tometo souce And I finally grasped the concept of going out with friends (I'm bit of a introvert, that also doesn't live in suburbia, or the city), man i feel that my biggest enemy today is the PRC, like the millennials had the 2008 recession, while me turning 18 last year get this absolute BS, the economy of the world barely holding on and many people around the world dying, i think we Zoomers, are going to be Stagnators, or even Collapsers, I'm big enough of a History Nerd to know what happens next...
i'm supposed to be moving across the country for school starting in September... lets hope this all dies down by then so i can actually get out of my comfort zone and grow
There's even someone out there for you who thinks the same of themselves. Just live it. You will regret it more not trying than doing it and screwing it up.
I was broke and that didn't prevent me from going couchsurfing, hitchhiking, figuring out how to make money while travelling, making new experiences etc, that's not an excuse. And "ugly", seriously?
Also quick thing. Don't look for perfection at first try. I can't stress this enough. A lot of times when we approach something we look for perfection at the first try and a lot of times we don't even try those things because we feel we will fuck it up. Chances are you will fuck it up and it's fine. We've all been there. Do many things and fail at those things and fix your mistakes cause you will acquire more skills than those who don't attempt it.
Things i wish i had started doing earlier (i'm 25) 1. Reading at least 10 pages x day of a great book. (May not sound like alot but just do the math and see how many books you could be reading in a year). 2. Exercise at least 5 - 10 minutes every day (Same principle. Several ppl tries to do huge exercise routines that they can't keep up with. Keep it simple and easy but steady) 3. Meditate (I used to laugh of ppl doing meditation until i really tried it and found my inner self. This is hard to explain so just give it a try and you'll experience what i mean) 4. Cut distractions (NetFlix, Excessive amount of hours playing online games, Phone and social media) 5. Devote at least 90 minutes of conscious hard work x day to my craft (profession) 6. Be a student at least for 60 minutes a day. (it can be anything... a book, a podcast, a youtube video from one of your mentors) 7. Be grateful for the things that i already have and those that i'm in the process of manifesting. Gratefulness is very powerfull! 8. Waking up early at least from Monday to Friday (5 am) --> There's magic and alot of room for self development in the early hours of the day (while everyone else is sleeping) 9. Understanding that will power is a muscle. So you need to exercise every single day by taking action . 10. When you feel like you don't really want to do something that you should do (wathever it is) is definitely the best time to do it (builds will power)
It's amazing how you described these 10 things. I would say the same and add started a youtube channel just uploading once a week. It would be something huge after a couple of years
I just turned 21 and this was really nice to hear, I’ve been feeling bad about myself that I let my depression and mental health destroy all my love and passions, if I could talk to my 16 year old self I would tell myself please do not give up on photography, piano, writing poetry, RU-vid ideas, and anything else you love because now I do regret not starting but I also know that the more I focus on what I gave up because of my struggles I’ll never have the courage to start again, so to myself and anyone who reads this, please know it is never too late to do something you love, you are on your OWN timeline for a reason and the way society makes us feel so rushed and compared to one another is unrealistic and damaging, you’re where you’re at no matter what you have or HAVEN’T done yet for a reason and it’s OKAY. We won’t regret when we started what we love, we will regret that we gave up
Disagreed. No person is "negative" per se. There is always more to a character, there are reasons behind behaviour and different subjective perspectives to everything. As long as you're not hurt by encountering those people and as long as you can come up with the energy to deal with them, it can be very fulfilling to help them. Because in the end, that's what they need most of the time (at least in my personal experience). There are very few people that enjoy being negative when being honest with themselves.
That hilarious moment when is midnight, you've just turned 20 and this is is the first thing that appears in your youtube recommendations.. After a year edit: Happy Birthday everyone!!
1. Take responsibility 2. Confidence builds by doing 3. Document more 4. Go on more dates 5. Travel now 6. Use moisturizer EDIT: I'm not discouraging you to watch the whole video, I just needed to write the 6 points down :D
1. Take responsibility for yourself 0:46 2. Confidence builds by doing 2:07 3. Document more 3:35 4. Use moisturiser 6:11 5. Go on more dates 7:22 6. Travel now 9:31
Things I wish I knew: 1) Don't spend more than you earn. 2) Make time for your friends 3) Don't settle with someone, just because it's been this way for a while. 4) Seek out your friends and family for advice. 5) Invest time and money into the thing(s) that you truly care about.
