I've sewn for years (since my late 20s) as a hobby, and I'll tell you that the first indication of a cheap garment is buttons that haven't been sewn on properly. That's something my mother taught me 40 years ago. You can sew them on better if you choose, but it really should be a caveat for what else might be poorly done (like bad seams, or lapels that don't lay flat when they should, etc.). When I was young (and poor), I used to think ''expensive'' meant ''quality'' -- or a certain brand name or designer line was indicative of quality. I was wrong on all counts. I'd encourage any woman, no matter what age, to watch a few RU-vid videos on some basics of sewing. You'll learn how a properly done garment is SUPPOSED to look, feel, and fit, even if you have no interest in sewing. When you've got those basics down, you'll able to evaluate your purchases before you waste your hard-earned $$.
I agree...as a general rule, any button that doesn't have a purpose or a responding button hole should be removed. You'll be surprised what a difference that makes, especially with double breasted buttons that land about where your nipples would be...the exception is: I don't always remove superfluous buttons from casualjacket/blazer sleeves...but then again those jackets are usually less expensive. Also, be aware of the cheapening affects of trims, laces, bling, etc. Even designers can go overboard with these, but adjust according to your personal style. For example the now passe trend for putting rhinestones on the pockets of jeans tends to do nothing more than make your butt look big, unless thats what you are going for, of course. Its almost never elegant to overtly draw attention to your back side. But it can be gogeous if done subtlely. For example, JLo's wardrobe in the movie Shall We Dance or Pippa's bridesmaids gown at Katherine and Prince William's wedding. Labels and logos can be fun, but rarely elegant, it doesn't matter if your T-shirt cost $100, if it makes you look like a walking instagram for the brand. The jokes on you because you paid them to advertize their stuff. Last but not least, look closely at yourself in the mirror. Does the garment wear you or do you wear the garment? What does that mean? Are others going to notice you or your clothes. To look elegant your clothes shouldbe appropriate fir the occasion,as well as,. enhance your features, coloring, body type, and personality and work effectively together to present the most actractive version of you. You should feel comfortable and look and feel like your best self when you wear them. YOU are what the world wants and needs to see, so always strive to develop an evolving personalized wardrobe that expresses and enhances the unique beauty of who you are..that's the definition of style.😁
@@s.k.3483 Well said! And so true! For example, when I was in 3rd grade, my mother removed a pinned-on bow from the collar of a mail-order dress I was to wear for Christmas. Certainly not an expensive dress, but the bow made it LOOK cheap; removing it made it look classic. I know that's a tiny thing, but that simple trick makes a difference. As far a logos -- don't even get me started. I was in my 20s in the 1980s when all that started. I NEVER buy a handbag with an obvious logo. I think it's vulgar and in bad taste -- and if you study the looks of wealthy women and what they wear (I'm talking women who have had serious money in their families for generations), you'll usually find they never wear logos. They don't even wear tags in their garments so that smooth line isn't interrupted. Every time you purchase a handbag with an expensive logo, you should ask yourself: Would I buy this if it didn't have this big status sign? or am I buying it because I want everyone to know it's expensive? Something to think about, ladies. 😉
100% true. I just commented in it. She can't reverse now - it is her business and the promo of whatever she is promoting will only grow. With clever editing it may look for a few minutes like a true advise, but it is really just an ad. Pointless to watch.
When the supposedly "tips" video started endorsing a specific product then its advertisement / endorsement. Not to mention the using her code in purchasing... Other videos like this do mentions products but not limited to just one.
She's a fraud. Sorry. She's getting paid to tell people a bunch of made-up nonsense, just like most of these self-described "experts" on youtube. They say "this is out of style" yet you walk into any public place and we're all wearing the same thing. It's all a creepy cult. They want you to believe they are style gurus and they're really just trying to pay their electric bills, hoping to get clicks. Wear what you like. It's funny how men have absolutely no idea that women are all looking at "what the style is" yet not one of the men care, while women go blow thousands of dollars on clothes they can't afford just to impress people who really don't care what they're wearing.
I watched another channel- “mommies, makeup & moscato” - and they had a video about items that are dated or not stylish. Items like flats with round toes, wedge sneaker booties, skinny jeans, tie dye- things that everyone wears! It’s ridiculous and beyond annoying. Also so wasteful! Wear what you like.
