Agree with all of these. A classy lady 1. Does not drink too much 2. Isn’t rude to the service staff 3.Doesn’t use profanity or lewd gestures in public 4. Always minds her manners 5. Is never too loud 6. Never brags about money 7. Dresses appropriately
I also think that a classy woman does not gossip. We all talk about people sometimes but I don't like it when it is mean spirited. Oh that gets me. Or someone who is 2 faced because if they are talking about a mutual friend I guarantee you they are talking about me.
@@ms.nblank2537 Absolutely. I had several supervisors who talked about the other people the other coworkers talking about people and they were the main ones talking about everyone as soon as they turned their backs
Exactly. I am more interested in living in peace and having a good life, serving the community. I can't deal with the bragging rights and showing off that some folks feel that they have to do. Why?
@@mariebrooks7341 Love this...drunks are bad men or women...I had a x who over drank and I had to deal with his Wickedness....What happens in the dark will come out to the light no one can mock Jeh God, X got drunk again with new supply to make his lack of impulse control be very much aware...💪
I once had a male companion who invited me to share an afternoon with him. We made a stop to a small neighborhood shopping mall with a sizable parking lot. He stopped the car, exited and extracted the empty but crumb filled container of a coffee cake box and dumped it on the parking lot. My opinion of him plummeted. What a slob! Did he ever have any home training.
We truly need to bring back "CHARM" Schools. Often people do things because they really don't know. As an older woman, I see younger people doing and saying things because 1. They don't know. 2. No one has ever taught them any better. 3. No one has explained etiquette, manners, and the purpose of them in the world today.
81eniale so true. Me ans my friend girl was talking about this the other day. When you know better you do better. She said the same thing like you. They need people to teach classes on this.
You have to teach that to children.My mother was so big on that and I am too. We would get called out when she didn't hear the speaking that took place.
Yes, great add. Many don't know that. I wish someone had taught me that growing up. I randomly figured that out at about 19 or 20. I've now passed that on to my kids and others. Some people are not being rude on purpose, they just have not realized for whatever reason.
A classy woman is a woman of substance. She is talented and inspires other women. She also does not attend a gathering/ party empty handed. She brings a small tasteful gift to the hostess especially if its the first time going to the home. Thank you for inspiring us.
Having money certainly doesn't mean you have class either. I know how to be a classy lady when I'm out at all times. I grew up in a family who were not wealthy at all but we were taught values and morals. Having empathy towards others is also a sign of class and confidence. I loved your video.
@@cherylmosley797 Exactly. As I get older, I just cannot with the bragging about money, clothes, purses, all the material things. Why brag about what you have we see it. ijs lol
So true. Most of these new money people have no class. All they want to do is tell everyone what they have. I sometimes believe that's the only reason they want the money, is to brag about it to others not even for stability.
I have to laugh because for years I've said I'm a woman of class until one day I had three teenagers. Being a parent will occasionally take you out of character. With that said this was great!!
These 7 things apply to all females not just the 40 & over crowd. These are things I have instilled in my daughters. I sent this video to my last daughter heading off to college, who shared it with her 17/18 year old friends. Awesome content.🤗🤩🤗
I can hear my mom’s voice in my head… “close your mouth 👄 when chewing gum… keep your elbows … love the comments about being late…. I’m anal about being on-time . I agree it is so disrespectful …
My Big Mama believed in teaching young girls to be Ladies. Being a lady, is a lot of common sense; however, the new generations seems they don’t care about being ladies. I have observed so many young women not acting like ladies. We need more Big Mamas teaching young girls how to conduct themselves as ladies. Thank you Hazel Davidson -“ Big Mama” for teaching me lady like characteristics.
I totally agree with being kind to Service Personnel. We are not our occupations and as a Nurse of 37 yrs often mistaken for waitstaff, it doesn’t feel good to be belittled and treated badly. We would never want to make someone feel inferior.
I love girls night out and I look forward to having a good time, but I HATE it when people in my group uses loud volume curse words, I just want to crawl up under the table. We should always be kind to waiter/waitress employees because they are the ones who is handling and delivering your food to your table. I always make sure I give a good size tip and say thank you for bringing my main course meal or even a glass of water. Good video !!
