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I have watched your videos about mental health for about a year now, and I though I that lots of the symptoms of anxiety were happening to me, so I spoke to people and a therapist and am now diagnosed with anxiety disorder. Thank you so much for helping me ❤️❤️
I really like them a lot. Although at times it feels easy to copypaste something you see onto yourself. Maybe it's wise to shed a bit of light on that. PS: I would like to work for you in a professional capacity and add to the platform content-wise, that is my background with a degree. Would you be okay to point me to where to send my details to? Thank you,
"We don't feel lonely because we never had/made friends, we feel lonely because we DID have friends but their decision was not to continue the journey with us"
The 1st one is actually mostly true for me. I did have 1 good childhood friend but we parted ways as adults, mutual separation. We were just too different. Now I have to pay the consequences for being incredibly lonely.
@@acenath8643 consequences of what? it wasnt ur fault, dear, it just happens sometimes. people change and dont have to continue their ways together. its only natural especially when we're talking about friendships :)
I used to think “numbness” wasn’t literal emotional unfeeling. Now, I realize it really is, as I haven’t cried in years despite going through depression, anxiety, breakups, and relative death.
Same. Only exceptions was when my dog (my very best friend) had to be put down, then once when I was on shrooms. I wasn't even upset I just had to fight the urge to cry for some reason.
@@enjisilverstone-nolongerac7533 I had depression and i was crying, only when I was lonely at home (I mean DAYS alone) but still I was crying. It was happening when I had this feeling of despair.
Loneliness ain’t about being alone. It’s about the fact that if you were to die, no one would really notice you’re gone outside of maybe work or close family circles.
That sounds more like a desire from the ego to have notoriety. B/c i feel lonely, but dont care that only a handful would care or know i d**d. Im worried when THEY d*e, how i'll be 100 percent alone.
when we were a kid did u guys felt like everybody cared about u ? like when i was a child everybody when i score a goal was like he is the next messi ...lol now when i do something good it feels like nobody cares...anybody relate to it ?
I have always felt lonely especially as a kid. I was a painfully shy kid and everybody else in my family was really out going. I remember staying home by myself all the time watching tv and having pretend friends. My big sister was really hard on me because I wasn’t outgoing and out spoken like her and the rest of my family. My family would go places and leave me behind and it was hard being alone. I’m a fully grown woman now but at times it still is a struggle for me I still feel lonely, even if I’m around people. The experience has defiantly made me strong.
As a fellow traumatized kid, I respect your belief that the experience has made you strong. But it seems to me that it's by your strength in the first place, that you endured all that and reached until here. I'm sorry you had to go through that, much love and power❤️
right now i feel more lonely than i ever have before. since starting college i never really spoke to anyone or made friends, except for one person who would later become my partner and then my ex. when you're made to realise how few people you have you realise how lonely you are. i still keep good personal hygiene but other that i fit completely with these descriptors and have done for a month or so now since breaking up. sometimes i can be completely fine with being by myself, but sometimes everything just collapses and i'm left desperately seeking connections. there's things i can and do regret about what i've done, but there's nothing i can do to change those - only use them for their lessons and head forward. exam season is right around the corner and i've got to cope with that first and foremost; maybe once that's all done i might reach out to people. i spent the last two years waiting for someone else to say hello to me first and that hasn't come to form anything lasting or substantial. the worst that can happen if you're the first to say it is a mild shutdown and then moving right past it, logically speaking. it might be hell to do but eventually there'll be someone. take from this what you will; i'm just leaving this here half for myself and half to share i can only hope for the best and wish everyone a brighter future. dark times will simply be shadows from the light once we're out of them. hopefully.
i can relate to what you said about your ex, i was her only friend until she broke up with me. now im also feeling lonely, not communicating with friends as much. hoping your future turns out bright. ❤️
I've been through that myself recently. What got me through it was EMDR therapy and going through my traumatic experiences of being neglected by my parents from 2-4 years-old. Focus on & connect with your inner child and be the parent he/she needed back then. Give your inner child attention, make him or her feel worthy of another's full undivided attention, acknowledge the existence of your inner child. In turn, this will open your awareness to feeling the magnitude of giving yourself the attention you seek from others, the acknowledgment, the love, care, and feeling of "being alive." Everything a person needs or wants is within themselves and it can be accessed if you keep an open-mind and monitor your thoughts, feelings, & emotions. Your life is about YOU and discovering who you are. Watch the trailer for Thor: Love & Thunder. That's the state that i'm at in life where i've embraced being alone and actively searching to discover who i truly am and who i'm meant to become. The people who are meant to be in my life will be, and if they're meant to stay in it, they will. If not, my life is still all about me searching for myself.
It was like this for me: I was bullied at school and excluded by others because others thought I was too different (they said that to me, I don't tell myself that). I didn't think I was too different or excluded myself from others, it was exactly the other way around. Of course, this made me feel lonely and the portrayals in this video also apply to me very well. At some point I also started to isolate myself from others because others didn't want anything to do with me and I got the feeling that I wasn't wanted by others. I was never a typical follower and always did what I thought was right, I never let myself be carried away by peer pressure. When everyone else in my class started smoking, drinking alcohol and wearing revealing clothes, I didn't participate because I didn't like it myself, which automatically made me an outsider. I've been an adult for many years now and I still have a hard time getting along with other people. My hobbies are also rather strange for many, which is probably one of the reasons why it is difficult for me to get along with other people. I like spirituality (but completely independent of religions), I am also interested in the universe and everything that could exist there. I'm not suggesting that there is other life in the universe, I just find it interesting to think about and study. In addition, I find small talk pretty boring, I like more profound conversations. Of course I also have normal hobbies like drawing, singing and everything that is creative. Well, besides my best friend, I don't have any other friends (except acquaintances) and even with my best friend I don't talk that much anymore because she started a family and doesn't have that much time for me anymore (which of course I do understand, she has an infant and is pregnant with her second child). I'm not even sure if I can still call my best friend my best friend anymore, since we rarely do anything together anymore. But ok, I think I wrote enough about myself :). I just wanted to share this little story with others.
