@@JojoThoughts Not at all. It's about maintaining dignity and self respect. If you're over-investing in another human being who barely put in any effort, then it will leave you feeling empty and pathetic. So yes........if you're texting her big paragraphs and she only ever texts you one sentence.... It makes you look needy. Give her what she gives you. The effort should be 50-50
I am almost 25 years old, never had a relationship, sex, kiss etc. I have a muscular athletic physique and get complimented on it regularly (working out is a passion of mine). I like reading, been a straight A student and get ocassionally complimented on my knowledge overall. I'm not a weirdo and am I not a social butterfly either. I practice all the other self improvement activities that Hamza and those alike speak of. Girls simply are not interested and I've learned to live with it
@@کبیر-ک It's like they show no interest and neither do I - mutual. But focusing on intellectual, physical, financial aspects of improving. We keep on grinding
You need to improve your looks. I joined blackpill and i learnt so many things how to improve your looks and now after a while even women are cold approaching me. I am getting threated better, people respect me more and i am feeling better overall because of positive feedback.
Btw. I am not saying redpill(what Hamza teaches) doesnt work in life. In life i believe it is the only path to take. But when it comes to attracting women- improving your looks, personality(lifestyle-fun,hobbies) are the only 2 things that actually work
Hamza is the only RU-vidr out there who always manages to sneak in the importance of mental health in every video with any topic, imo thats a great way of spreading such an important message in a subtle way which is what can really allow people who AREN'T looking in the right places for the answers to get the answers that they need. this is 100% the strategy I plan on going with in my future videos.
Romans 10:9 because, if you confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.sdddd
Bro, I'm so thankful for having the oportunity to hear that from another guy and make a art of a group that people actually supports you, there are so many things I wish to hear when I was at Hight School, but knowing them now it's good as well and I'm grateful that my gf actually said to me a couple days ago the that she likes my body, I didn't heard that as "only lust thing", her eyes were acually bright but not becuase of my surface but becuase she really admire me on what I'm becomeing, then I was again thankul for your advces and because of that I back to gym since I started watch your videos.
I started building my phisique 1 month ago,im on a bulk,and seeing progress better and better every workout.I'm extremely proud of myself because I sacrificed the days lost on video games,and made them into self improvent time.Thank you hamza for appearing that one time on my tik tok feed.
i used to have a girlfriend. last year she broke up after telling me i was a negative person. First time i ever hear someone say that to me but fuck it i went on with my life but she kept connecting every 2 to 3 months. so basically in august she wanted to have a face to face talk. we did. and ended up talking again. then she broke up again this time telling me that she wasnt able to feel my love and attention and that i lacked in that part. it was always fingerpointing towards me and the reason for all of this is bc i am that nice guy…. nice guys always lose imo
Being present in the moment is magic. I've started to practice it two days ago and earlier, I was communicating like a leader in our discussion. My listening skills improved and small inconveniences didn't affect me. I think faster and feel happier.
This is maybe one of the most relatable videos i've ever watched, but i won't just cry and say i'm unattractive. I'll try to build the person i wanna be, remind me in a year
@@toxicpie3356 yo wsp bro i'm not built like a God rn but my back and my chest are WAY more massive than before, just a month of Gym can do so much holy shit
hamza we both at the same age but you have accomplished so many good things..confident, social skill, fitness, looks, money & masculinity. good for you man. im into this journey too, and yes it's hard but you can do it. i believe we all here can do it too. thanks for the masculine inspiration. cheers
I respect your honestly man. I actually believe you takes a man to admit that he overdoing something. Especially that subject where society puts that kind of behavior on a pedestal. Much Respect...You earned a sub from me!
