Hello summarized here 👋🏽, 1. You don’t trust each other 2. You don’t like each other 3. They have no respect for you 4. Thy are selfish and make everything about themselves 5. You have drifted apart and things aren’t the same 6. You are the one who puts all the efforts Have a great week
I was rejected by my best friend. She returned to her ex and I feel so broken. At first we agreed to stay friends but today was the day I said NO. I couldn't stand being friends anymore with someone I am in love with who doesn't love me back. I need to move on without her. So she allowed me to let her go, our friendship is no more. We both are devastated, but I believe this is the only way for me to heal and become a better person.
Letting go of someone you love wholeheartedly is one of the hardest things to do. Its necessary, but not easy. That rings especially true when you do everything you can, all the time, to make your relationship work and your partner happy. I suppose that’s life though. Hopefully one day we can all find a partner that’ll give and take with us long term
Mine is 11 years. It was too much to handle. I am feeling heavy but my heart feel kinda relax ...its kinda weird feeling...i might need a hug from nobody ....i donot know.
Foolish me got back with my boyfriend when he cheated on me after begging and crying for me back. I was so scared to be alone and I was so comfortable with him that I let him have another chance. After this, these signs started to show up one at a time. I wish I had known about this channel at this time but, I didn't. So, my mental heath was being greatly affected by trying to keep the relationship afloat and trying to brush things off to not make anything complicated. In the end, I felt more alone with him than i would have if i had ended it right after he broke my trust. My advice: Respect yourself and know your value and just because you're comfortable where you are, doesn't mean you need to stay in the situation.
Same. I let my ex push and push boundaries until I pretty much let him cheat on me and string me along till he decided to drop me... idk how people can do that to someone they claim to love... Definitely learned from it and am keeping a more selfish and cynical mindset in my current relationship. I'm letting myself consider a breakup and what is best for myself. Though its hard to go through with that when you remember the good moments, even it's what's best for you
I’m in a situation where my boyfriend doesn’t want to be bothered when I’m upset or when he’s upset me. He says he’s too busy with work to deal with my emotions.. it broke my heart. I’m feeling what you felt, more alone with him than you would by yourself. I don’t know what to do yet. I’m afraid he’ll never want to support me
@@xxharuchan he doesn't deserve you, and you deserve someone who will show you that your feelings are important. Me and my ex did end up splitting and its rough but none of us should feel that our feelings are a burden or troublesome.
@@whoevenknows762 thank you💕 it’s rlly tough because he’s my first boyfriend/first love. I was so stuck on the idea that it has to be him, he’s the one.. but maybe it doesn’t have to be him. maybe I could keep exploring
@@xxharuchan definitely! Plus, ending things in a good way now when there is clear differences in values is much easier than waiting when things get muddied later. The longer you guys stay when you Know you have this conflict makes it harder to reason leaving later when you've put up with it that long. You've talked, you've done your best, you can leave freely knowing it just isn't right for you right now 💛
"You are the one who puts in all the effort" Literally me. I poured my heart and soul into my last relationship, and it felt like I got nothing in return. Ate away at me until I eventually couldn't stay quiet anymore. Even then, I hate confrontation to the point I had to make it so obvious something was bothering me that she finally asked me IF anything was wrong
i relate to this with my current relationship .. uh.. i just keep hoping that he will get back to how he used to be. but i dont think its going to work that long if he keeps on like this.. and he is depressed to and wont even let me help. mann..
I get I just got out of a toxic relationship with someone, I was seeing him for a year. Yes the warning signs and red flags go up! All about him it was great in the beginning the thrill of the chase! The excitement of being with someone new, it was all good. Then his true colors came out he started getting rude mean and arrogant only nice when he wanted some. Then I found out from his ex wife he was running around and cheating on her and he did the same thing to me. I'm glad it's over and I'm not the one being used by him anymore, I'm so glad he found someone else cause she did me a favor, now he can use her now! Very little does she know he will do the same to her! I hope she sees the warning signs and the red flags before it's too late! She better wake up and smell the coffee once a cheater always a cheater they don't change!!!!
