A SUPER-Manipulator! | Tell Them You Love Me Review 

I think she was trying to steal him away from his family and start going 'pro' with him. Like take him places and give speeches and everyone can gawk at how amazing SHE is for loving someone like him. I think she had plans on writing books and such in his name, pretending to be him.

I really felt sorry for the older brother. He is an educated man and trusted this educated woman. He must feel real guilt that he introduced the two and brought the predator into their lives (albeit well intentioned).

Saying his nickname WRONG, telling his fam he prefers red wine!?!?! (like when did he have red wine???), and he prefers classical music!???? Tf is wrong with this psycho?!

This case was insane and the more I thought about it the more disgusting it became. She essentially was violating an infant. With his mental capacity there is no way he went from having pretty much a baby’s mentality to making sentences, reading books, and writing essays. It was so ridiculous and she needs to be treated like a PDFile.

In my opinion she calls him Deman because it sounds like a handsome black mans name like Davon or Deshaun. Dman is a young childs nickname. Its apart of her delusions.

Junk Science! Absolutely disgusting what she did to Derrick. I read in a NY Times article that once Anna told D-Man's mom and brother that they were "in love" they invited Anna to the house to prove the device worked. Long story short, Derrick's mom and brother asked D-Man questions through Anna helping him with the keyboard device about their family that only Derrick would know and every question was answered wrong! Once they relized it was all a fruad they called the police. IDK why this fact wasn't in the documentary!?

New sub here! As a clinical therapist my opinion only is she was not having psychosis. She knew right from wrong. I believe she deleveloped an obsession as a child for differently abled person. That obsession grew into a FETISH.

i think you guys missed the point on why the filmakers let her take the lead narration. Though it was painfully obvious she had no remorse. And looked glee-full when recounting her crime. I think it was important for her to tell her perspective because we can clearly see her delusion take place. And as more details from the brother , the mom, and others take form..you start to immediately understand that this B is off her rockers..like the more she talks the more she tells on herself. Its a way for the audience to make their own determination and honestly more impactful then them just telling the story and us never hearing her. Its her own words, her facial expressions , her thought process, her perspective that really places HER NAIL IN HER OWN COFFIN so to speak

This is so gross. She should be in jail for the rest of her life

If you have a mental capacity of five years old then they don't even know about sex or have those needs. Nor would he speak the way she wrote it out with these long sentences. Makes me feel so sick to my stomach what she did to that poor man

thank you for calling out the biggest factor in this story that doesn’t make sense. i’ve been so confused about how in the world did he learn how to write and read over night ?! why would the family or anyone believe that he can learn how to write and read over night

Mary Kay Letourneau all over again. She said “he came on to me first” 🤨 People with cognitive impairment have varying degrees of impairment. Often they have sexual urges but depending on the level of impairment it’s not an issue anymore than any other bodily feeling is. Others who are higher functioning cognitively and physically may be able to relieve themselves or may be able to have a partner. I feel sorry for him because he had feelings that he didn’t know how to relieve himself and over time he learned to ignore it. Now he’s going to be upset that he has urges and no one is helping him address them. She should’ve served the whole 12yrs. The prosecutor could’ve appealed the decision or retried the case. Thank goodness she didn’t get pregnant.

It was painful to hear her say that name, D'Man over and over again. I completely agree. It was just another way of violating him and imprinting herself on him/ alienating his wonderful family. I can't think about this without getting emotional, because his mother and brother's true, honourable devotion to Derrick, was absused by that woman, every bit as much as Derrick himself was abused. A horrible, insidious crime, committed by someone who still shows no remorse. I also feel for her ex husband and children. She has multiple victims and if she was allowed to, would very likely reoffend.

I believe that if Derrick could truly communicate through the FC technology surely his Mum & brother would of been able to successfully assist him , after all they know Derrick better than anyone. I believe Anna was shaping & moulding Derrick into something she desired , she crossed a line & should have known better !

