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This loner personality/against alphas a g e n d a is pushed hard by p o w e r s that c o n t r o l e a r t h - its seriously lame hearing these sookies. Trust me, there are more wannabes than actual Sigmas, sigma males are akin to lone wolves, which means they prefer to hunt on their own mostly because others dont like that type of wildness, which also means they are skilled as an entire pack on their own. also means they are tested frequently and growing up would of been in more altercations than even an alpha and won them all, because 1. we dgaf, 2. most dimwits and alphas dont recognize what we are and underestimate us, and most ppl who claim to be sigmas are too fruity and never had a life like that. Real Sigmas are silent Apex predators, they float between multiple packs and mostly have Alpha friends because they are the most relatable. A lonewolf is only thought as one when its alone, other times it blends in with the pack effortlessly. ppl think sigmas are out side of the hierarchy, but in truth they run multiple packs and usually leave an alpha in charge in their absence. Also very likely were part of a single pack in their youth and leading it and broke it in search for adventure where we cant take the entire pack with us. Are u telling me, a type that is the smartest wont eventually figure out to be THE BOSS, make millions and dominate? Seriously follow the LOGIC. "BECAUSE WE CHOOSE NOT TO" IS A THE BATTLE CRY OF A WEAKER TYPE. If you cant relate to this, i guarantee you are not a sigma, likely a confused/wannabe gamma or outcast beta like a bad employee who refuses to fall in line and definitely NOT a SIGMA. Understand this type is being watered down for the sake of the YT a l go ryth m. Why? because it is a rare type, and betas are very common. ppl want more l i k e s. Personally, while I had multiple groups of male friends when I went out, mostly I would go clubbing with 3-4 Females and still pick up, since my early 20s. If I have a gf, it would be her plus. With photos to prove. Anything else is beta tendencies and def not Alpha or Sigma. This watering down BS to cater for the beta range stops now.
The survivors of Narcissistic abuse by family members & others are literally now Sigmas.......we can smell people's intention by simply standing near them, look at their facial impressions, body languages, micro movements & the way they talk. We got no one in our lives.....we are all alone in this world......very few friends, relative, family members & a spouse that's all we got.
I am alone , I feel that it's safer for me to be alone. Misunderstood is normal. Quiet is safer. Turn pain into strength. Finding where I fit in, still searching.
For years and years I have said this. That I don't read minds but I read intentions. That it isn't magic but the combination of subtle gestures, movements, behaviors, etc that enable the ability to just Know what someone intends to do. So often I have wished to be wrong... It's so much better to periodically become a complete hermit
We Sigmas are brave and beautiful survivors. Sooner or later we eventually we refuse Despite all the struggles, we refuse self betrayal. To all sisters in this journey, brave on with a fiercely open heart! The world needs you 🧜🏼♀️💙
Thanks. I have struggled but my stoic nature helped me achieve highly in academic study and research. I attained business prosperity. However I always self reflected. It took me until my early 60s to literally walk away from time wasters. I knew them before but gave them some credence for their position. I don't do that anymore. Literally it's like sod off and don't use my strength as your sticking plaster. Heal your own wounds if you actually want to. I'm a lot happier. My rebellious nature and humanistic view still causes problems with some idiots. But I will go on.
Yeah, well...now I am in stage of my life, that I do not pay flying f*ck to who thinks what about me and doing just me...of course, I do not hurt others, but I do not let others to manipulate me or hurt me. I am not taking internally any fucked up projections of soc iety on me or try to force my ideas into society...Take me as I am or take a hike, sweetie. 😂😂😂
WE do survive, we are overcomers, but at what cost? I am lonely, distrustful, and I lack the level of vitality I was born with. After so many yrs. of being 'beat down' /I suffer greatly. Hopes of finding real joy are fading, very quickly now... A word to the young, leave the ones who are crushing your spirit, no matter what!
I found the right therapist and everything has changed - there is hope! I feel more fully myself than ever before (in my 50’s) and for the first time I like being me more than pleasing others.