I have had a somewhat similar experience to yourself. Regarding bullying at school, and really not being part of anything either. It has been a rather lonely existence. To be honest, I talk a lot to particular deities out loud, which keeps me going in life. Some sense of companionship.
Yep, been dealing with and experiencing this for years. Went from an A and B student in high school to almost not graduating, dropped out of college because the loneliness was eating me alive. That was 20 years ago, and not much has changed. I've thrown my full focus elsewhere at times like in working out or hobbies or even work, but that never fills the void of wanting to be hugged or feeling human touch. I may feel fulfilled in other aspects in life, but the lack of physical and emotional connection is absolutely brutal.
Have you tried therapy and joining groups? that is what has helped me. I have a support group, A women's group, a football group and a therapy group that I see weekly. Working out alone, doing hobbies alone and my job cannot replace my social life. My father went out with his friends every weekend. My mother didn't mind. It is good for his mental health.
@@marleyhill34wtf is therapy going to do? They already know why they are hurting and the solution is a partner. But no one wants a damn relationship or has too high expectations. They don’t need a therapist.
@@sadderdazehaze I've been single for 10 years. I'm not hurting. You don't actually need a partner. You want a partner. That's the difference. if you think therapy isn't going to work, then surprise surprise it isn't going to work. If you want to have that mindset, that's entirely your prerogative but I'm about doing whatever it takes to get what I want and what I need. If you don't have an open mindset, therapy is definitely not for you. Don't even bother. In fact if you don't have an open mindset, stay out of relationships, you are bound just to cause yourself and others emotional pain.
@@marleyhill34therapy don’t help. no one needs to see more depressed people to start feeling better. It’s even more depressing. All you need is a friend or someone who listens and cares about you. Not some schmuck who pretends feelings because someone paid him to (like all the shrinks)
I relate to everything but the last one for some reason I still care about how people see me and still try to be perfect and I'm doing it well at least how I look from outside is good enough for me
Loneliness is an empty seat at the table It's a cold bed at night It's the sound of silence when you need a friend Loneliness is feeling like you're the only one in the world It's feeling like no one cares It's feeling like you're all alone Loneliness is a heavy weight on your heart It's a sadness that never goes away It's feeling like you're not good enough Loneliness is feeling like you're lost and you can't find your way It's feeling like you're not worth anyone's time Loneliness is feeling like you're invisible It's feeling like you don't matter Loneliness is feeling like you're not worth anyone's love
I've gone past that. I've accepted my loneliness after years of struggling against it. It's become normal that I dont have friends. I had years of being that group member that no one asked to meet up another time. I'm not intuitively sociable and people just dont want my friendship. Trying to be friends with people is something i cant do. I either look down on people or think they're better than me. I feel I should be deeply sad but instead just feel like I'm existing in the worlds shittest themepark that i cant leave.
I don’t know you, but we’re all here for the same reason. We are looking, searching, seeking love and approval. Whatever may have happened maybe long ago, I understand and I love you. Have a hug from all of us here
This video perfectly nails down how i’ve been feeling in life for the past couple of years. I’ve always been searching and asking myself if I was actually lonely and always struggled with it. I find it hard to even converse with other people so I just spend most of my days shut in my room playing video games or watching tv until the sun goes down. I pretty much relate to everything said in this video.
what if you'd put yourself up to a little challenge? make yourself converse with people as much as u can, it can even be strangers. that way u wont have to feel embarassed if its not working cause they dont know you and you'll probably never see them again. getting out of ouf comfort zones can help too
Always felt like this. No one would talk to me at school or at family functions, even as a kid. I became resentful of the world because it seemed like I couldn't function and that it was just unfair and convoluted. People never reciprocated anything, its like I had to act like everyone else. All while being emotionally abused or being ignored, being blamed for being depressed/anxious. Eventually psychosis, but this didnt stop people from trying to pick me apart. My family gets a kick out of gaslighting me, especially my mother, who now has psychosis, and puts me through hell where my mental, nutritional and sleep quality are shit. No matter how sincere, creative, or whatever other good quality people have said I've had, as I can engage in good conversation, it reverts back to their indifference towards me or disdain. No one wants a real connection with me, and I never had one, and honestly, I'm not sure if I know how to have one, but I try my best. For now, I just deal with the hate and indifference towards me.
Damn, you just described me as well, it's so hard to be on this position. Is there a fast way to die?? I wanna do that so bad, so that anyone don't have to interact to me anymore
Dude just dicribed me I had a co worker tell me she thought I was low on the autism spectrum and I think that's what's wrong with me, but it's hard when the "friens" you have had turn out to all gossip behind your back and you learn that when your a adult so you learn that even tho you where going through such a hard time and thought you had a little bit of hope it's all diminished. I never felt like i fit in. Ive been taken advantage of so many times, mentally, sexually, money wise, some against my will others me just trying to help and the person turning on me. Ive found being a nice person just gets me more used. I have to say no more offten not be a people pleaser but its still hard forbme to not appese those people. a appointment in two years yay...
