A Divorce Attorney's Thoughts On Love and Marriage-James Sexton 

So true!

Truth

I say that about ALL relationships..friends, boyfriends and absolutely marriage.

Yes!! That part!

There's most definitely some underlying misogyny that influenced this conversation.

Seriously

makes sense though as he's seen everything people shouldn't do

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As a licensed therapist myself, I couldn’t agree more.

It is not strange at all. It’s honestly the most obvious thing. You only understand the concept of things when you have seen the worst. You then begin to understand the underlying fundamentals to get through it.

Could you elaborate it? I couldn't really understand what the meaning of it

@@Teurab the fish is always in water. He doesn’t see it as water because he doesn’t know anything different and he’s always in the middle of it. In this context he used it as an analogy to say, when we are in a relationship we might not see the flaws of the other person or think about how it could go badly or turn out in the end because we are right in the middle of the relationship and we don’t think about those things.

I think we always see the issue, but we deny it. We build a whole explanation to it, to cover it up. And in the end, when we don't want to justify it anymore, and see it for what it really is, that's when it's over

It's a John Culkin quote. He was an advisor to the creators of Sesame Street.

Reminds me of This is Water by David Foster Wallace

I definitely watched it and engaged.

@@jenwhite6305 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂....my bad! "EVERY"👍

This should be mandatory to everybody. I'm single and watching this proved what I already thought - marriage is not for me

@@xanperia I wasn't agreeing with everything he had said.....and I believe in marriage💕

It feels like he has been through a lot of shit to grow into what he is today.

@@ww3032no shit sherlock

Or maybe he's been an attorney for 20 years lmao

​@@kalicperry6940or he's been watching MGTOW and manosphere videos

Facts!!!

Depending on what it is, you can still get into serious trouble if you reveal certain things to your therapist. You hypothetically have more legal safety with your lawyer than your therapist.

@@GrubKiller436 Yes, you need to lie to your therapist until you know you can trust them. And that may be never. They will take what you say and report you and it could be groundless.

My ex is still not honest to his lawyer, doubt he is honest to his therapist.

I'm making that my Facebook headline

That's funny, the longer I work as a lawyer the more I get surprised how stupid people are with withholding essential information from me when all I do is try to help them

This is what marriage about conversations and hobbies and just enjoying each other company 🎉❤🎉🎉

It will be a surprise

It's not always as it seems. 2nd marriages have much higher divorce rates than 1st marriages, so if 56% of marriages end in divorce a large portion of those are serial divorcees and they skew the numbers. Where I live the divorce rate is 22% (that's a rural region in western Europe). Again, considering the serial offender statistic that gives me a really high probability of not getting divorced. 8+/10. That's not bad at all.

@@mysterioanonymous3206 “I don’t envy people being married for a long time because that’s not the goal. The goal is to be HAPPILY married.”

At this day and age you guys are a rare pair

You're speaking the truth im on my 5Th playback

Does every stock lose value if you hold it too long ? No

lol, that's what you got from this?!?!? hahahahah....@@johnb6850

Yes, so much so that I actually paused the video to get a pen and paper! Ha!

​@johnb6850 yeah. Not every stock loses value if you hold it too long. And?

Yep. Agreed. He was hypnotic to listen to!! And not hard on the eyes either 😂

He has a IG acc But I can't remember the @

Found it! It's @nycdivorcelawyer

I thought so too. You can't make these things up

He does

In my opinion, America has produced and is in the process of producing abject losers as fathers.

I disagree. Doing the right thing even when it's hard or not what you want to do, putting in time and effort to show love, consideration for how your choices affect those you love, prioritizing their happiness and safety, not holding onto resentment... The skill set is the same. It's just effected very differently.