Your story about when you were young, reminded me of my brother and my cousin. They were the same age, they were had friends but they weren’t considered bf material. My brother had a growth spurt in high school. He grew so fast the baby fat he struggle with couldn’t keep up, stretched, and he looked lean. Then he join sports and lifted weights. It seemed like over night his body went from bow to wow. Girls that barely talked to him gravitate towards him. My cousin stayed the same but learned how to converse and became fashionable and he started attracting. So physical appearance and not being awkward are spot on. For me confidence was really helped them with girls. His body transformation helped him lose the low esteem vibe. While my cousin gained confidence through getting comfortable around them. The more he tried the less it bothered him to be around girls. His posture straighten up and did not hesitate. Confidence, is knowing you will be chosen, and not an if question. If not then be ok, it wasn’t that person. The key, and I agree with you, if a guy cannot and will choose himself why would she? Learn who you are. What qualities would make you choose you? Start the confidence journey with that and confidence won’t be an issue.
even after more than 1 year after discovering your channel im still watching almost every video you upload. i am very thankful to you for changing my perspective and pushing me to take action and thankful to myself that i believed in the things you preach and implemented them in my life. i still have a long way to go but i am so peaceful knowing that im on the right track. tysm hamza
Something I have been wondering my whole life is "why I have always been single?" Here are the reasons: 1°: My mental health, I am currently working on myself and be a better human and I'm thankful for what I have achieved/learned. 2°: Worrying too much, I think this is the common overthinking process everyone complains about. 3°: My body, It doesn't matter what my body type is or it's size, what matters is that I need to be comfortable enough in an appropriate body, that's why exercising a lot makes me happy and still get to rest a little bit and eat well. 4°: Emotions, literally every man's problem. Guys, my body is getting the right treatment with my training, so practice mental health, satisfy your curiosity even on the smallest details because with proper knowledge, you'll be wiser, you'll be happier and with practice life will be much more entertaining and fulfilled. Who knows what important things you'll learn in life and how you can use it to get what you need in the future.
I've gone through a breakup quite recently (in fact, it was 3 days ago) and i recognize myself in this video a lot more than i would like to. Thank you Hamza for opening my eyes. Great video.
An often overlooked part of self improvement is the company you keep. A Roman philosopher, I believe he was Seneca, said something along the lines of "as a whetstone sharpens the blade, a man sharpens another". If you surround yourself with likeminded individuals geared towards improvement you'll get there much faster. First fix yourself, then invite someone in your life. You can't have a relationship if you're not squared away.
You forgot low confidence. Trust me, last year in school I was not confident and decided to change that the following year. I did and I am now pulling so please also take confidence into accountability. Even if you’re not, act like it. Trust me, acting confident will make you confident. Have a good day or night and stay strong.
Thank you, hamza, You helped me become what I am now, Better. I used to be your average Jeffrey you know watching anime all day, no social skill and not sporting. You’ve really helped me improve your advice is golden. I now sport 5times a week, read, meditate, building social skill and being outside more. First I used to be sick weekly now (it doesn’t seem much but it is) now I have just been doing everything for a month (aka not being sick). The reason I used to get sick so much was because of social situations, I’d get scared, terrified even. But you, you helped me so so much and I just wanted to thank you for that. ( and I kind of see you as my older brother)
For a relationship Personality is the major factor for what keeps it together in a nice way with love. Looks, materialism and such are just what attracts but not what maintains the relationship for years or even until death
I’m flat out saying i need to work on things mentioned in this video,more to physically attractiveness and I’m not upset or discouraged,it actually makes me more aware of stuff I have to improve
Here are a few extra add-ons, coming from a girl who stumbled across this video: - Even if you’re rich, if you’re unambitious girls won’t like you - Being mysterious and not needy is a really big thing. The girl would feel awkward if she feels like a guy is constantly all over her. Instead, try to play hard to get occasionally, but don’t overdo it or she’ll get the wrong hint. Like some days you can take 15 hours to reply to her snap, and other days 2 minutes. She will wonder what took you so long on those days and think about you more often ;)
Thanks for your teachings again, Hamza, always helping us to improve ourselves, you don't see everybody doing it on RU-vid. I'd just add one more thing or maybe complement the reason 4 with good posture. If you're not in shape right now, either because you've start exercising recently or is just fucking lazy, the minimum you should have is good posture, I'd say that's even more important than being shred. Stand up straight, with your head up, even if you're not the "hot guy" rn, is already something that improves your image and, of course, health. Thanks again for your vids bro🙏
Great information from Hamza as always 🔥! You should you make video discussing how to “be present” & how to stop overthinking during conversations. This would be helpful af because I literally deal with all the things you listed 2:59-3:41. It’s to the point where my conversations are just simple and I can’t make them laugh the way I want to.