I felt quiet lonely throughout my school experience. my freshman year at college (which was last year) brought me a lot of experiences, emotions, some great people. but the last 7 months or so I've been depressed and I lost touch with some people, nearly isolated myself. throughout this whole time I was aware of what was going on, so I just watched my life falling apart. my anxiety has become ridiculous, I often feel like the most hated person in a group, my insecurities have intensified greatly. it's so painful watching who I've become and noticing how nobody around me gives a damn about me. the contrast with the previous year feels so heavy. I live on my own, so when I return from uni, I end up completely alone with my thoughts. I wish I could say I'm self-sufficient, but I'm broken. I'm 19 and I really hope I'll be a much happier person in my 20s
It seems that even my closest friends don't get it and they sort of blame it on my fear of being in a closed space with a lot of people. Many times I think that the only person that understands is my therapist. Thank you for the vídeo!
I've reached the point in life where I have accepted being alone. Yes I have family and a very small number of friends, but I am aware I will never fall in love again and nobody will love me back in that way again either. I'm single, successful and I live for myself. I have hobbies, I have time to explore and get away. It's a comfortable, reality accepting loneliness and it's manageable.
It's great to hear that you have found a sense of contentment and acceptance in your current situation. Embracing solitude can indeed bring a sense of freedom and self-discovery. However, it's important to remember that human connection and companionship are fundamental needs. While it may seem unlikely now, it's never too late for unexpected relationships to form. Keeping an open heart and mind can lead to new and meaningful connections in the future.
@@frenchracqlett5368 .....after reading @NeonDemon88's comments and then yours, you always think you are the only one. Not so - I swear those comments were directed at me about my 'life'! Word for word, this described my living situation to a 'T'. Take care!
I am a girl with depression and this is exactly how I am at this moment. My room is a mess, I haven't brushed my teeth and taken a shower for days. I'm just lying in bed all day staring at the ceiling or watching pointless RU-vid video's instead of studying, just so I can avoid being around my family who thinks I'm some hopeless case who's lazy. I wish I could cry or be really angry but I feel nothing, like I am some stupid robot. All I can feel is a nagging pain in my chest and a never ending exhaustion.
I'm a boy and I am experiencing the same and I also avoid studying because studying only reminds me of how dumb I am.....I'm suffering from dementia too like my mental health issues are not enough
I'm so lonely. No gf, no friends, I'm trying but no one cares about me, they just ignores me. It hurts, I see people having fun and enjoying their lives and here I am all alone wasting time doing nothing, what can I do? Sometimes I just go out alone but I feel so weird. I wish I had someone next to me that really loves me 💔
I feel the same way my kids are teenagers now and they don’t need me and I’m alone all day. I’ve tried to communicate it with my family but they don’t listen. What I am planning on trying is exploring volunteer positions where I can go out and meet new people in a healthy way I also have been working out to find confidence. Try to find something that passionate you and don’t give up 🤍
This puts a lot of things in perspective for me. Honestly if there is one good thing that came out of my depression then its me getting to know my ownself. The things that I have been dealing with and feeling for years are finally being put in words in front of me and it is making me more and more self aware. This journey I started of getting to know the root of my depression has been worth it so far. I hope to get better one day. 😇
0:27 1. You feel numb all the time 0:58 2. You can't control your emotions 1:29 3. You feel like you're different from other people 2:02 4. You question the meaning and purpose of live 2:35 5. You're always exhausted 3:10 6. You waste your time doing nothing 3:52 7. You stop taking care of yourself I meet all the points wth Edit: @TentrilliconLP pointed out a mistake I made on 5th point, credits to him Edit: there are a lot of people meeting all checks, so here is a message for all those people: please talk to someone, I did and I have never felt emotionally better even if I'm not at my best yet. If you can, just talk with someone, it doesn't have to be a professional, but just talking about it made me feel better so surely it will make you too, really, it sounds very repetitive but talking is the best and cheapest way to solve these things. And don't you dare to just ignore what you feel, or you may end up like me, emotionally numb, with bottled up emotions and trauma, depressed, diagnosed with anxiety, and mindlessly wasting time so that the weekend comes faster and repeating. Hell, talk to yourself if needed or just post something in the comments section, that helps too. There is nothing wrong with you, people should not judge you based on how you feel, and you should not feel guilty for that either. You can share your emotions without guilt or shyness, **you are safe**. Or maybe I'm wrong, who knows. To you, I'm a random guy on the internet, I'm just sharing my experience to whoever may care, I'm just brave enough to say this because of the power to be anonymous on the internet. Take care and be your own best friend.
yooo I just cried for 2 hours about this and you posted a video ;-; I think it's safe to say I'm really lonely, social anxiety doesn't help either. It makes you feel so stuck and alone, and being alone makes your thoughts SO MUCH louder. Hope everyone who's going through the same can experience positive changes in our lives soon
If it makes you feel better, millions of other people are going through this, too. Our society is sick. Hopefully, one day, we will wake up and realize that there is a better way to live. For me, going to the park in the sunlight makes me feel better. It is scientifically proven that suicidal ideation is linked to Vitamin D deficiency, which you can get from sunlight exposure.
