It feels weird. No one pressures me to be perfect and get good grades yet I just feel the absolute need to get high grades and one up everyone in my class.
@silentwhispering Ehhhhh yeah, I don't really think it's that. To better explain myself, the reason why I feel the need 'one up' everyone in my class cause I felt as if they were better than me in everything and I couldn't fo jack shit to save my life. Not cause I only thought of myself or sm.
@@slightlyypsychoyou guys are lucky asf would've been awesome if my life was like that 😭 they continuously tell me how they don't wanna pressure me but at the same expect me to score full if I somehow messed up one time in my life they would ask why didn't I do great why couldn't I do better like my peers Im tired honestly dk what I wanna do in life studying for a doc but it's hard I don't wanna end up low but it just seems I'm falling behind again.. even tho this is my 2nd try :(
Honestly I really feel for the line "are you satisfied with an average life" because I'm not I want to be in Harvard and I want to change the world of science more than anyone ever has
Me as well I was once a gifted child, but the person who helped me Died. It was hard for me my grades go down to 80-83 when I was Grade 2. when pandemic comes that was the time I fall.. Note - Now I'm here, Learning About Astronomy even tho I'm a slow learner, my dreams are far if I don't do anything il fall.. (Vent) Please get enough sleep! Do not push yourself, Work smart not hard! God is with you and he hears you're cry's for he comforts you over and over again.
Same. Did really well at subjects like maths and science. One of my teachers wanted me to apply for a scholarship to a prestigious school in my country but my mum refused because I wouldn't be a free babysitter for her if I went to boarding school (I also wasn't allowed to go to university/college for this reason). As soon as I started struggling/getting bullied in school I was treated like I was nothing to my parents. I've gone through so much crap that I won't get into here and have mental health problems. I feel like I can't do anything now
hey@@itsnicole11 honestly if u really wanna go study in that school, and if the option's still there i say go for it. im guessing u have a sibling so ur mom needs help with them (abt the babysitter thing, im sorry if im wrong) bro just remember ur not ur sibling's mom and should not be giving up on your dreams cuz of this. tell ur mom to be responsible and try to reason with ur parents. also dw if it get too much, take a breather okay? do some hobby of urs or play video games or anything that can free ur mind. i assure u u can do whatever u wanna do in ur life if u put ur mind into it. YOUARE STRONG!! and even if life sucks rn, try to envision what u wanna be in a few years, and work for it. there's going to be light after darkness, right? u can do it!
@ ꭑ3ᥣⱺᑯ𝗒𝖼0𝗋𝖾 I'm a girl.. But I'm glad I'm not the only one! Lol, the stereotype that Americans are "Spoiled" and "Have loving parents" is kind of upsetting, because I know it's not true. At least not for all of us.
To everyone who's studying with this music: Checklist: • A bottle of water, at least 1liter. Your brain works better if it has enough water and drinking helps you to concentrate💧 • Your charger. You sometimes don't even notice that your device's battery is going down, so better have it plugged in all the time🔋 • Your headphones. You will be able to focus more with headphones, because it blocks background noises. Also, if it's a late night study session, you won't wake up anyone🎧 • a tea or coffee. Coffee keeps you awake, green or black tea can make you feel more awake as well.☕ • Your study/work stuff: your laptop/tablet/phone , a few pens, paper or whatever you need.⌨ •Anything else you could need, what about a heat pad, a blanket, a good lamp, your pet so you have a study buddy 🐈 Reminder: After an hour, you should stand up and walk a bit around. Better stop the music or put on different music for the break. Open your window, even if it's cold outside. Fresh air will make it better, trust me. You could also lay your head down on your desk for ten minutes and listen to a podcast. Or, if you have to read a book, listen to the audiobook of it. You can also listen to the audiobook while doing another thing, that's even better than listening to music while reading the book. 📖 I hope y'all had a good day, if not, that's okay too. Remember to take care of yourself and try to get some sleep tonight 😴🧸 (not mine! but copy paste it around!!) Thanks y'all for the likes
if y'all need a laugh I crave academic validation but I'm still not academically valid 🤡🤡 edit: I didn't expect this many people to relate 😭!! Guys, we should keep trying hard and give it our best. I know it's hard to stay motivated after many failures but I also know that you can do it
My parents never really pressured me on having high honors. They always say "its okay" whenever I get low grades, but I dont want to be a disappointment to them which is why im always competitive at school but sometimes its just so tiring to be honest. Ever since I was a child, I was always an "academic achiever" and people always praised me for that. Its also one of the reason why I always pressure myself on getting high grades. Because everytime i get low grades, I feel like everyone would be so disappointed at me. ++Being an academic achiever is the only thing that I could be proud of.