@@ponchimunchy7444 yes but when you wear something like that, you know it looks cheap but you wear it anyway cuz you like it (in most cases). That's just my opinion. So chill :)
But what happens with clothes that are meat to be big. Look Hailey Bieber, she wore all the time clothes that look big on her, and she never look cheap..🤔
My first video I’ve ever seen of hers and yeah same here. She kept mentioning how expensive other things were (tops at $60 how that was ‘so expensive’) but I noticed never mentioned prices of lily silk despite half the video being about it. Upon googling, it’s because the top she’s wearing is $90. “Now keep in mind there are sales!” Yeah because you know your subscribers would freak out at the prices, it’s why she doesn’t mention them.
When someone teams up with a brand, yes they are now doing advertising for that brand in that video. It happens. She said she's been talking about them for years & been buying their products, so obviously Lily silk decided to have her be a spokesperson. Nothing wrong with that. I would do the same thing.🤷
Everything’s always an ad with her now. She’s always shoving something in our faces in every single video, she doesn’t post unless it’s sponsored anymore. She pretends she uses/wears all the Tat she’s pushing on us. She must think we’re idiots 😂
switched off when I realized it is yet another sponsorship. too many of these lately and no added value for us on the other side of the world. I am sorry :-(
As far as gold jewelry looking too yellow or too gold, take a look at your doctor's jewelry. If your doctor is from India or Pakistan, I promise you they will be wearing exquisite gold rings and necklaces that are "too" gold. My second promise to you is that their jewelry is not fake nor is it cheap. My doctor's jewelry is so beautiful, it will take your breath. I understand costume jewelry can often be unnaturally glossy, but real gold really IS gold.
Yellow gold looks tacky on her because her skin has cool undertones, so anything silver or cool-toned looks automatically much better and more expensive on her than gold. BUT it doesn't mean that gold looks bad on everyone else too. People with warm undertones to their skin look much better with gold jewellery so this tip really can't be applied to everyone. It should be more like: Wear jewellery that matches your skins undertones to look polished ja put together.
Again it's all SUPER subjective based on the way it's made, the fabric, etc. I am obsessed with animal print, but I am SUPER picky when it comes to more natural looking animal prints.
I bought lily silk pillowcases after watching a video by Anna Bey from school of affluence, and honestly I have zero regrets. There's so many beautiful pieces that I have my eye on. Don't hate on this lady for pumping their products, it's good quality. And no, I do not work for lily silk haha. Just to add, I have a top that has pearls and beading on it. I've had it for years and I just keep stitching the beading up when it gets loose. I don't ever want to part with it. Same for droopy buttons. Never undestimate the power of doing your own quick fixes instead of tossing an item, if you love it
My favorite sweater is a cashmere black ribbed v neck. I loved to watch your videos but honestly i disagree with 90% of what you say. You’re “stretchy fabrics” are not holding shape because they dont have enough Lycra. When the stretchy cotton knits first came out in the eighties they had no Lycra. They looked great when you first put them on then looked like hell as soon as you moved. Look at old footage of maddona in those turquoise stretch leggings with the saggy knees. If you are wearing jeans that stretch but dont hold there shape you are buying cheap jeans. Lycra is the best thing to ever happen to denim. Just a bit of Lycra and they fit so much better and you can sit and move around much easier and i am not referring to jeggings. As for shear blouses, they require a nice camisole. The best way to improve the look and feel of clothing it’s with proper foundations. Chiffons and georgettes are beautiful fabrics along with gauzy cottons and linens. Nothing cheap looking if worn properly.
I am seeing this whole, "How to dress expensive!" all over. Not sure why they chose that verbiage, but it makes me think we should say, "Dress to look less...mug-worthy!" (If you look like your outfit costs $$$...muggers notice.🤔) I think we don't want to look tacky and/or disheveled. This woman looks classy, and well-put-together. I just don't get the whole push to look like you paid a lot for clothing. As long as it's clean, ironed, and fits well for your personal body type, (and occasion) what's the big deal 🤷🏻♀️
That's the point most people miss. Pressed, properly tailored items made of good fabrics that suit the occasion will always win the day. Most expert stylists will tell you fit and fabric are more important than label or price.
