6 Verbal Tricks To Make An Aggressive Person Feel Instant Regret

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We've all found ourselves in conversation and felt attacked like we started off talking about one thing and then the other person twisted our words and before we knew it, we lost our cool, lost respect in their eyes, and maybe even acted like a jerk. Now, I don't normally do the same person twice in a row but this interview between Cathy Newman and Jordan Peterson was just too interesting of an opportunity to discuss how you can handle someone who uses subtle conversational tricks to bully you into looking dumb. So in this video, you're gonna see firsthand some of the most common tricks that people might be using on you and you're also gonna learn how to reverse those so that you can walk out of a kind of aggressive situation having earned more respect than you had going in.
So first off, to stop a conversational bully, you have to realize what's going on before it's too late. Now, typically, a person will reveal their aggressive attitude early on with their tone of voice and their word choice. Check out the rest that we will show in this video and how Jordan Peterson tackles them.
1:49 Jordan Peterson deals with so-you're-saying trap
2:39 Jordan Peterson deals with the "assuming the sale"
5:30 Jordan Peterson deals with the smash technique
7:08 But don't straw man the other person's ideas though
7:47 And visual imagery can also help
8:25 You can show them that they're already agreeing with you
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@wieb72 3 года назад

I love the statement someone made years ago. "People don't want to hear your opinion. They want their opinion to come out of your mouth."

@hees0009 3 года назад

That's basically most humans. Even myself. It's actually a survival technique to respond positively to those who support our ideology, while avoiding those who could present a threat. You might think we'd have moved on after thousands of years...

@ramoncotta1264 3 года назад

My tactic is to exaggerate, in a bombastic and exaggerated fashion, in the following way: "Oh my God! That's exactly right, boy you hit the nail right on the head, no doubt about it! It's like you're in my head or something! I mean WOW! You even got all the punctuation down with your inflection, and I have to hand it to you, wow, yup exactly down to the last molecule, a precise word for word rendition of not only what I said but what I meant by it, which by the way is exactly what I said. " Then I sit back beaming smugly at them because I called them a liar in a very sarcastic way. Nobody wants to argue with me anymore after that. Nasty, I know, but it has been several years since I realized there is no way to convert a fanatic so the best you can do is cut the interaction to a minimum and hope they die soon.

@hees0009 3 года назад

@airlockengage agreed.

@Camaink1 3 года назад

@@ramoncotta1264 that is radical bro!

@mikep9312 3 года назад

@@hees0009 That's just straight up confirmation bias though and doesn't save you at all from the ramifications of the Dunning-Kruger effect. You can be in danger of being manipulated and your confidence exploited before you even know it, you won't see it coming because you were so sure you were right and now you're too embarrassed to be wrong.

@cowboy4378 4 года назад

Peterson: “gotcha” Newman: “so you’re saying that you now own me.”

@CarolinaAnzures 4 года назад

😂

@Baron_Blue_Max 4 года назад

He DID own her

@Baron_Blue_Max 4 года назад

@Sirius Stark Al Ghul this comment popped up and before I recognized the thread, my initial thought was "what did I say now?"

@danielrodriguez9987 4 года назад

Lmaoooo

@lesterjones5278 4 года назад

@Sativa Rommola so what your saying is asia is incapable of engaging in underwater combat

@anthony_gaytano 4 года назад

RU-vid: How to avoid embarassing yourself in an argument "so you are saying that i embarrass myself in every argument??"

@gabrielbelmont1496 4 года назад

I know that I do

@salmansana3997 4 года назад

Hhhhhhhhhhhhhhh powerful one, for whoever understand it

@ThereIsNoSpoon678 4 года назад

This comment is the winner.

@morrishellgrn 4 года назад

I used too

@osamana7163 4 года назад

Nice one

@AmirahJoy 3 месяца назад

I’ve learned to say “If you want to know what I’m saying, you’ll have to stop talking and listen.”

@user-dw3sf5qz1q 3 месяца назад

Brilliant; thanks, I'll use that if things get too heated!

@DrJohnPollard 3 месяца назад

That's a good one. Well done.

@DeborahThird-og1uo 3 месяца назад

“I’ll answer when you stop talking.”

@LucyKelly-of6cu 3 месяца назад

I have used that. It worked as part of a larger solution.

@LucyKelly-of6cu 3 месяца назад

@@DeborahThird-og1uoThey'll keep talking. They have no shame.

@Ard-mhacha-abu 4 года назад

Peterson: “What a clear, sunny day.” Newman: “So you’re saying clouds have no right to be here?”

@roye6961 4 года назад

she was just trying to make sure she understands whats hes implying, because Peterson's arguements most of the time werent consistent enough to serve the premise

@georgeisaak5321 4 года назад

hahahahahaahaha the best comment ever ...she is insane

@Tobyodd 4 года назад

@@roye6961 I can't tell whether or not you're joking.

@Kratezia 4 года назад

@@roye6961 How about answering then ?

@amihere383 4 года назад

@@roye6961 I really truly hope you were joking. Peterson literally could not have been clearer in his positions.

@ravindupabasara3016 3 года назад

Jordan: "YES" Kathy: "So you're saying NO?"

@arnoldhorton8115 3 года назад

Jordan: "NO" Kathy: exactly

@sankalp2520 3 года назад

Kathy every 10.0 seconds: "So you're saying..." _Proceeds to say something which he never said._

@ravindupabasara3016 3 года назад

@@sankalp2520 😂😂😂broo😂

@ravindupabasara3016 2 года назад

@stefano Greco H. thnx mate😘😂

@uncleJuancho 2 года назад

Laugh really hard with this one 🤣🤣

@alanamaharaj 4 года назад

Jordan: I..... Cathy: So you're saying you're the only one?

@danielbuxton205 3 года назад

hahaha! That was a good one Alana.

@pureintellectualbeing3575 3 года назад

Good one Alana

@RiptoGakt 3 года назад

This. I had witnessed a classmate (who was actually a real b!$%# under the surface, which I clued into long before) go about doing exactly what this woman did to another classmate with whom I was on friendly terms with. This was in college, and the professor for that class had actually gone to the effort to get them to explain to each other clearly exactly what they were saying. Too bad the girl went and spread bull about her behind her back a day later in another class, all because she was an insecure piece of work (I pity her boyfriend, though). I really hate when people pull stuff like this because they're essentially putting words in your mouth that you didn't say just to get under your skin. It's one of the reasons *why* I absolutely dislike arguing with people, especially if they're never going to admit that they're the ones who are full of it.

@ally-nb1cx 3 года назад

we almost have the same name!

@costarica3014 3 года назад

😂😂😂😂😂

@paolafriedrick 3 месяца назад

This level of clarity and mental speed is not achieved by simple tips and tactics. This shows a long time of commitment to truth. When you commit to saying what you think is true, it will be easy to see clearly what's in front of you, see through people's bs, see through the games, call things out and quickly be able to straighten distorted arguments. Once you choose true, life will become the best adventure of your life.

@lizetteco900 3 месяца назад

Yes! Could not have said it better. 🙌🙌🙌

@wf4983 3 месяца назад

I also think that this is the more authentic (and easier) approach. Much better and faster than to learn all those tricks and games by heart.

@JoyCrossbridge 3 месяца назад

I love that thought!!! 🙌🏼👍🏼👌🏼

@HallPhoebe 2 месяца назад

Great comment

@JillChristyGroup 2 месяца назад

Yes, so much of this cannot be taught. It can be identified in how it becomes a successful debate, but cannot be taught. It comes with a lifetime of educating oneself and being a keen listener.

@ThisHandleFeatureIsStupid 5 лет назад

Jordan: **inhales in preparation to speak** Cathy: "SO YOU'RE SAYING..."

@wokecults 5 лет назад

and the winner is... :-)

@IR240474 5 лет назад

LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOL - This is the best one!!

@Smiley_Face0 5 лет назад

Level asian

@fabooshka 5 лет назад

So you think you have more right to breathe oxygen than women

@Denyshowe 4 года назад

@@fabooshka Why, yes. Yes I do.

@johndevries7397 4 года назад

Jordan: "I like dogs" Kathy: "So you're saying that you hate cats?"

@bgmagma10R 3 года назад

Every liberal everywhere. Freakin nut cases

@emmamcgorrin2478 3 года назад

Lmfao

@spartan2906 3 года назад

Running or Jumping in excitement. "So you are trying your level best to make the life of the disabled person miserable. Don't you ? "

@edurom2111 3 года назад

@@spartan2906 haha on point

@WSlabb 3 года назад

@@bgmagma10R We'd need to see substantial evidence for that. Especially when you state "every". Not most, not many, every. Please show the evidence.

@uafc1 4 года назад

Peterson: "Is nice to see you" Interviewer: "So you are saying is ugly to see every other woman?"

@thegreath.sapiensapien6907 4 года назад

CATHY YOUR SAYING ABOUT 50 TIMES

@ThoughtinFlight 4 года назад

Tbh most woman do this

@JustTheColemans 4 года назад

😂

@Polones12 4 года назад

Lol

@Sigurther 4 года назад

I think that's the most telling thing about this 'interview'. Every question she asked of him was just a warped and twisted regurgitation of a valid point he'd made that she simply couldn't accept or understand. It was't so much an interview as a hit piece. You could tell in the way that she shotgunned questions she was reading from her tablet that she didn't care about answers, merely wanted to hurl accusations at him.