True, too much sex with different girls damages you spiritually speaking from experience as well, I’m still trying to heal from it and trust me it’s not easy
I’ve recently been improving to my mental health and it honestly feels great I started praying to God more going to gym more and just bettering my work ethic at my job and how I treat my gym work ethic
Seriously,why is it common theme that parents never give their children any social lessons,really vital ones,but later wonder "why is he so incompetent at finding relationships and such?"
Didn’t realise until yesterday, lastnight when I was walking around my town with the boys getting some ice cream how many Jeffries there are. I’m not saying I’m a total degen, but I’m not an Adonis. I’m on the path of self development, a year deep. But the locals town… saw a group of year sevens, vaping… thinking they’re dead cool. Made me and my mate cringe… to the point he and myself were disgusted. Was sad to see ofc… but also a reminder I’m on the right path and not doing this shit.
On number 4, I am unattractive. Am I down on myself about that? A little, but I've been working out a lot. I'm going to the gym and I will get a better physique, I disciplined myself to think that regardless if I am anxious or depressed or just having low energy, I'm still gonna go to the gym and do what I need to do. I used to be in that mindset where I was totally down on myself, but my confidence is mostly regaining. Trust me Hamza, I have goals in mind and personally, I want to run my own business eventually. That being a cannabis dispensary. For now, I'm working hard to the best of my capability. I will get from point A to point B.
@@Gaze73 No, a legal cannabis dispensary. That is exactly why in legal states, there is a limitation of what you can buy in each dispensary. I mainly want a dispensary because cannabis overall is highly profitable but simultaneously I never want consumers to overbuy and make it an addiction, which is something most tobacco companies induce. They are careless and are only there for the money, however I do care about customers and cannabis can be used to actually help people with mental illnesses/mental disorders. I know that's my pov on cannabis, but it's the truth. I never want to sell something for any harm doing.
I feel like you are changing my life, from just a teen i went to someone who is becoming a real man, like my great grandfathers, I don't know how to thank you.
Borther hamza no hate, you were actually a person that inspired my self improvement when I was extremely depressed. I went from 260lbs to 185 and drastically improved my physique, not the best but better which made me happy for a while. Attraction definitely came from women but it wasn’t the right form attraction(lust) . This self improvement journey was last year but after it I still felt empty. I don’t believe the right form of attraction is 100% about physique or even personality. 2 months ago I converted to Islam and became a practicing Muslim (not perfect) what repentance is for… so I lowered my gaze and tried to not attract the wrong form of attraction(lust) but yet it made the struggle harder and the lustful attraction towards me is even more strong than when I was solely focusing on MY SELF IMPROVEMENT. And not on my creator… Alright I gotta drive now but Idk what else to say, love you brother and thank you.
To sum up I don’t believe this lustful attraction bs and only focusing on getting women is they key to life, it can’t be? Or even finding a person that will marry you because of lust but abstaining from having sexual relationships before marriage. I was an agnostic before Islam and never imagined I something this beautiful was meant for me ( the religion) not talking about culture or politics.
@@suqma I am 21 years old and Never thought I would be religious. My family background was catholic and I’ve been to many churches and just always had an Ill feeling and had a bad view on religion as well because I looked at the culture and the politics. Even though it’s been 2 months since my shahada I’m learning about Islam but truly feel as if it’s the truth. Either way brother wish the best for you regardless of what point in life you’re at. Peace and blessings on you 😁
@@None23df27del dang that's what religious ppl should be like you make a good example not those angry christians passively aggresively trying to convert everyone to their beliefs in the comment section of a video about lions 💀💀💀
Not the hamza video I found it on but the smiling and holding eye contact really works. Not staring at random girls as they pass, but holding eye contact and smiling if they look first.