As someone myself who has cerebral palsy it is clearly obvious she took full advantage of him and his family’s wishes and hopes for him. Because if it was done correctly he would have been able to use the assistive technology independently like a communication device or a iPhone those are some of the assistive technology’s people with cerebral palsy use I have use my iPhone as assistive technology when doing my homework and a text reader and using assistive technology since I was seven years old due to long form writing being a challenge due to my CP.

Junk science::OMG!!!! This documentary was crazy. That lady ain't right. I believe since she is out in the free world she needed to be registered as a sex offender. I hated how she tried to take a light hearted approach to her side of the story.

i also hated when they interviewed Anna’s mother during the trial and had the audacity to say that D-Man’s mother was “parading his disability”. LIKE WHAT??? the producers kept that in smhhh

Isn’t it wild how an ethics professor or doctor or judge could literally be insane and think this irrationally in their private life ?

What really tripped me out was the whole thing with sharonda the other communicator. This is crazy af.

My heart broke for this family. She should've never got out.

Yes, Derrick had Cerebral Palsy, but what other diagnosis does he have. Profound Intellectual Disabilities, 3-6 month old babies do not take college courses.

JUNK SCIENCE!!! Thank you guys for liking my fun facts & i appreciate the shout out. I think Anna should be arrested. On a side note i’m from Alabama & i’m a music connoisseur. I love southern hip-hop as well.

Junk science. think she knew she was doing the typing herself. I agree with her husband - that she is a master manipulator. She was a predator and she hurt that family SO MUCH. I am so sickened by predators often get away with their crimes.

this is different and thanks for telling us more. These stories of abuse and using positions of authority to manipulate is heartbreaking

The description on Netflix is so misleading.. I thought it was gonna be something completely different lol

The thing that confused me is how he was able to write college essays w the other facilitator? Thats the one thing that makes me wonder what his true cognitive function is.

I wish they would have mentioned that every other area in his functioning remained the same except his new found ability to communicate only with the help of Anna. Still profound intellectual disability in every other area and needing physical assistance in every other area. She should be in JAIL!!

The filmmaker claimed to be impartial, but it was clearly formatted in a way that made us feel sympathy for Anna. They withheld certain facts or presented them in a way that was sympathetic to Anna. My main thing was that the mat caused scars and bruises, that means it hurt. You can’t tell me that he didn’t say that he was in pain. That’s where it fell apart for me. JUNK SCIENCE and she should be in jail

Junk Science!! Omg she most definitely deserves to still be in jail after she SA-ed Dman! This was a disgusting abuse of power!

I use to have a regular customer who was a sex educator specifically for those who limited mental and physical capabilities and she actual taught how to clients how to fulfill their needs and even had toys that she created for their specific needs.

😢I also feel no one is using the Right Words for What she did to Derick!! 😮 he is a survivor- abuse of the disabled and ederly is more common than people want to admit. She chose him becuase he could not talk. She already knew FC was Fake!!

Weird savior complex at play here.

Junk science: I did not like how the events were presented in the documentary either. As someone who worked in special education specifically with people who had communication disorders, I thought that the documentary was going to show how someone could be physically impaired but not cognitively impaired so in the beginning, I did find myself rooting for him going to school and getting access to education. I thought it was unethical that Anna was starting a relationship with him because obviously that’s her student and she’s married but the relationship of someone with the disability with someone who does not have a disability didn’t necessarily bother me, and I thought maybe it would be a situation where this was the first type of relationship like that to be public. Which it obviously was not. wish that they had not framed it that way from the beginning. It seems very cruel to frame a relationship as loving and consensual to then frame it as nonconsensual. especially as someone who is in favor of people with disabilities finding love and having access to relationships

Thank you for mentioning the name thing, every time she said Dman as one instead of D-man, it drove me insane. Red flag right there. Oh you are so intimate with this man but yet you couldn’t figure that out? Had it been him, He would’ve typed , you are saying it wrong on day one. Day 1.

Also we can advocate for differently abled to fulfill their sexual needs. However it should be with a PEER. The power and control here she had with her student was already unethical!!! This was hard to watch to see this unfold. You both did an amazing job dissecting the cultural aspet of this.