@emillion4470 2 месяца назад

My tip with aggressive questioning : Before answering, wait a couple of beats (while maintaining direct eye contact) then deliver your point clearly. Yes, slowing down your tempo vs. the aggressor's rapid pace works.

@Longspout15 3 года назад

Him saying “gotcha” actually helped her. The awkward silence would have been much much worse for her.

@pz4891 3 года назад

Fact

@Wafelwaffel 3 года назад

Agree

@bakerzane3055 3 года назад

But not the right move

@agustinloera9026 3 года назад

Great point

@lehmanndj 3 года назад

So once again, he was being nice.

@leonardogrecolozano4100 3 года назад

Jordan: breathes Interviewer: So you're disrespecting dead people

@blondegiraffe2023 3 года назад

😂😂

@xchalibur77 3 года назад

This has gone "a bit" to far...

@amanijm746 3 года назад

Ha haha hahaha Haa... This comment nearly killed me!

@T.Harry79 3 года назад

🤣🤣🤣

@dineshnat3980 3 года назад

lol

@stevemiller123 4 года назад

The level of patience Peterson has is just out of this world.

@zekehatcher2196 4 года назад

Yeah, when i argue with people, Ibget unpatient that they wont realize that they're wrong, or that im right, and they just keep babbling ao that they can somehow make themselves right, or make me wrong

@woutervanr 4 года назад

It's just common sence. He knows how visably getting angry makes you look and as psychology professor he knows exactly how anger works.

@replevideo6096 4 года назад

It really gives you the upper hand if you are laid back and patient when the other person is attacking you. It wrong foots them because they wanted to make you angry and it doesn't work. I had a boss do that when I was representing another worker's interest. I just sat back patiently and let him vent his anger until he ran out of steam. Then I calmly asked him if we could discuss the subject now he had got that off his chest. Needless to say I walked out of that room with everything I went in there to get, and the worker was delighted that I had won for him. If you lose your rag, you are going to lose the argument, and that boss knew that. So did Cathy Newman. If Jordan had lost his rag at any moment she would have made mincemeat out of him.

@catenaa4594 4 года назад

Yes being a woman myself I have to agree and I also would have to be tied to the chair!

@Adiudicium-1776 4 года назад

I could not agree more! I so wish I had his level of patience!

@She.33 3 месяца назад

I love the bit about the risk of offending a person and how Jordan answers it, "In order to be able to think, you have to risk being offensive. You're certainly willing to risk offending me in the pursuit of truth. Why should you have the right to do that? It's been rather uncomfortable." (I also love the hilarious comments in here.)

@KayleeMcC 14 дней назад

Well come on. Yeah, on a common sense general level most people aren’t walking around trying to offend someone. On the other angle, lots of people might be walking around waiting to be offended by something. This logic makes sense, but the people who are speaking about something aren’t out there speaking on a popular or highly debated subject because they wanna deal with offending someone. - as if thays there sole attention. Idk idk be offended, just at the mere premise that you’re out here defaming my character instead of listening where my logic is coming from . What even is that person whose offended argument against getting offended by something? Is it just “omg you offended me!” Like what do they seriously actually expect someone respond to that with lol it’s nonsense. But that’s also why it works so well on such a collective, larger victkm mentality level where they’re just actively looking for it at this point to someone remain relevant on their heads as if things are purposefully done and said about them. or to further there imvictim level

@sharsSafeSpace 3 года назад

This lady doesn’t even want him to talk. She just wants to hear her own voice

@ironcrosstrainingltd6482 3 года назад

Exactly

@somebloke13 3 года назад

She's no lady...

@MysticalGB 3 года назад

She is womansplaining xD

@robofistsrevenge3288 3 года назад

In my experience, the people who talk over you refuse to listen because they're terrified of the fact that you may be right and they may be wrong. That terror manifests in frantic anger, which is why ignorant people are so frustrating to talk with.

@hagartm 3 года назад

This video is montaged in a way that makes her seem like a bully (if I had to decide whether she really was or not, I'd say she was), but we lack context. The cuts are way too short.

@TharaMesseroux1 5 лет назад

Peterson: "You look great today". Interviewer: " So, you're saying that I was ugly yesterday?"

@JDMilitaria 5 лет назад

gold

@podcastworld-o3q 5 лет назад

Girls are girls😴

@lalili1358 5 лет назад

Sometimes they twist your words

@mjkrh 5 лет назад

"YES"

@Hypergangnam 5 лет назад

Interviewer: "Are you religious" Peterson: "Depends on what you mean by religious" Interviewer: "Do you believe in the Bible" Peterson: "Depends on what you mean by the Bible" Interviewer: "Are you a man capable of answering questions" Peterson: "Depends on what you mean about man, capable, answering and questions" Yup. You Peterson fanbois love to make fun of women like pathetic incels. Yet your hero is equally pathetic as the women you attack.

@haroldgoodman130 4 года назад

He is a clinical psychologist with years of experience dealing with angry, self righteous people like the interviewer.

@takaw.d8486 3 года назад

in otherwords this may have been her show, but it was his episode

@emmanueledumuomongole5447 3 года назад

@@takaw.d8486 yes, 😂😂😂

@wasabi.2839 3 года назад

Let's add the fact that he have a PHD in Clinical Psychologist, and was a Post Doctoral researcher (in the same matter) for 3 more years, and been the author and co-author of more of 100 academic researches.

@takaw.d8486 3 года назад

@@wasabi.2839 yep all of that up against some angry whining baby that can only say a few words "g-g-gu gu-so youre saying that-"

@Bottleofwater-n5y 3 года назад

Oooh that's why he's so good with words, he gets under people's skin with cheap tricks too by begin a psicologist

@carolinasoulshine8949 3 месяца назад

I could not be in the same room with this lady. He could have annihilated her but he always is checking himself... brilliant human

@julieclark9173 3 месяца назад

That's no lady!

@stefanwilson4562 3 месяца назад

She made me want to throw up 😂😂😂😂 he handle her brilliant ly.

@YeshuaKingMessiah 3 месяца назад

Good Lawd She annihilates herself Yuck

@johndo7742 3 месяца назад

@@HappyOne3 Cathy is a perfect example of the consequence of equality of outcome. Had the broadcaster chosen the best inquizator for their chief interviewer, they might have stood a better chance of embarrassing Dr Peterson. But then of course that inquizator might have been a white male which would have blown away their ludicrous agenda.

@jesussaves7973 3 месяца назад

@@HappyOne3🙏🙏 for new job

@audiotap8332 6 лет назад

"It's been rather uncomfortable." That's an amazing line.

@Sweatykeyboard 6 лет назад

Followed by the 2 seconds long frowns face, followed by the smile, hahaha

@jeremywilson15147 6 лет назад

The change in body language really drove it home for sure.

@alfredgomez3906 6 лет назад

The smile originates at the upper lip area. It’s almost like a scowl. It says “I can’t stand you but I’m still going to be civil “. His smile is the most overt action to contempt for the interviewer.

@usssanjacinto1 4 года назад

Jordan Peterson: "I'm hungry." Kathy Newman: "So what you're saying is... I should make you a sandwich?"

@alinstancu8091 4 года назад

So you're saying she needs to do a show about making sandwiches 🤣

@hush7359 4 года назад

@@alinstancu8091 so your saying women should stay in kitchen and leave other stuff

@alinstancu8091 4 года назад

@@hush7359 no, i'm just saying that they are better at making sandwiches and give birth to babies

@samyakhp4353 4 года назад

She should.

@StevensOpinions 4 года назад

@@alinstancu8091 Lol. Yes we are, there's 7 billion babies and former babies on this planet right now.

@thebookwasbetter3650 3 года назад

I liked it when he said "it was nice talking to you" at the end of the interview. The only untrue thing he said.

@TheFirstManticore 3 года назад

Well, it may have been uncomfortable, but for Peterson, that kind of conversation adds to his total understanding of humanity, so he is still glad that it happened.

@bobsapsford7526 3 года назад

Should of said nice of you talking at me.

@lesp315 3 года назад

He simply enjoyed toying with her and he let her know. I wish to be at his level. Maybe next life.

@RyaKey 3 года назад

I'm with Manticore on this one. The response could have been genuine, cause both of them left with an experience.

@dansanchez9251 3 года назад

I think Cathy got hot for the man

@K162KingPin 3 месяца назад

I've been doing this for years, and never realized the technique behind it. I was raised by a Father who never appreciated any thought or idea he didn't believe was his. So I learned from an early age the art of letting the other person have my idea. I have since used this successfully in business and personal life for decades. People get so hung up on making sure people know something was "their" idea, that they miss out on having it widely adopted.

@lizzy_bu 3 месяца назад

genius!

@JoyCrossbridge 3 месяца назад

That’s very insightful and remarkable! It speaks to your confidence in your identity (even as a child) and a rare kind of high achiever that seeks for the greater good rather than primarily self glorification. God bless you!!!

@HallPhoebe 2 месяца назад

This is so true ! Who care where the idea came from?!? If your ego needs that, then go for it. Take it as your own.

