7 Mind Games Narcissists Use to Manipulate You 

Have you met someone like this?

“Lessons in life will be repeated until they are learned.”💫

If you suspect you're with a narssasist, get out quickly and quietly, do not try to change them. Good luck.

They don't leave you in peace. They leave you in pieces.

“There is simply no winning with a narcissist. He will treat you so horribly that you will become withdrawn and depressed and then he will turn around and say, ‘You’re no fun anymore, you’re always so depressed. I need to be with someone more positive.’” - Susan Williams

Gaslighting is so evil, but sadly it really is very common in people with Narcissism. The hardest part is to accept that someone you trusted intentionally tried to drive you crazy 😓

A narcissist tries to destroy your life with lies, because theirs can be destroyed with the truth

For me, the covert narcissist comes across as a people pleaser. They like to be in the spotlight to get the validation that they crave for, as other narcissists but at the same time, they pretend to be humble, simple, generous, over giving. The covert narcissist will take time to build a relationship/friendship with you. During this period, they will show their admiration and their devotion by helping you with everything that is you need. They will try to convince you that you are soulmates and that they understand you deeply. At the same time, you will see them being overly altruistic, maybe helping society by engaging in charities, activism. They feed the poor, take care of the homeless. All this makes you think how lucky you are for having met such a beautiful soul. You want to be by their side for ever. However, soon you notice how much they enjoy being invited in galas to talk about their achievements. But they don’t admit that. They still play the humble guy who doesn’t want all this. Who is beyond money, beyond fame and recognition, who wants to share the floor with other people. But their acts don’t match their words. You come to realise that this selfless soul is actually doing whatever it takes to be in the centre of attention. When you do something together be it at work or at home, they want to control everything about it. They just exerce their control in a more polite and implicit way, making you believe that your voice was heard whereas in reality you did what they wanted you to do. Covert narcissists have a smooth way of leading you on. They don’t shout, they don’t give orders. They are master actors. They convince you that you are together in this. What makes them a narcissist is that when the time comes for them to use you in order to draw certain benefits, they will do it without a second thought and you are not going to believe in your eyes. And when you stand up for yourself and raise your voice against them calling them for their phony identity, then you will see their rage for the first time and the mask will fall. Covert narcissists manipulate less with rage/exhibiting superiority and more with people pleasing behaviour/playing the eternal victim. They are not aggressive as overt narcissists. They are more cunning. What they both have in common is self-centered ness and lack of empathy. In the case of coverts, it will take you longer to find out. They knew what they wanted to get out of you from the beginning. They created a whole theatre play to fool you about who they are and their true motives. You will trust them with all your heart but when the time comes for them to prove their loyalty by choosing your bond over their personal gain, they will choose the latter with no remorse, without even taking any responsibility. Unlike the overt narcissist, they will have an eloquent excuse for doing so, rationalizing why they had to f@ck you over. They will pretend to be sorry about it because this is something that matches the image of modesty that they want to project but in reality they are not sorry at all. You will see them partying with your own money when they said they didn’t have enough to pay you back. You will see them being unfair and untrustworthy to other people as well. When the mask of the victim will fall, you will see the cruel smile of a perpetrator who managed to get what they want without deserving it. If you decide to unmask them run for your life. Moreover, If you need to find out about a cheating narcissist; send a request to: Metaspyhub@gmail. com

My husband of 21 years does all of this. I finally woke up a year and a half ago and realized how evil his actions are. I left 10 months ago and will never go back. Please leave if you can!!

It's almost impossible to protect yourself when blinded by love

The worst narcissist is the passive-aggressive type. The silent killer, it bides its time, not showing up until it finds an opportunity to exploit.

I just realized I’ve been in a 8 year relationship full of Narcissistically events. This video just confirmed my heart and all the signs were true. Now it’s time for me to leave her even though my heart hurts. Please send me prayers 🙏

They're self-absorbed, entitled, callous, exploitative, authoritarian, and aggressive. Some are physically abusive. These unempathetic, arrogant narcissists think highly of themselves, but spare no disdain for others.