Not everyone comes from a culture of tipping. I don't see why I need to pay you to do your job. If the service is exceptional fine but I'm not your employer
@@TheKimroyBailey Yes you're right, tipping is not in my culture. However when you live on a place where tipping is the culture it could be nice to kindly adopt the culture. Most of these employees' wage are deliberately set low and they rely heavily on tips, it won't matter if its a little or a lot its really majorly in the attitude, I had your opinion at first but I realized i had to change but hey thats just me.
I was not taught to tip. I come from a frugal family and we rarely had dinners out. My mother provided all services in house with the exception of medical care. However, I appreciate the spirit of people who cook, serve, clean and provide personal services with care and attentiveness so much that I overtip. I don’t miss the money and I’m happy to do it. That’s not for everyone, but as my wages rise so do the tips of those who care for me. Great point! 👌🏾
Aside from tipping for great service, I love letting managers know when their staff goes above & beyond, especially college students since I am in education.
Angela....you are so genuine, unpretentious, sincere and such a breath of fresh air! I really enjoy listening to you and seeing how you put it all together, verbally and visually! You represent the graceful, black and beautiful, sophisticated women SO VERY WELL! Thank you and may God continue to expand the platform you have been given to inform those who choose to remain teachable!
I totally agree with you! I love how Production didn’t know it’s not acceptable to wear white to a wedding. 😂😂😂 Only the bride should wear white. Thank you for the content.
Thank you…I just attended a wedding and explained this to someone. The person thought it was okay. I said no unless the bride requests the guest be in white.
I don't care what a person has or how much money someone has, if you can't treat the next person right and especially someone that has much less. I don't entertain those types of people that are snoody and I don't want to be around them. Believe me, I will nicely verbalize how I feel and be done with situation.
I love this content. Especially point 2 and 6. Having money does not make you Better than the next person. There but for the grace of God ! Tfs ~ have a great week!💖
Another one to add, is treat frontdesk/support staff especially at businesses when you go for interviews, with care. The owner of a company I worked for would check in with me after candidates left to see how they treated or interacted with me when they 1st arrived. In fact she sat at my desk on occasion when candidates would arrive & then popped into the interview. Sometimes I was a part of the interview panel, since I was the office manager.
I think it depends on the circles you travel in. My parents and grandparents didn't use profanity, I didn't when raising my kids. They don't curse either at least in front of me lol. My friends and extended family don't use profanity either. It's just not something I hear hardly at all. Thank goodness because it is not attractive at all. If its acceptable try meeting or associating with different people with class and respect.
These were definitely great and relevant points. I would add learning to disagree agreeably, you don’t have to get belligerent if your opinion is different from someone else’s and always use customer service even when you are the customer.
My goodness, have you all ever been out with a friend and they start being rude to the waiter/waitress??? It has happened and it is friends that I love dearly and it shocks me. I pay attention to that and that is a mess to me. It really makes me question them. Like do I really know this friend? I strive hard to treat everyone kind and with respect. We are not above anyone. Manners are the best ever. I love this channel. Hello to all the classy ladies on here!!!! Thank you Angela Mashelle!!!
I am hooked on your channel now! Just home from lunch with close friend that I have not seen in a year and a half. Thanks for this vlog, agree with all points. Grown woman behavior!
Totally Totally Agree On Everything “MY YT Classy, Intelligent & Oh So Beautiful Sistah “. I, Thank You For Not Only Teaching US All But Representing As Well 🙏🏾
It drives me crazy when people go to weddings, funerals and graduations etc. dressed down. I’m like if you can’t dress up for those , what will you dress up for? Also I agree with the comment that people should speak to others when they enter a room.
I always enjoy watching Angela. I agree with all of your tips. I especially agree with not talking about/bragging about your finances, talking loud to draw attention to yourself and disrespecting individuals in the service industry. Being kind to others is always in style/
I have left people that I was supposed to ride with for being late. Anyone that is going with me knows I will leave them as well if they are late. You are so on point. These things have been lost today.
