A Peaceful Rainy Day In My Cottage Garden & How I Cope With Chronic Fatigue & Fibromyalgia 

Happy Sunday lovely people! Hope you’re all having a great day so far. I filmed this on a day where I wasn’t feeling 100% but thought it was a great opportunity to share my struggles and ways that I find help me to cope on difficult days. Kay x

So many of us are undiagnosed and struggling. Thank you for sharing ❤❤❤

I have never met someone else who relaxes for hours in the tub and keeps refilling with hot water! I loved hearing that!

I have thyroid disease/ Hashimoto and fibromyalgia . To sum it up I'm exhausted and achy everyday but what has helped me is going gluten free,dairy free and limit my sugar intake. I love to put my heating pad on high and put it on my back for the Costcondritis pain .

Thank you for sharing this, my ailments aren’t physical, they are mental, and sometimes seeing the way people (seemingly) don’t struggle through their days makes me feel bad about myself. Thank you for sharing your real days and reminding me that we are all human with our own journeys ❤️

I just found out about your channel. I have cerebral palsy, and I deal with pain and fatigue too, so seeing this peaceful video was nice. I have been trying to do RU-vid on and off for the past 2 years and this style of video resonates with what I like to do too (quiet/cozy videos). Thanks for sharing and I look forward to watching more 💜

Thanks for sharing your struggles.I dealt with chronic fatigue /fibro after my second child was born. Dr said that this was so common for women not looking after themselves. So i decided to turn my health around as i did not want to deal with meds. I cut out all white stuff, potatoes, pasta, flour, sugar, fake food etc. I detoxed my liver with milk thistle and added a probiotic and good quality protein powder and better food choice.I reversed it in two weeks. I am a Brit in the US and was never keen on the type of food and enormous portion sizes offered here so i kept reminding myself to cook fresh like mum back home did. Also make sure you are getting enough Vit D as a deficiency can make you sore/achy and feeling down. I do struggle with insomnia but God willing i hope that will get better. Recently i have been looking into autoimmune paleo diet especially for my daughter for her thyroid, celiac and type 1 diabetes. Apparently Paleo and the Aip version especially is great for many health conditions, since certain food items are being removed (usually for a short timeframe then reintroduced) that can impair proper absorption of food like grains, dairy, nuts, seeds etc. I pray you feel better.

I struggle with fibromyalgia, as well, and it has really helped me to change my diet. I don’t try to be perfect, but by significantly reducing refined carbs and sugar and adding more healthy fats (like nuts, avocado, etc.) and more veggies, my pain is improved. Like I said, I’m not super strict about it. I still have my favorite lemon scones with jam once a week with a friend as a treat, for example, but I try to get rid of most of the bread, pasta, processed snacks. I hate to say it, but it is the only thing that has really helped me. Sad (because I love bread) but true 😊 But of course different things work for each person. This just happens to help me. Along with the hot water bottle;)

Thank you. X I'm 55 worked constant and now due to having ceasure (fits) I'm unable to work. I feel guilty not being in work. Xx I unable to be alone . X your video has help me to not feel guilty for being at home xx

I just today discovered your channel. I too suffer from Fibromyalgia, anxiety & depression. Loved your video.

Hi Kay, I am sorry for your suffering. I was diagnosed with fibryo and chronic fatigue as well as arthritis at age 40. I am now 63. I ran a family farm and drive 60 miles a day to school where I worked for 32 years.there were days I literally threw up I was so worn out. Up at 4:50 each morning. I decided to retire this year So grateful! What helps me is golden milk I don't use real milk but vanilla non dairy add 1 tb of ground cinnamon 1 tb of ground turmeric and 1 top of black pepper. Can add honey. Warm it and drink It's earthy and comforting. The turmeric won't do its anti inflammatory Jon without the pepper to help observe it. Be well! Xo

First thing in the morning try a drink of warm water with turmeric (as much turmeric as you can take), ginger, cinnamon, black pepper , half a lemon juiced and honey. Great for pain and inflammation. In the afternoon drink a pint of water with a tablespoon (perhaps start off with a teaspoon) of Bicarbonate soda. Grow veggies....your favourite ones. Every veg can be grown in a container. I have grown cauli's in 10" flower buckets. You will be hooked as soon as your first seed pops it's head through the soil. 🌻🌻🌻

I, too, struggle with Fibromyalgia and also Rheumatoid arthritis. There is no magic potion unfortunately. Taking a warm bath before bed helps sometimes.

I don't see really anyone talking about living with CF & FM. I've had it since the 2nd year of college, that's 12 years!