Narcissists also try to make others feel special to gain control; for example, they might compliment or flatter the individual to get them on their side. They then go on to play with difficult emotions like shock, awe, and guilt to maintain control over their victim.👍

Every single manipulation tactic all but implies the use of the lying tactic and the gaslighting tactic. I actually dislike it a little calling out gaslighting as a manipulation tactic as it's actually an effect. All manipulation tactics will contribute to it by nature of what manipulation is. Some tactics however certainly take the gaslighting effect to a whole different level. Blatant lies that are so bad they insult your intelligence is one of them. That kind of shit will make you feel like you are in the twilight zone after a while. Here are some of the reasons they do this: To test their control. To feel superior and/or entertainment. This proves to themselves how much control they have over you. In the end, you will give up and you will not leave (trauma bonded). In the process of getting to the giving up stage, you will go through some pretty nasty emotional states ending in massive amounts of cognitive dissonance to swallow all of that. Cognitive dissonance is a trauma defense mechanism where you essentially lie to yourself in various ways so that you can bring back some semblance of equilibrium to the insanity you find yourself unable to escape from. As part of the ‘backing you into an emotional corner’ tactic. This is a tactic where you are manipulated into being emotionally unstable inevitably leading to you losing your shit. This gives the narcissist a big dopamine burst, they feel powerful and superior having so deftly controlled you and manipulated into this emotional state. To finish the little game they play, they make sure to point out how unhinged and unstable you are and suggest that perhaps you need help or medication. Of course, you will internalize all that shame and guilt and the million other raging emotions they have created and swallow all that essentially allowing them to scapegoat their blame and accountability onto you. Bring on some more cognitive dissonance and gaslighting effects. To condition you to expect less respect, and ultimately put up with more abuse. You will tire of the inevitable circular argument trying to convince the narcissist of the blatantly obvious lie and eventually find yourself challenging them less and less as you subconsciously accept the fact that if you do it will just make your life and emotional state more miserable and you will be denied the satisfaction of any kind of ‘win’ even if it is easy to disprove. This is part of the domination process and makes sure all the power in the relationship ends up with them by the end. To turn your mind to mush as the gaslighting effect takes hold more and more over time. This makes you even easier to control. Many times while easy to disprove it requires some kind of concession of some obvious truth that the narcissist can just doggedly refuse to agree with or remember (‘the intentional forgetting’ tactic and the ‘feigned confusion or ignorance’ tactics are often employed for this). So, in fact, it is not so easy to prove when the narcissist refuses to correctly remember what happened 10 min ago or accept sound logic or reasoning. You will just turn blue in the face trying. Of course, in some cases it is indisputable. A phone log or something. My experience is when this kind of stuff happens it wasn’t their intention typically, although sometimes it was. But in these scenarios, you will typically get some sort of angry ‘invalidating’ tactic, with some good old ‘manufactured rage’ and ‘intimidation’ tactics to ‘put you on the defensive’ and get you more susceptible to further manipulation. Maybe something like: “Get over yourself already” followed up by some ‘blame-shifting’ tactics with some good old ‘guilt’ and ‘shame’ tactics, like “Why the hell are you spying on my phone records anyway? What kind of relationship is this? I don’t have any privacy? I don’t know if I can do this anymore! You have major jealousy issues! You need help!” You will walk away as the loser either way. There are resistance tactics that can be used but this is a very difficult tactic to deal with and it is one of their favorites. I won’t get into the counter-tactics here though. The only way to really win in a relationship with a narcissist is to leave them and go no contact. Moreover, Catching a cheating spouse might be difficult, and knowing what local laws say you can and cannot do might be even more difficult. To simplify the process, consider hiring a private investigator to do the sleuthing for you I genuinely appreciate how incredible you are and your work! Thank you for a job well done *Metaspyhub@gmail. com* ,,

being in a relationship with a narcissist is like having an addiction to a hard drug :/ unrealistically euphoric highs, lows that feel lower than literal hell.. i’ve never been addicted to drugs but it seems like a fairly accurate comparison based on my marriage vs basic knowledge of drug addiction

When your own parent is a narcissist, it's hard to protect yourself...

My mother is a narcissist. She ticks every box in this video and I've known this about her for a few years now. I went into therapy a few years ago for depression and PTSD and found myself much stronger and tried to have some semblance of a relationship with her. Even with these tools, she was exhausting to deal with and it was taking a toll on my mental health again so have since cut her from my life. I get a lot of backlash for it from people that don't know me or know the full story i.e.: "but she's your mother!" "you can't just cut her out of your life!" I can, I have, and I am better off from it.

