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I think whether you plan to co sleep or not, it happens 😅 the exhaustion is real. We are doing a bassinet next to the bed but there have been many times where I’m so tied during the night feeds that I doze off. But since our nursery chair was back ordered, I did those feeds essentially in a set up that was as safe as possible on a mattress, and as a new mom I seriously underestimated just how tired you get. There is so much “don’t co-sleep” advice but I wish there was more support for doing it safely because it happens even if you don’t intend it to. Thank you for this video.
No worries at all! It's definitely not about judgement but understanding that it does happen and making sure if and when it does parents know how to do it a little safer.
I suffered so much while putting my baby in a crib - he took forever to be put to sleep there, so I was sleep deprived and had nervous breakdowns due to being extremely tired. When I realized I was on a path to serious depression, I started bed-sharing so I could get more sleep and voila - no more sleep deprivation. I just breastfeed and go back to sleep as he doesnt even wake up while feeding. No more rocking, pain in my body due to carrying him for hours, waking up when being put in a crib etc. It saved my sanity. So while I do understand the risks, this research should also have to take into consideration a higher risk of maternal sleep deprivation and postpartum depression - as it is real and it’s impact on baby health and safety is huge. For example, I was struggling to stay awake during feedings while sitting down with baby. Everything was so exhausting which made me have suicidal thoughts - I seriously didn’t think I could survive this much exhaustion. Of course, safe bed sharing practice is a must - my baby sleeps on his half of a massive bed on a firm mattress and no blankets. My husband is exiled to a separate bed in his home office. I admit I do fear SIDS but also I admit I physically and mentally can’t do it any other way at the moment. I’m enjoying motherhood how :)
This was me. Before my daughter was born I said "no way am I doing that." Then, when she was born - my instincts kicked in and the only thing that felt natural, was sleeping with her. I tried putting her in a crib or a bassinet but it felt like going agaisnt the grind, it didn't *feel* right. Now I think about it and how unnatural it is to be so close to your heart in the womb to seperating them immeditely after into a bed alone.
@@Zeroshiki this is misinformed, everyone's situation is different and the term SIDS is a cover-all that includes a lot of preventable causes. Some moms are still dealing with issues post partum like alcohol addiction or being overweight. Some live in hot countries and can't afford AC units. Some decide to ignore the fact that injectable mercury / aluminum in the 8+ vaccine schedule for 2 month olds has very little research to support its safety and may have deadly consequences for such little bodies. But some moms are breastfeeding on demand, have none of these issues and wake up the moment their baby does every 2 hrs to feed them.
@@ZeroshikiI have read that, when done safely with all precautions, co sleeping reducrs the risk of SIDS because you there with the baby and can prevent a lot of the issues that could cause SIDS.
Sleeping with my baby since birth just seems the most natural and best thing to do. She is 3 months old. My breastfeeding is very easy and I am not tired at all! I think humans and animals have been sleeping with their baby forever and the warm, love and feeling of safety is just the best for both of us. Putting a baby in a cage, and even worst in another room, does not make any sence for me. It just cause very stressed baby, and that also increase the risk of sids!
Everyone has their own preferences. Just want to clarify that sleeping in a cot, bassinet or portacot while in the same room as a parent reduces the risks of SIDS. It does not increase it.
@@sarahtara5546 I think you can find enough evidence on the red nose SIDS page and alot of other credible sites. Not saying either is wrong. I had our baby in his cot for a long time and only recently started co sleeping. I love it but he also gives me next to no room so he ends up snuggling to sleep and then is happy to be placed in his cot to deep sleep..back with us for snuggles in the morning.
Thank you for this video! As a new mom I was told a million times that I should only let baby sleep in their own crib, but when you breastfeed and baby wakes up every 2 hours to eat you just know there will be times when it's 3 am and baby has been hanging on the boob all night and you are going to doze off. So the best you can do is to try and minimize the risks. Also severe sleep deprivation is a risk factor for postpartum depression and postpartum psychosis, in which case it's definitely not safe for the baby (because the caregiver can for example shake the baby without meaning to).
