That horrible red chair blocks half the telly! I feel so sorry for Aimee, she was guilted and bullied into decisions I’m sure she’ll regret. No therapy to get to the root of the problem and her reward for her efforts….. the worst home makeover we’ve ever seen. 😢
The professionals should have interviewed their clients about their likes and dislikes. It would be the best solution to know that Amy was a vegetarian in the first place. Besides, and oldhouse like this deserved a more classic makeover.
The absence of any acknowledgment of the psychological component of compulsive shopping and hoarding, along with the stylist’s utter disregard for Amie’s style has me positively gobsmacked. I feel like Amie was just extorted by this terrible show.
💯💯💯This show and the other about obese people are comparably stupid. The show about "shopaholics" was 100% better, they were helping the addict, and giving them great tools to change their behaviors. This show is doing nothing, it is ridiculous.
what designer would not collaborate with her clients? You don't just spring your own ideas on people and then say "oh, she's a vegetarian, and i put a cow on her floor"
@@differenttakethanmost Eh. Hoarding has no age limit. She needs to find a way to control her impulses and possibly find better ways to spend her time...It takes longer for some people.
Amie was not heard when she didn't like what the makeover was supposed to loom like, only the fiancee liked it. Where should her motivation to sell stuff come from. She literally said she didn't like lilac in her bedroom, the "designer" just pushed that aside. She needed to sell her stuff to finance something she wasn't even allowed to give any input to?
Yeah this show is pretty unethical considering the hoard is an emotional or trauma response.... selling her hoard and not giving her a voice about the interior is terrible
@@nicholasschoonbeck6866 🖐 I watched the entire video! She kept saying she loved it in a flat voice and plastered smile that you use when the cameras are rolling. I think she was genuinely happy in the shop when the money was coming in, so that's what her actual happiness would have looked like. It's no matter though, if they really didn't like it they could sell the pieces and repaint easily enough.
@@Amber4 they shouldn't marry. She will go back to hoarding, because she has an Addiction to the thrill of shopping and Needs therapy. They are unlikely to survive that.. I feel sorry for them both.
Tiny house with small rooms and low ceilings and that designer is making it dark, depressing and smaller... Nightmare. The living room looked cheap and tacky. Almost like a brothel. She should make it light airy young and clean looking.. Does she even have a design qualification?.. Horrific..I would go nuts! That is the worst interior design I have ever seen.. I would bring so much in to cover up the new interiors!
Can you imagine having a designer that says “I don’t care, just tell me how much money I’ve got”. Goodbye. Not to mention that she a), hasn’t asked the home owners what they want or b), shown any initiative to be able to style on a budget. Can’t imagine what happens if they don’t like her style.
I feel for her, it must be so traumatic to sell her stuff without the aid of a therapist to help her deal with it. I think she will regret it later. The shock treatment doesn't work with hoarders.
I know, that designer kept saying "there just clothes" but it's not just clothes for woman. She's buying all these clothes for a reason, they should of had a therapist there to help her step by step and so she realises why she does it to then stop her from doing it again
The house was horribly empty and cold afterwards. Her fiance isn't the most supportive either IMO. Red flags when he said 'we are going to have an argument'. My narcissistic ex would say this. It makes you 'shut up ' and walk on egg-shells! 😡
I agree. I don't think the designer took into account that their home is a character property. Low ceilings with beams & small windows with minimal light. Lighter paint colors would've opened up the space with the appearance of bigger & brighter. Bedroom was very bland with no pop of color at all.
I am that cross with the interior decorator. She did not consult Amie about the colour choices at all. It was all about her vision and not about helping Amie transition into her new space. PS she should have been given more than just one rail to fill. I am not a clothes hoarder but I would need two to three rails (taking into account a coat, jacket and knitwear, let alone dresses, skirts, t-shirts, pants, bags and shoes.
I wouldn't let Abigail Ahern paint one brush stroke of tester paint on a wall in my home let alone 'decorate' it. She is an awful interior designer. And I just don't like how she comes across. She niggles me to the core.
The designer forced her own dream, excluding what the couple was trying to tell her, when they were allowed to talk at all. I've worked with two interior decorators in my life. A true professional makes it a collaborative effort so that the result is a space in which the owner feels at ease.
I'd never want to live in that house, it would be so dark and depressing. You need lighter colours to really open up the living space, maybe one dark accent wall, but that's too much.
@@absolutelyridiculous6743 If they met their wedding date and are still together, they celebrated their tenth wedding anniversary just four days ago. Something tells me they didn't make it.