There are lists of abusive acts by narcissists. I would like to add one. It is "narcissist over ride". That's when a narcissist constantly bumps you out of a conversation and over rides everything you have to say. They will verbally pound you, often with aggressive body language, should you have something to say, with their point of view until you just give up. Best thing to do is to leave at that moment. Walk to another room, etc. Or, if possible, tell this person to stop over riding you when you talk. Of course, they will then blame it on you, but you'll have made at least some kind of stand. Professionals may have other ways to handle this insulting behavior. Thank you.

When I tell you I was BLINDED, I was so blind. My ex said I was a cancer to his life, but he was the one feeding from my beautiful soul literally dragging me down to his level. I have never felt more drained & after we broke up he tells me it felt like his best friend died. Like no honey your life support system just finally left you to rot like the piece of shit he was. Sorry I’m ruthless because fuck them.

My goodness. This is such a spot on description of my most recent relationship. She dumped me a month ago over text. Mean, cruel, cold, lacked empathy, gaslighted me, refused to acknowledge responsibility, gave me the silent treatment, then threw a tantrum when I called her out and stood up for myself. She wasn't like that the whole time, but in our last month together her true colors came out and it looked exactly like this. She broke my heart, but it's getting better with time and counseling. Good luck to anyone else going through this.

I’m dealing with a narcissistic mother and watching this made me cry because it gave me so much validation to how I’ve been feeling😭

I‘m extremely sorry for anyone who has to go through something like this! Keep reminding yourself that you are great, worth of love and respect and that no one has the right to put you down! I‘m reading so many comments from so many broken but strong people. Keep your heads up everyone ♥️

I dated someone like this for 2 years. It was a total mental hellscape of which I had never known before. Often times, people who deal with this kind of person have dealt with some form of abuse or even a narcissistic parent themselves. Internal healing and reaffirming your own personal boundaries is the best way to prevent dealing with this kind of abuse. Stay golden everyone

This is SO sad...don't let anyone mistreat you...EVER.

I worried for a long time that I was a narcissist, but it turns out my ex was just calling me what he is, so that was a relief. While I do have some toxic traits, I'm working on them. Admitting I was wrong feels really ugly, embarrassing, and scary, but... fuck it. If I want to be a good person, I have to tackle the most shameful parts of who I've been as a person.

I just left a 41 year marriage to a narcissist. These were spot on. I hope I can recover. I want to be around for my children and grandchildren.

Just got out of a 3 year relationship with someone who definitely portrays these characteristics. 😱 always lashed out and broke up with me when I didn't do the things he wanted me to do..... definitely got gaslit and he definitely doesn't see his own wrong behavior. You know how many times I ran crying trying to get him back and apologizing for shit I didn't even need to apologize for ?!

It's so hard to escape a narcissist coz once u leave a narcissist you won't have any more friends coz all ur friends will be on their side

To add on this list... Narcissists also use relationships/friendships as a weapon if things don’t go their way especially if they want something or have a favour w/ someone.

Once you move pass their bullshit and bizarre games, you begin to truly open your eyes to how how insanely weird these individuals are. All us normal people want to do is enjoy life in the present moment and have fun, why are they constantly conspiring against us? The effort of having to manipulate multiple people and jumping from one to the next sounds downright exhausting, a full time job on top of the job they already have, if they even have that lol. Sad creatures to say the least.

I was married to one. Now he’s with someone else who doesn’t realize he’s a narc or pretends she doesn’t know. Im glad he’s gone

I have had a relationship with this kind of person for 2+ years long. It was so horrible and traumatic, in my current pov. Back then I was so into him, I didn't realize he actually was taking advantage of me in a bad way. It's been a year since I broke up with him. I'm grateful that I can stand by myself and speak for myself right now. For you all who are in that state, please don't be afraid. Just let them go. Sending my warm hug for you.

as someone who's grown up with a narcissistic mother: if you are in a relationship and recognice this behavior, do not try to change them. You can't. You should leave for your own safety.

The scariest thing is if you are a kind hearted.. you are afraid they are going to commit dead cause you left them or reject them.cause it’s hard for them to understand that “their is always fish in the sea”

Wow... eye-opener. For almost a year my best friend has been a narcissist. I ended my friendship with her not long ago and she tried to ruin all my friendships because I was standing my ground. This explains a lot.