I am a Sigma! Vitality ground down, fighting for my life, fighting to keep my actions to not spiral out. At 56, very difficult but we can do it! My life has always been about transformation, and wrangling with this slow death could be a rebirth. This gives me hope. Darkest before dawn! Keep up!
Turn off your phone. Go for a walk where there are not any people. Don’t think about your problems, or anyone else’s. You are there to go for a walk. Reconnect with nature and your self. Find your center amidst the raging storm inside of you. You are in that storm. Calm the storm, and rediscover your self. Learn to love you again. That is the first step. It will be ok again.
At 52, I am afraid that I am beginning to suspect that 'ignorance is bliss' and that my half-century's long drive for truth could and should have been spent on much different endeavors.
I am a sigma woman of 70 and a lot of my battery came from trying to resign or conform over and over to the whims of others. I was a rebel often confrontational to defend my free spirit and the more I took a stand the more those around me from childhood to adult would do all they could to control, break or bend me. Only now at 70 will I walk away from everything and everyone that does not serve my happiness. Consequence is I am alone a lot but it’s freedom.
I am 75 and I remember being forced to go to a Catholic elementary school ....with violent nasty Irish nuns, and my friends all went to public school. This set me apart from my childhood block buddies. I HATED THAT SCHOOL and I rebelled. While being a good student....i rebelled against the idiotic brainwashing. When it came time to take the test for Catholic High School....I simply didnt take the test. My father never forgave me and punished me by eventually disinheriting his only child and making my daughter into their "Golden Child." She lives in lavish luxury while I struggle to make ends meet because they stole the home I poured all ny life's money into when they told me it was my inheritance from my grandmother who paid for the home....wanted me to have it...but it was in my father's name. After they cut a deal with my ex husband to get custody of my daughter, they got all my alimony and child support and when that stopped and the kid was grown....they evicted me from the home I had poured my life's blood into and over $150,000 because they told me it was my insurance for my old age. My daughter spent their money wildly on stupid things , fancy cars, boob jobs, tattoos and then tattoo removeal...while I lived frugally, never taking a nickel from my parents and putting myself through college....She stole money from employers, did drugs, destroyed their car, partied and lived a wild life of excess and was rewarded while I was ostracized. In the end, we only live in one room at a time....we are born alone and die alone. In spite of everything I have been through, my only regret is not telling them the truth ....that they ae despicable people....
I just discovered that I'm a sigma female and I can't get over how accurate everything is, even my hardships are accurate and I'm just at the very beginning of discovering all of this. I am so mind blown!! I'm so grateful cause this is a big, huge puzzle piece. Have been asking Jesus to help me find my true self and true identity and then I stumble over this 🤯🤯 whaaaat? Now everything is making sense. I'm a sigma female ♡
I'm definitely her. 😢 Rough. Still on a path to surviving as an adult now. I am a survivor who didn't give. Everything I relate to with an exception of having emotionally or physically available parents parents. They both were damaged. So they couldn't do a good job raising Healthy children. I didn't understand because my mom's parents was there 😔
As a result, due to their life experiences some sigma persona drawn to spirituality, some becomes leader, some as a trainer/coach. This introvert nature helps them to gain hidden knowledge, to enhanced their intuition power, very sharp mind and ability to read others mind and their activities silently. Thus, in other words it is the people who makes her strong having strong leadership mind and lead others. Thanks to those who made beautiful personality in me. Here I embrace my personality.😊
Your comment is greatly appreciated and your reflection is truly insightful. Thank you for taking the time to share your thoughts, it adds a valuable perspective to the conversation.❤
Yes, they're naturally observant, which is enhanced by their path. But it is not a personality, which is something you acquire/develop, nor it is "given" by anyone. It's very similar to an archetypal path, which has its roots in instinct. Shaped by experience, it drives one's actions. People may incorporate certain sigma traits as part of their growth journey, but to truly walk a sigma path isn't a choice. It's tied directly to your NATURE, and as such, it's inevitable.
