A Hidden Truth, Divorce and Remarriage: Insights from the Bible and C.S. Lewis 

Thank you I have been praying about these things to gain understanding and knowledge I am praying FOR my husband,he abandoned me

I don't know what he believes I am standing firm on Jesus Christ

I'm refusing divorce but ttttt I am praying FOR God's will for me and my husband ‼️

Hate the sin and love the sinner and I do ‼️🤚🏿👌🏿

Please pray for me and my husband

She told me after 16 years she loves me but not in love with me. I’m crushed. It’s been almost a year and this coming week our house will be sold and we’ll be on our on ways co-parenting 😞

​@@mikehufnagl8696awful.feel for you. Stay well

⁠​⁠@@mikehufnagl8696pray! 8 years ago my husband kicked me out of our home of 30 years. I shut myself in with God, and rejected all counsel from well meaning saints. I didn’t know what the outcome would bring, but clung to our Lord. Let’s fast forward this story. He returned to his senses, I moved back home. He remained in his sin, but I was home. He became very ill, and is now in a wheelchair, with too many infirmities to write. I am his sole caregiver. All those purveyors of division are gone. Now the hard task of caring for him lies ahead of this aging body, but I would rather the labor than the loss! Pray, fast, fight!

More needs to be said about narcissistic abuse. It slowly kills. A spouse with a narcissistic spirit is mentally ill and does not stop until the other person is destroyed. Everything about them is a lie, and was a lie from the start. You have no idea what you are caught up in until it’s too late. It doesn’t matter if you pray or cry; plead or fight. The narcissist has complete power over you, so your struggle to live won’t be done until you are done, and only scraps of your self remain. In 2012, after thirty years of marriage, and six children, God gave me the courage to drive away from my abusive spouse with my sick, elderly mother and youngest son who was fourteen. The three of us were terrified. The police were involved and I had to cut contact with my spouse. Almighty God took care of us and led the way. It took four years to muster the courage to divorce. Now, at 65, after twelve years alone, God is giving me strength to seek an annulment. I know it’s not what God wanted for me, but I desperately need His peace and closure. I am praying that His will be done, whatever that may be.

Dont give up. Anything can happen with our God.​@@mikehufnagl8696

Your much better off without this man, and if he was doing those evil things, his ministry is truly not of the gospel of the Lord Jesus Christ!

It is a terrible thing to fall into the Hands of an angry God. God will restore you and execute His Judgement with speed and finality.. Hang in there God is not asleep... Stay connected to The Lord He will restore you... Try to move on... Its not worth while stagnating... Move all be it 1 inch a day.. But try to move on and try not cry any more, he is not worth you shedding 1 more tear. Your heart will thank you.

God will repay. Vengeance is His..Stay close to The Lord..🙏💖

@@karenlynnhurt6408 Amen... And so it shall be

Sounds like a Narcissist Pastor! They're out there! Praying for you! ❤

Amen! I totally understand what you're saying. Been there.

I could not agree with this more! Narcissists are "wolves in sheep's clothing". It was 40 years for me and I got to the point that I lost my will to live. It was actually God, speaking through the Holy Spirit that told me "enough, walk away, get out". I truly believe that. I also believe God wants us to have a happy, peaceful existence which enables us to focus on our relationship with Him, and if you are in an abusive relationship there is only a focus on that dysfunctional dynamic and the abusive behavior that is stealing your sound mind. God loves us and wants the best for us. Narcissists or any abuser really is only going to take your peace and sound mind, which distances you from your relationship with God, and in my opinion, can even open the door to dark forces. Since I left and divorced, I have never felt such peace and closeness to our Lord. Not ever. I honestly believe He is the one that broke the trauma bond because I certainly couldn't do it with my own human capabilities, and Satan only wanted to keep it intact. I wholeheartedly believe ongoing abuse, and I'm not talking just physical, because I was never physically battered, is a biblical reason for divorce.

I can relate, not a marriage but a false friend. A narcissist, slandering violent wolf who not only worked to destroy me behind my back by belittling me but tried to make me mentally ill that he succeeded with many others, but I with the Lord God's WILL overcome him, told the truth that he was a destroyer of people's lifes and shut him out my life forever. These are toxic vessels of Satan sent to lower ones spiritual vibrations so there soul can be devoured. He was a tight , selfish stingy git but would take the shirt of your back if he could and wanted everyone to serve him, over took your home, eat all the food and never offered you any help in anyway inc financially, even though you were struggling and also he sold drugs ,claimed benefit and had a 5 day job. Iv been free of these toxic people for a decade and I found myself again and more importantly... I found a loving relationship and with God, Father and Son and there beautiful holy spirit 🙏✝️

@@Blessed591 I hear you. I also commented on this site and some folks I guess thinks abuse should be tolerated. May God set you free, provide for what you need in Jesus name. ✝️🙏

I had to remind myself daily, it's not about me. 🙏🏻✝️

John 8:11 Jesus told the woman caught in the act of adultery to go and sin no more. I think its still good advice.