I was friends with a narcissist for 10 years and I had finally had enough of them abusing my friendship. I still struggle with the loss and trauma of said abusive friendship. But since leaving that friendship I've gained two new wonderful friends who truly care about me. ❤

Narcissistic people are extremely charming yet painfully insecure. I lost my identity before, luckily. But it took me about 3 years to get it back to what was normal for me. Because of that narcissistic person I won't ever second guess my thoughts or go against what I feel and see.. So I thank that S.O.B. for waking me up

The only way for me to save myself from this narc is to walk away from this person, and going no contact at all... I wish i had some courage to walk away earlier... But no regret, better late than never

comments section: you’re thinking about a specific person aren’t you? my overthinking ass: am I a narcissist? what if this is me? do I do this? hhhhh

I’ve been with a narcissist, and it’s a horrible experience, it sucked my soul out. HOWEVER, I do want to say that almost anybody can become a narcissist without realizing it, or should I say they can “take the narcissist role” in a relationship. All it takes is an intense, strong connection, and a very desperate, clingy, co-dependent person. Like for example, if two people fall in love quickly, and not long after that, the person becomes clingy and overly emotional all the time and reliant on the other person, that other person, so intensely in love, would automatically assume the narcissist role, though they wouldn’t intentionally. The person would just get used to the other person relying on them for everything that it becomes automatic. Then they lose respect for the person, and the repeated patterns of love-fighting-emotions-sex, etc...becomes a habitual thing, and neither person can leave. So I’m just saying, you don’t have to actually BE a narcissist to become one in a certain unhealthy relationship. And yes, it’s equally hard for both parties to break it off, because it’s still a trauma bond. Moral of the story: just avoid co-dependent people and don’t be co-dependent yourself.

I think it's a little deeper than this. You make it seem like the narcissist is doing this knowingly or of some pre-planned agenda. It's a psychological condition, they often don't know they are doing this because they have no concept of your feelings or perspective. It's like sweeping leaves on a windy day to get a person like this to understand fully.

Me, half asleep, "Is he narcissistic? Am I narcissistic?"

I was raised by an AGGRESSIVELY abusive/narcissist. At some points, I see myself showing the same signs as him. I feel so horrible when I have cycles, and it’s embarrassing to talk about with friends.

Emotional trauma. Yes. Gaslighting abuse can last for years especially if the abuser denies the way they treated others. Lies. Yes. Lies. Thats the worst thing that makes the victim look even more crazy, or that we have the problematic behaviour

for anyone going through this situation: it is really difficult, but it is a lesson to teach us that we must love ourselves so much that we do not want to protect ourselves but want to live freely without being on the defensive. as long as we think we are protecting ourselves we are giving importance to the narcissist in question by believing that we are victims but we are not! train yourself to love yourself so much that you think your energy is pure as opposed to theirs and stay in your truth! if you are authentic and genuine they will not know how to access you because they are not able to be the first and so in addition to unmasking them you increase the respect for yourself you are strong, I send you so much love. only those who go through these situations know what all this means, so put your mental health first and reinforce your boundaries without feeling guilty because you deserve the best. You can really leave from this shit, even it’s in your family.

I recognized all of these narcissistic signs in myself

As someone who can easily forget things (including if I did this or that) living with an a narcissist who gas lights would be a nightmare while my poor memory would just fuel their fire.

This is a great start to identifying an issue and learning how to deal with it or avoid the power struggle. Because that's what it often becomes. A power struggle, and knowing how to recognise the signs of manipulation are important. Then you can regain control and avoid being sucked into situations where you are being taken advantage of. Also realising that you deserve better and that you can't always help someone break free of their negative habits is important for self care.

Me: Am I a narcissist? I kinda feel concerned about this, but I tell myself: I'm just overthinking. Me: But what if I think I'm not a narcissist and that makes me a narcissist?! Also Me: Dude, you're overthinking! If you think you're a narcissist then you're not! Me: Am I a narcissist? Others: Your not. Me: .....ok....but I usually play the victim! Others: at least your aware. Me: I keep looking at the mirror! Others: chillax Me: Thanks One guy: You have no idea what a narcissist is, do you? Me: umm... Guy: Edgy Teenager

These videos help me understand my narcissistic father. I keep listening to them time to time, thank you for posting these

Yes, I’ve met someone like this. My sense of sanity had been trampled and my self-esteem kept taking blows that always sent me back to him. I feel like he’s in every part of my life; it’s driving me crazy but being driven crazy will only make my mind hazy and I need all my wits about me to survive. Survive what? Not being drawn back in. Keeping my boundaries.

i wanna say thank you to this channel for helping me get out of a toxic relationship. i thought what i felt was normal but because of the channel I realized it wasn’t. now I’m in a happy stable relationship and living my life to the fullest

The gaslighting, selfish behavior, and LIES were terrible !!

