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A Change of Fate: My Story of Childhood Sexual Abuse & Forging Meaning | Nice People

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In the U.S., 1 in 4 girls and 1 in 6 boys are sexually abused before their 18th birthday. Roughly 1/3rd of them were abused by a family member.
I am one of those children, and this is my story.
This isn't an easy story to tell or to hear, but it's one that's shared by countless others - possibly even you.
I hope that sharing it helps you in some way, either to know that you’re not alone, or to gain a better understanding of the cascading effects of childhood trauma and abuse.
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Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network (RAINN)
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@tryphonsoleflorus8308 29 дней назад

Fascinating!A trauma induced psychosis overcome by an incisive intelligence.You know,in our ER,we used to stress to patients who went through terrible accidents,that the only way to overcome this was to talk about what happened over and over again to everyone they knew.This is the only way not to bottle this up and make it destructive.I applaud you for your resilience and intelligence and,you will definetely not loose those 20 years of your life.As far as I can see,you will live a normal healthy lifespan.Way to go ,girl!

@BethBTC 4 месяца назад

Sorry this happened to you. I can't fully watch, topic of SA brings up a lot of horrible memories, but I just wanted to say you are brave and strong.

@dianalekeke 4 месяца назад

Heather, you are an inspiration. I’ve just found out my ACE score is an 8 and also a newfound diagnose at age 30 (BD2) along with years of PTSD, social anxiety and mild symptoms of agoraphobia. I can relate to so many things you have expressed and I always felt alone. Thank you for being vulnerable. Thank you for showing me I’m not alone.

@nicepeopletalk 3 месяца назад

You are not alone! Not even close (sadly). I didn't talk about it in the video, but I've also struggled with agoraphobia in the years following the 2017 assault. It does get better, though! My heart is with you, survivor sister.

@tomdorman2486 Месяц назад

I'm sorry you went through that difficult situation. This story helps me understand the females I've known who reacted in ways i didn't understand in the past. Some have had a very difficult time accepting a loving relationship without undermining it. Love and prayers to you that happiness is the future for you.

@MultiplicityMaeve 3 месяца назад

I’m crying watching this… especially when you talk about the probable outcomes.. you described exactly how I feel. I also have DID… your story resonated so much with me, so many similarities. I had never taken the ACE test but I had a 10… and hearing all these statistics and studies makes so much sense for so many things for me and my life.. Thank you much for share this. Truly. I’m so sorry that this happened to you, you didn’t deserve a second of it. You are a beautiful human who is worthy of all the love in the world.

@joeyjguerrero 4 месяца назад

Hi Heather, A couple days ago, I decided to search for why cPTSD is not recognized in the DSM, hoping maybe it will be soon enough. That’s when I found your channel and your video discussing that very topic. Awesome video! Thank you so much for that one! I just finished watching this one and it hit me so hard. I can relate to everything you talked about. I just want to thank you for all you do. It has encouraged me so much. You have no idea! I’ve currently been struggling with depression/meds because of the cPTSD. But to be able to use the illness as fuel to reverse the effects and help others… Wow! What a great reminder! You are not alone Heather. Thank you for reminding me that I am not either!

@amannurani0786 4 месяца назад

Bro you have incredible production quality and nerves of steel to share this trauma with us! Keep posting, you’ve got my subscription 🎉

@nicepeopletalk 3 месяца назад

Thank you!

@trianapowell7252 25 дней назад

Thank you so much for sharing your story. It’s been a year since I was diagnosed with DID, and I’m still going through the difficult recovery from survival process.

@Phoenixrebirth85 4 месяца назад

Such a poignant story, beautiful transformation, and loads of courage and resilience. What a woman you have become. Your aura is completely different than it was at the beginning of your spravato videos. I strongly believe that history is bound to repeat, until we heal. Good job Heather, may you inspire many beings to follow the path of healing. Lots of affection from Switzerland 💛

@scottspeelman2726 4 месяца назад

Heather, I'm extremely proud that you finally are able to share your story and even more proud with how far you've come. I love you very much and always want to be your safe place. ❤

@RicknerTube 2 месяца назад

you're awesome, Scott! Stick with her!!

@aegontargaryen9322 Месяц назад

I wish all the very best for you two , your a good man for helping this young lady . Best wishes for you both

@jimcabezola3051 4 месяца назад

All of this is so far away from my own reality. Yet...I am truly privileged to have heard about some of your reality. This has left me...thoughtful. In comparison, mine has been a life of forgetfulness and thoughtlessness. I've had no idea that people who went through these things....thought THESE thoughts. I can never forget... Mahalo for sharing your experiences...with all of us. Wishing you MUCH aloha!

@calliea9064 4 месяца назад

Also I have to hop on here again to say just how much of a story teller you are! Even the clips and imagery you chose to tell this story is so impressive. You are a writer, your pacing of this story was professional. Putting something together like this is not a simple task. I hope you are very proud. You have managed to put together many full documentaries on your channel that have all be so inspiring, informative and entertaining.

