I understand your father's desperation and need. I'm glad your father was a great father to all you daughters, and a great husband for your mother unlike many people out there in the same situation.
I have all girls and my husband doesn’t care for more. He’s never thought of who going to hold his head at the funeral because that sh- don’t matter when he’s gone. What matters is us in this moment. He’s concentrating on living a full life full of happiness, joy, purpose for his daughters and me and grateful for what we have. 30+ years of marriage.
Now imagine if your father had all sons. Probably just a few out of those 9 will love your parents. Why? Because daughters work together to get things done. For the sons, their wives will control them and tell them how much to spend and threaten them of divorce if they cross their wives. Possibly fight over sunshine money and insurance money. It’s great to have daughters. You sisters did great!
OMFG the best comment frfr!!!! And ya talking bout only girls hear the words”ua siab tev” guys get threaten of divorce. Bet ya never had to choose between cut your family off or never get to see your kids again.
@@teesong8503 my thoughts exactly. Idk why some women like to make their husband choose between them and their family. When you’re a guy and you’re married, there’s always greed because of the wife in most case. Not saying all sons are like that, but most I know of are especially the old middle age ones. But you can always fight for your kids and you can replace a wife; not your parents or siblings.
@@kellielee9829 yesss exactly !!!! Girls get butt hurt saying “if you have to think twice between choosing your wife or family then u shouldn’t even married her in the first place” like tf!???? Dood I know people who choose their wife and then later on the wife left. Girls be like “ well maybe cause he wasn’t treating her good or he isn’t what she wanted” smh. If guys use that line on a girl, girls be all OH HELLL NAHHH HELLL NAHHH HE A JERK WHY WOULD HE EVEN ASK YOU TO CHOOSE.
Such high expectations for ur daughters my goodness. Now if they were all boys would they have accomplish ur dads dreams? Smh... having 9 daughters is such a huge blessing bc some dont have any. Appreciate what u have
Hloog nej cov viv ncaus cov lus xwb kuv twb los 2 kua muag lawm ua li nej ua xwb zoo kawg tsis muaj nws los tsis ua cas yus niam yus txiv txoj kev hlub tsis muaj neeg muab nrog nej zoo siab kawg
Niam laus aw koj hais li ko los yeej yog thiab os koj txiv yeej zoo siab rau qhov nej ua tau tab nej tsi yog tub es koj txiv tias zoo no los tseem tshuav ib nplooj siab mob vim tsi muaj tub no os yog koj txiv muaj tub tej yaum koj txiv txoj sia ntev dua thiab os mog
Hmong people like to concentrate on what they don’t have vs. what they have infront of their eyes. Need to switch the mindset to concentrate on living life fully and loving vs dying and always the funeral. Anyone can put your body into the ground, especially if it’s the ones that love you despite being a daughter. Old traditions set up barriers!
Beauitful story. Got me a little tear for a bit. Thank you sister for sharing your story. May your mom continue to live many many more years with you all.
Zoo kawg ua nej niam nej txiv txawm yug tau nej 9 leeg ntxhais los nej yeej hlub nej niam nej txiv tsim nyog lawm . Tej laus yeej ntshaw cov tub los nej hlub tau tsim nyog lawm lub neej pen suab nej yuav tau txais koob hmoov yam nplua miss rau yav tom ntej thiab yav thaum nej laus los nej tej tub ki yuav hlub nej li nej hlub nej niam nej txiv thiab. Kuv li kuv niam kuv txiv yug tau kuv ib leeg xwb los kuv yeej tubsiab npaum li nej thiab nej niam nej txiv yuav tso koob hmoov rau nej . Ua tsaug tau hnov nej zaj story no ua tau kuv nco kuv niam kuv txiv . kuv twb yog tus tub los kuv twb ua tsis tau li nej ua thov qhuas nej cov viv ncaus os.
Niam Tsuab Teev, ua li cas ib ntus no koj hais neej neeg zoo li tsaug tsaug zog tas li xwb, tej thaum koj hais lus yuam kev rhuav zoo li tsaug zog nris xwb. Cas koj tsis hais lus kom cuas plauws li yav tas los lawm.