Amen

May the Father bless, and keep you as you follow him.

Thank you. Busy reading Spurgeons Sermons on Titus. Grace, Peace and Mercy on your house.

I am in the same boat. I am praying for you my sister in Christ. Do not bend. Rely on Jesus in this time and be a faithful wife for GODS GLORY. Not because your husband deserves it. Bless you ❤

@@chrissy9876Thank you. I often have doubts about this whole marriage thing; we’ve been married for 43+ years. Go figure!

@christinereilly8829 remember adultery was the only reason one could divorce back then. It's a trust issue that is broken and a Jewish man in the comments told me that in their understanding of marriage is they are allies. Think about that The bible talks about how two cannot walk together unless they agree. And it's good to go in pairs because the two can pick each other up. So if you decide to call it quits have no remorse.

@@christinereilly8829my 15 year anniversary is on Saturday. My husband is currently living with his mom and separated from me and our 3 children who are 13, 14, and 18. I realize we have almost the same name. I’m Christina. I’m praying for you and your husband and marriage. ❤

Spiritually when 2 people have sex, there is a spiritual exchange that happens in the soul. Literally your roaming Husband is mixing with the spiritual of the other women. Which give the legal right for every one of their demons to take up resident in him. Your feelings of despair and feeling crazy could be coming from those encounters. You are in no way required to stay in that relationship. Walk away and get healed in Jesus so you can forgive him. Put it all in God's hands. You not under any religious law to stay with an adulterous man.

Then he had to have been a "Narcissist". The covert-type. Hiding their true self. This is what I experience with my ex-husband. Just awful!!! Hope that she was able to recover.

Same situation for me as well🙏

I read the other day, God commanded those married to heathens to divorce and send the wives and the children back their people. I believe there are reason for divorce. ​@@user-xg8ut5kh9j

After you do all that you can, just stand!

In many US states, adultery is not an option for divorce. They don't care why. You just file. The statistics mentioned in the video are definitely skewed because of that.

It was not the churches fault. He was raised to have his desires paramount and the heck with the wife, and she is his possession.

Heavenly Father Intervene in this union, restore their love ❤️ for each other in Jesus Mighty Name Amen

What happened to the first wife since this is your 2nd? That info is important as we pray for you

Amen!​@@healthylifewithchristie9620

When a man and woman get married and it is the first marriage for both of them, then they are in a covenant marriage (Genesis 2:24). A covenant marriage can only be ended by the death of one of the spouses (Romans 7:2-3 and 1 Corinthians 7:39). When this occurs, the surviving spouse (widow or widower) is free to marry a never-married person or another surviving covenant spouse (widow or widower), which makes the new marriage a covenant marriage. So, if you are in a covenant marriage and you divorce your covenant husband/wife, you can not marry another man/woman as long as your covenant husband/wife is still alive. If you do, you will be committing adultery (Mark 10:11-12, Luke 16:18, Romans 7:2-3). No adulterers will inherit the kingdom of God (1 Corinthians 6:9-10 and Galatians 5:19-21). So, if your second marriage is a marriage that Jesus calls adultery, believers cannot pray that God restores such a marriage. Believers can pray that God restores a covenant marriage. In order to pray in accordance with the scriptures, believers need to know if your first marriage is a covenant marriage.

@@billyford7853 I was married to a non-believer who abandoned me and left the home for almost a year. I heard/ read someone talk about the Apostle Paul referencing the abandonedment of a believer by a non-believer is another instance like adultery that can end a marriage. Any insight on that?

Just shy of 20 years for me in same dynamic. It crossed into his physical abuse of me. Narcissists have a hardness of heart as Moses described. They have no Ability to Love. They have such low self worth but make up grandiosity in themselves. It’s exhausting!

I had same situation and had to leave I was married to a Narcissist and tried everything I could to work it out but anywhere I turn whether for counseling or anything else the door was always closed. I left the marriage even though I was new Christian at the time and didn’t know scripture. I didn’t know the implications but I’m wondering 💭 I’ve been single for many years now does that mean I can’t get remarried even though I was abused, neglected unloved. This is a very hard teaching. I got in a relationship at 18 from high school got divorced at 27 and now in my fourtys I feel lonely now and wondering should I have stayed in an abusive relationship instead, that just don’t seem right. You get punished for someone who doesn’t love you yet you have to stay or get the consequences of being g alone and single since you can’t marry anymore is this correct?

