A Lack Of Friends Means That You're... 

making friends is insanely hard for me, keeping them is even harder; i just keep pushing everyone away and i dont even know why

Remember. Keep your circle small. Quality over quantity. Furthermore, dont expect them to stay. Not everyone is happy for your growth and success. Finally, never forget that the loneliest experience in the world is not being alone. Its being with people who makes you feel alone. Choose your friends wisely.

“Real friends are like diamonds: Expensive and rare. Fake friends are like autumn leaves.. *they are everywhere* “

"Friendships come and go, but your relationship with yourself is forever." Those are golden words to me 😊

I don't want YT aiming constantly at my weaknesses, I guess algorithm knows a lot about me

I don't feel comfortable with a lot of people, that's why I dont keep many friends

Lack of friends means I'm a big boy who's gotta be tough everytime even if it kills me...

Timestamp! -0:24 Stoic wisdom on friendships -0:55 You embrace your true nature -1:29 It might not be you, but them -2:22 Life is ever changing, so are you -3:11 You understand the essence of true friendship -3:50 Can signify inner peace and fulfillment

Being a person who is constantly lonely and losing friends…this was kinda comforting. I do have a small circle of online friends, but the IRL circle is empty.

I am a very forgettable person when it comes to socializing, if I don't do anything people will just forget that I exist, but when I make myself known I suddenly become visible to those people, it's basically my superpower

Other young people just seem so cold, rude and selfish these days.. Idk if it's because of social media but it makes me feel more disconnected and lonely for sure

The title just made me cry..

One good thing about not having a family or friends is that after I die, nobody would feel sad nor even care about my nonexistence.

I can safely say I don't have friends as of today. The thing is, I completely understand the value of friendship and connecting with others (and I'm still figuring out what kind of friend do I want to be), but I've been walking a path where I'm not negotiating my worth, my values nor my well-being in exchange for not being on my own. Not anymore. I'm alone, yes, but never lonely.

Im sorry but the narrator for this has a very nice voice very calming i need him to read a bed time story 😭

When you said that friendships doesn't end, but actually they've been completed, it made me cry a few tears.

For me, not having friends has actively made my life worse. I feel like I lead a very boring life, and don't do anything interesting, and that includes not hanging out with anyone, which just makes me feel empty. I live alone with my mother, but she's away a lot because she hangs out with her boyfriend, meaning that I'm often home alone for days if not weeks at a time. While I can handle being alone, after a while, I start to feel lonely, and as is important to know, there's a HUGE difference between the two. People say that forming connections, whether platonic or romantic, is best when it happens naturally, and while I agree with this, I always end up asking: "Ok, but where do I go to form them? Where do I find people?" This is what frustrates me the most about making friends or finding love, I have no idea what to do about it. I have considered dating apps (for friends too in cases like Bumble) but I hear so many bad things about them, especially from men, and since I am one, it really turns me off from them. As for going out, I feel screwed in that way too. I'm not attending school, where I live doesn't have a lot of "third spaces" or such to hang out with people, and while I'm starting a new job soon, it's completely up in the air if I'll have time to talk to people, and if there'll be people my age working there too. I don't mean to disrespect people who prefer being alone, but I just can't understand them at all. Like I said, not having friends just makes me feel worse, and I just don't know what to do about it. And even if I did find a place to make them, I also have social anxiety and am autistic, which makes forming connections even harder. Also, because of how boring my life is, I wonder if I'd be able to connect with others at all, since I feel I'd have no stories to tell about my life. Plus, people always say to work on yourself, and while it's good to do that, most of the areas in which I'd want to work on myself revolve around feeling lonely, and you can't fix that by yourself, that literally makes no sense. It's also ironic, I grew up on only child, so I never had to learn to share, but now more than ever, I want someone to share my life with. I also have a good life in terms of my hobbies (video games, music, RU-vid videos, etc.) which I'm happy about, but I would be so much happier if I could share them with others. I can't even remember the last time I played a multiplayer game with someone else. I really want to have faith that I'll find some great friends (or even love) one day, but it's really hard to with how my life has gone so far. I definitely won't give up and will try one day, and I do hope for the best, but I'm not gonna get my hopes up too much.

Forgotten. I dropped off the face of the earth, and they all just let me.

Is it just me but this channel is like a therapeutic friend to me advising and letting me know about ppl

Disconnect the fake friends, kick back, empower yourself, and enjoy whatever life throws at ya

I always loved having less friends! Tbh, big groups are chaotic and i get drained from socializing easily

Arrived at the perfect time 😭

And during my college life, I got alienated for many reasons. One of them is this: I remembered I had to deal with a really emotional classmate of mine during group activities in a prestigious university (in my home country the Philippines). I was often labeled as a freeloader and a worthless student (when in reality, I did a fairly decent amount of work). Another day, she got so angry at me because of the same reason. We had a talk with my professor on that, and the blame was put all on me. When the whole class saw it, they gave me a negative look, I was unfairly humiliated. It is sad that my professor never saw my side of the story (only her side). After all of that, I am seen as worthless and I became a huge loser in my university.