This helps me understand myself. My entire life was filled with expected duties for the family and my mom told me I was stupid all the time. Almost every significant person in my life has betrayed me. I taught myself to turn pain into power and am now a successful entrepreneur and I am alone. I am healing from a recent betrayal by my ex boyfriend and turning pain into power and will immensely and intensely enjoy giving all those people that betrayed me the middle finger in the most graceful and quiet way. Because success is the best revenge. 1,000 times fall down, 1,001 times stand up. Be strong people, it eventually feels good. I love you all, spread it around because this world needs it.
To all sigmas, regardless of any genders, who have been abused (and to all who were abused), know that you all are extremely resilient. To go through and having to rely on yourself for support. You all should be very proud of yourselves! I am not talking about arrogance, but rather to be proud that you all went through and overcome difficulties! Be proud of yourself.
Oh man I just had a heavy sob session reading that. When I'm really down and out I try to tell myself I'm good I don't deserve the mistreatment. For soooo long I would beat myself up with the same words that were used against me. It completely broke me, I didn't recognize myself, I hated myself. I started to write, and that's something I tell myself now looking back at my notes. That I'm proud. I should be proud! Cus I'm not that person anymore. Take it as you want, I fought so hard to get here. And I'll be damned if I let anyone rob me of my light again. We should be SO proud!! Noone else can see your struggles so you know what it took to get you here. Be proud. I love that message so much. Ty for reminding me!!!!!!!! I hope you all are having a wonderful day ❤
Same. My mother is a narcissist. She was always jealous of my love for animals. She hated that I loved them so much. I tell younger people to be very cautious of others. Humans are predators and should be treated accordingly. You have to watch them for a good while. Not just around you, but around others as well. Watch how they treat children and animals, public workers such as waiters in restaurants, how they react to others when driving, and listen to comments they make that devalue certain people or groups. They can dress nice, say all the right things, and still be completely horrible.
These words brought tears to my eyes...every single word relates to my life, in detail. I managed to forge a decent life for myself in marriage although always with words of blame and shame. He finally left when my disability became too much after 29 yrs. Alone, without children or family I shred every layer of life and pain. Now at 65 I am aware of my greatness and bravery in all I had to deal with in life. The fight is finally all over and my life is surrounded by beauty. Not one person truly accepted my childhood trauma and chose to label me troublesome. I was always kind and thoughtful but people just do t deserve it . I love myself , my dog, my home and garden. I'm lucky. I thank the universe.🙏
I love you. You are here for a reason. Never forget that. And always stay bright. I can tell just reading your message how beautiful you truly are. It's a shame they could not see it, but in the same way it's also beautiful as they don't deserve your light anyway. Keep shining lovely ❤ you filled me with inspiration and warmth. Thank you. We got this❤ we got us❤
I am 50 and fully identify as a Sigma female being abused in the childhood by narcissistic parents. I struggle my whole life with the feeling of not fitting, of being cold, etc. And I continued to have toxic relationships with friends and lovers just because that’s only what I knew. Recently I quit everything, my husband, my comfortable life, my family because the burden was too high. Everyone was very surprised. I just vanished with all my stuff. I am finally realising who I am thanks to your videos. Thanks a lot !
@@valerievandermotten2414 Taking care of yourself matters very, very much! I am happy you are making positive choices for yourself -- everyone deserves freedom and power over their own lives. There are great therapists out there, also. Healing is a journey. You are not alone. Take good care. Enjoy your life on your own terms with no guilt. 😊
If someone who is an adult goes missing, do not participate in the search. It is dehumanizing. That being said, the police will never look online for missing people, even though, that's where you're most likely to find a missing adult. That being said, I'm not saying you're missing or anything; just, personal experience.
I come from a family with 7 kids, and I was totally the black sheep. I have one sister and she was a narcissist, and was the worst of all of them. I was hurt a lot, and constantly rejected, so I turned out to be a Sigma! Life happens, we just have to try to learn from it when it does! I'm 55 and have two brothers, and my sister is all that's left. I finally realized that I had to walk away. About 4 to 5 years ago! I don't need them!