The same thing, but my parents always expect me to be the best… You are lucky that they support you but don’t pressure you. Believe me, people who fail in life don’t think about failure until they actually realise how wrong their actions are… you think about failure, and you fear it. But that shows how much you care about your life and future, and it also shows that you will succeed. I don’t know how, but you’ll be happy.
For me it's less "academic validation" and more "if I don't get the highest grades, I won't be able to get into the uni I want to." But before grades really mattered, I always strived for straight As for no real reason other than to please myself and other people :/
As a daughter of immigrant parents, for me it's more of not letting my parents down. They only want straight As, so now I believe that Bs are the worst grade there is
same, i am not rich nor do i have have good relationships with important people, so, for the sake of my dreams i must be the best or at a least hell a good student
OMG Sameee!! My parents tell me that like higher grades marks matter but they've been saying that since I entered Grade 1, I've always worked super hard. I literally cried after coming 2nd in a state competition. But so glad I am going to play for nationals now!
@@chusmabread329 Same, it’s very hard to satisfy my parents because they want me to get only 9s in my GCSEs… Hopefully I’ll survive. Good luck to y’all!
This is the only good academic validation playlist ive found! I found new songs as well, definetely recommend As a high achiever, nobody really understands if im upset over a "high grade". And its funny because nobody really forces be to be good. Its just the urge to be better than others and this playlist portrays exactly that!! Im listening to this while studying lol (this is a bit of a vent) edit: if u ever feel like no one understands the struggles of this, check the replies and realise its more common than u think! even tho no one shows it, it doesnt mean they do not have this struggle. ur not alone!
I hate the word 'lucky' just because of how often it's been used on me when I don't feel 'lucky' like I'm the type of person to study for nwea and when I get a 'good' score I'm viewed as 'lucky' by people who don't even try
Opposite for meh. Got 94% or something and mha bff got 99%. (No kidding) and everyone was criticising me for not being better and not even coming 2nd So.....
I crave for academic validation so much. Tests are beggining tommorrow and it's gonna start all over again. I once got a 9/10 and cried. No one understood why and judged me for it. Sometimes it's tiring to be always the ''genius kid". I always wish to be normal and be at least understood for a "low grade".
tyring? lets look at the side of non gifted like you. someone say i have a potential but i don"t fucking see it, it is so so dFUCKING draining to look everyday at someone who is better than me in everything they do! it is so demotivating, why the fuck should i try to be better if i know I wouldnt reach anckles of kids like you!
Yeah, my friends know me as the smart one. I’ve been struggling lately and nobody seems to understand why because they think it’s easy to be smart and care about your future…
I don't think there are any timestamps made yet so here: 0:00 Are You Satisfied? 3:17 Top of My School 5:55 Oh no! 8:54 Price of Perfection 12:18 Average 14:15 Applause 17:44 Nobody 20:57 Mirrorball 24:21 I Am Not a Robot
Sometimes I feel jealous when a friend of mine is happy with a lower grade. I wish I could be that carefree sometimes, but when you're a gifted child and come from a middle to lower class home, its hard. It's so fucking hard. But I have to keep persevering, sometimes for them, other times for me. Thank you for the playlist, it really reflects the need for academic validation
fr, my friends are happy if they get a 60%, but if I get anything below a 90% I feel like a disappointment for days over it and they don't understand when I try to talk to them about it
@@saharasandsarahscandystashand....you think we didn't work hard? Some people have unreasonable expectations for themselves, like us. Guess we just have to live with it.
@@venus4724Thats because y'all are narcissistic. Most gifted kids I met had a superiority complex. I try my hardest in school, it does pay off but sometimes I work hard but still end up getting a 70% percent(C) or even a D and as soon as I do those "smart kids" question my intelligence and say "if your perfectly fine with getting a B you aren't naturally smart" like dawg what
As a Master student who soon will be starting a PhD, I can say that that playlist describes my life in a perfect way... I'm glad that I found that playlist because it's one of the main drivers of my sanity while writing my thesis.
For me, I have never known why I needed to have the "perfect" grades. My parents have never really cared about grades but getting good grades has always come easy and I always feel happy when I get A+.