I pray whoever reads this to be successful someday 😊💛 you are loved.

Traits of my covert narcissist ex: (an introvert narc) - degrades me (always telling me the reason im not getting better is because im not doing enough/not enough) - sad boi manipulative - doesnt have good relationship with family - didnt introduced me to parents rightfully (like no connection) - buys me gifts then uses them against me ("after all the things i bought you, youre gonna act that way?!") - threatens me to leave his place and throws away my stuff when in rage (or just mad at me for something I did) - says he loves me but doesnt make me feel safe (sudden rage, shouting, etc) - tantrums (when in rage, or doesnt get what he wants) - asking for sex in inappropriate times and days. (in the middle of the night/tired) - gets extremely jealous with other guys (even though I dont talk to them) - sneaks on my phone when im asleep - gets irritated when I ask for a favor (like walking me home) - doesnt want me to wear clothes that are too revealing / doesnt want me to wear make up so other guys wont want me or look at me (very insecure). - doesnt trust me with his money (paranoid that i might steal from him) - has very few friends and tells that some people are hard to be with. - calls me names when angry (c*nt, b*tch, ho*ker) - has a very quiet and timid personality

This explains my ex. He made me questions my own emotions and my own habits and words. After every argument, I always believed that I was the one at fault and he wouldn't continue to tear me down emotionally. After we broke up I finally felt freer than I was before so I'm glad I got out of that.

You're spot on! I found out the hard way. Fortunately, I recognized some red flags early. I was able to extract myself without much resultant damage.

My ex girlfriend is a narcissist and she messed me up so bad that when I met a psychopath on Tinder it felt familiar. What I have learned is that all psychopaths are narcissistic, but not all narcissists are psychopaths.

1:17 Gaslighting 2:13 Projection 2:43 Guilt Tripping 3:08 Silent Treatment 3:42 Feigned Ignorance 4:20 Playing the victim 5:05 Throwing tantrums

It's important to stress that this behaviour is the work of a malignant narcissist. Regular people with high narcissistic tendencies tend to use these more as a defence mechanism when backed into a corner but people with npd do this for fun or purely out of spite

I actually lived with a gal who called me her best friend but tried to destroy my life behind my back that was bi-polar, manic depressive, multiple personality disorder and schizo-affective. It was a f*cking NIGHTMARE!!! I have severe trauma and PTSD from living with her. So bad in fact that when I got kicked out so they could move my newly ex-boyfriend's side sl*t in, I refused to go to a shelter or be in a single room occupancy where I would be in another roommate situation. I actually felt so much better living on the streets for about 6 months than I ever did living with her. I would wake up to her standing in the doorway of my room and she would just stare at me and say things like "my voices are telling me to kill you" and all sorts of crazy sh*t. She was spreading all these lies about me behind my back and trying to make everyone hate me all while calling me her best friend. She would throw tantrums if I would even talk to any of my other friends and would threaten to kick me out if I didn’t do whatever she wanted me to do. At the time, I had no place to go. My counselor even said she was dangerous and that people with that diagnosis can be very dangerous and manipulative and narcissistic. She would "forget" to take her medications a lot of the time as well. I became EXTREMELY suicidal. I couldn’t believe how I allowed this to happen to me. I’m okay now and I am healing but I have a LOT of damage from that entire situation. Please, if you even suspect someone is a narcissist and you are being treated like this, GET OUT!!! It’s not worth becoming that damaged by someone.

I had a close friend who was like this. Unfortunately I didn’t know she was a narcissist, and I didn’t know the red flags because I had low self-esteem and didn’t have a lot of world experience. She used to lie on many occasions even if there were consequences and then fain ignorance and be sorry when she’s caught. I only distanced myself because I was starting to be very uncomfortable and even get anxiety. It’s only after many years I know the signs. Trust your gut folks. If something doesn’t feel right, get your self some distance

A video showing how narcissism can be mistaken for other psychological issues. For instance, some people might perceive to be giving someone the silent treatment while all they’re really doing is removing themselves from an emotional situation that they are not equipped to handle at the time.