Great discussion. The documentary was extremely disturbing. It did allow the Ana character to speak a lot but I believe that actually revealed her as the villain. She was given the rope to hang herself. Just for context, Louis Theroux has been making documentaries for over twenty years now. This was just produced by him, not directed.

When I watched the documentary, I felt like they were trying to displaying both "sides" of the situation, that Anna really does believe that they had a "consensual relationship." However, I took it as while that's what she believes, it shows that she has severe psychological problems who's still a predator as opposed to believing she's right. Even if someone were to believe her delusions, she was still employed as an educator working as a scholar to be his facilitator, creating a power dynamic between the two. If they "relationship" ended, she would've had the power to take away his ability to communicate (again, if you believe her). There's no way that this could've been consensual, and there's no way to spin it that she isn't a monster with a white savior complex. If it wasn't out of pure selfishness, she would've stopped being his communicator and seen if there could be proper tests done to demonstrate that he has the intellectual ability to give consent. She didn't do any of that. She selfishly and arrogantly took matters into her own hands (literally and figuratively) to make the horrendous choices she did. It also does bother me that if the situation were reversed- that if it were a man of color doing this to a non-verbal white woman that the media and legal outcomes would've 100% been different. They would've been locked up forever, as she should be. The legal technicality that the communication device should've been allowed as evidence for the defense is ridiculous, since as you've accurately noted this video, science has proven that this isn't an effective form of communication for those who are differently abled. While I'm not a lawyer at all (let alone in the state of NJ) so I'm not familiar with the technicalities of law and legal evidence, I can say as both a professor and someone whose had jobs working with adults who have special needs that every action she took is unethical, immoral, monstrous, and downright unforgivable.

This documentary is crazy, she took advantage. I remember working with a lady whose son was like this. She would let him look at adult vids, close the door and then come to clean him up. Sexual health is apart of healthcare.

Junk Science. This story really tore me up for a few days after watching. Anna is a sick person but I’m glad that Derrick has the supportive family that he has to help him through what Anna did to him.

She should be in jail. What she did was horrible.

Thank you so much for covering this!! None of the true crime channels have even covered it.

I watched the doc and you brought up a point I didn't think of. How the heck could he spell if he never learned to read. Her has the mentality of a baby. She treated him like a toy. I feel for this Mother and brother, and if course Derrick.

Maybe y’all will get into it but what’s your take on Derek studying with the other student and typing up all this information? I don’t believe Anna at all but I can’t ignore that

She’s nuts, she really seemed to believe her own BS

This was so crazy and of course she got away with it

I have no sympathy for Anna. If it were a man doing this to a patient, male or female, no one would try to explain it or care about his mental health issues.

They did go into it…Anna said that Derrick learned all of it from observing and being around others.

I haven’t watched the video yet (waiting until my food arrives 😂) but I just wanna say you guys always come right on time. Can’t wait to see what you guys have to say about this documentary.

Thank you SO much for acknowledging the "how did he learn to read" question! It's been bothering me so much and no one's brought it up. How can he type things out with her help if he doesn't even know the alphabet?

Cheri 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂I’m dying every time you say “it just gets sticky to me” when yall are talking about him pleasuring himself 😂😂😂😂😂I know I’m childish!

Haa anyone ever read "Flowers for Algernon;" ?

Junk Science. This documentary made me really upset and disgusted. I hope no one else lets her around their loved one.

I have worked in medicine, and it’s often hard to tell which is worse regarding those that offer junk science, fake treatments: those that know they are faking, or those that believe it’s all real.

Anna had a pygmalion complex. She fell in love with herself and made him the false object of her attraction.

Yes, her mispronouncing D-Man (emphasis on the D) as d’MAN was so absolutely annoying. Made me cringe. This woman is wack.