@@klutz3955 I was in a relationship that gradually turned toxic the older we got, but because we were together for years I wasn't confident enough in myself to just end it. I missed out on so much because I put too my wasted time and energy into someone that didn't make me happy anymore, and hadn't done for a long time no matter how much we tried to fix the problems we had. Ev
Things I wish I knew when I was 20 1. Spend quality time with family, as you never know when they will be taken away from you. 2. Start good habits such as meditation and working out. 3. Girls aren't everything. 4. Materialist items aren't everything. 5. Don't take anything for granted.
Skinny_Cam. 1.Parents are so hard to have a relationship with... atm 2. Meditation is amazing but for working out, I’m too self conscious and am too lazy to get to a gym 3. Don’t have the courage yet too get rid of social awkwardness and anxiety 4. Don’t have a job because I don’t have the courage to try get hired 5. I’ll try to be grateful. My (hopefully) Honest replies to these, Hope you don’t cringe too hard.
@@nameisrango hey, I'm 19 too, trying to improve myself everyday, I read books, I work out and meditate, I found myself a job, I'm also trying to spend more time with my mom , best of luck to you y'all❤
1. DON'T SMOKE 2. Your opinión about yourself is the only one that matters so work hard on accepting yourself. 3. Be present in the beautiful moments 5. Put limits to your phone 6. Allow yourself to love more
nice guys dont get girls, I am 25 and a nice guy, and nobody wants a nice guy with interesting hobbies and interests. I actually have no idea what girls want from guys, BEEF'd up muscles? being jerks? cos I suck at both
Things I wish I knew when I was 20: - don’t wait for your parents’ approval to do the things you love - take a chance on yourself because the path you want to take might not look the same as someone else doing what you want to do - i’ve got a sh*t ton of limiting beliefs about money and it’s better I look at it 20 - don’t take myself too seriously and enjoy the creative process of getting to know myself and my purpose - get rid of the sentence “when I achieve X, then I’ll be happy”
*Six Things I Knew At 20* 1. Take Responsibility 0:47 2. Confidence Builds By Doing 2:09 3. Document More 3:36 4. Use Moisturizer 6:11 5. Go On More Dates 7:23 6. Travel Now 9:32
Another important thing: Never regret anything. No matter how small or how big it is. People really don't know how much time and energy it eats up from your life.
YES turn that feeling of regret into processing it and learning something new about yourself or life . Not I regret doing this but now I know I shouldn't do this
Disagree. There are some things you should regret, and use them as guideposts for what you should do in the future. Like if you wanted to talk to that cute girl at the mall, but didn't. You should feel that regret. So when the next opportunity arises, you'd dare not miss it. Lest you should have to feel that pain of regret all over again.
@@invaderz1919 what I meant was to take the lesson from your mistake, keep it with you, and leave the regret behind. In the end, you shouldn't compulsively ask yourself why you did or didn't do something. Just come to terms with it and believe in yourself that you wouldn't let that happen again.
Go somewhere in your city you've never been champ. Walk there, borrow a tent from a friend or relative. The only thing between you and your goals are your excuses. Get creative.
Go to a cafe you've never been to. Go to a small restaurant in your town that you've never been to. Just go somewhere new in your home town, a new corner you haven't explored yet, and just take in the atmosphere.
@@taylorbritt499 I like that, it's so true, I've felt a bit down in the dumps at times and went to Brighton for the day (about an hour from me) and hadn't been in years. And it really helped get that travel vibe. Because that's all you're really doing when you travel, as you say, taking in the atmosphere.
@@jambononi thanks! That's awesome, I'm glad you were able to have that experience :) I go to college in a fairly big town and anytime I get to go to a new area of town, I get so excited. It's fun exploring new places!
1. Taking responsibility 2. Confidence builds by doing 3. Document more 4. Use moisturiser - good skincare routine 5. Go on more dates 6. Travel now Watch the video anyway. Was very helpful
@@Classic_literature I think he kind of means, your trajectory is the same as your friends. If you don't like where you are, look to see if you respect where your friends are too. You can learn a lot from how similar your life choices are to your friends and if you feel unfulfilled you might find that the things you want from your future might not be the same as those you spend time with. This can lead to a lot of unhappiness.
