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About Tarof (Taarof), an Iranian tradition - Learn Persian (Farsi) with Chai and Conversation

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Chai and Conversation is the only podcast available for learning purely conversational Persian.
About the video:
This is a short video describing the concept of Tarof, the Persian form of etiquette to people who may not be familiar with it.
As you can see in the video, it can be slightly extreme, and can sometimes get in the way of you getting what you want. But overall, it's like a dance, where all parties know what they should say in any given situation, and a way for people to skirt around topics, and not be completely direct with one another, to show respect and humility towards the other.

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@hashemfatahi9937 8 лет назад

For all those Persians who are bashing this video in Farsi. It is not bad to teach others about our culture. I am fully supportive of this video and would like to thank the producers.

@taseronify 3 года назад

Tarof is like a bad engine that never starts with the first ignition. It wastes your time... and time is the most valuable thing for a nation. Those nations that waste too much time are the ones that are weak, poor and backwards...

@a.534 3 года назад

@@taseronify Every nation wastes time one way or the other It's just very visible and obvious in this example, I grant you that.

@taseronify 3 года назад

@@a.534 Nations who value time most are the ones that are sending rockets to Mars. The nations who waste time are still beheading each other just like the times in medieval age.

@a.534 3 года назад

@@taseronify Would Iran be an Islamic country today if the CIA and MI5 didn't launch a coup on our only reformist social democrat in the 50's because of muh oil? Nice try though.

@liebedich6311 3 года назад

@@taseronify hahahaa godamn bro

@pepperwilliams4428 7 лет назад

The two guys walking into the door was EPIC!!!

@jimmhysandhu7040 4 года назад

I heard from a punjabi professor who visited Iran that Persian people are so Humble and extremely polite!

@gurjotsingh8934 4 года назад

Right

@rohitjoshi7590 9 лет назад

here in India, we have a similar concept to taurof called as "pehle aap"...which essentially means the same as "first you please"

@jimmhysandhu7040 4 года назад

rohit joshi beshak bhai sahab !

@anand3033 3 года назад

“Pehle aap” - The story of two nawabs who missed the train!

@1Leggo9my9Eggo2 3 года назад

Tbf that concept exists in a lot of cultures, even western culture they offer women and sometimes men to go before them. There’s etiquette rules everywhere but in iran it’s very old school and sometimes over the top.

@taseronify 3 года назад

Let's consider that a gentleman letting a lady enter a room first. He never complains after she does enter because he honestly wants her to enter first. That is the key difference between kindness and tarof. Tarof is something different. It's just being dishonest to others. In the video they let him in but then they complained about him entering first. What they do is completely different than what they actually want. I think that is a serious `bug` in a culture that effects it's development. Every action takes x3 more time that normal because people have to act in a `play` called `tarof`.

@WellBehavedForeigner 2 года назад

Half of the world is wasting our time specifying whether we always do something or will be doing it one time. You're lucky to have good tenses in your language. And yes, there are MULTIPLE reasons why we're not the manufacturing capitols of the world, but each of them means we're incapable of being the manufacturing capitols of the world. this is what it looks like when they find out it's an opportunity to make fun of us -->ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-pOqBJaF9IN4.html

@timeb4ndit 6 лет назад

This video was insanely helpful when I was in Iran. I recommend it to all my friends going there. Kheili mam!

@grendelypaco 12 лет назад

OMG - I love this. After learning about tarof on your early podcast I scoured the internet for more information, but couldn't find anything at the time. So glad you're helping the us learn more about Persian culture.

@hamzehmousavi2135 10 лет назад

Taarof is a part of culture and should be taught. Taarof is not anything hypocritical but a method of showing respect. the third scenario is not settled very well, in fact when you do not want to drink tea, you should say 'na merci' ya 'na merci, kheili khordam', but if you like to drink it's enough to say 'merci'

@unkreativesmensch 9 лет назад

when youre tarofing your white friends with food and they actually say yes ._.

@malik27med17 8 лет назад

''Tarofing''? xD

@thewalrus723 7 лет назад

Oh, yes, that's a word in my English vocabulary. It's like vodkating. lol

@iberius9937 4 года назад

As if Persians weren't white, hehehe....

@avim2578 4 года назад

@@iberius9937 white largely refers to americans in the US

@iberius9937 4 года назад

@@avim2578 To ignorant people it does, yes.