Thank you for talking about Fibromyalgia. It is such a not understood illnesses. I also struggle with it and haven't been diagnosed after tons of tests (5 years). Thanks for the tips!

I don't know about others but I find the biggest problem is doing too much on a good day. It absolutely knocks me down for the best part of a week afterwards. Taking time to rest is so important. Have you ever tried an acupressure mat, I love mine for helping release tension. It's definitely best to plant out in the garden when it looks like rain afterwards, it saves a lot of time not having to water everything in.

That beautiful cat, I love your videos.x

Hey :-) I have MS and since adopting a more slower/simple lifestyle it's really made a difference. I hope you get some answers, sending you a big hug xx

Love your video. You are honest about your struggles with fibromyalgia and fatigue. I suffered many years from about childhood, they didn't know what it was, until about 2000. What they do know is that diet plays a huge part in fibro and MS. I have been gluten free for 30yrs and dairy free also. When the kids were young it hurt to have them hug me. That is how bad it was. When I went gluten free in about a month all of the pain was gone and continues to be gone because of being gluten free. It wasn't easy back years ago like it is now. I hope you find relief in your journey to help yourself.

I’m diagnosed with fibromyalgia, chronic fatigue and type 1 diabetes. Having a low energy day and watching this. Please be kind to yourself when you’re energy is low or pain is high.

Just found you! Loved this video thank you ❤ I suffer with four chronic conditions and have some very bad days. But I find gardening and being outdoors really helps, Roo xx

I’m glad I found you! Thanks for sharing your journey toward living your best life despite adversity concerning your health. I, too, struggle with autoimmune disorder. It’s important to remember that it doesn’t define who we are. It’s only a small part. You have a sweet engaging personality. I hope the best for you!

Hi Kay I hope you are well today, thanks for sharing this video with us. Even though you was not quite well. I suffer from chronic fatigue to but I haven't been diagnosed yet. I am always so tired. Have a great Sunday take care

Gardening while it’s raining out sounds so lovely and calm. Wish I was able to stay in a bath for so long but I get so restless!

Yesterday I came across your channel and subscribed, so far I love it! Many years ago, I had Chronic Fatigue with all the symptoms you mentioned. At the time I was working for a printing company and had to deal with chemicals. I did the rounds of doctors, tests etc but never had full diagnosis as there wasn't a test for CFS then. Eventually I came right and regained good health. These days I have an auto-immune type of dermatitis but my sweet tooth doesn't help! BTW clematis don't like sun shining on their feet/base, I put bricks or small plant at the base. I see you lived awhile in Queenstown, gorgeous but expensive! Look forward to seeing more of your videos. Greetings from Christchurch 🇳🇿🌼🐈

I’ve had a very busy few weeks and am exhausted today so I’m spending the day with my little family under a duvet watching movies ❤️ we’ve ordered a food shop which is being delivered today and we’re going to enjoy the chills x

I read book called the makers diet and it’s about guy had chrones disease. He ended up finding a person who taught him few things that ended up curing his disease. One of those things were have him work garden with his hands no gloves so minerals soil go into his nails and go into his body. Plus eating bible foods. Good book. Bless u

You are extremely brave and spirited. Hats off to you.

So sorry to hear you are struggling with pain. I recently hurt my back and really struggled to cope with the pain, especially at night. I did have some physio and acupuncture plus amitripline tablets from the doctor as it was sciatica. I am better now so I really hope you will be feeling better soon. Thank you for sharing. I have just discovered your channel and really enjoying it!

Thanks Kay, I understand how you feel thanks for sharing what helps you, I think I’ll look into getting a suction cup. I think today is going to be a rest day for me thank you for the reminder. A few things that have helped me are cutting out sugar, caffeine and gluten and having regular massages, meditation and recently focusing on breathing correctly, a book I’m reading just now that you may find helpful is called Breathe by James Nestor. Your garden looks lovely, I don’t know if you know this already but Geraniums don’t like the cold weather I have some and I bring them indoors in winter. I hope you’re feeling better today, have a lovely Sunday 💐✨🤗✨

I love watching your videos on a weekend morning with my coffee. Thanks for your openness and vulnerability. Have you looked into an anti inflammatory diet? It can help with body pain and fatigue. Best of luck on your health journey

Another lovely peaceful video! Just a tip, gently loosening the roots of potted plants before planting helps them get a better start. Also, when planting containers, for maximum beauty you can do the thriller (something tall), spiller (something that hangs down, like an ivy, and filler (annuals, for example) method. I love the music you use with your videos, too! Enjoyed the talk on pain and chronic fatigue. I’ve dealt with that for twenty years. Have a blessed day!!🌸

You're very dear. May God bless you as you are blessing others.

pretty garden, I love gardening too. Thanks for your sweet video.

