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1. Slouching. 1:02 2. Holding a Defensive Position. 1:47 3. Not Walking with Confidence. 2:24 4. Appearing Distracted. 3:28 5. Too Much or Too Less Eye Contact. 3:54 6. Fidgeting. 4:44 I identify with every single one of these LOL.
Little hint for the eye contact thing: If you're in the middle of an little group, try to keep the eye contact to each one for 3 seconds while talking, this way, even if you aren't talking directly to someone in the group, they can still feel that they're part off the conversation, and not just existing there.
For the fidgetting thing, people who have ADHD tend to do that and in a certain way, it helps them to stay focused because they think better when they are in movement
I wanna point out that some of these behaviors are things that some people with autism, ADHD, etc. cannot help, and those people, like everyone else, also do not intend to give off bad vibes or appear rude in an interview.
Exactly. So the problem is actually that society needs to be more accepting of those people and not enforce arbitrary rules that seek only to oppress those that communicate differently. We aren't the problems, society is. I will not apologize for being who I am because I'm smart enough to recognize that I am not, and was never, at fault in that regard.
I have ADHD and am always anxious about people mistaking my fidgeting with my rings and doing/ looking somewhere else for disinterest. In reality, if a teacher is lecturing or something similar, I have to be doing SOMETHING else, or I will retain none of the information. So I guess it's all or nothing. Anyway, Thank you for the video, it will help me mask better, because, unfortunately, society can't handle amazingly awesome people like me yet. (Saying that for all the amazingly awesome people with ADHD and autism out there) If you are reading this, neurotypical or no, have a great day!!
But I think the video was more for people without any of those. Like I have anxiety and its hard for me to be confident and not slouch so I get it, but like other can stop these habits
I like how you put a bit more humor to the video than usually, but there are some comments that I think might suggest to some people that they're responsible for being mugged or ghosted or whatever. I think it is important to make it clear that poor body language gives no excuse of doing these stuff.
Funny... my "defensive position" usually involves a lot of running in tight circles and screaming "EVASIVE MANEUVERS! EVASIVE MANEUVERS!" It doesn't seem to help in job interviews either, but having developed the habit, I've found I'm a LOT more conscious of when I'm shifting into "my defensive position" now. ;o)
@@nano2.038 Maybe, the next time you find yourself "getting defensive" in your posture before there's good cause for it, you can picture me "getting into my defensive position" (as it were)... AND then you'll lighten up and start giggling, like so many other folks waiting for their job interviews when I last "got defensive"... Comedy can be ALL about self awareness, and noticing the rules just SO you break them at the perfect time. ...who needed that job anyway? ;o)
@@nano2.038 A lot of people are. I go "full on comic" when I get nervous or defensive. As long as I can keep 'em laughing, they can't even hurt me if they wanted to. ;o)
If this lady had to be my teacher, I’d be getting straight A’s. Her voice is so calming and you never get bored of listening to it. Also not to mention how funny she is😄
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Maybe instead of judging people so much how they dress, walk, talk or look, we should take EACH person as they are and discover through time. Realizing someone could be shy, had a bad day etc. There would be less suicides if people didn't feel they had to fit a cookie cutter world. We are too uptight over the wrong things! Not everyone can make a good impression. Just fed up with all the judging! Life is too short! YOU could be missing out on an amazing friendship because of being too judgmental!
Well said I too feel like people are so much into judging others that they even forget about their own behavior that could hurt others and it leads the others to feel insecure.
YES THANK YOU someone said it, why cant we just be our own people and accept everyone and talk to everyone equally. Some poeple get distracted easily so being disctrated is a problem for them, some people like to sit comfy and slouch a bit, doesnt mean they are any different from the rest.
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Alternative title: "Stop being you." No kidding, I do all of these and I will keep doing 2,4, and 5. I don't see anything bad with those except the lack of interaction with people who will keep on judging you anyway no matter how much you adjust yourself. So, why adjust to that extent?
2:25 i slouch when sitting, i don't have much confidence, but when i walk alone i always have a serious look, looking determined like i know exactly where i'm going, walk with a rapid pace (whish usually adds up to the fact that i'm always running late for everything) and with good posture. you want to look confident and strong so people won't see you as a vunerable target
We should never let our body language betray the confidence and sincerity of our words. Just as we should strive to be truthful and speak with conviction, our body should speak the same words with our actions.