I can't believe they wasted her money on a cow hide rug, especially when she's vegetarian. This designer likes having hunting things in homes, she put a pretend moose head in someone else's makeover, so strange. She also should have kept her lip painting instead of having the big pink lip on the wall.
12 years ago I noticed I had a bit of a hoard happening in my home. Coming across things that I didn’t even remember buying. So I stripped it all back and gave myself one rule to live by....if I hadn’t used it within 12 months it gets donated. And that’s what led me to realise my reckless and impulsive consumerism was a symptom of something far deeper and disturbing than I could’ve guessed had I not given myself that *one* little rule to live by.... Life is lighter and happier when we’re not weighed down by ‘things’. 🙂
I understand the '12 month rule' as a general guideline, but I have tools for example which I might not use every year, but I will use them and it would be incredibly wasteful to keep replacing them!
WHYYY have they got her at the sale?! She WILL NEVER get over this without psychological assistance!!! That house will be back to the same within weeks, worse so to make up for this experience. Her hoarding is a response to some long suppressed wound.
You’re quite underestimating the human mind. As long as she’s willing to take part in the process, as long as she focuses on what she’s gaining (not what she’s “losing”) she’ll be just fine. These are just bad habits and bad habits of thought. People make it so complicated. Therapists doubly so, as it’s their bread and butter. 95.8% of the time they’re completely unnecessary. How many people do you know “in therapy” -have been for years- the only thing that’s changed is the counselor’s bank account.
@@differenttakethanmost Actually it is you who underestimates the human mind. You clearly don't understand hoarding disorder and OCD... The human mind is complex. Many mental and developmental disorders are life-long and therapy can really help in the long run. Bad habits and bad habits of thought can be treated through counselling. Not saying therapy works for everyone but therapy does change lives for the better.
I feel so dreadful for Amy, she should have had real support from someone with experience in counselling hoarders and been allowed the time to grieve her collection. All this bossing around and trivialising of her addiction must have been a very lonely process for her. The expectation for her to be super happy about a massive part of her identity being stripped away and replaced with something she didn't even have a choice in is insane, I hope she is doing much better now
I know right! Let's completely strip you of this protective act of hoarding. Rip these things from you with no psychological assistance, while completely belittling you. Completely gaslighting her and holding the wedding over her head as threat. AND completely redecorate your house where you have no control over it or autonomy in the process. Yep. Great idea. Will definitely work out 😅
You know what will make a small room look even smaller? Dark paint choices- the living room and office look like a dark cave. That alone would be depressing.
People who love clothes … our wardrobes mean so much to us. What we choose wear is a big part of our personal expression. I felt terrible for Amie as she had to pare down her collection by 90%. Then that so-called designer went and painted their formerly bright cheery house into “makes me want to slit my wrists dark gray, sort of blueish gray and allegedly lilac gray”. And then she painted over some of Amie’s former shoes apparently, as an “art installation”/torturing reminder of all her pretty things that she was pressured into selling cheap to PAY that obnoxious lady to ruin their house!? Through it all this sweet girl was so brave and tried to roll with it. Betcha front room was have been repainted before the show even aired! Another commenter said that they had celebrated their 10th anniversary and have three children, so I hope the experience of participating in this show is just a distant memory to them now.
The interior is very dark. It seems like the rooms have shrunken. Tops of the pops is the dead cow skin carpet. I feel sorry for the couple, for both of them. And I hope Amie found the help she really needed to solve her shopping problem.
It is very comforting to see that a beautiful young woman has a hoarding issue and not only older people who are mostly nuts. Amy is one of many women who has shopping problem and the three people on this show were rather harsh with her. Hoarders need a very gentle approach.
They don't understand that hoarding is a symptom of underlying issues and can even have a genetic cause . Chromosome 17 deletion. Other issues like OCD and anxiety too. It's a huge mistake to think just clearing out will solve the problem long term.
Absolutely. I’m currently listening to the show devoting more time on the history of that radio than the underlying phycological component of why they’re there to “help” in the first place. This show is awful!
Why Do they even have to redesign the house? Isn't the Wedding more important? Oh and why the Tattoo with the date? Things can happen and dates can change 😅
At the end of the show, they said that 2 months later, everything was kept up & still clutter free, & the biggest thing Amie had bought was a wedding dress. I pray this couple continues to do well & has a very happy future!