I've heard this more lately, about ribbed sweaters looking cheap. I really like the look of ribbing! Also Aritzia has uber popular ribbed tanks that look very put together when you pair them with office wear attire. Am I the only one who still really likes them? :'(
I still like ribbed items, I think it depends on the material more than the ribbing, if the color starts to fade it is way more noticeable on a ribbed sweater. Btw I have a sweater from Eileen Fisher, that should cost almost $400 and it's ribbed (I got it second hand of course). So no, ribbed does not mean cheap.
I wonder if it's specific to cotton knit ribbing? In the early aughts, cotton ribbed sweaters were EVERYWHERE and maybe it's a dated/overload thing. Plus cotton is classic for shrinking and stretching weirdly .. So not really amenable to ribs. Cable knit too, but people don't react to that as viscerally...
Sometimes ribbed items can look tight and thing, giving them a slight transparent look. They can look more like long underwear than a form curve hugging sweater! Haha
Buttons are SUPER easy to tighten. I've done that to so many buttons including coats (with the proper string). So if you like a blouse or something and the buttons are droopy, you totally tighten them with needle and thread!
I have a denim jacket and I paid a fair amount for it. But, the buttons made it look cheap. So, I bought new buttons and changed them out, and now the jacket looks more expensive
I have two ribbed wool sweaters, both French brands, that look expensive and were expensive! I think it depends on the fabric. Ribbed cotton can look cheap or expensive depending on the item. Polyester, acrylic and rayon blends tend to look cheap because they lose their shape.
Suggestion...at the beginning of the year, I turn my hangers so they hook backwards. As I wear clothes, I turn them the correct way. It lets me know what I am not wearing to purge at the end of the year.
These are all spot on except I wonder who started the evil rumour that ribbed looks cheap...? xD Made with good quality and in solid colours it's such a perfect base for an outfit and it can be dressed up or down.
Well stated. It's all about the fit/cut and pairing, IMHO. I love my 'classic' ribbed pieces; they're versatile, figure flattering, and honestly 'on-trend' ATM. XO
This is just marketing for non ribbed stuff....I love ribbed everything and it has an elegant quality to it. Whatever makes you feel put together and elegant should be good enough IMO.
I just bought 2 ribbed sweaters. Since she says they're not in style and thinks we should buy the things she's getting paid to make up as she goes, I'm going to buy 2 more ribbed sweaters tomorrow. Her examples of what's in style are ugly.
Shea thank you for being so honest and real. I’ve mentioned I’m 75 and although I’m retired and on a fixed income I love fashion and timeless clothing. You inspire me to make great choices. Do I wear silk ? No. Only because my lifestyle is more relaxed now. But,jeans I’m very conscious of how they fit and tops I try to make sure they look nice 👍 I’ve bought expensive bags and I will say I refuse to buy cheap dupes. So with that said I’ve had bags that to this day look like they are new as well as my clothes. I’m very careful how I clean them! Wrinkled cloths just look cheap on any level 🥵💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯
I agree. I feel if all you can afford is Walmart clothes, if you iron them with some magic sizing they will look pretty good. Wrinkled clothing of any quality just looks cheap!!
yeah, i have a black shirt that i love but had escandalous golden very cheap looking buttons, so i asked my sister to sew black simple buttons and now it looks amazing
Have a few ribbed sweaters. Pulled them out to see If they looked Cheap- they do not but they are all a very wide ribbed natural fiber so I feel those are good....agree totally on cartoon characters- even on lux items (gucci).
Love these videos! On another note, anyone notice how Shea takes her time reading and replying to comments? And she writes very thoughtfully too...not just rushing through and replying "thanks!" to everyone. Whatta woman. ❤
Hi Shea. I agree with most of what you have said and am grateful for the extra tips that I did not have a clue about. You can wear cheap clothes and look good. One tip is to wear a cheaper dress with expensive shoes and/or jacket and so on and so forth. There are lots of tips as you know. It does have to be said, in my humble opinion, that I do not find Lilysilk to be reasonably priced at all. It is definitely not something I could or would buy too often. The bedding and pyjamas are lovely buy I feel as if those shirts look very frumpy and old fashioned. That is saying something because I am 68 yrs old and would not wear one. However, you look pretty in everything. Thank you so much for your video. I did enjoy it as always.
