A talk on anxiety and frustration. 

Society doesn't understand introverts. And hearing you talk sometimes I think we are the same person. I couldn't have explained better what I feel daily, you're literally reading my mind and my heart.

'Society celebrates extroverts' this is absolutely true! I think this is what makes it so difficult for people to understand anxiety because people already regard introverts as strange

Anxiety transmutes into bitterness and anger when it never seems to end. I think highly intelligent, empathetic people, such as yourself, just can't deal with constant stresses and demands. As it wears them down mentally, emotionally, physically, spiritually. Across the whole spectrum. And puts them in positions that they simply don't want to be in. You desire above all to be 'authentique' and congruent with who you really are. And enjoy life. Sometimes you just have to say 'fuck it, I will do what I want to do'. Anxiety is like acid burning into one's thoughts, and it impairs judgement, paralyses decision making. "Every intellect begins to show weakness when effective motives are acting against it."

My therapist said something about this that I found helped me a lot. She said: "If you are in a situation where you feel anxious and you try to explain to people why you are acting differently or why you had to step out for a moment etc., and they start to argue with you about what it means to have anxiety... Think about why they are saying these things. Usually it is because they want to help you and be supportive and try to relate to you in some way." What ends up happening is that they start to tell you how you are feeling, and that can make you feel like your actual feelings are invalidated or not as serious. But if you can try to put yourself in their shoes, and understand that they don't understand what you are going through. If you can accept that they are just trying to help, and yes, it is frustrating that they don't understand you, but they don't need to. It is not essential that they understand your experience of life. You know what happened, so maybe you just have to let their comments go. It can feel isolating and unfair that you have to accept others when they don't seem to accept you or understand you, but you are different and not many can relate to your feelings. So at least by accepting that they are ignorant, you won't feel angry. Maybe sad that you can't connect with them, but that's better than anger anyways. And some people are like you, who understands, so cherish that instead. It sucks that less people out there can relate to you, but you can't change that. You can't change other people, you can't make them understand. Accepting that fact has helped me get rid of some anger.

I really relate to this

I would love it if you made a video talking about the difference between anxiety and "normal" shyness/feeling nervous/feeling uncomfortable. I am in the stage you said you were a few years ago, not sure if it is all in my head and I am being too "sensitive". I know I should just talk to a therapist, but a video would be so helpful :)

You're fortunate to have found a therapist who knows about anxiety, social anxiety in particular. Those who I encountered seemed to have no understanding of that, which wasn't helpful at all. Your video helps to acknowledge that it's a real condition and you're not inadequate.

I agree so much about the whole partying thing. I'm a college student and although I got better at dealing and accepting it, I still blame myself for not being able to be social, more extrovert etc. People even stopped asking me if I wanted to party or meet. It happened so many times where I had to leave because I felt way too anxious.. I can't really help that I don't like it and don't feel good about it but it still affects me that people has this idea of me not being social and all.. As you said I feel like a loser or just bad sometimes because I don't really enjoy my youth. Not that I don't want to but because I just can't seem to do it. Anyways, I relate to everything you said, nice video!

I genuinely appreciate that you shared this video. I believe it was no easy to tell your story - in particular about the frustration towards extroverts people. I've got the quite similar feeling when I see posts on internet that represent they enjoy being sociable, or whatever. It's very annoying and makes me upset. And every time I've got to encourage me by telling myself like "It's not relevant to me. I should have something valuable that they don't have." I have avoided to share that story with others because, firstly, people really don't understand how I feel, and secondly, I have the feeling that I lose something important which is inside of my soul when I try to explain it. I felt relieved to know there are same type of people on this planet, for I've also struggled with senses of isolation and alienation for a long time. But on the other hand, I believe there is something that I can see only by facing those sensations spending lots of time, and I want to find them. It might be a pathetic excuse for not being able to be like other people though - I don't know. Again, thank you so much for sharing this, with a big hug from Japan.