Understanding all the risks, I still choose bed sharing. My son was just fine with his bassinet until week 3. Something switched and he wouldn’t fall asleep there no matter how much time you spend soothing him. Whenever he fell asleep on me or my husband, we weren’t able to put him in the bassinet without waking him up. It took us a week to realize that it just doesn’t work. He either needs to be held or to sleep next to us. Not sure whether I’m lucky or not, but my husband had to leave us for work since week 4, so we co-sleep with the baby pretty safely. Sometimes I wake up because of him checking up on me with his little hands and falls asleep once he find me or cries if I’m away. That’s the sweetest thing ever! Plus, he’s breastfed and co-sleeping make my life so much easier! Sleep deprivation is something I just hear of. Of course there are days I get tired, but I’m ok waiting for his next nap to fall asleep right next to him. Also, he doesn’t like sleep sacs and blankets. If I put anything like blanket to cover his legs at least, he instantly pulls it away. With sleep sacs is a bit different, he tries to take it off as a blanket, so he wakes up every hour or so, cries and kicks. Also [2], since week 9, he doesn’t really want me to hold him while he sleeps. Cried until I put him in a bed, BUT I have to be stuck there, cause God forbid you to offer pacifier, he needs only what mama has 😅 One day we’ll make it safe, but now it’s just us being happy 😊
This is the story of my life!! I have only been getting 2-3 hours of sleep per day because my daughter won’t let me put her down at night, and this co-sleeping has made me so uncomfortable. My husband watches her for those few hours before he works😩. I am forced to co sleep with her tonight because we are away from home, so we shall see if we both can safely get sleep.
In Pakistan (my country) co sleeping is normal. Everyone does it because it’s natural. Yes we do almost everything that’s mentioned in this video. No body taught us. We just know because it’s common sense. What’s amazing is I’ve never heard of any baby dying of sids before internet told me. I don’t why people of west forces so much to separate baby from mother. Even we adults sleep with our spouses, then why should infants or toddlers sleep alone? (I have been co sleeping with my eleven months old from the day he was born and I’m so happy that he sleeps while my presence comforts him)
Its really strange. Im ethnically english, grew up in england too and the whole thing is bizarre and unnatural. I align more with your cultural practices regarding babies. Everyone told me to stop breastfeeding before 6 months (uhh why?) i breastfed to 2 years+.
Thanks again Emma for a wonderful video. Just what I needed. I co sleep with my 3 months old daughter from the start. She has a safe place in my bed, with no lose clothes, pillow etc. It's her place. And apart from her, only I share the bed, at a safe distance from her. No blanket. It's much easier to feed her during night. It's also pretty tiresome to make her sleep, and then shifting to her crib always wakes her up. It's a common practice in our country. There should be studies dedicated to the Asian practice of raising children too. So parents like us will be less confused between studies done specifically for Western countries and the way we learn from our culture.
I've been co-sleeping with my baby for almost 9 months now. As a mom who undergone CS, co-sleeping gave me more time to sleep and rest. However, I really like this video as it gave me a reminder on how to safely co-sleep with my princess. Thanks for another wonderful video, Emma! God bless you and your family! Love from 🇵🇭!
We ended up accidently co-sleeping, because he wouldn't sleep anywhere else. Sometimes he sleeps in his own bed now, but I have to admit that makes me more nervous then having him sleep next to me. When he sleeps with me in bed I can always check on him. I hear him breathing and it's very reassuring. If he sleeps on his own I have to get up to see if he is still alright and especially if he sleeps well and doesn't make much noise I get sooo nervous.
same here, I've resorted to putting her 'totaha' in my bed, and the bassinet has become a laundry basket lol i can check on her at all times and feedings at 1am are 1000% easier
Sleeping with my baby since she was born till date. The precautions mentioned are very helpful. I can nurse her any time listening to her and she instantly falls back to sleep after the feeding session. This made my life easier and we both get a good night sleep. Thankfully I hardly had to be up late nights.
I *LOVE* co-sleeping! I didn't realize how many parents placed their kids in cribs until I had my first. I just couldn't understand why placing a brand new baby in a firm almost sterile enviroment would be the best way to put your baby to sleep... especially thinking about how the past 9mo baby has been surrounded by warth, incredibly loud noise , and typically on their side (pregnant moms are advised to sleep on their sides after the first trimester). I was also raised in a large family where you carry your baby and do everything with them. Talking and teaching as you go about your day... maybe it's a cultural difference, but I feel best sleeping with my littles, and there are benefits to it, especially while breastfeeding.
Where I am from parents co-sleep with their babies, and babies sleep on their stomach. we grew up just fine, I co- sleep with my baby and she’s fine But I learned one or two things from this video .
