A Workaholic's Advice To His Younger Self 

He can get fit, but he misses his twenties and he can't do anything about it

@@leobender2910 wrong. he can learn from it

@@leobender2910 I’m only a few years younger than this guy but I’m in great shape and there’s no way I’d go back to my 20’s. If you can learn one thing from these videos it’s that being a good shape is the #1 predictor of how happy or miserable u are as u age.

​@@mr.moose69his youthfulness has gone. He can't relive being 20 but yes he can still enjoy life

​@@mr.moose69 wrong. You can't do anything about missing your 20s

So fair to say people are surprised when you tell them your age?

@@depurasangre86 I don't!

​@@therenaissanceman441Would you say you now get a lot more attention from the opposite gender? Since you're 40 and look way better than people of the same age physically speaking. Most 40s guys in America don't look well, so, if you 10 years younger that'll stand out

@@henri6595 I've always been blessed that way, but yes both genders have been taking notice.

@therenaissanceman441 You're the 3-4th person to mention similar outcomes from people I've asked. It seems being fit or just regular looking in your 40s is like sporting a unicorn. Keep up the good job!

Yeah, but most women would never date him.

​@@paulheydarian1281 why? He seems like cool guy

@@JuicyLoop Women are very choosy. This guy doesn't make the cut. It's quite simple.

​@@paulheydarian1281 bro that's not even slightly true. touch grass pls

@@mrtrev4496 I'd use the 80/20 rule. 80% wouldn't touch him. The bottom 20% of women are so deflated, they have very few options.

I really like him. I like how he is leaning from his life and he is very honest with himself! What a good guy.

What do you mean a year he can do it in 90 days you can lose 40 lb easily just go on the keto diet like I did and it came off slowly at first because it's mostly water but no carbs and no sugar will do the trick

@@U4Eye He is heavily overweight, 90 days aren't enough. I also lost 30 lbs in 90 days that's totally doable but he needs to lose at least 100-150 lbs. Slower is also better because of the skin and the muscle losses.

​@@U4Eye The part where most people fail is actually maintaining weighloss. A crash diet doesn't lead to actually having better habits and people regain the weight, and some more.

@@U4Eye keep it slow, why hustle, you're not working for anyone else you're losing weight for yourself

I appreciate this post so much. I just turned 37yrs old and am at a pivotal point with my health from fighting myself out of poverty also. I'm considering getting out of the healthcare field, because, within a year my health took a toll. I'm wanting to cut back on hours and live a simpler life, but cutting back is going to take some time. I'm hoping I can make it happen while there's still time. Thank you for your sage advice. 💛✨️

39 is the new 29 stay positive! Let's get it 💪 😊

Good health is what that counts most to be able to enjoy life especially when traveling

I think everyone would have done the same in your position. Being poor isn't fun. I can't imagine how many little things (starting from food) you can't have because if you do you'll put at serious risk your entire family

And 'good health' includes 'mental health' , amen !

i needed this! I appeciate that you decided to write this

@@mistersir3185 I’m only 26 but I know in a couple decades, the younger crowd will think the same thing about me as well, as well as other gen z “kids”

fr bro hasn’t even lived half his life yet

As an almost 40 yr old that wants to compete in the IFBB this makes me feel its still very possible and Im the one setting the age limitation..

76.1 for white males in the US. 38.05 the half way point. Sheeesh.

Even if he was middle age you can still make a difference

Middle age is like 50s and regardless of if you have lived have your age, 40s are still young so he should do what he wants to while he can.

So do I.

f yeah

Yes he has a genuine nature about him

Yes, I was also getting this real positive vibes of him! *-*

Totally agree!

Don't let daycare and minders raise your kids. We don't know what nightmarish things they're doing. Your kids we won't thank you later.

"Cat's in the cradle"... Excellent choice man! Thumbs up!

​@@wolfthequarrelsome504our daycare is awesome. Even if we had the means, we would choose daycare. Socializing at a young age is important for our family.

​@@wolfthequarrelsome504Just stop. Just like you can choose jobs. You can choose where your child gets their education. Yes, woke ideology is getting tiring but so is progressive fears of being oppressed.

Definitely...your time with your boy is priceless...soon he will grow up, be a young man...lots of things you can do together...so enjoy & love your loved ones...

Facts

You’ll never get where you want to be working for a company for 40 years.

@@Neeeg I feel that. I'm not afraid of any job though, but when you get a job you have to think quietly something like this "the moment I step in here, I need to be working my way out (or up)". I worked in a lot of shit jobs. I could never once understand people so happy about getting a job. Nothing to celebrate. Jobs are for financial security. Getting some job is not the finish line. Real success is the success of own personal achievements.