My mom never cared as long as I was passing and my dad never really told me he was proud of anything I made for him or a good grade didn't care till I got a B then I'm horrible a disappointment sorry for the vent
TIMESTAMPS!! 0:00 Are You Satisfied? - MARINA 3:16 Top of My School - Katherine Lynn-Rose 5:55 Oh No! - MARINA 8:53 Price of Perfection - Katherine Lynn-Rose 12:18 Average - Sushi Soucy 14:15 Applause - Lady Gaga 17:45 Nobody - Mitski 20:57 mirrorball - Taylor Swift 24:21 I Am Not a Robot - MARINA
This hits different after I got a D in math, I didn't have time to finish all the exercises. I cried the whole time I was in school and when I got home too. I've never had this low of a grade for math in my life.
hey, i know this comment was 6 months ago, so i want to ask, does that D still affect you as much as it did 6 months ago? (you dont have to reply if you dont want, just pls think about ur answer) it most likely doesn't, at least not as much as you thought it might, just goes to show it wasn't as terrible as it sometimes feels. also, there is a show called gilmore girls and the main character, rory gilmore, got a D on her english exam but she still ended up being valedictorian and a major academic icon to those who watch the show ❤
@@kfc1501 Now thinking about it ,yes I'm still disappointed that it happened but what's done is done and I can't undo the past. So I was just trying to do better on my next exams ,which I did ,and my grade got fixed into a B. It's not that bad, so I see what you mean, thank you for saying that especially cause it made me reflect on what happened ❤❤
"Talented" "Skillful" "Intelligent" All those words that were said to me honestly makes me feel worse, I hate compliments. Always had. Perfect scores don't impress me anymore, it honestly makes me less motivated to study. I wish, I just wish I had kept the lifestyle I had when I entered this school. I was known for being the "weird druggie quiet kid that went to school a month far too late" that's it but noooo I decided to do all that I can on that first report, that first report that made everyone's expectations of me go through the roof. Now I have to deal with it, I hate it. I hate receiving certificates. I hate receiving perfect scores. I hate getting the answers correctly. I hate people complimenting me. I hate rewarding myself. I hate how I spend my nights with a headache due to studying so much. I don't know who's expectations I'm reaching cause it certainly has passed way too far for mines.
I feel kind of a similar way about compliments, I think.I feel like I don’t live up to them. Maybe you’ve heard this before, but you’re not alone in feeling this way.
For all my academic validation seekers, I think it is such an intrinsic component of our personality that we can’t get rid of it( and tbh no need, just don’t let it cost you your happiness and relations) but one things I’ve always done in conjunction with this is striving for ACADEMIC EXCELLENCE and that is incredibly satisfying and lovely
It hurts how I think that no one relates to "are you satisfied" better than me, the opportunities I grabbed to succeed, the people I left behind for me to get ahead of them, my constant lying to my friends just to survive this harsh life. This song is the epitome of my survival. How I developed selfishness and greediness all throughout my journey. I am not proud of it, but I need it to make my way in life.
I was born, because my parent wanted someone to fulfill their dreams, to be someone they couldn't be, my older sister was born as a process of learning, to see how they would be as a parents, and now that they have success in both, now they wanted to have another children, who they can actually take care of like an actual child. When I was little, everything I do is seen as *immature*, doesn't matter if I'm 8, doesnt matter if I'm 4. Everything, in my parents eyes, were seen as *immature*, when I was young, in kindergarten, I used to be top of the class, up until year 3, when I was 9, I slowly started being burned out. I crave more affection from my parents, so I stopped working very hard each days, my grade went downhill, from rank 1#, slowly to rank #3, slowly to rank 5#. Sure I was able to keep my rank 3# until high-school (in my country, high school start at 13 year old, the morning session= 16-19 year old and the evening session= 13-15 year old) , but high school start, and it went down even more like drop on a roller-coaster, I started having... Anxiety...social anxiety....depression...finding out I have high probability of autism and ADHD. By the time I turned 14 in May, my anger issue grow worse and worse. I have avoidant personality disorder, and because of that, I put on this gangsta persona at school, just to prove that personality disorder wrong. I try to....hurt....but also not hurt people at the same time. For some reason, whenever there's a test, I study, real hard. 8PM-7AM nonstop, I have bad imsomnia, so I was able to put up with not being asleep. But all that days and weeks and months of study is all for nothing, I fail, fail, fail, fail, fail.. Fail fail fail fail fail fail fail fail fail fail fail Mathematic= 64% English= 73% Malay= 59% PE= 63% History= 53% Geography= 51% Design and Tech= 46% I wasn't satisfied, the only rank I could score was 13#, I was disappointed, my