1. Buy a firm mattress 2. Place mattress in floor 3. Center the mattress away from wall or furniture 4. Do not put pillows on mattress to prevent rolling 5. Place babies to sleep on their back 6. Make sure room is cool and adult bedding doesn’t cover baby 7. Do not swaddle baby leave arms out always 8. CLEAR THE BED no toys sheets blankets pillows etc clear the bed.
Thank you so much for talking about this! I’ve been working with new parents for many years, and this is always a big topic of discussion. Even though we have so many guidelines that are backed by evidence, the reality is that most parents do bed share at some point. Without this kind of discussion, they are more likely to hide what they’re doing or find an alternative that’s actually less safe, such as sleeping on a couch or in a recliner with their baby. There are innate reasons that babies want to sleep in contact with their parents, and sleep deprivation creates desperation~ parents often feel that they’re being put in a no-win situation. ***** One of the most important factors in safer bed sharing is breastfeeding. In a study comparing the details of infant deaths that had occurred in an adult bed, the only common factor in every case was that the infant was bottle fed. (This is not a judgment in any way. It has a great deal to do with the way breastfeeding mothers and babies position themselves in relation to each other during sleep.) Dr. James McKenna has done invaluable research on mother/infant sleep and I highly recommend his work!
I noticed that I sleep very differently when I breastfeed vs when I don't. When I am breastfeeding mom I seem to be aware of my baby even during sleep. I never have "dead" deep sleep. Also it seems that while breastfeeding I need less sleep to feel rested.
I’m surprised nothing about breastfeeding was mentioned. When an established breastfeeding dyad (mom/lactating parent & baby) sleep close and stay close they tend to sync up and bedsharing with a proper setup can make nighttime parenting much more manageable - mom and baby partially wake at the same time, maybe baby just latches themselves whenever they want food or comfort. It’s the way I’ve found nighttime parenting to feel the easiest (I follow the safe sleep 7 and exclusively feed at the breast for all feeds). It’s not for everyone but many organizations like Unicef support it under certain conditions.
I’m surprised you didn’t mention the link to breastfeeding, as that is the context for most of the research on bedsharing. I kept fall asleep while feeding my son in the early weeks, as he has a big appetite and would nurse every 30-60 minutes, or sometimes none stop for hours. He never lost any of his birth weight and went up a centile, so it is what he needed, but I was exhausted. My health visitor gave me advice about safer bed sharing and side lying nursing, which let me get the first proper sleep I had in weeks. I would put him back in the bassinet if I woke up or managed to stay awake, but if I did fall asleep it meant he would be next to me on his back. Once he started rolling we put our mattress on the floor and put up a cot in our room, but away from the floor bed. At 9 months we still do a mix of cot sleeping then bedsharing, and it works well for us. Sometimes it can be a bit cold, so I wear layers to bed and use a small blanket, rather than using a duvet.
Thank you for this video. Your channel is amazing. I know this topic is a hot topic for parents, because there are always cases where co-sleeping works out. My husband comes from a co-sleeping culture, but they also sleep on really hard beds with hardly any bedding at all. Also, it is unlikely that people would discuss the death of a baby in that culture. I always hear the excuses/reasons ("it is easier for me if...", "my baby won't sleep any other way..."), and as a seriously sleep deprived momma myself, I get it. I also get that stats don't lie. Science doesn't lie. You covered this difficult topic so well. Your work is so needed and so very appreciated.
Thank you for talking about safe bed sharing! Many just say don't do it and shame those who do. I was completely against it before having a baby but my 3 month old refuses to be set down (awake or asleep). Our co-sleeping really started when he wasn't regaining his birth weight and I just kept him on the breast pretty much at all times. Before this I was running myself thin trying to get him to sleep in his crib alone. We started sleep training about a month ago and he can now sleep most of the night by himself but daytime naps he will wake up as soon as I set him down. We'll get there though! I just wish I hadn't been so hard on myself that first month. If you're a new or expecting mom reading this, just know there are safe ways for both you and your baby to get sleep if they are as clingy as mine is!
My baby is 6 weeks now and super clingy too but I think it's very very sweet. It means that they really need us to feel safe a secure and us mamas want nothing more than to make them feel safe and loved. Whenever I feel overwhelmed aka touched out I remind myself that very soon she won't even want to be near me :( I really like your comment, I can relate.