I've always been the closest friends with cats, although I'd get really depressed from time to time (due to the people around me in general), I'd get my self confidence back on track perfectly. It's a bit tough for someone who literally has no one to talk to about their emotions. Yet I do it. Trust me, cats taught me the subtle art of not giving a f.
I'm 19 but then I thought: What if I write a book about "things I wish to know when I am 19"... And then, next year to write another book about all the things I wanted to do and I did in that short-term last year.... Idk, would somebody read those books? what do you think? it just came to my mind.
Things I wish I knew when I was 20 * happiness is a choice that you make * Meditating 5-10 minutes a day drastically everyday decreases anxiety * Pursue whatever passion intrigues you * your posture and body language determine and influence your mood
As someone with severe depression and anxiety who recently started taking proper medication for it I don't find the first one to be true. You can do steps towards it and practice positive thinking but you don't know what life can throw at you. I can't truly feel happiness but at least I'm not in a dark place either thanks to my anti-depressants, it's just neutral and I'm fine with that.
1. Show those you love, that you love them. 2. Stop comparing your life to others . 3. Plan for the Future, but Enjoy the Present. Really..don't let not having money stand in your way.
1. Don’t buy stuff that you’re not gonna use in a year or 10 years 2. Don’t split your focus on more than 1-2 ventures 3. Think about 2nd and 3rd order consequences 4. Invest in stocks extra money instead of investing them on drugs, alcohol and cigarettes 5. Track your habits P.s. I tried a lot of shit(drugs,girls) traveled to 24 counties by hitchhiking and all of that when I was 18-20 I am so glad that I did all of that stupid shit and didn’t die and I have all of that documented on my Instagram which I don’t use lol. Now I just work on my self, improving my job skills, read books, eat healthy and workout everyday, plan my days and stay very minimalistic
Would you recommend doing drugs and girls to a person in early 20s ? what was your experience with these things?.....are these things just a waste if time and we should just focus on improving ourselves?
*#1 thing to know in 20's is that everything worthwhile, takes time to build, achieve, attain and master.* Take your time to figure out what you love and don't be rushed by societal pressure.
Now, I'm on my 20s. And I have accumulated these lessons for myself: 1. Develop your curiosity 2. Less is more (that's why I love minimalism) 3. Invest in your mind 4. Whatever you're doing (hate it or love it), do your best.
1. Taking responsibility. (0:46) 2. Confidence builds by doing. (2:08) 3. Document more. (3:36) 4. Use Moisturiser. (6:12) 5. Go on more dates. ( 7:21) 6. Travel now. (9:32)
Everyone is saying they are “poor” to travel. Change that mindset. Be positive, don’t ever say you’re poor even when money is limited. A little adventure in your backyard, town, or down the road is ok!! Also, save some money and plan a small trip with a significant one (a friend, a love one, or a family member) and meet new places. You won’t regret it.
Being poor is a mindset and lasts forever... Being broke is temporary. Just because your money is limited now doesn't mean your poor, however if you see yourself as poor and see success and riches as impossible because you don't have the resorces than in that case, yes your poor. I highly recommend reading rich dad poor dad it will change your mindset.
"I ended a long term relationship at 20 and never went on a date for 5 years which was the longest" me sitting here being 19 and never going on a date O_o
I think it is not the most important thing to go on dates. First of all it is quite stressing. And secondly, you meet the best people always accidentally. After my ex-bf ended our relationship I was going desperately on dates. But I met my current bf while playing pokemon go and this was way more fun and relaxing. So I would say, dont feel bad, if you dont go on dates.
Bro life is such a trip.. I survived cancer twice and lost half my face to amputation.. a tumor destroyed my jaw and changed everything.. I was labeled a freak. I decided to start over, travel South America and start a youtube channel to inspire others who feel ugly and not good enough for this world.. it's all about energy and mindset.. my scars will not define me. with optimism and positive projection you can overcome any mental or physical hurdle. self love from within overpowers any physical shell! go check me out and subscribe if you want to help me grow. i want to give people a spark of change and join me on my journey!