That is a wonderful story, so happy that you sisters has one heart..Nej tseem muaj ib pab viv ncaus sib hlub txawm tsi muaj nus. Zoo tshaj kuv maj!!! Tu siab tsis cuag li kuv o,, nus los tsi muaj, viv ncaus los tsi muaj ib leeg li tus ntseeb ya luj les tsi muaj chaw tso pa os lawv..
Nej 9 leej ntxhais ua tau zoo kawg nkaus li lawm nawb kuv thov qhuas nej, txawm koj niam thiab koj txiv nkawv yug tau nej ib pab ntxhais xwb los yeej tsis khuv xim kiag vim nej yeej ua tau li cov tub ua rau nkawv lawm, nrog koj niam koj txiv zoo siab kawg li nawb pab me ntxhais aw....
Tus viv ncaus tsis txhob tu siab mog .kuv los zoo ib yam li nej thiab kuv niam tsuas yug tau peb 3 tug viv ncaus thiab xwb peb kum nqa peb niam peb txiv ib yam li nej
May aws..koj yuav tau so ib ntu tso os vim tia zoo li koj tsi muaj siab hai neej neeg li lawm na hai tom ntej tom qab es tsi zoo mloog li koj cov puag thaum ub lawm es pua yog koj nkee2 hai lawm os
Kuv los yeej muaj 7leej vis ncaus, muaj ib leej nus tiam sis lub ntuj stis pab, kuv mej nus tau stoj peb xtes thaum nwg mua 16xyooj kv tu tu siab heev li os
Doctor American hais tias ntxhais yog leej txi txoj koob hmoov, thiab tus txiv cov xuab, ua tsis tau tub, nov tsis tim tus niam. Teb chaw meka ces cov ntxhais Hlub niam Hlub txiv dua lawm os. Pab nej cov me sister zoo siab hais tias nej ua tau koj txiv txoj npau suav lawm os mog
Because they were taught that Dr and Lawyers are the highest level of education. They just don’t know about the others that are just as high and makes even more $$ lol 😂
Nej paub hlub niam hlub txiv kawg li lawm os cov mi ntxhais!! Mloog mas los kua muag heev Kheev lam Lwm hnub yus laus es yus cov mi nyuam lam paub xav Paub hlub yus ib nrab li nej xwb mas Yus twb yuav zoo siab lawm os 😭🤧
Zoo lawm qhov koj txiv xaiv koj niam nej yog xaiv niam yau xyov pua tseem yuav yug tau tub thiab yog yug tau lo xyov pua tau txawj nqa koj txiv li taub hau os vim koj txiv twb to tsi tau nej tu niam hlua yau kawm tiav niam yau mam xeem lo yug ce ntshe nyuab lawm
My father has no sons either. Wished I had more sisters. It’s just me and my older sister and my father was very sad like your story here too. My father passed away this April and it was very sad but we as his daughters made a simple beautiful funeral celebration for him. No matter if it’s girls or boys, parents should continue to love on their kids...
It’s so hard being born as a Hmong daughter. The expectations and disrespect are among the greatest. This is such a sad story. I feel like the expectations of these daughter are so highly regarded that the daughters are being held as captives to chase their parents’ dream instead of them chasing and living freely as themselves. I hope Hmong parents out there understand the stress they put upon their children with such high expectations. Be glad for what you have and support your children for who they are and their dreams. Thank goodness these daughters did their best to keep up with their parents. God bless!
Hlub nej pab viv ncauv heev os niam txiv xam tias yog niam txiv nyob rau ntawv tab si hlub nej os yog dhua ob tug laus xws li koj txiv lawm es nej lub neej tsam qee zaus es lub neej muaj kev ji sib es tshe yuav ji muaj ib tug nus pab yus daw yus lub neej kho yus lub neej los yog kom tu txiv los yog lwm tu ho jeem muaj qho tshai tias jeem tshuav tus nus los yog tu dab laug nyob muaj neej muaj nus thiab no
All I can do while listening to this is cry. I love my parents so much. I have 4 brothers but my mom always tells me, my daughters loves me and your dad the most.