@nicepeopletalk 3 месяца назад

Oh Callie, you always bring a smile to my face. :) I'll have to take your word for it on the storyteller bit. IDK why I can't accept that I might be ok at it, haha.

@Dagger909 4 месяца назад

Child abuse is such a vile act - I can't relate. Thank you for sharing. Keep it up!

@Vagabondgypsy 4 месяца назад

I found you when I was starting my Spravato treatments and felt a weird, but sweet connection to you. This, you so bravely shared today…gave me the answer…survival sisters. My childhood trauma was similar to yours and I thank you for being a strong voice for “us”…all of us . 💜

@nicepeopletalk 3 месяца назад

There are far too many of us. I'm sorry to hear you've had similar experiences. Survival sisters, indeed!

@treehuggingbuddhist 4 месяца назад

Brave Heather, thank you for sharing your story with us. I am 64 years old and have similar experiences and only recently has science caught up to recognize, understand and find a way to treat CPTSD. And through EMDR and DBT I’ve been able to reduce my score by almost 40 points! You are still with me every other week as I listen to your Spravato playlist and I’m so thankful for you and this channel. ❤

@nicepeopletalk 3 месяца назад

Oh I'm so happy to hear that you're able to receive such effective treatments and are responding to them! Trauma has been a part of human existence from the very beginning, but science is only JUST catching up. I'm very hopeful for our future.

@BobKublawi 3 месяца назад

Heather, you are so brave to talk so courageously and openly about your childhood and all that you went through. Your story is heartbreaking and amazing. I'm so glad that you posted a new video and I can't wait for more!

@forrestgreen9369 3 месяца назад

Thank you so much Heather. This is one of the most powerful videos I've ever seen. You did a phenomenal job of weaving your personal story together with scientific information to give a clear understanding of how childhood trauma affects people throughout their lives. I'm one of those very fortunate people with zero ACEs, and I think our world would be a far better place if others like me had a better understanding of how significantly childhood events can impact adult lives. This video should be at the top of RU-vid's recommendations for everyone.

@aegontargaryen9322 Месяц назад

Heather is a very brave young lady who is still only trying to help others .

@Blafirelli 3 месяца назад

Nicely done, kudos :) I wonder why your channel doesn't have more traffic. I can relate to suddenly getting your "superpower" broken and taken away from you for it to never come back, it does suck big time. The kid's aren't alright indeed.

@philsowers 4 месяца назад

Haven't even started and I'll just say from the title alone and the strides you've made from video one, you're awesome, super brave, and this will help countless others. 🙏 ♥

@nicepeopletalk 4 месяца назад

That means a lot to me! You've been here from the beginning. :) I greatly appreciate you.

@calliea9064 4 месяца назад

So proud of you Heather. This is release, this is transformation. 🦋

@aerosmithadam1 3 месяца назад

Thank you for taking the time to make this. I’ve been watching a lot of your Spravato review videos because I am considering trying after similar years of abuse. I watched the whole video. The ups and downs you have endured, especially your honesty about ending it, resonated for me. I and many people genuinely look up to people like you because if intentional or not it gives a lot of hope for folks while theyre enduring very difficult times. Thanks.

@siennaskye_journey 4 месяца назад

Thank you for sharing your story 🫂🤍 I have been putting together a documentary of my own for roughly a year now and seeing yours tonight was very encouraging

@nicepeopletalk 3 месяца назад

Good for you! Definitely go easy on yourself. If my experience has taught me anything, it's to be gentle with ourselves and let the process take as long as it needs to take. All in all, it took me 5 years to finally be able to share mine.

@janebentrott5984 4 месяца назад

You have made a difference in MY life through your videos about Spravato. This video was heartfelt and I admire your strength to open up about your childhood and difficulties you have experienced. Thank you and bless you on your journey.

@SpartysSpartans 4 месяца назад

Thank you for being you today and helping us, in shoes like your own... Nice People is exactly right, Stop the stigmas.

@aegontargaryen9322 Месяц назад

I agree , no one should feel shame because someone hurt them badly . All they should get is sympathy and love from others

@RicknerTube 2 месяца назад

You're Awesome! Please continue making videos. There are so many of us out "there" that are still silent, ashamed, and grasping. You channel has encouraged, validated, and excited me about my recovery. Much love to you and all of the other people that have watched and wept along.

@KKKK-ld9wb 25 дней назад

This is such an amazing video that really helps translate the experience of csa and dissociation. I related so much to this, and thank you for the bravery of sharing it with the world. It was hard to watch the entire video as I found myself wanting to run from it many times. I made it through, and you gave me some very powerful things to think about. I am so looking forward to hearing more content from you. You are really making a difference.

