Wow, this hit home for me. I was also verbally abused as a child and adult. My mother always said she wished she never had children. She passed last year, and even at the end, I asked her if she regretted having us 4 kids, her response, yes. I was told I was stupid, fat(ended up being anorexic)in high school, and stopped having my monthly cycle. I didn't have a winter coat, walked to school every day, and got pneumonia. I was told I was going to hell.I could write a book.. maybe that's why I never had children, afraid I would be like her. I'm 61 years old. You never forget those words....
Thank you so much. It felt good to share this with people I don't even know. The old saying (sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me), so not true.
I know what u mean. I thinking a long time ago that I don't want 2 go to my mom's funeral. When the time comes. I know she my mom, but so what? My sister and boyfriend tells me go to funeral to give me peace. I have my mind set of not going cuz she put me in shame. So I know exactly how u feel. Sometimes I wonder what it b like having a mom who is loving, caring, understanding, always b there, and supportive like a mom supposed 2 b? I wonder how would turn out?
@floralcantar1822 The day of my mother's service, it started at 10:00 am. I sat in my car until almost 10:00 .I didn't want to go in.I think that I realized she could not hurt me anymore with her words. I felt numb. Some people may not understand that, and I didn't share it with anyone like all the years of verbal abuse. All I wanted was for her to love me... whatever you choose to do is okay, remember that they are your feelings. I wish you the best...
yonkers my parents always compare me to my baby sister. she literally can’t walk or talk but they say that she is better than me. i’m just waiting till the day one of them falls down the stairs and hurts themselves. i’m just gonna tell them to get my baby sister to help them up
@@ajjdnedhsknwsksnn2973 i told my mom i have social anxiety too but then she told me that its just shyness and i should go and socialize then. Like bitch no-
I understand this soooo much. Depression hit me HARD in 4th grade. Developed into suicidal actions, actually. In 4th grade I tried to die 17 times, the count growing each year. A child is never too young to be depressed.
My dad was abused as a kid, he was hit, shouted at and abandoned, but instead of continuing the horrible cycle gave me the best childhood he possibly could and he succeeded, I had an absolutely amazing childhood, I couldn't have asked for a better dad
oof, am i the only one that my parents did all of this to me? I got so stressed i cut myself just for their care. but they got mad, i know they will be mad but they said things like " your so stupid and dumb!" "What the hell is wrong with you!" It eventually led to suicidal thoughts and attempts. like i tried cutting myself deeper, choking my self with a rope, falling down the stairs. Tbh the internet felt like more of a family to me. The person i love the most is my best friend, she understands me so well than my real family. Idk i just want to open up my fellings to the world. It made me feel cormftable. Sorry for wasting your time! :)
It sucks when your parents are toxic but you can’t do anything about it because when you talk to them about it your being “disrespectful” or “just don’t know because your a teenager”
Well I found a way that my mother respects me because she is toxic so I just stand up for myself a few years ago i couldn't have done that but You have to find you courge I found it with music manly BTS and things I appreciate in my life like my Friends who are closer to me then my actul Family! I bilieve in you! :)) ;)
my mom says that to me way too often... at least i know that if i do end up having kids i’m gonna be able to raise them so much better than she did with me. it took me 19 years to realize that unfortunately she’s toxic as hell.