I would like to add that eye contact struggles are very common for autistic people! A trick I learned for eye contact is looking at the space directly between the eyes, one of the person's tear ducts, or shifting gaze from one eye to the other (less intense than looking at both eyes at once).
@@gnarthdarkanen7464 I think that is sometimes helpful for us. By quickly drawing conclusions, we are able to adjust our approach to them (maybe they appear to be not a very bubbly or outgoing person so I will approach them gently) or assess if they are dangerous or not.
@@charfree6888 Some of it's fine... BUT there's a tendency to get downright unhealthy, judgmental, or even toxic with the level of conclusions some people draw... ...anyway, I just find it amusing, considering all the "helpful advice" about not judging books by their covers and so forth. ;o)
@@charfree6888 People that are outgoing and bubbly are the ones to look out for, they love being the center of attention, and when their ego's don't get stroked... watch out.
Where to start? 1) Back injury, I try to keep my posture good but it's hard 2) After being attacked constantly as a child my defenses go up easily 3) Walking confidently lead to my parent thinking I had an attitude and brought on an attack. It was safer to scurry around them and be unnoticeable. Back injury doesn't help now that I'm older. 4) ADHD is a pain. If I spend too much concentration on concentrating on the person talking I miss what they're saying. If I focus on listening not looking I catch everything. 5)Eye contact was another trigger to my abusive parent. Add ADHD and it's hard 6) Figeting and ADHD are friends. I am also very nervous
I find looking people in the face a lot easier than the eyes for a normal conversation, it shows I'm listening without making either of us feel too uncomfortable. I save direct eye contact for the heavier (or important) conversations.
this is definitely my favorite animation. the lines are very soft, the colors don’t pop out, very neutral and very calming, the art style is super cute.
Me: “Oh cool, maybe I can learn how to have better social interactions and sidestep my autism!” Psych2go: *6 minutes of naming common autism body language* Me: “...dammit....”
These tips have been reinforced my whole life... I have terrible social anxiety. I'm trying to work on them, but I wish there was more understanding for the reason behind these specific habits.
Some of these are just making it seem like people are bad for being neuro divergente (meaning having ADHD, OCD, PTSD, etc.) or having jobs on computers, or just being someone like me who does a lot of crossing of legs, arms, and putting one hand on my hip.
I'm prone to everything listed (unintentionally). It's hard to act like you aren't nervous when you are, in fact, nervous. All the time. My mind forsakes me! Even when I'm not nervous, I feel like I need to do something with my hands; I tend to use hand gestures when I'm talking. Eye contact is hard; I feel very uncomfortable when someone is staring at me. Slouching is a bad habit, and walking confidently in public is challenging at times.
I understand why people want me to look at them when they are talking, it is difficult for me to do so because i am autistic. Either I look away and listen very carefully or I look at them and forget what they said or cant listen to what they are saying. (looking someone in the eye is difficult for me, especially if I am doing it for more than 2 or 3 seconds).
This was really helpful, especially having healthy posture, but what about people who are autistic or have ADHD? Some of the behaviors, like stimming and limited eye contact are habits that seem to be an inherent part of some people. Should behaviors like these still be corrected or should they just be accepted as the way that person is? I've heard that it's really stressful for some autistic people to stop simming or to give some people eye contact, and at the end of the day, they get burnt out from it, and just want to be accepted by others for the way they are. At least, as far as I know. It would be nice to have more videos about this subject.
Yeah, trying to force neurodivergent people to act the way neurotypicals like by controlling things like eye contact and stimming is ableist, no question about it. They can either accept how we're wired or mind their damn business- it is incredibly selfish of them to think we should be the ones to change when we are the ones who can't help the way we are. THEY can change, or they can just not talk to anyone ever again.
I was thinking the same. I went from too much staring to almost no eye contact. I can listen better when I don't look directly at the person or when I'm looking around passively, and I fidget and stim constantly. All of these increased the older I got. My brain power is too focused on keeping me alive that it gave up on trying to keep me looking "normal".
I don’t know how to stop looking away from peoples eyes. It’s not even just people I recently met, I still can’t hold an entire conversation with my best friend or parents while maintaining eye contact the whole time. My brothers are one of the most important people in my life and odds are I couldn’t tell you what color eyes they have
Well, if the chairs I'm forced to sit in 5 hours a day didn't hurt my spine so much, maybe I wouldn't slouch. Sorry for the snappy tone, I didn't get much sleep last night. Also, I have ADHD, which makes it difficult for me to maintain eye contact.