Tres difficile cette impression de ne pas controler son corps à cause de l'anxiété. On ne sait pas quand on va se sentir mal, ni vraiment pourquoi... tu fais une "crise" qq part et ton cerveau stoque l'information donc tu as peur ensuite de retourner à cet endroit.. ca entraine de l'evitement donc de la privation donc de la frustration et de la culpabilité. Pour moi l'important est de repérer tous ces phénomènes (souvent ac un professionnel) et de s'entourer au maximum de personnes qui sont au courant et comprennent! Ca peut permettre de baisser la culpabilité et la deprime qui accompagnent l'anxiété et qui sont très dures à vivre!

I can totally relate to this video! :/

Just had floods of tears after listening to this. Have me the emotional release I need to feel calmer today. It's good to know others are suffering in the same way and I completely relate to the fact that others just don't understand you can't just switch that irritation or frustration off. No matter how brace I try to be by sitting with anxious thoughts and feelings I can't seem to get over the frustrated feelings it causes me.

Thank you for sharing. I would like to say more but I am unable to collect my thoughts about this at the moment … Too many thoughts and too many feelings…

Pour ma part, c'est le sentiment de culpabilité qui l'emporte sur tous les autres. J'ai été "diagnostiquée" souffrant d'un trouble anxieux généralisé cette année par ma nouvelle psychiatre après 7 années d'épisodes dépressifs + ou - forts accompagnés de crises d'angoisse, attaques de panique et TCA. Je culpabilise de "déranger" mes proches quand je fais des attaques de panique violentes (notamment devoir les réveiller, mes paniques étant très liées au sommeil et à la nuit) et cette culpabilité a tendance à se généraliser à beaucoup de sphères de ma vie. Je te rejoins sur le manque de tact et l'ignorance de certaines personnes en ce qui concerne les troubles anxieux. J'ai la chance d'avoir des proches très compréhensifs (ami.e.s comme famille) et d'avoir fait des rencontres très bienveillantes jusqu'à maintenant (les autres, je m'en éloigne très vite). Par exemple, mes nouveaux colocataires ont vite compris qu'il s'agissait de quelque chose de pathologique qu'iles ne pouvaient en aucun cas comparer à du stress et/ou de la légère angoisse. D'ailleurs, cela m'aide beaucoup de vivre en colocation avec six personnes tout en ayant mon espace de vie et mon intimité. En tout cas, merci de partager ce genre de témoignages - je sais à quel point cela peut être difficile d'en parler. Bon courage!

I understand you completely. I've been feeling quite resentful and angry against one of my closest friends as of lately, because she fits in everywhere I dont, and she's friends with everyone I've tried to be friends with but couldn't (all of this bc of social anxiety), and it's really hard, so I hope I can stop feeling this way soon

I feel the same way. Anxiety feels terrible and it also hurts to feel inadequate.

Thanks for the video. You always brighten up my day. Greetings from Houston TX !!!!

Everything you said about being frustrated, jealous, resentful of other people... I have felt EXACTLY the same way my whole life. I'm 34. I keep trying every goddamn day to get out into the world and act normal but I still feel uncomfortable and frustrated around people. I start to hate them for it, because like you say, they are out living the life I want! It's not their fault but I still hate them for it. The worst thing is getting older and regretting all those wasted years of life. If I only fucking KNEW how to change life would be bearable!

I really needed this video right now. I'm surrounded by people who tell me that social anxiety isn't real, that it's just like any other fear and I could fix it if I would only try, and it's making me doubt the validity of my own condition. I'm only fifteen. I want someone to tell me that it's okay to be scared, to be anxious. I want people to stop trying to change me and just listen to me. Does anyone understand that?