X’ed out of the video the moment you started attacking ribbed sweaters. I have chunky cozy cashmere ribbed sweaters that make me feel special and confident and not at all cheap. I’m sure I’m not the only one who feels this way.
Taking care of your things will eliminate some of the issues that the video says makes them look cheap. Shoes can be cleaned and resoled. Buttons can be resewn to make the tight again. Proper washing and drying will make a huge difference.
The only thing I'm "doing wrong" is owning and wearing ONE ribbed shirt. Do I like it? Yes. Will I keep wearing it and don't care if this woman thinks it looks "cheap"? Yes. It's my choice if I want to wear something like that and that goes for everyone watching this video. Just wear what YOU want.
Commented this on an older video but want to comment on a new one since you're more likely to see the comment - just wanna say thanks as a deaf viewer for having properly and manually done captions on videos. Keep it up!
People ... take her advice with a grain of salt. If you love ribbed sweaters, wear them! If you want to sew on your buttons, do it! If you want to buy knockoffs, go for it and enjoy. If you don’t want to watch sponsored videos, click out! Wow I am shocked by the vitriol 🙁
Thank you Holly!! I really appreciate your comment! This is a totally free video for people to watch... purely for entertainment and simple things to consider :) No one has to agree or change anything!
IDT there was any 'vitriol' anywhere in the video; she wasn't 'spitting venom' over any of it. The content is based both on her job/position WHEN sponsored and feedback from subscribers, whom she's often- yours a fitting example- at the mercy of. No one told you, you personally look 'cheap' nor condemned anyone's choices. That's the beauty of REAL fashion; it's art. You only pick and choose the 'art' of your taste and liking;) XO💛
Another thing I don't like is when breast pockets start to sag. I think that looks horrible and will usually avoid buying blouses/shirts that I think will eventually look this way.
Use invisible sewing to close the top of the pocket, when you first buy an item with a chest pocket, as it's unusable anyway. Then it can't sag, but will still have the look of having a pocket.
If your buttons droop, the threads probably just have gotten a bit loose. You can easily just rethread overtop their attachments to tighten them up. It's a pretty natural part of daily wear
My husband is Ukrainian and was surprised to learn that those shirts would be called peasant tops in other countries. I don’t care for them unless it’s really the traditional embroidered shirt for holiday wear or special occasions
DONT BUY SILK!! “ Extracting raw silk starts by cultivating the silkworms on mulberry leaves. Once the worms start pupating in their cocoons, these are dissolved in boiling water in order for individual long fibres to be extracted and fed into the spinning reel.”
I prefer ribbed sweaters over anything. I find that they look less cheap than basic fabrics that show flaws a lot more. I think ribbed sweaters/turtlenecks make me look thinner too
The silk dress is a slip. It is meant to give a smooth silhouette under a beautiful garment. I know, I know. Maybe the brand is featuring it as a dress, but please, don't wear a silk garment in lingerie weight fabric as a dress. Ribbed sweaters are classic. You just have to get the right quality and fit. Yes, cashmere! Always a winner. I agree, sequins on a sweater or anything that is not evening wear, just looks cheap. Finally, someone admits cartoon prints are not for adults! If the buttons are drooping, just fix them. Or if you don´t know how, take the garment to a cleaner that does repairs and alterations. There is no reason for buttons to droop unless they were sewn on wrong or the thread is starting to wear out.
SHEA!! I can’t believe you got rid of all your ribbed sweaters b/c people told you to... 😳😱😭 Girl don’t let strangers have sooo much control over you! 💔
whereas polyester/nylon/acrylic/spandex kills sealife, cotton uses tremendous amount of water, and rayon produces toxic waste that poisons environment. That leaves wool I guess, but I'm sure no one likes the sheep/goat/yak/alpaca/camels shearing either... plus problems with ethical labor in third world countries. And let's not even start on leather (or fur(!). My point is that, while being concerned about those things is great your main goal should be to lower the overall consumption of clothes because there is no fully ethical fabric on the face of the planet. (Well, linen is the closest, but no one likes the wrinkles). But good quality clothes last longer and reduce the waste so I have several thrifted silk tops and feel good about it.