@dawudabuadam 9 лет назад

Although I do not speak Farsi (yet), I learned a lot about the pleasantries & courtesies through being married to an Iranian woman and attending a predominantly Iranian Masjid. The manners and pleasantries absolutely amazed me. Now I live in a small town in upstate NY, where there are no Iranians, no fellow Muslims and I've noticed that I am the only person practicing Taruf in my community. Many times people look at me funny when I do so, but they seem to respect the good manners. Maybe it will begin rubbing off on them soon. LOL!

@DW71000 9 лет назад

Although I'm not Muslim, Ghoorbonet.

@ahuradadsetan2156 9 лет назад

Afarin

@ryuuzakilover 6 лет назад

I'm surprised about the Muslim part as most Iranian people (at least the ones I know very well) are not Muslim. Muslim and Iranian are not the same thing as some people do NOT understand this. As for knowing Farsi and the culture good for you!❤

@ssam7384 5 лет назад

Your name doesn't sound Muslim

@USMFarsi 2 года назад

Hello David , you can learn Farsi with me if you want , just check the channel 👌🏻

@1Leggo9my9Eggo2 3 года назад

They missed a pretty big one in your etiquette whilst shopping. Taarof while paying for your goods is a well known one, the shopkeeper literally says ‘you don’t have to’ Once he’s quoted the price of the product and you start to get your money out 😂. As a person that has an Iranian cultural background but was born in the UK, I found this hilarious and asked my family members in Iran ‘what if I said oh thank you and walked out’ they said they would then ask you to pay without the politeness lol. It’s just being polite for the sake of it

@TheZaniaNoell 9 лет назад

Oh no! My boss is Persian and offers me food all the time. I've been saying thank you because in my culture it's rude to say no.

@puneetkaur13 7 лет назад

Sad part is when you refuse the food politely and everyone ends up having the food except you 😂😂 Iranian culture is interesting , I have heard a little bit about Rumi and other saints 😊 Persian seems to be a very beautiful language 😊 💕

@kashpen 4 года назад

I use to resent Tarof, but not I miss it...it's such a loving tradition! You feel appreciated...

@nanwuamitofo Год назад

The second-take situational videos are so funny and well-done, I was laughing out loud! Thanks and greetings from Holland!

@cookiemonster9659 11 лет назад

Those doorway-people are hilarious."But I already rolled out the red carpet" " I will just lay down my shirt right now so you can walk over it" "Let's just go together"

@Aspenavius 10 лет назад

This is absolutely hilarious and accurate. I usually see it when we go to someone's house and everyone scrambles to try and clean up the table and wash the dishes so that the host doesn't have to.

@Alieopal 10 лет назад

I love this video. I laughed so much because I have seen this situation so many times. Just walking through the door or being offered food at a friends.

@LillyIrani 10 лет назад

The best part of this is how hilarious the Iranian friends are -- "een NBA finals neest!" "zahreh mar bendazeemesh!" lol

@Thomas_Angelo 3 года назад

Zahrehmar means snake's poison and it just means shut up. It's pronunciation is different to it's meaning.

@Browncathartic 11 лет назад

This is probably the best lesson of both Farsi and Iranian culture I have come across! Please continue to make these types of videos. I am a Filipino American & I have just started dating an Iranian girl. Her English is not so good & I have just begun to learn Farsi. Thank you for this video.

@BasedLink 4 года назад

In the American south we do the exact same thing haha. Such a pleasure to see how cultures that are supposed to be foreign to one another are actually so similar.

@robertwayne3567 10 месяцев назад

HA, great video! I recently spent a month with my wife's Persian family. THIS IS SO TRUE. "The doorway"

@user-wm4og1jm3v 9 месяцев назад

Amazing video! Helped my college student who is Iranian but doesn’t speak much in a comic college presentation

@justinagalindo7118 2 года назад

I use to have quite a few persa friends. But I don't have any contacts anymore, but I have such a good memories about them. They were always very nice people!!

@kmfw72 11 лет назад

It's very similar to the concept of 面子 miàn zi or 'face' in Chinese, particularly the bit about paying for the bill.

@seksualusis 9 лет назад

Very useful glimpse into Iranian language and culture, thanks Leyla!

@tmtwer234 10 лет назад

Lot of greetings from Switzerland. I just started to learn farsi .

@mikehamidi4032 11 лет назад

The look on Mat's face at 5:40 - 5:43 (while hilarious) delivers the concept of Ta'arof very well! Usually you insist on doing something which you will regret later!

@TheBelilu 2 года назад

Persians Should Be So Proud Of Their Culture For So Many Reasons. This Is Just One Of Them. The Most Unique People & That, In All The Right Ways....So Lucky To Have Been Born In Your Country, As An Armenian, To Have Had The Exposure To Your Beautiful Culture..... Best Of All, That It Was During The Pahlavi Era, In The 70's. Thank You For Being The Best Host, For Giving Me The Best Childhood. Thank You For Reminding Armenians Of How They Used To Be......