@@lemerry231Incorrect. Although some say different.

@@lemerry231…. the situation really depends on when you became a Christian. If it was after the divorce then scripture would seem to say it’s ok to remarry…since your belief in Gods laws only began after you divorced.

​@@lemerry231Bible says if a man puts his wife away she is free to remarry. Your husband did that by abusing you.

Prayers ascending for you, brother...

So sorry for what you and your family are going through, sending prayers🙏

You can separate or divorce but you are to remain single and keep praying for your spouse , Jesus can save them and restore them. 1 Cor 7:10-11.

Yes, have her leave. I made my husband leave. It’s better for the children to have a peaceful home. If you don’t want to divorce her then don’t.

Prayers for you, do what’s best for your children and then pray yourself daily.

Wonderful, so there is hope for real and honest love.

According to Mark 10:11-12, Romans 7:2-3 and 1 Corinthians 7:39, you are committing adultery if your first husband is still alive. You can not marry another as long as your first husband is still alive because only death ends a covenant marriage. Because you are happy with your second husband, and he treats your daughters well, your marriage is still sinful before God. If you love the Lord, you will keep His commandments.

“Everyone who divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery, and the one who marries a woman divorced from her husband commits adultery." Luke 16:18 "A wife is bound by law as long as her husband lives; but if her husband dies, she is at liberty to be married to whom she wishes, only in the Lord." 1. Corinthians 7:39 "Now to the married I command, yet not I but the Lord: A wife is not to depart from her husband. 11 But even if she does depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband. And a husband is not to divorce his wife." 1. Corinthians 7:10-11 In some circumstances, separation may be unavoidable. But I can only see remarriage in the Bible if the spouse has died. Anything else would be adultery before God and is quite simply a serious matter.

Rom.7:10-16 read slowly and carefully; pray for understanding

hmmm 9 years ago ? I can relate. The time down that is. Every time I would bemoan the causes about "the other person", a dear friend said to me on two different occasions that "my face and voice would change......that it was not me" That was all. I was living in a self made prison of hate and unforgiveness off and on for nearly 10 years. One day , on a trip to the coast, I listened to a series from Charles Stanley on ''anger', and unforgiveness. God spoke gently to my heart .....''it is time to forgive". The hate and unforgiveness was not against my ex wife, it was against the person that spread allegations, innuendos and lies about me .......He was one slick orator to convince her of these things. All her co workers saw through this guy, and tried to get her to see .the narcissistic psyc control that this person had on her. Two counselors , and her long time friends could not reach her....... You see , "the other person" was her ex from long ago ........After the divorce, albeit too late for reconciling, she woke up . The damage was done. I lost what I thought was a life time friend ....... also, a few years after she left, she died of a brain aneurysm ..........God does not guarantee Life without heartache , He does teach us He is always there to walk with us through these things, .....and He surely did with me. Forgiving this late in life for me was not easy....it was a few weeks of faith and prayer for the Holy Spirit to work in my heart . 18 years have passed, and I am nearing 79. my singleness has been mixed.......yet I let go, and live in peace

I a so sorry, me too! :(...

That's why God hates divorce.

@@michellematthews155 indeed 🙏🥲

The Catholic faith has always taught correctly.

Do you have any idea of the effects of narcissistic abuse? Not only on wives, children and pets but also indirect family members and neighbours. Sometimes people don't realise what they are saying. Be blessed with wisdom, discernment and kindness.

@@colettenelhulett2042 Yes, I am a victim. I'll add my story later.

My wife of 25 years was a narcissist. She had at least one affair, blamed me, applied for a divorce, called the police to have me removed from the house because "she didn't want me there anymore" (no accusation of violence, verbal or emotional abuse etc.), failed to convince them so left with my young teenage children. That was four years ago and I haven't seen her or my girls since.

The courts won't listen because my girls are old enough to make their own minds up. However, my now ex wife has turned them against their loving father so that I receive no acknowledgement to any contact. I have suffered in a way I would never have thought possible and cannot explain: one week I'm the happiest man alive, 5 weeks later I lose the woman and children I loved with all my heart, I am forced from my home by a court order and have to sofa surf for a few months. So why do I say what I've said? Because I believe in God's ways. I fully forgive my wife, not only because God tells me to, but the Spirit reminds me my wife was badly sexually abused as a child and never dealt with it. Hurt people hurt people.