I honestly don't believe it's possible to solve this type of problems purely trough youtube comments, but nevertheless, I'd like to give you a couple of ideas that you might not have taken into account. I appologize in advance for the length of this comment, but it's not like you asked a very simple question. Also, sorry for my English, it's been a while since I've last used it :) 1. People tend to believe that solving problems of this type is a linear process, but it is, in it's nature, retroactive. Once you make some progress, you start noticing discrepancies between the person you are now and the person you were when everything started, and that causes a type of inner turmoil that requires time in order to be fully processed. Also, in this phase you are facing the consequences of your own mistakes. (Everybody makes mistakes, during every process.) Roughly speaking, I believe that you are trying to establish a sort of continuity, that is to put everything that happened in a coherent whole that you can make sense of, and i think you should accept what you're going to as part of a solution and keep going forward, rather than dwelling on it to much. I know that this is easier to say than to do). 2. In your q&a video you were talking about how Paris suits INFPs, which makes me think that you are familiar with MBTI. Acording to the same concept, introverted people make up for nearly half of the population, so to say that the system favours extraversion is not completely true. Human societies require communication, work in teams, and sadly smalltalk in order to function, and it is a thing that comes naturally to extroverts, so in that way they have certain advantage, but assertive introverted people who know themselves can overcome this, to put it that way, bias of nature, and once they do they can truly bring a lot to the table, and in doing so they can make their other qualities shine. Many people who you consider extroverted are merely assertive, self-knowing introverts. I'm going to take a not-so-wild quess here and assume that you are either an INFP or an INFJ, which makes it even more difficult for you, because you need not only, appreciation, but also meaning and understanding, which is not something that naturally occurs in large groups of people, so learn to appreciate every progress you can make. It may help you to think of yourself in terms of your opposites. For example, think of yourself as a person who is low on extraversion instead as an introvert because that is what gives you the opportunity to grow, etc. (I understand that being an introvert is not nearly the same as having social anxiety, and that it does not necessary even accmpany it, but it is factor that is not to be neglected in the big picture). 3. You are probably quite an imaginative person, so when you think of your friends having fun you tend to idealise that, so your immagination combined with your already existing anxiety and lack of experience when it comes to social interaction makes things even worse. My advice is to find a way to block those bad aspects of creativity by adding more structure to your life, which will also give you a more objective view of reality, and to take incremental steps, like spending time in small groups of people for some time, and then work your way upwards from there. 4. There will always be people who frustrate you or awake some darker emotions in one way or another, accept that as a fact of life and live with it. Also, having these darker emotions is useful in a way, because understanding them is crucial to becomming a fully functioning individual. Trust me, you do not want to reach a certain age without having expirienced them. (Im 23, so I'm not talking from personal experience, but i have met quite a few people who had a lot of problems because of that.) 5. There is no such a thing as a wortless human being. I know it is difficult to remember this once your anxiety kicks in, but try to do so. 6. Look for the lectures of Jordan B Peterson here on youtube, the guy is amazing, he may give you some more ideas. 7. I'm in no way a professional psychologist, and my oppinion counts for shit, honestly speaking, but still, I'm glad if it helped in any way. I wish all the best to you, and to anyone else whom this might have helped. :D

It must be tough. Thanks for sharing. It's really amazing that you have this level of self awareness. Do you really want to put yourself in anxiety inducing situations whilst constantly feeling invalidated just so that you fit in, or would you rather expose yourself to safe calm environments and be surrounded by people who fully understand and support you? There is nothing wrong with you. You are perfectly imperfect just the way you are. Be authentic and vulnerable and spend time with like minded individuals. Greetings from Toronto, Canada

❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ definitely can relate!! thanks for sharing it always nice to see someone else going through it from the outside bc it never looks as bad on someone else as it does on yourself!!

