I usually agree with everything you post, but I don’t agree that everyone has the same amount of struggles. As someone who has worked in education, I can tell you that there are many kids who start off far behind the rest of us because of the environment in which they were born. No food. No shelter. Constant abuse. I could go on, but I won’t. I still love your channel. Just something to think about.
I think she meant we all as humans struggle whether is financially, emotionally, physically or in any form. An avarage person could have food and shelter and not be abused but going through a divorce, or losing a child or fighting cancer. We just have to be mindful everybody goes through things and the amount of struggle does not make you less of more entitled to empathy.
María José Ramírez saying we all suffer in some way is absolutely true, turning around and saying all suffering is equal because we all suffer in some way is absolutely bonkers.
I also think that "taking as much responsibility for [yourself] as possible" runs directly contrary to "the universe is listening". We have to be careful with the suggestion that perspective is everything, because it can run adjacent to thinking people are struggling because they haven't found the right mindset, rather than acknowledging individual (and unequal!) circumstances.
i never commented before, but i just really really want to tell you how much i appreciate you, your video has helped me so much! also, you are looking completely gorgeous in this video!! thank you for being here Rowena
Ahhh this video couldn't have come at a better time, Ro! I'm a senior in high school, and on top of that, I'm turning 18 soon. Many things to let go, and move on from. Your videos always are so helpful and brighten my day. Thank you for being you! And to everyone reading this, I hope you have a good day!
Every time she finishes a point she gets a little emotional. It only shows how much she really means what she says.Cheers Rowena. This video really helped me🌸🌺
There's a difference between thinking the world is unfair because you lost a loved one and thinking that the world is unfair because of systematic inequality in society. I think the levels of how unfair life is for a person can massively be affected by someone's life circumstance, i.e. where they were born, their race, their gender, their sexuality etc.
I agree with you but, objectively speaking, who are we to compare ones suffering to another? the point I was trying to make was that life happens to everyone. systematic inequalities included. there are things in life that we can change and things we can't. so if we all have a finite amount of time to live, why not spend our precious time & energy focusing on things we can change (ourselves, our thoughts, our perception of the world) rather than things we can't (factors outside our control, superficial examples: where we were born, the family we're born in, etc etc)?
THIS. Thank you so much for mentioning this. It sounds dangerously close to the “pull yourselves up by the bootstraps” mentality which honestly further perpetuates those oppressive structures in society. Not all groups are treated equally. You cannot equate the suffering of certain groups with just not being able to “let go”. That’s an overly simplistic approach.
Rowena Tsai So you’re telling people to just get over it? What if you’re suffering injustice every day? I think it’s important to emphasize finding a community and building pathways to resilience than just making banal claims about acceptance and “letting the universe do the work”. This is the here and the now and people who have suffered a lot of injustice or oppression are well aware that odds are stacked against them. You have the privilege of “letting go of everything you don’t need”. Others don’t. Imagine being a single parent, working 3 jobs, and also constantly worrying about what may come of your future. These people don’t get to just sit at home and meditate or whatever. I understand your message, but it needs to come from a professional standpoint. Otherwise, your advice can be taken out of context and misinterpreted.
@@user-tc9ko6gi6j It's just an overall blanket statement that doesn't sit well with me. Whew chile she my fave but this video was kind of all over the place.
_"If you want to be successful at something, you're going to have to make some sacrifices."_ This kinda calms me down. I've been anxious recently reminding how I was so busy back then during my study, which costed me so much of my social/bonding time with my friends. I just feel like I should have done better back then. I should start to learn to accept that it's already in the past & let it go and give myself a pat on the back for my own success.
I've been doing a lot thinking about life and I figured out one of the greatest truths in life is that life like the ocean mysterious unforgiving and cruel and if you are not careful you'll be pulled under despite this no one will argue that it is beautiful and despite all the dangerous it fun life is worth living just as it's worth going to the ocean and having fun
Just started the video and the first point already hits home. My little brother passed away in May. He was 16. And it’s been the hardest thing I’ve ever had to face. It’s really rough. My family really only is my mom, husband, and my brother. So we’ve just kinda been supporting each other the best we can. It definitely won’t be the same again, but we’re just trying to honor him the best way possible.
