A therapist once said..."Things we've learnt in therapy" I Episode 110 

I keep thinking about Lydia and the amazing marriage she will have I hope she will bring us along in that because I just love to see her go through life's seasons and I know she will be an excellent wife and mom

Petition to have more TMI episodes per week. Coz what will I do after finishing this episode😢

Murugi is a wonderful mom,,everytime she talks about how she parents,,I feel lucky for her kids,,you are doing amazing dear

What a beautiful episode. As a counselor in the making, this episode hits home. The 1st time I heard about "people pleasing" was in therapy 4yrs ago. I just thought I was a nice person 🤣🤣. People pleasers started off as parent pleasers. We don't just happen, we are made by our experiences.

Lyd's dress is giving ❤❤❤

🤣🤣🤣when Lydia said the Quote" Those who dont trust control" 🤣🤣🤣Murugi's facial expression is hilarious...

I was writing notes as I watched lol 😂 People pleasers started out as parent pleasers: a fact esp growing up with a parent who expected perfection and for you to be everybody's good example except yourself. I used to say I wouldn't want a christian therapist. Sometimes I just can't reconcile going to therapy and being christian. But at this point in my journey I feel like I would actually want one just to hear their perspective and how to reconcile those two. Hmm... Being an overfunctioning woman and it being generational trauma is true especially for African women. Remember those memes of never being idle in an African home cause your mum expects you to be doing something all the time? Resting is seen as laziness. You can't even sleep in cause why are you not up at 5.30am🙆🏽‍♀️

Murugi proud of you for starting and staying in therapy. And Lydia for working on yourself enough to influence us. 🎉

If you see the way I "therapize" everything these days because of you people 😂❤️❤️ I'm loving the growth in me

Loved today's episode. I started therapy consistently and I love the journey heeh! It's the unpacking for me, something I have learned in therapy is "My therapist told me that, therapy is like rehab, you have to be more aware, sacrifice, accountability, and be ready to embrace the change", also I love how deep you get into the sessions and do a deep dive into your childhood and discover a lot that probably might have contributed to the way you are behaving now. Also, another thing I learned and I'm still learning in therapy is losses, losing ourselves in relationships, friendships, toxic work environments, situation-ships, jobs, etc etc you name it. Therapy is eye-opening and I'm really loving the journey. Also the confidence that you gain,heeh! wacha tuu!

The hypervigilance/ over functioning may mostly come from the way we were raised. We have been taught that sitting still is wrong, that to be productive/ efficient you always have to be moving and thinking of the next thing etc. So eventually sitting still becomes sin! 😂

The eloquency and articularcy is top tier 👌

Murugi, here's to remind you that you are doing amazing as a mum,wife, business lady literally everything and all the sacrifices.This episode was deep ♥️ sending you hugs🤗

This episode resonated w me so much bc starting therapy saved my life fr. I'm glad I get to work on my trauma and break generational curses as early as my 20s because I am investing in a lifetime of a healthy mind. Kwanza when Lydia said you can set boundaries from pain, I paused as well. We don't grow up watching many women choose themselves and create boundaries that serve them. Sometimes I like to take a nap even when I haven't worked at all because I can just rest, just because! Unlearning hypervigilance and being in the moment is definitely taking some time but I love the idea of enjoying the bus stop because I am here, now. Can't wait for part 2!!!! Also, loving seeing y'all getting that Betterhelp bag!!!!!!!

My therapist taught me to trust my instincts. I've often been scared of getting it wrong and hurting people, but that thing has been right all the time. I also love how therapy is more about guiding you to find the path that feels best for you, rather than handing you a solution on a silver platter. I remember asking my therapist if I should break up with someone because of the "petty" reasons I listed (I didn't want to be around them, their existence annoyed me,...) and she just kept asking me how I feel and what I really want😭. It was so frustrating, like woman, I'm paying you to help me make a choice😢. (She was right though.)

People pleasers start off as parent pleasers. So insightful!

People pleasers started off as parent pleasers..ding ding ding😣..So true and it’s exhausting 😓

My mom is EXACTLY LIKE JO.SHE MICROMANAGES EVERYTHING N LORD! IM SO SCARED I'VE PICKED IT UP .ANYWAY Working on it in therapy.

You guys have really spoken to my soul here. Thanks so much

Whew! Such gems dropped on this episode, thank you ❤️

Such an enriching conversation on therapy!!

Wueh...this was just too wholesome. I needed this. Thank you ❤

Can't wait for part 2 of this episode. All that has been discussed is relatable.

Loved this episode so much ♥️

This needs a part two wehhh!! This is an episode I'll relisten to.i was listen whilst doing other things .but this needs a pen a notebook.