When people answer "oh me too", maybe you're the one who's not listening. I was a really shy person, it's been such a struggle, for years and years. Just because I've never talked to a therapist about it, you shouldn't assume that our situations are so different.

i relate so much to the part about feeling inadequate and like a loser for not being able to be social like others! i hate feeling like that, and i'm glad i'm not alone. thanks for this x

I can relate to this to such an extent that I feel you have done this video just for me only. Thank you for addressing this feeling and to share and get together in the human condition of life

Bonjour, peut tu faire une vidéo sur comment tu as compris et réalisé que tu avais de la phobie sociale et que ce n'était pas juste de la timidité/introvertion ?

Very good video, You expressed feelings that I too feel but never thought much about.

I relate so much with what you're saying! I decided to end my therapy because it was being counterproductive, with every session I felt worst about myself, I understand that I needed (still need) a change but not if that means I have to change who I am, besides having anxiety I am an introvert, I like to spend time alone or with a small group of people, I don't like parties and I hate talking to strangers if it is not necessary. Those were the things that my therapist told me to change with the argument of "that's what normal people do, that's what its outside in the real world" it was so frustrating and sad that even a professional did not understand my way of seeing the world.

So I have a question. Please do not interpret this the wrong way. It is not like I don't believe you or anything but I am just curious how it comes that a person with anxiety is still able to travel to a country like Kazakhstan. Do you (maybe through therapy) understand about yourself what exactly makes you anxious and why? Or do you feel a lot of anxiety when you do that but you do it anyway? Does it maybe even help you deal with your anxiety? Sorry, too many questions. i am curious because I think I used to have social anxiety (it never got diagnosed but it was definitely not just shyness). Some things would make me so much more anxious than other things. For example a presentation in university would be fine. I maybe even dealt with that better than most of my classmates. I would, however, get extremely nervous about the conversation I would have to have afterwards. I don't understand why.

I think the human spectrum is huge, I will always think this, I actually think all the archetypes that exist will always exist, in any time, the genius, rich guy, anything you can think of its here, yes even ascended master, everything! I've been drunk once and I was over it, i don't really hang out with anyone because I don't drink and that kind of stuff doesn't interest me. I've walked out of places out of anxiety, I've locked myself in bathrooms because of anxiety, i went to the park and i couldn't leave the fucking car and that alone made me spiral down because i couldn't do that "simple" thing, i feel so much and i don't want to say people aren't self aware enough but we are not all the same, and I'm totally fine with talking one on one and even 3 people but when it turns into a group i turn into a mute, I'm like there is no need to talk and i have to tell everyone i have crazy social anxiety, sorry I'm quiet, i will open up to you, just not now, you will see the personality eventually just not now, sorry. people are cool with it, but you still freeze, it's crazy and i try to stay conscious of my breathing and notice shaking and I'm just like why does my body do this? i also think psychology is out of date, everything will always be evolving even 200 years from now everything will still be evolving and getting better, We still don't acknowledge how much emotions and stress affect the body or if i have past trauma still in me and i haven't integrated it into my life, whatever it is, i don't even believe in crazy we are just emotionally, spiritually retarded in western society, so much confirmation bias.

I can really relat to what you are saying , and its happens to me all the time . Thank you for this video, I feel lese along now

Si on peut s'echapper de soi-même, ça peut gagner un peu de perspective. Il faut se souvenir que les relations et les échanges sociaux sont des constuctions sociales avec des règles de jeu assez précises. Ne sois pas frustré ou offensé quand les tiens t'invitent à un soirée. S'ils ne t'invitaient pas, ça serait un offense social. Mais à cause de ton anxiété, t'inviter, ça aussi c'est offensif mais c'est un cas assez unique du point de vue de tes amis. Comprendre qu'ils sont empiégés par ce double standard te libère un peu. Il te permet d'être reconnaissante des efforts de tes amis malgré leur maladresse. Malheureusement on n'est jamais entièrement maître de soi-même et de ses émotions. Mais il y a des actes qu'on peut faire pour gagner un peu de perspective, et soyons clairs, la perspective est une source de puissance profonde. Tu aimes bien voyager, pourquoi pas aller vivre à l'étranger? Se dissocier complètement de son propre société, expérimenter des événements que les tiens ne peuvents jamais comprendre, ça c'est soulageant. C'est bien probable qu'on va rencontrer d'autres voyageurs dans lesquels tu te recconnaisses. Il y a des postes partout pour les profs de FLE. cupsofenglishtea.com/mon-parcours-prof-de-fle/