Never ignore evil- take up your sword of the spirit and fight it with the word of God. You are in a spiritual battle and Jesus has paid the price for you to have power over all the enemy. Luke 10:19

@@Chateautea thank you Marriage should be two people loving each other and working together Not fighting or betraying hurting the person next to you that you suppose to love I fought against my husband all my life For 40 years I wanted to leave him but I decided to pray I prayed every night for two weeks and I had a dream based on the dream I didn’t live him now after 40 years the dream has been fulfilled God was helping me all my life and I overcame evil with God help I would not be able to to do it on my own. I was able to provide with God help for my family raised 7 awesome children none of them are like him God is good

Flee from evil.

I'm also with a narcissistic husband,and I'm also 63 yrs old.i'm seeing a counselor right now.shrs helping me through this.otsakinhe stronger to make the best move,and that is to move on to a better life.I'll pray for you! don't give up!

In Biblical times, some, men not wanting to pay out the wife according to the law, ( 2yrs of income) would merely send her back to her family. "Put her away" is the term not divorce and give her back her freedom. Meaning she was still a married woman and could not remarry. Through the years things get lost in translation. Has anyone managed to change a narcissist into a Godly man? This is an honest question. Unless you were married to one, you would not know the depth of that evil.

Yep the gift of being single.

The closer you are to HIM the easier it is. It just almost comes naturally for the most part when He truly is your 1st love.

@@tinaregeneratedlady3476 HE is my first love, which is why I have abandoned earthly needs, but because they are earthly, it is difficult for a human living in an earthly body.

You are not called to do it in your own strength but through the grace and power of the Holy Spirit who dwells in you when you believe that Jesus is the Lord of your life and He has taken away all your sins and called you to be righteous and holy not by your works But by you believing in his works

Your husband needs a deliverance. Many Christians don’t understand spiritual. Gods is not in your husband’s relationship with that woman. Think about it, if God is not in it, who is? Satan and he is a deceiver.

sorry for the pain you are going through. May God‘s love be your comfort during this time. You will heal and you will blossom.

Are you married to the same person or do you have a new spouse

@@jou630 new spouse

Often the problem lies in one who truly won't repent.

@@tinaregeneratedlady3476 Or when one decides to leave the marriage.

Father in The Mighty Name of Jesus Christ bring them back together, restore their love ❤️ for each other

@@healthylifewithchristie9620 Thank you!

God is a miracle working God! Stay strong in the Lord, and in his word. He does amazing things!!!! 🙏🙏🙏

You weren’t a believer then… how could you have known? God is Good and Fair. Your marriage now brings glory. We can always ask for forgiveness for our past but never dwell on the past. 😊

There must have been a reason or reasons why you divorced. Maybe you married for a worldly reason in the first place. So your marriage was never really blessed. I think if you feel you are ok with God, so accept it and let go after such a long time.

I am in the same situation, and worried I’m living in sin.

God is God of All whether pagan or a believer. As long as you married and you invited family. A covenant was made. Remarrying after the first marriage is a sin. That is why Paul said that if a married non believer leaves you because of Christ it’s ok and free to leave BUT you can stay with them as the marriage is VALID. (1 Corinthian 7). This shows that Christ blessed that Union even before salvation.

You can ONLY marry one time and that’s for Life. Regardless who you marry whether believer or non believer

Lord we pray. This Person marriage. We ask you to reveal to them. The truth. Which it’s only comes through you Jesus. We ask Lord that you protect them and they will finish well in this world. ❤✝️🙏

If you don’t want God, just admit it and move on. We don’t need excuses. Stay blessed🙏💜

Exactly!

100 percent. Feminism is the the enemy of happy marital life. Its rig is are ina the concept of vict8mization .

This. Right. Here. Like JESUS said it very specifically and it’s covered in more than 1 gospel. Why state it for confusions sakes? But no, the ppl just don’t want to believe

@@pigjubby1 Forgiven that means God remembers our sin no more! What good is it if abuse leads to harm or even death. God sees our beginning and end. He has a purpose for your future. Keep the faith. God loves you!

Amen 🙏

I disagree. Sorry

thats why i show no emotion it shows weakness

God send you the right people and heal you and your family and make the changed and give you all that missing in you and your family

Pray & Ask Jesus for a creative mircle to restore & reconcile your children back with you. Amen 🙏🏻💙✝️

May the Lord help you to find wise counsel that is rooted in the unadulterated word of God. In the meantime, seek the Lord with your whole heart. This means with everything within you and you will find Him. Ask Him to lead and guide you into all truth and to direct you in all you do. If you do this and trust Him, He will do it. Also, study your Bible daily and look for God to speak to you through His word. Be encouraged, you are not alone.

