I had such a difficult time with my step mother. Every morning I would wake up and she would be the first person I see. Life was horrible and we would fight every single day.... Then I started reading salah and made dua that although it seems impossible I hope that one day Allah makes me and my step mum get along and Subhanallahu after a few years of making that dua, it came true!!! and now we are like best friends.
Mashallah my sister has caused me so much pain several times and several times i forgive and forget but she starts again. Ihas also been rude to my mum the finally i completely cut off with her. But in my heart i dont want hatred for her I always ask Allah to forgive her and guide her and I also forgive her but hard to forget whenit your mum who suffer. May Allah give ur courage and love in our heart.Ameen
Made me think of this ayah as I am going through such a situation right now. The other day I opened up a book of du'as and found this: "Our Lord, forgive us and our brothers who preceded us in faith and put not in our hearts [any] resentment toward those who have believed. Our Lord, indeed You are Kind and Merciful." -surat al-hashr; 10 It put everything in perspective for me. It makes me sad to have such a problem with another believer. Just make lots of du'a for yourself AND that individual
I really needed this. My ex husband lied to me. Cheated me. And his sister helps him hurt women for money. May Allah ask them. I wantef to abuse her for all she did to help her brother but now I will not. May Allah give my heart ease and other people who have hearts in pain.
Subhan'Allah. This is how I feel about one person in particular! I wasn't aware that I had the right to talk about them and to make du'a against them though.
I have a sister that i don’t like and just don’t want to have grudges for her but i can’t get rid off her my mind ,wallahi i hope all the best to her . I just want my head to get some rest and focus on the deadlines of my work .
Ma Sha Allah. Jazak Allahu Khairan. This video just made me realise that forgiving and asking Allah's (SWT) mercy and forgiveness is the only way forward.
What if I couldn't forgive, no matter how much I tried, I constantly fail? I know my Allah has protected me from lots of bad things [the all-merciful and the most compassionate] but I couldn't forgive those who wronged me
I just made a post on forgiving others and listened to this just now, thought it was perfect in elaborating the points I made. Jazakh'Allah Khair for the words of advice!
You like the first shaykh that I can relate to. You so cool الْحَمْدُ لِلَّهِ too much sadness causes one to feel mute and unmovable but then Forgiveness fixes it up and gives satisfaction
i dont think it literally means to forget.i think it means, dont keep reminding yourself and people around you of the wrong done against you, dont dwell on it etc etc. forgiveness comes first and 'forgetting' will take time, but try your best not to dwell, or remind yourself and others.
I live with a toxic sister who is controlling and aggressive and problematic. I really don't know what to do about it. Every time I try to seek help from my parents they treat it as a normal thing and I'm exaggerating the whole thing. I can't help holding grudges against her because every time I forgive her she comes at me worse than ever and I'm scared this might ruin me mentally. May allah grant me sabr until I find peace
MashaAllah, great great reminder as always, may Allah reward the Quran Weekly team. But that guy moving around in the background that we could see in the reflection on the background was slightly distracting!
try to make up with your sister inshaALLAH, i know how much it can hurt as i'm in exactly the same situation but cutting off family ties is a pretty big sin in islam. May ALLAH swt make it easy for you, me and whoever is in a similar situation.
there is another quran weekly video where brother numan talks about anger/ i think this is a good video to look at it will give you another perspective/ and its not just about anger as well/
I had a freind who was manipulative and just took my kindness as weakness. I cut her off and I dont regret. sabar is good alhamdulillah, but if they are coming with negetive energy, do urself a favor and cut them off. Choose you and ur peace first. But most importantly, forgive them. forgiving them does not equal to putting up with their negative energy.
Dear Brother .. kindly let us know the DUA for letting go of grudge ... Sometimes even one try to forgets, its not possible for him/her .. So kindly let us know WAZEEFA or DUA for letting go of grudge and repentance to live a peaceful life...
Kashif Bashir Assalamu alaikum. I don't know if there is a dua but I can tell you that just because you forgive doesn't mean it will never pop up in you mind again sometimes. Forgiveness is an ongoing process. Just remember that you forgiveness benefits you! Holding on to a grudge or resentment is like carrying extra weight with you all the time. Just forgive akhi :)
i was distracted by the shadow of the man behind! lol i kid i kid! well jazaka Allahu khayran shaykh, indeed we need patience and "hilm" while dealing with out brothers and sisters
yeah i have similar problem.. what to do in situations when they still continue to do evil and negative stuff and continue to damage against u. how can we leave them as we have family ties with such people.?
Your brother sounds just like my sister but worse she would physically hurt me and emotionally cause me so much pain. She too studied law. That manipulative and lying nature in her. And now she suffering because of all the pain she has and still is causing me so ignorant she doesn’t not see the signs of why things are going wrong in her life
Thanks u 4 your support. But i think am much at peace without her in my life. Believe me only beacause of Allah I made up with her several times.But She does things and say lies thats is so much painful.I ask Allah 2 forgive me but really cant build a relationship as sister with her.The other thing is she is married to a non muslim I dont know if she still has the fear of Allah in her heart.She said she does not want me and my mum in her life.Actually not really me who broke.up.Allah knows best
Sir, I am in a similar situation and have talked to my learned friends. I will try to forgive him, but I am living with him, do I still have to talk to him???? please tell me? Regards,
asalam alaykum hope everyone is well. what if a person is just abusive and they repeatedly chose to do harmful things non stop. what is a difference between forgiving an offense and abuse that gets intolerable and is non stop and the person smiles and laughs about it when they see you upset.
Masha Allah. its very good. But my question is that I can forgive and forget but what about those relatives, freinds or people with whom we have constant interaction and i can forgive them but they still continue to do bad, evil stuff to us. we can continue to forgive them but how. we need to protect ourselves. What should we do in this regard? ..as such people continue to be jealous of us and hurt us in various negative ways.? pls advise.Jazak Allah
What if jealous people physically abused and used drugs for ruining memory because they were already doomed for what they stole...? Since year's and years? How can we forgive someone worse like shaitan? They're doomed
from an outsider this sounds super hypocritical. Just the other day in the post he made it seem like if you werent helping out before dont help/care now. Sounds childish and the opposite of holding a grudge. also just to clarify he is not even a dr, he has a master recognized internaitionally and a doctorare that isnt. Even if the doctorate was its still not within his legal rights to call himself a dr. I will follow up by reporting him to the appropriate channels and see if his doctor titel will stay
Islam doesn't approve of it, it doesn't matter how many Muslims do. We're flawed, but our religion isn't. Pictures are haram, pictures depicting prophets, even more so. and did I see 'God's interaction with Muhammad'? A picture of God? May Allah forgive us.