The storytelling is done in a way that shows how the relationship unfolded in real life. The family and Anna WERE on the same page when it began, then the clues that something was wrong trickled in, and then the big reveal. That reveal was shocking and made you question everything you thought you knew. We are to experience it the way THEY experienced it; even the way Anna’s crazy tail experienced it. If they’d done a series they could talk about sexual abuse of disabled people, racial discrimination in disability cases, gender issues, etc. They had an hour and 45 minutes and made people have a lot of conversations. And yes she should be in jail.

She is only free because she pleaded guilty to a lesser charge and was released because of time served

There is no way Derrick was her first victim

That woman need to be under the jail

She’s not mentally ill, but she’s definitely crazy af for doing this to that kind poor guy. She knew EXACTLY what she was doing. She used that man to satisfy her own needs and didn’t think about him at all in the process. She shouldn’t be allowed around anyone else with any type of vulnerability ever again.

This woman is foul and should be in prison.

Awful question but i csnt stop wondering... Do u think if he's got the mental age of a 6mth-12mth old, does that make her a pedophile as well as an abuser? 😳

I think that she had a disability fetish. She made a comment that she was fascinated with disabled people as a child. Then there's the whyte savior aspect of the so-called relationship. This documentary made me angry. I'm a Mom of a son who's on the autism spectrum. He's on the higher end, but we have discussed inappropriate relationships and behavior with him. It's horrible that he and his family went through this.

This was so sad. She’s sick!

Anna should be in jail

I really think the documentary should have gone more into the abuse and not make it seem like a story with two sides. Should have gone more into her psychology and the abuse. They didn’t need to make it salacious but should have mentioned for example that she had to remove his diaper to abuse him. Something is very wrong with her -she is not a sympathetic figure.

It's important to have documentaries like this one because people are unaware of how often the mentally vulnerable are preyed upon sexually. Unless the public knows it's an issue, they will not create laws to protect nor vote for laws to protect these people. 90% of Autist girls are sexually assaulted. People without parents and brothers to protect them are really abused. I get that it's uncomfortable but it's important to raise this awareness so we can combat evil. Pretending it's rare is not helping us at all. Junk Science.

Junk Science. Awesome review. I was not going to watch the documentary due to the content of the story.

I’m watching this review because I couldn’t stand to watch the documentary. As soon as the nasty creep showed up and said she wasn’t guilty I clicked off. She is lucky his family is righteous in the lord cause me, I would have done something irreversible.

1. She shouldn't have done what she had done, she was in a place of power. 2. When the mom was talking about how she had to put him on medication.....it kinda made me take a double look. Just because you are mentally handicapped does not mean that sexual desire completely misses you. How can she definitively say that his 'awkwakening' wasn't due to now being a 30-something year old male. It just....mmmm, I don't know. This whole story was weird to me. And I don't think that she used race as a play against them, like the brother was trying to insinuate.

Thanks!

Junk science. The filmmakers may have tried to be neutral, but it definitely leaned towards making her look innocent more than not.

Louis Theroux is a documentarian from the UK. He has some good documentaries, but he typically cannot be a presenter of information, he has a tendency of editing the films toward his opinions. Also, he is typically soft on people who deserve condemnation.

JUNK SCIENCE would of never heard of this story but I found it very interesting to say the least and you guys hit all the necessary points

I was believing facilitated communication wasn't appropriate for Dman as the documentary suggests. The 1 thing the mother said made me believe Dmann could appropriately use facilitated communication was, once Ana was banned from seeing Dman he started masturbating excessively so she put him on medication 😳It was that comment that made me believe he probably did appropriately used facilitated communication. I also believe if Ana was black, this wouldn't be a case.

She’s free!!!! What in the world!!!

Junk science. Thanks for this discussion.

The interesting part is that th comments "he" made were things she wanted.Sick!!! I was done when they said she took off his diaper - GROSS -

This documentary left me so mad and almost from jump w the way she said DMan. It being overturned is just sick. Y’all have some good questions here like how did he even learn to read, etc. The double blind tests proved it and this lady should be in prison.

