Ironically, the false impression given to others back home leads to higher expectations of support, which reinforces the struggle. It's a vicious cycle.
I have been in Canada for 15 years and I got grounded very early on when I realized that I can't compare myself to those who were born and raised here. So realizing that I had to start from scratch, without any savings and possibly lots of hurdles to jump though such as culture shock,racism, lack of community and networking..... humility jumps in.
@@omo0910 Wise Move! When you eventually get to the Top of your Mountain. Things would certainly be cooler and peaceful. Many Friend's are Seasonal and Opportunistic.!
I am also. But as a kid my mom married a African and they thought we were rich we lived in low income housing. We had nothing but he was lying making them think he had made it big.
Yes we are broke because those back home treat us as ATM machines,never stopping to think about what sacrifices and the hours we spent making our money .This is why I stopped making posts about my life abroad, some people back home get so catty about it, especially If they once asked me for money or to sponsor them for a visa and I told them that I am broke I can't afford it, my Visa type does not allow me to sponsor anybody unless they are close family members ie my parents., I get put off.
I don’t ever send anybody money. But then my whole family migrated to England 11 years ago. Some other cousins also moved over twenty years ago. The other extended family I barely speak to them and if they ask, I simply say I don’t have
Unfortunately it's something that will keep you down and you need to set boundaries which looks like you doing. Keep going, work for yourself because would they help you if you asked for help ?
The average American has less than one month of savings. So obviously you need to do something different. Many are counting on Social Security to get through retirement or a disability, as an immigrant you might not get access to those.
This was a difficult video to make as people often shy away from this topic. But, I’m glad we were able to🤗💕 I hope those watching finds it helpful. 2023 is our year of building abundance!💪🏾
@@WhizQueen I really respect your video work because you speak truth which is highly judged in Canadian society . One can be labelled as an ""angry , ungrateful immigrant" when you tell it like it really is. This country has really gone downhill for born and raised Canadians who are not rich and much worse for immigrants who move here and have do not come from an wealthy background and have no emotional or financial network. Much worse if you are single.
The reason I am a loner is because majority of diasporans hate the facts that I say it like it is. Always ask them to tell the truth to those back home on the realities here but they won’t instead they want to borrow from me to go and impress and I am like no I too will want to go and show off but I know it’s all a lie. A friend has 3 kids here with two Danish women separated with them cause Danish women can’t stand a show off who has nothing. My phone rings almost all the time for child support money to borrow and I say no. Right now he is exploiting his kids on Facebook with a page of a single father wanting to be a celebrity with mixed kids pathetic 🤦♂️ Attention has beaten heroin to be the most expensive commodity in the world.
Very glad u made this video queens!!! Even here in America, we have immigrants really struggling. Their families don't fully understand their hardships, thinking that life is amazing for them overseas....
Black tax is the #1 reason why a lot Nigerians are broke overseas. Nigerians in Nigeria send you invitations for countless ceremonies - birthdays, burials, weddings , child dedications, house warming parties, thanksgivings , graduation parties with the intent to collect money from you even though you are not going to be physically present in those ceremonies due to distance barriers. They also bother you with other financial issues such as rents, school fees , Christmas bills, hospital bills, money to support their businesses , etc. You have to avoid black tax by all means if you must grow financially overseas. You have to send money to people back home according to your financial capacity while bearing in mind that you CANNOT solve every problem because you are not GOD. Do not lend money to anyone back home in Naija. He or she is most likely not going to pay you back.
One real fact in the relationship between home based and abroad is poverty. If someone finance you to go abroad, you become a slave to them. This people suffering will never tell you the truth. Imagine a family selling the only source of livelihood to send one person abroad. Very terrible.
No one lie told. I moved to the USA 10yrs ago and did not have the right people to advise me on long term planning. Was working 3 different unskilled jobs because i had to support family back home. Had to sit down and retrospect my life after 5 years. Took the courage to stop pleasing family at home, went back to school and today I am working one well paid job that offer benefits. I am greatful for what I have become but I wish I started sooner.