​@Conormcnproductions Great thinking and along the lines of what I've discovered for myself these last few years! I think my personal success will be climbing Mount Everest if I'm lucky enough to attempt it. Life is kind of short and one shouldn't be held back by the doubts and disbelief of people who are too scared to even try stuff!

​@@blasphimustrue true that , there are both versions or viewpoints or truths to everything or every matter in general . And this is also true .You are saying the truth . It depends on the persons capability beliefs ,needs and life satisfaction on what he should pursue , whether job or business . Many a times small business owners life is very hard . Firstly most business owners work more than 9 to 9 compared to 9 to 5 . 90 percent businesses shut shop in 5 years . Only some are able to delegate and grow In such a manner that they can be rich (time and money ). So yeah it's tough out there for the small guys in general .

I'd like life to be so much more; more than just chatting and laughing with familiar people. If the central value to life is no more than that, then it's a lame existence in the grand scheme of things. Life as it stands today is lame and circular and about survival. People interaction is insufficient.

Hope you’re good

​@@bengsynthmusic nothing here lasts either way, jus enjoy it till we see our creator ✨️ we can get reward that lasts forever tho

@@TheSweetScienceGOAT I'm surviving, thanks Pep

Sorry for your loss man. At least u will get to be with her again one day in forever peace. Head up man, and make sure u do everything to make her proud of u :)

Nothing wrong with learning from your mistakes

@@gerRule yes, but it's a hell of a lot better to learn from the mistakes of others.

Money is important depending on where you live. In the Caribbean it's not depressing on your mindset. "Work when you have to work to earn money"

I would teach my younger self more financial literacy and saving, budgeting and paying bills on time, focus on credit, money comes but sustainability is key for me.

@@blackblack4301 money never hurts. You should put some away for later, since there comes a time in most people's life when it's not so easy to get up and work.

God (Jesus) allowed you to see that video because he knew you needed to see it.

@@JesusForgivesSins Jesus is not God. He was a servant of God who was sent to preach God’s message to the Israelites. We should worship the Creator, not the creation :) *Jesus said, “Now this is Eternal Life: that they know You, the ONLY true God, and Jesus the Messiah whom You have SENT.”* _(The Gospel of John 17:3)_ I’m a Muslim by the way, but I know the Bible well enough to quote these passages. Jesus definitely never claimed to be God. He was the Messiah, which means ‘the anointed one’-because God chose him. Yet God Himself is not chosen by anyone. Peace (Shalom).

Sending you hugs 🤗

Hi there! I'm 31. It was about when I reached 30 that I realized money isn't important. Well, it's not exactly that. The actual lesson is that time is not equal to money, though many will try to make you believe it is.

Money isn't all that important to people who have plenty of money and don't have to worry about it anymore. That is going to almost always be people who are in their 30's -40's and beyond. Rarely will you find somebody who is barely scraping by and stressing about paying their bills telling you that money isn't important.

Because he is tired now, like he said he feels like he in his 50s he tired 😕

@@Butterfly_47 He feels like he's in his 50s and tired because he doesn't take care of himself and exercise, GUARANTEED. As someone who used to be overweight, I can validly say it's just an excuse. Even the bare minimum of exercising 10 mins a day will make a world of difference. That and stop over consuming factory processed food. It's not that hard to get into decent shape. It's more mindset than anything else.

My dad is a lot like this man. About as obese as he is but as happy as can be with 3 children, a job he enjoys, but he too feels its too late to get into shape again. His reason however is because his sister was 2 or 3x his size and she lost a lot of weight but it stayed as skin flabs and he doesn't want to look like that. However, his sister died from heart failure due to her obesity.

He will feel better when he gets in shape

The real reason is that there are no women to get in shape for. His wife is probably old, fat and wrinkly and women in their prime don't want him, so what is the point in looking better.

His Doctor, his wife, his gay lover, his family, have all called him a fat fuck so barely he at the acceptance stage.

@@JPSimen damn man brighten up a bit🤣🤣 just tryna compliment guy

That's not what 'breaking the glass ceiling' means at all 😂

you too

🙌

Cheers

tysm milena u2

Thank you

Nice guy… what a compliment

Wrong use of that word

Do or do not. You will regret it either way.

Thank you for the advice.