@K162KingPin 2 месяца назад

@@JoyCrossbridge That's a nice thing to say, I never though of it that way. I was just trying to keep the peace and get things done :).

@JoyCrossbridge 2 месяца назад

@@K162KingPin “Humility is the surest sign of strength.” ~Thomas Merton You unwittingly learned to turn your negative circumstances into something positive…that’s wonderful spiritual alchemy! ☺️

@yvesm.8855 5 лет назад

Peterson: "I think..." Interviewer: "So you're assuming that I DON'T think?"

@castleberries 5 лет назад

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

@Poetry4Peace 5 лет назад

ahaahha😂☺️😪🧐😈

@narieee2543 5 лет назад

this is a good one hahaha

@percyharrison4414 5 лет назад

😂😂😂😂😂😂

@kelvinrodriguezjr2184 3 года назад

"Winning" an argument is easy. Changing someone's mind is another story.

@asharnk 3 года назад

Do you think Kathy is of the kind whose mind you can change? Lol

@sonicpoot5692 3 года назад

Nope

@bluemcdaniel99 3 года назад

Then you gotta wonder is it worth that.

$@ceoofracism2178$

@ceoofracism2178 3 года назад

That is what free speech is about... I can silence one person but that doesn't mean that i won... I just silenced that person... I didn't actually won...

@nexpro6118 2 года назад

Winning an argument or debate is subjective. Each person will always say that they won the debate. Majority of people want there personal views and beliefs to just be fact without evidence.

@iambuhlockay8007 4 года назад

Jordan Peterson: “I’m an analyst and therapist.” Cathy Newman: “so what you’re saying is you’re an Analrapist?” Edit: I no longer care for Jordan Peterson.

@unknown-zg2bb 4 года назад

Stop stealing comments

@guppy0112 4 года назад

Brilliant! 🤣🤣👑

@angmmm6667 4 года назад

Alek Blaylock 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

@yummygummy2133 4 года назад

Bruh 😂😂😂

@oregol93 4 года назад

@@Afs-g1clor cuz it's exactly same comment from original video

@normapadro420 3 месяца назад

I've learned since I was very little that I wasn't worthy of anything. Eventhough I saw many successful people on television. I saw very highly intelligent people too. I never believed that my environement was going to play a role in my future. This is why I involved myself in educational goals. Graduated from High School. Graduated from College. I never listened to the put downs. If I did I would never create Art. Photography. Become an Author. Compose music for movies, television, videos would have been an obsticle for me, and never think that I would mount to anything. I didn't believe that I couldn't make it. I learned everything I wanted to learn through reading books, and anything educational. There is no limit, but the one you place on yourself.

@RoninMike-DR 3 месяца назад

This is true

@carolinemcgovern8059 2 месяца назад

Well done.

@CristinaCarrillo-gz3xb 14 дней назад

“ There is no limit but the one you place on yourself”. Thank you, very insightful

@carolannecole3252 4 дня назад

I'm so sorry you had such an environment as a young child. I can't imagine that. Well, I can because of bullies at school, but at home, I was valued. I admire you for your persistence in pursuing your goals to achievement.

@steveelliott77 5 лет назад

The “gotcha” was the best part of the conversation. Jordan showed he can keep his cool, be persuasive and beat her at her own game. The trifecta.

@nicolab2075 5 лет назад

I thought the gotcha was actually him being very kind and helping her out of a floundering silence by making a joke of it. That he had indeed won the point was obvious to all, no need to do the gotcha on that. Does anyone agree with me on this?

@RandomCarrot2806 5 лет назад

I think I agree with you. I know Jordan said that he regretted saying it because he thinks that if he hadn't he could have moved the discussion into something productive instead of it going back into being adversarial but as you say, the gotcha released the tension of her becoming speechless after she realized she wasn't making sense. It's hard to know what could have been if Jordan had let it go to an awkward silence while she regrouped.

@nicolab2075 5 лет назад

@@RandomCarrot2806 That's interesting. Although her style was very confrontational, I'm not sure she'd have changed it. She didn't seem well prepared for his academic style, I suppose she's used to interviewing politicians, who run a mile if a journalist hints that they're being anti feminist

@tressmcdonagh9253 5 лет назад

Go home girl twisted a twelve year old knows better love you Jordan her intellect was zero

@realm23x73 5 лет назад

@@nicolab2075 excellent point. And edit, I definitely agree he's not usually ever as interested in owning anyone as others are, which is the point of the guy making the video I'm sure.

@marc4199 4 года назад

Notice how she asks a question, then talks over him when he tries to answer.

@Andy-ud1gd 4 года назад

Yes, but only in the entire interview.

@gordonlawrence1448 4 года назад

She is absolutely renowned for doing that as are most feminists as quite often they don't want to hear the answer as it will not fit with their agenda.

@robinkoci7227 4 года назад

My teacher does that as well, when were having an argument

@KKBash 4 года назад

@@robinkoci7227 That's just sad. If you are clearly wrong, it will come out in discussion. They seem afraid to be proven wrong. Show this to them. Re-evaluate your tactics. What you're doing makes your position look less correct because you're attempting to shut someone else out of the conversation, pre-emptively. Take a moment and THINK.

@lydia6379 4 года назад

That's exactly what my mom does...

@yj5172 5 лет назад

Peterson: "Hi" Interviewer: "So you're assuming I can speak English?"

@sininenblue9161 5 лет назад

The north is just lost Polar bears, seals, ice, water, a pole, it's a MESS

@shantanusingh5320 5 лет назад

Peterson: I am actually right though.

@apricotmadness4850 5 лет назад

PenisMcWhirtar How is Autism a sign of being lost?

@kierstanfaulks 5 лет назад

@*Black *Maple* shutup snowflake

@gemmaster9369 5 лет назад

Peterson: ohhh, so you really like Dogs??? Interviewer: oh Yeees. Peterson: so you agree that the Cats should be all killed?!!!!

@DanielCunningham-bm5vb 3 месяца назад

I remember watching that interview, and feeling my own anger at people using these aggressive tactics on me, the strawman thing and gaslighting and assuming you already agreed to the sale, et cetera. Thank you for analysing the debate so well for me. Now if only I could remain calm and not go into suppressed violent thoughts when verbally attacked.

@mcmorrowm 3 месяца назад

These awful cancel culture people have taken alot out of Peteresen's hide, too. Keep fighting back. He does.

@oneoranota 3 месяца назад

Learn defensive rhetoric and apply it. Your anger comes from your powerlessness. Once you can back up yourself, you'll feel much better. It's kinda necessary because the world is full of self centered assholes.

@tongpoo8985 3 месяца назад

Above all remember that you are righteous, when people choose to engage in that kind of thing, you are above them by default.

@jujuoof174 Месяц назад

Agreed!

@Grimblenork 3 года назад

I always felt the moment he said "gotcha" was more to spare her from the humiliating silence he had placed her in

@machuverigjummai4484 3 года назад

It's true

@nathanielfleku3416 3 года назад

I agree

@oofer754 2 года назад

Indeed.

@AnkitSingh-cd7tw 2 года назад

like the way how this comment is worded in

@danzed2058 2 года назад

Exactly right !! Cos, you hear the awkward silence and then you're thinking, 'someone help here'...and than the true knight in armour Peterson comes to this woman's aide.

@dodieodie498 3 года назад

Jordan knows himself and he trusts to logic. That makes him comfortable in his own skin. He also has the patience of a saint.

@emmanuellelarocque9440 3 года назад

I always thought: people that won't let you talk, will twist your words ect, don't actually believe in their own arguments. Peterson knows that he's right so he'll just let his interlocutors talk until they imminently contradict themselves.

@dodieodie498 3 года назад

@@emmanuellelarocque9440 The narrator is right....it's conversational bullying. Sometimes overt, but often sneaky or veiled. They aren't there to listen to your point of view or learn something. It's like a battle for them. I see so much of that in RU-vid comments. I think most of us just react with anger and maybe get flustered and deny whatever accusation is being thrown. Jordan is very good at not allowing people to get a rise out of him. Instead, you can usually see them getting annoyed. It's very enjoyable to watch.

@nexpro6118 2 года назад

Jordan stays calm the majority of the time because he knows that he has stats and research to back his opinion. Which is why in all of his interviews and debates, he always asks the other person to present the evidence and they rarely ever do

@dodieodie498 2 года назад

@@nexpro6118 I think he has a sort of confidence in what he is saying because he has already thought it all over very thoroughly at some point. His business seems to be thinking and analyzing and trying to come to grips with how things are connected and how they work. And it is also instruction and enabling others to understand, which equips him to defend what he says. Even so, he will pause and consider, in case there are other possibilities, before he responds. The people he debates are seldom so prepared.

@nexpro6118 2 года назад

@@dodieodie498 very well said...and with that said, I think most people who debate with feelings and the sense of having a higher morally superiority just personally attack the other person because he and or she cannot rely on facts and stats.

@DjShadowsound265 5 лет назад

Peterson: Good Bye Interviewer: so you're saying I asked you to leave?

@dannysmith697 5 лет назад

Ahahahaha

@green_eye_gossip 5 лет назад

😆

@wtfhowbizarre1946 5 лет назад

Who is doing an interview？And what for？ This video is about How to keep your cool in an argument.