family was dissapointed, I could hear a constant loop of laughter and giggles in my mind. I was going crazy, I have hallucinations. I lost interest in drawing, and I overdosed on drugs, I cut. I wish I wasn't alive, had a session the other day (it's like a mind test), sure I told the teacher about how my parents fight alot. But when the question "have you ever harm yourself? " and "have you ever thinking of taking your own life?" I lied. I was a big liar, and I'm still am. I just feel like putting this story here, so others can read it. If there's anyone out there, who experience things like these before. I just want to say a couple of things: 1) Please, rest, give yourself a break, that's what I've been trying to do to myself. And if you're a therapist friend, I get it. Im the same, I've been politely denying request from friend who wanted me to comfort them, because this time. I'm focusing on myself. And you can aswell. 2) If you feel suicidal, out there, alot of people like you, talk to them. Like I am, please please don't ever try to harm yourself, don't do it. I'm not saying this for everyone around you, I'm saying this for you, especially if you're still young. It hurts me seeing young people having mental problem, that no adults understands, I've seen it on my cousin before. And I'm scared of losing her. I guess that was the couple thing. If you're still reading this, take good care. You still have alot to discover, alot to unpack on life. Our stories are like this, because fate decided to make it interesting, we are all strong because fate wanted us to. Before I go, I would like to apologised for the incorrect grammar in some parts, as you can see, my native language is not English, I've been working on my skill for awhile. I will try hard to correct my grammar in the future. I also need to say that because of my mental health, my memory began to worsen as well, so I might not remembered if I even wrote all of this. Anynomous, out.
@@ra7478 of course love, and I hope you're doing well too, no matter what problem you're going through, you can always find/have a solution for it, darling
Thank you so much i finally feel like i was understood i am having my finals soon i am so stressed and angry at myself for lazing around and not being serious about my studies
Hey , Read your comment. I hope everything in your life starts working out. Came to these Playlist recently and though I left my straight A persona back before the pandemic 😖, seeing people telling there stories , I got reminded the fun of being an academic validator ,I am trying to crack to get in my dream Uni. Your comment gave me the reminder of those characters in novels to whom you just wanna have them get every great things, And they do get. And I hope you will also have everything you want
Bro... My parents wish for me to be their trophy child and be a doctor so they can show me off to the other relatives i actually wouldn't be born if my siblings didn't keep telling my parents that they want a baby sibling.... My siblings experienced REAL childhood. I'm just... Idk. If I don't become a doctor and be my parents' trophy child i will probably end up as an NPC in their lives....
I have always looked for academic validation because of my parents. I strived to be perfect and get into a good university. I graduated with honors. I had scholarships and got into a good school. I did all that for my parents, I even studied something I thought they would be proud of. It’s not until last year that I realized how unhappy I was with myself. I got depressed after I failed at a subject. I got horrible anxiety from it that I had to go to therapy for it. I felt useless and stupid because I always felt that I had to be perfect. I ended up dropping out and having to go to therapists. My parents saw how much pressure was on me and were understanding. Since then they have decided to let me figure out what it is what I want in life. I still battle with depression but I feel better now knowing I don’t have to pretend to be perfect. To whoever reads this, know that grades and school aren’t everything. If it doesn’t work out once, twice, three times, it’s okay. You don’t have to be perfect no one is! Live a life where you can be happy, not being miserable because of others expectations like I was. Hope everything works out for you!
I remember getting a grade I wasnt satisfied on and cried at my parents telling them I felt like a failure. Those days were the days my parents realized I actually care for my education lol
I am new at this pretty strict school, i have way too much to study and i have been in a school were i barely had homework for three years, so now this is too much for me. But i can not accept this, i HAVE to be the best in my class. Even if i am the worst right now and everyone thinks i'm lazy, i'm going to prove them WRONG. I am going to become the best and no one will ever say a word to me or question me. Wish me luck, i hope i can inspire others to achieve the same or even better ;) Update N°1: Okay... so, a lot of things happened, but i improved a lot. I was able to get closer to my classmates and my grades started to go up, even with Math. The only problem is that a few teachers don't like me, so they do their best to make me have bad grades at their subjects, but i'm doing what i can to be on their good side.