Complaining is a waste of time. Even the bad things that had happened to me, help me to become the woman that I am today. I love your message. It’s so positive. 🙏🏾💗
Enjoyed your video. Made me think of a quote I have on my desk at work around the topic of what's important and what's not: "Be master of your petty annoyances and conserve your energies for the big, worthwhile things. It isn't the mountain ahead that wears you out - it's the grain of sand in your shoe." Robert W. Service
As someone who's struggled with spending too much time worrying about what's out of my control, I ended up losing a lot of time that I could have used to change what I actually did have control over. "The more we value things outside our control, the less control we have" is really one of the biggest truths when it comes to getting your life together. Another one of my favourite quotes on this subject is from BTS's Dear Class of 2020 speech. Yoongi says "Take your hands off what you can't control, and get your hands on what you can change." I think one of the reasons why I'm so much calmer now is because I've finally internalised the fact that even though there will always be something I can't do anything about, there will also always be something I can. And so the key is to get up and start doing that, and change will happen.
Yes, thank you! I went through some life changes this past year and lately this month even more so. I was suffering from depression for years and clung onto my friends, went to the same school as they did even though I hated it and didn't want that to be my path. Eventually last year I did drop out and decided to focus on healing at home with my dog. Going from not ever excercising, this past year I moved over 700km just by walking with my dog every single day. After being at home for 3 months, I decided I needed to do something so I decided to look for a job, as I felt way better and not depressed. I got a job from a movie theatre, and ended up loving my job. I quickly got promoted to a theatre manager got a peek behind the curtains and loved that job as well. With that money I decided to move out and live on my own, which was nice. I had just turned 18. After working for 7 months I started thinking. Maybe I'd go back to school for a bussiness degree. So taking that leap of going to school with strangers no one who I knew, with people younger than me, was scary as hell. Adapting to school life after a year was difficult. Saying bye to those friends whom I used to leatch onto, were no where near. But working that job I liked really gave me more social confidence. I did a lot of self discovery, forgave my dad for leaving. Also in order to go back to school and work full time, I made the hard decision to move back home for the sake of my dog. I am away from 8am to 10pm. I want to do my studies quickly and graduate and move out in about 2 years. I know this is really rambly, but it's been a week at my new school and things are going well. I had to get out there and make new friends. Talk to people and speak my mind. I think I hadn't maybe stood up for myself had my friends been there with me. I needed to grow up and I did.
This video could not have come at a better time 😌 The first habit you pointed out really got me thinking because lately, I've been presuming that life has not been good to me. I've always felt that life has been unfair and unjust. Your take on this really opened my eyes. Because I've been feeling this way, I've deprived myself of all the good experiences and/or feelings that I could have manifested in myself if only I've chosen to see this phase in my life differently. Thank you for this, Rowena!! Love, from the Philippines 🇵🇭
Thank you. I'm sorry for the loss of your older brother. He was so young and had his whole future ahead of him. Last summer, one week after I visited home from working overseas, I lost my dog Yogi of 9 years in a terrible accident. The doctor said he got lucky and that he would make it. But he didn't. I was in a really dark place after he passed. I was numb and found it so hard to move forward. It also didn't help that the people around me didn't understand or give me the support that I needed. I also learned the hard way that death isn't something people talk about over here. It took a lot of strength and energy to continue living after losing someone so important but I made it and I'm okay today. I think having a good support system while going through the path of most resistance really helps you to pull through.
thank you so, so much. i think it's so important that there are people like you around, who always remind us that life really is just more than the material things we crave and go after and that everything starts off in the mind. that being said, while we can all agree that you are so so important to us and give us some form of guidance from time to time, hope youre taking good care of yourself too!
Okay I'm only 30 seconds into the video but I've already subscribed this is sincerely something I've been dying for people to discuss more! I feel so relieved that someone finally said it THANKYOUUU
I am a huge fan of Beauty Within and this is my first time watching a video on this channel. OMG ! I'm shook. Do people love you from beauty within and follow you here or is it the other way round ? Beauty within is huge to me but there are no references of it, in both the videos and the comments. Seeing you talking about eczema to empathy is amazing. I live for skincare and productivity and your content helps me grow. I love you Rowena !! I'm really amazed by this spiritual side of yours.