This is a much more complex issue, especially in the US. Immigrants come into a country where your necessities are inflated. Housing, health care, child care and education. These are cost where it’s almost impossible to avoid. Especially being new to the country, you can’t inherit assets that cut cost for you like a family home so you pay high rent. You fall into debt even with several jobs. Which is the whole point of the system, to give you debt for everything you want or need. The iPhones and instagram don’t help but they’re not the root cause. The road to success is here but very narrow and getting more so. I was lucky but avoiding debt is almost impossible, the American dream isn’t what it use to be. Most people just make as much as they can sell everything and go back home so they can reduce their cost of living.
Mismanaged finances is one of the biggest reasons for mental health breakdown. It's easier to course through low times with supportive family back home than here
Cost of living is high. Especially in the cities. Apartment alone is about $1,200/month. And you must pay your rent, or you would be evicted. This is not Nigeria where people owe 2 years rent. If you owe here, you would be evicted, and your credit score would be severely affected. To rent another place becomes difficult.
The cost of living is high but if you try to cut off certain expenses you would not survive . We pay it because we became accustomed to it. It burns a hold on our pocket but it feels better when we have access to to those things we need .
Absolutely! I’m an immigrant, and I’m teaching my just graduating from college, going for her master, Grandaughter to thrifting! At first she started to resist, but after visiting a few, she’s learning and I’m hopeful! 💕🙏🏼
Me, I no dey buy any shit on credit or designer shit. I live within my means and save my money so I can send money to my parents from time to time for keepup while I prepare for my Exams and for my Masters.
😢😢😢😢 the fact that you have to take care of family members and other countries and you can't even learn how to focus on yourself is kind of reminded me of childhood trauma
No correct that comment.some people like to live that way..My grandfather taught me a long time ago.Dont spend more than what you make.COMMON SENSE.But like you said alot of peole are about flaunting and impressing others. For myself i care less what the Jones are doing .just saying
God bless you two. I pray people back home wake up and smell the cookie. Abroad is harder than Nigeria, and you can't afford the standard of life you live in Nigeria, so you need to get humble. The tide swiftly carries you off otherwise. I buy my clothes from Matalan and I am not even ashamed to say it, I have been buying from there for nearly 20 years.
Black American heterosexual octogenarian male widower here. Excellent video. One point. What you earn is important. How much of it you keep is more important. Learn to live debt free. As to being asked for money, Remember Shakespeare, " Neither a borrower nor a lender be..." Learn to say no and to hell with whether they like it or not. If the love of money is the root of all evil then the lack of money is the root of most headaches. Just a thought.
I volunteer helping immigrate and this is such great and common sense advice but I see so many people want the fast and easiest way to immigrate versus longterm success. Many chose easy study programs where they can work the most and not programs that will lead to good well paying income after graduation. Many are also facing family/community pressure to immigrate and not looking whether it makes sense to immigrate. I always counsel potential immigrants to look whether it makes sense to immigrate especially if you are successful in your home country. I unfortunately also see new immigrants trusting members of their expat community and unfortunately many take advantage of their own home community members. Whether it is charging high rents and renting rooms in poor condition for high prices or getting people jobs that really benefits the business owner. Many people feel like they had go through a tough time when they immigrated, they feel they need to take advantage of the current new immigrants. I always suggest it is best to try to integrate into the wider community.
Whenever these two seat together i know something good is coming up. I like the part about competition and especially within the black community. Africans should learn how to stand together. We’re always lagging.
Thank you for this video. Black Americans are struggling not because we are lazy but because this is America. It’s not as easy in the United States as people are pretending it is. We live in tents here. And yes I know some Africans here living in tents ⛺️
As an American I've noticed that lots of immigrants that have been in America for quite a long time that I know personally everyone is relying on government assistance and it's really going up and I also think due to the economy and then the stress of other family members and their country stressing them over money that they don't really have it's very terrible
Great advice for all too much is spent on way overpriced ( luxurious things) just to impress. Who is being fooled by buying counterfeit high end bring Nobody only yourself
Immigrants are the ones who do two jobs and work hard, and yet racism is a key factor why blacks and immigrants don't get equal pay because of institutions discriminating based on race.