@edwintsang920 5 лет назад

Andrew Dembegiotis best one yet

@tomaszkowalski7867 5 лет назад

You don't even need to say anything. You are joging. So, you try to tell me I'm to fat and I need to lose weight?!

@patriciaknode8638 3 месяца назад

The “right to not be offended” line always cracks me up. This isn’t a right.

@RoninMike-DR 3 месяца назад

You only have the rights you can afford to defend.

@willowskid 2 месяца назад

there is a great south park episode about this

@JulyIsMagaMonth 2 месяца назад

They offended individual need only choose not to be offended. Also, not a "right" anywhere in the world.

@Blogdorf 2 месяца назад

When I was studying Law I learned that it is not illegal to offend someone, i.e., to hurt their feelings. So she's arguing that a person has a legal right to not be offended? Give me a break. People get their feelings hurt all the time. Only if you're living in one of these goofy, liberal, socialist countries can you get legal relief for that.

@1312Johnny 2 месяца назад

@@Blogdorf’goofy liberal…’ so, the entire western world then? 🤷🏻‍♂️

@adonisparts1343 4 года назад

I'm starting to think this was less of an "interview" and more of an interrogation.

@diatom333 4 года назад

just an attack on him really

@and1smax 4 года назад

@@diatom333 and a horribly backfired one

@harryshome4588 4 года назад

Stargate fan I see 👀

@Shungabali 4 года назад

and a very agressive one by the way

@sophiesjourney1551 4 года назад

I'm a journalist and I believe this is a very bad piece of journalism. The woman is clearly biased and is constantly attacking him.

@adamstaszewski9235 3 года назад

Jordan declaring, "gotcha" was actually a gracious way of breaking the tension by lightening it up a bit. He could have annihilated her and let her stew in her embarrassment.

@chiselcheswick5673 3 года назад

Great point. He pulled her out of a hole there i thought.

@Jayako12 3 года назад

He actually felt bad about not being able to refrain himself from saying that. He has explained several times that there he lost the opportunity to have an actual intellectual conversation based on that topic. He could have redirected the "debate" to what he pursues, logical expositions. Instead he himself admitted later that he lost his temper there and with it, the gateway to completely change the discussion.

@howielowis458 3 года назад

@@Jayako12 i really doubt that this conversation actually could have turned into an honest, intellectual debate. Not under these circumstances. Even if she started to understand and maybe even agree to what he was saying, which to an extent i think she started to do at that very moment, there is no way she would have abandoned her agenda while being on live TV. In a private conversation? Possibly, but not in this situation.

@wxxcable 3 года назад

Agreed. He’s absolutely a gentleman

@brunovaldez7986 3 года назад

Excellent point

@steedandersen 4 года назад

He deserved that "Gotcha" after tolerating her attacks.

@tommyodonovan3883 4 года назад

That was SWEET.

@aqua3418 3 года назад

He may have deserved it, but doing the same thing the other person does is never the right move when it comes to winning anyone over. It only is on their same level - humiliating and demoralizing them. It wasn't in good taste, but everyone makes mistakes. Overall, he still did an excellent job - certainly much better than many others do.

@CHIEF__ 3 года назад

I saw it as more of an ironic "gotcha" like he wasn't trying to do that, but he's happy he got her to see his side without belittling her. If he could've taken control of the interview back right there and said something like how he didn't actually want to have a "gotcha" moment, and he's happy she's seeing his side, it would've made him out to have taken the high road and still beat her.

@tommyodonovan3883 3 года назад

@@CHIEF__ Jordan was playing with her. He has treated 100's of women the carbon copy of *Katty,* the most telling part of the whole interview was when JP said; "I suspect that your unpleasantness has served YOU very well over the years" Katty's rep; "Yes.... YES it has in fact" JP was gentle with her, because he knows just how mentally fragile she truly IS.

@daquan99999 3 года назад

@@aqua3418 If I were Jordan, I don't want to win that woman over. So Gotcha all the way.

@Electrocycle300 3 месяца назад

Having blown off university learning, it’s so very nice to watch MR Peterson at work. He’s such a genius. I recall watching this the week it happened. Might’ve been the day but was so awesome

@The3xmama 15 дней назад

Epic conversation!! and (in my head) the epitome of his genius!

@s0nnyburnett 6 лет назад

Bad idea to play mind games with a psychology professor.

@dorianphilotheates3769 6 лет назад

Equally bad to play psychological games with a mind professor.

@IGamingStation 5 лет назад

Like challenging the Flash to a game of tag, lmao.

@jefftalbotmusic 5 лет назад

@@dorianphilotheates3769 Equally bad to mind a psychological play with a game professor

@PhilippeLarcher 5 лет назад

probably not an idea, more of an habit and intuitive behaviours (just learned what's usually effective by intuitive trial and error over years and got into the habit of practicing it)

@vanleeuwenhoek 5 лет назад

so it's like trying to make a medical doctor sick?

@VNewGenerationV 5 лет назад

She said "so your saying" over 20 times that interview.

@akshaykumarjha9136 5 лет назад

over 75 times in the actual video!

@brwhizz3060 5 лет назад

*you’re

@yongliao7014 5 лет назад

Maybe they are trained to do so.

@speechfreedom7242 5 лет назад

Libtards love this phrase, they absolutely do. I’ve encountered this illogical phrase countless times - whenever I try to get a point across, they just throw it at me.

@Rx7man 5 лет назад

It's the tone in which they say it, clearly Newman was trying to entrap Peterson, but you could say the same thing in an ordinary conversation and it would be fine.. Newman was clearly looking for straw for her strawman though

@Chamieiniibet 5 лет назад

I think that "gotcha" was intended to be more like ice-breaking, not humiliating. Kinda "stop attacking, let's laugh this off".

@lzzrdgrrl7379 5 лет назад

@John Galt But she did save her position by a strategy I'd call, 'taking the hit. She's a bit stronger by admitting she's taken damage and that allow you to like her a little bit......'>.......

@a.wilson4809 5 лет назад

Agreed. It contrasted so sharply in tone with the rest of the interview that it made him come across as a lot less combative. He gave her an exit out of a tough situation where his silence could have just forced her to change the subject or apologise for making him feel uncomfortable.

@tkyk4893 5 лет назад

I mean at the end of the day they're both professionals and should look out for each other every now and then despite their different views. I think Jordan momentarily kinda felt that empathy given it is her show. It would've been incredibly awkward if they both just kept silent while she takes the blow and tries to stutter her way back in. Props to Jordan for recognising that.

@wtfhowbizarre1946 5 лет назад

If they'd stop hacking my phone that'd be great. They're damned malicious with hacking. who are they?

@kcis5940 5 лет назад

I felt like that too

@noraknoy4261 3 месяца назад

I'm a female, and I am grateful for men like Jordan. He tells women what men want and not what we want to hear. I'd rather have a man than have things.

@chrisfleischman3371 3 месяца назад

Yes, life goes much easier when we seek to know the reality of the situations we are in.

@pjm8609 3 месяца назад

Oh my god - you are shameful

@stevemiller1517 3 месяца назад

That liberal female mentality is why l never married and still single at almost 70.

@janes2180 3 месяца назад

Okay Nora, and have you been picked yet?

@judiejackson4312 3 месяца назад

I would rather have a man like that in the world with us, there should be more of them. I personally don't want a man or woman, I do have "things" but I also have a great relationship with each of my children and my good friends and family. Cathy here thinks she is being so clever but I am seriously embarrassed for her. She is being sneaky and bulldozing him with various "points" running into him with several ridiculous points buried into one sentence. If she were playing a game, I would say she is being sneaky and cheating.. Jordan Peters on is the hero if this game in my opinion. This woman is keeping him on his toes but he handles it well. I couldn't have handled it so well. He is incredible.. I also agree with loads of his views and believe he was treated terribly by not only this interviewer but by others and by his university and by his government..

@gustafonseca2 3 года назад

My gosh! This man deserves an award after dealing with all the crazy talk without even being rude.

@36minutesago7 3 года назад

Oh so you don’t support the troops?

@M0butu 3 года назад

Oh so you are still beating your wife?

@alonelywalker6602 3 года назад

So women should put up with you harassing and offending them?

@gespenst0083 3 года назад

Oh, so you’re approaching him?

@HiBuddyyyyyy 3 года назад

@Loading Memes is that a Jojos reference?

@scooobydoo27 3 года назад

The "gotcha" was a human reaction. Jordan has said that before the interview, Cathy was very polite to him and they were having a nice conversation. Once the interview started, she switched from having a conversation into a pre-defined character with motives other than just seeking the truth. She is not trying to have a conversation with Jordan, she is trying to create sound bites and achieve some sort of victory over him. The gotcha was from having to be patient and put up with this nonsense and knocked her completely out of the character that she had been playing. Frankly, he was a lot more polite than 99% of the rest of us would have been.

@kackdackel9170 3 года назад

It's all show business.