It reminds me some of my old time :) .... Now I don t think too much I don t give a shit .... I am honest with my self, I know I like to be alone .... I like small gathering... I like people with the same value as me ... I know for some of them I am a looser .... But anyway I don t give a shit I am happy now ! Good thing is happening to me .... I don t overthink I know to control my anxiety, like being agressed, I often choose to escape or try to breath and think about something else .... I love how you said we should value kindness as much as other thing like intelligence or respect ... I know I am different, but I know when I watch your videos I am not alone and it give me hope to spread my value to people who share curiosity and interest with those values ..... Thanks for being on youtube :)

Yes, yes and yes. I can relate to this so much

That really makes me sad to hear what you are going through with anxiety. I think it's very brave of you that you went to therapy (I can't say that for myself - though I have had several panic attacks I still cannot find powers to go to a therapist - admit that I'm not capable of keeping my shit together myself). Concerning the issue of how society treats people with anxiety - I think that there is still a lot of stigma on mental health issues and they are associated with "psychos", so when people see that you are "normal" and "behaves like them" they cannot link you to the image of mental issues they have in their head. Hence they don't treat it seriously.

C'est très drôle que tu postes cette vidéo aujourd'hui car j'ai discuté de ça tout justement hier. J'étais supposée sortir avec des amies et finalement je me suis désisté au dernier moment car j'étais complètement anxieuse de pas savoir si j'allais me sentir à ma place, comment allait se comporter les gens, si j'aurais des solutions pour rentrer etc, et donc finalement je suis restée seule. C'est assez frustrant de se bloquer soi-même pour au final ruminer à propos de soi-même et je suis toujours fascinée par la facilité de certaines personnes à s'adapter à toutes circonstances, à être avenant. Et finalement j'ai réalisé il y a peu que cela prenait de plus en plus de place dans ma vie et que je commençais à me décrire comme tel, je finis par dire que je ne suis "pas audacieuse dans les domaines que je ne maîtrise pas" afin que ça sonne joliment.

I can totally relate. I don't suffer from anxiety myself but I am pretty much a loner. I get along with people well and all but I have trouble making and maintaining friendships outside of work/school. I pretty much only hang out with my immediate family and have no social life. I am trying to change because I don't want to be alone. I want to go out and just hang out with people but it's tough when you have gotten used to being a loner.

I really relate to everything you said in this video. It's especially hard for me since I'm 16 and am going to school still. I live in England and I just started 6th form (further education that lasts for 2 years and is the stage of education before university). It is so hard because I moved to another school and two of my friends came with me, but I've found it sooooo hard to make new friends, whilst my existing "friends" have just kinda forgotten about me and made lots of new friends. I wish they understood how I feel being pushed into a place with hundreds of people I don't know all by myself. I feel so lonely and it's only been the 2nd day of school. They're not supportive and one of my friends bashes me when I kinda hint that I don't like the loudness or socialising. It really hurts. I have a lot of problems in accepting myself, I resent my body, how I look and the way I think in terms of depression and social anxiety. Is it possible for you to do a video about how to cope in school whilst having no true friends?? Thanks in advance, it would really help me a lot.