Chapters ♡ 1:15 offensive words towards their appearance 1:43 provocative questions towards actions 2:15 selfish wishes 2:50 making the child feel like a burden 3:22 unhealthy comparisons 3:54 verbally abusive words are statements 4:12 threatening abandonment 4:37 empty promises
I knew my mother hates me and would happily drag me in hell along with her and I didn't doubt that all these checkpoints align with me. No wonder I've got depression, declining mental health, depriving myself of all social interaction, am obese, and suffering from addiction to cope with little emotional intimacy as I have no friends. I've been fatshamed, and told and reminded everyday that I ruined her life and made me feel like a burden and she would occasionally hit me. I also have ASD (Autism) and she didn't do anything to help me and I am very high on the spectrum. She was never gentle and would scold me for stimming or having a negative response to loud noise. She also forced me to have physical interaction with strangers which made me really uncomfortable. She would leave me if I had a meltdown in public. I hope nobody else has to go through with this
I know right I’m about to become 11 in March and my mum always says that only reason I stay quiet is because I love her because I know she loves me and I’m honestly kinda scared of what she’ll think (I’m also Asian)
i fucking hate when my parents say this. she always it’s just in your head. or they say stop saying these things for attention. i remember when i was deeply depressed in my middle school years, sadly i was cutting myself and when i got caught with so many scars on my hand they hit me with belts, sandals and metal spoons. they took my ipod away, my tablet and anything that was sharp. they yelled at me saying what are you doing this for, it’s attention that you want is it. after a year of having no help at all from my parents i became worse. one of the guidance counselor had to tell and basically yell at my parents to take me to therapy or to a psychiatrist and they did but it took them a while because they didn’t feel like i needed it and that they are over exaggerating. to this day i’ve gotten better but the one who mentally and emotionally abuses me now is my dad and sometimes my mom
Or dismissing your problems as invalid or of no importance. “You think you have problems. I have problems, not you. I wish I had your problems.” Yeah, sure...
“You’re so sensitive” “Why can’t you be more like the other kids” “You’re too loud” “You shouldn’t do that it’ll embarrass me” “Why do you always stay in your room”
Signs you have horrible,strict or abusive parents. -feeling the need to hide everything -feeling scared to tell your parents things -they compare you -they hit you -they always say “but I love you❤”
@@isabellareiter-kocher3535 - this goes on the bloody brother/sister list too. it’s the worst feeling when they tell u to say sorry or to stop lying when you haven’t done anything.
i find this relatable i have great parents but when i fight with them they expect me to say sorry but they never actually say sorry to me and it really hurts
I started self harming myself in class because I was angry and stressed one time, and my teacher said to the entire class, “Ignore her, she wants attention.”
@@CrazyOkuuProductions geez that hurts to hear. I felt that pang in my heart. I told the only man I trusted, my middle school orchestra teacher and he told the counselor. She had me in her office and told me to knock these attention seeking actions off. She called my mother and things went to shit. Why do all these boomers assume all self-harm is attention seeking?
that's is honestly the worst thing someone could say to you (or anyone for that matter) i mean love is just the one thing we want, no, need. i honestly just wanna give everyone here a giant hug (yea i shouldn't be joking around about this soz) and reassure them it's alright...
Part of me thinks that this is abuse. The other part thinks i am a lil bitch & need to nut up. There are starving kids in africa who have no parents & people are worried about mental health. It really doesnt matter
“What’s wrong with you” “You’re so annoying” “Why do you even cry” “You’re just faking it” “Stop being whinny” My parents after I had a mental breakdown...
@@zombiefvckerr ikr it bugs me so hard they think we can't feel anything at all and that they can hurt as as much as they want cuz we are just "dumb little kids"😞😤
I am still young (turning 15 at coming Monday) I have toxic parents and if I will have children I will do everything to give them normal childhood but on the other hand... IDK if I would ever go this far and I don't want to have anything in common with my parents, being such monsters. So IDK if I would be also like them... I really wish I won't.
It’s incredibly powerful that you’re committed to breaking the cycle and giving your children the love and support you may not have received. That’s a beautiful way to turn pain into strength, and it’s inspiring to see. Your journey is a reminder to all of us that we have the power to create a better future for the next generation. ❤️ Has anyone else here made similar promises or taken steps to ensure their children feel valued and heard? We’d love to hear your stories and how you’re making a difference.
I'm autistic, is often I'd literally not be able to understand. My mum would scream "you're not trying!!" Whenever I said I couldn't understand something.