@@juless7807​​⁠As a man I don’t think you are talking about the same thing that he was implying in his male brain. If I am correct; because I agree 100% with his comment and what it means to me is that as a father who is a a full time single dad of a son I got custody of 5 years ago. (Me and his mom dated in college, split when he was 6mo old). I got him every other weekend. He is my 1 true love. Business owner who worked 100 hours per week even while I had custody, but covid came and destroyed that business and so I created a different business. These small things are important to the context, and I’m getting to it. When I got custody of him, I completely stopped dating. And the reason I stopped dating is a woman takes so much time, money and effort. And that’s not a bad thing, if you love her you love her. But as a father, my priority is my child, above everything else. Above a woman, and even myself. But as a man, it’s important to be happy with yourself and your accomplishments before you invest in a wife. If you do not, it’s going to fail. Because no man will ever be secure enough, to ge happy enough, and trust enough. Regardless of what you look like. Men are not women. To men, our looks mean absolutely nothing. We play very different games in life, and most girls don’t realize it, and many feminist would love to deny it. But it’s true. A man’s value is in his status and resources, and woman’s is in her looks. It’s been this way since the dawn of mankind. All the proof you need is to look up who owns the most yachts, and it’s men. Yet, you see far more women on yachts on social Media, why is that? You never see the men. The reason is, these types of girls don’t want to show the man. Because everyone knows that’s not her yacht, and everyone knows what she’s had to do to be on that yacht popping $500 bottles. And it was being born beautiful. That’s it. She probably doesn’t even have a job. Because men do not give a shit about a woman’s wealth or status, we only care about her looks it’s the opposite for woman. This is why is said a man must be secure in himself and happy with where he is in life regardless of how good looking He is. His looks will Get him laid, but his status is what will make him secure and happy to be able to be a good husband emotionally later. But we already have the skill set to be a father, it’s a genetic thing all fathers that are “good dads” have for their kids. We are willing to put everything in our lives on old in order to provide them the best life and get them raised and we will worry about our Dating life and marriage later. I realize this is not the norm, and that’s the problem. Most men are miserable and most men will never be where they want to be because of these choices and wasting time with women. So it takes a emotionally skill set to be able to work 100 hours per week, still show up for your kids school activities and raise them. There is no room for the skill set it takes to be a good husband at this point. A new study realized show that single father households do just as good as two parents households and single women households have nightmare statistics attached to them. It’s because men and women are very different, and we are good at different things. Single moms who although may be raising their kids, maybe 1% of them would stop dating to focus solely on their kids and they end up just sleeping with tons of men chasing happiness they will never find. Because men and women value different things. Men are going to sleep with her. But men don’t want the single mom who has 3 kids and 2 baby daddies. Women make very poor choices in this part of life because women are creatures of emotion and men are creatures of logic and ambition. And the ambitious women are feminist all trying to compete with men, when men don’t even think of things like this and we damn sure don’t want to have a marriage with those women. So men and women are very different in how we think and the truth about our lives being very different can always come down to the yacht. A hot woman can be on a yacht anytime by spreading her legs, but a man has to buy that yacht to be on it. So because of this, it’s easy for us to use our skills as being a father vs our skills at being a husband. We can’t do both until we are happy with ourselves.

In a sane society, the being a husband essentially _IS_ being a father. You protect, provide for, and preside over a woman like her father did and she accepts your patriarchy. The only real differences are intimacy and parenting. Why do you think girls who have great relationships with their fathers get guys like their fathers? Why do you think girls who had bad relationships and are starved for the imposition of wise authority mean _"DADDY!"_ during shrekx? The problem is that we've been taught to treat them like equal partners when we never evolved to be that liberal democratic fantasy.

@@Mr.Ambrose_Dyer_Armitage_Esq. Sorry, you don't own your wife. Those women were not protected, they were slaves. They were (and in many ways/places still are) expected to be an on-demand s3x toy, cook, maid, sole caregiver, waitress, hostess, and PR rep. And, if they didn't, they were beaten, stoned, killed, etc. If they didn't do it with a smile on their faces, they were told there's something wrong with them, and then probably beaten. They did not accept patriarchy- they had no choice. You can't choose something you are not given a choice in. GTFO

Never got married, and I am 54 🎉🎉🎉 best decision.

You dodged a bullet

Not everyone is called to be married, ya know? Boo on society for making people feel that way. Singlehood is amazing in its own right!

I wish somebody would have told me this when I was young ... FOLLOW YOUR HEART.

Love is a cash grab, marriage is death ☠️ Everyone has tainted it so bad, so much so, that being an outcast is like living on the tipping point of survival. No one can tell you the right or wrong way of doing it. Going with your gut and trusting your instincts at all times will be the only super power that you bestow unto yourself.

Agree!

Jim is a very smart, cool dude. My dad was a divorce lawyer for 30 years. Its a tough job

Totally agree 😂❤

I like this guy! He’s super real. Thanks Mark!

Same here

But you would never have him as opposing council in your divorce 😂😂😂

Paul Auster? 😏

This is one of the best interviews I have even watched.