@@deepapradeep9487 Thank you, i really appreciate it. I've been doing... not so well, i have some problems with my family and i'm unstable, but i'm getting better. I hope you have a wonderful year ❤
I'm tired Today, I receive a message that I didn't get into the 2nd uni that I applied for. My GWA didn't get any slot. This is just a repetition of what happened to the 1st uni I applied to. I have a GWA of 94%, I am a student leader, I am often leading different school activities, and I am also in a lot of youth organizations, yet I still have no uni. I'm about to graduate receiving With High Honors yet I still manage to fail. I see my peers posting on their social media how they manage to qualify (I don't want to discredit them because I know they also deserve it and I saw them, they are amazing) however my credentials are almost the same or even higher than theirs. I can't help but compare, to think If I am enough. If what I'm doing is enough. A day from now, I am leading a group to defend the research that I spent myself for 4 months. I can't think straight if I should continue doing my best because I'm sick and tired of it. I'm sick and tired of not getting the promised fruit for all the labor I did. Not gonna omit this, I still have 5 uni, which means 5 chances of still getting a university to enter this upcoming academic year but I'm afraid that I might receive the same news again. The 2nd uni, wants me to wait until August 3rd if an available slot opens up but they can't assure me that I'm gonna get it because they say first come, first serve. Sorry for ranting
Just want to update you guys, I passed 4/7 universities. However, I didn't get my priority program in any of them. Now I decided that I'm gonna proceed to one of the prestigious university in my country that I got qualified in even though I didn't get my priority program, I still think I will learn to love what I have right now. Thank you for your encouragement!
@@sie2328 hey! just checking in on ya- how are things? how's school? have you found happiness in your new life? my birthday's tmr but finals are also starting on the same day so uh yeah the universe hates me 🤠 anyways- even if things aren't the best rn- i hope you know how important you are. some comment you left on a study music playlist gave a tired kid enough motivation to get off their ass and get stuff done. you're amazing. let's continue to work hard in the future! good luck!!
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thanks hun , i love you too 💗 I know u are struggling too n im proud of u for still thinks of other when ur own world falling apart ❤ I love you darling , u r the person that world needs ✨
its less of "i need to get the highest grades" (i do crave them but yk) and more of "if i don't study harder i won't pass the admission exam and that means no college" and i can't even think about that without crying (my exam's on july 3rd)
I just had an exam, I studied all night long, I didn’t sleep, and I didn’t get a good grade while my classmates who didn’t study and cheated got super good grades. The moment I saw my grade I started scratching my hand till the point I couldn’t stop because I knew what was waiting for me at my “home”. I’m just so tired…
This playlist is the best like honestly it’s got me in my feels. Being a burnt out gifted kid that’s still trying to get high grades and beating themself up over it really makes this playlist hit even harder
I might have a big issue with needing academic validation, but one thing that annoys me is people who act as if I'm ''dramatic''. Saying that my grade is still good when I have an 80 and that I shouldn't complain because most people can't even pass, sure I get it, but I have different expectations for myself and I am personnally not satisfied unless I score higher than 90. My school gives out A LOT of medals for the best scoring students in each subjects and I didn't get one even if I have 100 in maths. My friend said that it's stupid, dramatic and egocentric of me to want that medal. Disagree if you want, but I found it very irrespectul for her to say that against my values. She might not care about such things, but I do.
I get so upset if I get a C grade yet getting an A grade doesn't even make me feel good, it's just what I feel like I'm supposed to get cuz I've always gotten really good grades effortlessly. That might sound good but since I'm in highschool now I have to actually try studying and doing homework and stuff, last year in 9th grade I almost got a D grade in math, just barely scraping by to a C cuz I barely understood anything in the class.
Story time... I am diagnosed with giftedness and an IQ of 137, and I always get the highest grades. BUT nothing comes all of a sudden, even though I have a very fast mind, I still have to study a lot. So, if you're seeing this, just study, study, study AND study. I actually studied so much it starded being fun! In the end, you'll see it's really worth it. See you some years from now at Harvard, people from all around the world! I'm sending you lots of love and peace from Brazil!!!
It's honestly disappointing that I got top of the class, straight A's, a "perfect" family and I can never be proud of myself. They keep saying I am a genius, saying that I don't need to spend as much time as others to get better grades than them. It's honestly sad how hard I need to try now to live up to my parents, teachers, and my own high expectations.
to all the people who were praised for being "the smart kid" when they were younger but then around middle/high school started falling apart, i love you and i hope you're doing well
its worse to think of this that there are a lot of people who would study their best , give it their all , and then find out that they fail anyway in the future , or that someone else who didn't study and get marks as well as them managed to be really successful in life , yet alot of people expect high remarks from their children in school Street Smart nowadays is the best way to live amongst life , but it doesn't mean to stop studying . Then again , don't overstudy yall . Since it won't end well for your marks and end up failing you instead . Glll !!