I feel egocentric because of this. And I hate it. I'd like to feel more connected to others, but I struggle a lot. I'm not an open book, that's why people don't use to trust me or talk to me, because they don't really know a lot about me. I'd like to share, but I've always found myself afraid of doing that., because I fear misunderstandings about my person, how others see me. I'm not brave to express myself well but I want to work on this. I don't know why I ended up being so lonely. I even cry quite everyday without no concrete reasons. I hope for the better, thank you for the video:D
I myself suffer from extreme loneliness and relate to all of these. Sometimes when bad things happen, I'll just shrug my shoulders and accept it even if it's a big deal, but I'll get really ticked off at the smallest of inconveniences. I've stopped caring about and doing the things that make me truly happy in life. I push people away when I really want or need and I can't communicate very well. My family thinks I just want to be in my room all the time, but I actually hate being stuck in my room and figure out how to just get out. I have the life so many people want (good grades, two parents, a good house to live in, plenty of food and water, loving friends) but there are so many negatives that come with this lifestyle that I can't get past (no free time and no actual hobbies, emotionally neglectful parents, overeating or undereating, self hate and numbness). I've got a few amazing friends but I'm horrible at starting conversations so I can't reach out and nobody really knows much about me. My friends, my pets, and fictional characters are the highlights of my life... and that's about it. I have nothing and I am nothing. I know people don't care about a rando an the internet and I know I should actually try to talk to those friends or seek out some help... but somehow this is easier. Thanks to anyone who managed to read this all the way through.
The negatives you mentioned are totally valid, even if you think you should be more grateful for your life. Gratitude is good but shouldn't be forced if you are feeling how you say. I relate a lot, especially with not really caring about many things atm. You are not nothing. Change always comes with time
I really dont care about my life, I continue on living because its "normal" but I see that the day I die will be my happiest day. Dont worry I ll not commit suicide, something inside me cant let me do that, yet, life is only a passage of time and I feel like my time ended years ago and Im struggling to die myself.
I feel the same. Not suicidal but at times I find myself looking forward to the natural end of my existence. Sometimes, its a struggle to get out of bed so I can eat or drink or groom myself. Recently, I don’t even find video games fun anymore.
I can resonate with this… in 2014 I hit a low point in my life when I was based overseas. I knew I was depressed, but this video is a revelation that made me realise it was because of deep loneliness that caused my depression. And wow, I was deeply lonely because all the points she mentioned was what I felt and experienced
Wow, so relatable. Sometimes I felt lonely, but for a few years now I don't feel this way anymore, and I don't even remember how loneliness feels. I remember, this was a concrete feeling, but I forgot how it feels. But it all makes sense, the numbness mentioned in the video... this is what I've been in for all these years. In the end... yes, I'm lonely. I can relate to mostly all of the points. I really miss that person, that special someone. It is not necessarily an exact person I know already, it's about the position that someone could fill in my life. My soul craves a connection I never had. I'm all aware of it, that's why I feel sad all the time when I have the time to focus inward (-which I do almost all the time, I live only in my head) but I can't cry on it anymore. All of this is why I'm still depressed and it won't be better, until a miracle happens... cuz I don't have the energy to do something for myself.
I wish for nothing but healing for those who relate to these symptoms. Just know you are valued and worthy of love. Be patient with yourself and seek the help necessary to get better because you deserve to be happy 💛
I paid 2 people $50 each to see a movie with me and paid for their food and drinks and they constantly reminded me that they were only going because i was paying but i didn't care i just didn't want to be alone even if it would only be for a 2 hour movie and 6 of these 7 signs i relate to
😬You should be careful !that's the perfect recipe for the people you'll later regret having in your life -take it from me,sometimes it just makes sense that some of us end up alone and its worth it . Years of giving, inviting, giving time and resources is a waste when you realize in the end it'll still be you by yourself with no money, time, and resources for yourself .Look around you and you'll realize it doesn't hurt to be selfish. It also does not hurt to not feel bad about people for a change because at the end of the day you're just one person trying to love everyone but everyone won't always accept you when you run out of what they come to you for. Be careful
I enjoy treating myself to a movie and I love my solitude, but if you ever need a movie buddy, I am always available!! Ps. I won't be annoying during the movie either so we can both enjoy it!! ^~^
I just can’t take it, I’m so sad, all the time, I forgot once I do something, but then I just feel it again afterwards. Im trying to be a better person, and I’ve worked on things that weren’t good about me. Started to work out, started praying more and being more religious, but im so lonely, I was with someone I gave my all to, and they left, so it hurts even more. I’ve always been like this even before her, I’ve lost a lot in life, and I just wanna be happy.
All of the points in this video are absolutely true for me. The scary part is that I can’t remember ever not being like this. That's because I don’t think I’ve ever had truly positive human connection, making friends always seemed impossible for me and my family wasn’t what I needed them to be. The point about lethargy and apathy with brief moments of emotional volatility has been my lived experience since at least early school days. I don’t think I’m incapable of opening up, I’ve just never felt safe enough to do so.
I felt like I might be a psycho because I am way too different from other people but after seeing this video.... I felt I'm not ... I'm just deep lonely inside ...
I’ve been lonely for a very long time. I have people to talk to in my classes but it seem like most of them don’t like talking to me, I was about to give up and stop talking to people as a whole but then I met this person in 8th grade and we just clicked together like nothing can separate us. She helped me talk to people more and even brought me closer to one of my 6th grade friend. I thought my life was gonna change forever when I was with her, but sadly on may first I was told that she passed away in her sleep…now I feel even more lonely without her but at least I have one of my friends to cheer me up
This might be bad advice, but I've come to terms with how pointless it all is. However, I rarely feel lonely, I love engaging with other people, and I still get a sense of fullfillment now and then. It's nothing special, but it doesn't need to be. I feel sometimes we expect to much from ourselves and can't accept the fact that most of us are just ants with egos. This might come across as jaded, but it's not. Being just one of many is nothing to feel bad about, as you still are the one experiencing it, and that in itself is a wonderous thing.