The first point hits hard. I have ADD, a learning disability that, despite my intelligence, has robbed me of a lot of my autonomy (poor short-term memory, inability to concentrate, daydreaminess, executive dysfunction, distractibility, botched circadian rhythm, emotional hyperarousal, rejection-sensitive dysphoria, increased likelihood of depression and anxiety as comorbidities (I've struggled with depression), time-blindness, the list goes on.) This all means its harder for me to do well in school, the workplace, and even relationships. It's really difficult waking up every morning and discovering obligations you have no memory of committing to or deadlines you had no idea existed, with little ability to self-regulate or organise yourself. There's no curing it, either, even with CRISPR/Cas9 medical technology (which is a whole discussion.) *The thing is, this is life. And I just have to live it. And hopefully, despite having what is almost like a chronic illness, it will have worth. So, I just have to keep trying, no excuses.*
I almost wasn't going to watch this video because i was just in such a low mood and couldn't be bothered, but I'm so glad I did. we have control over our moods, feelings and reactions. and life is so much more bigger than we can imagine. Also Mr. Sunshine had me crying like a baby
I am really late but i just want to say i'm deeply sorry for your loss. I have watched your videos for a few months i think? But it was my first time watching this one so it broke my heart to hear that you lost your brother at such a young age, especially as your family seem absolutely wonderful and i'm certain he was too.
Omg girl! , I’m not used to writting my comments in public for every one to see . But i feel like I’ve found my community here.Thats funny, I can totally agree with Mr.Sunshine . I’m learning that , Not being aware of your daily habits ultimately choses for you the lifestyle that bothered me so much. Lately I’ve come across the path of essentialism and it’s completely resonating with me. Coming back into my center of focus after taking a year off to figure it out has been more wholesomeness now with this knowledge. I’m super happy that you decided to make this RU-vid channel and even more happy that I’ve found it. This helps allot with ones mindset. 🙌👑❤️🐉☀️🌎☘️🌺💃🏻
Hi, Rowena! I’m sure this would get flooded with comments but I’m absolutely grateful your you and your videos. I was a mess, heartbroken over a guy who sought to hurt me emotionally and left me with damage and trust issues. Long story short, he said he was able to unlove within a week; and this is the only time I was able to open my heart after 3 yrs. By watching your videos and listening to your advice and incorporating it into my life, I am now undergoing the process of letting go and doing it gracefully, with dignity, respect to myself because I’ve realized clinging to intimacy and affection of others to fill the void in myself is self-destruction. In sum, thanks to you I stayed away from that path :) thank you so much!!!!
did anyone else get an odd sound while watching? Like the bass tones of the sound were too high and it would create a random buzzing sound during the video? please reply if you also experienced this
yess I heard it throughout the video while I was editing - I’m not sure what was happening to the external mic 😩 looking into it this weekend, if anyone has any tips or ideas pls let me know! 🙏🏻
the quote from Elle Luna (the should/must one) made me cry because it really spoke to my heart and I saw it reflect upon my own situation. saved it. thank you for that, Rowena ❤️
I'm not sure when I first discovered you, maybe it was in 2017, or I don't know. What I do know is that you made me want to get my life together. Thank you for that 🖤. I moved out of my parents place this time last year to live with roomies while starting my first big girl job, and in exactly a week's time, I'll be moving to my very own place. I haven't watched your videos in a while, but trust me, I will be catching up on all of them once I'm moved in!!!
I read Tuesdays with Morrie for a highschool project. I loved that book so much that I went out and got a copy to keep for myself. I learned so much about what is truly important when you think about the finite nature of life. Definitely recommend!
Rowena, you should start a podcast! I (and probably others too) feel so inspired watching this type of video and i love you the way you see the world! It would be amazing walking to school listening to this everyday, boy i would rock the world!
Rowena this couldn’t have popped up at a better time, literally last night I was crying in my closet because I realized as a result of not letting things go and taking responsibility for my life, I was so filled with resentment. Then I watched this and it was honestly just what I needed to hear. None of it sounds easy but it sounds worth it to get where I want to be. Thank you!❤️
I really enjoy how eclectic the inspiration is! Yes, kdramas included. They do teach lessons or motivate, like many forms of entertainment, but aren't necessarily legitimized the same way as quotes of the well known or information gleaned from books.