Hey, I don't know if this will help or not, but the very last bit, you spoke to how people will sometimes reply with a kind of, "Oh me too." attitude in response to a mention of having anxiety, agoraphobia, etc. I recently spoke to my counselor about this and got some good advice that lets me brush these kinds of things off cause honestly it used to get me down too. She basically said anxiety is an emotion, everyone can feel it regardless of whether or not they have a condition connected to it, so everyone has different understandings of what anxiety is and how bad it can be. For example, to me the worst kind of anxiety is a panic attack (cause I have panic disorder). You could call it my 100%. For someone else, their 100% may have been a point in school that was really hard for them, or a genuine life threatening situation. I suppose what her point was, is that comparing anxieties amongst different people can really be like comparing apples and oranges. They're two different beasts all together. So when these people are saying "oh, me too" they're not really agreeing that their anxiety/issue/situation is like yours, they're saying they experience that emotion too, but at a potentially different level.

General Anxiety Disorder "GAD" TAG in French, is more than simple anxiety, it's mixed with hidden depression, that way you loose enjoyment in your daily life. You become nervous, aggressive. Organic effect like dyspnia might appear. I 've suffered my self from. It's periodic, it accentuates after you have been stressed. Some advised me drugs as Escitalopram and Alprazolam. Others warned me of addiction risks. I overcame it with spirituality and meditation. Thanks God.

It's all about fear. Don't you think ? Did you read les 5 blessures qui empêchent d'être soi-même ?

I've been dealing with the same frustration! This is the first time that my anxiety is affecting my schoolwork. I've already missed like five days since school started two weeks ago and I've quickly fallen so behind in my homework. This is my last year, and I am so mad this is happening to me, and It's so embarrassing to have to explain to my professors. Ugh :/

Im in the same spot than you. The fear and frustrated state, how do I cope with It ?! More frustration...

Stumbled upon your video this morning and do relate well to everything you've shared. I remember well how terrifying to just leave my house to go to school when I was 8 yrs old. These things came in waves and I struggled a lot for quite a few years until I finally left school at 15 and ended up getting my high school diploma a couple of years later. I've always struggled with maintaining relationships due to misunderstandings and I find that really frustrating. There's a lot I could share here b/c I relate so well, but instead I'll just share some things you may find helpful. I've been practicing self compassion, I found out through one of my spiritual directors. You can look up kristen neff and visit her site as she is the leading expert in that area. It's been really helpful for me. There's a great book by kelly byrson, " don't be nice be real " that I like very much and you may find helpful in helping to express your feelings. There's a lot more into it, but it's a great read. I appreciate your sharing here, on the net! Best wishes - ben

Antastesia est ce que tu pourrais faire cette vidéo en Français s'il te plait ?Je suis de tout coeur avec toi.Moi je souffre d'agoraphobie avec trouble de panique ....

tu dis que tu voudrais entendre les histoires des autres alors je me lance.. j'ai la même chose que toi (pour de vrai 😊) j'ai essayé moultes thérapies différentes (psychologue, psychiatre, psychodrame, art thérapie..) avant d'être diagnostiquée "officiellement". parce que moi pour le coup ça m'est tombé dessus quand j'avais 11ans (j'en ai 35 aujourd'hui) et à l'époque (1992 donc) rien de tout ça n'était "connu". le mot agoraphobie, s'il existait, représentait dans l'inconscient collectif (et donc le mien) la peur d'être au milieu d'une foule, ou la peur de l'extérieur en général. ce n'est qu'au bout de 15 bonnes années que mon diagnostic a été posé #trouble panique avec agoraphie# et bizarrement, ça a été un soulagement, d'avoir un nom sur la chose, d'être reconnue comme "malade", parce que, comme toi, j'ai pensé pendant des années que je m'écoutais trop (et on me l'a maintes fois répété) aujourd'hui j'ai un traitement médicamenteux, je crois savoir que tu es contre en ce qui te concerne, mais ma psy a su, en m'expliquant le mécanisme chimique du produit, me "convaincre" que c'était, si ce n'est une solution, au moins une bonne béquille. (à l'époque j'étais clouée chez moi depuis un an, impossible de sortir, et donc de travailler. il me fallait une aide chimique.) aujourdhui, je me renseigne un maximum sur les TCC (thérapies comportementales et cognitives) et je pense que ce serait efficace pour les handicaps qu'il me reste au quotidien. merci pour cette vidéo, c'est important que les gens ne se sentent pas seuls au monde avec leurs symptômes. et désolée de commenter en français, je comprends très bien l'anglais, mais former moi-même des phrases grammaticalement correctes c'est compliqué 😜

Have you ever taken medication? If so, did it help?