Saddest thing is when you allow this to go on for too long because you’re scared of letting go of the person who you love and thought was your forever person. Its just not fair to be treated or treat anyone that way. Have integrity, know your values and walk away. ✌🏼🌈💕
ive been with my bf for three years and people from high school always say “damn yall still together” when we mention it cause we dont post our relationship jfjdjfsn
@@dashapulkova581 absolutely true, narcissism is on a sharp upward climb. It's difficult to want to leave my house or talk to new people when you know what you're getting out of people that look and act certain ways.
I just want to all remember, there's always something, and someone, better outside. It's a big world, and small at the same time, there's someone who's going to be better for you. Don't give up ❤️
I think the hardest one to accept is the last sign, that they’re not trying anymore. Since you’re working so hard to keep things together, you can blind yourself and feel as if your efforts are their efforts as well.
Almost four months ago I ended a four-year relationship and literally, all of these signs were part of the reason I took the decision to let go. It's hard, but deep down you know that what's going on isn't benefitting you anymore and... How much will you keep it up until you can't handle it anymore? Allow yourself to experience other things and better types of love and don't hang on to something that has fulfilled its purpose in your life. You'll be fine :) (Edit: Considering the amount of baffled comments I've seen: would you stay with someone who treats you badly, disregards your well-being and just acts like your mere existence is the biggest annoyance to ever occur? If you would, then congratulations on being a masochist. Sometimes love isn't enough to keep a relationship afloat.)
Why would anyone want to experience other types of love if previous longer relationships didn't work ?,it's better to just have friends and live normal simple life then.
Yea I agree. If somthing isn't on your frequency, you gotta let it go. Now that's not to say somthing can't change in both parties and they better themselves for everyone else. Yknow? But that's if both parties decide to re-engage. If they cross paths again.
It's been a year and a half since I left (due to feeling, seeing these signs). It hurts because I thought we were friends and were able to communicate. It hurts, but it was leave or lose myself. Imagine after all the lies, cheating, rudeness etc. she wanted to still be friends.......the gall!
I relate but.. I don't want to let go. I never will. She's been the one working hard before, she was the one putting in effort all the time - it's my turn.
Unclench your jaw Take cleansing breath in Exhale what no longer serves This is a positive sign. You are beautiful. You are brilliant. You are worthy of the love of your dreams. May your worries wash away and you find pockets of peace throughout your day 💗 Dr. Liz
Same tbh I think we're ok.... I honestly don't know.. I see maybe 2-3 signs (1,5,6)being applicable but he's also not emotionally ok rn...so I'm still kinda lost, still a good vid tho
That’s literally the first sign that the relationship won’t last is that you don’t put for trust in them dot who are the people liking this comment which you just said will lead to disaster why are you trying to date them if you don’t feel like they’re trustworthy?
I've been in a relationship for 9 years and we used to be so so madly in love, I never in a million years would have imagined our feelings would change. We started having problems year 5 and now he acts irritated with me all the time and he cannot/will not communicate about anything, he shuts down and gets defensive. It seems all relationships fall apart sooner or later, true love only lasts a few years then people start getting annoyed with each other and it just erodes from there. I've realized this and it's depressing af
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I know the feeling because I was in a relationship with one, that I recently had to end. The relationship was mainly characterized by a lot of trauma bonding and everything time I would fall for it. a part of me still yearns for their good parts but now I know better because of all the emotional pain they put me through. And how everything had to be about them and nothing to do with me or what I thought.
Relationships coming to an end are extremely painful even if it is what is best. You have to love yourself even if you have to learn how. I know I’m worth it!
@@stephenc2481 YES!!!!! I know you're going to ignore my comment because you love her but seriously. Ask others and tell your friends and family the whole truth about your relationship and they will all tell you to dump her. You're not going to listen to me but keep soul searching until you find the amswer
Love and relationships is two different things .... Love is easy and beautiful....But Relationship is something that we have to work ...U and U r partener... it's not about just self it's about other person that person feeling what he/she needs ...Do U r best be try to be honest and most importantly is care is the only way of beautiful relationship ❤️
If you feel like your relationship is all about the other person, try creating some space for yourself and being vocal about your needs; if your partner gets upset or isn't responsive, then it is likely that to find yourself and maintain your own identity, you may have to move on.
tried to be vocal about my needs to my ex and she said I'm nagging, clingy and being needy . sheesh. but if she says something about what she needs in the relationship I have to listen and take notes.