Even though I can't see myself Co sleeping because it wouldn't be practical in my situation and would probably stress me out more than it's worth, I think as long as you're smart about it it can be a great choice. My mom co slept with her 4 kids and it made everything run smoothly for her
Yes just keep in mind the risks, for example those mentioned in this video. No blankets no major fatigue or sedation. Keep hair tied back and no blankets. Babies tendnto movienin their sleep and my move to under the covers so keep a pillow between your legs as a barrier ( if you must have a sheet) and keep blankets off the bed.
A good option is the get a babybay. Not sure if they sell them in Australia, but they are child safe beds that you can attach to the side of your bed. That way, your child is always within reach and can have physical contact but is 'safe' in their own baby bed. We used this method for a long time until our child outgrew it. We moved on to a crib and only started co-sleeping in the last months. She is now 18 months old and seems to be in a phase where she needs a lot of affection. So we move her into her crib once she falls asleep. I am definitely a person who follows safe sleeping, however I feel that children really need the closeness, at least mine does. So the baby bay and now crib adjoining our bed is a good compromise. I would never put her in a room alone at this age. I really don't understand parents who want to 'sleep train' and separate their children from them in other rooms, it seems very unnatural. Our child has zero sleep issues and never did...Other then actually falling asleep because she doesn't want to! But that's another story:) So this method has worked for us.
My baby has been sleeping in her nest safely, the nest gives her a clear space from the rest of the bed and bedding. She sleeps between me and my husband since she was two months old, we live in a hot country so there are just light quilts we each use and no other bedding at all, baby has no loose blankets or items anywhere near her nest, that said she’s 8.5 months and crawls so she’s never in bed unsupervised and has always napped in her crib in the daytime with Nanit on. Co-sleeping and bedroom nurseries is a very prevalent in our culture. We love co-sleeping, being able to feed her and comfort her when she’s fussing right away and hold her close has been the best bond between the three of us.
As a maternal and child health educator who has had women I work with have babies pass away due to causes associated with co-sleeping, I appreciate you talking about this. Many people don’t realize that the risks of co-sleeping are real. The data on the risks of co-sleeping come from real families who have lost their child in heart-breaking, and often preventable, situations. Ideally babies would not co-sleep with caregivers and instead sleep in their own safe sleeping area in the same room as their caregiver(s). I appreciate you repeating this message as well as giving tips on how to make it safer if co-sleeping is occurring. I realize that sometimes unplanned co-sleeping happens and that some do make the conscious choice to co-sleep. It’s just important that people realize that there is a risk associated with the behavior and ways to reduce but not eliminate the risk of poor outcomes. If cost is a concern, local health departments in the United States often have programs that allow parents or caregivers of infants to access free or very low cost new Pack n’ Plays with bassinets so babies have a safe place to sleep while still being near parents.
Thanks so much for sharing this information. And also the information about the ability for parents to access free or very low cost new pack and plays with bassinets!
Would you do a video on the risks/benefits of swaddling? I feel like I’ve seen a couple of your videos where you mentioned that swaddling can be dangerous but I’m not sure why and so many people say it helps keep their baby from startling and waking themselves up. Does age matter? Thanks for all the great content!
Hi @Julie Brown I do recommend swaddling a newborn as it helps to dampen the startle reflex and swaddling also makes it easier to transfer the newborn once asleep. Swaddling does become dangerous once a bub starts to roll onto their side or tummy. Because of this it is recommended you stop swaddling as soon as your little one is getting close to rolling (usually by 4 months of age). If you do co-sleep the recommendation is not to swaddle at any age. Hope that helps.
I never planned to co-sleep and thought it was really unsafe. Then I had my baby and was absolutely exhausted and it just happened. Until he became mobile and I woke up to him stepping over me and falling off the bed…
I’d love a video on how to end co-sleeping and get baby in their crib. I didn’t mean to start co-sleeping but now my baby has been waking up and rolling and spin all around the bed. No one gets good sleep and I want to get baby to start sleeping in their own bed. We are also moving, so I’m worried about too much change at once. Thoughts? Tips?
This is a good video because it takes into account those who will "do it anyway" same logic as absence vs safe sex and unsupervised drug use vs drug use in a facility. Acknowledging that cosleeping is unsafe and not recommended while also trying to reduce risk for those who don't care to follow that advice.