@UnitedDreamliner 10 лет назад

I love it !!! Besides teaching Persian language you also get a glimpse into the culture.😃😃😃

@ravanarbabi140 4 года назад

One should know that Taarof, which means acquaintance, in addition to being often exaggerated, when explained to foreigners, also belongs almost exclusively to young children and families with children. But Iranians are not just children and families of children and this is quite often overlooked.

@bnsxinbloom 11 лет назад

I love this! I went to a Nowruz festival and they did a comedy sketch about Tarof and going back and forth over who was going to pay the check. It was hilarious :)

@cataleyadiazdelbosque3685 9 лет назад

What a wonderful look at this culture!

@morphinlounge101 11 лет назад

Farsi the most beautiful language of the Orient. Khoda Hafez

@sundharkumar5203 3 года назад

This is hilarious and had a good info!! And knowledgeable thank you🤩🤩This resembles the culture of India 🤩🤩

@khoshtipify 11 лет назад

hahhaha...guys i dont think i have ever commented on any utube video before!...but i just loved ur vid so much that i had to comment!!!...props to you guys!...it was amazing!...hella funny and educational at a same time...a rare gem!...keep up a good work!...Dametoon garm!!

@thakurbabu1 7 лет назад

Khodkushi for who will enter first!! XD.

@cmac183 10 лет назад

These have been very helpful, the little bird is adorable.

@puneetkaur13 7 лет назад

2:43 Omg!!!! 😂😂😂😂😂 That was so much fun!!!!! Loved it!

@arkaprovasaha4313 4 года назад

😂😂😂😂😂

@deich31 6 лет назад

Charming and helpful. Thanks, guys!

@William_sJazzLoft 3 года назад

OMG i just about lost it 😂😂😂 . But i tell you what, as i followed along ( physically ) through the laughter i found myself acquiring and retaining. It's very likely that i will remember what I've acquired. 😊

@franzzweite5863 5 лет назад

In Italy Scenario 1-2: is exactly the same... Scenario 3: you caaaaaan't refuse anything!!!

@verandi3882 4 года назад

Mediterranean tendencies and cultures have so much in common , i love people of the Mediterranean , southern europeans, balkans , persians , levantines ...etc. peace bro.

@Katherannereese 4 года назад

My boyfriend is Italian-American and I'm Iranian-American and he had to tell me to stop refusing food from his family. Like, he got angry... 😂 I wasn't taught 'Tarof' by name, but that this was just how to be polite in someone else's home.

@TheMaterade 11 лет назад

This is a fantastic source of knowledge for someone trying to learn a little bit more about the Persian culture. Please make more videos!!! Thank you soo much!

@Katherannereese 4 года назад

I'm 3rd generation (my grandfather immigrated) and I was taught these principles without knowing the background! I just thought it was common courtesy. 😂 Thank you for sharing. I am also really appreciating your Neem-Roonis series, since my mom was raised very split in America and we've both struggled to connect and reconcile.

@malakhan7213 10 лет назад

Basically Pakistani culture is very similar to this, we also respect our elders like this and never let our guests to pay for their food when we take them out to a restaurant. In our culture it is very shameful for the guest paying for their own food unlike English and Western culture. I personally think it's not about Persian, Pakistani, Afghan, Arabic or Indian culture. It's a culture of the whole East.

@malakhan7213 10 лет назад

arraignee90 In Europe noone really cares but if u go Pakistan u will find such thing very often.

@vivekrainaat 10 лет назад

Its same here in India.

@ovrdozzzz 6 лет назад

I’m really sorry but There is nothing called Pakistani culture

@asiakusy Год назад

isn t it called takalluf?

@nikhildhasaal 9 лет назад

My soulmate is from Iran and i am here to learn Farsi so that i can talk with her family too, I love this video ...... Mersi Azizam

@faizafairy7263 8 лет назад

awww i wish you the best of luck

@nikhildhasaal 8 лет назад

Thank you sweetie

@vivekrainaat 10 лет назад

@leyla shams I am from India and trying hard to pick up decent persian before i visit Iran next year for fun.....your videos are very helpful. I wish you make more such videos. Thanks

@oliveiramarcotube 11 лет назад

I really appreciate this video! It's interesting to me see how in persian culture people really care with social codes and behaviour. Here in Brazil, believe me: it's a total mess! Thanks for sharing this video.

@neutrinos4935 10 лет назад

KHELI gorboonet beram! Kheli khoob bash DIGEH! AAAAHfereen!