Academic validation is the only thing i crave for. I always act dumb and scored high marks😆.That satisfaction to see your classmates reaction( confused, surprised)when you scored high marks. I'm living for that reaction. I don't take notes and act like not pay attention during classes but secretly i do.I prefer to stay low-key and want people to expect less from me.
see I just act dumb because I don't want to seem like I'm showing off or think I'm better than everyone, but honestly now I kinda think of myself as dumb so this whole thing backfired
that sounds fun, in an alternate universe id like to try that but its too hard for me to multitask with pretending to not pay attention and actually listen at the same time. Im either listening or im not 😂 Plus im already a "nerd"
I have a brother who gets more academic validation than me for lower scores bc he has dyslexia, he's great and all, but- I'm here too, I want emotional support and validation-
It gets better y'all! My favorite study method is to teach concepts, whether it's to a fake audience or to re-teach it to my friends, I find that I remember a lot more when I do that
I grew up with just about effortless 100% A's for my whole life. I had a college reading level in 3rd grade, I skipped 4th grade entirely, and now I'm 17 and about to get my associate's degree. The problem is, it's like I need academic validation from myself. My parents are proud of me. They're so proud that I'm embarrassed because I don't think I deserve it. I didn't ask to skip a grade; I just did because the only other option was to repeat the year I'd already aced. I didn't want to start college at 15, but I did because it would save my parents a lot of money. So, knowing those were the things I had to do, that wasn't overachieving at all. It was just the basics. In my head, getting 100% on everything is the bare minimum for me. Internally, it's just like, wouldn't I have to do something wrong to get anything else? Wouldn't anything less require me to mess up somewhere? It's ridiculous because I don't project that onto anyone else. Whatever grade they got, if they're happy with it, is more than enough for me to be happy for them. For me, though? Sure, that still applies, but I'm unhappy when it's anything less than 100%. In fact, I actually start getting panicky if it's less than 90%. A core memory of mine is getting a 98% on one of my finals and walking out of it completely devastated and not understanding why my parents were proud. Similarly, I got a 30 composite score on my ACT, including 36 (a perfect score) on the reading portion. That seems great, but I got a low score on the writing portion, and that's all I really cared about. When I don't get perfect scores, it feels more like a moral failure than an academic one. I suppose it's a combination of anxiety and the need for control, which would certainly explain some things that have been developing now that the end is in sight. I've been trying to be nicer to myself recently since I have some professors that grade up from 0% and some that will make either/or assignments where 100% on whichever you choose means you get 50%. On top of that, I'm also the youngest in my class by a long shot. By the rules I set for myself, I must be okay with any A's I get. Honestly, though, it's hard to feel that way. I have a 90.8% in one of my classes, and I get nervous every time I see it because, in my head, I'm barely scraping by in that class. It's odd - I don't care about being better than anyone else, and it has nothing to do with my future. It has nothing to do with enjoying school or making anyone proud. If I do go for a bachelor's degree, it would be in songwriting and music production, something that has nothing to do with my current education and focuses on a field that doesn't require a degree. I'll probably do a quick certificate course in a field that pays well and never return to school. Despite this, I often lose sleep because I'm putting so much effort into keeping my grades up. What is it all for?
i dont have the best grades, its always a constant worry i have in my mind. "i need to study harder." "i cant get into uni and/or college with these grades, ill be rejected!" i always search for hopes that ill get better grades than before but all i get are B's and C's, its never enough for me. sometimes it'd be like a 2-3% away from an A and i feel like absolute sh*t for not being able to get that extra percent. especially since i need a PhD for my wanted occupation, i cant help but feel like its a dream that is so close but far away.
Academics are the big arriving stress 😢....you are enough even if no one tells u this..I believe in you...just try your best okay I know u can do this .... Lots of love ❤
When you are a decent student, athlete, musician. You get praised for them. The moment you try to quit people are like oh no you're so good! Just doing a thing wrong "weren't you so good" So you stick with everything and you're parents think you're just a time waster and attention seeker Oh and I did I mention you have family issues and is an only child Your classmates think you're too cool for them and avoid you. "Don't do love, don't do friends I'm only after success"
I worked harder than everyone else and got better results than everyone else, that's why no one around me loves me, but I will continue on the same path without giving up, I don't need anyone in life and you will see, in the end I will win!!