He would probably start talking sh*t after a couple shots. :P

The valuable knowledge that he has will save a lot of men

Many people find themselves re-evaluating their financial priorities after a divorce. mine ended leaving me with minimal retirement savings and health issues limited my ability to work. This prompted me to start investing. Now, two years later, I've managed to save over $2 million, edging closer to my $3 million goal by age 60

You're lucky to have made such a turnaround

I'll attribute that to my research that led me to Emily Ava Milligan, a top fund manager, rather than luck. Going from only 300 grand to this was certainly her consistency, not luck

My journey resonates with yours. After a divorce settlement left me with just $700k, I turned to investments. Thanks to my savvy fund manager, I've grown that to $2.5 million in just two years. Now, I'm considering buying some countryside properties for retirement. The peace and quiet seem just right for me

I copied her name and pasted it into my browser, her website came up. Thanks for the share. your experience is worth noting

I literally watch this dynamic play out with my brother and his wife almost every time I visit. It's wild.

that's such a sad way to live and i don't understand why people act that way. my ex wife was that way and it made things so hard

@@stella-vu8vh Because there's no one else to talk to. In marriage, you're expected to bring all your vents and frustrations to your significant other but when you do, they take it personally even though you were just trying to work through your emotions to figure out where they were coming from and how to move past them. This is why he's spot on that no single other person can be the 'everything' to another. Sometimes, you just need to vent in order to figure out how you truly feel about something but if you only have the subject of the venting to vent to, too many negative emotions start to entangle into everything and it can become near impossible to disentangle.

@KetoFattywhat does that mean

Not every woman is like tjis just so you know. I continued to do sweet things for him.. small gifts, notes, kindness.. as he did less and less. It broke my heart. It was not even about material things.. just sleep next to me or hold my hand, but no. He slept on the couch, would not hold my hand.. oh well

'Falling isn't bad. It's that sudden stop at the end." - Indiana Jones

No fr! I replayed that back like 4 more times😂

Rawfully true, I might add.

@@NotSuperwomannice username.

frr

Check his interview at The diary of a CEO

I turned 50 recently, and I've been thinking the same thing!! My whole life was "safe"...and now I'm closer to death (natural/statistically) I'm thinking..."WHAT THE HELL.....GO OUT GO NUTS!"

💯 You broke that down nicely 100%. Made me realize it that was as well thank you. This is truly a gem here..

Well said bro. Priceless experience here

This was an hour consultation for free 🔥

Seriously! Where's the "Buy Me a Coffee" link? 😁

Sadly its a price on everything

It's crazy first thing I posted was how insightful this was

Hope you guys are well. For a divorce lawyer he is somewhat ignorant. Religious ppl have less divorce and in islam its there, but lower. Hes wrong. women can seek a divorce in islam. And you are not killed for divorce. Go look at the Quran there is an entire chapter call Al-Nisa (women). Divorce is explained in the Quran. The wife is not allowed to take half the mans wealth and cannot stop him from seeing the kids (if he is not a danger/violent etc). Only in Christian Catholic system is marriage for life and no divorce (irony right). Islam is the fastest growing religion in the USA, UK, Canada, Europe and the whole world. So muslim ppl must be getting married and having kids, as sleeping around is a major sin (just like in the bible, remember). UK alone sees every year 5000 ppl revert to islam. Of those 5000 about 3000 are women, mostly white women, who are university educated with an average age of 27. When they come to the dheen (religion) Conservative values follow. And they look to get married and have kids. As muslim women marry Muslim men only. This way we gain an excess demographic of young women.

so the prenup has to literally say everything we acquire personally during the marriage belongs to use individually?

Love is mystical marriage is contractual. The most likely ship to sink is a partnership. I agree that facts sound so cynical.

Where does he practice Law?

Just goes to show he was always trash.

One where I used to live shot his wife same age 😔

@@timhensley3695 Thank you for sharing. I think we all need a reality check. My eyes have been wide open since I was six years old when I saw what marriage meant. The best thing I ever decided was to stay single.

@@paintingwithrosev741 I agree unless you win the lottery. It does exist.

Ugh that man’s poor wife. She shared her life with the man she thought would be there for her always. Oh that breaks my heart to pieces. He’ll regret it when he realizes he threw away the best thing in his life. Loyalty and Love. 😢 This is why I hesitate to fully love. I’m better off riding the line rather than making the step over and risking my heart. I’m such a romantic but it’s hard to believe in true love anymore. I’ll stick to my rescue dogs. Always loyal and unconditional love.