My first boyfriend was a narcissist. This information would have been extremely helpful a few months ago. I'm really thankful for your work here on RU-vid and especially thank you for this video, I hope it can help somebody to fall in the same trap I fell in. 💕

Although, I am not quite sure whether the person in mind is narcissistic or maybe just a plain entitled person. But, since I did not have any energy nor space left to sympathize them. I took my respect & glance, never looking back. Even when I tried to explain, I want to have healthy boundaries, they told me I have mental sickness. I laughed in my mind, I mean... who would not have mental sickness being manipulated out of your sympathy. Since then, even though sometimes I feel bad for them, I choose my liberation. I ran out of patience, chance, space for them, cause I don't want to be in the same position ever again.

My mom is most likely a narcissist. She treated me like all of the above mentioned tactics while growing up and right up until May. I had to block her and my dad and sister for over a month because they ganged up on me through text messages and tried calling to get mad at me when I try to put up healthy boundaries with them. I'm 32 years old and my mom still tries to treat me like a child. She's always changing the story to suit her needs. And she always tries to get me to do things I don't like doing, making me feel guilty about not doing it. She'll say "after all I did for you. I gave up my whole life for you. To stay home and raise you and your sister. "

I've experienced all of this, If you have suffered from this abuse then it does get better and you will regain your self respect better than you ever had before.

I have had a narcissist friend who always used to control me. He would force me to do things he wanted, even though it was a little thing. And the scary part is that until and unless I used to do what he wanted, he would pressurize me for the same. I refused this time and he got frustrated and started insulting. Secondly, he used to always remind me by saying that "I made you stronger". That really used to hurt me. He would move on impossibly quickly after hurting or committing a mistake! If you have been through this you would know that they plant a seed in you which I like to call the "seed of guilt". It will always make you feel bad about how you treat them and thereby do what they want. That is a part of their victim behaviour. Anyone who is reading this, I wish that all of you learn to value your emotions. Believe that if you think this is wrong , it is. Slowly we all will come out of this. Love to all ❤❤❤❤

My personal experience is that some narcissists know they're lying, and others lie so convincingly to themselves that they don't need to be Machiavellian actors in order to convince their curated flying monkeys.

Perfect definition of my *so called* "best friend"

my ex did all of these. i'm so glad that i got out of there before he was able to destroy my sense of self completely.

I spend 2 years with a narcissist boyfriend. He totally brainwashed me and got me into thinking that my parents made me a bad person. He argued all the time, so that i always was drained of all my energy to fight.These where the worst 2 years of my live and this experience will forever be imprinted on my life.

My dad is a narcissist. He said I was crazy for something he had done to me and my step mom backed him up, making me question myself for years. He wants me to come by his house but I dont think i deserve to be hurt everytime i go there. Its time to move on.

My ex and I dated for a year and a half and she ended it two years ago while I was deployed because I didn’t have time. I needed her support more than ever and she refused to speak to me because I was too busy and she was angry for that reason. I took her back later for some odd reason and it was pure hell. Lesson learned. Everything was my fault, if she was in the wrong and she saw no other way to shift blame on me, she’d blame it on her anxiety, then pin it on me for not having patience with her anxiety. It came down to her making so many demands from me and her giving me nothing in return in our relationship. Her way and nothing else. I refused several times to do things she wanted me to that I saw as unnecessary or absolutely stupid and she would make a bigger deal out of me saying “no” than she needed to. I decided to deal with that no more. It was hard for me to do it at first because we’ve had many good times together but recently, we were fighting every week over something petty. I quickly told her I didn’t want to talk to her and I’m blocking her and promptly did so. To this day she still attempts to contact me on new accounts which are all ignored. Beautiful woman, amazing sex, but overall not worth condemning myself to emotional slavery for the rest of my life.

The person I live with is just like this and dealt with it for so long, it's hard to deal with and get away from.

My ex was such a narcissist. It wax so toxic and it left me with trauma that I may be dealing with for years. 11 years with a narcissist is hard

my mother would beat me savagely such as hair pulling, slapping, kicking & scratching when i failed in school or made mistakes in keeping an orderly room, school bag or breaking household ornaments by accident. she also chased me around the house with a knife to scare me when i could not cope with school work. she also would pretend to act insane by suddenly keeping silent and laughing at herself. she did this for 3 yrs while i was in the 2nd to 3rd grade.