@seymourbuttz2253 3 года назад

Oh ok.... so it's show business to be fake and not real towards others. I see now

@booyah7415 3 года назад

That isn't new. Most talk shows do this to their guests. They would purposely agitate the guests behinds the scenes; once they get up on air, the guests would be in a bad mood. Shows that do this are Dr. Phil, Ellen show, Tyra banks show, 90 days fiance, etc. Drama=entertainment=money

@jesusantaya202 3 года назад

@@kackdackel9170 I mean the topic was talking about freedom of speech 🤷🏽‍♂️ which people are trying to change.

@DEEP_WOKE 3 года назад

Yes, very polite she was.... I like how she complimented him often and never tried to vilify him at all. She's the perfect example of someone who is ABSOLUTELY IN NOW WAY a misandrist... Not one bit!!! Not at all!!! uh uh... NO sir!!!

@ramonmaximiliano3557 4 года назад

Jordan: uh... this conversation is getting annoying Cathy: So you're saying talking with women is annoying

@SSJfraz 4 года назад

Yes.... as with all women.

@counsela9240 3 года назад

lol

@Amir-tv4nn 3 года назад

Name one person in this world who wants to talk to her? I bet she got divorced after this interview lol and she should. This woman needs mental help asap

@ryangamerguruji7500 Год назад

Yes

@lovesjewelry1 3 месяца назад

“ no that is what you are saying… what led your mind in that direction, I really want to know.”

@aaloha2902 18 дней назад

This level of verbal manipulative (passive) aggression makes life impossible for those with language processing disorder. I’ve honestly stopped talking to many people, bc it’s overwhelming & exhausting to talk those who want to make you ‘wrong’ instead of actually listening to what you say. Thank you for strategies to deal with it 🙏🏼🌺

@Tsukiko.97 6 лет назад

Peterson: "I like cats". Interviewer: "so you are saying that we should kill dogs"?

@mattbouler1439 6 лет назад

Abyssinia Empire hahahaha yep

@makeshiftplayer 6 лет назад

Abyssinia Empire politics in a nutshell

@Bubbles99718 6 лет назад

If u reversed that I would agree with it.

@CitizenAgim 6 лет назад

that sums it up

@nickdipaolofan5948 6 лет назад

Bingo!!! Peterson: Womens individual choices effect how much money they make Interviewer: So you are saying that you hate women and will actively try to keep them down financially and eliminate women's personal choices...................

@richardbartholomew542 5 лет назад

Peterson: sips water Newman: ‘So you’re saying we should let Africa die of thirst?’

@matthewadejumo9397 5 лет назад

This is a bad take.

@yashim08 5 лет назад

@@matthewadejumo9397 that's the joke

@sludgerat666 5 лет назад

@@yashim08 he was making a joke as well

@grinnifer 5 лет назад

LOL

@crazycatladyinc9191 5 лет назад

He doesn't fall into the "we as a collective" game. There are plenty of groups and individuals working on behalf of Africa.

@wisdom10able 3 года назад

Jordan: I haven't had my lunch. Cathy: So you're saying I should make you a sandwich.

@septicalfrogs 2 года назад

😂

@trumanfenwick8409 2 года назад

Yes

@vishnu5466 2 года назад

Hey, this is a copied comment

@MIHMediaInc 2 года назад

Paranoia can do that to a person turning every simple sentence into supposed threat 😅

@thesupreme8062 2 года назад

Yes

@lenarsa66 3 месяца назад

The most impressive with JP is not that he's intelligent and smart (many are but not many that publicly) the most impressive in my eyes is that he's seem to really be working on himself, not to win only but, to actually grow. That's unusual in our time. And he share's that journey, which might even be unwise for him perdonally but ... idk...

@Noobaa9658 Год назад

I love how he’s so calm and not letting her manipulate him .

@jensbang5923 Год назад

Yes .. one of his abilities..he is amazing..

@davisholman8149 Год назад

@@jensbang5923 He’s amazing & bitter little Chatty Cathy is going to be 60 & alone with her cat one day - wondering how her pathetic empty life got there…🤷🏽‍♂

@anonymousnation5235 Год назад

Power of a psychologist

@MariGolds2 Год назад

No he manipulated her

@itsalmostfun8567 Год назад

@@MariGolds2 reverse uno card

@judigamroth7736 Год назад

I once had a friend who did this to me. She was great at deflection also. I solved the “problem” by leaving the friendship.

@shainavergith183 Год назад

did what exactly?? debate your different POVs? answer all your questions in a civilized manner? or prove she was right while simultaneously proving you two actually did agree on the basis of the concepts? i guess i dont see "the problem"... unless of course the problem is that you simply cant handle different ways of thinking and are threatened by the challenge of a different frame of view. hmm, the world may never know.

@calimorysquid Год назад

@@shainavergith183 I think they mean the friend was like Cathy, and not JP.

@goldfishboom8132 Год назад

@@shainavergith183 you're using the smash technique like Kathy in the video . Cuz you are bitter and trigger 🤣🤣

@nos703 Год назад

@@calimorysquid nah I still think she doesn't see the problem with this lady's way of communicating. There's actually a lot of information in the breakdown, and it goes quick. But nonetheless, the narrator breaks it down the way that the interviewer is manipulating the conversation. And unfortunately this person doesn't see it. I used to be very passive aggressive, and aggressive, myself, with my communication. Trust me, if you don't see what's wrong, and you ever want to have meaningful relationships, I suggest rewatching the video to see where he points out the ways she is manipulating the conversation. I suggest to them that they rewatch this video, and listen to try and learn from it.

@robyjacker Год назад

@@shainavergith183 YOU are the reason this video even exists in the first place.

@BuddhistTushar 6 лет назад

Peterson: "silence" Cathy : Are you implying that talking to a woman isn't worth your time?

@piergiorgiobenenati3698 5 лет назад

Good one

@Crick1952 5 лет назад

Legend27

@Volosous 5 лет назад

Peterson: **silence**

@PC-uh6hk 5 лет назад

I say that talking to women is a waste of time and even dangerous to men every day and I mean it, women know that they can lie about you and spread it all over town and a man can be arrested after having done nothing wrong and they say you can't hit a woman. Today's women are dangerous and they know it they use our judicial system like a club and you better be able to duck.

@Naaman05 5 лет назад

Ohhh my soul😂😂😂😂😂🤣🤣

@carolyncoolidge8116 3 месяца назад

Mr. Jordon Peterson is awesome at handling this abusive woman!

@DanielMartinez-nw1pn 3 года назад

"How to avoid embarrassing yourself". 1) Don't be Cathy Newman

@mikegrigg11 3 года назад

Damn, that's accurate !!

@AA_04 3 года назад

2)Don't speak what the media feeds you

@rrmark6294 3 года назад

Classic 🤣🤣🤣🤣

@nogoodname8133 2 года назад

1) don't be a communist/socialist...

@kennedymungai 2 года назад

If she was interviewing Kim Jong Un, I'm pretty sure you'd think she is doing a damn good job. In my eyes, she did her work splendidly. In normal conversation however, she'd be a huge red flag giving off narcissistic vibes

@rizu9955 3 года назад

im jealous that jordan can have fun in this kind of situation because he's just that good at speaking with people

@ash_1419 3 года назад

You can be too

@jout738 3 года назад

Yes he’s old and experienced. Young and unexperienced people would maybe get aggresive. Jordan just needed to always explain how it actually is and so it made her like complete fockibg clown, when she every single time went for reason misunderstand him.

@user-dr5nt2is7f 3 года назад

That too, but I think his confidence comes from his understanding of his logic. He fully knows what he's talking about and is intelligent enough to know what other person is talking about.

@jrFRA118 2 года назад

He did handle this interview brilliantly but he has later said that it had been extremely stressful for him to go through it, and that it took him a couple of days to recover emotionally from it. He is brave and smart, but human nevertheless.

@edwardsarhuda2595 2 года назад

Me too man.i had to master my art of being "extreme calm"

@adoboflash 6 лет назад

Cathy is a bully then plays the Victim when she lost

@elkeleser9196 6 лет назад

That's exactly what bullies usually do ...

@xs10tl1 6 лет назад

How to be a Marxist 101.

@jerome1335 6 лет назад

I wouldn't say she is a bully, but rather, this is her job - she needs to interrogate, question and command soundbites from the interview. Yes, she may personally agree with much of what she is saying, but there are times where she needs to play devil's advocate. That is how I see it anyway.

@adoboflash 6 лет назад

Jerome . HAHA! thats a good point.. But I don't Think Cathy's saying things Out of context, over simplifications, misrepresentations and misleading are form of intellectual interrogation.. Cathy is a Bully its her Job to do so.. She is no Devils advocate. She is just Dumb. Seriously Just watch the "Lobster" part.. You will see her Level of Intelligence.

@adoboflash 6 лет назад

Jerome.. She is misleading and misrepresenting what Jordan had said.. ANd that is what bully always do. Then once you trap and defeat the bully. They play as a Victim in which is what she did.. She even claim that the Jordan Fans will gonna harass her.

@kimt1776 3 месяца назад

Watching this to learn how to talk to my mother. She is a true "conversational bully."

@E4439Qv5 2 месяца назад

So... you're saying you've been enabling her?