Why white rich men are so ignorant about other people culture and religion? In Saudi, we have high increase divorce last ten years! In Islam we don't have this nonsense about marriage like Catholic marriage or Alimony!

Foreal he is entertaining 😅 He said I'll f*** that guy for 200 million dollars 😂

yeah. He's hilarious.

Yes, he is. But most intelligent, educated, successful and thoughtful people are similar in my experience.

@dougb4956 Those 4 qualities are very different though&often mutually exclusive tbh. Educated and successful do not even sit in the same category as intelligence, which largely refers to emotional and social intelligence, which is often ironically lacking amongst those in highest levels of education or ‘success’. Success through money doesn’t lead to buying class, personality emotional intelligence or what i would consider the true things that make u rich- loved ones who care about u and good health! Just my random thoughts

"falling feels like flying until bones crush" ~ Taylor Swift

Have you seen Crazy Heart yet?

Not sure if I agree with that. Flying is against gravity and failing is the opposite

100%

it's been quoted by other people and in songs before, he's not the original source

To me it’s no way in hell any man who’s married is happy.Having sex with the same woman year after year is atrocious.

@@getmoneychill6462 and the same for goes for her having the same man, such is life…

​@getmoneychill6462 I'm sorry you feel that way. You're probably trolling, but hopefully you find true love someday.

I completely agree. Whenever people just blindly applaud couples who have been married forever, I kinda don’t get it. They could be in a horrible relationship. It’s really not the quantity of years but the quality

​@@srm0520but isn't Married like a wave of happiness and sad,just like any other things in life.

This descriptive is ON POINT! Excellent!

That's exactly what I waa thinking!

I had to click right away when i saw how different the one getting interviewed in the video. such a fresh story, something different but still hits home

Agreed!! I was going down the dark rabbit hole too much!

@@TheRoseAnthology I agree completely. Most of Mark's videos are like training for empathy with the working title "Faith - saddle on the horse of life between good and evil". This video is like a bottle of cold clear water handed to you by a nice waiter while saying "Brain!...come on!...turn your head on!"

Really? Nihilism is clever? It’s not, and it’s not new.

Decorate this house?

*YES* !!!!!!!!👏👍👏👍👏👍

I agree.

He's a lawyer. Many underestimate the financial pressure on today's middle classes ability to afford kids. Kids were an aspiration that helped keep families together, right or wrong. I'm afraid that won't improve.

Then u know y most men r walking away from marriage

@@KD400_ Women are walking away from marriage, also. Whether guy or girl, treat them well or they will find someone who will.

@@FreeSpirit47 judging by ur profile picture I'm sure u had tons of offers but u chose to walk away. It's not positive btw.

@@FreeSpirit47 WHY is it always tit for tat wit women

@@Dewane1511 Nothing is always anything. Tit for tat is an aspect of life. Cause & effect. Light & dark. It's a balance present all through life.

Lesson of the day: Hit the gym more often.

Is she still with him? How long ago was this? I’m sorry for what you’ve gone through, and I hope your life is going better now, and that you meet your person when you are ready

She was banging him all along dude

Shoulda sued her

I am sorry for your upset. hitting the gym is a symptom she's going to be single.

I believe he's written a couple books! The descriptions mentions some of his work :)

Lucky? That’s dark. I’m sorry you haven’t found someone to share in the amazing milestones and challenges throughout life.

Like this man said 76% of marriages will end before the actual end (of life).

@@itskeagan3004 haha lol 😂 lmao 🤣 even

His knowledge will save a lot of men from horrible wom3nn

The rest of life is work......I don't need it for my relationship too.

i wonder how many people actually loved each other, or got married for other reasons like societal expectations (have to be married by x age, otherwise people will think i'm x,y,z so i'll just settle down with this person) or finances (if we get married we'll pay less taxes). or how many marriages are actually deeply connected.. most people aren't deep, most people haven't done the internal work to be able to actually connect with their spouse or even themselves.

😅 0:41 😅😅 0:41 😅😅😅 1:06

Their toxic side isn't revealed yet in the honeymoon stage.