I would not say dont care😅. I brought a crib but my Baby was not able to sleep their for almost 2 months he only slept 1-2 Hours. So my midwife and doctor decided to do safe co-sleeping
It’s not that I don’t care but my baby doesn’t like sleeping on her bed. She keeps crying until I pick her up. She sleeps soundly on my bed. I tried to put her in her bed while sleeping but wakes up as soon as i leave my hand. Doesn’t matter how slow and gently I did. So I had no choice. But I took all the precautions. It was hard because I can’t sleep properly thinking I might hurt her while in sleep.
This comparison is ludicrous. There are some absolutely amazing mothers out there who would never think of putting their babies in danger that do everything possible to ensure safety in every other aspect of childrearing and cosleep safely as possible because that's what their particular baby needs....but sure because they responded to their babies temperament and nature and they are already down the dirty cosleeping path they may as well just to some unsupervised drugs while they're at it? Complete rubbish. There is a lot of biology at play, particularly when breastfeeding, that influences people to cosleep from both baby and mother perspective and it's in everyone's best interest to learn how to do it safely for the occasions where they may find themselves needing to. For example - when baby is cluster feeding through the night and the hormones associated with breastfeeding make you incredibly sleepy then it would be significantly more preferable to be prepared for accidently falling asleep in an optimised cosleeping environment than in a chair, couch or recliner. Alot of people who end up cosleeping didn't intend to prior to having children, just as alot of women don't intend to formula feed but sometimes things just don't go the way you intend for a number of reasons, many out of our control, and we should have access to the less ideal but next safest possible option available just as we do with scenarios like feeding. Sleep is biological necessity, not a luxury.
I like these cribs with one side open to the parents bed. I don't know how you call it in english. They seem to be perfect for co-sleeping. The baby sleeps in his own bed but has contact to the parents. It's like an extention. We didn't have those beds when my children were born but I wish we had.
I tried this, she was still too far away, putting a totaha in my bed was much better , no getting up or looking hard for breathing ect i gave up on the bassinet for now.
My baby has slept in her bassinet then crib since I’ve brought her home from the hospital though we did plenty of contact naps in newborn days . I miss them ! It’s hard to fit them in now that I’m working and that she’s on a 2 nap schedule. For night sleep I wouldn’t want to mess up the good sleep habits we have, as much as I’d like to sleep with her once in awhile . I’m afraid it would just throw a lot of what we’ve done out the window . She’s 7 months now!
I was very against cosleeping. My son got his shots and was in so much pain and crying non stop. Our sofa is very firm and there is no sinking and it turns into a bed with the firm sofa, I decided to let him sleep with me for the first time and I watched several sleep safe videos and learned in Japan, they have the lowest SIDS rate and how they sleep with their baby and I did this. No blankets or pillows. Completely clear. I would say not to get used to it or comfortable with it or you will sleep to well and have a higher chance of moving. Luckily, I don’t move when I sleep for some reason. But I never do. So, it went very well and baby is feeling better. I just didn’t want to leave him alone while he was in such discomfort. Won’t be making it a habit.
Hi Emma, Thank you for the video. Do you have any advice on how to stop co sleeping? My baby is 7 months and just won’t sleep in her own bed has been like this since 3 weeks old.
Is a Co-sleeper ok? Basically a basinet that has a half wall and bumps up against the bed, but the baby is not on the bed? You would still have to follow all the other rules of nothing else in the co-sleeper and be conscious of the baby's temperature. I have co-slept in the past with baby in the bed but this time we bought a co-sleeper because my daughter often sneaks into bed with us and that would not be safe.
A co-sleeper is safer than having them in the bed, especially if your have s sibling jumping in bed with your all. The potential concern with co-sleepers is there may be a gap between the co-sleeper and the bed which the little one can fall into. Here is a link to Red Nose Australia's response to co-sleepers in case you are interested: rednose.org.au/question/are-co-sleeper-bed-attachment-cots-ok
My daughter have been sleeping great thru the nights with me and my husband from day 1. She is such a calm and relaxed baby. I love our nights together and I would not change it for anything. She is 10 weeks old and in my opinion I think it is very important to newborns to feel safe and close to parents specially mum. And I think it is a bit cold hearted not to give this bonding time to your infant. Sorry but in this video you make it sound so unsafe and terrible. And some of the tips is just common sense.
Yes it is all common sense, or call it maternal instinct. I was made to be scared of sleeping with my newborn, but i did all things i could think of to keep her safe and right by my side. She would not sleep in a bassinet, even right next to my side of bed.. So i had to let her sleep next to me. I have had rude comments from other parents, but this is what has worked for us & she is now 6 months & doing great!