Your story reminds me of my tais (my mom’s mom). She only have my mom and my two aunties so now she’s staying with my youngest aunty but in her own separate home. I wish she’s in America so we can get her a better living area. I am thankful and grateful that my yawn txiv never married a second for a son. You father is a sweet man.
My parents have 7 of us. 4 girls and 3 boys. All the girls are the ones doing everything for our parents. I truly believe we all strong enough to carry my dad's head casket at the end too. Girls are just as capable as boys.
I can relate to this story. When you have no brothers the relatives don’t care about you and your family. My parents too have 9 daughters no boys. This story makes me miss my dad so much. My parents are no longer with us anymore mas tu siab ua luaj os ytube phooj ywg!
My parents have us 7 daughters n 1 brothers my dad never marry second wife n he never complained that my mom only have daughters he always love us , when our parents pass away we are the one that take their funeral too, so this story touches me
What a beautiful story, thanks for sharing. I'm also a mother of 4 daughters w/o any sons, but we're blessed and contented of our girls. Nowadays, it doesn't matter anymore. You girls have done well and I''m sure your dad is so proud of you all.
My father only had me as his only daughter of 4 boys. My parents always treated me differently but after 24 years of great loneliness, saddest and longing for a sister, my dad finally told me he wish he had more daughters who loved him and cared for him like me. Regardless, no matter what gender, your parents will always love you.
Cov ntxhais hlub nam tais tawm txiv tabsis yuav tsum ncu ntsuv tas yuav tsum hlub nam puj txiv yawm hab vim koj twb tas cov tub tes ua le cov nyaab has tsis hlub Mej nam txiv. Yog le mas Mej cov ntxhais hlub nam tais yawm txiv npaum Caag yuav tsum hlub nam puj txiv yawm npaum ntawv hab.
So sad plus so happy 4 he made 9 daughters of 0 son if he made 9 son without a daughter then they both end up in to the nursing home no one go visit all they wife want nyiaj sunshine and insurance
When i think about it nowadays- alot of men think a son bare the last name thats all. Alot of boys nowadays are irresponsible, unmotivated to better himself, and/or don’t pursuit higher education. So therefore boy or girl in this country still hold the same values. So glad things have changed so much.
Asian parents needs to stop forcing their children to live their dreams, trying to live meticulously through their children. Let them be who they want to be so they would be happy instead of living miserably. As a parent myself, there are tons of things I wished I did in my younger years but I don't force my kids to do what I want them to do. As a result of my parents forcing me to become who they wanted me to be, I've been lost ever since. Still trying to figure out who I am, what I want to do.
ab cas lub ntuj ho tsis pub ib tug tub rau koj niam thiab koj ntxiv nkawv os ua rau nej sawv daws ntshaw kawg nkaug li os yog lam muaj ib tug mas ntshe nej sawv daws yuav hlub heev li os tab sis muaj ib txhia ces muaj ib leeg tub ib leeg nyab xwb los lawv yeej g hlub li os
Wow… who is this man that his wife needed to please him? Allow him to remarried, that she felt like a failure.. that she needed to beg her daughters to fulfill their father’s dream. His daughters needed to graduate with high degree. What has HE done for them? Where there is expectations, then he should be feeding their needs as well. So sad. I couldn’t finish this story, it angered me.
My parents have 11 of us girls no boys. He loves all of us and will say he has our husbands as his sons. They all get along and my dad is really open with them. He will talk to them about his hobbies and will hang out with them. My husband will miss my dad if we haven’t visit him for a while.
Men just think about themselves and wanted to cheat. Nowadays daughters or sons should be treated equally and it depends on an individual to love and care about the parents was they are old. The ways I see it personally, as a daughter, we love and care more about our parents than the sons the way I do it in my life and my other relative's.