Things I wish I knew at 20: 1. Do more self-help and development 2. Spend less time on dating 3. Be patient and don’t try to master everything 4. Read more books 5. Document my thoughts more often 6. Explore more unconventional paths
Things i'm learning in my 20s: -Take risks NOW -Take these years as a training for the game of life, don't be hard on yourself - Don't accept the reality you've been sold, you can get out of the box
Things i wish i knew in my 20s (I'm 27): 1. College is not equal success 2. Start working on small goals and build small companies 3. Go out more and network more 4. Try as many different things as possible not just your passion 5. Take more risk in business 6. High gpa is not equal success or better job. 7. Don't workout for 2 hours every day is you're not going to be a fitness influencer or bodybuilder. 8. Travel and take your family with you
I turned 20 today, and this legend uploaded a video about what to do at the age of 20, thank you for uploading this video, Matt. Honestly, you've helped me change so much. Love from India! :D
I'm currently 19 and am continuously sabotaging myself with self- doubts about my future and what I'd like to do. But your videos provide some guidance. Thank you Matt!
*Ey ey ey* You're both good bois. You'll become better bois one day. But every boi does. So start slow, do a little a day. Start a new small habit boi. Like doing your bed every morning. It's not always going to be an easy boi, but you're a good boi. Everyone starts as young dumb bois, some more and some less. But that's variation boi. You have the power of most of your life ahead of you. A lot of people realize this when they have less life ahead of them. To conclude, be the good bois you were always going to be.
I just 20, I struggle with the same issues though I’m trying to fight it. There was a quote in To Kill A mockingbird where it said and I’m paraphrasing courage is doing something even if you know you will fail, but you see it through. Nothing that you truly want in life will be handed to you, so just try. Day by day.
"Confidence builds by doing" - As someone who overthinks himself into being paralyzed and unable to just take action so often, this is so true. The simple act of getting started almost always turns into a snowball effect of confidence and motivation.
I'm in my early 20s and one thing I would advise is while you may not be chasing your passions, be passionate about what you chase. Thanks for the video, Matt!
1) be grateful for the mundane. After you've been through it, being "just ok" can be really, really good 2) don't compare your circumstances to others 3) use every drop of your "young" energy/drive 4) but have a routine/ritual for self care 5) some people are only meant to be a part of your life for a certain duration, don't hold on too tightly (still learning that one)
Fuck no. You're young as fuck and got loads of time to figure it out to make it better. In 20 years you'll be so glad you didn't take the way out and instead built a meaningful life. Seek professional help if needed, that investment (both time and money) will be worth it if it gets your mental state up!
@MaskSo James I understand the frustration. I'm 32 and I'm still frustrated about my success not being what I hoped for. Financially I'm doing really ok though, maybe human nature makes us too hard on ourselves. There's always someone above you to compare one's self to. The trick is to be content with less. I don't know how to do that though :D
@K. Gábor I'm trying in a way. I do a daily journal of day's successes, thing I felt happy about and failures before I go to sleep. Quite a few times by forcing myself to think I've realized that the day has been better than I felt about it during.
@@AMR-zo5ut that's quite true. There's always the next level. One can try to bullshit themselves and say that the next level is where I'll be content, but if it's too hard to stop leveling up now, why would it be easier on the next level..
What I learned is contradictory to his: Don't date too many girls. Ugly relationship can ruin you life. You can have a good relationship when you're already happy and content.
Yes, it's not about the date I think. More like socialize more, and learn what's best for you Even with the good people, doesn't mean we'll make good relationship
Maybe a bit of a nuance, but I'm not sure that 'dating girls' and 'going on dates' are the same thing, you can just go on a date with a girl without 'dating' them. Like Ghina says, it's more about meeting new people and expanding your horizons
Hmmm thanks for this Matt; it reminded me of a lot of past memories I've glazed over now. Here's my list: 1) Find your community. That club? That soririty? That frat you were so worried about joining? JOIN IT. Your future friends and future self will thank you. 2) Ask for help. Seek that guidance counselor, use the psych counseling resources on campus, there is nothing worse than isolating yourself in your apartment thinking you can't do shit when really you very much can. 3) Keep learning, keep asking questions. Yes, the classes you attend are huge and intimidating but 9 times out of 10 there's another student waiting for an answer for your question or a teacher waiting for a student to help them teach you better. 4) Find one creative hobby to exercise besides cooking/baking. Food is great but not when you consume it at your emotional convenience. You've always loved music singing, and writing, but maybe instead find a hobby which guarantees you will make time to destress (aka find a friend to keep you accountable). 5) Document your experiences, mundane or not. Your memory will falter and only get worse with your depression, so take the time to write down all the small things that made you happy or made you feel accomplished (again, your future self will thank you). 6) Tell your parents more about yourself. They'll ask you questions about your grades and how you're doing in class but don't let those things define you. Yes doing well in school is important but so is growing as a person. Whether this is gaining a new skill set, being more invested in social/political issues around you or being more aware of your emotions, don't be afraid to speak up. Don't let your parents say "I hardly know you". LET THEM SEE YOU. Whoo hoo this was fun! Definitely writing this down and pinning it for a reminder on days I forget to do these things.