I'm sorry to hear about the abuse you experienced in your marriage, however, I would like to share what the Bible says about marriage, divorce and remarriage. When a man and woman get married and it is the first marriage for both of them, then they are in a covenant marriage (Genesis 2:24). A covenant marriage can only be ended by the death of one of the spouses (Romans 7:2-3 and 1 Corinthians 7:39). When this occurs, the surviving spouse (widow or widower) is free to marry a never-married person or another surviving covenant spouse (widow or widower), which makes the new marriage a covenant marriage. So, if you are in a covenant marriage and you divorce your covenant husband/wife, you can not marry another man/woman as long as your covenant husband/wife is still alive. If you do, you will be committing adultery (Mark 10:11-12, Luke 16:18, Romans 7:2-3). No adulterers will inherit the kingdom of God (1 Corinthians 6:9-10 and Galatians 5:19-21). I have not found any provisions in the Bible for annulment of covenant marriages. If you can provide any, please do. Thank you.

Why are you regretting ? What made you leave ??

@@Blessed591 He is a covert narcissist. We had counseling for 1,5 years, but nothing ever changed. I don’t know how I would be now had I not left. Would I have come in contact with the person thanks to whom I got saved? I don’t know and I will have to make peace with where I am now, pretty peaceful thanks to my belief in Jesus Christ. But I keep thinking, had I been saved during my marriage, maybe things could have been healed?

​@@Josefien59 ​@Josefien59 I was saved when I got married . . . It didn't matter how much I prayed fasted or cried , which I did through out the marriage . But God kept showing me this man cheating in my dreams . . . I dismissed them as insecurity on my part . . . He had hardened his heart . . . Eventually when the scales fell off my eyes , I saw him clearly for what he was . And God showed me to leave him otherwise I would be completely broken . God gave me the strength and provided everything I needed to leave . . . And showed me where to go . . . So I left and have been in isolation since then . I am healing . The biggest thing that has happened is that God has brought me back into the fold . I have developed an intimate relationship with God and would not want to go back to my spouse because living with him was forcing me to compromise my faithfulness to God in the sense that trying to change this guy and keep the marriage together had become my religion . . . an idol . Since I left God has been pointing me to Himself and I understand what that means . That's it's only God who can love me and provide for me in the way that I need . . He knows that I know that He has my back . No turning back ever.

If his heart is changed, REMARRY

Maybe reconcile, otherwise stay single.

The gospel is not about us, it’s about us submitting to God. Mercy and Grace is about God giving His Son up for the forgiveness of our sins, not so we can put our feelings over His standards. At the end times their will be a great deception don’t deceive yourself to justify sin.

Henry you need to show you’re just making statements..your comment was: you can divorce but you not remarry as long as your partner is still alive..what scripture teaches this rightly divided? The Bible saids: to prove all things hold fast that which is good 1st Thess 5:21.. what scripture Henry teache your initial statement.. Your next point again what scripture teaches what you’re saying? Here’s your statement: For what Paul said he never mention divorce but rather separate..what scripture teaches this? Hope to hear back from you

Fornication not unfaithfulness

@@TopQuality-ms6uf what?

This sounds very legalistic . . .

This is the truth. It isn't legalistic. It's the words of the Bible. Unless God tells you personally what he wants for you, you are in perpetual adultery if you remarry. The disciples themselves said "then it is better not to marry." If you aren't in it for life, don't get married.

@@Blessed591Right, who’d want to get married then if you joyfully marry someone gladly looking forward to forging a union with them and building a God honoring family, etc and then they reveal that they hate you, despise you, ridicule you, abuse you and on and on and God “says” to stay or go somewhere and pray whether it’s reconciled or not. Nope Know a lady right now waiting for her husband to come home for prison. He’s in there for molesting the daughters. “Better” to be with him than to go through life spouse less. 🤦‍♀️