I love the points you made and agreed with a lot of what you talked about but I think it’s important to mention that the path of least resistance isn’t complaining or thinking “ugh the world is against me” the path of least resistance is of our highest good- it means choosing the thoughts with the least resistance- thoughts that feel easy and flow like “my life is pretty good, I’m getting better and better at this, the universe has my back, I trust the universe-aka I will surrender to the flow, to the path of least res. Rather than “life is hard, the universe is against me” those thoughts carry more resistance and throw more resistance on our trail because we’re pushing against in that moment. The path of least resistance isn’t just going wherever the wind takes you and not caring, it’s choosing thoughts that feel better because that is flowing with life rather than pushing against it, and choices for our highest good may not be easy to choose at first but they do become easy. Life doesn’t hAve to be a struggle even tho it will be hard at times, but it shouldn’t be a struggle or painful most of the time
I'm so grateful to have found your videos! I love how you touched on the fact that when you start to invest in yourself self-development & you grow, but what they don't tell you is that you outgrow everything else in your life. I feel that's exactly where I am right now. I just "woke up" in a life that I realized I was living full of I "shoulds" instead of living a life that I want. Thank you for being so vulnerable - it's comforting to know I'm not the only one feeling a little lonely on this path of growth
You’re glowing Rowena, you look beautiful!! I'm sharing these habits with my boyfriend, I’m hoping that we can master this together :) Thanks for your video!
Love what you said about life being unfair. Everyone goes through difficult times and it's not about what's happening to us, but the attitude we have towards the situation. Becoming the greatest version of ourselves♡ Sending good vibes !
Your the first youtuber I have found that blends spirituality with my other interests. It's always either spiritual content or anything else. Thank you so much for this video!
Your content always inspires me as it makes me believe that TODAY is the day i can start my desired change. thank you for being so comfortably motivational and open-minded without trying too hard!!!
Thank you for sharing these habits. It was just by chance that I opened your video and I'd like to say, your voice - to me today - was a gift from the universe reaching out to help guide me in my time of need. My truest self extends the highest gratitude to you.
Just wanted to say, I recently found your videos and I can’t stop binging. They literally are what I’ve been looking for and they’re helping me out so so so much. Can’t tell you how much I needed this, Thank you ❤️
You are so beautiful on the inside and out... You just made me realise how much work I need to put in to become a better person And from the way you speak I can see that it took you time to get to where you are. I cant wait to start this journey
7:35 spoke right to my soul. It's amazing Rowena I've been following you for over a year and I just searched for "Getting your life together" and you posted a video about that subject a week ago 🙌
I don’t know if you will read this comment but I just wanted to let you know that your videos are incredibly nurturing on my path to personal and spiritual growth. Thank you so much for sharing the things you’ve learned with the world and helping others like me grow. You’re a precious human being.
Thank you so much for sharing these nuggests. I too lost my brother 10 yrs ago this month so i understand why you like Buddhist perspectives. They help me so much on this journey. Thanks again beautiful soul. 🙏
This is honestly one of the best videos I have ever watched. I realise that sounds dramatic but sometimes things just click and I feel very inspired to look inwards
Wow. Thank you so much for sharing the should vs must. It made me cry and funnily enough I saw a quote the other day by Paulo Coelho which said "tears are words that need to be written" - so I figured it must be giving me a message since I've definitely been struggling with trying to find my calling from within.. Copied it all out and stuck it to my wall.
Hey Rowena, your soo soo authentic and I love your honesty and the way you really bring these important topics near through your own experiences. Im happy that I found you, there must be tons of people talking about stuff like this, but in your videos I can somehow feel your genuineness and that really really motivates me. You dont act like someone, you just are and thats where I can connect with you - from human to human. Love it, keep it going!🙋💯
You are so right in pointing out that mental habits and attitudes do not get enough attention! Despite being so determining for the quality of our life. Thank you so much for such rich in inspiration and resources video!
