A 3-Step Approach To Help Heal Attachment Wounds - with Frank Anderson, MD 

Same+1 :)

I feel ya! And those narcissist know exactly what we crave and love bomb us into a relationship.

those who cared for us did a really shitty job, not taking care of us and nurturing us as needed. therefore, we don’t have a self. but can create one… i been w a phenomenal therapist

@@bkirstieMay I ask who?

Very insightful. Thank you for sharing this important perspective. Your comments also make me curious about the impact of similar cultural devaluation for the LGBTQIA+ population. Age of the individual would also be very relevant here since things have changed so much over time. There are vast differences in the childhood experiences of my mother's generation (age 76), my generation (age 45), my niece's generation (age 26), and school age children now. Yet even now, all still have some measure of cultural turmoil surrounding a fundamental part of who they are. Trauma is certainly not just about family of origin for this population either.

Rubbish- how do you know what cultural forces are at work in underclass white families. You've never lived that.

I would love to see you do a video that elaborates upon this

I’m a colored immigrant and I think this goes for everyone not just bipoc… It is going to vary depending on the values and history of each country and culture. And it’s going to vary even more based on the individual and their lineage. Yes we should be sensitive to people’s background but dividing people into groups and making assumptions based on race can be dismissive of individual experiences and expression. In the end we all feel pain in the same way and also heal in the same way.

It also seems like this kind of thinking assumes that colored people are less resilient…

he reminds me of my therapist,calming, knowledgeable, loving and safe. i can handle this.

Which perspective is measuring the truthfulness of what the younger part is holding? It sounds like a another part may have concerns about what is held?

Check out Ideal Parent Figure therapy - research is showing it highly effective for disorganized attachment

Hi Mitz, you can find a lot more information regarding Attachment when you sign up for our course titled The Neurobiology of Attachment www.nicabm.com/program/attachment/?itl=store. You can also take a look at some of our blog posts surrounding this topic using this link: www.nicabm.com/?s=attachment. Hope this helps!

@@jakalakaful thank you. 🙂

@@nicabm okay. thank you so much☺

@@wisdomtoknowthedifference did it help you? I just read the comments and can tell you, that schema therapy by Jeffrey Young uses the exact same method with the ideal parent and the reparenting. It may be more easy to find a therapist using the schema therapy since it is more commonly known. I copy the definition from wiki: "Schema therapy is an integrative psychotherapy combining theory and techniques from previously existing therapies, including cognitive behavioral therapy, psychoanalytic object relations theory, attachment theory, and Gestalt therapy." The founder thought that a lot of clients didnt get better so he took the best of all the existent methods and combined them. It is very helpful for everyone with all kinds of deeper rooted issues. The therapists act as ideal parents and help you in the course to reparent yourself on your own. There is a long questionaire to be filled out at first so that the therapist can get to know you without having only to rely on his personal opinion since the questions and the analysis of your answers are standardized. Diagnostic alone is a really thourough process.

Very intimate, getting in touch with the wounded part, and showing up for it, isn't it.

Thank you for your feedback! Please know we are working towards having transcripts available in the future. Sorry for this inconvenience!

It’s your conscious mind accepting and loving your subconscious inner child (or you as a child) so instead of always seeking the validation from others because of the attachment trauma. So you’re accepting, validating and loving your child self to release the childhood trauma. So you’re loving accepting yourself instead of seeking it from others.

The more complex a trauma or disorder the simpler the treatment ought to be