You know, being present is honestly probably the most important thing to get down *immediately*. If you are present, you will learn so much without needing to be told. I've been needy, and noticed how the girl I liked just stopped responding to my texts with any enthusiasm. A girl once asked me what I do when I got home, and I was honest, I eat dinner, then play video games almost every day. Awkward for the rest of that conversation. But when you're present, when you're paying attention, you notice that kind of shit. You see where you need to improve, where you need to keep your mouth shut. Now I finally got a girlfriend, and I can see how much she is attracted to me because I've improved in these areas. I don't text her all day just for fun, when I describe my pastimes I say the interesting stuff like my instruments and workouts and make sure to avoid saying I play video games. I tell her about the job I'm studying for. I give her hints about my more controversial opinions, and even though she probably disagrees with much of it, she's interested. Pay attention. This is important for all things in life, but girls especially. How will you learn if you do not pay attention?
I made a promise to myself that 2022 was the year I’d do something to change my 155 pound 11 year old physique. I walk 5 km to school every morning and back, my body has been experiencing incredible changes since I’ve been watching you in July 2022. I’m only 12 and I obviously am too young to go to the gym but doesn’t mean I can’t make my physical attractiveness better. Thank you hamza and for the other peoples lives you’ve changed
I’m truly and deeply grateful for you doing what you do hamza, you making a six minute video can literally change my life and it has, I love you and I truly value you in my life.
I have none of these reasons but I'm just scared to talk to girls but after they talk to me i'm completly fine. I don't know whats wrong with me because I've never been denied or rejected when it comes to approaching girls. I'm in 10th grade
@@AndroidX1X I need them too. But firstly I got into the gym because my body was weak, and I had posture problems. I was able to get girls before, but always made the mistake of loosing my ambitions and focus too much on a girl ^^. That's why I said take care of yourself first. Girls can be a nice addition to your life and should be nothing you just focus on.
Heyy Hamza, could you (or anyone here in the comments) explain what it means to be “mysterious?” Like, what’s the line between “(Edit) seeming like an aloof/not present person that doesn’t want to share anything” and “being attractive because you are a mysterious guy?”
@@Krispy4real Nah, I was just throwing out some random example where failing to be "mysterious" might backfire. Perhaps a better example would be: "How can one act mysterious without seeming aloof, not present in the moment?" When a girl (or person, generally) asks me a question, I'm a strong proponent of not giving one-word answers, and prefer to elaborate more. Though in what situations is it better to say less?
You iman and tate brothers changed my life forever Just thank you And my small observation You get instantly more attractive when you dont treat her anything special When you act like she isnt only girl ever talked you You must start be living that 10/10 chiks aproach you all the time(self confident boost)(dont act like asshole) its Just sad when some guy gets aproached and acts like its his one life time chance and is too much forward Stop giving a fuck and work on something what will make you hot and proud abaut Sorry for bad english and all good for you guys!
Hey Hamza, I can't say I found a lot of this helpful but that bit about being present in conversation really hit home, I'll be trying that out when I can
5 haunts me forever. I'm not that weird anymore, and it is getting better, but reputation sticks. A lot of people forgot about elementary school me, most have. But when you find someone who does remember, the rope looks friendly.
dude you are so helpfull bcs Im 13 and because of you I started going to the gym, and Im more self confident I stopped playing video games and stuff, Thank you
@@vismong102 I actually lied, i had this state of gratitude, for being on this earth alive till now, health etc and my mental state have been always so damn good from the beginning.. when i failed in my university, i was about to have a mental breakdown but, i found this cult within 1 day..so, technically my mental was never bad.. i am always happy
BRO HAMZA, I STARTED WATCHIN UR VIDS AND IM INSPIRED ASF, I STARTED GOING TO THE GYM AND HONESTLY OVER ALL IMPROVING ON MYSELF, AND I RLY WANNA THANK YOU FOR INSPIRIN ME
I'll be honest, too. Some girls/women, like me, are attracted to shy, quiet guys. The problem comes when they continue to be shy and quiet and don't come out of their shell with her and communicate!