@austinarmstrong9729 2 месяца назад

I hate how much I relate to this comment 😂 my dad popped into my mind instantly

@cherylbert402 Месяц назад

@@austinarmstrong9729 my hubby popped into my mind

@bashisobsolete.pythonismyn6321 14 дней назад

What if i told you that you have all the power. permanently cease all verbal exchanges and eye contact with her. give her a piece of paper with a burner email address written down. All you have to do is act correctly and responsibly. she can write anything in a message but needs to be careful not to incriminate herself. therefore, more likely to phrase things politely. also, she will definitely try to employ others as spies. So don't discuss your family relationships or your opinion of family members. When it comes up, respond with stony silence. you can build 100 fruitful relationships outside of family.

@lafabricadebodas 2 дня назад

Its unfair that you are bullied by someone that should be a refuge! Know that its not you ! Its her!

@emilbyberg103 4 года назад

How to keep cool: have decades of study, research and professional experience in your field

@Chillymosquito 4 года назад

Surely it can’t hurt your case

@iAmNothingness 4 года назад

Unlike that woman that didn't work for anything

@ImChickenLittle 4 года назад

Or just don't care

@zinkarius7 4 года назад

Short : competence

@jmarch_503 4 года назад

What if your field isn't psychology

@federicozambrotta30 5 лет назад

“I like ketchup and don’t like mayonnaise” “So are you saying fast food restaurants should quit using mayonnaise?”

@pippipster6767 5 лет назад

Yes, I am saying that.

@crimedianb876 5 лет назад

@@pippipster6767 me too

@miazander 5 лет назад

lol

@Knighz 5 лет назад

No ketchup just sauce.

@ahmadfarhan4433 5 лет назад

So you are saying mayonnaise is a music instrument?

@Pantherrrr 6 лет назад

The best thing about the way Peterson speaks of he doesn't rush to fill the silence. He takes his time to think and choose the right words.

@user-jn5fn8qx7y 6 лет назад

i agree with u

@Kas-yw5fe 6 лет назад

Which is so simple yet difficult to master because we all have our heads up our own asses.

@hereandnow990 6 лет назад

Another guy who is an Ace in conducting a dispute is Trey Gowdy. Im sure you've watched a lot of his videos.

@Pantherrrr 6 лет назад

George G I've seen a few videos with him, he's very entertaining to watch. Haha

@oldschooltakingyaback 3 месяца назад

To imply that by saying, "Gotcha," closed the door on a potential eye-opener on Kathy's behalf, after having stated she's committed 5 negative/aggressive conversational tactics is denial 'on command.' It was a perfect phrase for an aggressive, not truly listening just waiting for their turn to speak individual like Kathy. The lady isn't having a conversation. It's someone who's trying to have a monologue & win.

@wesjones6370 3 года назад

The “gotcha” was intentional. Jordan talked about this interview on Joe Rogan’s podcast. Cathy was super friendly and polite in the green room before airing, putting him at ease, then intentionally turned and tried to frame him poorly during it. She was trying to set him up to look like the straw man she was constructing. He hit her with that because there was no chance of her finding common ground with him. She was intentionally refusing to. It was a jab back at her to make her choke up on trying to use that gotcha tactic herself.

@Jazj97 3 года назад

Do you know in which appearance?

@bojarckhoosemanschnarf5851 3 года назад

@@Jazj97 joe rogan

@Jazj97 3 года назад

@@bojarckhoosemanschnarf5851 yeah I know but he's been on Rogan's show multiple time. I meant which episode

@bullhauler8097 3 года назад

Actually she came in the room and pretty much declared "war" before the interview even started so he went in the interview already on the defensive. Its on a JRE clips about the interview.

@Jazj97 3 года назад

@@bullhauler8097 I saw the clip and he's talking about the girl from the GQ interview, not Cathy Newman

@procrastinator99 4 года назад

I think Jordan's "gotcha!" comment was more playful and enjoying the debate, trying to get the interviewer to relax. It's such a silly phrase, and he's so eloquent. I think it was an attempt to lighten the mood.

@lewis72 3 года назад

I think he later said that he regretted saying that although it’ll take me ever to find the source of that. He’s done a number of post Kathy-roast blogs/ discussions, so it may be there.

@alienbodybuilder4339 3 года назад

Exactly. Jordan Peterson mastered the interview and that "gotcha" was a highest peak. Using strong argument, his endless experience and knowledge, Peterson piece by piece crumbles Cathy into a state where she eventually had to restart herself. A kind of ctrl + alt + delete.

@leestorey2764 3 года назад

He is a psychologist and is the hardest man to argue with, and her entire game plan was to try make him slip up with what he’s saying and get him to twist his words, it was a televised slaughter fest and she didn’t even come close

@philliptjackson 3 года назад

@Kevin Tewey No, that is not what he is saying... lol

@feelinghypothermic 3 года назад

@@philliptjackson yep, we are catching it live in 4k the "so, what you're saying is .." trick. You implement the tips in the video correctly sir Phill

@bait5257 3 года назад

@@philliptjackson gottem

@travisborst528 3 года назад

Jordan peterson isn't a good debater, he's an excellent public speaker if you already agree with him tho... but as soon as he's on stage with any one that has experience with public debates he's made a fool of... like the debate with Matt dillihunty

@travisborst528 3 года назад

@Luc Germain it's actually not, for example let's look at what made him internet famous, his critique of Bill c13. The bill didn't say what he claimed it too... he was hyperbolic about the imitations than none of which came true, he's absolutly out of his depth when he talks about religion and atheism, his comments on lobsters arnt true in the way he describes it or relates it to how people interact... he constantly spews word salad, sounds smart but he doesn't actually back up most of what he says... there is a reason he's considered a joke now by most people familiar with him but not a follower...

@Ruifulify 2 месяца назад

Just stumbled onto your content and this is great stuff. As someone who suffered from social anxiety from a young age, it's taken a huge blow to my ability to communicate effectively during contention. I'll have to dive deeper into each of these concepts to get a better understanding. Thank you!

@user-jc2uz3tl6n 6 лет назад

Peterson: I don’t like decorative pillows Cathy: So you’re saying all women should be enslaved?

@JarPanda 6 лет назад

I mean...

@trollemall7016 6 лет назад

Niŋin turdl已 "womens!" Seriously?

@samuelfranco6439 6 лет назад

Niŋin turdl已 Weird how his name includes "troll" but cant recognize "trolling"

@zm4522 6 лет назад

Why shouldn’t we enslave them ??

@NetiNeti-gm5bz 6 лет назад

Cathy and trolls will be a perfect marriage. Both same IQ

@shrug1250 4 года назад

Him: *breathes* Her: so you’re saying that we should enslaved oxygen to our own benefit?

@barrylast8655 3 года назад

@Apple Is Forever She knows that statment should be true. There aught to be a word limit law, on Most women. See how that would work. Lol...

@DutchElite98 3 года назад

Hahaha this is great

@moralityisnotsubjective5 3 года назад

@@barrylast8655 If that's true then it should also be on most humans who on average have the intelligence of a potato.

@TheChugg11 4 года назад

I wish he hadn’t said ‘Gotcha’ and just sat in silence: I believe he said it because he felt bad for her and threw her a bone.

@philiplam541 4 года назад

Yes...dead silence would have been much more embarrassing to her. She actually smiled at that one.

@joesmo2042 4 года назад

Could you link it?

@KSGomez88 4 года назад

@@joesmo2042 at 10:03

@winstonacousticstudio445 4 года назад

that is one awkward smile.

@SandipanNath123 4 года назад

He actually said that in a playful tone and tried to temper the discussion.

@ramzimakarem1837 Месяц назад

Very educational, thanks for pointing out important debate techniques.

@edwardsbaron3935 5 лет назад

Arguments aren't about using facts anymore. It's about who can whine the loudest.

@Rattattattatt 5 лет назад

depends on viewer criteria. I'm amazed at how many people use the above for theirs.

@biggyboris5540 5 лет назад

thats the difference between an argument and a debate

@shankCR7 5 лет назад

facts do win the convo but convo with halfwits, it doesn't work haha

@itsjohnnyyo1930 5 лет назад

Oh my god, yes woman do this a lot

@Gioyoji 5 лет назад

Lol if you let them whine louder

@rc9272 3 года назад

The goal of this interview was to destroy him; I don't feel bad for her at all. He used what she so proudly displayed, against her - in a sense showed the audience she was a complete hypocrite and ideological lunatic. When she saw herself exposed, she had no retort. Well done! Bye Felicia!

@ThatsSoGiorgio Год назад

I learned a lot time ago that it’s okay to be wrong and the sooner you can accept that your argument is invalid, the sooner you can learn about the truth. Ask questions, inform yourself, it’s okay to have been wrong. It’s not the end of your intelligence, it’s the start of your growth.

@carolahume4020 Год назад

Wow !! .... great philosophy 👍 ....i'm going to remember that & use it. I've never been good at face-to-face very pointed discussions / arguments.

@greyneptune Год назад

I completely agree. Being PROVEN wrong is the equivalent of levelling up.

@irw4350 Год назад

if somebody can explain why your opinion is wrong, there's no shame in that and if you dont have a fixed position to defend then you literally have nothing to lose. Self-importance is your worst enemy (and mine ! )

@MZ-rv1bu Год назад

Assuming your piont is invalid? I find your point invalid to the discussion, straw man, so admit it. Just saying

@cyndephillipshohbein8232 Год назад

@@MZ-rv1bu What are you alluding to?