It's been almost 2 years now since that I'm with my fiancé.. We have all those signs in our relationship. So I tried to make our guess bedroom my room to have a place for myself. But he took it bad and said that his girlfriend will AND should sleep in the same bed as him... 🤦♀️ I love him so much but I'm often wondering if other men's would treat me better. And it's not like there's not a line of them waiting for me 😕.. Somehow I just can't imagine myself leaving him. I want this to work so much. But it's so hard to keep going like this. I'm left to a point where I just don't know what to do...
@@Layla-je1jd well he shouldn't be such a selfish person. I had an ex where we both had our private places because we both respected each other's personal space and the relationship lasted 6 years. We both loved each other very much but there were too many differences between us. We always took a blind eye on the differences and rarely talked about our problems until finally the problems were too many to be fixed and the time bomb exploded. What we had was doomed from the start. It still amazes me how we lasted so long together. I know my story has nothing to do with yours but try talking to him and try to make him respect the thought that people need space for their own mental health. It's what a healthy relationship needs. Both of you need some private time alone without being insecure and overly protective towards each other. Relationship is hard work but it's harder if only one of you is trying to make it better. The question is, how hard are you both willing to work and invest your time and energy on the relationship?
👍When you stay on, expecting he/she will change. When you keep justifying his/her actions to yourself. When he/she is causing you emotional/physical/verbal hurt
Your right! I have come to this realization. In fact, If I don’t marry my one BEFORE I become wealthy; anyone after will be a liability so I will remain single for life.
This was a reality that hit me 💯. I’ve been married 29 years. Too much effort , staying because of family and obligation but just not happy with the person I’m married to. We are so different and this video is me. 🥺
Wow it's hard to see when are blind and same thing hapen right now after 15 years of living whit her and its hard because she got depression it is confusing I love her but I love more my self and learning how to love more my self
As much as you promissed you wouldn't let go... Damn, that got me good. I'm about to break up with my girlfriend whom Ive known for about 15 years and had a relationship for 4 years. We broke up, we said we would try again, but she isn't. I'm heartbroken, but I think it's time to let go
“Every situation in life is temporary so, when life is good, make sure you enjoy and receive it fully. And when life isn't so good, remember that I will not last forever and better days are on the way.” -Jenni Young
what i love in me: 1 - i stopped feeling like loving someone from 6 years now 2 - i don't trust ppl cuz of that same person 3- no one is important to me except for my parent and some few other friends 4- i am not planning to fall in love :) , being single suits me better
Seems like you had a bad partner in your previous relationship and don't want a relationship because of him/her (or at least that's what I understood). Either way, have hope and don't close off from love, by all means be careful but know that one day, you may meet a wonderful person who's going to become your partner.
0:52 1, you don't trust in each other 1:23 2, you don't like each other anymore 2:26 3, they have no respect for you 3:11 4, they are selfish and make everything about themselves 4:01 5, you have drifted apart, and no longer want the same things 4:34 6, you are the one who puts in all the effort (Edited) pls like
Very informative video. Although I have never been in any relationship at all, I have come to understand that good, decent relationships are extremely hard to come by. On top of that, it has come to realization that getting angry too easily and arguing over every little thing mean that the relationship has gone down south.
After my tough breakup with my romantic partner, this video helped me understand why my partner is not suitable. Thanks so much for this simple explanation!!
I ended a 6 year relationship yesterday. It is the hardest thing I've ever done and I'm barley holding on to what identity I have left. We lived together and talked about having kids often. But he had cheated on me in the past and he wasn't fighting as hard as I was to keep the relationship alive. I spent so many years fighting and hoping that somehow we would be ok because we were ment to be together. Turns out it didn't work that way. I said he could stay and make this work or leave and he left. I have a panic attack almost every night and I struggle to even get out of bed in the morning but it does help to know the fighting and screaming and feeling like I'm worthless is over.
Right now your mourning the loss of your partner, to mourn doesnt only relate to death. It's hard but its necessary. It'll take day by day but in time, you'll realize that your life is not over and you will start feeling better and relieved. You'll see your ex for who he really was, may even end up not standing the thought of him. If he was toxic, its for the best. Life will be good again and you'll be happy. It just takes time. In the meantime, spend time with people who love you, family and friends. Be strong my YT Friend.