@@timmenhoff Yes, I am, because I was terribly shy myself, and had a hard time dating in my prime because of it, so I relate and find it attractive. I still can be very shy. But eventually, you are going to have to learn how to talk to people. Just talk. Practice on strangers at the grocery store, lol. That doesn't mean you can't be quiet *together* with another introvert, or even extrovert, after you meet her and get to know her. Learn to ask questions about her, to her. Listen. Show a little interest. You might find her starting conversations with you.
i love the way you engage with your viewers and they way you keep them watching ur video, the talking the gestures everything just goes together well. also the fact that you can help yourself and others with these types of videos is just amazing, all love to you hamza
@@Trinsicity Agreed. I meant it for the guys who desire a true relationship, who just need that extra push to get them the girl they want. Women are very visual when it comes to choosing a mate online, and first impressions could ruin their chances right away. Hunks with horrible characters don't usually look for a relationship though. Tinder should be working just fine for them. 😜
@@Trinsicity Hey, you said it yourself in your vid: "Focus on making your book cover the best it could possibly be." So now we can agree to agree 😜 And your rating system is pretty neat. Definitely better than the Tinder system. 👍 Thank you for the lovely compliment on my costume work. Much appreciated.🙏💜
Hamza saved my life do the grind work on yourself, id say im still pretty skinny but its because im a fighter, im lean and relatively muscular and get a lot of compliments makes you feel better
There isn’t a perfect boyfriend or a perfect guy just be you. At the end of the day Beaty is very subjective some people like skinny bodies some people like curvy bodies. Just be you and find someone who loves you for who you are. There’s always room to grow but grow because you want to. Change because you want to change don’t do it for others. At the end of the day it’s you who has to live with yourself
what i like about hamza is that: 1) he tells you the problem (like straight up, no bullshit) 2) HE GIVES YOU SOLUTIONS AND ENCOURAGES YOU TO SOLVE THE PROBLEM thanks again hamza, great video as always brutha 👍
Hamza, you are the only person who teaches me something about being a man. I'm 19 and struggling with bad habits of porn and procrastination, but I am working to improve them. Keep making such videos.
I hope everyone sees this comment. My girl dumped me yesterday. She was interested in me for over 4 years and prolly a month ago I noticed her. We have started talking, we went out for dates, met up etc. And she dumped me. I was looking for anwers, like others would do, I was desperate, how could this happen. She said a lot of stuff yesterday, like she doesn’t know her feelings, she doesn’t know where she is in our relationship, she mentioned other things as well, but i didn’t know what she meant by those. We had a special relation between us. And i was sure it wasn’t her, it was me who ruined it. When I heard the 6th reason, I was SHOCKED. Neediness is an awful thing a guy can do. I was indeed needy in our relationship. She knew her place, i rated her more, I kinda forced her into unpleasant events for her. And now I understand everything. With this, I want everyone to know this and avoid being needy. Learn from others mistakes. Man you speaking facts always, keep it up❤
Unless you're very short with bad facial genetics, you can easily improve your attractiveness. Most normal guys (5-6/10) can become 7/8 if they fully looks max - Get a new wardrobe + accessories + a few fragrances - Weekly grooming/haircut (get a hair transplant if needed) - If you're older (30+) get your blood work done and start TRT if needed - Go to the gym and follow a program (full body 3x p/w is optimal for most naturals - both from e result and consistency perspective) The above isn't expensive, doesn't take a lot of work, yet so few men do it.. And people need to understand how easy it is to get and maintain a good physique. Even as a natty. Full body 3x per week with progressive overload on compound lifts + a few accessory movements will get you there. 10-20 sets per body part p/w and focus on perfecting your form. Get in and out in 60-90 min.
The thing that changed me was when my best friend was getting annoyed in his DMs by multiple girls, saying it was a gun problem. 6 months later it’s also a me problem
I'm gratefull that finally I don't need to watch youtube videos like this to get knowledge and just for fun. Get a lot of experiences and get out extremelly of your comfort zone. Comeback 6 months later and you won't be recognisabled
Honstly bro i dont give a jack shit if i look weird, i love doing it, building up tough skin that protects me from judgement (by being judged). Live that way you want. Love your life.