@m.deleon6277 3 месяца назад

This one is tough. I was listening to him talk about this conversatio. They had Met in the green room and he said that a lot of her views aligned with him and that she was a very pleasant. He was actually taken back by the way she acted onset.

@nobody7817 Месяц назад

on set implying on the set... onset implies... the start of something ... the onset of an illness...

@dextermorgan1 29 дней назад

@@nobody7817Really? 🙄 It's obvious what OP meant.

@nobody7817 28 дней назад

@@dextermorgan1 really! It is called helping a person understand something that they might not understand. Unlike you or you just want to be a sma rtass.

@oldrrocr 27 дней назад

Don't they call this the Barbra Walters technique?

@nobody7817 27 дней назад

@@dextermorgan1 It's called helping someone understand something they may not understand, unlike you, who probably didn't know the difference either...and probably still doesn't.

@treadsoftly434 5 лет назад

Kathy is overly aggressive and rude. She is an attacker and he knows it. It's very hard to listen to this bully. He has handled it very well.

@1SpudderR 5 лет назад

Tread Softly ! I am perhaps not watching through your eyes! But he is sitting in a semi aggressive posture, indicating “He will be right, whatever” attitude! He should have strived well before he did to create equilibrium through both his posture, attitude and response to the inquirer with a communicative response not a rehearsed slap down. Nothing is improved about the Male strut through that Big brave Male attitude...to my mind he reduced his altitude and maybe should acquire some further pacification training? Male--Observer RDR

@swordsheldhigh7934 5 лет назад

"overly agressive and rude"..... sounds like most far-right political commentators.

@colinkennedy 5 лет назад

@@1SpudderR Jordan's "semi aggressive posture" doesn't justify her negative response. If she thought he was being aggressive, she still could have looked past his attitude and gone on to make the interview as pleasant as possible. But she didn't try to improve the interview, he did. That's why Jordan is in the right. Jordan could have handled it better, for sure, but I think you're reading into his posture a bit too much. Also, what does RDR mean?

@1SpudderR 5 лет назад

Colin Kennedy Look.....Why does the Male need any sort of aggressive posture...unless he is subconsciously insecure, and the interviewer achieves maybe one of her goals.......Communication, which would have been declined from the outset........Because of his aggressive base attitude.....90 % Of Reading a person is from the visual perception awareness delivered to the subconscious.....and the receiver of that is unaware...ie their subconscious which then gets delivered into the Conscious transfer of attempted communication.......All because of this somebody’s! projected attitude from incorrect posture. Training seems to be required On his empathy, perhaps a good second starting point. RDR Keep guessing on what RDR means though?!

@colinkennedy 5 лет назад

@@1SpudderR You are too far gone.

@kalandarism 5 лет назад

Jordan breaths Interviewer: so you are saying I'm underwater

@Hpencer 5 лет назад

lol

@whyalwaysme2522 5 лет назад

Hahahah

@chr1staki 5 лет назад

🤣🤣🤣

@Slashtap 5 лет назад

This one's my favorite

@6glob 5 лет назад

I am fucking crying! Almost woke up everyone in the house with this!

@balbinasantana5527 3 года назад

Jordan Peterson: Breathes Cathy Newman: "So you're saying you think it's okay for men to steal air from women?"

@sonicpoot5692 3 года назад

LOL bro I feel like that's how they starting to act Like now kinda like the Nazis attacking everyone acting like a victim

@stevethompson8504 2 месяца назад

Watching this conversation progress actualy hilighted to me that I already do effectively recognise and confront these pitfalls and traps in everyday conversation without having to intentionally watch out for them as such .which comes naturaly if you really are listening to what others say to you and consider being precise about your wording before you speak .i think that it follows that if you practise trying to convey to people in conversation exactly what you mean then you do also look carefully at their wording to ascertain its validity in the context that they're being applied. The ones that you should walk away from and disregard are those who have to be right now matter the level of denial that they have to embed themselves in to do it .I know one person at least ,an older guy i work with who is so set in his own ways that he reacts defensively, to even rather shallow depth that I present in my points of view. That ."So your saying phrase "! Coupled with a strongly dismissive attitude. But it isn't about what I'm saying at all ,and is really about him choosing not to listen properly because he cannot cope with the complication of details .being drawn into discussing details that butt up against his frustration and impatience seem to be the true cause of the issue .

@benschrader5797 6 лет назад

Yeah, that "gotcha" came off as "don't you feel silly, now." But OH MY GOD did it feel so damn satisfying.

@bobmoney8689 6 лет назад

Ben Schrader dude you took the words right out of my mouth

@lucasfortes7705 6 лет назад

Yup, guilty pleasure.

@Consolous 6 лет назад

She really deserved it lol after she kept trying to stab him, that gotcha was all he needed to finish the job. She created it and it backfired. The beauty of it is how much weight that one word had lol

@LinkEX 6 лет назад

Yeah, it was the one provocative move from his side. While it does go against his usual approach of not making people look stupid however, I think it was still a bit different: More along the lines of a teacher teasing "do you see what I mean now?" after the student inadvertently demonstrated the teacher's point. (For those wondering, it's at 10:00.)

@MisterCovek 6 лет назад

Even tho I liked the 3 seconds she didn't speak, I don't think she was even listening to what he was saying. I think she was listening to her director on the earpiece and waiting for a response.

@deadmonsterhr7209 4 года назад

Jesus christ i barely talk properly, now i have to talk like im playing chess...

@TodMusicOfficial 4 года назад

Lol

@thepsychicpeach8425 4 года назад

😂😂

@dylangaeta6462 4 года назад

Four player, three leveled holo star wars chess.

@thalassaer4137 4 года назад

@NO NAME haha no hail satan

@elvishabonimana8796 4 года назад

Smart comment, made me think of it in another way

@palficsaba1710 5 лет назад

Cathy Newman was completely humiliated in this debate. I watched a lot of debates, but I have never seen such a clear victory ever. Peterson handled this situation extraordinary. Newman was speechless and devastated.

@get2rog 5 лет назад

@Bill Carson Nope there is no shame in Newman.

@informationyes 5 лет назад

@Bill Carson That's quite a sweeping generalisation (im tired of everyone who makes these no matter what group their in) you have fall all the millions of members of the left! that they all have no principles, you seem incredibly ignorant to have such a black and right mindset when it comes to your ideology and outlook, If you expect the left to have an open mind you need to try it yourself for once.

@karyne826 5 лет назад

Palfi Csaba shes a novice compared to Jordan

@informationyes 5 лет назад

@Bill Carson Saying everyone In the context I used it is referring to everyone who actually has done something which is not a generalisation. Not only can we stop generalising by simply! acknowledging not everything is so clack and white and using language to reflect that such as those/some/ most etc but even when this is not an option it is no justification for the use of extremely ridiculous, absurd not to mention highly judgmental not to mention wrong sweeping generalisations such as you saying all members of the left lack any principles! As for the political spectrum its complicated and their are no easy answers but I do know the extremes of both are bad also one party states have definitely been shown to be bad. / you can never entirely get rid of the concept of government force to handle necessary situations Ie you are forced to fund the military. police, fire services I mean things are sometimes needed for society to function its just about how much but stop acting like its just a concept that only will even exist with the left. also major concept of conservatives is that tradition trumps everything and that's a problem for me because traditionally slavery was ok/ the US was ruled by England etc tradition isn't good just by its nature, you have to judge individual things on its merit but people won't do that because their too busy picking sides.

@christophermallett8166 5 лет назад

The result of argument/debate should always be progress and consensus, not victory. Unless you have an ego problem.

@theodorevegh6030 2 месяца назад

This is priceless. It happens to me all the time. People talk to me as if they are my boss and I am under their control. It's really good how you explain it.

@EliasUlrich1984 3 года назад

We all know Jordan deserved his "gotcha" moment.

@philipberggren1823 3 года назад

The entire interview was a gotcha moment.

@Mistanyycguy 3 года назад

@@philipberggren1823 So what you're saying is, Cathy won the debate?

@Mistanyycguy 3 года назад

@Michael Jordan lol I know, my comment is just a meme

@Mistanyycguy 3 года назад

@Michael Jordan can be hard to read sarcasm on the internet sometimes 😂

@TheJacklikesvideos 3 года назад

he definitely indulged after considering it a net benefit of breaking the silent tension for her. it was a pretty friendly gesture playing on how trappy her incessant strawmen were.

@JoeySkate24 6 лет назад

Peterson : hello Interviewer: so you are saying that we should never say bye to anyone?

@josephko_ 6 лет назад

ahahahhahahahaha that' what i thought exactly

@nbfy9883 6 лет назад

lame

@megnornoo6971 6 лет назад

🤣

@WILD__THINGS 6 лет назад

Yours made me laugh the most of all 😝

@nevertestELOHIM 5 лет назад

LOOOOOOOOOL

@gibbonbasher8171 5 лет назад

Peterson: *takes a bite out of a sandwich* Newman: “So you’re saying Hitler should be resurrected?”

@mydickisunbelievablysmallb8132 5 лет назад

*Laughs in sandwich*

@AnnabellaRedwood 5 лет назад

That was outstanding. Well done you! 😀

@thedarkestowl4224 5 лет назад

Yes. He should be. Only for the purpose of living alone with Newman on a deserted island. She has worked hard for it.