I have mixed feelings about timeliness. For time sensitive events like movies, concerts, plane or train trips, the chronically tardy amazingly find a away to be picked up by the designated driver in the friend group. They have known for weeks or months about the planned event but are always late. I find my own way to the point of embarkation that way I avoid arguments and missed engagements. After enough times of being left behind to fend for themselves, the offender finds a way to be on time. For other events, such as house parties, the hostess never starts on time. I usually arrive about 15 minutes late and still find that I’m the first to arrive. In more than 50 years of going to weddings, I have never been to one that started on time.
I admire people who got it going on and at the same time can be humble and down to earth. Those kind of people can be my friends all day long but if you are the type that thinks you are better than thou keep it moving because I won't want to be friends with such people.
I think you and "Production" should trade places just for a hot sec and do this EXACT same video entitled "7 Things Sophisticated Men Don't Do!" 😊 This is SOOO on point either way, and many of these are classic things to look out for even when dating, ESPESH the being kind to service people, not using unnecessary profanity, and drinking too much in public ones. A+ on this vid! 👍🏽
So nice to see a woman talking about being classy! It seems lost with the younger generation. I have 3 more things classy women never do; 1) Classy women do not wear chipped nail polish. 2) Classy woman to not expose too much cleavage in public. 3) Classy women do not wear a bathing suit in front of their husbands friends. They put on a cover-up that actually covers up their bathing suit. Save something that is for your man's eyes only. What's your thoughts on that? I'd like to see a 2nd Edition of this topic! Maybe include some pictures to go with each topic. And by the way, you look very classy. Very good!
All reality show women must think its classy to show lots of cleaveage or all of their breast. They all do it on TV, everywhere. Awful, you almost see areola on some of them.
These are so on point, alot of people associate being classy with being rich and acting "above" every1 who they think is below their financial level.great content Angela
Great tips!! I've written people off for being rude and/or belittling to service staff!! It's triggering for me as well. And NOT tipping in countries/regions were people really NEED that extra demonstration of appreciation for service is NOT CLASSY either!!
My first boss said it was always proper to get to work 10-15 minutes before starting time .I followed this advice for over thirty years. Always started my day relaxed and never rushed.
Thank you. I totally agree! I just had this conversation with my boyfriend yesterday. He’s an old hippie that grew up in CA in the 70’s and never learned the rules of dressing for the occasion, etc. It’s been five year of education and he now appreciates the tips I have shared with him.
This was so on point and Thank you for this. I have taught and still teaching my daughter and son, even though they are grown still have to remind and refresh those conversations. My grand baby was here during your presentation, so it was good for her ears also. Great advice..
Add to that when with a group of girlfriends out to eat at a restaurant ,a classy lady will assist on paying the check with others. There are some ladies that will itemize or ask for a separate check. If you don't have it at the time either don't go or budget for next time. Also include the tip as well. Some women just pay for what they had and that's it lol. No tip or anything.
I love that you listed a tribe of women that Would be your 30 foot wall! That is class and sophistication too! Being a lady who has solid frienships with solid women ❤️
A classy and sophisticated woman would never make it her duty to scrutinize everyone who attends a function and have a running commentary about what she perceives to be everyone else's shortcomings / faults. Enjoy your self woman and behave in a socially acceptable manner. Please and Thanks.
I totally agree this your statement, this went from a judgment view on what classy is in 2000+ to a full overhaul of her feeling herself in a point them out and let me judge them because I’m the 1st and last God of you pass. Really ..sigh
Angela as always you speak the truth. As a fellow nurse I to like having classy people around me. I cannot tell you how many times I have been in the company of women that were loud and that were constantly bragging about their assets. It was and is a complete turn off. Thank you for the advice!
I 💕your channel! And l agree with you on everything. Especially, that you should always be kind to people, and don’t brag about your life/financial situation. 😊
Yesssss to all! Concerning the profanity one - social media has made a study known regarding how the use of profane language signals intelligence. I really hate that because it seems people really think it's cool to be verbally vulgar. Personally, when I use profanity I feel dumb as a rock and when I hear it I get tensed because I feel things may get physical and I don't do violence.