What a lovely and inspiring video, thank you! The next warm ray of sunshine you'll see will have been sent to you by me from Greece :) Keep taking good care of yourself :)

Beautiful garden. I know a lot of people are giving you health advice and trying to diagnose you, I guess I’ll ring in, too. Have you seen anyone about your thyroid? The lower area of your neck looks a little swollen where your thyroid is. I had a swollen thyroid which turned out to be goiters. I had an operation and I’m now on thyroid meds. I had a lot of your symptoms especially the fatigue. Just something to check into. I love your channel. Just stumbled upon it recently. I garden, too. I live in the subtropics, so I’m learning to garden with heat tolerant plants and trying to grow a vegetable garden, too. It’s probably why your channel popped up on my recommended list, I’ve been watching so many gardening videos. 🌸🌿💕

Extreme temperatures really affect my fibro. This isn’t great because I like in Canada with cold winters and hot summers.I’m making the most of spring temperatures but then I tend to overdo it and then pay for that dearly in the days following. I’ve been diagnosed for many years and still haven’t learned to pace myself 🤦🏻‍♀️

I enjoyed your video! Hope you feel better. You have a beautiful garden and a lovely cat! Take care 🥰

I have got Ankylosing spondiltis and pain everyday anywhere. From struggling and stress I ways getting more pain, so I need to slow down. It is not easy but slow down helps a lot. Wish you the best.

I was diagnosed with fibromyalgia last year and want to pursue potential rheumatoid arthritis with my doctor because of the crazy joint pain and stiffness I've been having. Sending all the good vibes to you! I am also having a rotten week with migraines and 24/7 pain. Baths are giving me rashes and headaches so that's off the table. Honestly just cuddling the dog and eating nice food helps me, even if it's just emotionally!

Thank you for this video you really inspire me. I suffer from fibromyalgia and M.E. For 30 yrs its all about pacing yourself which easier said than done. I hope you get diagnosed soon take care x

sorry if I have mentioned this before but my fibro/cfs were all down to a b12 deficiency so it doesn't. matter how much meat eggs dairy ect I eat my body does not absorb it..so the life long treatment is replacement therapy injections...if you haven't been tested I highly advice asking. with optimal treatment the pain went away and the fatigue got so much better. I only really struggle at stressful times or if I over do it. alot of people who have fibro/cfs have nutritional deficiencies that cannot be corrected by taking a multi. for painful flares I suggest a magnesium spray. also taking magnesium malate is great for energy. people fibro are advised to take this as it's energising. magnesium is also great for muscle pain and tension hence why so many people use Epsom salt soaks.

First time visiting your channel. I love your house and your cat. 🐈🙂

I just love Echo 😍 What a little cutie he is. I didn't even notice him next to you on the couch until you said he was there - he blends in so well. Gorgeous baby. I'm so sorry you suffer pain too, I've got extremely painful hips at the moment with very low mobility in them, and it makes day to day things very hard sometimes.

just discovered your youtube channel and i love it. poetic, beautiful and peacefull ♡

Looks lovely now ur garden xxx well done 👍

Happy Sunday lovely Kay. Thank you for sharing your pretty house and garden with us 🥰xx

You’re beautiful, peaceful and calm Kay. Love watching your videos. The meal you cooked at the end looked delicious 😋 Hope you feel better soon lovely. Hugs to Echo xx

Low energy is so hard! Anemia here & healing an injury and it's just exhausting but I try to balance getting done what I need to + time for a break. Like now - toast & RU-vid. :) Do they happen to have a grocery delivery service or pickup near you? That saves me so so so much energy each week. I started doing it even before covid when I hurt my shoulder & have never gone back to the store.

What we perceive to be a "slow" day or a "productive, busy" day is very subjective and somewhat arbitrary. My slow day could be someone else's busy one or vice versa. I used to feel it necessary to climb mountains of work and slay dragons (resolve biggest issues) to feel good about my day and myself. Now, my mantra is small, slow, steady. Ironically, with this approach, there are less mountains to be climbed and dragons to slay!

Great video love all your plants😻 I suffered with chronic back pain for 6yrs was on 15tabs a day and lived in my bath lol but then was told cud end up in a wheelchair I was so scared and devastated I cried out to God to please heal me next morning I woke up to no pain and I never took another pain killer Jesus is the same yesterday today and forever! I'm not a religious person I don't do mass etc but I do believe in God now I pray God gives you relief and healing x💙

Love the asian videos that are just quiet. No nonstop talking.