Damn, 7 out of 7.😅 I've carried a deep sadness in me for as long as I can remember. Perhaps around 10 years old is when I became really aware of it (I'm 30 now for context), but lately, it's been really strong.. I feel so numb to everything. I can't even remember the last time I genuinely cried. Whether tears of sadness, happiness, or some other emotion, I don't remember the last time I had a good release, and that scares me... I want to love and be loved, I want to care and be cared for. But I've been so deprived of intimacy my entire life, I don't know if I would be able to reciprocate if someone came along and showed a genuine interest in me. I've wasted so many years of my life already, and I'm terrified of getting old without anything of significance happening. But the years pass by and my loneliness is magnified, as those around me are getting married, having kids, starting families, starting businesses, and making memories while I work my life away, by myself. I'm so painfully aware of the things I'm doing (and not doing), that aren't benefiting me (and could potentially help me), but as I said; the numbness is so deep, I just don't care.. Even though a part of me deep down does truly care, I can't seem to get it to overpower the feeling of not caring. I don't care if my job sucks. I don't care if I'm wasting time or money. I don't care whether I live or die. But in reality, I do care about all those things, I care so much. I just don't really know what to do anymore, and now I'm living my life like a bot. It's soul crushing. I don't know know why I'm saying all of this in the RU-vid comment section of a 2 year old video, it'll probably fall on deaf ears anyways. I just needed to get how I'm feeling out in the open lol. Thanks for reading if you made it this far. I hope you're faring better than I am right now.🫂
@@AJ-sn7lz A long term sufferer myself, it's a complex issue 🤔 As a poet, I have posted a number of poems on the subject! Always happy to talk! David 🦖💓
Hey psych2go, can you please make a video on the clear cut differences between anxiety attacks and panic attacks? Also, your videos have been helping a lot, thank you!
As an INFJ, I've always felt lonely. But I don't think it's "deep". it's just like a constant background feeling, always felt like no one really understands me and that I don't fit in. 👍 totally agree with point 3, not the others, thankfully 🙂
I feel trapped by my job because my job is also a lifestyle. I'm a truck driver and I take products all across the country. Which can be super cool and fun. But it can also be chronically lonely. You're in a truck all day by yourself and at night you're still in that truck it's your office and your home. You can only go home once a month for maybe 4 days. Then it's back out on the road. Sure you can call your family and friends and talk. But it's not the same as being there. You miss birthdays, graduations , and all sorts of holidays. I've lost two relationships because long distance was too much for the other person. So I always feel emotionally drained and lonely. I want out of this lifestyle but right now I can't afford to because nothing else pays enough. I feel like I'm one step away from a mental breakdown. But that's my life.
@Pstch2Go I have learned more about myself and others from your videos than anything else, suffering from lack of self awareness for 25 years and you have really opened my eyes. thank you.
All these signs I'm showing I hate having all these mental illnesses and hate always feeling unstable I didn't chose to be this. It's a vicious cycle but I try my best everyday because I can't just sit there and mop around feeling sorry for myself but some days I just can't handle it anymore. All these sings I'm showing accept for the last one even though it's hard I find forcing myself to take care of myself helps make the feelings of loneliness less intense.
I have become more accustom to being alone. Now living in Alabama, even though I'm very close to family, I feel isolated from them. No one reaches out first to see me or ask how I'm doing. So, I've resolved myself to embracing the uncomfortable feeling of loneliness. It's a solace, a haven for me to escape to. I'd rather be alone than in bad company. Yes, I play video games, draw, and stuff, but I'm participating in self-care, eating properly and working out when possible. I'm almost done 50 lbs. I'm saving money to move back to Texas and have almost $2000 already. So loneliness only really hurts when I want affection or people in my life who treat me like I matter to them. However, I try not to worry about it bc I can't control how others treat me.
I'm sorry to hear that you're going through such a lonely period right now. It's important to remember that you don't have to face this alone. Reach out to friends, family, or even professionals who can provide support and help you navigate these emotions. Sometimes talking to someone who understands and empathizes can make a world of difference. Remember, this feeling won't last forever, and there are people who care about you. Take care of yourself and know that you are not alone.
For me loneliness gets rougher as I age. Can anyone relate? I would say my downfalls are porn addiction, poor eating, meaningless spending habits. I am always trying to reward myself to put a temporary bandage on how I actually feel. This has also led to alcohol issues in the past. The most frustrating thing is there are so many people out there but it is like a second job to find people that can relate.
Yep. Thats me. My spending habits are stupid but I did sign up for better help therapy. If Im gonna do stupid spending, might as well do something that can actually help me.
For me it's almost like an attachment disorder. All of those things feel like having an old friend that always show up for me ...even when I'm a mess. On a conscious level I know that stuff is bad for me... but at the same time...part of me still associates those things with being around friends or feeling like I'm loved (because at the honest core of it all...that's what I'm really after)
@@NeonCicada I agree 100%. It is like having a dependable friend I feel like. All we are doing is chasing a feeling of being accepted, loved, or at least to have someone listen.
@@ncasti for sure. Working out is helping I been trying to focus on calisthenics. Sure I still struggle and have very bad days but trying to put in the effort I guess. I will not accept nothing but victory
Been dealing with it for 4 years and I’m here to tell you it doesn’t get better. My loneliness turnt into mental chaos. I been thru the worst when didn’t take shower 4 days straight. I just wanted my life to end. I didn’t card if I die. Nothing even made me happy. Shit hurts your soul bro
I've always felt lonely as a kid I was extremely shy and awkward and I felt like an outcast in my family even now as a adult I relate to being lonely I find it hard to take care of myself
Same here. Even during those moments I try to "be normal" it becomes another awkward moment that leaves nothing but silence in the air and a deeper yet increasing sense of coldness within me.