My father was the narcissist, my mother and sister his enablers. I was 17 when I walked out of their lives. It would have been 15 but I didn't have a safe place to stay at 15.
hi sweetheart how are you am a sigma male and i have done alot for my whole family and i done the same dont need them i have always wanted to met a sigma female as a friend as i have never met a sigma male or sigma female so if want a chat i would welcome a chat take care stay true to yourself dont change for anyone or for anything
This reminds me of a song sung by Whitney Houson... "Everybody searching for a hero People need someone to look up to I never found anyone who fulfill my needs A lonely place to be And so I learned to depend on me I decided long ago Never to walk in anyone's shadows If I fail, if I succeed At least I'll live as I believe No matter what they take from me They can't take away my dignity Because the greatest love of all Is happening to me I found the greatest love of all Inside of me"
Omg. I used to sing this song all the time when I was a little girl. I was raised by my alcoholic Dad. Only child. Wow. Crazy the feelings I feel as I see these lyrics for the first time in years. Thanks for sharing.
Exactly! My boyfriend says I'm just nosey, or crazy, because I watch everything and study everything and everyone it's just curiousosity and a awareness of things other people aren't aware of.
Now i understand myself better. I thought i was truly stubborn, don't talk much about my pains and experiences, kept almost everything within me. Sometimes i just wanted to explode. As most of my family members say all the time "why are u so different than the rest?"
I've never known what's a "friend " during my entire childhood. I didn't have anyone I could trust, no family members, none.Now, I don't feel emotions at all.
This honestly made me cry😢. I’m a loner but put on a bubbly cheerful facade.😢I was called difficult and stubborn, add, and I was misunderstood. I could never express my concerns.
Sadly she is me. Every single one of these is me. Daughter of a narcissistic mother that chose me as her scapegoat, and a father that has no defenses because of his own traumatic childhood coupled with the horrors of Vietnam. I am incredibly hard on myself because of this. I have recently decided that I do not wish to continue these struggles. I wish to put my armour down and be who I am meant to be. I can only accomplish this by letting go of all of them and walking forward alone. I just keep reminding myself that I have always been alone, the only difference is the final inner acceptance.
Im still healing from 40 plus narcissistic years but I am alone and extremely happy. I always make me happy, make the best of what I have to work with ❤ glad to know theres many of us
2:02 we grow up to become assertive, confident and extroverts yet with an avoidant attachment style, we fear intimacy of every kind, we are loyal and trustworthy but we don't trust anyone apart from ourselves
I had a mother that was controlling. It was hell growing up with her. I got pregnant at 17 and moved out with the baby’s father. It was the only way to escape her and I'm glad I did. I was traumatized by her and I had to do a lot of work to find who I was. It took many years but I did it. I do have triggers but I know what to do when the memories surface. Thank you for this video.
Make no mistake. If you are constantly looking for someone to punish or get revenge on. You are not healed and have no business doing anything else but healing.
Yes agreed, this resonates with Sigma. Well Sigma Females are very loving caring, nurturing, curious to know or learn things, seeking for a guidance, motivation, moral support from people around her but when she finds pressure, and she realize people and the society around her, are mentally sick they themselves are stuck and struggling with their own problems, then she keep herself mum. As she grow adult and she will changed herself frm extrovert to introvert. There she deal her problems by herself with her divinely gifted compass that is her intuition, ability to understand things, knowledge and with her inner strength. There she realises inner peace, and solitude are best tools and technic to overcome the situation. There the Sigma personality will born😊 Thanks for sharing the video.Thanks for sharing the video.