26:33 she doesn't need to learn to let go that needs therapy! And Amy's attitude and patience is really impressive throughout this whole awful experience anyway
I was turned in by my old landlord! It was so awful. I was lucky and they gave me an organizer. She did all the work and took everything to donations. I have always wanted my home better but had no help. Now I have so much less stuff, it's wonderful, so glad to get rid of so much 😊
The Bride is paying to have the house redo, is it a rental? What is the groom paying for? These makeovers are not a good use of the money. As many have said, the decorator doesn't listen to the couple. I would never hire a (so-called) pro decorator, they spend money like water.
Show has good intentions but they needed to have the support of the people they are helping. Also why is the designer not listening to the couple. They have said they didn't like the colours or look suggested but they did it anyway.
Everything I've seen this designer do was so bloody dark and depressing, and that's coming from someone with fairly goth tastes. Every redo she makes the homes into caves.
I can't watch any more. No one is helping her at all. There is no understanding!!! They are browbeating her. She will go back , no question, because her deep needs are not being met.
That is exactly how,I felt. her bf was more concerned about what he wanted and no one really consulted Amy. She was happyselling,but I wish,she had been able to have kept her own money or at least designed her home the way she wanted. Her BF didnt out any of his money into anything. i dont think they will get married,or stay together if they do.
Why redesign the house when Amie said they need money for the wedding? Why not put the money into this and let them do whatever they want with their home decor? And in the end their house looks like a dungeon.
Who is the designer ? My neighbours hide away that she did up in her families crawl space resembles the hoarders new lounge / livingroom. She was 14, it was dark with house hold throw backs not unlike the redo. Should have saved there new found cash and did it themselves. Even the refurbished fireplace looks unfinished, looks like primer. Did not know that flat white is the in thing. LOL. She may have temporarily given up excessive shopping, given the redo she may start drinking.
I am sorry but the house screams Victorian!!! Especially the fireplace. Why do today's designers not understand this concept. The Edward's and Victorian periods had elegance!!! Today's modern style minimalist furniture, fabrics and accessories are cheap, colorless and lacking in any beauty. Not only in the UK but in cities like San Francisco which boasts some elegant Victorian buildings. Today's modern look looks like Trash
We don't know what exact inner healing she needs, but from this video and from her interaction with others, she seems like a very deligthful person to be around, and makes me want to be friends with her. So is he. I hope they're happy together since then, and I hope she's overcome her shopperholic/hoarding issues
Oh she's rude that "designer" woman , calling Amiee miss .... Her statement about believing spaces effect behaviour is correct. And she's pretentious. Why does this Abby woman never listen if she came in and did this in my life it would destroy my relationship. If he turns into a control freak or . How can Amiee cope with this I can't even watch till the end .
What a hideous red chair ! Sad she never was able to work through the reasons she collected all this stuff She needs help Getting rid of stuff is only a temporary solution Hope her journey was successful Personally I found their place claustrophobic and did not like it at all after the redecorating!
I hope her fiance realises what he will work for, the rest of his life, if he stays with this woman. The 'designer' comes across as a bully, who pushes her bad taste onto her clients. I feel that she stuffs up the whole show.
Somehow people don't seem to associate frivolous purchases to hours worked to enable it. Only when you get older and time becomes a precious and dwindling commodity does this kind of consumerism become obscene.
Another "New York" style makeover. All these makeovers look contrived. And Amy gave up the stuff she loved for that crummy makeover, which she probably doesn't like.
I think sometimes the designers just want to experiment and do designs they like. They don't care if it fits the home or customer's style. Painting tiny rooms so dark, including the ceiling..? 😳
I personally would have done white through the place with art and comfort pieces with pops of color that amy is attracted to. Put the money into therapy individual and couples therapy. A photo of the pile is a better reminder. I hope they are well a decade later
The designer think’s she doing her own house in every show!🤦♀️😳☹️ I do like how they take everything out of the house. Amy needs help. If not it won’t change. 💔
Lol when he said it's crunch time and he doesn't wana live like that forever not even knowing if she will change and he tattooed the date of their wedding on his arm. That was a joke aye ? 🤣
They decluttered the room of stuff but with the paint color it looks cluttered and depressing… I feel like it puts a weight on their shoulders. I think a home should look spacious
I'm not sure that these "experts" understand hoarding at all. This video is giving me anxiety 😭😭 Trying to turn a cottage into a New York apartment is complete bonkers ....... Not a great way to start married life
Sigh...you will regret marrying a hoarder, especially an expensive shopper. Her debt becomes yours. She must be in counseling and making progress at the very least.