Waiting for the part 2... Thanks girls❤

beautiful and thoroughly informative ... thank you lovely ladies.

Wow! I love you both. I have learned a lot. So inspiring, therapy it is!

Such a worthwhile conversation!

Better help is huge congratulations babes 🎉❤ Massive love from UAE

An amazing episode...I love it here..therapy all day everywhere

Overthinking and being all around like a clock.....and now the enlightenment about therapy.....it an episode on the right time.

Love that it's okay to have a standard for the type of therapist you want.

Been to therapy and one thing is for sure It's the best gift you can give yourself. Therapy is a self-investment.

Murugi I'm with you there by the hiring myself... Im intentional on releasing and firing myself, and letting go of the people pleaser in me.

This episode needs a part 2

We tried therapy as a family when i was younger n i remembered my mum walking out after that never thought too much therapy. But listening to this i think i van relate to so much now i think i need therapy

Thank you ladies for enlightening us with this ❤️❤️ therapy episode waiting for part 2 loading.....

Much needed episode. Girls!!!!!!!!!

I am feeling a lot of things about today's episode. Well i guess cant put it to words but Thank you.

Wow this episode felt refreshing. GOOD JOB

Love this episode so much

This was such a great episode. It literally felt like a therapy session

“Question every SHOULD”Lydia KM.I love it!

Loved this episode ❤. Resonated with a lot of points. It's definitely TMI❤.

This conversation is so serious and timely❤❤

Very nice episode.. Can't wait for part 2

Both you ladies are really excellent speakers on the podcast. It’s my first time watching one of your episodes - really impressed!

I love how reassuring Lydia is❤

Amazing episode❤

I thoroughly enjoy TMI content. 💛💛💛💛

What a timely episode! I have reached out to therapists here in Melbourne for my first ever consultation. Will let you know how it goes🙂

I love all your episodes, but this one🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

We need a part two😭😭

Hey guys u look refreshing 😍 n love the therapy session

Wow this is an amazing conversation right there. You guys are doing an amazing job.The day I met a therapist from Wema Infinite my life is never the same. If they get to see this I appreciate them.

This episode is so timely , thanks girls! The self awareness that comes with therapy is so refreshing 😌 You look stunning 😍

Murugi is soooo beautiful omg Your eyes are just gorgeous 🥰..I love both of y'all so much ❤️

☺ many lessons here, thank you. What if resting feels like no purpose. Doing tasks gives us purpose and validates our existence.

More of this please

I wanna comment but I've lost words that explain my thoughts right now ❤ d episode ladies❤

A big pause on « radical acceptance » coz why is my brain frozen and I have missed my bus stop?? I need therapy ASAP😂

This episode has been amaizing!!!! Can’t wait for part 2… I might actually go back to therapy after this episode…I thought I was done but, aperently NOT after watching this episode … something normal to me might be just a societal belief/custom or something I picked up from my family or maybe my husband !!!! Literally evaluating how I think/ believe ! I need to unpack a lot ! I can watch 100 of this episodes! Mentally stimulated! Good job guys❤❤

Going to therapy helped me to identify my insecurities, my strength, my weakness and toxic traits. But when it came to finding solutions with conflicts I was having with person A or B.. I always felt like there was something missing there are certain things you just have to hear from the horses mouth I guess. Most of the time I would explain myself to my therapist, sentence like I get you, I understand you would follow but that didn't really help me because the people that were supposed to say those words were never saying those words..Infact they never even consider my feelings at all.

It's how much I related with Murugi's hypervigilance! Can't wait for part two!!

Finally am plunging on therapy come 2024.I think it's time to deal with childhood trauma,s and break generational curses.I love Lydia KM dress❤

Being in the moment can be challenging, but my perspective shifted when I understood that I don't move through time. I am constantly in the present, and time has an obligation to find me here. Instead of getting lost in the past or the future, acknowledging this fact and having faith that time will naturally unfold, I am able to fulfill my purpose using the time that comes my way. This understanding has helped me a lot with things like imaginary suffering and anxiety. It has brought clarity, focus, and contentment into my life. I have found internal rest, and let me tell you, resting within is synonymous with heaven.

Pleeeeaaaaase do the feminine episode even if it means getting a guest

My goodness. I honestly need therapy. It has been a really informative and eye opening episode. I love being here. Thank you #TMI

This episode is it!!! I have always thought i'm a selfless person kumbe i'm a great people pleaser and therapy made me realise how i have been saying no to myself while saying yes to everything and everyone. I'm glad Lyd made me realise going to therapy is a form of self love and i'm on that healing and self love journey and i love it guys!