DISCLAIMER THIS IS ME JUST VENTING. my parents didn't push for good grades when I was young, as long as I wasn't failing and I understood the material. My older brother was always the art and music kid who was outgoing and had a lot of friends, while I understood things in school really easily and picked up school subjects really well, my brother preferred to practice something he could show off like his paintings. I thought that if I got really good grades my family and people in general would pay attention to me. The school me and my brother went to was weird compared to the school I go to now, but I was top of my grade there. That didn't mean much to me tho 'cause there were only like 25 kids in my grade (I'm not joking there were no more than 200 kids there and it was an elementary and middle school combined) but because of that weird school, when I switched to a normal public school I realized I wasn't just top of my grade there, everyone from my old school that switched to that school had already learned what they were teaching and I was 2 years ahead of them. So between 7th and 8th grade, I went from being the top of 25 students to 2 years ahead of over 150 kids, people would ask for my help with work so I finally made real friends, but I also didn't learn almost anything for two years. So now I'm in 10th grade, and it's the first time I'm learning anything new in so long and I'm not used to having to apply myself to get good grades and I've been so tired and stressed from it. before I would get my work done in 5-10min for each subject then help my friends or sleep. now I spend all of my class time working on something while my friends are asking for help, or the teacher tells them to have me help them, and I don't want them to know I'm struggling because my identity was always tied to my grades but if I can't figure something out easily then why would they need me. and when my grades started going from straight A's to only C's, my family was disappointed, and that was the only time they expressed concern for any grades ever. Only if I was doing worse than usual. not when my brother was failing half his classes and skipping summer school. no. they never told him that. but the second I go from "the good younger sibling that gets good grades and doesn't get in trouble" to being an average student, everyone in my family acts like I had a complete change of character and was gonna drop out and start doing drugs. I ended up getting so stressed from it that i was out sick for a week and I'm currently behind in all six of my academic classes, missed the beginning of Esports practice, and have no idea what we're doing in band because my friends in those classes are the kinda people that don't understand their school work half the time and i usually end up helping them even when I'm not in class, Sorry for the random vent/ trauma dump in the comments
This is me. I’m currently getting a law degree just to feel something and for people to be proud of me. I’ve always been overlooked in my family so trying to impress my customers at work is all i got 🙃
I HATE being outdone I actually feel like never talking to them again. I always get the highest and now if people get higher than me they take it as an accomplishment.
As someone who craves academic validation, I still get mad remembering that only one subject is stopping me from getting that AMAZING all A+ asian grade feel. Also listening to this while doing that ONE subjects homework, making slightly better ngl tyty
my parents hardly care about my studies, and i dont feel supported or encouraged by them at all, ive always craved validation, and so academic validation has been my motivation for so long now - i just want to pass my exams with amazing scores and show everyone my success
It’s a constant feeling of not being enough: an A- ? Why not plus? A? Where is the plus? B? That’s trash right there. A+? It still doesn’t feel enough, and what if I fail? I don’t understand this question…what a disappointment I am. I’ll spend hours of studying and only get myself the grade I didn’t want, being burned out and tired because of staying up is my closest buddy now…
Thank you for making this playlist, I always feel motivated and energized to do every school work and pass everything. Though I'm not as smart as I used to be but I need to make my family proud of me...
it's all fun and games to wanna reach for the stars and always be the best until the lyric "once you cross the line, will you be satisfied?" comes to haunt you at night
Academic validation is a tempory happy that i always chase after. And I'm terrified of that, because I know, that when I'm out of school I'm going to lose myself. That one mutual thing I could always have in common with people my age, that will be gone when I graduate in 2 years. I won't have a quality anymore, I won't be the "smart girl" anymore, I'll just be some guy. As someone who's always craved and needed validation from other people, I poured all of my work into my school life. But after having a job this summer, the awful realization hit me, that I'm not gonna have any idea what I'm doing anymore after I graduate. I'll automatically cope into my path of "complete success" to be happy, and when I'm out of college then what? I'll be nothing but a degree
That's pretty deep. I understand that feeling but I'm way younger than you so it would definitely be much more terrifying with only 2 more academic years ahead of you. However I do believe that your degree will be useful and i also believe that you will be able to manage your time between study and time for yourself when you can learn about yourself and do other things. Don't put all your self worth into validation from others. (Although, you probably already know that) The only thing that matters is that you are happy with yourself. Best of luck!!