I have never had any friends at all because I find hard and annoying having someone outside your family and in this world, it's hard to trust people

I'm someone who had many friends though only 2 actually cared enough about me and my interests to stay. Everyone else just expected me to be like them so I cut my ties to them best choice of my life. I have 2 great friends

I learned the hard way that its better to have no friends than bad friends. When I was younger, I used to be friends with people who I knew weren't good people because i had no one else to be friends with. All those friendships ended HORRIBLY. So even though i am painfully lonely nowadays, i am very cautious about who i allow in my life

This video makes me feel a lot better about having few friends but if anyone wants a friend ill be one

I’ve reached 36 and can say I’ve honestly given up with people. Two of my closest friends became distant last year and I’d not changed. I just got fed up with me being the only one to plan to meet up and so I stopped and they stopped reaching out to me. People are exhausting 😅

As someone who doesn’t have any friends or a boyfriend I am still learning how to cope with being alone and learning how to be ok with being alone/single some days it is harder than other days but for me it is getting easier and some day I will find the right friends even if it’s a few or one person to be my friend I will still be grateful for it.

I’m so used to being alone that I don’t know how to be a good friend. I’ve never felt like I fit in or was accepted anywhere, so I guess at some point I just stopped trying.

Wanted to chat with old school friends, but distance makes us fall apart... True Friendships doesn't end bcz of this reasons, but when uh r the only one, who is living elsewhere, it hurts you... They start to make uh feel lonely

I have gotten used to being the one alone at the table, going places alone, doing things alone. Friends have gotten used to me not going along with everything and know I need time without people. I very seldom feel lonely even though I am alone much of the time.

I don’t have one human friend, and the loneliness is getting to me!

I have my best friend's in my life. God, my kids, and of course myself.

With this day and age, making friends is basically unheard of. I for someone who consistently tries too make sure others are okay, have a suprising lack of friends lol (probably because of anxiety). (eitherway, for those who look for friends in any sort of way, make sure you find the ones like you, the ones that have the same interests) Please do not go into websites too find friends, it can work but most of the time it leads too fake friends or people who use and manipulate you. ^ perosonal experience. Sorry for the long message but too those who read or didn't and will never know...i hope you have a genuinely great time and the best of luck!

I only have one irl friend, and we've known each other since 3rd grade. We still keep in touch since our graduation of highschool, and not a day goes by where I don't text them good morning and good night.

“In a world full of noise, there is something truly powerful about embracing your own silence.” WOOOOOOW!

Its like the only people that are there are in my head, some of those are dead and others are not even real.

i don't have friends because i find most people are flaky. they say they care, but they really don't. #4 and #5 are so true for me

I just feel like it’s hard to keep my friends nowadays, everytime I do something careless on accident, the friendship will be completed

I have enough friends, but there’s just one thing I don’t feel complete without; a girlfriend. All I want is someone to love.

Thanks I needed this ,all my friends have pictures with each other and they never have me in them ,and I know social media is fake ,when I'm having fun last thing I want to do is take my phone out ,but i realize I don't need to change for anyone I am ambitious and don't need friends who bring me down

This is easily the most wholesome RU-vid channel I know of.

It's so hard for me to make friends. I prefer being surroundee by family. And I'm good with it I was told many times before to be friends with people I'm surrounded with, because I go to church But for me, IT'S SO HARD TO FORCE RELATIONSHIPS. I even stress over it because I just can't I'm shy, not really good with interaction, socially awkward. Majority of the time my interests do not match with the people I'm surrounded with So I just distance myself and so do they. Which is also painful but I got used to it. But deep down I do want to have friends that I can share what I like and bond over that.

This is why 2020 didn't affect me at all, I've always valued my solitude, it gaves me time to understand myself better. I have such a good relationship with myself that I don't even feel like I need friends, I respect myself more than others seem to do...

His voice is so comforting 😌

I lost one of my best friends a couple days ago. I'm so incredibly heartbroken but I really hope that I can find friendship similar to the friendship I had with them again. Thank you psych2go, your videos help some of us more than you know.

There is a difference between being lonely and being alone, and I’m glad that this video came out… it helps a lot with understanding oneself and also understanding those of us that like to keep a small circle or be alone.

You guys are like therapy to me. I feel like ive been going through a rough patch, but when i come to watch your videos it helps release some stuff off my mind.

Well, I've recently had to let some friends go because of some things they did that deeply upset me. The idea of those friendships being complete feels at stark contrast to the wounds where the friendships used to be

As always, this video comes with the right topic at the right time... 👍🏻

I love this I really needed something like this cause I lack friends myself

It hits hard when you're so early that you don't see the time stamp comments

I had some of the thoughts mentioned after a social gathering today. I needed to see this! Thank you.

