You always (not sometimes :D ) delve into such interesting topics that can really make a difference. To me, the most important thing you have EVER said (and keep saying) is to SLOW DOWN and get to know a man bit by bit. Find those moments for deeper questions and delve into issues that may not be deal-breakers but give you pause. TIME. Give yourself time to feel the difference between chemistry and character: SUPER IMPORTANT! Thanks for your insights that are more than how to script a cute email.
I don't agree with number 3 you named. Actually I know only two long lasting and extremely happy marriages (over thirty years). And they BOTH were mostly because guys were very handsome and very sexy. I know both very well because one of them was of my grandparents, and the other one of my beloved aunt. Therefore I am sure these women who hold PhDs, are scientists etc. do a good job of seeking men to whom they feel chemistry. Without chemistry there is no love on a woman's side and then gradually love fades away on both sides. Judging by those only two cases of happy long lasting marriages which I know, a man needs to be very handsome, but also very and deeply in love with their woman, treat her like his trophy, his muse and his lover. So please kindly advise how to make a handsome man love me deeply, passionately and for many many years. Thank you.
He talked about chemistry, not good looks as such. Chemistry is more ineffable than good looks. You just need to find someone who looks attractive to you, not necessarily everyone, and vice versa. I think many of today's dating issues come from the fact looks become the focus of everything for many people. They're important but he was talking about something that can go the distance
@Go_Anto_Go Thank you for clarification! BTW: both in case if my grandpa and my uncle they're deadly handsome for (probably) every woman. And these marriages were tied many, many years ago, so looks might have been focal points already back then. My grandpa is already dead, yet his was definitely reciprocated, kind, dedicated, passionate and very deep connection with my grandma. Just to say briefly, in a very healthy guy who was never sick before, within 8 months after my grandma died, he developed cancer. Out of despair simply, and even if he had plenty of loving children and grandchildren around. In case of my uncle, they're already in their sixties and my aunt has already grey hair and is overweight, but anything what her husband, my extremely handsome uncle does, is going after her, caring for her and looking at her with a mixture of passion, love and that something ineffable what I would call, for the lack of a better word at hand, "cherishing despair"? As if he was always afraid if he would have lost her and then he would be gone. And it's in this manly meaning, he's certainly not wishy washy or effeminated. In other words, my uncle not only loves my aunt passionately and caringly, but also treats her with care as if she would always be his only treasure (even if they have kids and grandchildren). And this is what I was always looking for in my life in the past: steamy, deep, reciprocated and mutually caring connection with a handsome guy.
All you said is true, but you should consider your work also, how to be attractive to a man and make him serve you like a Queen, always reciprocated, another thing should be put in consideration is the generation and the changing culture. You got to adapt to new love trends like women always fighting for equality… which somehome makes the young change their behaviors and thoughts… always figure em out