I'm a very high fuctioning Autist, as a Child I was always at the adults section researching. I studied Psychology and body language as a child, self taught from my second home: The Library. Didn't help much as I maintained eye contact for too long. At 46 years old my Psychologist who diagnost my Autism stated my eye contact made him unconfortable. Good thing is I already knew Chinese don't like eye contact. I'm a Chinese Chef.
I observed one thing in this video, her talking style was slightly different from the other videos. And I am pretty sure, that was because she was not trying to hurt the feelings of the people who have these habits; at all. Because it would maybe make them sad. So, she talked a bit differently ,for example "Crackers, not the snacks" and "drum solos might be entertaining, but leave them to drum experts" . ❤️❤️❤️❤️ She is soo good. ILY ❤️❤️❤️❤️
I've always had a "walk of confidence" I put on when walking to/from school, and I always know when someone is around. When I leave my house, I look up and down the streets, doing the same when I turn corners. My friends always found it weird, but I do it out of need for safety. I also hate walking alone, but I normally have to, especially to school. So yeah, I always make sure I know the normal time I leave and the people who show up around that time, and if I feel iffy about something, I leave 5 minutes early that day just to make sure I feel safe. And I live in a pretty good neighborhood, but that's what my mom+dad always taught me too do.
this video made me uncomfortable i have autism so i cant just stop fidgeting or look someone in the eyes its very stressful for me and i cant focus without it
3:54 uh oh 😬 I have social anxiety and I always avoid making eye contact with other people like when I'm shopping. I never really think about their point of view but if I were one of those people and this person keeps avoiding making eye contact with me I would think I don't look normal or something. I should stop avoiding making eye contact
If that happens please tell them you have trouble concentrating. If you want to you can talk to a psychiatrist to look into attention problems or even adhd. Hopes this helps you 🌠
I love how comedic the narrator was in this one. She usually makes jokes in every video but I felt like she explored that much more here and it was quite surprising lol
Heh, nearly everything you said, I do. I'm also severely ADHD, so I'm basically a walking fidget and general annoyance to those who take themselves way too seriously. 🙃
I'm a lucky woman as my boyfriend actually really hears everything I say AND remembers. But - - -as I'm into a long story or explanation he always starts doing something. . . fidgeting with some project or straightening something or moving around. GEEZE IT IS SO ANNOYING!!! Plus he often interrupts me. I love him but hate his conversational style. I guess the sharing at A.A. meetings has spoiled me. Never an interruption and attentive listening. My friend isn't an alcoholic so he doesn't know the 'rules of good listening'.
You sound incredibly self-absorbed, and I feel terrible for your boyfriend. This behavior really isn't as bad as you're making it out to be. Really, it's your fault for being intolerant of things that I can tell are beyond his control. No one should be expected to stay perfectly still and staring into your soul when you're rambling on and on and eating up precious time. He's a human being, not a robot. Human beings fidget and don't have long attention spans. I bet you have similar traits too, you just don't think they should bother anyone because "you can't help it" yet you impose this ridiculous double standard on your poor boyfriend. I feel like you guys need to talk things out- with YOU being the one that needs to listen more.
I'm just thinking about how difficult society is for people with adhd or autism in this specific scenario. Can we also keep that in mind before we judge someone without asking 'what's wrong?'. Because it's OK to fix some of these habits, but if you meet new people or are going on a date, please let them know so they can understand!
Being aware and conscious of your body language is another challenge in of itself. But once you are more aware, the easier it will be to change these habits :)
0:16 Me *just listening and watching* 0:18 Me: *oh MY GOODNESS!! IS THAT GEORGE'S GOGGLES?!* *OH MY GOODNESS IT IS!! IT IS GEORGE! OH MY GOODNESS AMONG US* Me: .... *OH MY GOODNESS! Patches!! * *(Dream's Cat)* Me: *OH AND TECHNO!! (Technoblade)* Me: *Oh my goodness, and Philza!*
something i just wanna say is, i swear dancers have the best posture! (as im also a dancer) i feel like dancers have better posture as when we regulary dance we are told "dont sliuch, pull up," all the time and im really grateful for it