Hi WhizQueen, i checked your old video highlights and i realised who you were, your video was probably one of the first few i watched few years back on immigration i guess. Blessings ✌
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Thank you for always stating the fact, many Nigerians dont really like to hear the truth' they always come after me whenever i talked about how many people struggles in abroad.and I also hate Nigerians way of working against each other' I have seeing other African countries working as a team supporting each others except for us Nigerians I guess it's a cursed because it happens back home in Nigeria too especially among my yoruba tribes I hope we do better.
You don’t know what you are talking about. I have lived in Abu Dhabi, Dubai, US, Saudi Arabia and have met many Africans - Kenya, Cameroon, Uganda, Tanzania, Ghana, they all say they wish they are Nigerians, because Nigerians help each other and other Africans don’t.
@@sean-et4wr do you think you can know my people more than I do! And from what I said I didn't say all Nigerians I specifically said my tribe yoruba' and not all yoruba's ara bad but trust me, the bad apple always affect the good ones when it comes Nigerians' we are good people but sometimes we can be too money dreaving its somehow in our dna we want to make money by all means. But overall thank you for defending us.
@@omolaniayanshola4278 you did no specify yorubas, you stated Nigerians. And also, stop putting Nigeria in a bad light. You are a Nigerian, it affects you when you keep saying negative stuff about your own country, because that's how people from other countries are going to view you even if you are a good person.
No matter how you slice it.Truth is most LEGAL immigrants live below or on the poverty line. In the US anyone making 50,000 a year and below is poor and most immigrants and Africans are in this pool and stay here for long .Things are much worse for illegal, students and other types of visa applicants working in the US. Living in apartments or driving a lended car may seem luxurious in Nairobi or Lagos but in countries like the US, UK it's poverty.
@@henry5118 50k is not bad I agree but it's average! That may vary if you are single or married. But most African immigrants live above or on the poverty line . whether we help each other or not. It doesn't matter. Our destiny is already pre- determined as far the US/ UK/ EU/ Schengen /Balkan states in concerned. These people have done their "racist homework"..
@@henry5118 poverty line does note mean suffering but it does mean you will spend twice the amount of energy and time to accomplish what would have been done in a simpler and much linear way if you were not an AFRICAN immigrant
@@lmwanthi Those things are changing. Young Africans in big cities are doing solid especially in the IT field. Back then many Africans driving cabs and doing menial jobs but the youngies are really up there
majority of the young africans in cities with IT careers you talk about could be 2nd generation/ unverisity graduates/ expatriates. 1st generation young african diasporans cant handle the expenses and life of the city during their early years of living abroad. In the US for examples African diasporians will move to states that favor them financially (cost of living) and where they can establish themselves ( learn the culture) as opposed to living in cities like NY, LA, Chicago e.t.c. 2nd generation africans/ graduates/expatriates find it easy to move in these spaces cause they dont have to deal with those problems.
Such an unintelligent analysis! The two of you are not giving your viewers adequate information. The real reasons are: some immigrants are in low wage jobs; housing costs in cities are very high; childcare is expensive and daily travel costs are high.
Thank U, u ladies are so smart. I said the same thing. Everyone, moving abruptly without preparation. I'm cautious and like to make several trips to a place bc things change, and it's a new place, it's lots to learn. Lots of Blk Americans are retiring in Ghana which is fine, I'll be visiting in the future as well, but just on vacation, and to research the place. I wish u ladies would do a vlog on AirBnB in Africa. What do you think is it safe? or a Scam.
Addressing mostly Jamaicans...haha not just Africa. I never understood why people send so much money to waste on food, call phones and clothes.....these black dominant countries have land resources, go plant and stop begging to buy frivolous things. Glad you're addressing this problem, its bigger than you think.. Impulse migration. Yeeeeeers, may have wasted many years abroad .....do you know what can be accomplished staying in your country.
Be skillful many skills yes make sure your learned them.at your country and the country you are travelling to get money kings its the key to any situation 🎉🎉😮😮