@@sarahtara5546 Same for me. I hate comments like „ oh they dont care about the safety from their baby”… I really tried to put him in a crib for 2 months !
@@isycookie wow you lasted longer than me... I was so sleep deprived... She woke up every hour or less usually.. She just missed her mommy, and we both didn't sleep.. It was a lose, lose situation.
what's the cutoff age for the risk to diminish if we want to cosleep with both a baby and a toddler of 2+ years (at the moment they are in different beds) but we eventually want to all share the same room/beds that are together 🤔
Co-slept with my little one in a doc a tot between my husband and I. We have a King so we have plenty of room. Also, I had a c section so I wasn’t able to sleep laying down for a while. So having her right there next to me to feed was much easier than having to bend over for a bassinet. Once she hit one month she went in her own room in her crib and haven’t had any issue with her in there.
Hi Emma! What are your thoughts on in bed bassinets? Specifically, we used a bassinet that laid in the bed with us but had mesh sides with metal barring to ensure nothing rolls over onto it, separate mattress, no bedding inside the bassinet, literally exactly the same as a normal bassinet but laid on the bed (beside one caregiver, not between the two).
Hi Brianna I don't know which bassinet you are referring to but it sounds like it was a safer option for your little one. The only concern I would have is it might tip out of the bed as it just rests on the bed but obviously you would have ensured it was well away from the edge. Also with all bassinets once baby is showing signs of being able to roll, Red Nose Australia recommend moving the bub to a cot.
I am example of theory vs reality. I was strongly against co-sleeping until our daughter arrived and she wouldn’t sleep in her crib at all:( already in maternity ward midwife put us to co-sleep and that’s what we do until now cause otherwise she wouldn’t really sleep:( I have to admit I turned out loving it and feeling surprisingly more calm. But recently our almost 4 months baby who hated tummy time now is obsessed with rolling to her tummy. For some reason especially when she falls asleep or is already asleep. She would sometimes wake up from that but in most cases continues to sleep on her tummy. We roll her back but she insists and goes back to stomach or gets nervous and cries. What does this mean and what to do?
Oh and sometimes on top of that she puts her small butt up trying to push herself to kind of crawl as well. She obviously can’t which pisses her off and she ends up crying. So I then turn her back but no she again rolls on her stomach and it goes endlessly…
My baby also did this. This is the perfect time to start introducing the baby to independent sleep. In our case that meant moving to a firm twin sized mattress on the floor in their own room. I continued to cosleep with them moving away to give them room, or move to sleep on the floor nearby when they would roll onto belly. At 6 months we started the Ferber style sleep training and while it took some perserverence on my part baby now sleeps great both ways. Just make sure baby isn't suffocating in the mattress, there are no pillows or loose bedding and stay nearby. My pediatrician said it was okay to leave baby on belly sleeping as long as they rolled over on their own and wasn't face down in the mattress. This is just my experience though, ask your pediatrician what they recommend.
Hi @Alisa Berezutska this could be happening for multiple reasons. - At this age babies can learn to roll over and as they don't experience sleep paralysis during REM sleep they can often roll over during their sleep. - Or your little one may prefer to sleep on their tummy. - Also often sleeping on a mattress can make it easier to roll over if the mattress isn't firm or if there is an indentation in the mattress (from another person lying bedside them). It's important to make sure if you are swaddling your little one you stop straight away and you continue to place your baby on their back for all sleeps. If your little one chooses to roll over then that is ok but don't put them on their stomach. Also make sure there are no adult bedding being used. I would recommend you increase the time spent in tummy time to strengthen your little one's arm, back and neck muscles, as well as help your little one learn to roll from their tummy to their back. To minimise the risks it would also be safer to move your little one to a separate sleep surface. But check in with your Dr for their recommendations.