Some parents demand respect but they can't respect their own child. So respect is only one-sided then? They'll even criticize you on your adult lifestyle, as if like they're not part of the blame on why you're living like that. *sigh*
my mother once told me that i should always respect them because they're older than me and that they raised me. i can't voice anything out at home or they'll call me a spoiled brat.
“You’re only crying because you want attention” no I’m crying because you don’t let me speak or have an opinion so crying is the only way to let out emotion
i would add one more thing: When you grow up, toxic parents tend to neglect that any of these things ever happened, they say "i dont remember doing such things", "you are lying, this never happened" and when you actually accomplish something, they say its due to their "excellent parenthood" and nothing can convince them, that they actually were horrible.
Sadly, you're right :o It's because people tend to forget bad things and remember good ones more often. That's what ppl say: 'when I was younger everything was much better.. '
Lol you don’t have to be grown up for them to be like this. I straight up told my parents that they were the reason I was suicidal, they didn’t even register what I said, basically wrote a su¡cide letter for an English paper less than a week later, counselor called my mom, and my mom said she thought I was just “tired”.
I’m still a kid, 14, every single day I go through this, my mother is a single parent, and I understand having three kids is hard, But telling us you’ll leave us, you’ll kill yourself, that I don’t look how I’m supposed to, acting how I’m supposed to, do what I’m ‘supposed’ to, why do you think I avoid you everyday? I avoid telling you how I feel or how I am? It’s because everyone I do, you hurt me or try to do thing to me, I wish she’d understand.
Same here buddy...my mum is a single mother and she often blames me for her stress and tells me she'll die because of me. Her job is horrible and it sucks to be a single parent but this is horrible to do to a child or anyone and I don't keep my thoughts to myself...I just wish she would understand and get over herself...❤❤❤ We're in this together!
Grecella Pm because all we do is to talk. We don’t have to do the heavy lifting. We don’t live with you, we don’t pay for you, and we don’t have to be responsible for you. There’s virtually no cost on us to simply say the pretty words.
“you’re too skinny” “your teeth are too yellow” “why aren’t you eating? do you think you’re gonna get skinny?” “you’re too young to be depressed” “i bought you something yesterday. you can’t be anxious or depressed.” “why can’t you be like (friends name)?”
Thanks. I watch these to figure out if I still have any toxic traits to fix. My mom broke some of these cycles because of her mom. Just as I'm breaking the rest for my children. I love that people are speaking out about this stuff.
Youre perfect just the way u are. Ok?..😔 YOURE AMAZING✨ you WONT be like him/her because YOU ARE YOU and without YOU you would act like him/her only and wouldnt have YOUR PERSONALITY, NEITHER THOUGHTS.💖
I think I had a panic attack a few days ago, I was doing online work and I started feeling somewhat uneasy my leg kept shaking and I kept messing with my finger and I kept crying and I couldn’t stop, my mom asked why am I crying and I kept saying I don’t know I can’t stop. I went to the bathroom and I fell on my knees and kept crying and trying to breathe steadily. I got told to go outside until I “calmed down”. Later when it stopped and I was finishing up my work my mom made a comment “Are you done being “stressed”?” In a joking way and I just looked at her in her eyes and looked away I felt like crying so bad.
I had a anxiety attack because of my mum and then she came like an hour later saying I’m sorry and I was just like what... you where telling me to stop and now you telling me sorry
"stop crying or ill give you somethin to cry about" -my dad {i saw one comment telling me to run away, im okay, im safe, im not in danger, my parents just tend to yell at me alot, aside from that, im okay, i dont get abused} {also if your situation gets too bad do not call the police call your local fire department, if you want to run away jump houses if you know multiple people you can stay with, they could catch on to where you are, i could be wrong, so if i am someone correct me :))}
i told this to my mom, who had been doing all of these things to me. and she replied “What the hell you talking about? I work everyday and feed you and i feel so tired. I raised you just so you would say this? I could’ve never made you!” she doesn’t really know how to speak really, but it still hurt, because i knew she meant it.
i agrre with uset-ho3rl3qg7t i hope ur ok also if ur mom says stuff like that then it is porbably because she went throgh something bad if so tell her i hope she is ok
TheRedFox yeah, they often take my phone of me or shout at me because I’m spending a lot of time on it... I watch RU-vid to take my mind of things! It’s the only way I can cope with it all!!