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Well here’s the thing there are greys that are not addressed in the Bible and I don’t agree with you at all, if someone beats the hell out of there wife and the wife’s decided to leave, I don’t think it’s God will tell anyone for the sake of keeping a covenant stay in abusive relationship whether it is physical or emotional. We all make mistakes my conviction is just like any other sin or any other religious act, Jesus came to abolish the law but he mentioned these things so we can know what’s right so folks aren’t doing stuff out of flesh and saying hey I’ve been married for 20 years I’m tied of you now, so that’s more along the lines of what’s being said, which is why Jesus was always mad at the Pharisees and Religious leaders of that day, they had the law down pack to the letter but they themselves couldn’t keep it. I want you to put the shoes on you or your mom or someone you love and give me a straight answer if you were abused in anyway by another person and tried everyone you could to work it out but it didn’t work out to me that is more of a foundational issue and two people purposes were not aligned in the first place. Marriage is not just about Love but its about purpose. Hence, so many people throw out there the scripture what “God” joined together let no man put asunder key word: “God” what he put together and you violate that based on shallow things such as the flesh etc than you may not have other alternatives, however I’ve seen many people who have divorced because they did not marry their God ordained spouse Hence everything came to ruins because God never put that relationship together in the first place. If you got married at 16 and didn’t know what you were doing and then at 25 got divorced. I don’t believe God will tell at 25 year old hey you got a divorce even though you and that person couldn’t reconcile your differences hence you are stuck for life never to find a mate again: I don’t think so. People take stuff from the Bible so literal and out of context that continues to put people in bondage, Hence people living a miserable life over one mistake they made and can’t get remarried. No I don’t agree. I agree that every situation is a case by case basis and God is the Judge, I’ve remarried and I don’t feel condemned because I know why I left a narcissist, I bent over backwards and forward to the moon and back to try to work out and the conclusion was, I wasn’t with the person God ordained me to be with I put myself in that relationship not him. That is the answer!

If your first marriage was also your first husband's marriage, then you were in a covenant marriage with him. So, if your first husband is still alive, then you and your second husband are committing adultery (Mark 10:11-12, Luke 16:18, and Romans 7:2-3). No adulterers will inherit the kingdom of God if they do not repent and forsake their adultery (1 Corinthians 6:9-10 and Galatians 5:19-21). You are free to remarry only when your covenant spouse is dead (Romans 7:2-3 and 1 Corinthians 7:39). I hope this helps.

@godgavemeeyestosee you're wrong. You don't stay in an unsafe marriage when you have a child to support, and your husband said he would kill you. Sorry, but God wouldn't want anyone to stay in a marriage where your spouse threatened you.

@@fighterpilot247 I never said anyone should stay with a spouse where they may be abused or killed. Anyone in this situation needs to get to safety ASAP. I simply stated that the Bible teaches that divorce and remarriage is adultery (Mark 10:11-12, Luke 16:18, Romans 7:2-3). One can only remarry after the death of a covenant spouse (Romans 7:2-3 and 1 Corinthians 7:39).

So you are calling Jesus a liar. He said it is adultery to remarry with a spouse still alive (Luke 16:18). Grace does not cover sin. Any Christian who murders a person can not cover their sin and get away with it and the same goes foe adultery.

There is no such thing taught in the New Testament like remarriage after divorce and not a single "exception clause" can be found by any sincere and honest Bible reader. Matthew 19:9 "And I Yeshua say to you, whoever divorces his wife except for (previous) sexual immorality, and MARRIES ANOTHER, COMMITS ADULTERY and whoever marries her WHO IS DIVORCED COMMITS ADULTERY." Divorcees who try to theologically justify their remarriage are twisting the text of the Apostle Paul in 1 Corinthians 7: 11-15: "But even if the wife does depart, LET HER REMAIN UNMARRIED or be reconciled to her husband, and a husband is not to divorce his wife... 7:15: If the unbeliever departs, let him depart, a brother or a sister IS NOT IN BONDAGE in such cases. But God has called us to peace. For how do you know O wife whether you will save your husband, or how do you know O husband whether you will save your wife?" Whoever wants to misinterpret vers 15 saying that "being not in bondage " are 4 words that allow the innocent part of the couple to look for a new partner and for remarriage, will be severely corrected by Paul in vers 11 (let her/him REMAIN unmarried) and by Yeshua in: Matthew 5:31-32 ""Furthermore it has been said, 'whoever divorces his wife, let him give her a certificate of divorce', but I Yeshua say to you that whoever divorces his wife for any reason , except sexual immorality (after she already committed adultery beforehand) CAUSES HER TO COMMIT ADULTERY; and whoever marries a woman who is divorced commits adultery" These 3 passages don't need explaining as much as they need believing! In the eyes of Yeshua the ungodly act of simply leaving his/her partner alone, is already exposing him/her to search a new partner and consequently put him/her in danger to BECOME AN ADULTERER (please underline that Yeshua says here "ADULTERER" and by using that word he never meant "an innocent and abandoned believer, legitimately allowed by me Yeshua, to remarry" !) Among all the evangelical church shepherds that I heard teaching on divorce and remarriage, about 80 percent allow this exception clause advocating for a blessed church remarriage, speculating on Paul's words "the sister is not in bondage". On the other hand, in an very hypocritical way, those same church pastors preach outloud against "LGBTQ - sinners", while protecting, blessing and remarying "adulterer-sinners" who would have been punished by death in the days of Moses because of the law "you shall not commit adultery!" One among those pastors is Dani Sayag (july 1st 2017) in: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-gtpfYhFpMwE.htmlsi=i7q71EoeWb4DAAc8 Those shepherds should publicly and humbly repent on the same social media where they deceived thousands , if they want to escape the divine curse mentioned in Revelation 22:18 that will fall on all false teachers who add non existing "exception clauses" to Scripture. (included in this group are John Mcarthur, Billy Graham, Dr. Michael Brown (askdrbrown), Vlad Shavshuk, Chuck Smith, David Wilkerson, Jack Hibbs, with many other evangelical top-theologians) Is remarriage after divorce allowed by God Creator? According the holy scriptures: No! And Doctor David Pawson perfectly explained WHY NOT: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-SpKNBw4j_6o.html "Those who have got ears to hear, let them listen!"