I watched your videos 2 years ago and now I am back to say you have improved so much! I see growth in ur style, talking, and thought in the video. I’m so inspired and I understand more of what you say (I’m also 2 years older). Great content!
What a great video. Lots of Buddhist philosophy and spiritual tenants in your commentary about making the most of your youth, and taking risks. Thank you! I am a new follower!
Thank you so much for recommending this article about Yuppies, it is GOLD! I really like your specific "style" of explaining your own philosophy. It's just so much different, than common yt channels about self-growth, you've got this inner peace, depth, humbleness and a touch of spirituality. Keep doing the good work :)
Hi, I don't usually comment on videos, but I just wanted to let you know how much I appreciate your videos and content. I always always go back to your videos if I'm ever feeling unmotivated or not content with what I'm doing in my life, your videos always make me at peace and remind myself to slow down and appreciate what I have. I love your content about self care and self love. Thank you for posting these videos!
watching this at 3 am in hopes that i can begin my day w a better mindset when i wake up tomorrow, tysm rowena! i love your contents so much. they're like a therapy for me. love, vien from philippines
I just stumbled across your channel and I’m so glad I did :) your story of how you came to be who your are is something I really resonate with, and the fact that you’ve come to be so introspective and self discovering gives me comfort because I now have another person to look up to
This video was put together like a presentation very masterfully. I applaud and thank you for putting together such potent advice in ONE video! I am going to watch again and take notes so it sinks in and I can refer back easily as well. :) Blessings on you. 💛
It's crazy that wisdom, which requires mistakes, life experience, and insight, can be shared all over internet. It's a blessing that many have became well off from self-help videos such as this
Honestly, how could anyone have given this a thumbs down!? Rowena, you are so helpful, and this was your best video ever! You seem so grounded these days. I’m so happy you’re feeling better :)
1. Take responsibility 2. Start letting go that are not essential 3. 4 quarters>> pennies 4. Listen to listen 5. Take a risk 6. Find the pendelum 7. Meditiate about your death
it's the beginning of mercury retrograde in scorpio and i've recently had some issues stacked against me - the past few days have been quite trying and my best friend sent me this video as a reminder of how to take control of my life - this is timelessly important and i wish for everyone to internalise these points you've gone through to become a better version of ourselves, always 💖
Thank you for this video, and everything you do on this channel. It has helped me so much. The way you approach popular topics is so unique and inspiring. Keep it up, much love💛
This is so packed with enriching references and reccomendations. I loved this video!! You are so informative and also you're genuinely thinking about how you help the people who watch your videos. Thank you!! 😁
Watching youtube everyday. So many videos go by... Looking for solution, having a distraction. But it think this is the only video i ever actually needed. Thank you
I almost never comment but you really inspire me, i watch a lot of these kind of videos but I just love your way. Please make a podcast so I can take your advise in the go. Keep it up ❤️
I almost never comment myself so this means so much to me, thank youu 😭💕 giving podcast a serious thought, hoping to have it come to life before the end of year :)
Thank you SO MUCH for this video. I will be starting college soon and I need to start letting go of some stuff to move forward. Thank you so much Rowena! 😄
Oh my goodness, I love your videos! I want you to know that I’m a 64 year old woman, in the UK and I’m learning from you about life! Keep up the good work 😃👍
I am so amazed at how much you know ! It amazes me ! I aspire to know the things you know , it is obvious to me you have so much self love and selfless love in your soul . I would love to be your friend lol , but Ive been watching your videos to help me out to become more spiritual . Thankyou for all you do ❤️
I want to think more like you, that is why i put you in my top 5 youtuber-influencer's list. Coming across your channel is like finding real gold after sifting through a lot of dirt. New subscriber here! 💖
Just had a bad day, grateful that universe put your video on my path. Lots of love for you and the amazing things you do for the world. I just hope one day I will become as wise as you. 😌
Hi Rowena! This video and some of your others I've watched are really speaking to where I'm at, things I'm working on like the inner work you talk about and mental clutter/clearing up my space. So glad to hear someone else talk about it, it's very encouraging and exciting to me, so thank you for your work :)
I feel like I've spent time in a really, really good company. Your wisdom is poweful! I hadn't watched your videos for a while, but now seeing this I want to try everything you suggested!