I don't think the romantic type of love is special. And I am started to think that the romantic type of love isn't real. I mean about more than half of romantic couples either break up with each other or divorce each other, while most platonic best friends remain friends until death. I think that having a platonic best friend is a lot better than having a romantic partner or spouse is. Having someone who's like a sibling to you is a lot better than having a romantic partner or spouse. Also, you are more likely to be much more closer to someone who's like a brother or sister to you than you would be with a romantic partner or spouse. People tend to fight with their partner or spouse a lot more than they do with a platonic best friend, and you never fight with your best friend the way you fight with your partner or spouse. Partners and spouses are just temporary. If you break up or divorce them, it's hard to go back to them. With your platonic best friend, you're going to make things work, because they are your best friend, they are your go to partner. It's always easier to make amends with them than it is with a romantic partner or spouse. Romantic relationships are pointless, while platonic relationships are not.

@@icysnow57cold64 you make a fine point. I really appreciate this perspective.

It's hard to remember to not bang your friends

Whatever works.

That's where you're wrong, marriage is coming to an end. Marriage rates are declining rapidly. In 10 years, he may have to switch his legal focus to something else.

If you decide to have kids but he’s talking about marriage not parenting.

​@huckleberryjam1972 Your comment is extremely naive. A marriage naturally encompasses the possibility of children. Thus any discussion of marriage breakdown most definitely should also factor in children. The OP has an extremely valid point. The current statistics for the US is that half of all children in the US will witness the end of a parent's marriage. And of this half, close to 50% will also see the end of a parent's second marriage. These are not insignificant statistics.

Whatever Niram, the interviewee was not discussing parenting.

A bad marriage can harm children as well.

Yes, because what could be better for a child than their parents forcing themselves to be miserable together for your sake?

He's a lawyer, remember? 😊

​@@wiedadewi8575 I heard a lawyer talk for 5 min, 5 minute of boring bs make me want to sleep

yeah. People might pay his hourly rate as a lawyer just to hear him do standup comedy or do a TED-style talk one on one in his office.

Stop watching cable/tik tok

Yup

Every interview is free lol

You’re the person that fucks it up for all of us

Divorced for 9 years and have a 7 yr old daughter..and married only once...,🤔 Who did you have your daughter with?

Many couples have sex after they split up or divorce. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Same. Never again

@@rangaprasad951people can have children before they are married

When he said that I just automatically knew it was the complete opposite going on. It's like they hate each other now. But it's good that even as a divorce attorney he knows that they did love each other at some point.

He did say that he believes in love, so It makes sense for him to say that.@@dominiquemcclaney128

​@@dominiquemcclaney128they were in love... maybe not loved each other

​​@@dominiquemcclaney128I'll be the unpopular opinion here and say they never loved each other. They just loved what each other did at one point and got tired of it. True love doesn't dissolve like that. It was mostly lust and a shallow version of happiness that most couples experience.

@@chitlinjuiceI agree. When he said you didn’t sleep with your husband for 6 years. What did you think would happen. There was no conversation over Six years at all about why sex wasn’t occurring. That’s insane. Was she sick, was their sexual assault trauma? Was he a jerk to her emotionally? Was she cheating? Like what in the world. Marriage is complex and not the source of our happiness. Jesus is.

Some people do find Soul mates but it 1percent.

@@ClarisNdoroRealEstateWrong. Given the total number of people in the world, the chances your soulmate happens to live in the same city or work at the same company are zero. It’s a nonsensical term invented for romance novels and movies.

Off topic ... he resembles Robert Dinero.

Yes, 100%. And later, he expands on that point a little bit, and it totally is that idea that one person is going to be EVERYTHING for you. It's ridiculous. I am married to a woman from a more "traditional" culture, let's say, and the most remarkable difference is the expectations. I'm not expected to want to go dress up in pink and watch the Barbie movie, and she's not expected to be interested in my sports. We're allowed to be our own people, unapologetically.

I believe soulmates are made, not born. I know my best friend for 14 years, good times and troubles, we share the exact same brain at this point. That's what I call a soulmate.

Our traditions were demolished a long time ago. He’s commenting on the rubble. Marriage is a religious institution older than human history. Maybe if non-believers stopped highjacking a religion they’re not part of it would stop blowing up in their faces.

@@lookoutforchris Our legal system doesn't reflect what marriage is from a traditional or religious standpoint.

​@@lookoutforchris Marriage is a government institution and wealth extraction.

​@@KINGAMIIAMKINGtoday it is but the heart of marriage is god, that's why you get married in a church or a synagogue/mosque etc. People took God out of the equation which makes their vows easier to break.

