Hi Tammy its really a great source of pains to have oneself in a relationship characterized by libidinal mismatch. This is actually gradually tearing me away from my love... Help pls.
For the kinks: You could make a list like a stoplight (red yellow green). Red is ever want to try it, yellow okay with trying it under certain circumstances, red not trying that at all and go from there. Both of you make a list and compare. You’d be surprised how much green you have in common. For the fantasies: there’s never a “good time” for a hard convo but a soft open helps such as “are you open to hearing some of the wild stuff I’ve wanted to do together” and go from there. Don’t make it an ultimatum or a surprise. Make it a goal to work towards.
i’m in a lesbian relationship and i feel as if our main issue is neither of us initiate. we do pretty much all of the tips in this video yet still go through months of dry spells. i’ve also learned about myself that i get turned off very quickly, so even if i’m in the mood, and try to initiate, i can completely lose the desire after a few minutes of “foreplay”😕
For the first one, I realized that I didn’t like kissing my partner for more than a few seconds / wouldn’t get too intimate because if I did then they immediately assumed we’d be having sex. I tried saying that I’d like to kiss or make out for a little bit without always feeling pressured to have to “put out” essentially and it’s not getting through. Do you have any advice or suggestions for talking with them about that?
Gracias, the sugestions toward the end are really important and helpfull... tantra is misundertood by many but it's practice is also a life style that compliments individual needs.
Steph love your takes! You reference 8 Dates a lot (for good reason, it’s such a great book). I recently read Mating in Captivity by Esther Perel. It has some interesting takes, some of which stand in opposition to Gottman’s ideas of intimacy. I feel like I learned more with Gottman but resonated so so much with Perel, I would love to know your thoughts on it!
@@xDiananas 8 Dates suggests that relationships thrive the more we forge closeness, Mating In Captivity suggests that they thrive with a significant dose of separation. Really great read, highly recommend it!
Stephanie…there’s a new season of Love is Blind 😅😅. Would love to get your professional opinion and thoughts on this season because girl…it’s a lot going on!
So valuable! Thank you! I've definitely noticed that the more I have, the more I desire. But then also the opposite happens, and 3-4 weeks without go by so fast. I've been stressing out bc I was worried that my husband is unsatisfied, even though he always said he's fine. So it's def some expectations in my mind that I have yet to release.
Is it odd to like someone but the way they dress puts you off, makes you feel less attracted to them? I’m getting to know someone and he’s a nice person but I don’t like the way he dresses and I feel bad because shouldn’t we accept people the way they are? But I want to look at my partner with desire. How do you bring that to them? It would be nice if you could talk about this. Thank you
So my biggest problem is knowing what to ask for? I'm not very experienced when it comes to sex 😅 I have the basics and find it very enjoyable, but I feel like something is missing that I can't quite put my finger on. Does that make sense?
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Im sexually inactive and never have had a sexual relationship with anyone other than myself. Being 21 yo, almost 22, its does sometimes makes me think, that its might be a turn off for some people, in the future. However, for now Im really working on my creativity (this is really important for me to feel accomplished), education, finances…many things that are crucial for my peace of mind and self-esteem. And I really don’t think that relationship is something that I have means to pursue, being at the place in life that Im currently in, because its really important for me to have financial independence and being my own person before inviting another in my space and building connection with them. Plus, I have some non-negotiable values, that are difficult to come across in the county I live in rn. Especially, when it comes to men. So yeah, not an advice I can apply rn. But would it stop me from watching? Nope. (2) Being someone who considers touch one of my main love languages, I cannot imagine how unappreciated I would feel if my partner would just “peck” me on regular instead of proper kissing. Or now kissing at all? Nope.
Talk normaly to people. This is a period to get proposals for relationship. You could read an apply things about flirting. I ve married at 23, we were both students at university.
I just found your channel! We’ll be married 33 years ! Been together over 34! My wife used to want sex ! She used to be crazy about me! Show her affection ! Intimacy was there from jet! I tell her everyday how much I love her! Crave for curvy body and how sexy her curves are! I tell her everyday how beautiful she is! How beautiful she looks !! I miss that intimacy from her! Thank you for everything you do to help us
I've been the one to communicate and be open to sex while my bf has been very reserved. Prefers p*rn over me. And we've been together for 5 years. I followed these exact tips before this video and now with this video, it's a reminder that I have attempted, and my bf is not willing to change. Is there anything else I can do?
This video was so fantastic! Everything was relevant and direct but not overwhelming. I really appreciate everything you said, even as a single person who desires marriage in the future, I’ll be taking everything you shared into consideration and applying it! 🫶🏾