@@artemmartus4253 maybe that's something to ask yourself. Personally, me distancing myself from my parents caused unecessary stress in university and isolating behaviors in my social life. I didn't feel like I knew myself emotionally or socially because I associated my value with good grades. So when my grades tanked....well so did my confidence and self-worth
Things I wish I knew before I was 20 1 - If I want to make others smile, I have to learn to genuinely smile first 2 - If I want to find love, I have to learn how to love myself first, no matter how long it takes. Having huge insecurities while in a relationship could possibly drag the other person down, or others around you (not your SO) 3 - I deserve my own love more than anyone else 4 - Everyone has different goals in life, some goals require different steps than the norm, and that's completely okay (example is whether going to college may be a good idea or not) 5 - I like to imagine my insecurities are a separate entity, and me and this entity are in a boxing rink. I need to beat this person up, I have to win, I feel like shit if I lose. But if I lose it's fine, because I can meet that person again and kick their ass later 6 - When I feel like crying, just take many deep breaths, doesn't work always for me but it's cool I guess. Although crying is never wrong, sometimes I just prefer to hold it in EDIT: About #2, I still believe what I say, but I also agree with Ruby Rootless, both options are fine. I know we will always have insecurities no matter what, so it's totally cool if you get help, keep it a good healthy balance between getting help from friends and solving your own problems
People say that a lot - "love yourself before you're loved by someone else". Yes, it can drag the other person down, but the point is that you need to know how to process your own thoughts if you're not comfortable with yourself. Self-reflection can make up for a lack of self-love. It's a problem if you just lash out at your person because of yohr insecurities, but if you're able to comprehend you you feel a certain way and then tell your partner calmly after you had some time to think, what's the matter?
Top 5 things I've learned and practice since I was 20 (I'm 27 now): 1. Reliability 2. Accountability 3. Responsibility 4. Financial awareness 5. Getting over my fear of answering the phone/emails (still have to put effort into that one).
@@Michellemccoolrocks9 I am currently in the process of closing a deal for my internship, and sometimes I find myself denying to open up a mail (from them) because I feel like it's gonna be some bad news about it. This feeling comes from a certain point in the past, but I haven't figured it out completely yet.
Things I'm learning a week away from being 20: -It's okay to say no, it's your life and you get to choose what you're okay with. - just because you're sad doesn't mean you're sick or broken, you have to eat right, drink water, sleep, socialise, exercise and meet your other personal needs first. - Try to make the most out of your money, sometimes spending all your money on partying is just not worth it. -There's always tomorrow, a bad day doesn't have to be a bad week :) -Rediscovering things you loved as a child is so important -EXPLORE
Things i wish I knew when i was 20 : Postpone university, instead volunteer around the world, gain experiences through doing. The more you do this, the more mentally flexible you will become as you grow.
Maybe he didn't mean "around the world" literally lol. But yeah, have different jobs, meet people, look for what you like to do, maybe make some money... That's what I did. Wish me luck, I'm doing the Admission Test® for my college this Saturday
woof, work away, are two voluntaree operations a cross the globe. In exchange for a couple of hours of work every day, you receive room and board. Its not lavish, but you get to see the entire world in a fraction of a price. I can understand if it's frighting especially for women, but if tou are into adventures, you can travel the world this way.