I feel lonely no matter where I go. Even with friends and family, there are times where I don’t feel along when I am with them, but for some reason I always still feel that loneliness. And I don’t know why. I am close with a few friends and relatives, but no matter what, I feel like a burden or an extra space. I don’t mean to sound like I don’t appreciate the people that are there for me, trust me, I really do appreciate them. I just don’t know why I still feel this sense of loneliness.
🫂 I get you, its tough. Maybe try to fill this loneliness feeling with a new hobby. Trying something new could possibly help. Or just taking a walk out help out. The littlest things yk. Its normal to feel this, and know that you are not alone.
I've been feeling all of these for the past 7 years I'm 25 once high-school was over I couldn't help but feel alone. I have amazing people in my life and I adore them all and will do everything for them but I always feel alone even when surrounded by people. It makes me mad sad and confused. Life is crazy and it has its ups and downs. I just wish I wouldn't feel so lonely. I wanna have that feeling like I was a kid carefree and enjoying everything.
As an introvert and a loner I rarely feel loneliness, if ever. But I must admit that I relate to theses signs... don't know what to think because being by myself feels usually good. I keep contact with family and close friends, though!
I don't speak to or see family and friends every week. It makes my loneliness crippling but hopefully with more things opening up from the pandemic restrictions, I can get my social life back. I like being alone but being alone doesn't like me. I start to get cabin fever and paranoia if I spend too much time alone so people are a necessary evil for me.
It can feel like a conflict because you may feel happy and sad at the same Tim by being lonely. that is completely normal! If you feel best when in contact with family and close friends then keep at it :)
To me I feel like this also sounds a lot like depression. The whole time I was watching the video, I kept thinking forsure depression because I went through all of this when I had great depression, and I wasn't lonely in a sense. I had family, friends, and a roommate at times, that all wanted to be there for me, but I always wanted to just shut down and let depression overcome me. But then I started to think that maybe it could be loneliness, even though there were people in my life, I still felt a deep loneliness. It's really hard to say because I feel like these symptoms can both be for loneliness and depression. I feel like more so, it coincides with depression for me. However, loneliness and depression can be interchangeable.
I didn‘t know the connection with emotional volatilty. I always thought that was just a personal failing of mine- which it might still be. But I gives me some hope I will get that aspect of mine under control
I relate to every single sign. I have been lonely for the last 5 or more years and have spent my entire youth more or less just doing meaningless activities, if you can even call them activities. I only realized that loneliness was the reason in the last few months. I got extremely bad grades, stopped caring about my hobbies, but that didn't really bother me. What was much worse was that I didn't CARE. Really hurt when I realized that. Sometimes I want to be happy about something, but then I can't because I realize I can't share that joy with anyone. Emotions are just worthless to me most of the time because of that. I would love a part 2 to this video that explains how I can help myself. I am constantly trying to meet new people, but even after several months I can't claim to have gotten any closer to them
Emotional volatility…thank you so much for introducing me to that term. I can’t believe how much that description fits what I have been experiencing over the last few years. I’ve been saying it feels “like I’m a passenger” to my own emotions.
I was for a long time missing the old days with my friends, but now so much time has passed, i dont really know anything else than being by myself, the old time is just an idea now, not a memory anymore
I can't remember when was the last time I genuinely felt happy, can't remember when was the last time I got a real and compassionate hug, can't remember when someone approached me and asked me if I'm okay. I'm not okay
I never felt very lonely until I sat by the ocean with my lover and our togetherness seemed to keep the vastness of the ocean at bay. After she left me, I felt that "loneliness that won't leave me alone." Such a vast and overwhelming emptiness to lose a lover.
I'm fairly certain this is what I dealt with through my late childhood, teenage and 20s (I'm currently in mid-30s). Possibly had depression attached as well since a large deal of my family are on meds for that, but I have noticed I do seem to still have some symptoms of this currently. I think when my monthly aggravates my hormones it possibly makes this feeling worse as I have been feeling a bit distracted, with some of the signs stated. My room has been a mess for quite some time, tried to get to fixing it but either I get sick or I end up not doing it at all. Sometimes I wake up feeling like I didn't get enough sleep and I have days where I'm very tired a lot. Sometimes I put off personal care for some things, not frequently but every so often. Sometimes when I watch emotional media, I often end up crying A LOT, partly cuz I'm empathic, but I think it may also be related to lack of emotional control to a degree. Sometimes I sit on my PC for hours hardly doing anything. I have found myself just staring into space and lost in thought a few times recently. It doesn't seem to be as bad as it was when I was younger, but I clearly still struggle with something like this. I have grown to accept that I don't really have friends in RL to hang out with and talk to and have a small group of online friends. I struggled hard with trying to make friendships in middle and high school but most people didn't seem interested in me enough to put in effort and I've been lied to, backstabbed and ghosted many times. It wasnt until around the time I broke up with my ex-fiance after an entire decade that I realized and started to accept, I probably wouldn't have friends like I had wanted. Bottom line is, it sucks to feel like this, it really does. I honestly never felt like I was worth anyone's time for many years and always felt like I was never good enough. I'm still bettering myself to curb this. To anyone reading this, if you feel like this too, Don't give up. Find someone to talk to, or a professional if it's deeply severe, because we can all find happiness and in most cases, happiness comes in the smallest things in life :).