Lovely video, thank you for sharing your day with us and calming us down with you. Your are so sweet and have the cutest giggle!! Also having no makeup on looks really good on you !! Hope you are feeling better and keep making these lovely videos!

Bless you sweetie, so few people understand fibromyalgia & it's good to talk about it & share the load. Sending big hugs to you ❤

I just discovered your channel. It was so comforting. I have fibro, Chronic Fatigue and OA. You video made me stop and think about how much I need to be gentle with my body and mind, that it is okay to take time to heal and it is not selfish to care for your own pain. Thank you!!

Boundaries are important. Recognizing your limitations is a an important part of self care.

As someone with chronic illness including fibromyalgia I love the message you send to take time thank you for that and I hope you get the answers you need from doctors soon. Sending you love and good thoughts! :)

I have Fibro and CFS, I've found putting thermal facemask on really painful areas really helps me, and keep your limbs close to your body when picking things up doing housework helps, stretching and picking stuff up or even just dusting makes pain worse.

I have fibro and CFS too, it’s too much sometimes. I was diagnosed by a rheumatologist after saying I’d had the pain for over 6 months. Message me if you need info on how to get a diagnosis. Stay safe and positive xxx

So nice your videos❤️love your cat💖

I do believe gardening is therapeutic. ❤️

Thank you for your calming vlogs, i love them. I was diagnosed with fibromyalgi and osteoarthritis 2 month ago, a bit hard to hear in top of my diabetes, endometrioses, multiple allergy, heart problems and and and....anyway i keep my spirit up, smile and go on, then on very bad days i Will watch one og your vlogs, her cozy and calm💗

Thank you for this. I was finally diagnosed with fibromyalgia after suffering with bilateral tendon and muscle pains, insomnia, ibs and fatigue. It was the nhs physio that finally diagnosed me. I hope you get a diagnosis soon. Although a lot of people do not understand the condition.

For me, eating less gluten and reducing dairy helps. Epsom salt baths before bed help improve my sleep quality and reduce some of the aches and pains.

I struggle with fibromyalgia too. Took me over a year to get diagnosed. I have a heated over blanket which helps so much when I’m having a bad day. Hope you get your diagnosis soon. Love your videos 💛

Going through a flare right now. Can't imagine doing all that in a bad day 👀 The planter turned out lovely.

Hi Kay love the flowers and plants you bought. They look nice in the garden.👍👍❤

Hi Kay - I have rheumatoid arthritis and my initial symptoms were fatigue and pain in my hands/feet. If you haven’t been tested for RA that might be something to look into. It tends to flare up and then subside so the symptoms come and go.

I hope you feel better. I have been through chronic fatigue and I was originally diagnosed with m.e and fibro but later with PoTs and Eds 3. Another one of my friends had Lyme so I understand how hard it is xx

Summer bedding plant is an osteospermum. Gorgeous flowers! Lovely plants, your garden is looking gorgeous!😊🌱🌷🪴

I struggle with low energy & depression & inflammation. I make a natural nettle tea and it helps with the energy and inflammation. Being outdoors now helps with the depression.

I'm a new subscriber. I deal with a jaw issue that affects one ear. Plus I work retail and it is crazy and we are short handed. Stress make my jaw worse. Thank you for reminding me that it is ok to take it easy sometimes.

Lovely plants. Put some bits of crock around bottom of your clematis. It keeps the roots cool as they like roots cool and head in sun.

I had chronic issues and I know organically finding resources for ourselves is better than someone pushing so I never want to come across that way.. but I know the day to day struggle and so I wanted to share in case this can help anyone. Doctors and treatments could never help me like learning about the mind/body connection and how repression and traumas can lead to chronic pain and ailments. If this helps anyone ... the work I’ve followed is that of Nicole Sachs. It’s based on brain science same as the curable app. She has a free podcast called “the cure for chronic pain”. Hope this can help someone struggling. I barely had an hour a day free of pain for years on end. Now I am free of chronic pain and take no meds. There is hope!

Thank you for sharing. I found that eliminating wheat from my diet helped reduce my fibromyalgia pain. Also using magnesium oil for muscle pain.

Really enjoying your videos. Have a lovely weekend xx

I know what you mean about being in a greenhouse...i am glad you had a slow day to help restore your health 🤍🤍 Loved your selection of plants...i got the same pink daisy like plant like you...it's called 'osteospermum' (African/Cape daisy) 💗💗.

Thank you for your videos and everything you share!!!! I loved your favorite grey mask... it looks so soft and confortable, could you tell me where did you buy it? Thank you and regards!!!