My question is why you need to go through such extensive stuff to adopt, but anyone can give birth to a child. Shouldn’t they go through the same thing to make sure they’re capable of having a child?
Vivi you’re so right, plus the community as a whole is just such a nice place, army are the sweetest group of people I’ve ever met. we’re all in it together, we’ll make it through whatever’s troubling us💜💗
@UCyudNh7AilSQcQUBSN4vxNQ if you want something so badly, you can't live without it, you will look for ways to achieve your dream. Bangtan did it didn't they? The only validation you need is yourself. Opinions from others could but won't absolutely control your life unless you allow it to. You cannot force people to understand when they don't want to understand. You can lead a horse to the watering hole but you can't make it drink. I think Bangtan would be proud if you stuck to your own dreams and used others' disbelief as fuel don't you think?
Most people focus on “why can’t you be like so-and-so with comparison comments, but another one that can actually prove quite damaging, as well, which I don’t know the proper name for, is when they complain about rude, disrespectful behavior or annoying habits to you about or other relative behind their back, especially if they are also pairing it with pointing out any signs of being annoyed or irritated by other relatives or people present, and then either saying “don’t ever let me catch you doing that “or “that’s why they let you do XYZ but don’t let so-and-so do it, because nobody can stand so-and-so and their ” It makes you paranoid about so many things.
99999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999% true - a child having parent
i can’t cry in front of my parents. my dad just laughs and teases me and my mom always saids that i shouldn’t b crying so every since i turned like 10 i’ve been crying in the bathroom or in my bedroom by myself
Being sent away to boarding school at age 11, says it all! No longer part of the family unit and made to feel like an intruder during the holidays, that I actually came to dread!
My parents threaten to send me to a special education school over the dumbest reasons. I could speak in a slightly loud voice and they would say “I will send you to a school of retarded people with saliva dripping from their mouth”
Oh dang! I’m very sorry that happened to you. Being sent away to a boarding school or just anywhere outside of home sounds very painful, especially if it’s the parents that are being toxic. Take care and be safe
My dad would be screaming at us and threatening us if we lost something that’s his (ik he won’t actually hurt us) and find out it’s his fault and we didn’t do anything he won’t even say sorry or I didn’t mean it I think that’s why I have a hard time saying sorry is well and showing affection since I can’t remember when he even hugged me and he never said I love you before (ik he love us)like I’m so scared off him but ik this is all because off his childhood and parents but can he please think that’s this could have some emotional scarring and actually effect us like parents think nothing can affect me bc “I wasn’t brought up like that” ugh
my parents legit just say “i’m sorry you feel that way” “but all i did was-“ they make themselves look like they did nothing and ultimately blame it on me it’s really upsetting
my family: insults my look* my family: insults my weight* my family: insults my friends* my family: insults my interests* also my family: you never spend time with us edit: i am not thanking everyone for the likes, i am thanking everyone for the support, be kind and respectful for each other.
I was the child you mentioned in the video and I had all of the experiences you described. I was constantly being compared to my cousins who were much smarter and more talented than me in all areas, including academics, music, and sports. When I was young, I tried so hard to keep up but I could never compare. I felt like a burden to my grandparents who raised me, because they unconsciously said things like "If we didn’t have you we got have done this or we could of been that….” As a small child it ingrain into my mind. Eventually, my mother left me behind. As I grew up and became an adult, I had to pick up the pieces and try to become whole again. Now that I am a mother, I try to raise my kids the way I wish I had been raised - with love and support. Yet, even as an adult, most days I still feel broken and lost, uncertain of what I want to do with my life.