Coucou ! Merci pour cette vidéo grâce à laquelle je me sens un peu moins seule. Comme tu l'as signifié, tous ce qui est nouveau est difficile, surtout lorsque cela implique une confrontation sociale Par exemple mon copain aimerai me motiver à aller en boîte avec lui (cela fait trois ans que nous sommes ensemble et je n'y suis clairement jamais allé et n'en ressens pas le besoins). Mais dans ma tête cela deviens une réelle source d'angoisse. Rien que d'aller en centre ville me stresse, lorsque je dois prendre le métro etc. J'ai l'impression que je suis constamment en effort. Une réunion d'information d'une heure me stresse tellement qu'après je dois dormir pour récupérer car je suis incapable de faire quoi que ce soit ! Je me demande encore comment j'ai réussit à avoir mon BTS mdr !! Merci à toi pour toutes tes vidéos qui nous ouvrent l'esprit, nous enseigne et qui permettent de nous questionner d'avantage. Que ce soit sur la littérature, le féminisme, le véganisme. Tu es une personne complexe, c'est sure, mais justement très intéressante :) Les différences nous rendent uniques.

Ca doit être vraiment dur de vivre ça...Ce que tu décris dans cette vidéo, il me semble que cela m'est arrivé une fois mais ce n'est pas quotidien et cela ne fait pas partie de ma vie comme c'est le cas pour toi ( si j'ai bien compris ta vidéo ). Quand tu disais que les gens ne comprennent pas et minimalisent la chose qu'est l'anxiété, je suis tout à fait d'accord. C'est extrèmement énervant de vivre quelque chose qui te met dans un état très inconfortable, un état que tu ne comprends pas toujours et que personne de considère ton problème. Personne ne comprend. C'est vraiment énervant. En tout cas je te souhaite bon courage pour la suite ! Pourais-tu refaire une vidéo ou tu parles de dieu et de ta croyance suite à ton experience ? Peut-être en débat avec une amie non croyante comme ton débat avec Esther.

Yes.

pour gérer l'anxiété, pas celle que tout le monde connait mais celle qui paralyse il faut commencer par accepter que ce n'est pas une *nature* mais un état. Cet état est déclenché, par des facteurs extérieurs : sortir, transports, comportements mais AUSSI par la notre réponse à ces facteurs. Tu as déjà compris cette partie en acceptant les symptômes de l'anxiété : tachycardie, sueurs, etc il faut continuer sur ce point , reconnaître les pensées anxiogène : peur, jugement, anticipation et faire le travail conscient de les apaiser. Pas les empêcher mais les rationnaliser. Je ne peux que te conseiller d'avoir cette approche pour réaliser que c'est le moi qui perçoit le monde comme hostile.

OMG.Only after 3 years now I know I suffered anxiety problem!!! help me.

Given a therapeutic cure is exposure, shouldn't you go to more social events rather than avoid them?