@blah979 3 года назад

I'm not learning the language but I still love the vids.

@nikhildhasaal 9 лет назад

Merci.....Ghorbone shoma beram. Dokhtare Leyla lotfan .....more videos like this

@Creighton-Jones 9 лет назад

Excellent video - most informative (and amusing !). Thanks for uploading.

@Tsentru2 10 лет назад

Lots of understandable words, and im a romanian speaker.

@movahedimotlagh 9 лет назад

Emanuel Moura Not really, the words you hear iranians say that are french is because they cant speak farsi/persian fluently or competently, because if you speak to educated or iranians living in iran,, they barely use words from foreign languages. It does however go the other way round as the english language does have a lot of loanwords from persian such as: paradise (pardise), brother (baradar), mother (madar) etc... since i dont know french or any other latin type languages, I would not know if they have any loaned persian words as well.

@antocnl8345 9 лет назад

Amir motlagh Well "na merci" in persian = No, thank you and "non merci" in french = No, thank you. Atleast this formula obviously comes from french. You can even say "nah merci" in french, but its very non formal and sounds lazy or young speach. But if you say "na merci" in france, the person you're speaking to will understand.

@nwfl775 9 лет назад

Amir motlagh Actually, farsi/persian uses literally thousands of arabic words. The word تعارف itself is actually arabic and the root letters relate to awareness and knowing.

@atiqrehman4394 3 года назад

Excellent I love it seriously now I can learn persian with fun

@smb2962 2 года назад

Fantastically explained

@ravanarbabi140 4 года назад

@justleyla 4 года назад

Wait, what?

@babanachiket 10 лет назад

That's exactly how Indian culture is too ! Full of respect. Quite similar I must say.

@SyedTabishKafili 10 лет назад

Khalid Alakoozi Actually it is just not about the culture of Iran,Pakistan or India actually its about the culture of east.

@noditschi 10 лет назад

I fail to see it as respect, since great deal of it is make belief and what is worse, everyone knows that it is fake.

@LaVidaRubiaTheBlondesLife 7 лет назад

Wooow , what an awsome video . Thank you so much for making it so dinamic and funny and very useful at the same time . I subscribe and continue to learn Farsi . Kheili mamnoon !

@independentcitizen3584 7 лет назад

LaVidaRubia TheBlondesLife hi my friend , where are you from ??! if you want i van help you to learn Persian .....

@LaVidaRubiaTheBlondesLife 7 лет назад

Hy , i´m Romanian .Thank you so much , i know a little farsi ,but i´m not planning to learn just yet . Thank you so much for the offering ^_^

@mehrzadegol 11 лет назад

Gorboone pedaro maadare shoma batchehaaye fahmideh. Keep up the good job. Enjoyed your thatrical skills*** Leila Khanoom, Khasteh nabaashin Azize Del.

@sabineschenk5153 10 лет назад

thank you for this, I love it and I will learn

@mochagawd 9 лет назад

That was a really cute video. Hilarious! and very informative. Its cool to finally see your faces! Ive only listened to a couple podcasts before this. Thanks for all your hard work guys!

@ravanarbabi140 4 года назад

@aminehr776 11 лет назад

Lol that was hilarious!! I'm Persian so that's why and I always see this happen at parties I go to. My mom is always "taroffing" :)

@MrSeriousBob 12 лет назад

the videos are excellent, Layla. Thanks for producing, and I look forward to future clips.

@saramalekiatlaw 10 лет назад

This is so hysterical and totally true!

@c.brionkidder9232 10 лет назад

this was great. motchakeram. Matt is very cute.

@justleyla 11 лет назад

See the link under the video! It's called Chai and Conversation

@mehranshargh 11 лет назад

Thanks for displaying you civility publicly!

@Cdawntuck 7 лет назад

Hi! This is the first video of yours I have seen and it is great; I subscribed and will be watching more. Could you do a re-cap at the end of the video going over the key phrases one more time? That would be extremely helpful!

@laurenruth915 9 лет назад

I'm not even Persian and this is how I act anyway. How funny.

@hadirafie1895 8 лет назад

+Kaitlyn Harvey hi this is hadi i am from iran .i want learn english if is posible i teach u farsi and u teach me english.it will be my pleasure if have contact with you.thank you .

@HarperNguyen 8 лет назад

+Hadi Rafie Hi, Hadi! I'm about to start learning Farsi, and I would love some tips! I would be glad to give you some tips for learning English in return :)

@hashemfatahi9937 8 лет назад

Hi I am Hashem and a native Persian speaker. I would like to perfect my English. if you want to learn Farsi, send me your Skype and we can exchange our languages.