@user-ri4wd2pf3n, I agree.

Maybe you are neglectful. Perhaps God wants you to work on yourself and go to therapy. After times like these, women reexamine their lives and determine not to tolerate unacceptable situations. Maybe her heart appears cold because she is angry at your lack of gentleness and consideration. Maybe the change starts with you. If you love her, seek out a therapist first for yourself.it may be the best thing you could do for both of youm

I also really loved him. I tried to stay with him. Now, I need to be in recovery and make some attempt to forgive him on some level. He is really too old to change his narcissistic behavior and personality

He must have hated me, because I started to see fists. And that is not all, as he shoved me into his metal music stand, when I saw stars and heard bells from the hard hit to my head. I had a hard lump that I can still feel to this day. He had admitted that he was mad with me about something but would not be clear about. I think that he agreed that he was mad with me for accidently falling to sleep during our prayer time. But he had been putting me through many nights of "sleep deprivation" and I was so tired and sleepy after being awake for 20 hours.

Thank you for this response Sheila. I have struggled so much with this topic. I was married for 20 years and then divorced a drug addicted, gambling addict. I am now happily remarried to a new man for 8 years now. I always worry if I’m living in perpetual adultery and will go to hell or not be taken in the rapture. Your answer gave me some comfort. Thank you.

@@elliewilson2529 Ellie - Don’t feel alone. When I really matured in God, I to struggled with this remarriage matter and how different pastors view this topic. Remarrying is a sin (it’s adultery). But remember what God told the woman who was caught in adultery? He said, “Go, and sin no more.” Therefore, we don’t continue to commit that same since once we’ve truly repented. I remarried and it’s been 7 years…it was not the greatest experience of my life because I had to reap some stuff. But, thank God for His grace and mercy. I’m hanging in there and trusting God along the way. Stay blessed and keep the faith in our God.

@@sheilariley9962 This is the best supportive answer people do not know the ends and outs of a person's life. We have to show mercy and grace not condoning any sin but rather going to God in prayer to help each other in the body of Christ.

​You ARE living in continuous adultery unless you confess your adultery to God and forsake the adultery. Repenting of sin always includes forsaking the sin. Don't fool yourself. "He who covers his sins will not prosper, But whoever confesses and forsakes them will have mercy (Proverbs 28:13 NKJV)."

​"For the grace of God that bringeth salvation hath appeared to all men, Teaching us that, denying ungodliness and worldly lusts, we should live soberly, righteously, and godly, in this present world; (Titus 2:11-12 KJV)" I agree that we should show love and grace to one another, but we also must tell the truth that to remarry after divorcing a covenant spouse is to commit adultery and that to be forgiven for any sin, including the sin of adultery, you have to forsake the sin. You cannot stay in an adulterous marriage and think that God has forgiven you for adultery. Grace teaches us to deny sin, in this case adultery, not stay in it. Please obey the word of God.

Amen

God's marriage to Israel was a shocker.

He said Go and sin no more. If that’s not a rebuke I don’t know what is.

That was the woman caught In adultery the other one was at the well in samaria She had five husbands and the sixth she wasn't married to!

The woman at the well was clearly unsaved and the purpose for Jesus talking to her was to bring her salvation. You have to catch a fish before you can clean it.

Marriage is a covenant. She didn't want it anymore.