I agree with all of these. I think I have a tendency to be too loud when I get excited at social events. My voice carries I’m a teacher and it serves me well in the classroom. But I am aging now and I’m realizing that this is a bad habit that I need to break
I really like that you can laugh at yourself when you make a mistake on camera! It shows that you are human, you are not perfect, and that you are comfortable with yourself! I enjoy your channel and very much like the interaction between you and your husband. My pet peeve also is seeing someone treat waiters, waitresses, hotel or service personnel with disrespect. It makes me so angry. I believe that you should always treat people the way you want to be treated. Everything you said in this video was on point and I agree with you that women over 40 definitely should not be doing these things. Be blessed Ms. Angela.
Omg, I love this and agree with everything! The two that push my buttons are being rude to service staff/people in general as well as blowing your nose at the table… thanks again for sharing ❤️
Yessss ma'am thanks for sharing oh girlfriend that white dress story oh girlfriend I am that one that get the door unless you are told to wear white ( the guest ) absolutely no. Love your channel🌻🌹🌻
Thanks for making this video. You would think these things would be obvious, but they aren’t… especially among the younger generation growing up on reality shows were dysfunctional families disrespect they mothers and each other. You always look classy but you make a very good point that if you act ugly, no styling tips can make you look good.
You’re right! The worst thing is the nouveau rich who don’t realise what they’re bragging about is standard privilege to most people around. You nailed it!!
I'm glad Ms. Mashelle as Black Woman you do videos like this. Because as a Black Man I am so tire of my Black Women during all this ratchet stuff in nightclubs, restaurants and etc in public all the time. It seems that a lot but not all Black Women feel that having Class is not Top Priority and ratchetness is the new. Big Ups to you Queen Angela Mashelle and continue to spread the word.
I know I can't please everyone. My motto is "Jesus was perfect and the persecuted him, and I'm not even close to perfect so I know some people just won't like me or have anything nice to say"
Yes, I agree with everything you said. But I laughed out loud when you were talking about wearing white at a wedding. I so agree. Not sure why everyone doesn't know that. It is the brides day, not your day. Thank you.
Hey Angela, I absolutely love your content. I happen to be a woman of a certain age and I love color. Your a breath of fresh air, thank you so much. I agree with you totally.
Hello , Angela. This is all well said. Evdr since I was a little girl I have always admired classy people. I have ways tried to learn and maintain level of class and distinction.
Great message!!👏🏽👏🏽 . I learned all of these points from my elders and cousins. Confidence is quiet and insecurity is loud. Treat everyone with respect rather he is a janitor or the Ceo of a company. I have removed myself from people like this.
HOPE THEY EVEN TAKE THE TIME TO LISTEN THEY HAVE A CERTAIN TYPE THEY LISTEN TO UNFORTUNATELY!!! HOPE THAT CHANGE I GOING TO CONTIUE TO PRAY FOR OUR MILLENNIIALS MY TAKE I NEED TO DO BETTER WITH BENING PROMPT SHOULD KNOW BETTER THANKS BLESSING
I know people with 4 yr degrees that have to waitress to make a living and/or are paying off school loans.People need not to judge. The rudest people are the ones now complaining there isn't enough staff at restaurants and they have long wait times to be serviced. Many left the industry...I don't blame them
I agree and think this way. It spoke volumes. It was confirmed that another individual who I know is totally without class. I tried to make excuses for this person for years. I appreciate that you posted this and look forward to engaging with other videos.
Thank you for making this video!! I am disabled and in a wheelchair for 4 years. When cashiers goes off on me, I go off on them. This video helps me to be a better person. THANKS!!
I agree. And, a CL, never picks her teeth in public or suck on a tootjpick. I agree, I wish people still had etiquette classes in school. Because it's not being taught at home any longer. Thanks for sharing
I love ❤️ your channel, I myself am a woman over 40, so it’s refreshing to have a channel for me, I love your clothes choices I myself wear a size 14 so I always try and pick for my body type . Keep making the videos I’ll keep watching.