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We moved every 3 years due to Dads military service. As a child I was aware of the world as a mystery to be revealed. Trauma hit me very young, so young that my parents still have difficulty with how I could remember anything from age 3. But the trauma never left me, instead it followed. With every move, I watched my brother and sister cry when saying goodbye to friends. This taught me at a young age to not get attached to anything or anyone. With every move, every mile driven down a highway to a different state, I suppose I recognized then the rareness of reality. My mother, father, brother, sister, moon, sun and stars where the only thing real in my world. As a teenager, I had mastered fitting in and putting strangers at ease, even as a loner. In the many friendships of life, nothing matters more than depth and without it, I'd rather stay silent.
Hello, I am allready 73 years old. Over and over I was trying to elliminate all the wrong reaktions, but I still am over and over on the same point. I am so tired of it and do not know whether it is realistic to believe for healing. God bless you all Helena
I came across your comment while having never heard about sigma women before really. Though healing is possible and the age does not matter. learn about your thoughts, about your emotional states and trauma that shape our reactions. You said, you want to react differently. So, it's about understanding where your thoughts, emotions, and behaviors come from. First steps of change are awareness and understanding, there are five steps. ❤ I believe in you.
I am 69 and now my adult daughters expected me to conform to a societal norm of being a grandmother. I dislike continuing to cater to children after having to cater to my siblings, as I am the eldest of six children and I have had to cater to them since the age of seven. I married young and had five children by the age of 28. Now I am free to do as I please and standing my ground to be free and unattached to anyone.
I'm learning so much about myself as a sigma woman and I'm at a point in my life when all the negative emotions have been hidden inside for too long and I want to safely explode or discover who I really am without causing harm to those around me. Please do send in more videos to guide me.
BS!! Your spirit slowly dies including the potential of who you were suppose to be..your mind and soul will crack over time and never heal particularly in this upside-down world. Stop this nonsensical trope! 😮
Same, I have a dysfunctional family and few friends but I've never had anybody to relate to... I'm a deep thinker, I crave connection but only find superficiality which doesn't satisfy my needs albeit I'm happy to help everybody
thank you very much for this video...this is a very accurate depiction of me & it actually helps to know that there are others "like" me... that there is nothing "wrong" with me...
I once wrote a song " I wasn't like the other teenagers. I used to like taking walks by the forest near our house and writing songs for myself rather than going to parties.".
I have almost always felt like an imposter in my own life. The only time I truly feel like me is when I'm by myself. I'm not anti-social, I just don't feel like I fit into the molds that others expect of me. Over coming the trauma of being raised by a very toxic narcissistic mother and having a very toxic narcissistic sister as been a very long journey. I take life one day at a time.
Because of these traits I have led a very unconventional adult life. I raised very independent children, in spite of my own damaged self and continued need for healing. Sadly, I am an adult orphan and my husband has emotionally abandoned our marriage. He has been my one person with whom I could be vulnerable and grow.a something has caused him to give up on himself, on me, and on our relationship. It feels very lonely to be in this situation. If I were actually alone, I do not think I would feel such loneliness. Degenerative disease has made my body weak and unreliable, kin spite of my strong will and spirit. This also has .put me into a position in which I am trapped. Illness Interrupts my attempts to find freedom from this oppression. I am continually thinking of ways that I can escape or create a solution to this heavy problem even as I maintain hope for reconciliation and revival in marriage. This reminded me of my unique gifts and strength at a time when my confidence is fading.
I’ve discovered since my father died in2011 he was a malignant narcissist who abused me as a child as a scapegoat . My mother turned a blind eye to it and is 85 years old and is herself abusive. She’s passive aggressive and still pours acid on me as I speak of my CPTSD and autoimmune disorders I got from the stress abuse and nobody protecting me. My mother says I should take my abuse to the grave. I’m embarrassing her and the church who covered it up too. She tells me I’m going to h*ll for talking about how my father abused and assaulted me. He threatened to murder me and bury me in the backyard. My mother is still covering up saying it’s making a bad name for God and the church. I’m the victim but I should cover up what my abusers did to me.I have remembered things I suppressed my entire life. I was taught to normalize it. I internalized everything and blamed myself as that’s what abusers teach their victims that it’s their fault. I always felt inherently flawed like I was undeserving. I’m trying to heal myself knowing I came through the fire and need to reprogram my twisted thoughts about myself. I never knew who I was and even questioned if I truly existed. I’m trying to hold on and become somewhat of the fragmented person I should have been. Abuse has destroyed my soul. I know I’m some sort of empath, but not sure which one. I have a lot of anger and unresolved hurt inside me I need help with. I have cut ties with the gaslighters and lying deceivers in my family. I have friends who are now my family as they have experienced terrible abuse as well as children. We have bonded through our terrible painful past.
