Hehehe. You just said said autistic people are often flexible. My first thought was yeah that makes sense. Most of my life I’ve been flexible. As a kid I often sat w shape on the floor. I used to be pretty good at yoga. I can still clasp my fingers behind my back. Then I realized oh you didn’t literally mean flexible 😊
I do know of a few more weird autistic trates. 1) We tend to be a bit nerdy or brainy. Even the autistic people I've known who mask well still have had that subtle nerdy bit that stood out anyway. 2) A lot if us are nocturnal. Or we have a different circadian rhythm of some kind. 3) We tend to write a lot. It's in longhand. And we often write without enough paragraphs resulting in sometimes very long blocks. 4) We tend to be sick a lot. 5) Many of us have a funny sounding laugh.
Definitely the funny sounding laugh. Some of us like myself have three different weird laughs, where all are for varying levels of response indicating how funny I thought something was. There's a HAAAAAAAAAAH/eeeeeeeeeeeeehhhhh, a squeeeeee/gasp for air, and rarely a snort.
Yes. Accent. Oh my. Only after my autism discovery at 65 did a whole lifetime of being a "foreigner' no matter where I lived, including my own country, make sense. It is viscerally sapping to be asked so often what country I'm from.
Ohh yessss! I tend to look at many objects as sentient. Been doing that all of my life. (Yes, I am Autistic.) Just try to convince me that my model trains and guitars don't have a personality, LOL. ...And don't even get me started on my truck and car.
I thought transient objects occurred with a lack of a parental figure for a security blanket? It would also make sense for us to be social to inanimate objects while we're alone so we wouldn't worry about someone judging us for vocally swimming to ourselves. Don't tell my several named shark/dolphin plushies that. They all have unique ways I respond to them.
saying Hellos and Goodbyes can be sooooo awkward! even with your close comfortable people. this was something that I tried to start doing way before learning about my neurodivergence, and I believe it was one of my many attempts to unmask, long before I was familiar with the concept and the reasons behind it
I'd say echolalia is pretty much known and expected from autistic people because of the representation we have in media hehe, INTERNAL MONOLOGUE!!! makes me feel crazy sometimes
I'm from the US and I watch a lot of movies and TV shows from the UK. Some people tell me that I sometimes talk with a British accent. I'm not sure that's an autistic trait, but it is one I definitely have.
@jbr84tx also from usa and also watch a lot of UK media. I don't think I fall into the accents so much as use idioms and phrases that baffle people around me
I have a few weird ones i have noticed: 1) Lack of ageing. A lot of older autistic adults tend to age well and look younger 2) Love horror movies Seriously, this genre tends to be big in this community. 3) WhatsApp or group chat posts that are irrelevant to the main topic. Serial posters! 4) They like Japanese Animai. 5) Fascination with languages or grammar
I'm totally disorganised. My house is a tip with unread magazines and papers all over the floor. I get scared to go out as I think people will mock me or single me out for being "different" Although I am a girl, I feel as though I am in "drag" if there's a formal occasion where I am expected to wear a dress. I wear black microfleece trousers every day normally.
Good byes seem to get so drawn out, and the process when leaving a group or family gathering can take sooo long! I’d prefer to just say goodbye to the host and leave, but others want to add on some additional small talk, hugs (😜), etc. I mean, we’ve already talked about lots of stuff, now I’m ready to leave, but I’m not trying to be rude! And yes, I also overexplain, I have a “uniform” that I wear (t-shirt, jeans with elastic waist because I hate tight anything, and I never tuck anything in). Really on/off with communication, too. People always ask where I’m from because of my accent being different than the locals.
I didn't know number 1 was a thing I even did, but it also was pointed out to me that I don't say bye. I do wear shoes without socks also overexplain. Though I think I explain the appropriate amount others just underexplain. Number 8 is 100% on me. I don't mind not speaking for months or even years and I don't feel as though whomever I am or am not speaking to is any less of a friend for it. As for the accent mine sounds like a mix of the USA. Though when I'm around a new accent for a while I will often pick it up for a few months before going back to a really neutral accent unless I'm trying to mimic an accent or if i'm around people with a strong accent I have a tendency to mimic it.
I don’t say goodbye because it usually leads to guilt trips to stay. I’d rather just bounce and let the good time stay as a good time. I don’t forget. I just don’t want to!
I'm autistic and tend to laugh at my own jokes (often)😅, also i tend to over explain things too 😅 including some of the other traits he is mentioning and explaining is very similar to my autistic traits
Over-explaining has long been my way of short-circuiting and escaping the viscerally terrifying intrusion of interrogation. If I overwhelm the other person with information it leaves them no time to poke, prod and dig. Maybe somewhere in the flood of data I'm giving them is what they want to know anyway, and even if it's not I'm giving them so much to process it leaves them with the impression of total transparency.