@vrclckd-zz3pv 4 месяца назад

I'm sorry that any of this happened to you. You are one of my favorite RU-vidrs. Came for the UAPs. Stayed for the DID stories.

@nicepeopletalk 3 месяца назад

Thank you! I'm so glad you're here. :)

@aceaustralian 21 день назад

Thank you for sharing. It must have been hard, I greatly appreciate it.

@covenofthehydra 4 месяца назад

You are a wonderful and valuable person Heather&system! Thank you for sharing your story. Thank you for being a voice for those who cannot. Thank you for being raw and real and also revealing a path forward...there is indeed hope for these that feel hopeless.

@nicepeopletalk 3 месяца назад

Oh there are SO many reasons to hope and paths forward! It took me a long time to figure that out, but hopefully I can pass on the lessons I've learned and help others like me.

@Show_Love_Serina 4 месяца назад

Your achievements are my goals! Thank you for your content!

@wingnut71 2 месяца назад

Dear Heather,what happened to you was just awful. My own experience was not nearly as bad and yet i am here, looking for solutions, nearly 45 years later. Like you i feel it has just ruined my life. I dont know what to do anymore. Actually i never did know. I just want to reach inside my brain to cut it out and throw it away. I dont think therapy will help and i really do not want to talk about that stuff with anyone. Im sorry this terrible thing happened to you and hope you will continue to heal.

@aegontargaryen9322 Месяц назад

You poor thing , people who hurt others like that are the scum of the earth . None of that was your fault . Do go to therapy it might really help , Therapists are professional people who unfortunately will have heard stories like yours before so will know how to help you . I wish you all the best , I hope one day you will feel much happier

@xagatal 4 месяца назад

disturbingly relatable.

@PhilosopherScholar 25 дней назад

Thank you so much for sharing! I'm certain this video will help people. I look forward to more.

@summervega3012 Месяц назад

This video really moved me, thank you for doing what you do ❤

@broscosmoline Месяц назад

Wow, this was amazing. ACEs is new to me, but its potential to effect a paradigm shift in mental health therapy seems real. The definition Felitti gives at the end i'm going to jot down. Re Andrew Solomon: I also experienced a lot of "ah ha" moments reading his "Noonday Demon". Note: I found myself wondering as I listened, how monsterous is this monster? I know the focus of the story is what happened in the wake of trauma, but the monster remained a bit abstract for me w/o knowing much about his behaviour.

@allie_fallie 3 месяца назад

Thank you so much for sharing. You are making a difference in the world and it is deeply appreciated. My struggle is that I don't remember my childhood at all, so I see all the signs of a monster but have no monster to point to.

@johannagrace7768 2 месяца назад

Thank you Heather. ❤

@bradrasmussen7297 4 месяца назад

WOW! I have no words. I am so proud of you and how brave you are. You are also, if no one has ever told you this, a very talented storyteller. This could be the best thing I've ever seen on RU-vid. Thank you for sharing your story and giving others hope. You are an amazing person, and yes, you have already won!

@nicepeopletalk 3 месяца назад

Wow, thank you! It took me a long time, but I'm glad I finally did it. Having such positive reactions from you (and others) helps me feel like I made the right decision by speaking out. Thank you for listening and giving me the space to speak my truth!

@bradrasmussen7297 3 месяца назад

@@nicepeopletalk Hi Heather, I hope you are doing well. I watched this whole video a second time and wanted to tell you again I think it is one of the very best videos I've ever seen on RU-vid. I am doubling down on my first impression. First, you are most welcome for me listening to your story but THANK YOU SO MUCH for the bravery and strength it took for you to do it. I speak from experience that I know you having the resolve to do this video will empower you in your life, and you will empower others who see it to come forward to share their stories. I know this because my wife is a childhood SA survivor like you, and she had the courage to share her story with me and a few others. Doing that gave her strength and removed a lot of fear and shame she felt as you already mentioned. Also, it enabled me, her husband, to better understand her, her struggles, and better support her and love her as much as I possibly can in the best ways possible. It has really made our relationship as close as a husband and wife can possibly be, and I thank her regularly for having the courage to share her story. Also, I know from experience that sharing your story here on RU-vid itself has great power as well. I know this because one of the other best videos I've ever seen is Clark Frederick's interview on SWU. His story was so powerful that it enabled many other survivors to find their voices and be able to share their stories. You have also done that with your video. You have changed people's lives for the better by making it, and what could be any better than that? Thank you again for your strength and example. I am very proud of you. You are an amazing person and are as tough as people come. Take care, Brad.

@JenGosnell 3 месяца назад

I greatly admire you, Heather! The bravery you demonstrate in putting your story out there is rare and wonderful. I find your courage and tenacity inspiring. Bravo. Also - Thank you for the resources you shared. They are useful for me.

@nicepeopletalk 3 месяца назад

Thank you so much for your kind words. I'm glad the resources were helpful for you, too!