I have had a very similar experience and background and now that I am close to my 70s I am finally peaceful and happy most of the time. It takes a lot of work and finding those friends who have had similar experiences will help you. Good luck to you.
@@traceyarnaud8433 thank you so much my abused friends have helped me so much. They understand like others cannot imagine. I’m so glad you’re at a happier place. I’m trying to get there but my mother is trying to prevent that for me. If I take it to the grave I will never heal. She’s 85 years old and can do what she wants it’s just sad she can’t be here for me. She thinks she’s normal but snapped a long x ago. She’s a terrible hoarder who never cleans her home living in filth. We lived in filth as children too. She’s as warm as a cold 🥶 fish. She’ll never apologize and say she’s sorry for her terrible choices that hurt me so badly. Before my father died he asked for forgiveness. I have forgiven him but I don’t think I’ll ever get that from my mother because she believes she’s the victim. Sadly she doesn’t even see what she really is. I had to break contract with her and my other narcissistic family that carry on the family curse. I’m glad I never became a narcissist or passive aggressive. I have two wonderful empathic sons and 3 beautiful grandchildren. I need to focus on them. They are all the family I have besides my current wonderfully supportive husband. Best wishes to you ❤️
My dear ❤, your soul can never be destroyed. You'll see that after your healing process, you'll become really strong 💪 I'm glad that you finally broke free from the abusers. And as far as the abusers go, all that I can say is that what goes around comes around....that is universal law and you cannot escape it. Love & Light to you 💓🙏
It’s uncanny how familiar your story feels, thank you so much for sharing. Today I’m turning 47 and it’s been 3 years since I cut ties with my whole family. It’s the hardest thing I’ve ever gone through, my saving grace is my husband, first person to treat me with respect and show me what it feels to truly be loved.
It is not easy to sway me, but this is so accurate, it has a solid honest description of how I experience the world. It also strikes me, that listening to this, gave me a sense of positive recognition in myself. It would depend on someone hears these points, if they see these as negative traits, then that taints their view of a sigma woman. I hear it in strength and fortitude and arriving at sovereignty, success to me! So love this channel, subscribed just now!
I’ve never really gone into archetypes until this popped up. Oh my… I’m a 44 year old sigma going through cataclysmic change. It’s scary, delicious, beautiful chaos and knots and blocks I’ve been working in for years are coming loose and undone. Please hang in there. We’re all amazing and you’re not alone.
Pressure to conform when in childhood and more pressure to insure the prevention of unhappiness and /or loneliness in adulthood. But no encouragement to find her own path for her unique existence. Such is the world and social norms . It’s a disregard for the importance of someone’s life to not follow someone else’s path.
@veraasentista4837 it was bad to hear about your suffering, I believe now you have become clever, defensive and strong woman, that is called Sigma. Keep going as a strong woman 💎🌹👍
I always been a outcast/blacksheep , the villain of the family and people that will never understand me 🤷🏻♀️ well most of my life is along and I’m cool with it
Finally! I get it. I had a narc mom and an overprotective dad. Stifled my feelings. Tried to fit in but never could. Dad still says I'm stubborn. Ended up in abusive narc relationships.
I had the reverse, but mum always took dad's side, so he kinda won in the end! They both lived and died together, but separate from their 3 kids, especially myself, the middle child who always worked outside the box and copped hell for it! The odd one out, that was me!