@@EmmaHubbard thank you a lot! She rolls easily to her stomach on her playmat as well, so I assume she just loves sleeping that way as she continues to roll to her stomach / try to crawl even when awake or during the day naps (those we already transitioned to her crib, but she still needs to be rocked to fall asleep yet). She hated being swaddled since birth so not using the swaddling sacks we bought, the outpatient midwife (breastfeeding consultant) tried swaddling her with burping cloth etc and she would go hysteric. Baby also started to roll to her side very early as that’s how she preferred to sleep before as well. I guess my baby is a bit weird in that sense. Do you have a video on how to motivate a baby to go back to the back position? Cause to tummy she rolls to see what’s around naturally but I feel that it’s lack of interest to go in reverse🙄
My baby started feeling uneasy in her bassinet after week one. So we co sleep now she is almost 3month and we are doing fine sometimes I barely sleep during the night because I have to watch out for all of us especially her dad. It also makes my breastfeeding easier because I breastfeed her atleast 5times through the night but now I’m used to it. We are planning to introduce her to her crib after 6months hopefully it will work.
my 6 month old likes to turn on to his tummy and sleep that way, it makes me very nervous. I feel like every time I have to turn his head more to the side so his nose isn't blocked at all. Is there anything that can help with this sort of situation? The only time he doesn't do that is if he is cuddled up to me which means I don't get deep sleep because I'm such a light sleeper.
I am another who didnt plan on co-sleeping until my baby arrived! I do have one question though- how is she supposed to sleep without being swaddled? She is 6 weeks. We use the love to dream swaddle right now. Im worried if i co sleep without it she will startle
Hi Celine it can be harder for them to sleep without the swaddle but to try and minimise the risks when co-sleeping it is recommended that the baby is not swaddled.
I wasn`t planning on co-sleeping and I still don't want to it, but for a while now he started rolling on his tummy and cannot get back on his back, so we got from 3 wakes a night to about 20 :))) in order to be able to function until he learns how to turn back and forth, I am co-sleeping, but I wonder what can I do in this situation to keep him safe in his crib. He does turn his head when he sleeps, but at one point he probably gets tired and starts crying.
So what about the countries that don't even know what sids is and their babies all sleep next to their mothers? Every case is going to be unique, and there is no one size fits all for sleeping safety.
@@blckct1329 people with funding want to deny this reality... BUT I think it is vaccines and also probably lack of maternal care/comfort in this crucial beginning to life.. How depressing..
we just have a country run by people who want to separate mother and child and families all together, they publish data on whatever agenda they want to push
I think more than likely, the data isn’t there regarding SIDS in less developed countries. Babies are still dying at similar rates, but yes data is not reported or gathered accurately.
Hiya, hoping to gain some clarity what about if your baby sleeps on a nest, on your bed? My daughter hates her crib but I’m scared to have her completely on the bed
Hi! I did a quick search and here are the recommendations from Red Nose Australia re: nests rednose.org.au/question/are-baby-nests-safe-for-newborn-babies-or-are-they-a-sids-risk#:~:text=Or%20are%20they%20a%20SIDS%20risk%3F,-Post%20a%20Response&text=Red%20Nose%20recommends%20that%20the,Standards%20from%20Product%20Safety%20Australia. Hope that provides a little bit of clarity.
Hi Emma! Thank you for your video! I always put our baby on his back but recently he learned to turn on the side by himself and he prefers to sleepnthat way. If I turn him back on his back he wakes up. He is 4 and a half months old. Should I let him sleep on the side or turn him back on his back? Thank you!
So then the father can’t sleep in the same bed if baby can’t be close to the edge has to be in the middle and he isn’t allowed to be in the middle 😂😂 a safe fence by the edge of the bed is the safest option or push the bed to the wall and make sure theres no gap in between so baby can’t get cought there.
Hi Jo, the reason it is recommended babies shouldn't be swaddled when co-sleeping are: - swaddling can cause overheating which increases the risk of SIDS - when a baby is swaddled they are unable to use their arms to move anything which may be accidentally covering their face or move their arms or legs to alert an adult who may be too close. - also when an adult is lying on a mattress, the mattress itself tends to slope down towards the adult which makes it easier for a baby to accidentally roll over while sleeping. If the baby was swaddled and accidentally rolled over onto their side or tummy they are unable to use their hands to lift their head to clear the mattress and breathe. Hope that makes a bit more sense on why swaddling when co-sleeping is not recommended.
Causation is not correleation in research. Just because babies died of sids in the world doesn't make all babies will. Both me and my husband grew in CO sleeping household. We had various accidents while kids but we are still alive. The amount of liability in the medical industry makes stress on both parties. I got discharged in a rush during covid and the amount of dead baby pictures I had to see and all that information overload triggered my anxiety. A mother no matter what will never kill her baby. A mother is intuned to her baby's heartbeat. 💗 Actually research shows that Asian babies less likely died of sids because of attachment parenting. Any breastfeeding for 4-6 months reduces the risk of SIDS by about 60%. Any breastfeeding for longer than 6 months reduces the risk of SIDS by about 64% so not going to work staying home with baby and having a happy stress free environment for mother automatically prevents SIDS but as you know post covid inflation has definitely put a damper on that.