It’s hard when you’re married with 2 kids and have 5 out of the 6 of these things. 😕 I think when you’re married it’s harder to let go, or just mean that you’re more likely to try to hold on to the sinking ship.. hoping it’ll float. 💔
Sometimes people are too obsessed with having a relationship that they don’t understand they’re still immature, period. Loving someone can be wonderful, but you don’t necessarily need to start a relationship with them: a relationship is a serious commitment that requires many things, and you need to know someone quite well before stepping into it. Having a relationship with someone is often a desire to possess them “before anyone could steal them from you”, but this is not a good thing. Grow up children, then you can speak up for yourself and let you surround by good people
@@shine5007 Really good darling. You can't control anything at any time, especially people. The one and only whom you should have control of is you; being "rational" actually means evaluating situations and understand what is good for you and what isn't.
Man I feel you because me and a girl that I very deeply loved seperated and just last Friday I was telling everyone how amazing she was only for her to stab me in the back and stop talking to me for no reason.
@@Psych2go all the damn time even after 2 months. The things she said before leaving, everything went down the drain. Overthinking all the time. Dreams I don't want to see. Imaginations I keep telling myself I don't want. Visions like stuff I keep telling myself consciously to stop. But there's no stopping. Just so many thoughts and memories. It hurts quite physically at times.
Respect is paramount for me in any relationship of any kind. You disrespect me, I will basically consider you dead to me...that is the foundation of all relationships and friendships I build! Another thing, both parties need to build up the effort to make it grow and thrive. I get we all have things going on, but one shouldn't forgo all the effort and the other do nothing.
I was once in a relationship. The only one I've ever been in, in my entire life. I thought it was love, but it soon turned very toxic. They became very controlling, made me feel like I was always tip toe on egg shells trying not to make them made. They had absolutely no interest in anything I was interested in and vise versa, but at least I tried to show interest, they wouldn't even do that for me. They just flat out let me know that absolutely everything I like and every idea and every time I tried to have a conversation, they were Never interested in what I had to say. They told me everything I think say and do is stupid. I finally got out of that toxic relationship. I know I have low self esteem and a negative outlook on ,life through my life experiences, but if nothing else. I can at least say that I realized the relationship was toxic and I had enough respect for myself NOT to stay in such a toxic relationship. I have NO regrets that it's over. I actually felt free, and still glad I got out of that relationship.
@@dimitriberozny3729 I never said they were my best friend All I said was that I was once in a toxic relationship and I got out of it. Lots of people get romantically involved with someone who turns out to be toxic, but Not everyone gets out of such toxic relationships. I'm glad I do Not have that toxic relationship. I don't know what kind of point you think you are trying to tell me. We were together now we're. Not. I ended it and good riddance.
@@ITIsFunnyDamnIT Please don’t be a FOOL!! If the person that you are with ISN’T your best friend FIRST,you have NOTHING!! It is trying to build a house on quicksand with no foundation!’ The foundation of a RELATIONSHIP is the person that you are with MUST be your BEST FRIEND FIRST!! Without this ingredient,you have NOTHING! PLEASE DON’T BE FOOLED by what today’s world says!!
@@dimitriberozny3729 I'm Not fooled that's why I ended it. I saw it for what it was, toxic. I'm done with. them and happy to be free . I am out of the toxic relationship. Again, I NEVER said we were best friends❗ Clearly English isn't your first language, either that or you are bring a troll. Lots and lots and lots of people have been in toxic relationships some get out of them others do not. I'm Not talking about friendships here this was a someone I dated. I got out of that and am not going back into a toxic relationship. Why don't you Get a life of your own and don't worry about mine. I'm fine. Run along little troll don't make me have to report and block you kid
I recently ended a relationship of sixteen years because my partner had so little time for a relationship and it was rarely a priority. I was the one putting in all the effort. He was surprisingly devastated when I said I couldn’t do it anymore. I’d told him for years I needed a real relationship and even broken up half a dozen times with him but he didn’t seem to understand what a real committed relationship was… till I left, then he would work hard to get me back, after initially being very angry. I had trouble letting go. He’d been badly burned twice and I think he was afraid to get too close again. As time went on I felt used, though on occasion, like my birthday he would pull out all the stops and be super romantic. Strange on again off again situation. I feel at peace now though I do miss him and am grieving the loss of the future we had planned together- one that never seemed to be within reach. 😔
This video described my failed relationship..she had no respect for me..lying and cheating. I was the only one trying to make the relationship work and rather chase friends and find a whole relationship with another man. Her only interest was smoking weed, working and sleep all day.