@@dw3403 she also actually stated that few times. What a misery we can go trough. Thank you for your response...

1 Corinthians 7:10-16 10 ¶ But to the married I give instructions, not I, but the Lord, that the wife is not to leave her husband 11 (but if she does leave, she must remain unmarried, or else be reconciled to her husband), and that the husband is not to fndivorce his wife. 12 ¶ But to the rest I say, not the Lord, that if any brother has an unbelieving wife, and she consents to live with him, he must not fndivorce her. 13 And fnif any woman has an unbelieving husband, and he consents to live with her, she must not fndivorce her husband. 14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified through fnher believing husband; for otherwise your children are unclean, but now they are holy. 15 Yet if the unbelieving one is leaving, fnlet him leave; the brother or the sister is not under bondage in such cases, but God has called fnus in peace. 16 For how do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?

The two shall no longer be two but one flesh.. therefore, Let no one separate what Yahweh has joined as one Including yourselves.

@parinazaz4044 Did you read the story of the women who had 4 husband's? Keep in mind she could not ask for a divorce so the husband's she had had divorced her. Read why Moses told them they could divorce their wives with a letter to the priest. The pharicees asked him about that and what he told them was. Because of your cold hearts. Go back to rhe beginning of the bible where God laid out what he wanted. And that was people without cold hearts but of flesh. It's not a wonder the laws were written on stone. Also God himself declares a divorce from his own people. So before you go and try to make people follow laws that only brought death. Realize we were redeemed from the curse of the law.

So a woman cannot divorce a man because she is a woman? What? But a man can because he is a man? Make your statement make sence. IF someone is abusive and refuses to get help and deliverance they are narccissts and dangerous. IF you are with a narccisst you are with the devil. That is never the will of God for his children. God is mot abusive to tell his daughters to stay in toxic abusive marriages.

You're not alone. We sin intentionally and at times in ignorance. None of us are to sin. Oh, if we could only go back with today's wisdom; to never have done what we did, Like David did with Bathsheba. David asked for forgiveness. We can't go back in time.

I left and it turned out to be better for me & my children mentally, physically, and spiritually, financially. Wow I'm thinking of all those biblical people we look up to, the patriarchs who were living in sin. Men with multiple wives, so many like Abraham who sent away Hagar, Jacob with both Rachel & Leah. Esther who the king took as a wife after he sent Vashti away for wrong reasons. David (a man after God's own heart), Solomon, Hosea, woman caught in adultery who Jesus didn't condemn, woman at the well who became essentially the 1st evangelist, so many more examples...what about them? 🔥

Jesus mentioned that a woman can divorce her husband: Mark 10:12 (KJV) And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth adultery.

@@Jer20.9 so I suppose I lived in adultery in God's eyes for 30 years with a man who didn't physically abuse me, ridicule me, mentally manipulate me, but who treated my children well & made sure our needs were met and that we were loved & cared about. I guess I'm okay now since he's now dead & I'm alone 😔 Two are better than one...Ecclesiastes 4:9 so now I can never have better again because of my 1st husbands sinful ways. What a wonderful & loving God to treat a faithful, serving daughter that way. 😢 Jesus paid our sin debt. I didn't realize I had to suffer struggling alone for decades because of my 1st husbands sins for the rest of my life as well. 🤦‍♀️ seriously!?

When a man and woman get married and it is the first marriage for both of them, then they are in a covenant marriage (Genesis 2:24). A covenant marriage can only be ended by the death of one of the spouses (Romans 7:2-3 and 1 Corinthians 7:39). When this occurs, the surviving spouse (widow or widower) is free to marry a never-married person or another surviving covenant spouse (widow or widower), which makes the new marriage a covenant marriage. So, if you are in a covenant marriage and you divorce your covenant husband/wife, you can not marry another man/woman as long as your covenant husband/wife is still alive. If you do, you will be committing adultery (Mark 10:11-12, Luke 16:18, Romans 7:2-3). No adulterers will inherit the kingdom of God (1 Corinthians 6:9-10 and Galatians 5:19-21). Also, none of the other wives in the polygamous marriage are considered wives in God's eyes. Only the first wife is the "real" in God's eyes because she is the covenant wife. We are under the New Testament, and God is no longer winking at polygamous marriages that were practiced under the Old Testament. Read Matthew 19:4-6 and Mark 10:6-9 where Jesus restored marriage back to God's original design, and Acts 17:30 which says that God no longer winks at sin. Polygamous marriages are sinful for the husband and his second, third, etc wives because they are committing adultery. I hope this helps.😮