I was so disgusted with this story , yes everyone deserves love but Anna literally took advantage of Derrick and crossed the line as a professional!! And anna’s mother is just as crazy making excuses for her actions..

She's sick

New sub here and loving this channel!

She seemed to need more attention from her mother as a kid, to constantly play as being disabled. Then I wonder if it became a fetish for her. I feel bad for her family. We all have to learn to walk before we can run, and read before we can write or type, but we are supposed to put our trust in experts. I would still trust an expert, but always ask questions and if feels off find another expert. She took advantage of their lack of outside support and a student’s trust of his professor. And now She’s hurt not just their trust of experts but that of anyone who has heard about this.

That handful line was absolutely hilarious

Junk Science. I love your videos!

This documentary really stuck with me. I see wrong doings on both sides. Especially coming from a black household - mental health isn’t the priority. It’s more so just keeping that person alive. anna wanted to bring life back into that young man but i believe she has some personality disorders as well. I think both sides need to really dig deep into themselves and do better. I believe love is possible for all, and that looks different and isn’t yet normalized so yes I get it. Anna was wrong for her sexual acts and starting a one sided relationship while she was married. Very narcissist and white woman savior complex. The young man’s mother has some serious mental health issues as well. Love is the answer and can be misconstrued into sick ways.

Junk science. Very interesting video. You 2 are very easy to listen to...

They showed the evidence on Netflix.????????

In my field I work with a few kids that have cerebral palsy and from that I know each individual has their own limitations and capabilities. It really is case by case, but no matter how you spin this that woman was wrong and is a predator.She fetishized him and abused him. In my opinion, being an educated white lady played a part in her punishment because justice was not served for Derek and his family.

It’s so wild to hear Americans call Louis thereoux ‘some guy from the uk’ !! Hahaha over here’s he’s very well known!

Can you guys please get subtitles

Working with people with Intellectual and Developmental disabilities, this was very interesting to me. Many of them are very intelligent but are not always able to voice what's in their mind. Communication devices has really helped in these areas. So I know this can happen. There were some things that I questioned. How did she know to say D-man if he didn't write it? Mom confirmed. 🤔 How was the book report completed when the other student helping him didn't know anything about the book? 🤔 They should've done another Psychological evaluation on him with the device. He may have had a higher IQ. His low IQ could be because of the communication issue. The family stated after she left, D-man was not using the device like she said he was. He could've been depressed, mad, etc. With all that being said, she should be in jail. In the position she was in, it is clear she broke boundaries. She was in a position to manipulate him to say or do what she wants. She clearly thinks she didn't do anything wrong. How she was acting and speaking on the documentary shows this. She has some severe mental things going on with her just doing the documentary shows that.

Junk Science she needs to be under the jail

Junk Science. I’ve watched the documentary and felt differently. Everything you guys were saying about the professor writing for him went through my mind. But remember there was a student who helped him with writing his papers. The student stated how it wasn’t even her class per say and that she never read any of the books. But how her roommate was in the same class and had similar papers to Dman. So it makes me think that it was a chance that part was correct. (Dman communicating through device) Also, I’ve worked with adults with developmental mental disabilities and had a few clients with cerebral palsy. They were all different in their way. They all had their right mind but couldn’t talk or walk. They all wanted love and to do normal things independently. My thoughts are.. the mom and brother tried to downplay dman’s abilities to make him seem incapable. You can see the pull back in their confessionals. Dman finally got some 😺 and they took that away from him without even him asking what he wanted. (I know his non verbal but that doesn’t mean he can’t communicate). I’ve worked with clients like that for three years and it saddens me when they want a normal love life. The professor wasn’t all the way right either coming at the mother disrespectfully and cheating on her husband was foul. But if Dman consented on the communication device i dont see the issue here.

You completely skipped over why he had to go on that medication after the fact😬

This was too gross and disturbing

Is the name something racial?? I don’t understand how she changed the pronunciation

Please do a thin line between love and hate. Please🙏 notify me i will be waiting

Sex work/therapy for disabled folk is out there. And I heard they get paid good 😂

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