Dear Mr. Terrell, Wow is all I can say! Your birds eye view of relationship insecurity is breathtaking! I will turn to these most excellent tools to create my own emotional security. What a gift. Thank you.
Personally I like to do some in-trance inner child work with insecure clients. Setting up a self soothing reassurance loop in the subconscious has dramatic beneficial effects.
Yet again a very informative and interesting video Mark. I have become an avid follower of you and your chanel Really impressed with the way put the information over !! Im not a counselor or therapist but in the past derived help from them .Im sure you provide help and guidance for us all ! Many thanks Mark .
Thank you for sharing. This is literally my current situation after having only abusive relationships. I met a good guy and I pushed him away. Lucky for me he came around.
When my husband looks at other women in front of me I start experiencing feelings of insecurity. My insecurities don’t stem from my imagination. My insecurities are physically tangible. What does one do in my case?
Look in to gottman therapy method. They answer questions like yours and they are world renowned marriage and couples therapy experts. Search Dr Julie and Dr John Gottman
This segment aided with ideas/questions that might help my client whose need for control is undermining her marriage. Without completely dismissing her desire for husband to enter into couple's therapy, prompt her to unpack any pervasive imaginings she might be conjuring if they don't agree to see a therapist; what exactly are the issues that you believe can only best be approached with a profeaaional; how can the 2 of you begin to talk about identified and agreed upon topics, first, as a couple and then, possibly, with a clinician. Your approach is very thought provoking. Many thanks!
The only trouble with this is it excludes intuition. Of course often it’s just imaginings and that needs to be put in its place but sometimes intuition comes in subtly as a nagging feeling, imaginings or thoughts that something isn’t quite right. We can easily gaslight ourselves and squash those feelings down only to be proven right eventually. Developing awareness of the difference between imaginings and intuition is important..
I felt the same way. Great point. Intuition is the variable that is hard to discern sometimes because of the nature of the situation. But i do trust that instinct because in the past it was always right.
This paul character or the one before that are just bit part player's in her self made drama that is really reflecting what she feels about her self and the moment based on her past and family. Even the famillies linerage has suffering and unhealed stuff. They deep down may be hurt little children themselves deep down? It all needs gods love, truth and reflection and re learning how to communicate in new better more joyful ways. Relating is the key, respect and friendship. They are just mirrors of her own self. She needs to heal that first, her family second then anyone else she later chooses. Ultimately doing that kind of work will make her a free woman and she will be drawn to good friends and have a more well rounded life founded on new beliefs, healing and better choices
Something that's missing is to look at the family patterning. The whole bunch will communicate pessimistic ly and that has taught her the insecurity because of the judgement. That critism and judgement turns to self judgement and insecurity patterns. This will change with introducing a better view of one's self
I really appreciate your videos! They've really helped me become more reflective, not only as a trainee counsellor but also as an individual. Thank you :)