The last 2 really hit hard. My long distance relationship was really hard to maintain, both for he and I. He told me he felt disconnected, and our age gap was starting to bother him, now I feel stuck in the past memories we shared because I want them back. It's been 2 weeks. Last night, I came to the realization that he is moving on from us, and we are just gonna try and stay in each other's lives as friends.
About 4/6. I still like her. I still love her. She still loves me. We just have nothing in common besides that. She is almost never home, but gets on my nerves when she is. I think it's almost over. I'm ready to move on. I just don't want to hurt her. 4/14/23 UPDATE: We parted ways, amicably, a week ago. We BOTH wanted out. But we'll always be close.
this is so accurate. dropped one of my best friends over 5 months ago. i loved her but she wasn’t a good friend. i was starting to become a bad friend to her and everyone else, i started becoming mean because i was so irritated from how she was treating me and i was so focused on our relationship and what was wrong with it. saw most of these signs without knowing it and at one point i was just so sick of the games and just cut her off.
it is mega painful. but 5 years is a long time to be hurting. that break up is far overdue. you have more strength than most. the one year mark is tops for me to make a good decision. the longer you stay, the deeper you are in, the worse that pain is going to be when it is finally all over. good luck :)
This video definitely brought back some painful memories but some good insight on my new relationship. Last year right after the pandemic my partner of 5 years left me for another person. I had been saving up for an engagement ring and was planting a date. I definitely noticed some red flags during the last two months but she assured me that it was just stress from her family. Man did I get played hard. Currently in a new relationship and trying my best to not be so guarded, but it's hard not to after such a painful experience.
Hang in there. Maybe try to look back into the relationship and see if there were any other signs of incompatibility? And then listen to those when dating new people. It’s so hard ! People are so complex!
Chloe called me 'Clumsy-Boots', And Claire said I was dim. Cheryl took me by the hand, Then tore me limb from limb. Cindy thought my handiwork Left much to be desired, While Cherry sent me up the creek - The paddle long retired. Cathy smashed the dinner plates, And Connie threw a cup! Christine bought me jockey shorts, So Clara cut them up... One day I'll find a kinder girl Who sees the kinder 'me': A lady with a heart of gold. (Whose name begins with 'C'.)
This has got to be the best RU-vid channel out there! Thank you guys, for all the work you do, it has saved me many times over, brought me clarity, closure, and has opened my mind to so many things, and taught me so much about myself and those around me. Thank you all! PS: to the lovely person who narrates.... your voice is soothing enough to make anyone feel better 🙂
I'm divorcing my wife after being together for 13 years. I can relate to all these things in some way. For others out there, you need to see the signs and have the self respect to do what's best for you. Keep going kings.
@@ematique4392 it was a myriad of things, but most noticeably was that she wasn't a kind person. We grew into different people as we got older and I continued to learn and grow and gain the self awareness to become a better person. She didn't and eventually I had to cut her and her toxicity out of my life. There is an important difference between someone who is nice and someone who is kind. I hope we can all have the insight to see this and the wisdom to tell the difference.
Going through a really complicated distance based relationship and these signs are really the hardest to face and deal with after time. For those who do have the same issues as me dealing with someone who could seem to care less, I hope you find your way out of that cycle and notice your own worth. I'm still learning now but every loss is a lesson indeed..
This channel LACKS the first INGREDIENT to having a successful RELATIONSHIP!! The person that you are with MUST be your BEST FRIEND!! Without this,you have NOTHING!!!
@Psych2Go thank you so much, every single one of these was my last relationship. It hurts. But it does feel comforting to know I did the right thing by walking away. Thank you for making this.