I've had many friends. It is EXHAUSTING. There are so many relationships to manage, balance, and nuances to keep an eye on. I have 6 friends across the country. Some I'm more emotionally involved with. The others treat me how I treat them. We go months without talking, but a quick phone call is as if we had just hung out yesterday. I'd rather have a handful of nurtured relationships over a bucket of obligations.

What I disliked about school, aside from being up so early, was having to say goodbye to my friends when I graduate. Sure, you might end up seeing two or three in highschool or college again, but for the most part, you and your friends are gonna go in a different direction. I have reached out to a few but they’re often more busy or have kids to look after. It’s understandable, but can be lonely. I don’t know why it’s harder as an adult to make friends. Maybe the world is just more dangerous now and you grow skeptical of who people are.

I've been trying to reach out more to my friends and classmates from college and high school. No expectations of them replying, just putting myself out there.

I’ve learned that I aam very picky about who I let close to me. I’m highly observant and skilled in recognizing people who aren’t genuine, from a distance. I can’t expect my social circle to be the same as people who let everyone in, or don’t have discernment skills. I’m positive that I’ll connect with atleast one genuine person some day, who will never make me feel like we need to separate. Just haven’t experienced that yet.

Thank you! I feel relieved. Needed this. 😊

These always seem to come at the right time. I'm in LA, and been finding that its harder to make friends here compared to other places I lived at. I've been attending different meetups, and learning that there are a lot of people who aren't worth my time. It's draining trying to get approval from certain groups of people. I'm learning more about who I am, and what I'm looking for. The few friends that I've made, I really value. At times, I wished I was more seen and more popular. I haven't been very successful with dating lately. A bigger friend circle could help with dating. In the meantime, I'll try to explore more, enjoy my own company, and spend time with my hobbies.

I’ll find this insightful because as an introvert, I see where I’ve learned to be cordial with people I meet but in terms of bringing people close to me being selective. But as an only child being OK to be alone, this video helps me see like it’s OK. And it’s OK to celebrate the times when you’re with everybody and relish in the times when you’re alone as well and be OK with wherever you are, and with whoever you are

I’m like this but I often tell people that being alone isn’t synonymous with being lonely some people prefer solitude

I really needed to hear this. I’ve been struggling with loneliness and trying to find the friendships I used to have. Wondering if I was not trying hard enough to find friends. This helped me realize that I am doing my best, and that it’s ok to not be a super social person or be able to make friends easily. I won’t stop going to events and places, or stop talking to my coworkers, but this video helps remove the pressure and just be myself. I also do like having moments to myself, and it helps to know that’s ok too.

There were people who tried to be friends with me, but I knew it wouldn't work out. I'm just not interested in having friends, because I'm fine with my family. I see so many people who are desperate for friends, and I feel like something is wrong with me because I don't feel the need to have them.

i don't have desire for connection only thing i got from friends is disappointment.

I have always struggled to keep friends I seem to make them easily but a lot of my friends never actually stay for that long so over the years I've kind of just given up making friends deliberately. I now leave up to the other person to approach me and then I put in the effort, I don't know if it's wrong but it's exhausting to put in so much effort only to have them drop you anyway. Edit: I do want to add that I do have a few friends but only one of them I can speak to about anything and everything. She's truly my heart and soul and it's funny because she became my friend right after my best friend of 7 years left me with no explanation. I was ready to just give up on everything and then this literal ray of sunshine came into my life and just showed me honest kindness and patience. It's now 6 years later and I have never been happier with someone being so present in my life before❤

i love this channel and i came here to search for another video while im deeply feeling lonely and guess what? i found this video at the perfect time! now before saying thank you i just feel like yes i am adult enough to understand that its okay to be alone somtimes and to not have a bestiiiie if there is a good friend its good.. if not its not the end of the world i'll enjoy and live my life and do the things that make me happy because why not? thank you psych2go i really do love your videos ❤

I have friends, but like, I dont feel any special connection to them?? Idk. Its like i worry about them, im happy for them, but its like our friendship is nothing?? IDKKK, its like i dont feel like i belong with any friend group

making or keeping friends now that I am a mom is the hardest thing ever.

I've completely given up. It hurts less. I turned my heart to stone.

I like how the video talk about how it okay to not have fiends, this is an opportunity to have a deeper connection with oneself an and to see what one is really like. Thank you for opening my mind to this kind of thought

I love this its exactly how i am a person whon cherishes true relationships over superficial friendships abd im indeed a lone wolf someone whom prefers time alone over time spent making other people happy just for apearences i also thought i was broken because no one would talk to me and would look at me like i was nobody not worth their time when in reality its the other way around they arent worth my time and efort to be someone im not thank you for this video 😁

Thanks, I needed that. I never realised how much better of now as I am. I find that ocasional companionship is okay but a person hanging around you for hours can be annoying at times even if the person doesn't mean any harm but like me has a need for companionship. Maybe he feels he has no friends to speak of and he sees me as the only one who can give some comfort.