Parents: *Say something hurtful* Me: *Doesn’t say anything* Parents: -“Why aren’t you talking?”- "Respond to me when I'm talking to you!" Me: *Says anything* Parents: “DON’T TALK BACK!”
"Answer the question when I ask you! When your parents ask you a question, it's rude and disrespectful if you don't respond!" "Stop talking back to me, that is rude and disrespectful." Like one second they demand you to talk, and the next they tell you to shut up. It's so tiring. They only want to hear what they want to hear. They never listen to your opinion. It's so unjust.
InversedFox I hear you!! You grow up being told to “Shut the fuck up!” But when you’re out in public and other adults ask you questions, you have a hard time answering then your parent jumps in and says you’re shy. In the car you’re being scolded, “Why don’t you speak up when people talk to you? You’re embarrassing!”
At the dawn of 50 I have proof that my parents were (are) toxic. Of all the examples you've given only the "I'll abbandon you" never occoured in my life, the others were a constant. Not a big surprise if I can't find satisfaction and love in my life, no wonder if most of my (luckly) former friendships and relationships involved narcisistic or manipulative people. Now I just have to understand how to let go what has been and create a sense of self, at 50. Good luck to me
What's worse, being called stupid and being told to grow up or stop feeling sorry for yourself, or having negative emotional moments including isolation and negativity being excused by same parent as "drama?"
Both parents did this to me. My mom slipped up only a few times. My dad often called me stupid. They both deny it. They have to put up with my anger now. Forgiveness don't work. I have tried it enough time to know. I got advise for any parent that calls their child stupid. Payback can last a long time. I am going to make examples of all the gaslighting and narcissistic people I find, including my parents. You are parasites and can't live unless you have a host. A social vampire is also a good description. Remember that they have no heart to kill so don't worry about their emotions. Don't show any emotion to them while they beg and tell them they brought it on themselves. They will give you no mercy so none shall be given. Make it look like you are enjoying it, but don't really enjoy it cause your not like those soulless excuses for human beings.
you don’t know how hard it hurts because there have been times i broke down to them about my problems like what you mentioned, and they say to get over it and go on with your life when it’s not that easy :/ i’ve stopped talking to them about my feelings since then
@@steamedbuns6197 yes they are. I always noticed when I spent the night at family or friends houses, how messed up my dad was. It rubbed off on my mom a little. Now all I can do is make him feel very uncomfortable till the day he dies. When you try to forgive and it doesn't work, be harder on them and stay that way.
Miss Draco one of my parents tells me I’m no better than anyone else, to stop feeling sorry for myself, to grow up and get my head out of the clouds (I daydream a LOT), and sometimes they call me stupid. Once though, it got so far that she had me say I was the reason why everything went wrong in the family....she said it again on Wednesday....words really hurt.
how do i talk to my parents about my problems when my parents are the problem edit: i hope you will all heal from your trauma and events, i wish you all the best ! 2021/April/14
I know right when they're talking to me they're like "go die whore" and other shit and then minutes after they say "tell me what's the problem" like motherfuckers your the damn problem I have and you dont even see that because you think your always right
It's okay.. It'll be hard but make them sit gather all the strength and tell them what you feel about them.. Otherwise they will never know it.. And will continue the same behavior. May they will realize their impact on you after a long talk.. Just hope for the best and do it..! All the best...