@mayk89 3 года назад

That was excellent! متشکرم از یونان

@hosseinsadeghi2468 2 года назад

درود و عشق فراوان از ایران به یونانِ زیبا

@hoomanity 12 лет назад

I like the final version. Pretty, pretty, pretty good.

@appletree8441 7 лет назад

I'll remember all this the next time I go to Iran.

@Knowledgeseeker77 2 года назад

It's not only in Iran culture. But in Pakistani , Afghanistan and Most Muslim countries we do not let other pay the bill. We prefer or everyone else on the table wants to pay the bill. Meaning Muslims are very generous people

@robertwinters7144 10 лет назад

It's a great language. Could you give me a Farsi word that is equivalent to "Oy", an exclamation of dismay?

@hamedirani 10 лет назад

THANK YOU !!! It is really helpful when I want to teach it to my friends :))

@memeike 12 лет назад

I love these videos! It is a wonderful way to learn. The doorway scene made me laugh out loud! Do you have a video in which you introduce your Persian friends by their names? Good looking bunch you all are! I am off to dinner at a Persian family's house for the first time tonight! I hope I perform taarof properly!

@FarsiWizardPlus 11 лет назад

Just saw this... and LOVED it! GREAT job, Leyla and others... I also loved "joo joo" a lot :-))

@mimilajolie4978 10 лет назад

Very nice video waiting for more. Just try to repeat the important words by the end of the video it will help me memorising them thank you☺

@Simsrockslol 4 года назад

literally sending this to all my khareji friends

@iliaghr8099 11 лет назад

Of course it's very much exaggerated here,it's true that Taarof is very common & actually a part of conversations in Iranian customs but it usually only takes much less time in most occasions For example for passing through a door it would only take about 4 seconds tops or for accepting fruits and such at a party ,about 2 seconds somethings would take longer though,like paying for the cheque

@JJ-gy6pv 9 лет назад

Whahaha laughed my ass of at the first example of taarof :D !!!

@shaleemmalik7396 11 лет назад

loved your video. and had a hearty laugh at the end.... excellent video, makes me want to watch more.

@nooriray 12 лет назад

Great show and lovely Cockatiel.

@dustinkeller29 4 года назад

What a great video, Merci.

@parvinbavafagallery 11 лет назад

Afarin Leyla Jaaaan bar to va doostanat. Good job dear Leyla and your friends.

@Jazzytheyazzy 11 лет назад

Merci

@jamjam3448 4 года назад

I love this

@thousandbells5258 11 лет назад

It's a cultural difference. Wearing shorts is so common, even at casual parties.

@sillyputty4229 11 лет назад

Poor Matt! I've been in your shoes. Tarof kills me... but it's a small price to pay because along with that comes my beautiful Persian wife! Khoda hafez agha

@shoorideh1 11 лет назад

I love it...you can learn very good from it!!! Please more! Merci!

@liliian9950 8 лет назад

Thanks Leila jan and everyone else. Well done

@mohammadtorabi5372 6 лет назад

Ha ha ha :) Im Iranian . It's Reall :)

@candyflos 11 лет назад

While things like that may really look ridiculous from an outsider's viewpoint, it's actually the ABC of the politeness norms of the culture, which you need to know if you don't want to put your foot in it, so thanks a lot for the graphic illustration of the "taarof". :)

@wrabyapta 5 лет назад

very similar to javanese culture in indonesia

@chiao1996 4 года назад

We the Chinese act in the same way, we share a lot in common

@CoryWillowTree 8 лет назад

I ❤️ Cockattiels :-) JooJoo is adorable!

@venusa4606 7 лет назад

This is awesome 👏 i love it 😍

@legolas7r 11 лет назад

I LOVE UR LESSONS , PLEASE UPLOAD MORE OF THEM :-D

@BR-tb7jg 7 лет назад

I love this channel!!

@catherinvaiphei 8 лет назад

This video is informative and hilarious even though some may disagree..

@morphinlounge101 11 лет назад

BTW Matt is one funny, smart guy.

@ammits7546 9 лет назад

may anyone translate this? تعارف(تارُف)برای احترام گذاشتن به مخاطب است گاهاً اینقدر طول می کشد اما معمولاًمخاطب برای احترام متقابل کمی بعد می پذیرد زور تر داخل شود. پرداخت پول میز نزد ایرانیان نمادی از بخشندگی و مهمهن پذیری در ایرانی هاست. تمام این ها اعلام آمادگی برای خدمتگذاری به دوستان است.