It all started when i was a kid, my parents continuously stressing over my elder sis who never listens to them. Growing up in that tense atmosphere i automatically started studying religiously. And when i got first rank in primary class i saw a very genuine smile on my dad's face after so many years. I realised this thing now, that i continuously wants to see that proud smile on my parents face. And thats the reason i try so hard to be "good" daughter to them. I'm compensating so hard for my "failed" sister. I just wish that one day, I can look back and take a deep breath and just smile. I love the way I'm living, but i hope in future I'll meet someone who don't want me to be perfect and accept my flaws which are deeply buried somewhere.
As someone who used to be academically valid and no longer is, my mental state is beyond strained in trying to be academically valid again, I MISS MY ACADEMIC VALIDATION.
Well for me, whenever I have an exam my friends would always say something like “even if you dont study or dont focus in class you can always succeed” but little did they know how hard I struggle, sometimes people just see you because your achievements, i guess thats why we developed this illness so called “academic validation “
I am not going to lie when I first heard top of my school from my sister I had cried cause during the time I was in a really bad situation with my academic's and family. btw I really do like this playlist It has some really good song's.
I envy those who crave Academic Validation while here I am still stuck in fighting a battle I've never wanted to experience, hope that everyone would be successful one day and hope that everyone who are like me would win those battle inside their head.
I have full 100% in all my classes. I participate whenever I undertand the question. I help my classmates the most. I never have freetime after school due to the constant extracurriculars, not even on weekends. You would think that I'm a perfect student, yes, my teachers and classmates think so too, but my mom (which i still love) finds any crack in what I do and bash me about it. It's fucking annoying. I'm starting to think that she doesn't appreciate what I do every single day, and only pays attention to the cracks in the surface of such a smooth cement.
Vivo de la validación académica no ahí nada que me de Seguridad que sacar sobresaliente, me la paso horas extras estudiando para siempre estar un paso más adelante de los temas a ver ,Los reconocimientos, títulos , logros son lo que me hacen ser YO, Vivo y moriré por ser destacada académicamente ,tengo miedo de ser una persona común y quiero ser mucho más que el promedio, quiero construirme una vida en la que sea reconocida por mis esfuerzos , quiero sentirme bien y lo único que me da esa satisfacción que tanto busco es saber que destaco académicamente , quisiera una vida no tan cansada pero supongo que es parte de "ganar".. Aspiro a ser alguien reconocida y sobresaliente.
There is a girl in my class who also craves academic validation and we used to be friends but she’s started being horrid to me for beating her in tests 😂
!VENT! i always try so hard to get the best grades. i feel like then my parents will fully acknowledge how smart and capable i am. I'll show them an amazing grade i got and all i get is a little "oh, good job". I worked so hard and that's it. I act like i don't care about my grades and what others think, but i really do and it's killing me. my anxiety is terrible. i'm so competitive and stubborn cause i feel like i have to be the best. and i'm only 12
I agree... I'm 12 too but my situation is a tiny bit different than yours. This year I got 100 percent on 3 of ny tests and over 95 percent for the rest but they keep on telling me to do better and get 100 percent in everything else.
Im currently revising for tests coming up in around 2 weeks, and I have no clue where to start. Im currently doing science since im good at it, but I dont have my book or resources to look at. I dont want to google anything either, but i think ill have to. I really want a good score on my tests, even for lessons i dont neccesarily like, but thats possibly normal for everyone listening to this 💀 I didnt even realise i was listening to such a playlist until i looked. So this is cracking a nerve 💀
burnt out in the tenth grade. I don't know what I'm doing with my life and envy those who have a clear cut path. Everyone is telling me to "explore my options" but what options are there for someone who doesn't want to go into STEM and doesn't want be a lawyer? Not many, that's what. And it's this pressure to make money, to be successful, to be enough for my mother and father. Yet here I am, most likely going to get left behind because of gap year while all of my best friends study at top universities. It's not like I don't have the grades. But I just don't know where I'm going.
(Vent) My parents have pushed me a lot and I keep pushing myself for academic validation. No one is forcing me to do this, but I NEED my parents to feel proud of me, if I’m not academically valid am I enough? Like am I valuable? I saw my mom get disappointed over a 88% and it broke me into damn pieces.
To those who listen to this playlist while studying, You are doing great,sunshine!!Even if only for a minute,as long u try to study,then its a good job!!Dont overwork yourself and remember to take a break..Dont make studying is something that haunt you.Make it something fun and magical🌸🌺Remember,you learn for your OWN benefits.Not to satisfy anyone💐.Great day!