@Lovinia1 5 лет назад

Uncle: *LUMBAGO* “So your saying the whole lemoyne chapter Is an unpleasant waste of time”

@brandonxiongd7031 5 лет назад

Oscar Rasmussen 😂😂🤣

@blade913 2 месяца назад

Another way to describe their word choice. Notice that most of their main statements are directed at you, acknowledging YOUR thoughts, YOUR decisions. Good highlights in this video, you brought up some great examples. I noticed the same issues with salesmen, and I hate it when they do that. One of my main points to teach people when they "debate" points, is to listen to your "opponent". You will often find we share ideas, concepts and knowledge. Finding these shared ideas, are the beginning of reaching an agreement. Remember, debates are not necessarily conducted to "win". They are to find common ground. Convince the other side.

@In_time 5 лет назад

Husband about waitress: “She seems nice” Wife: “So you’re saying you want a divorce?”

@armstrong2052 5 лет назад

Hahaha waitress to husband, "lemme get this mess out of your way" husband to waitress "I already called her an Uber". 🖖😎

@ajh21313 5 лет назад

Husband “She seems nice” Wife “So you want a divorce?” Husband “No, I’m thinking of a threesome!”

@craigslistrro709 5 лет назад

Husband about waitress: “She seems nice” Wife: " you just sexually assault that girl"

@usmcbrat2 5 лет назад

He said: "I thought our waitress was very nice." She heard: "I'll be thinking about her during sex."

@no_more_free_nicks 5 лет назад

This is typical borderline behaviour, I was there, not a nice place to be.

@cdrbvgewvplxsghjuytunurqwfgxvc Год назад

That interview still gives me goosebumps. He should give classes in verbal self defence

@Just_Call_Me_Tim Год назад

Oh yeah, he realized very quickly what her goal was and wasn't having it.

@lucyterrier7905 Год назад

What genuinely surprises me is the comments that say how amazing it is how the good doctor carries the conversation. Is not interpersonal speech learned from our parents or in school ? I don't understand how people could not carry a conversation like this. What's going on with the younger generations??

@andreastheke4004 Год назад

He is exactly what Plato criticized over 2000 years ago. A person with little to no knowledge about certain things that still gets his reputation because people are blinded by rhetoric. I'm all in with him lecturing verbal self defence, if he stops talking about philosophical topics

@greggoreo6738 Год назад

He does give classes. If I listen: Jordan is "schooling " me. If I listen/ when I pay attention. Best regards. Respectfully submitted for your consideration Gregg Oreo Long Beach Ca Etats Unis

@greggoreo6738 Год назад

He does give classes. If I listen: Jordan is "schooling " me. If I listen/ when I pay attention. Best regards. Respectfully submitted for your consideration Gregg Oreo Long Beach Ca Etats Unis

@sexyjura 5 лет назад

Jordan: I am... Interviewer: so you think im not?

@Hpencer 5 лет назад

hahahaha

@coarse9452 5 лет назад

bruh more like RTX 2080 Ti

@matejpesl1 5 лет назад

*xd

@juankgonzalez6230 5 лет назад

*Shakespeare is typing...*

@karenmitchell2902 2 месяца назад

This wasn’t even a two party conversation this was the My way Cathy show

@wade5941 4 года назад

Given the aggressiveness of the interviewer in this case, the "gotcha" was appropriate. She was not being sincere at all.

@aikido7 4 года назад

So now asking questions is not sincere? If somone asks “So what you’re saying is...?” then the adult answer might be “No, what I was really saying is__________________."

@wade5941 4 года назад

@@aikido7 So, what you're saying is that ALL questions are sincere simply by being asked? This lady interviewer was over the top with the hidden accusations and straw man presuppositions.

@aikido7 4 года назад

@@wade5941 Keepin things on the level and being specific are as necessity. Whenever you are seduced by the urge to say “You’re over the top,” “You are making hidden accusations [and strawman arguments] is not going to be effective. Even Jordan Peterson doesn’t do THAT.

@wade5941 4 года назад

@@aikido7 But, she was "over the top" with her hidden accusations and strawman arguments and Mr. Peterson appropriately nailed her for it. Definitely not effective. I would hope she would learn from that mistake and instead keep things on the level and be specific in the future. I'm not Jordan Peterson and neither are you.

@aikido7 4 года назад

@@wade5941 “...I'm not Jordan Peterson and neither are you.” Absolustely correct. BTW, I worked as a mediator for 7 years and later I was employed as a cancer tech on a ward for end-stage patients [which involved many conversations about treatment & end of life issues wirh dying pateints and their families. When I was a parent I knew I wanted to raise my daughter so that I could effectively talk to her so she could listen and to effectly listen to her when she talked. I used to think she had a real problem when she left her room in a state of Defcon One. But actually it was *I* who had the problem. Her socks lying on the floor triggered my annoyance and anger. Clearly, had to be more aware of my own language. If I said “You’re a pig. You leave your clothes everywhere!” she would define herself as a pig. [When I leave things on the floor, then I’m a pig]. If I said instead, “I sure get annoyed when there are socks on the floor. Are you willing to help us both keep your room neat and pleasant to be in?” [Then she would think “Dad is frustrated”].

@SlingingLead 5 лет назад

Cathy Newman's greatest claim to fame is being destroyed by Jordan Peterson on television. You go girl.

@swordsheldhigh7934 5 лет назад

Did she embarrass herself, or did she get "destroyed" ? Make up your mind...

@medicus4560 5 лет назад

@@swordsheldhigh7934 you can get destroyed and embarrass yourself at the same time

@swordsheldhigh7934 5 лет назад

@@medicus4560 Is that supposed to make me scared of debating with people`?

@medicus4560 5 лет назад

@@swordsheldhigh7934 I really have no idea where did you get that from, but no, reasons like not having a point should make you (or anybody) scared of debating with people.

@SlingingLead 5 лет назад

@@swordsheldhigh7934 where did you get the idea that I was confused as to if she embarrassed herself or got destroyed? I made a very clear statement and *you* think that *I* haven't made up my mind? Jesus. And you seem to think that being destroyed on your own television show is not embarrassing? You're out of your element here Corky. Go play in traffic.

@KpxUrz5745 4 года назад

Someone should have warned her that this man is extremely intelligent.

@VeryProPlayerYesSir1122 3 года назад

based.

@turboragtop 3 года назад

If she went to Oxford no warning should be needed

@frankbridgwater4098 3 года назад

@slam slam she’s literally just doing her job as an interviewer; the chances are she was told exactly what to say

@dangelocake2635 3 года назад

Not that he's not intelligent, but debating ia much more about emotional intelligence than any other kind. And that's his true merit.

@alexfarias5156 3 года назад

@ Compared to intelligent men she's not very intelligent. Maybe she's intelligent for a woman.

@murrismiller2312 3 месяца назад

kid : he didnt "MAKE" her 😖... he brought her to a point of humility - wisely !!

@6StimuL84 5 лет назад

"He whom dares not offend cannot be honest." ~Thomas Paine

@googleisretarded7618 4 года назад

I'm pretty sure Paine's grammar was better than that.

@uafc1 4 года назад

"You play, you pay, you bastard" ~Max Paine

@astrhea 4 года назад

yeah, very hard to be honest these days - and i'm not talking about the possibility of offending someone

@obviouslykaleb7998 4 года назад

This is going in my list of favorite quotes

@doge8153 2 года назад

Jordan: I’m an analyst and a therapist Cathy: so you’re saying you’re an analrapist

@nannojiskoot 2 года назад

hahaha

@krishnadev7191 2 года назад

😂😂

@staryduren 2 года назад

good one

@dblshotz75 2 года назад

🤣

@johnmegaritis6446 2 года назад

Hahaha, brilliant 🤣😂 Sad thing is, this actually happens out there. Not all of us are like Jordan Petterson and we can't all stump your Cathy's and Karen's ...

@cutiel7237 4 года назад

She was unprofessional in my opinion, she was trying to get him to storm off set

@roxy2912a 4 года назад

How do you know that this was her intention?

@imanafdar 4 года назад

professionalism isnt requirement no more, when you have the same agenda with the one who hired you then there is no problem

@prophetsnake 4 года назад

No, she was trying to do her job.

@cutiel7237 4 года назад

And made herself look a real fool doing it lol

@cutiel7237 4 года назад

@Marcos 989 OK, let me just clarify, cathy Newman in my opinion is a fantastic journalist and a brilliant anchor. I've admired much of her work . Incredibly thorough, she really does her homework if I was a guest on the show, particularly a controversial guest, make no mistake I'd be shaking in my shoes. However in this particular interview she failed, I don't know what happened , I don't know. Let's just say I hope she learned from this experience. We all have our fine moments and our regrettable moments and this was one of hers. I'll end this by saying Cathy is still one of my favourite journalists she's also fair and tries to see both sides of an argument not all journalists do. I hope this clarifies my point of view

@gdhhayes2129 3 месяца назад

Personally, because Cathe was so obnoxious and offensive and aggressive, I loved the "gotcha" and seeing her stumble. Thank you for this very enlightened video as I've long needed this insight.