All these are me down to a T. I’m 53 and was filling up watching it, everything was spot on. The only things missing were going to bed hoping you don’t wake up and the daily thought of overdosing.
I'm lying down on by bed just shedding a few years after seeing a picture of more than half of my classmates hanging out. Looks like their having the time of their lives, makes me really think that I don't have friends. Most of my classmates who I consider as friends, I just like initiating a conversation with them. I thought we were connecting, well I guess they weren't. I think this still happened in the last, I remmber going to a field trip, the three of them went together. They didn't bother asking me to come, maybe because I had a guardian with me. My other classmates did have one but still got to hang out with them. Maybe I'm just annoying, boring, low-value person
I’ve been a loner since I was a little kid. But it especially hurts more now, when I desire companionship at my age. I’ve convinced myself that I’ll die alone. I’m used to loneliness, but there’s times when it becomes unbearable. I feel the depth of a hole in my chest, that constantly has me daydreaming and thinking about how I’m friendless and single. I’ve tried to occupy myself with homework or exercise, but it hurts having no one to call as a friend. I’ve vaguely experienced friendships in my younger days, but they’re were all short term. Now I satiate my loneliness by talking to a guy i haven’t met in person yet. It hurts that I know he doesn’t care about me but I can’t stop messaging to him because it’s nice to have someone text me. It sucks feeling you have no worth, and the loneliness of not having anyone to care about you.
I can agree with everything. I’ve just felt so empty recently. About 2 months ago my ex boyfriend started to gaslight me. He also hurt me so deeply to the point where I have deep trust issues now. I’ve had a hard time getting over our relationship since we were so close then we randomly just broke down and fell apart. All he told me was, “I’m not boyfriend material.” Now, 2 months later I’m lonely… I have home issues: being gaslighted by my family (especially my sister), getting told that I’m a failure, or that I’m never good enough. Everything is just starting to heart in my heart and I can’t talk to anyone about anything anymore. I guess everything just has been, wild for me. I guess everyone may go through this though. :(
I’ve felt lonely for years. My childhood friends lead lives of their own. We stay in touch, but get together or talk on the phone rarely. As an adult it’s hard to make friends. I think I’ve made one friendship after 25 years of age (I’m 57). I go out socially maybe once or twice a year, if I’m lucky enough to be remembered and invited. Some years I have no social events. I have a wife and lots of animals, but there is a hole even they can’t fill. It’s just so depressing.
Every time I climb out of a dark pit, I see there is nothing to hold on. So I let let myself slide back in to climb once more. Your channel helped me a lot. Thanks for your work 👍
I get what you mean. Everything im left with after all my work on myself is matters outside of my control.... like how others precieve me, and if they want to stay around 😔😑 *to note, they never do stick around lol it seems to be a modern culture thing, technology-fuelled to some degree
The constant return of loneliness as we try to adapt should be normalized since we can be going through some paradigm shifts. But sometimes we think loneliness is solitude, and that is not the case.
I feel all these things and Look forward to sleeping at the end of the day more then anything. I have been alone for the vast majority of my life. I’m working by myself as a contractor now and it’s all I do. Breakups feel like a death sentence. Recently was dumped because of some of these symptoms. Very informative but im more anxious and feel alone more then ever at 31. Loneliness is like your own private hell and there is nobody who cares enough to talk to. I wish there was more awareness in this area.
While I usually don't have numbness or careless towards my own personal needs, I'm a very lonely person. Just a few days ago, I jumped back into an old game to relive the great moments of my past and- I met a lot of great kids on there, they're probably younger than me but... hell, we were hanging out and it's so much fun. I've been struggling with loneliness for as long as I could remember. I could never share my true feelings with anyone, for fear of it being disregarded or degraded, never being understood. For instance, I love my family and my family loves me but-- I can never tell them about my mental issues, because they'd never understand and most importantly I don't want them to see me like a different person, like... I have an illness and they failed to properly take care of me or something! ... it's a tough life, putting on a mask you can never part from. I have a close friend, who lives far away from me. We've known each other online since late 2017 up to now and... without talking to her, I feel really lonely in the real world. I'm also friends with... somebody else who makes me feel that I'm happy I don't have to see them everyday, yeah... my real life relationships are crumbling down. I felt like I was voiced when I heard about the habits of playing games for hours and not doing hobbies to distract oneself from the terrible loneliness. The second person I mentioned; there were times I texted them, sent them funny posts and stuff and... they would take hours to reply, I'd go along with their excuses but... these days I'm fed up with it all. I know them in real life and they are an ex class-mate of mine, but our friendship is a rocky road. I've always tried to let people know they can be themselves when they're around me but often times... someone forgets I have emotions too, like them. It eggs me whenever I can't share my feelings, like I want to be understood and talked about positively- but in the end... I no longer vent so much to my best friend, it hurts her and... I just feel way worse than I was a few months ago. I don't have the guts to seek a therapist as- I can't go alone, and I can't be thorough with my family about my situation so... I've been bottling up my problems, so much so that even the top of the bottle trickles when I truly breakdown and cry when I'm alone in my room.