Why do our parents never apologise to us? They just say whatever they feel like, do they think we are some kind of emotionless beings? Other things that parents say- * why aren't you like your brother /sister /neighbours kid etc * when I was of your age.... * children of your generation are so sensitive * you're ungrateful
@@keziagreste yes... And then they say why do you keep things to yourself why don't you tell me. Bruh you probably don't understand my feelings so what is even the point to tell you
And if they say they’re not responsible for the way we turn out, they still lose because that means the messages they tried to instil in us weren’t affective
I'm always quiet, shy, addicted to my phone because my mom never allows me to go out and i got addicted to my phone because it's the only thing i can interact with everyday 😔
Strict parents: "I'm just protecting you" Congratulations now you have a kid that lies to you 24/7, never open up, and anxious all the time about wrong things they do and scared that it'll never be fixed and forgiven.
@@randomgirlinthetrees1954 If people cant handle personal information that you are willing to give then you keep it to yourself. You'll deal with it your whole life theres just some things you can't tell everyone. If they see you dating men or women or whatever pronoun you want to use they'll see and get it. Regardless if they like it or not.
@@randomgirlinthetrees1954 I believe theres actually a correct way God made things to function. Call it what you will. I have seen God heal people and stuff that dont make sense scientifically. All those miracles were done in the name of Jesus. You can have a relationship with the same sex if you want but it comes with its burdens. Such as not being able to have kids etc. God still loves every pansexual person, and everything else you can think of. It doesnt matter where all imperfect and need Jesus. Only He saves not our good or bad. But that's my beliefs sorry if it ain't yours. God is so real I wish I could show you. And it's ok that you are pansexual just remember lifestyles effect every area.
@@randomgirlinthetrees1954 I hope your parents mature and you can express your feelings to them. The fact is if you want a family and you dont want to or adopt do any other methods. You'll need a man otherwise it wont be the same. And it can effect kids alot.
@@randomgirlinthetrees1954 I dont know how old you are but the reason these things are is because humans deny themselves no pleasure in their fallen nature. We set no limitations and let our hearts be carried by the wind. This leads to much suffering and pain in our souls because we are connecting with eachother on a spiritual level. And it hurts to be pulled apart. Weither people choose to realize it or not.
My mom always said this one sentence whenever she's mad at me for quite small mistakes.. "Why cant I be like your auntie!?.. Your auntie always put her children in your grandma's house (My grandma is very picky) and went travelling alone! Even so, your cousins are still very smart and Independent.... I wish my children were like your cousins.." 😭😭😭😭 She also said like, "I wish I could just get out of this house, escape, and never come back.." Like, she said that a thousand times already.. Since I was maybe 5 or 6 years old
"I think I have depression" "You don't know what depression is." That confession to my mom lead to years of suicidal ideation and no therapy. It wasn't until I moved out that I began to heal...
i opened up to my dad about my anxiety disorder, and asked him to take me to a therapist. he just brushed it off like it was nothing and that day i decided not to share anything about my problems to my family.
@-Katzuki playz- commenting like this makes me believe u need to open up to ur sister? Mental health issues r hereditary! Please talk to someone! Just talking about things can help
Anyone who are not ready to be a parent can make a hell and then end up destroying yourself and not a good parenthood and for the sake of children, they all deserved better to grow up into a proper environment humble kind and useful human beings in the society! Riches are not everything to spoil the children, and that's my opinion.. Take it or leave it or hate me
After failed in an entrance exam my father continuously taunt me and I feel like trash. How can I overcome..please dad it's enough now I don't have power to endure this. I did my best in exam but I am fail unfortunately😔
i don’t even feel comfortable crying infront of my mom knowing she will just yell at me. im 10 and i started having suicidal thoughts at 7 because of my mom, “your so chubby” “look at the difference between julia and emily” it hurts knowing some mothers do worse.
You are not alone! Always remember that people have been through the same, and defeated it. Life is long and you gotta love yourself and be happy even though it seems hard, then focus on what makes you happy and learn from that.
“No one feels bad for you.” “You’re such a crybaby.” “What is wrong with you?” “You’re faking it.” “I’ll give you something to cry about.” “You’re *fine.”*
"You're young you don't have a reason to be depressed" . Yeah sure thing mum. Tell that to a whole year of anxiety and stress caused by HOCD. Tell that to my need for acceptance and my desperate attempts to be calm while im on the verge of fucking collapsing due to hypertension and anxiety. I dare you mum!