I am a Sigma, I must say to myself constantly concerning the reactions of other people "Be cautious, this is here, what we can never go so far to understand and we stay by now where we are!" I have grasped with time that before you see someone as a source of any real and important information you have to make sure this someone spreads really Love in his life: for others, for his doings or for himself. Otherwise all his orality must be crap... Thank You!!:))!!👍🌷🌈🌞💟💫
you described me and my entire life in this short video, whereas my own people never even tried to understand me for once, I've always been judged for who I am and what I am and its tiring and heart breaking, bcoz of what all I've been through or I've faced in my life I've become quite detached now from everything even from life itself.
I won't bore you with my journey but let's say mommy dearest didn't have anything on my mom. I can relate to every single thing you said. And then some. I thank Jesus for helping me in my times of hardships and helping me over come the hateful negativity growing up. I am Grateful for my relationship with you. Amen. Lessons learned and maturity over the years within
How do you know 🤔 "Being called names becomes a constant reminder that you don't fit in. Adopting a sweet persona becomes their survival strategy". Trying to walk about the world as my actual self has been absolutely painful and harrowing. Just existing as myself is enough to make strangers hate me. I've been diagnosed with Autism. Definitely resigned myself to a life that is unfulfilling because I don't see a way out.
I’m sorry you are in pain. I’m 67 now and felt like you in the past. My solace and my times of joy come from nature and being alone with my pets, books and art. It isn’t easy but I hope you find a way to be in this difficult world. You are not alone.
Thank you so very much! The validation was so needed at this moment! Yes, yes and yes to everything you covered here. This was me as a child, and it is me my entire adult life. My mother is long gone, and my male parent is good riddens, long freaking dead. He not only abused me physically, verbally, emotionally, but also sexualy abused myself and my little sister too. My mother was also abused and beaten in front of us as well by him. I so wish my moter could have watched the video with me! Thank you once again!!
This is a very accurate video 😔 I am finding that facing awareness about many of these facts is both great and exhausting at the same time. Also when I try to explain these concepts to my over controlling mother she just does not get them. She doesn’t even listen or tries to understand my reality so it is quite a challenge that some need to accept. My mom will not learn or change at 80 years old so I guess I simply need to accept that I will not have that loving easy going mother daughter relationship that some have. I am happy for them, truly, I just wish I could have get to know what that is too ❤. Very good video thank you ❤❤❤
My own mother died several years ago at age 87 and she was my main tormentor. I went no contact when it became clear that she didn’t love me or have my best interests at heart. You may need to do the same if it’s really bad. Good luck to you.
I relate to this, self discovery through creative expression has been my saving grace and supported me going deeper into my internal world whilst expanding more into the external. Such a rewarding path that I love sharing with others, we are all always creating ❤
Thank you for this video as I have found myself in it. What a liberating experience. Something I have known but now I see it is a "thing" and it is many of us. SO I joined this community to help me understand me even better and read other Ladies stories! All the best to all of you here in the comment forum. Jana
Pressure to conform when in childhood and more pressure to insure the prevention of unhappiness and /or loneliness in adulthood. But no encouragement to find her own path for her unique existence. Such is the world and social norms . It’s a disregard for the importance of someone’s life to not follow someone else’s path.some people are not supposed to get married . And that doesn’t apply only to eunuchs. Some people choose to become eunuchs for reasons that society does not understand and doesn’t care to. But they speak evil of what they don’t understand anyway.
I couldn't tell you the number of times people sought out to destroy, belittle, suppress, or out-of- hand reject me, my thoughts, or who I am. I never understood why they felt so threatened by me and the need to tear me down. Just finding out this week about Sigma, it all makes sense now. But the scars, sadly linger, making me question my worth. This new knowledge and understanding are beginning to heal those scars.
This is me 100% I always felt that I was the different one in the family, was very independent and never fit in a normal mould. . I was called difficult and stubborned but I was just assertive and independent. I knew exactly what I wanted in life and went for it. I would not wait for someone else to give it to me, I would go and get it myself. I am now 76 years old and when I look back at my life, I am very happy about what I have accomplished all by myself. Happy and content.