@@daniella8579 If you can, try saving money at every corner if you really wanna do it and are not bound by familiy circumstances. Travel to backpacker countries like New Zealand or Australia for example for your first time, easier to acclimate there and very safe when traveling alone, for women as well. Have enough money to live cheap there (spaghetti, rice and hostels) for about 2 to 4 weeks max. Find a job there (preferably where they give free accomodation like hostels for example) and a side gig (kitchen hand, waitress, reception, retail, whatevs...). So the only expenses you have while living in a hostel are food and maybe transportation to your other job. In your free time you can explore the city, the landscape or just chill at the beach, depends on your location of course. AND YOU STILL ARE SAVING MONEY THAT WAY. No chance you spend the 60 dollars you just earned for 5 hours working at that restaurant on the next day already. When you cook yourself, you can easily save 50+ dollars plus every workday. do that for some weeks/months, and enjoy the new place you live. Travel for some time with the money you earned until your bank acc shows some low numbers, and settle down in the next place for work again. Maybe in your old city, maybe in a new countryside doing farmwork? Who knows, it's your life. So go out. No reason to do couchsurfing or hitchhiking.
@@daniella8579 If you really choose to abandon college for the short term, you probably could do something like this- you'd have to be in a position long enough to make at least $15/hr, but within a year or so you could fund a few trips.
Things I wish I knew when I was a teenager: *Just because someone WANTS the best for you in life doesn't mean they'd KNOW what's best for you in life.* That could be your parents, teachers, friends, or even your ENTIRE SOCIETY. USE THE INTERNET to meet professional life coaches from around the world. Make someone your "second" life guide, teacher or parent. Whatever makes u think like "are my parents REALLY right about this or are they just THINKING it's right?", take THAT thought, go talk to your second guidance about that. Make sure your second guidance is someone broad minded. Why? There will always be different kinds of "brainwashing of the masses" going on around the world. An example of "brainwashing of masses": In SOME extremely orthodox places around the world, you would: 1. Get treated like you're a lesser human being for wearing a pair of thigh length shorts or a crop top. 2. You'd be looked upon as an extremely sick minded person for wanting to go on dates before the age of 25+. Unless you're on the path to settling down by getting married, EVEN modern day dating WITHOUT any sexual relationships is still such a SLUTTY thing to them. 3. Sexism will be the norm in certain ways. Need higher education? u go get it girl equality! But you've lost your v-card before marriage? you're not a male, for fuck's sake, are u insane? no one is going to marry a "second hand" woman, you're disowned by this family from now on! So firstly, *I'm not against how people around the world live, I myself am someone old-fashioned, prefer to stay chaste until I'm married.* I'm NOT trying to blame anyone here. People who love to life in such a way should live that way. But the fact is: *When majority of people in a certain place, PREFER a certain lifestyle the most, the newer generations will be forced as per their elders' preferences forever, even if it's inhumane and unnecessary. There were/are/will be, millions of people who'd value their traditions over human rights. Period.* My point is, if you are someone BORN in such a place and your preferences are the same as their standards/stereotypes, it's fine. BUT if you prefer OTHERWISE, you NEED to teach yourself about the lifestyles of people around the world. *Otherwise, you won't have a chance at living a NORMAL life with proper human rights, as they'd force you to change yourself if u want to be treated/respected as a fellow human.* The best part? Until you learn how the people around the world live differently, you won't be AWARE of other lifestyles out there. All you'd have been taught is how the lifestyle they tell you to adapt to, is the only acceptable one. And if u don't play along? you'd get mistreated at random situations, all because you chose a different lifestyle. *You'd to made to live your entire life feeling guilty and ashamed of your own preferences.* All of this could be prevented, if you'd just have a SECOND guidance from somewhere else around the world.
From now - 25 LIVE YOUR LIFE , ZERO PRESSURE , SOAK IT ALL UP . Learn that someone opinion of you is none of your business. Go out party , laugh , fuck up , be silly , stop comparing , DO YOU my friend
Holy crap, Matt! Best day ever : woke up, got ready, opened up RU-vid, and Matt uploads a video!!! Matt, can you do a video on finding meaning in your life ?????
Yes. I think I have a serious problem. I overthink everything and always feel stupid about something I did or didn't say or do, I even begin to stumble over my words
i don't actually have fear. but i'm too lazy to socialize. it's easier to make friends (and i've many friends or semi-friends...) than keep them. i figure i'm just a loner. :(
@@yihsiao_47426 no dont think like that, join a club in college become part of the eboard of that club. You will start spending more time with other people. Get to know them, treat them the way you want to be treated. You will realize how close youre getting to them. Then start hanging out every week, go to restaurants, watch movies, play some sports together! Hope this helps, cause i was also in your position a few years ago when i was in high school. I didnt have an actual group of friends and i hated that cause i was shy, i missed out on so much. Thats never happening again, try practicing affirmations, it will take time but still keep repeating them whenever you can!