When i tell them you’re making the same mistake they say these things: 1) im your parent i can do whatever 2) keep quiet and stop talking back 3) who is the one who has lived longer? I just always get sooo fucking pissed
I experienced most of these. And I have issues. I never had children because I NEVER wanted to do to a child the things done to me, and realised the model of parenting was not a good one. I still work through the issues daily.
I’m in a Twelve Step Program due to my growing up in a dysfunctional home-middle child, unwanted, unloved, yet my sisters were loved. Keep spreading the word that what looks good on the outside hides what happens behind closed doors! Thank you
Canvas Notification but if you think about it, they chose to have you as a child. like even if it wasn’t wanted, you could’ve gotten rid of the child if you didn’t want it (I dont know how else to explain) but toxic parents use it against their children. i mean you’re a parent you signed up for this. my mom only likes babies and i’m a teen and she always yells at me for being a normal teen and i’m not even that BAD. like her and my dad ‘joke’ about putting me about adoption and getting a new child.
Or the whole “I gave you life!” answer. I have seen couples do the IVF and am sympathetic to comments like that in those situations. But after hearing stories from older relatives and family friends to find out you were an accident between fuck buddies or you were the as Eddie Griffin once said, “keep-a-nigga” baby. Makes me doubt the effort and beneficence of the parent saying it.
Bella Ross My biological madre passes away and my “parents” adopted new because my closer family was mentally unstable. they didn’t choose me. My momma literally asked for my “mother” to take care of me
The amount of people who have learned from their past experiences and are going to raise their children right really gives me hope for the next generation.
This is why you don't listen to anyone else while raising your child. You are a mother, you can figure it out because you are experienced being a child, watched your parents teaching you good habits, you watched their mistakes too. So you are aware of how to raise your kid to be hardworking, honest, responsible and humble. They learn by your actions. Actions within the dynamics of the family. If your respect his/ her mother or father or any elderly. They learn that. If you exhibit rude or violent behaviour, they think it's ok or valid to treat people that way. No amount of verbal instructions is valid if your voluntary/involuntary actions are not respectful or not humble or honest or hardworking or responsible. A child is 50-50 % gene pool of you and your partner. That is your lineage and her lineage. Character building is in both parents responsibility. The way they look physically shouldn't be questioned because after all they are your bundle of joy... If you want your child to develop a healthy lifestyle to prevent diseases like diabetes mellitus and want them to stop eating sugary starchy foods and aerated drinks like Coco cola, sprite , you need to adapt that lifestyle first. Every child is a genius if you let them solve it themselves and stop the derogatory encouragement while guiding and protecting them from behind. As a parent myself, I am telling you with experience.
Me: starts to cry because my mom is mad at me My mom: gets mad and asks why I like making her mad Me: locks myself in my room to not have to burden her Also my mom: *WhY dO yOu NeVeR cOmE oUt Of YoUr RoOm?!?!*
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This is exactly why I’m not having kids. I’m so afraid of treating my children the way my mom treated me, no matter how hard I may try not to. I can’t risk bringing another person into this world and leaving them with lifelong scars.
I didn't have kids because of that and I've just at the age if 56 gone No contact ...she's a narcassitic bitch ..put me down ..never praised me ...now she needs care ....tough Do it ..it feels crap at first ..then it doesn't xx
This, this really hit all the bases. Didn’t even think it was that bad cause ya know there’s no physical abuse, what makes this worse is that both my parents work with kids and are decent at it meaning they treat strangers delinquents better then their own kid.