I had no idea. I want to support a hurt sigma woman by giving her someone she deserves and also respecting her needs and situation throughout. I have to earn her trust with actions and will work to that hope of a beautiful future for both of us after we get to know each other and if we want it. Also I wish that I was less selfish and nicer all the time.
And be truthful to her because ones she found you are not honest you are dead for the rest of her life no matter what you say or do after that she is finished with you. Sigmas are best friends and partners but they can cut people from one day to another without even ever wanting to see them again.
In my childhood I was sure that my parents are not really my biologucal parents, this was my bekief, always wanted to find answers why I am so different. I was unloved. And remain a kind of outsider in my whole life.
From the deepest part of my heart, thank you so much ! I cannot express enough how this guidance is going to help me in my journey of self discovery in my quest of becoming who I am meant to be. I am a victim of bullying as a child, of over- protectiveness from a parent, narcissistic abuse from 2 siblings spanning decades and suffering domestic violence in 2 toxic relationships. Severely damaged and broken, I felt that's all there was for me. But the shift came after my sibling kicked me out of our family unit, telling me to get out of our family and never return only because I told them no to their imposition that I go back and live with them again. Suddenly I realized the moment had arrived to cut all ties, have no contact with them. Now I have broken the chains that have bound me all my life because as a true Sigma that I am in spirit, heart and soul, I finally realize that I have every God-given right to live the rest of my life in peace and free of stress, abuse and pain...for I deserve happiness. And so, once again, thank you, your words of wisdom are helping so many people by guiding the path towards freedom and self preservation.
I didn't know about this thing called "alpha, beta, sigma, etc personalities" had this not pops up in my recommendations...now im learning even more about myself and some of my friends..
How can I heal myself from all that scars, I have started questioning my worth, thank you for giving words to my feelings, I can't coop with this world
Cutting the people who makes you feel that way and try to find love in yourself more as in others, you can start with gratitude videos or motivation for self love. There are many in you tube.
Hi, I came acroos your comments .Anyway, how I can heal myself all that scars. I believe to start loving yourself everyday and if you can walk away any toxic situation and people just allow yourself to walk away and make peace with yourself.I want you to know that you are not alone in this world and we are all connected and no matter how far or near?Have a bless day and never give up because tomorrow is another day and God loves you..
This whole show, explains me to a T, I have all this & more. I have high functioning autism, I have experienced all of these evil things, I left home at 15, have minimal contact with any of my family, life is good now 😊😊😊
At 73 years old I recognise myself completely in this Vidio. Having learned at a very early age how to keep quiet around my mother and to a certain extent my father I fall into all the categories mentioned. The worst feeling for me is that of abandonment therefore as I grew older I lived by the motto if you don’t get close to people they can’t hurt you. After a very unsuccessful marriage but with 2 very wanted children I have battled through and now at last I accept myself for who I am,though it was a long and hard journey.
Only 58 still attempting to define who I am, while recovering from the hurt!❤ Attempting to put my life together, always lived under my means!❤ Thoughts, small accomplishments never celebrated!❤ Very true most comfortable with me!❤ No one understands but the author of this channel does!❤ It’s such a relief to know there is others!❤ Peace & Blessings!❤
Begin by becoming aware of your belief that it is your duty and responsibility to nurture and rescue others. That’s how the covert attracted and trapped you, was he took advantage of your compulsion to heal and prioritize other people’s needs above your own needs. Be kind to yourself - you are on the dawn of your own destiny and awakening! You are precious and worthy of safeguarding your deepest being. 🌸
I don't know if I am sigma or not. However, this video described me and my abusive parents. I was sexually abused from age 6 to age 18 at different occasions by my cousin, my parents used to point out to me my abuser but at the same time never took stand for me themselves. This has confused me to whole different level. Now I don't even know who I am and who I am not. Am I someone who is against these kind of abuse but has never pointed out her own abuser or am I just a hypocrite ! Thank you for this video. I hope it also told how to come out of this damaged self.