​@@shaneacton1627 life will always be full of regrets sadly

We should always know how to balance it. Work and having time for enjoyment. :)

Spend is the word you are looking for my brother

There's a balance, you can work and work and work and not get anywhere and/or you could die in your 30s and spent most of your time working

Proud of you man. Im 24 and Im trying to do the same

Yeah I never understood why people always discourage trying to get rich and be successful. I’m 19 and it’s insane how many things people tell me that I have to just disagree with and be goal oriented

I agree wit you as someone extremely ambitious myself but I’ll tell you now, your looking at life with rose tinted glasses assuming your going to live long enough to enjoy the fruits of your labor. I’m not saying this to be morbid I’m being real. No one wakes up knowing that would be the last time. You HAVE to balance enjoying your life with your goals even if it takes you a few more years to accomplish them. I’ve seen people die the day they graduate. Just something to consider but I wish you success and you def have the right mindset

Mild counter perspective: I accomplished most of what I set out to do in my 20s and achieved my dream life. It felt good initially but ended up feeling empty. I got really good at chasing goals, striving for the future, but never learned how to just be. And the funny thing is a lot of the major points that led to achievement were sparked by luck--right place right time situations. I likely would have ended up equally successful regardless of any plans and goals I set or didn't set. So I'd say put the emphasis more on living and enjoying now. Yes you still need some general direction, but it's a small piece. You'll end up where you need to be and you can't really control the results that much anyway.

He did 13 years manslaughter

Everyday! ....... More lies!

@@wileecoyote5749 ?

Thats a blessing man. These are cherished memories.

Never once did he say it was too late, he seems happy where he is so why even make a comment about it?

@@erict455 🙄🙄 It's called being supportive.

@@erict455 and hes making a comment because despite being happy, his weight is still not healthy

Try not to encourage fatphodia. There was nothing wrong with how you were before. Weight has nothing to do with one’s health. It’s just a far right talking point.

Fcking champ, love on you bud. Stay focus on what matters to you.

I don't enjoy having fancy things, I always knew they were worthless crap

Hard work is good whilst also prioritising fitness and health alongside it. It can be done! Keep it up champ!

🤘 Right, send it!

I bet all that work paid off. how much money do you make now?

What work did you do? Were you an employee or an entrepreneur? And hows youre situation now, did it benefit you?

​@@imbalance9186 He was a sex worker

@@imbalance9186 I had multiple jobs. Between several retail jobs and then worked in security. That was very long shifts 6 days a week. Now, I did make a save a bunch of money and I used that money in my late twenties to go into a good career. Where I am now. But my twenties weren’t great at all

​​@@Andrew54123 I think one day you will understand that working hard in your twenties wasn't that bad. At one point in our lives, we all have to work hard so that when we get older, we won't suffer the consequences of having so much "fun." I don't know how old you are but at whatever age you are now, enjoy your life. Do the things you didn't get to do in your 20s. 🤗

WOW !!!!! Really NOW U NEED TO LEAN BACK AND ENJOY L I F E !!!!

I think he's ok but he's honest an how he feels.

I think he may have more physical health issues than appearance.

He clearly misses being able to run for more than 5 seconds without being out of breath. It’s more about how he feels rather than his appearance.

I'm sure he's really self-conscious if he used to be in shape and has gained so much weight. We all want to look and feel our best. But he can lose it again, and it won't take him 20 years to do it even though it took him 20 years to gain it

Not about his appearance. It is about his health and how he feels. Funny how so many women are conditioned to view obesity as something primarily aesthetic and good "to find peace with." What utter nonsense.

Yes. its not the chasing money thats the problem, its the spending.

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Hang in there!!! You can do anything you put your mind to~~ prayer!!

We’re all works in progress. I’m 48 and at the beginning of a physical fitness journey. I believe in you! We’ve got this!

Really take time to look at why gained it back...if work is it time at work? Commuting? The food at job? Stress of job? Used to cook and no more? Mental traps? Take care of yourself. You are important and worth it!

Look man I'm 25 but hear me out. You just need to step back and take a deep breath and optimize. It sounds like you don't have the time to hit the gym everyday, that's fine. The gym lies WITHIN. Change is not hard, it's just that people in our society think you have to change everything all at once, which is not how nature works. If you walk a lot, maybe invest in some high quality barefoot shoes, and start paying attention to your walk. Feel your tendons and muscles and how they work. Practice walking with perfect form everyday. Engage the arms, the leg muscles, the abs, the back. Walk sideways, walk backwards, grow your muscles and coordination. Film yourself so that you can be your own coach. And have fun with it, that's the golden rule. Because when your having fun, the fat just melts off, and you spent so much time training and learning your body that it means less time eating. Plus once you start seeing muscles, your going to want to eat healthier because you'll want to see how far you can take this new version of you. But take it slow, put in just the right amount of intensity each day, not too much, not too little 🫡

You think because you lost 80 pounds that you cannot appreciate what this man is saying?

Do you know what survivor's bias is?