Father God please change me… I’ve just learned I am a narcissistic person without even realizing it 😞..Please help me Lord!

The constant dilemma of the narcissist/abuser being my mother is something I struggle with

I still wonder how could someone not feel even a little bit of empathy for the person they’re with When you spend time with someone you end up caring about them, you don’t want them to suffer Then why don’t they care? Why is it so hard to respect the person they’re with? A person who wants to love them

I am narcissists. And everything you said about narcissistic is true. And I really hate about this personality. Still struggle but my Lord Jesus is helping me to cure this disorder

I was literally just going to say that my dad is a narcissist and I started to cry. I feel like I can’t trust anyone. I told my dad about how I feel and he started arguing with me and called me a freak and it’s really hard for me to open up to people. My heart literally shattered. I pretend it didn’t hurt then ran up to my room and cried for hours.

Yup my boss and when I told him he is a narrsist I got fired lol best day of my life

"I'm not in danger Skyler. I AM the danger."

I just realized my best friend is a narcissist. Now that I know their tactics, time to erase my guilt for him and fight back (when necessary)

Funny how when I finally stopped being a people pleaser and responded my "friend" aggressively, he said "wow (insert passive aggressive tone), your attitude has changed. I am really liking it👍👍 (insert sarcastic tone)."

Thank you for this video, I've displayed a few of these traits out of trauma and anxiety.. Especially the projection. I need to try harder to change some of my bad habits. Getting called out is sometimes necessary

I recognised these traits in a person whom I blocked long ago😂

My father has done #1 to me countless times in my life. Maybe not intentionally unlocking a door and blaming it on me, but doing so, forgetting, and then being unable to accept any fault. Agonizing

*Honestly, just owning it and not trying to hide it is partially why I watch you. It's the honorable thing to do and it make the rest of the jobs much more believe when you are call out of the spots like that, so thank you leapnotch*

My ex is like that. Everything was always my fault. Something as simple as me asking her to wash the dishes, or plate in the dishwasher was insulting to her.

It’s super hard to deal with a Narcissist person. My sister disowned our own Mother/ the family because of her actions. She would make false hurtful accusations about the family and they weren’t true. When things don’t go her way she disowned everyone. I can’t deal with people like that.

I think my mom is narcistic she always use gaslighting technique now i understand, thanks for this video,

I wish this video came out a year ago.. 😓 I’m out of that relationship now and i’m a lot better and happier. :) But it sure was traumatizing and i’m never letting this happen to me again. And i would never wish anyone anything that i went through. Please be careful everyone!

Wow. My father's literally like all that. And somewhere in my life I've unintentionally used one of them in my past relationships.

What is REALLY so difficult with Narcs is that many of their tactics are kind of like REAL things that the true victim feels. For example; they like to play the victim. But yet you ARE the victim. My ex-wife used to come out and say, "Stop playing the victim all the time. As if YOU are so innocent." This was when I tried to call her out on something she either did or didn't do for the 90th time that affected me or even both of us. She simply COULD NOT ACCEPT any criticism, even when it was OBVIOUS it was her "mistake". They like to use what's called "Word Salad" to start spinning a conversation. They do it so well, that somehow YOU (the empathic person) end up upside down and backwards in your head. Somehow the conversation is NOT about the precise issue that maybe cost a bunch of money, or caused a major miscommunication with a friend or something. The conversation ends up on how YOU (the empathic person) might have missed one tiny and irrelevant thing, like didn't take out the trash that day. They spin things to where, it's like you have ZERO argument to make unless YOU are 100% flawless before even bringing it up. That's the kind of "Crazy Making" that comes up. But, I wish that these videos would stop focusing on the broader things like, "Gas-lighting". It's too broad... there needs to be TONS of exact examples in order to really help people see through it.

To the 1 percent people reading this... If a caterpillar can turn into a beautiful butterfly 🦋, Then you can be a amazing person and fly even higher in life 😊 You're beautiful and unique in your own way 💖 Don't let anyone change that 💖 Stay safe Baiii Btw i make videos too 😊

Thank you. I've learned a lot watching your videos on narcissistic abuse on your channel... Even had friends recommending me those and being like "it's word for word, watch it". It's complicated still, but it helps.

"Honesty without kindness is brutality. Kindness without honesty is manipulation." And then there's me, who does both.