I'm 45 now, and here are some lessons I've learned only rather recently (and of course, painfully 😉): 1) OWN. YOUR. FREAKING. LIFE. It's nobody else's fault your dreams turned to dust, it's your own fault. That about sums it up. 2) You will not live forever. You may realize this, but it hasn't REALLY dawned on you yet. Let me put it another way: you have a VERY limited time in your life in which you will have a flexible brain and body. All too soon, the joints start creaking and hurting bit by bit, and the mind begins to rebel against new information and ways of thinking. There are ways to extend your neurophysical elasticity, but it takes a concerted effort. Take it seriously. 3) An hour of your time at 20 is worth twice as much (to you) than at 40. One hour of effort at 20 will affect the rest of your life (positively or negatively). One hour of effort at 40 MISSES the years between 20 and 40, and is less fruitful than the hour spent (learning/studying/doing/being) at 40. I'm not saying you're DEAD at 40! 40 is still wonderful. But it's not 20. So take care of your 20 year old self. Your 40 year old self will thank you. One more very personal lesson: many idiots are religious, but religion is not idiotic. Don't brush off other people's ways of viewing the world. Embrace them, while remaining true to who you are. There is a lot I respect in other people's faiths and cultures. It does not significantly change my relationship to my own, but it does rather enrich it. Be kind.
I’m 20 right now and I’ve never really thought about how my time now has so much more of an affect on my future than when I’m 40 wow, hopefully my 40 year old self will appreciate what I’m doing now haha, thank you for sharing!
I'm gonna be 20 in august... I'm putting off uni for 2 years to travel, teach art overseas, discover what I really believe, and grow in my character and identity. Any advice? Thoughts? Input?
Amber P. I took time out between college and uni and started my degree this year at 21. I didn’t travel, I decided to take a year to work and just gain a bit more life experience from that. Honestly it’s the best decision I ever made. Taking yourself out of an academically driven space to just live your life and solve real life problems really gives you some clarity. You will for sure realise what really matters to you as you experience more of the world. Just go with the flow of it all and enjoy the ride and do what makes you happy. That might be not going to uni at all, or changing your idea of what you want to study etc, but honestly love your best life and learn
Amber P. That's so cool! I'm also about to turn 20 and I'm planning to move somewhere abroad next year. I'd love to learn about how youre teaching art overseas if you'd feel open to sharing?
@@UddlePuddle97 aaah so cool to hear your story! super encouraging. How was it to join uni at a bit of an older age than some? I'm worried I will feel out of place socially if I study later...
@@rindeer8094 hey! Yeah sure... so I'm actually in a course w a organization called ywam (youth with a mission) and am currently doing a christian missions/counselling training course (it's not a uni course) as an artist I'm using arts to share a story of love (I don't like to call myself a Christian but I love Jesus and I wanna love people and let them know they are loved through art) as well as learning how to use art in counselling. I'm gonna staff in an art focused mission course in Brazil through YWAM (it's in September if you're interested...!)
Amber P. You’ll be surprised. I’m actually one of the younger people on my course. There are people in their 40’s and 50’s on my course! My mother is actually also a student at my uni, she’s in her mid 40’s. You won’t be the oldest there, and it’s actually great to be mixed in with all these different people of different ages because you gain so much insight into different ways of life and experiences. And the people that are younger than me aren’t that much younger. One of my best friends through uni was 18 when we started and we get along great. I’ve been dubbed the uni mam in my friendship group for being the oldest but that’s literally the only thing that points out the fact I didn’t go straight into higher study
I'm 21. I'm a quite introverted person and growing up I never really liked changing/trying new things, but from being in college and some significant life-changing events happened the last couple of years, I really feel the "Confidence builds by doing" segment of the video, you gotta get out of your comfort zone, to truly experience and learn, whether it's school or dating, just don't stick with one routine just because it's comfortable/has been working for you, you never know what else is out there, so never stop trying