@@horace6851 it's very easy to buy new/used clothes that don't contain animal ingredients. with a little effort one can find out if clothes are made ethically as well. just because nothing can be made fully without some negative impact, doesn't mean we shouldn't try to reduce it as far as feasible
Their product is disappointing, as is their customer service. I won't purchase their products again. I wound up taking them to the cobbler and had the red soles reinforced. Cost $40 bucks, but I can at least now trust the product.
I own two Louboutin heels. When I got them (a decade ago) I thought they were so high fashion! I was so paranoid and careful wearing them because of that bright red sole. But now, I NEVER wear them anymore! They are so uncomfortable and I just can’t do a stiletto heel. I refuse to torture my poor feet anymore and put them through that trauma for the sake of fashion.
@@heidij7374 Yes, Sam Edelman heels are waaay more comfortable and the heel is not as high! They look great and classy, and I will never opt for discomfort or risk twisting my ankle (haha) with the CL’s again!
I’m literally wearing a banana republic silk shirt (see thru-ish) and Express jeans that are stretchy (cuz I’m curvy and there the only jeans I can wear). I guarantee, I don’t look “cheap”. I feel like you can wear whatever you want and style it to look nice and not trashy. Or you can buy from her sponsors.
I'm sitting at the table, eating a sandwich, feeling like garbage, unemployed, without self-esteem, using google translate to express what I feel, and what I feel is that it gives me a little joy that I have been following Shea for almost a year and (I don't know if it's good or bad) his videos remain the same, and it's comforting because it gives me the impression that nothing has changed, and it feels good.
I think it depends on many other factors. Designer doesn't always mean better. If you know your body type and what colors suit your tone skin tone, it doesn't matter where or what brand the clothes are. This is exactly why I stick with solid colors/ neutral colors as I'm petite and can't wear bold overly bright patterns. Also big #1 that many people disregard, dress for FOR YOUR SIZE. Nothing looks cheaper than someone that wears something that doesn't compliment their actual size.
Humm, I like ribbed sweaters better. Silk is not for everyone it shows everything. I had a blouse that was expensive, and you could see through it slightly it was beautiful,very tailored.
Absolutely. I think ribbing can look too clingy and revealing on large-busted figures - like you’re trying too hard to look sexy. That look can easily slide downhill into “cheap” - especially when paired with something tight on the bottom. But on smaller chested, slim-waisted figures, ribbing can be flattering. My ribbed sweaters aren’t flashy - merino wool or cashmere in black, navy, and charcoal. My husband loves it when I wear them. Maybe it’s a guy thing - they like to see a woman’s form, and ribbing does showcase it. As usual, a full-length mirror and a realistic eye is your best friend.
You should take your Christian Louboutin shoes to the store they will fix them and put a rubber red sole that looks good and you can wear them a lot more
I have some slightly see through reformation blouses that don't look cheap at all. They are some of my favorites and I get a lot of compliments on them!
Yes i completely disagree with this video. There is a différence between not liking a trend ( like see through clothes or embroidered blouses ) and calling the trend tacky or ugly.
One thing I realize after having a baby and got pregnant again, is I don’t care what I’m wearing lol, I always so concious what I’ve been wearing before. But now I don’t care as long as it’s comfortable, a life of a mother. 🤣
I love my sweaters with beading & detail. I just use delicates bag in wash & nothing's come off. Sorry but I'd never get rid of them & I had lot compliments so they don't look cheap. Do love this video 👍
I'm hesitant to wear silk because the shiny material reminds me of cheap polyester ripoffs on amazon/shein/wish. I'm glad to have my dislike of ribbing and sequins validated, but I think that's also more of a texture thing.
Oh my gosh, I will never understand the lux knockoffs. (I'm not someone who can afford high-end ether) I'm in a lot of crafting and etsy groups, and the amount of knockoffs I see made is crazy. Just because you put the Louis Vuitton logo all over your shoes doesn't make them any better looking and it ain't fooling anyone. I think its so trashy.
Is this about Lilysilk or things that look cheap...also I kind of feel like this is all perspective. Just because one person thinks it’s cheap doesn’t mean it does 🤷🏼♀️ and I love my stretchy material. I make it look fab!