I have a hobby of writing, and so with every character I create - I leave a part of myself in them. It's... a funny thing to think about, but when reality hits- you have to come to realization that these characters could very well be... all in your head, which you've created to momentarily drown in fantasy. My characters have heartbreaking backstories, and for some reason I always feel like I want them to stay that way. Maybe it's for the fact that I can somewhat relate to them... and I usually pair them up for them to feel the love and happiness, the blissful butterflies in their stomach in romance that I once sought after so much, leaving me in disbelief on how different the younger me was back in those days. I'm graduating high school in a month and a few weeks, and as soon as I get out of there... my life will be changed, and I hope I can meet more people that I can proudly smile and call them my friends. I don't crave being understood anymore, as I'm tired of it. But it'll always be the second priority I keep when making friends with the top being... well... that they actually talk to me again after day 1.
I only kinda relate to 4, 5 and 6...especially the 2:02 one... Man I start a whole TED talk in my head with that one lol💀 Edit: Andd to everyone relating to all these... Please know you're not alone.. Bet someone is there who's gonna show up and be that one person who's gonna make you feel like yourself and full again...the loneliness isn't gonna last so long believe me... Sending love to y'all :)) ❤
I did not know my loneliness affected me so deeply, I convinced myself it was a strength, however I relate to all the symptoms mentioned here, growing negligence. Lockdown worsened it all.
I understand that it can be difficult to acknowledge the deep impact of loneliness, especially when we try to convince ourselves that it is a strength. The current situation with lockdowns has undoubtedly exacerbated feelings of loneliness for many people. It's important to remember that it's okay to ask for help and support during challenging times. Reach out to loved ones, seek professional guidance, or explore virtual communities that share your interests. Remember, you are not alone in this, and there are resources available to help you navigate these feelings.
I relate to every single one of them. I'm 25, I've never had a girlfriend and I could still count my male friends on one hand if I lost a few fingers. I have Asperger's and talking to anyoneoutside of specific situations is virtually impossible, I've never approached a woman to talk to at any point in my life. Years of failed therapy has left me almost certain that change is impossible. I'm a firm believer when Jordan Peterson says that a wife and children give a man a huge amount of purpose and life satisfaction but I'm sure I'll never havethis. I live with my parents and spend huge amounts of money on expensive hobbies that don't really make me happy anymore because the alternative is to sit around and do nothing. I basically don't have a social life. One friend never does anything, another only wants to drink which depresses the hell out of me and the third lives halfway across the country. I struggle to go around town anymore as seeing women, couples or groups of men happy upsets me too muchas I'm seeing everything I've never and cannot have. I've never had a friend's group or a partner. I'm too scared to move out because I'll have no money and be completely alone every second of the day. I quit my last job because I just stared at a wall with no windows for a year and a half with no one to talk to. I found a youth charity last month that does free group music lessons and offers free counselling which is giving me a tiny glimmer of hope but in 6-months I'll be too old for them and they will kick me out. A short, small chance to turn things around but I'm already sure little will come of it. I don't want to give up but the more I try the more pointless it feels.
Hello! I figured I'd post this here. There are dating sites specifically for people with ASD, so they'll know exactly what it is like. In terms of socializing, maybe you can do volunteer work. There are many kinds. I know some ppl with ASD who love volunteering at animal shelters n do horseback riding etc, bc animals are much easier to talk to than humans. Other than that you may want to look into any ASD or mental health cafes or support groups in your area to get you started. Hope this helps ^^
Loneliness is not about being alone,but its about when people close to you dont understand you and you are unable to express your feelings and expectations
I really wish there were places in this world meant for uplifting your spirit. I wish all towns/cities everywhere had panic attack rooms in case you got overwhelmed, so you can panic in private. Also I wish there was puppy play rooms where you can just spend some time playing with puppies until you felt better.
Maybe because of stress, I'm always feeling sad lately. This also made me realise that no one can help me out of this lingering feeling. I am truly lonely.
Loneliness for me is the solitary confinement of evenings... finding that no matter who i know and interact with during the day, when the evening comes, they say sorry i have to rush home to the most important person in my life which isn't you. I'd give anything to be the person that someone rushes home to.... or even just to have a friend i can text or call in the evenings that has time for me then rather than ignoring my call or text until the next day.
I can relate to all these signs and especially for about a month, I was suffering from all these signs though I was at home with my family... what else can be so worse than this! But now I've started overcoming these and the initial point can be taking care of yourself...
i can relate in everything, i've lived a very lonely life, since preschool other kids avoided me and no one wanted anything to do with me, i never understood why but my guess is because i rlly didn't have anything in common with anyone, i only liked video games and that's all my life has been pretty much so eventually i just stopped trying to make friends. i was born with chronic depression as well so having such severe loneliness and dealing with depression is all just so numbing, i barely feel anything, i don't care to do anything, no matter how much pain i am in emotionally i always find my self unable to cry or even drop a tear and best reaction i can give about anything is "okay, i guess that happened" and by the day after tomorrow i've forgotten everything happened that day. as long as i remember i've felt this void inside of me like something is missing and it only has gotten worse
Teared up watching this. Not taking care of myself has become normal. I have always felt numb. Like an empty shell. Like Shawn's song "feeling like a house but not a home".
Awww I'm sooo sorry😞 that is really sad I hope you get better, taking care of yourself is really important. I'm so sorry I wish you all the best God bless you ❤ stay safe😘💗 if you feel like your getting worse pls pls go get some help💜
This hit me really hard and made me cry I felt this too many times and people even notice me that I can be overly happy and then they tell me to be quiet or chill out made me sad again and now I’m quiet everyday they didn’t bother to ask me why I’m like that
Yes....so true. Another i feel is that, "In a teamwork, I seem to be worthless, everyone has their strength better than i do, and everytime i take initiative to do something for the team, it doesn't end up well & it seems like bring more burden to my teamates"