Oh what a wholesome episode!!

I hope i will afford it because i can feel everything falling apart ,,,,am not okay but everyone expects me as a grown up to move on from everything but i really wish its that easy 😔😔

I totally feels like tharapy itself 😅. Lydia's radical acceptance, Murugi's not living in the moment just hits home. Hope theres a part two 🤞.

I love you guys❤

You are both the perfect combo!. Lydia and Joan

I loved this episode 🎉🎉🎉... This year i took a step of courage and visited a therapist for the first time. When i entered the first thing i saw was a glass of water and a tissue and told my self i don't think im gonna neeed that but let mee tell you maina i opened up and cried. Cant wait for my second session. Ive seen my life changing and you guys have also been an impact.

Lydia the dress is giving 😍. Beautiful ladies and episode

I am to work and always at work when they drop the episode i am so used and comfortable listening to the podcast on spotify but i had to switch to youtube to listen and watch this this has me holding in my tears cant wait to get my car and pour them just because of how powerful and at the same time emotional this podcast is ❤️ i have always been a sister of tmi since episode 5 and this women are it you are getting to places !! This info needs not to be free IF YOU HAVE NOT SUBSCRIBED PLS DO!!!!

Zambia 🇿🇲 over here !

Tell me why I'm 2hrs late😫 anyway it's definitely TMI guys and our hosts are back❤ murugi n the family are back from vacation and Lydia is back to the gym after the chipmunk situation ❤we love and missed you guys..Thank you for another episode 🎉🎉🎉

There's a lot of gems here, cant wait to unpack

Omg we need more episodes like these😘

I have actually been looking for a therapy plug..A lot has been happening in my life and it gets so overwhelming sometimes. It feels like am strong to hold on and then other times,it hits you like a hurricane and you just want someone to talk to..Thanks for this

Therapy is crucial i have a relative abroad each time she feels low or stuck about something she like i need to schedule a session with my therapist... sounds so easy .. we need to normalize it

I loved this episode. This is what i want people to hear when i speak😂😌

I love this episode ❤

Thank you ladies this is an eye opener. Gosh the way ladies are self aware these days I wish men too take this path. I'm definitely starting therapy soon. Its funny how us ladies feel it's all about us, even on our men's special days instead of them we flip it n turn it about us. Sigh! An episode we all needed❤

Also struggling with 'living in the moment ' .... working to change this cause you constantly miss out on the present 🤗 I'll hop on that assignment too Murugi 😊

I already considered it because you have talked snd i have listened.

You two look so gooood❤

Lydia is such a therapist 🔥

i have gone for therapy three times and i realised i need it and will always need it....and let me tell TMI its not the good things told there is discomfort in hearing somethings that maybe we assume

This episode is therapy ❤

Wednesday is probably now my favorite day as well. I started podcasting earlier this year and after struggling to figure out my life balance, I decided I’d be putting out episodes on Wednesday as well. It’s so rewarding to watch a fresh episode of TMI when I know i have an episode up as well Great episode as always loves

It's like I'm in therapy already omg 👁️👄👁️ the people pleasing is definitely true and it's something I'm really working on right. Thanks babe's for this, I will start therapy and update y'all. Much love ❤

Always on time!🎉❤

loved this episode... and the episode is 1:11:11 long, alignment. I've been to therapy. twas enlightening. ... but she didn't know that there are types of attachment styles, so we couldn't delve into how i thought it affected a sizeable part of my interactions both at work and outside work.

I am Murugi, my name too is Murugi, i see myself so much in you. I love you guys

Very enlightening episode. The point about not enjoying things in the moment is relatable , as I often find myself focused on overanalyzing current problems and creating scenarios for future problems. It made me pause and realise that I am living at least one of the wishes of my 2022 self. Keep it up with the vulnerable conversations About the point on women and rest. I think at least in Africa, with how culture and religion is structured, we are conditioned to attach it to value and showing love. We have been conditioned to "love" the hard life and struggle, even to the point of fighting measures that can make our lives easier and more efficient. About the point of christian based therapists and advice. I think the problem arises from two things: 1. The fact that mental illnesses arent given the importance they deserve. The old school mentality of its an evil spirit and pray for it to go away is still there. Reason 2. that some christians see going for therapy as a sign that they are admitting they dont believe in God's strength. The realization that prayer isnt a magical pill that fixes problems and that practical real life solutions also known as taking action or seeking help is needed( for whatever issue) is a hard fact for many to accept.

Loved this, first comment. This makes my Wednesday. it's now a thing. I love the discussions.