TW: "Ill stop hitting you" "I never did that" "Stop being a smart ass" "Dont tell anyone" "Shut up" "Im the only one who can keep you safe" "You need me" "I love you" "Your spoiled"
These are some of the exact words I was told by most my family that “cared about me” but now I really don’t think they did.. I’m sorry for you having to deal with the stuff I did, if you ever need support google the emergency hotline for suicide prevention or the non-emergency police number if you are thinking about self harm or ending it, your worth it, you matter, your not alone.
When a child falls in trouble, their first thought should be, "i should call dad or mom", but the mentality today has become such because of parent's toxic behaviour that their first thought is "i hope dad and mom don't find out" it's all because of parents never supporting their child
Very hard to gain respect completely that way. sometimes ya gotta be tough; meaner than you wish to be. but then be chill and having your child like you but know that ass will still get beat if you do something you know you're not supposed to do. if they break something i want them to tell me so that they dont get hurt by whatever is broken. so i tell them that they can tell me anything, because i wont stop loving them, or hate them just because a inanimate object was destroyed. im 17, but i think about how im gonna raise my children based off how i was raised. I wont lie my mom and dad are semi toxic. it messed me up for a good while so i decided to raise myself mostly; to learn mostly on my own and i made a good decision. now i am somebody who i would want to be to raise children when i have them.
This is so relatable! If my mom found out about something I did/forgot to do I’d get a mouthful of threats, comparisons, etc. Nowadays I don’t enjoy weekends as much as I did before because that’s when my mom is home the entire day.
We can't forget the old "I give you everything, there's nothing wrong with your life so you should be happy" Or the "you're my child. You don't get to make that decision until you move out" And parents get so offended and wonder why kids don't want to come visit them.
I'm 13 and i still remember my mother saying to me at a young age that she was going to flying back to her home country and leave me.This happened often at that time and one day she got mad at me and throwed her phone on the ground as it all crashed not able to repair.But still i love her so she don't leave...
Its such a pity to see kids be deeply hurt by their parents instead of being deeply loved no matter what... Its a pity, also, when parents behave like this and they don't accept any advice to think about it and seek help to become better.
To be honest my mom done some bad things to me but she not do them that often and she does not do them anymore and to be honest i can understand why she did those bad things like having 3 children is really hard especially when you dont have a husband helping you with money and moral support She is working for 8 hours every 2 days she have to wake up at morning and that really draining her energy
"You never help us." "You're just lazy." "You're too young to know anything about life struggles." "You don't know what it's like to be tired." "I wish you weren't so spoiled." "You're gonna kill me." "I'm going to leave and never come back." "You are a disappointment."
Im more of the perfect child. I get complimented for my looks my talents grades. But no matter how hard i work in school or instruments i learn I'll never be as loved as how much my parents love my younger sister. She'll always be there sun and i know that she means more to them then I'll ever be. She's only a year younger than me its not like she's a child. I guess its just how it works
@@andreeavlad862 I’m sorry, I know how that feels and it gets to you a lot more when it’s your parents. Like you know that you love them but you question if they love you the same way.
There are some "parents" who see absolutely nothing wrong with this. They believe in their warped minds that this is to make their child strong or tough. I was told the majority of these things growing up plus physical abuse. All it did was turn my heart into stone, made me paranoid, insecure, and disdain for people in general. I don't want to feel like this anymore, which is why I am seeking counseling before it's too late.
I was seggsually and mentally abused by my grandparents and I had a really long struggle before I found this channel, and now I’ve gotten away from them and I’m doing better. I’m not okay yet but I’m better than I was an I want to point out to others who have problems but get away from them, you won’t heal immediately, it will take time but you will be okay one day, and if your not then that’s okay, we all get better at our own pace.
I'm sorry to hear that love, but you aren't a burden, you are doing great and it's okay to be lazy or unmotivated at times but you are still doing your best
I had the same experience as a lazy and pretty emotional kid i cries for like half an hour- mom told me that she'd replace me 'cause i told her to wait 5 minutes for my help with dinner. . . Yeah my mom is a pretty hot headed person.