I was worried about telling my parents I thought I was autistic, thinking they thought it was ridiculous, but they straight away said "yeah you don't say hello to people unless they do first", that surprised me, never noticed I did that until then
For me, from the feedback I’ve gotten, it’s not just over talking it’s the way I’ll end up delivering the information I’m sharing. My wife has said that it seems like I start out talking TO people then ending up talking AT them. At 60 years old I carry from childhood the “little professor” syndrome. Try as I may to be careful about this it’s just natural for me to slip into this mode. - I’m still working on it. My mom, 88 years old, recently told me when I was a kid she would ask me about a topic and I would start talking and keep talking until my dad tried to distract me away from the lecture form. My dad used to say “Don’t let your alligator mouth overload your bird dog back end” which made no literal sense to me but I understood it to mean don’t talk too much. I’m a mental health therapist. I recently attended a class led by an autistic person also in the mental health field who said support groups for autistic people are useless because when one autistic person shares their thoughts/position, etc… and they are finished they don’t listen to the other person(s) sharing. She said autistic people generally just want to get their points across. I believe this could be a generalization but I have talked with autistic people who are happy to share in detail their thinking on a topic of their interest but are not attentive to my thinking on a different topic. Many of us who are autistic struggle with reciprocity in conversation that is not outside the boundaries of our own knowledge base, me included. Not all of course, but many. There are times when I don’t want to talk with autistic people because of this. I think even though many neurotypical people engage in dialogue with a lot of pretense that is boring to me they generally at least will give some space in time for me to speak and ask a few questions. No complaints here or putting down those in my own tribe just wondering why things are the way they are.
I spent a summer in Europe with some friends. They had a different flight home. So I was on my own for a couple weeks in London. When I got home everybody remarked that I sounded like a limey. (Back then that was not particularly pejorative if it is now.) (Yes, I do over explain, don't I?) I pick up accents in warp speed. I've learned with my partner "hello" or "good morning" when I enter our computer room (both computer nerds) prevents huge levels of startlement. And "Mixed signals are me." Note that a day without puns is a day badly misspent, unless I am alone or alone with my partner. Now that you mention it I enter a room and feel like I am the center of every pair of eyes in the room so I withdraw inside until safely sitting somewhere with reduced visual access - a sea of heads into which I can slide into unnoticed anonymity. By the way - you do look autistic if I look for it now that I've had a little more experience with autistics. Does "a tense posture of relaxation" ring any bells? Any questions about my understanding normie's signals? I over think it. {^_-} (And I do babble on, don't I? I often use a blizzard of words and humor as a shield. Hello Robin Williams.)
Wow. I'm outed with just 9 traits. Not sure if I'm relieved or concerned. With a late in life diagnosis I've been wondering how to explain it to family and what few friends I have. I'll probably send them this video. I doubt they could handle my attempts to (over) explain it. What a great channel this is.
i dont say "hello" or "goodbye" to people, but its not because i forget to. i just feel like its pointless and id rather just jump right into what i want to say
I'm southern US but my father was from NY. I also worked for years with people from all over, and spent 3 years in Philadelphia. NO one believes me when I say I'm from NC where I live, and my beat friends roast me for saying words differently from as I did growing up. This explains that a little
About "hello". I wanted to say a quick word to my principal in the morning before getting my students. I said what I wanted to ask, but she answered with an annoyed voice: "Good morning to you", instead of just answering my question. She thought I was impolite, I thought I was mindful of my limited time and not wanting to be late for my students. Grrr.
I actually say hello and goodbye way more then the average person, like I say hello every time I enter a room now because once I got scolded by my in laws for not saying hello whenever I walked into the kitchen to get a drink and they happened to be there. Now I'm always saying hello in my own home to my partner, I can't stop lmao I also have to make sure I say goodbye to every co-worker and to them know I'm leaving or else I'll feel rude, but they look at me like I'm crazy and no one else does that lol
Almost without exception when people are very drawn to me & me to them at the same time, it turns out they have Autism and/or something that is not neurotypical. Because we are so interesting to each other. When it comes to traits shared in this video, almost all apply to me, except speaking with an accent in my native languages and colorful hair and clothes, I prefer monochromatic & minimalist looks for myself. I have to practice to say hello & good bye and I learned to fake eye contact long time ago. I still forget to do small talk & I hate it so much. Will never get used to it. And I live in a culture that overdoes it.
Ah! The hello good bye I do it! And then I feel bad about it. In fact I never do the surrounding fluff and when I do try I put so much effort, I get tired and forget to say what I wanted to say in rhe first place! Thank you.