En t'ecoutant je me suis rendue compte que j'ai un problème au niveau social ou d' "anxiety" angoisse? je suis introvertie et je me considère comme asociale. Il y a des jours où je me sens bien et où je pourrais parler à n'importe qui et des jours où je veux parler à personne et j'ai juste envie d'être invisible et que les gens me laissent. Des fois j'ai envie de sortir prendre l'air mais je le fais pas parce que j'ai juste pas le courage de croiser des gens, surtout des gens que je connais, rien que sentir des regards ça me fait fuir, d'ailleurs dans ma vie de tous les jours dès que je vois quelqu'un que je connais je fais comme si je l'avais pas vu parce que j'ai pas le courage de lui dire bonjour. J'ai pleins de trucs à dire mais j'ai pas envie de m' étaler et j'ai pris conscience de mon asociabilité ou angoisse sociale je sais pas trop...(les deux!) Trop de trucs à dire finalement je dois vider mon esprit et mettre mes idées au clair: je suis aussi insomniaque c'est extrêmement énervant parce que je suis toujours fatiguée, j'ai pas l'impression d'être stressée mais je ne vois pas d'autre raison parce que j'arrive à dormir le week end mais pas en semaine, donc j'angoisse sûrement à l'idée de retourner en cours le lendemain, en sachant que je vais me lever tôt et que j'aurais pas réussi à dormir ce qui me fera stresser encore plus XD à un moment je prenais des medicaments mais ça m'énerve de devoir prendre des medocs juste pour dormir (l'homeopathie ne fonctionne pas du tout )... désolée c'est vraiment le bazar dans mon message et je me suis égarée avec mes insomnies mais si quelqu'un à des solutions efficaces contre les insomnies je prends!

Je ressens la même chose avec mes tca (ano puis hyperphagie), les gens qui te disent «moi aussi», ou bien «on a tous des problèmes» (je dis pas que mes problèmes sont plus graves, mais je ne supporte pas cette manière qu'on souvent les interlocuteurs «d'attenuer» des angoisses qui te pourrissent la vie). Et aussi la plupart des gens qui pensent -dans le cas des tca- que si tu as repris du poids, bah tout va mieux et tu n'es pas vraiment malade... J'imagine que c'est pareil pour l'anxiété, tu sors de temps en temps, dc ton problème n'existe pas... :(

I will say before all of this anxiety I had a I don't give a fuck vibe to me, then the socialization happens and I'm fucked lol I'm a loud soul inside fucking dying physically, it sucks but what are you going to do... I crave authenticity, and freedom more than anything, so I probably won't last very long here or I live off the grid and enjoy that, we'll see how my Saturn return goes lol. I think people being sick both physically and mentally is a result of the sick society we live in, this shit isn't natural I don't give a fuck what anyone says.

Hope it was cathartic. If I may my impression, from your speech, is that you are dissmissing other people experiences on the basis that your condition is worse, conforting your anxiety. You should try not to assume that they are less suffering than you, nomatter what they express, and that they might be indeed better at handling it, or not. Anyway, sharing experiences with caring people can be as good as therapy. But I understand your frustation, your anxiety seems to reach disabling point at their peak. Though, when you're feeling good, you may try to enjoy yourself in a social context where you feel safe, gradually reversing the mental pattern that led you to agora phobia. Also, don't expect from anyone to understand you, especially if you don't explain how you really feel, and even then Wittgenstein would tell you it's tricky. If you resent someone for its lack of attention and comprehension, try to think about all the time you too failed or refused to take the time and effort to fully understand someone else. Then try to forget you both. It's only my 2 cents on the matter, you'll know if I'm right.

You have striking eyes madam , learn to take comfort in what makes you feel calm and grounded, dont get me wrong being true to yourself can be a challenge in a world thats constantly telling you otherwise. Social media only inflates this, the vantity and craving for admiration and compliments makes me want to puke. I know some people that going to certain places, festivals etc is to be able to take pictures of themselves. It makes me curious if some individuals value a like online more than a compliment at face value. Now that is scary huh...? Anyway its easy to beat yourself up with anxiety, when mines been bad in the past ive often thought " how could our creator make such a careless mistake " it makes it all the more infuriating how it comes in peaks and valleys too, you can never quite get certainty on its intensity. So yeah we all suffer man, im a 23 year old construction worker from england. But remember it will pass.

Jsuis tellement défoncé ça fait 3min jregarde et jme suis pas rendu compte que c'est en anglais et que jcomprends rien

Please do not became to emo... just study hard get a career focus on your college at 100 per cent and you will be fine.