Thanks for sharing. However, the statistics relating to co-sleeping injuries and deaths are clear. It's simply not true to say that it doesn't significantly increase risk.
As a professional who works with women in the perinatal period, I can tell you that I have worked with women who have had babies pass from co-sleeping-related incidents. It does happen. It is possible that baby can suffocate without mom knowing. Remember that every statistic is heartbreakingly a real family that experienced a tragedy.
Honestly if you can't have blankets, can't place them in the middle and can't place them on their side or even swaddle them then it makes no difference to them if they are next to you or in the bedside crib at all. I totally understand the importance of keeping them safe but it's catch 22 because they love feeling warm and snuggled up and not having their arms fling up and wake them.. would be good to get a guide of how to make clingy babies actually stay asleep, cause it's easy to say what you shouldn't do.
I had a super clingy baby. We co slept and we used the ergo pouch sleeping bags (although there are heaps of brands available!). He slept amazingly next to me! When during the day I HAD to hold him and couldn’t put him down and he downright refused to sleep in a cot.
Sorry if it sounds rude but these videos are more scaring people(or just me) rather than helping them. Use of word death so many times just gives me anxiety in itself. May be we could find just a more subtle way of delivering information instead of constantly repeating the phrase 'increased risk of sids'. I am a mom of 8 month old baby and listening to these words scares the shit out of me.
The safety of your baby should never be sugar coated. It is proven that co-sleeping increases the risk of SIDS. Emma has done so well in outlining how you can keep those risks to a minimum.
Wauw. I look for 'safe co sleeping because I want to co sleep and I end up seeing this video in which it is being made look a death sentence for kids :( thumbs down! I am looking for good advice on what I want not to be made more scared. :(
Co sleeping families always get annoyed when theyre told it's unsafe. The facts are facts. And you choose to make whatever decision works for you but they doesn't change the research and data.
I was completely aware of the risks but when my daughter stopped going in her cot at 4 months I had to weigh up the other risks. She was nursing every 1-2 hours and that was if I could get her down at all which sometimes she wouldn't. I was going insane and I was scared I was going to fall asleep in an unsafe place, crash my car or the worst was my mental health was getting so bad from lack of sleep that I worried that if it continued I could hurt my baby. I chose to try and as safely as I could sleep with her. I still woke constantly to check she was breathing and I had no blanket tried to do everything I could but I was always aware of the risks. I'm lucky that I've never moved from the position I fell asleep in. I was so against bedsharing before I had my daughter and I had the same thoughts as you but now I realise that some people don't handle the sleep deprivation and some babies don't sleep well.
I agree with you. It’s most important that people know that co-sleeping increases risk. The data show what the data show. In an ideal world, baby would get her comfort of being near caregivers without the added risk.
Not rude at all. Being sleep deprived is exhausting! Don't know if you have had a chance to check out the video on 7 sleep tips for newborns. It might help
I would tuck the blanket underneath my sides (and still below baby's chest) to secure it while i slept on my back with my baby girl next to me. I am a light sleeper, so any movement of hers would wake me up anyway. Oh and you could wear a long sleeve shirt to cover your upper body. I was so sleep deprived in the beginning that I had to get creative.
I opted to use something called a waffle blanket. They're very thin and breathable but have this waffle pattern that holds heat very well. Try to find a blanket that is both warm and breathable. Fold the blanket three times and try to breathe through it, if you can't then it's a no go. Or use separate blankets, put baby in a sleep sack and wrap yourself in a blanket like a burrito 🌯 that way there is no chance of the blanket covering baby's face. Hope this helps.
It took me some time to find a good one, but there are adult sleepsack or warm onsies out there. Was an absolute game changer : no more worries when I slept with my baby boy, and even when I didn’t sleep with him, it made it so much easier to wake up during the night for him without having to get out of my blanket. Even now that he sleeps through most nights I still use it. Baby has his own sleepsack.
Another exhausted mom here! I wear a pajama or yoga pants with a breastfeeding top at night. Honestly I wasn't trying to make myself too comfortable, so that I could still stay awake if possible long enough to put baby back in the crib, but when I was really exhausted I fell asleep anyway.