I have CFS too, and actually grew some of those plants you ended up buying from Morrison’s (I’m a Grower Supervisor at the Wholesale Nursery that supplies them) - that’s a Pelargonium not a Geranium, by the way - I know, everyone calls them Geraniums but Geraniums are actually very different - don’t buy any more, it’s the easiest thing in the world to take successful cuttings from them, and the plant you said was unmarked has ‘Osteospernum’ written right over the pot x oh, and unless that was just editing, water them in more than that the first time in the pot - give them as much as you think they need, then a bit more.

Be careful with the marigolds Kay slugs love them i keep my egg shells and put around the base of the plant it puts them off a bit

I look forward to your videos every week 😊 I can't wait to see your garden completed ❤

Delightful. Love hanging out with you and Echo

I have like you CFS and hypermobility but have to work ft in the NHS as single. So hard. X

That plant, it’s an osteospermum. Nice one. Lovely garden, feelgood vid. Thanks! 🤗

Awwwwwhhhh echo 🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺😍😍😍 so cuteeee. I wanna cuddle him so baddd 😭😭😭 I've never met a ragdoll but I've been obsessed with them for the last 7 months

Hi Kay - Lovely video as always.😊 Echo is delightful as always. Thanks for sharing your health situation and tips that help you. I’m currently going through a similar diagnosis process myself. I haven’t been able to secure my Specialist appts until August (I’m in Australia, so it nay be a different process to the UK), and then formal diagnosis and a treatment plan should be able to happen, as I have had numerous tests to rule out many other conditions. Everyone’s situation / symptoms / triggers are different, but I have found that having Omega 3 capsules has helped to reduce some of the inflammation markers in my blood tests. Evening Primrose Oil capsules have also been of help to me. (Evening Primrose Oil is not suitable for all people, so is worth researching a little first). Best of luck with managing your health issues. Take care xxxx

What a beautiful vlog! New subscriber here x

I adore your channel and I only found you last week! Thank you for being honest with your struggles! :)

I have an Acer. It is now a full sized tree. Beautiful.

I have to take painkillers for my feet. I have flat feet and in my job ( on feet all the time) I end up not being able to get up and down my stairs. However I have a new manager and he has helped me a fair bit by taking me off certain shops where it means a lot more walking. I don’t like taking pain killers really but the dr says I will have to as they won’t operate on my feet until it’s really bad and I’m older and less mobile x but I’m on holiday this week and having a breaking from painkillers except this weekend side effects from covid vaccination xx be well and keep safe xx

This mug is so beautiful! Where is it from Kay?

Hi Kay! Even when you were in the garden I thought I could see exhaustion taking over, I hope you were well🤗🙏🏽. I am not sure if I asked already, but do you have a video explaining the CFS journey? Years ago I mentioned this to our family doctor but she, like my family don’t see to believe it’s a real thing and that I am simply trying to be lazy. Is there actual test that can be done? How did your doctor explain what is happening within that causes the symptoms? Sorry for all the questions. I often have to do the same in the bath, mainly because it’s so cold in the house within five mins the water is cold again 😂! Many blessings and please take care of you🤗

Hi I loved the ask it looked soft and comfy .I hope you find out what's wrong hope they give you the right test great if you have a wonderfull doc.what was this song I love it .I've tryed alot of sleep sprays but I think Avon's lavender one was the best for me x

Hi Kay, have you heard of the medical medium, Anthony Williams. I wholeheartedly recommend his books, start with his first one "medical medium new updated version". It's helped me enormously X

Very nice 👍

Dear Kay, sorry to hear about your fatigue. Did you know that it can be a side effect of an antibaby pill or another hormonal contraceptiv? I had this with the Mirena from Bayer. All the best!

I’m a new subscriber and I just found your channel. I’m looking forward to watching all your videos. We have the same cat! Is your cat a ragdoll? Our cat is 4 months old. They are so lovable right? I really enjoyed your video. Have a lovely Sunday.

I came upon your channel and cant stop watching! Echo is such a gentlemen. Could you tell me the name of the radiator bed Echo uses?

I struggle to understand fibromyalgia. A relative of mine has it..always telling me how debilitating it is...the pain/fatigue etc. Then I hear things like she’s booked holidays abroad which she’s excited about going on...It’s really puzzling how she could even think of travelling never mind actually going 🤷‍♀️

Have you asked to be referred to the rheumatology department, they are the only ones that can diagnosis Fibro. Be warned they will press your 18 points. Mine was that bad, she could not touch me. Thanks for the slow video xxx