Lol, got about all of these with my best friend of 18 years. Since September, they've been more or less avoiding me, been flaky, turn conversations on me (tell them I feel neglected and ignored, they twist it around claiming they're too busy with shit like work to the point where I end up apologising for even bringing it up, even though they have the time to spend with other people), they even "forgot" my birthday when I told them that same day it was my birthday. They called me codependent because I called them out for ignoring me where I could see, which is a trigger for me and it caused a depressive episode, so I decided to just stop putting effort into the relationship, not bend over backwards to make things work, and only put in whatever I get. Now we barely talk, and they're all upset with me for having boundaries and spending time with others over them, getting passive-aggressive about it. They get upset when I go to bed at a reasonable time and don't stay up whether they have time or not. And they got upset that people at their work forgot their birthday, and I'm like, gee wonder how that feels, huh? Needless to say, even though we've been close since I was 15, at this point, I'm ambivalent about their presence. If they're there, great. If they're not, business as usual, I don't miss them. 🤷🏼
True. I had similar experience which led me to break up with him. Its been 5 months without seeing him, knowing his whereabouts, taking utmost care of his wellbeing. Nurturing our relationship. But also without wasting too much energy and putting too much efforts on dragging the relationship. Its better to end things up before things end your own self.
My girlfriend and I just broke up last Friday when she admitted to cheating on me. The wound is fresh and has been tough these past few days. The video kinda put things into perspective, but I still need more time to process and heal from what just happened.
@@thabassumzulfikar8463 Thank you, thank you. Honestly, I want her back even though she did what she did. I love her and I genuinely want to give her a second chance because she looked guilty when she admitted her mistake. But only if she truly comes clean, humbles herself, and makes an effort to change for the better. For now, I've gotta work on myself and become much better. I think I kind of lost myself a bit during the tail-end of last year.
It's like yall read my mind as me and a girl that I really liked just separated and I still don't even know she broke up with me as I was nothing but nice to her and then she just started acting different. I didn't even glow down or gain weight as I am still in really good shape and I take good care of myself. This just feels like a nightmare and this wasn't the true her, but unfortunately it's very real and it's time for me to move.
hey i noticed your comment is a bit old, im going through something similar and i have a few questions i wanted to ask you. how are you holding up? is your life better now without her or was it better back then when you were together? have u found anyone special that is "better" than her?
Thank you! I am sick of people trashing on Rose, saying that they both had room. Yes, they had room, but they didn't have the buoyancy! The door would have sunk! Jack even tried to get up on it too, and he couldn't. I will fight someone over this! Thank you for being the only person in the world who agrees with me, psych2go!
This videos are always reminding me why I should stop thinking about my ex or people who had hurted me, and I love them so much, they don't make me feel like they're blaming me for everything:(
TRUST, You don’t like each other anymore.., no respect, (lying, cheating, name calling...) selfish.. makes everything about themselves,,,do they think about you?....leaves little room for you...want different things.. compatible... you put in all the work.
Just got out of a 10 month relationship and wow being without her is incredibly tough, i honestly feel so lost and i dont know what to do without her or about the break up. We both still care about each other and still love each other but we decided to end it because we were arguing and things havent been the best, we have been through worse before though and made it out just fine which gives me hope but i dont know if i should pursue that hope. I feel like shes everything ive ever wanted and we were incredibly close, but i dont know if i should try to keep it together and move on, or give us another chance and try to work out something that maybe isnt meant to be. Sorry if what i said doesnt really make sense, my mind and my emotions are honestly all over the place. Also sorry for going to the comments i just dont have many people i can go to about the breakup.
If you’re still in need, I’m in a similar boat. I would say try, if you haven’t been blocked etc. give it 2-4 weeks to let the other person cool off and then maybe try to reach out. If you don’t have any success, it could be time to let that ship sail
@@dotteddice2358 I think it depends from person to person,someone is not interested in those things and like being single, and some people can't live without it,idk if I'm right but that's my opinion.
Actually everything will change,, People will change according to time,Needs, Intrest changes,, But what compatibility actually mean is you both love nd trust each other soo..much,, if u couple have love nd truth just don't leave any problem is solvable with this 2 elements - ❤ nd trust they r foundation.