A loose button can be fixed. Something too heavy for the garment is another story and could possibly be changed out if you can find something suitable to replace it with at a sewing or craft store.
I actually don’t mind sponsored videos because it helps me to know which websites to shop on for certain things. It also introduces me to new styles and products and most at affordable prices. I pick and choose what I need and want. Thank you for all of your videos, Shea 🤍
Thanks so much...I really appreciate that!! I turn down 95% of brands and only share the ones I really love and actually use/buy. Thank you for your kind words!
Can you please do a video on laundry! How you keep all your nice items looking good/new. Do you have to take your beautiful silk blouses to the dry cleaners, etc?
Ha ha, the ribbed khaki green sweater you showed, actually looks nicer than those two other sweaters that are totally old looking and are the same as what my grand ma and her old friends wear all the time. LOL. Ribbed does NOT look cheap.
Please Shea, do not use anything made in China. Shouldn’t we, as Americans, buy products made here in the USA? I’m sure you can find fabulous companies here in America. Purge the China stuff! Love your videos. ❤️
Maybe when pieces are missing/falling apart. My mom loves her some embroidery too! I give her tips on how to take care of her clothing. I honestly hand wash the majority of my clothes that are at risk of falling apart. I hand wash half of my wardrobe and machine wash the other half. If you have a newer and advanced washing machine than handwashing isn't 100% necessary.
Actual video starts at 4:45. And while the silk blouse is nice, polyester charmeuse is done so well, it can easily pass for silk charmeuse at a quarter of the price. And shiny fabrics really don't look expensive, unless you're getting married or the clothing is for an evening event.
What about petite sizes at Lilysilk? If I’m going to spend $100+ on a silk blouse I’m not going to want to shell out more to have it altered and poorly fitting clothes look cheap...
Then don’t shop at Lilysilk? What is getting snippy with Shea going to do about it? I’m a petite person as well, but for the price of Lilysilk, I’m willing to take it to the tailors. To each their own, but don’t shoot the messenger.
I had these pair of jeans in college that my sister would call my “saggy butt jeans.” 😂 I’m ashamed to say I owned them for way too long. Man, I’ve come a long way in fashion but am still learning A LOT thanks to you and other fashion RU-vidrs!! 🙏🏻❤️
Not all ribbed knit looks cheap!! I’m wondering how many viewers will actually go in their wardrobe and get rid of all their ribbed knits because of what you said.
Silk is high maintainance, and it bleeds during washing (silk dyes are not stable). There are forms of quality viscose / lyocell that are easier to wash and iron. I noticed that the viscose used in normal fashion is the cheap version that starts to show pilling soon. Some of the garments have nice prints so if you get them anyway, the usual H&M stuff (up to 30, 40, 50 USD) you really need to use the delicate wash on them, do not fill the machine too much and only spin lightly (or packed into a dry towel). No dryer either. But if you BUY viscose fabric they are of higher quality (or they used to be). Cupro is a thicker viscose type fabric (they are all made from cellulose, a natural cellulose fibre is cotton or hemp). Cupro is thicker than viscose fabric and typically used in the more high end garments. It has a lot of body so it will look good for dresses or blouses. Occasionally you will find it as fabric, it is not very common, it can resemble luxurious thick silk qualities. Soft, some body, sheen. But is better to wash, and does bleed color with every wash (that is a big problem with silk, because you canot mix it with other delicates for washing, it would bleed over to ligher or different colors. Even a red blouse can be changed if you wash it with another intense color). Or high quality knit wear also from cotton mix (no ironing). Again viscose / lyocell fibrers are not as sturdy as cotton. - and _silk_ for bedding ?? I would hate to see the hot wash results on those pillow cases
Designers knock offs/ fakes, I never understood why people buy them, what is the point? I also find silk does not look good on everyone, I personally don't like how it looks on me but been so curious to try a silk pillowcase. Love your energy!
Cheap or expensive , u need to feel confident in whatever u are wearing. Not everyone can afford things so pricey and comfort don’t come only with silk but pure cotton also.try it
They only look cheap because it is a common sweater to buy and get, I know I grew up on the poor side and I had many of these sweaters because they were cheaper to get, but still were good quality at the time.