Me being introvert makes everyone abit feel "not my vibe" because I'm surely surrounded by extroverts who likes to do things as if no one cares and sure enough, I don't like those things and I have different interests than them that makes me feel overwhelmingly unwelcome to any circle of friends. No one talks to me not untill they want something from me like a favor and just makes me even feel not okay. Add the fact that when everyone actually talks about my aura, they say I look gloomy and terrifies them. It kinda hurts on my part because I'm trying my best to atleast talk but eventually I just kinda go with it cauz no one's gonna like a different and wierd looking ghurl in class. But I'm still thankful for the one and only bff I have that stayed even in my lowest

I want friends but I’m tired of parasocial friendships rather have no friends

I had lots of friends when I was young but I don't think I was truly friends with most of them, now I'm wary of who I'm friends with

This video was just what I needed. Thank you 💜

Wow I didn't expect such a positive video, about lonelyness. Thank you☺️

I appreciate how kind this person's voice is

i recently moved to a new school, ive made a lot of friends but most of them have their own friend. so i was feeling so lonely since nobody approaches me whenever im alone. this video absolutely changed my perspective, thank you :))

Not me just talking about this with my sis 24 seconds before this dropped, so needed🙏

I used to have many friends but after the pandemic I lost all of them, its hard to find a true and good friend nowadays. I feel so lonely I feel like Im cursed or the world hates me.

Thank you. I needed this!

I was not popular in school. It wasn’t until I hit college that I made more connections with people. My friend Bethany said it best “what I lack in quantity, I make up in quality.”

I have always been very happy on my own and contented with who I am am. I have been single for 25 years and have just two friends who are great but see occasionally for a catch-up. I travel abroad on my own three times a year and love to rest and read by the beach and swim. I never feel lonely just blessed to feel so happy. I always make friends on my holidays but being alone means I can choose to do my own things.

I was in a situation for a few months and continueing now of not having friends and being lonely because my autism/lonewolf makes it hard to communicate to people, this video really touched me and made me feel better, I will do my best to stay strong and look to a bright future.

I needed to hear this. Thank you!

Everyone is so obsessed with with solitude being a hot topic. As you get older and further, further away from school, you become less and less hyper social. You grow up being surrounded by 100's, 1000's of people everyday. You begin to realize that ever person that you surround yourself, you take on somewhat of the negative/positives that they are going through in life. This just a normal flow of life that everyone goes through in life, as you become more and more independent and navigate through adulthood. There isn't any fomo needed to be have when it comes to missing out on connections that aren't meant to be. They aint that important...

Self isolation is better for inner peace, friends don’t always put in the effort to understand you, and it happens, you can still love and care for others wo sacrificing your own self worth.

lack of friends just means your unwanted. thats my experiance

Got it “Don’t be yourself you only have friends when you’re someone else”

It is me, its always been me. Growing up with an abusive father, and siblings that had their own lives and friendships meant that I spent most of my time on my own. I was never allowed to tell people about home, so it made me feel as if I couldn't tell people how I felt without saying why. I began to wear a facade at school that I was this happy, eccentric, silly guy at school. But no one ever wanted to be my friend. As soon as I stopped the ridiculous facade, I began to see that I was alone. I didn't know how to approach or interact with others, how to be myself and feel comfortable. I'm still this way 14 years later. 😂

Having fewer friends defy leads to more peace.

It shouldn’t matter for me I’m in deep problems to deal with than worry about being alone I had grown tired of complaining how life sucks but accept it day at a time they say happiness isn’t everyday

I always believe in friendship…Quality > Quantity ❤😊

18 years, not a single real friend, not a lover, the last time i hugged someone I was 7.

I'm an introvert, but I've always found a group of friends I can hang out with (without feeling awkward) in school, summer camp and college. Until I started grad school in a new city, I found myself standing outside of every social group there, and no matter how hard I tried to talk and connect with people, I still haven't felt "close" to anyone enough to call them friends. I'm fine with it most of the time, but there are times I feel lonely and often ask myself "Why don't I have any friends?". Is it because the people here are too different from me? Or is it because of me? Am I even belong here? It's almost like this video speaks to me, consoles me, like a gentle pat on the back. So...thank you very much 🥲

for me, making friends is easy, its keeping them thats really hard. its like everytime i try to make a new friend they end up distancing themselves from me or straight up hating me.

I have an exact opposite problem, I have no trouble making friends but because of the amount I have I feel even more alone because it feels like nobody really knows me

I think this was the best time I got the notification 😭