@@KINGAMIIAMKING That doesn't disprove what he said

Indeed.

Its more Insanity actually , because youre in love its messing with your brain.

Marriage is not negligence 🙄 The dumb dumbs who never should have gotten married in the first place are the ones being negligent, not the concept of marriage itself. These comments make me feel incredibly lucky to be married to someone who actually loves me. Dang.

“It’s like owning a lion!”

marriage is like owning a lion 🤣😂🤣

True! But here he has forgotten to mention the influence of digital p***ography / OF / IG / Dating apps for casual pleasure plus the whole issue of addiction. It's brutally devastating for relationships and society... I guess finding "old friends" on Facebook is here the smallest part.

It's a good idea for married couples to share a joint account instead of having separate accounts on social media.

totally agree, social media is a temptation. @@TheSpringMood

@@TheSpringMood What kind of foundation of trust is this for a relationship? 🤔

@@beatewagner7.2934 Nice question. I believe trust is vital in marriage but a healthy married couple should have many of the same friends and share experiences together therefore separate accounts aren't needed unless you have something to hide.

I agree, more of this is needed. Alcoholics and fentanyl addicts aren't very interesting, on average.

hell Yeah.a lot more of these types

@@eugenealymov2723 True. Would have liked to have heard this 36 years ago ! He has a very realistic take on life and marriage

He sounds like a fake ass mayor carcetti from the wire

He is famous actually! He has been invited by a lot of tv talkshows, podcasts etc. Yea but none of his own show

59:00

So agree - it should be the other way around - marrying should be way harder than divorce. Therefore, obtaining contraception and abortion should be way easier as well.

You said it!!! Easy marriage in like 30 minutes flat, divorce, years!!!!!!!!!!

Men Control access to marriage. Not women. Its easy only for for women who were raised to be wives to get proposals.. meaning they are nurturing. attractive... fit... loyal etc... oh yea and they have to be willing to settle for beta providers... a very small percentage of women fit this criteria.. and as a result. Men are proposing way less percentage wise than we ever have in civilized human history.. there is little benefit for Men to do so...average beckys such as yourself are now largly only going after the select top level men..and those men have options.. so why buy the cow....... please do not let all the sympathy simps in your comments and inbox, telling you every day that they want to drink your bath water, give you a false reality of what's really going on in these streets.. in the black community for instance only 1 out of 4 black women will ever get married.

The way you tried to sneak in abortion in there on a video about marriage and divorce is very telling...

@@user-vl7fm8ck2m ...where? Sorry, I'm confused?

The divorce percentages are also skewed because of people who have had multiple marriages and multiple divorces. Mickey Rooney had eight marriages (the last one lasted) and seven divorces. One man, seven divorces… that totally destroys the statistics.

Are there some insights coming then? Because 12 minutes in and his demeanour is getting on my nerves.

@@jesperburns cant handle the authenticity or what? this dude is awesome

@@jesperburnsHe’s being real. His demeanor presents 0 fakeness. Probably why it gets on your nerves. No catering.

@@brennenbisme his information is real but there's very few people alive faker than him

What have you learned from it? That men think with their di** till late retirement age?

Except he didn’t mention the most important thing. The government doesn’t uphold the marriage contract.

Everything was going fine until they said divorce wasn't allowed in Muslim countries. That's false. Divorce is absolutely allowed in Islam.

This video is completely void of any value system…destined to fail

Why?

Too bad about the tatoos . . .

guy seems like a total jerkoff

Well said

This really should be playing in theaters

I agree, I will make sure my 21 yr old son watches this too. I can remember "my thing" , she never had a thing, she said she always knew we would divorce...

agree

I agree. Paraphrased or original, the thinking is solid.

That is the best description for us that I've ever heard.

Profound. Have to remember that.

@@stephaniehayesbusinessIt is a paraphrased from a quote by Edward O. Wilson, “the problem of humanity is the following: We have Paleolithic emotions, medieval institutions and godlike technology.”

This is so precious

I'm really sorry for the loss ❤️

Wow. It's does exist. Is it possible to find it before divorce?

@@TOMMY-WANT-WINGY😂😂😂

@@jessebaseal6577 Thank you. Whenever I am depressed about being without him, I have to remind myself I was very blessed to have shared his life and love for all those years, and we'll be together again.