I do most of this... stop calling me out, specially with the communication bit it makes me feel like an awful person fr😭😭 ALSO THE ACCENT THING my mom sometimes tells me in an annoyed tone "why do you talk like that?" I🗣️ DON'T 🗣️KNOW!!!🗣️ edit: INTERNATIONAL ENGLISH??? DUDEEE I've never left my city yet people say my Spanish makes me sound like I'm from somewhere else
1. and 2. : yes. I hate to say goodbye on parties. I disappear instead. Colourful hair: i hate that. I want things natural. Colours like black, blue or natural colours are fine. Gender things: i dont care. Laughing about my own jokes, yes and no. If i invent a joke in my head i laugh, if i tell others a joke, nope. Overexplaining: yes. Flexible: yes. Intro: yes. Accent: yes. I tend to use bavarian, hesse accents, Switzerdütsch and having an Italian accent speaking with Italians in english.
I find myself mixing in words from other languages because they, em, "feel" 🤷 more like what the emotion im expressing, like Thai has "mai pben rai" for "its ok/nevermind" especially when you put a Scottish "ach" in front of it it matches the sort of "nevermind" handwave , the german "Scheiße!" Is so sharp and cutting when you hurt yourself or are mad, and "kurwa mac" in Polish has a way better shape than "oh ffs" it feels like an exacerbated sigh
I have every single one of these in spades. Most of them I already knew to be autistic trates. But the last couple I didn't know that many other aspies also have.
In 8th grade, my first year in this town and school, so I was doubly "alien," the new kid in class (I was ALWAYS "the new kid in class," basically for twelve years, for multiple reasons), one day I wrote on the classroom blackboard, in small square letters tucked neatly into a corner of the blackboard, "DON'T PANIC." This tickled my sense of humor agonizingly. I couldn't stop laughing. Nobody else in the class thought it was funny, and I was helplessly in stitches. Even while it hurt me that nobody got it, I still couldn't stop laughing. I knew I looked weird--the other kids would say "stupid," but the humor was bigger than any sense of weirdness could tamp down. To me it was just viscerally hysterical, the notion that two words on the blackboard, "DON'T PANIC," might, simply because they were there, launch a whole classroom into a frenzy of panic without anybody knowing why.
I work in customer service and I always have to remind myself to do a greeting and a closing statement.. I just want to get to the substance and then I'm done.
I was told my way of communicating is either very curt, and I offend without intention. So, instead, I tend to explain myself at least 3 different ways if I feel my answer may be near a social line. I feel I do better if I speak like Geralt, "hmmm"
I never understood how explain why it does not occur to me to say hello or goodbye. This resonates so much. 👀🤷♀️ Walking funny is one thing I have been made fun of. And I loved having turquoise in my hair... but I hate bleaching my hair a lot. Overexplaining - yes, so relatable. And why I struggle in interviews. 😂
I relate to 80-90% of these. I think your last example is great and I realize now that I noticed but didn't notice. Probably, wink wink, because I also spent time in europe conversing with non native speakers. its neat to realize
Over explaining lol my friend told me I don't send messages i send essays I'm just starting to realise why I'm different. Alot of people have been telling me I have alot of autistic traits
It’s inaccurate to say neurotypical when you mean someone who’s not autistic, as someone can be neurodivergent and not be autistic. I just thought I’d point that out as you mentioned about a “neurotypical group”.
If I had a dollar every time someone asked me about my accent I'd be so rich by now! Them: Where are you from? Me: Brisbane Them: No but where were you born? Me: Brisbane hospital. Them:....Where are your parents from? Me: Brisbane Them:................So where did your accent come from??? Me: *shrugs* Thats what I want to know As a kid it was even worse, I had a theory in my head that I was adopted because everyone said I was American and no one knew who my dad was so they assumed he was American lmao (He isn't, I'm not American at all, now as an adult I get told my accent is Canadian/American???) I'm going to make a badge that just says "Yes I have an accent, no I don't know where it's from, Yes I'm Australian" Becuase I am sick to death of getting asked every time I have to interact with a stranger.
cant watch videos with stupid unnecessary whipping and popping noises when this unnecessary captions appear and disappear. Can't you just put them up if you need to. And it's perfectly normal to just speak to someone who is within earshot, people dont say hello first, especially if they don't know them.
Not even, I was professionally diagnosed long ago, so...personally the weird traits he mentions about ASD is common for me since I express some of these traits he mentions anyway.
The video is unlikely to cause widespread confusion, especially for those on the autism spectrum. If you don’t like it, just move on. Suggesting it should be deleted is an overreaction.
That was a rollercoaster. I identified so strongly, that I still don't know how to feel about it. I'll keep it light, I carry my shoes on my feet, rather than walking on them. It's very noticeable 😂 I absolutely talk to and amuse myself without shame. And I guess most of all, my family literally call me " The ghost" lol uncanny. Slainte. ∆