Is it really though? I've been married for 14 years and I don't recognize much of this. I guess I got lucky in that I married my neighbor/high school sweetheart. She's the only woman I've ever been with and while I find other women attractive - I've never had the inclination to cheat. I'm extremely happy and satisfied with where we are in our relationship. We're in our mid 30s and by the time we're 40 all our kids will be adults and we will be young-ish and still have time to enjoy our life together. Getting married and having kids early in life is really underappreciated.

​@@mithrandirthegrey7644you are presenting anecdotal evidence.

​@mithrandirthegrey7644 which makes you in the percentage that has no issues. He didn't say 100% and I think that is awesome for you and your spouse.

​@mithrandirthegrey7644 very cool, hope she feels the same way.

@@mithrandirthegrey7644 well done

Why do people feel the need to bring politics into everything … go rewatch the video, you missed 99percent of it.

Politicians aren’t relatable. They have to think about everything they speak and are forbidden from speaking candidly in fact most of these fucks read their speeches no one speaks from the heart

Yesssss

Absolutely AGREE !!

Epic?? That’s a little much!

That's what I said & posted the video link on FB!

I agree with both of you! Sadly we live in a throw away society.... selfishness, lust, greed...addictions, godlessness.... destroy relationships and marriages...

He isn’t wise one bit. He has no knowledge about relationships. He’s divorced himself and makes excuses for cheating blaming the partner, wants to have sex with women without having any obligations towards them. His outlook on why marriages fall apart are immature.

Me and my fiancé have been taking pre martial counseling just finished our second session today and got home and watched this 😂

I know a young man that must watch this. I hope I get him to look at it.

YES

Yes! I totally agree! This was thr best episode for me so far. This man is just so incredibly on the ball. Amazing stuff, and what you say is true about the points to a successful marriage 💑

I mean thats what he means i think finding someone with that mutual willingness to make it work is kinda like winning the lottery

Most of all historically marriage is covenant to raise children. Or heirs to the farm, cattle, patch of land. It was never intended for mutual Happiness.

I believe he could write a fantastic book about this subject

Feminists hates this one trick!

OMG please

this guy is SUCH a loser! why do men who don’t understand women worship the LOSERS???

​@@goblinsRule feminists just hate in general lol

😂😂😂 facts! 💯​@@DownHillgamer

I personally think relationship education is just as important as sex education If I had good education in each, I would have been saved a lot of pain.

If effort required is not put in the marriage then someone will steal your place even with a minimal effort like a wink 😅

The lottery ticket bit?

It's a self awareness issue. Some people are just impossible to reason with no matter what.

0 education in marriage.🎯

People make the mistake of going for attraction instead of compatibility. Morals/values/, integrity, politics, kids, marriage, sex, careers, finances, religion, world view, temperament, communication, household, past trauma, personality traits etc. They have to be compatible. Liking each other simply is not enough. Laying it all out on the table. Will it always be 100% perfect? No. But life is a struggle, the rest is teamwork. You better stick with someone who compliments your assets and weak spots. You will come to find, life is much nicer when you have someone by your side who has your best interest at heart.

thats a good thing for me

This comment is also great sometimes.

There were 4 -6 quotes i wanted to jot down... alas

@@cyano741religion is something that shouldn’t make you get married. it’s all a lie

This was so pure it made me tear up

@@skinnypete3104 Thanks for your reply.

So wholesome. now im crying

That is a beautiful story, your parents were very lucky

same thing happened with my grandparents - grandpa died less than a year after grandma's passing, even though he was much healthier than her. but in their case it was codependence, not healthy love.

So true

Listen.. I felt that 100%.. we tend to get offended and deny when someone tells us about ourselves. Him saying that makes it make sense.

CLEO me too. I bet he could've saved me a whole lot of heartbreak.

I had the same exact thougth!

He has - Google him

He was interviewed for over 3 1/2 hours on the Lex Fridman channel about 3 weeks ago.

I don’t think he has the time…

I said the same thing I could have listened to him for so much longer, I agreed with every word. He speaks truth in such an engaging way.

This is a fine example of how it should be done. You have my respect.

4 times in 7 years… dang man mom was a mess

Same. I still haven't been married. Lol

Do you regret the marriage

@@RetireandGoyou need to think about what it’ll be like for a kid to grow up with older parent(s)

True especially the end.

They’re predatory scumbags the lot of them

He should be a youth counselor.

In presales...

at the end I was: "I still wanna play in the lottery" hahahaha