accepting weight gain as a ballerina 

YES !

sophie imm No you can definitely see her thighs have gained. And she doesn’t have the long, slim arms of a professional ballet dancer. But that’s okay. We can’t really change those things about ourselves and so we should love and accept what we have

Exactly!

ohwellwhateverr luckily I would say. She is finally happy. Ballet is sad

Food sill do that to the brain, bring well-being!💛

Michelle Herzberg perioddd

and you were going through puberty - would you want your pre-pubescent body as an 18 year old, 19 year old... etc... slowly, things are changing in the ballet world, too. Lines won't - high arches won't ever not be valued - but different aesthetics are definitely becoming more valued.

A pound of muscle weighs the same as a pound of fat! The difference is that muscle is much more dense than body fat. Therefore, a pound of muscle will take up much less room in your body than a pound of fat.

I can relateeee

Michelle Herzberg I used to never eat or anything because I’m super skinny and fit and healthy and stuff and whenever I weighed myself (which I still do) I would weigh heaps and I would be so confused but now I understand that it muscle weighs more than fat .... but because of everything that’s going on I have been gaining weight but now just muscle weight tho... 💖

Yep

Everyone is different. /Self asteam name of the game. P.s. my name is Charlie will you be my angel two.? Funny bunny.

I absolutely love that. Thank you for sharing. All bodies are so, so beautiful.

​@@gavincutler8976the fuck

I have that same thing. I constantly feel like I’m so big compared to everyone else. And it sucks because I’ve grown up thinking I’m so tiny bc I’m 5’1” and that’s always made me feel so tiny. When I grew into my hips and thighs bc of my genetics, I’ve felt so big. Every time we try on costumes, they say your size and I hate that bc I have the bigger size and it just sucks. I’m literally a small but compared to everyone else just sucks bc of how skinny everyone else is.

i started ballet late so i hate my legs i have to be the one going through the most puberty compared to others who are still flat

Maybe go to seamstress and get one made just for you? You deserve it. I learned sewing because I was sick of clothes not fitting me. I'm slim but I have slightly bigger breasts. I don't dance but normal clothes pose similar issues

that's kind of rude of her to say :/

well maybe tell your mom that everybody's body is different, bodies change, and running is for health and happiness and not for the looks... ... seriously though, if you're thirteen, your body is going to undergo some serious changes to make you a woman and that's totally normal and beautiful ;*

My dad told me if i dont workout im gonna look like a fat cow... He also said its good im signing up for my school yoga club because i eat so much ice cream, and lets just say, hes not the skinniest person either.

@@animallover6487 maybe he's worried you're gonna put on weight like he did. And he clearly doesn't realise how comments like that are actually counter productive. I would just say 'well look at yourself first, man' ☺

wyclef O'hara Lol, actually one time I think he said “It’s good that your moving your body; because if you don’t, you’ll end up looking like me” So your right lol. And I for sure have made a similar comeback like that to him xd

That's pretty awful, I hope you're more at peace with your body. My mother used to be shaming me, so I am understanding what it is that you feel

Parents are not perfect humans, that's for sure

That’s my grandparents for me.... „ you‘d be even MORE beautiful if you just loose some weight“. Yay 😬

i had terrible acne and backne as a teenager and my mom was constantly bothering me about it claiming that "If I didn't care enough to do something about it she would care for me" (in reality it was mostly there because of hormonal issues, but neither of us knew it then)

That's horrible. I hope you can find the confidence to talk to your mum about it.

Same girl, im fifteen and i just cryied, because i remember that my dance teachers use to come up to me and say that i look fat, that i need to lose weight, while im just starting to be a women. And i realaized I wear baggy cloths just to hide my little belly:/

Same I am 13 and an athlete and I have had past coaches tell me that I am too fat and my thighs were too large and teachers at school have weighed me to make sure that I am not gaining weight and it is scary. I was so low but now i don’t let them effect me and I have found that it is not the number on the scale but the numbers on the scoreboard and the kg number. Any athletes out there you are beautiful dont let coaches make you think bad about yourself.

Please run as fast as you can from those toxic environments. I started having disordered tendencies at 14 and now I'm 20 and starting recovery

@@francescatitmuss2125 same just 13 yrolds something is WRONG with our society!!!

same im 15

Anorexia has entered the chat

Body dysmorphia

Yeah that's what everyone sees as heartbreaking. It isn't quite as sad when it's someone who isn't skinny.

Ballet bodies my friend. It's insane

The same has happened to me. I look back to pictures where I know I felt very fat and I just look so skinny, it’s such a crazy and weird feeling

Ashley Jackson same I used to do that as well, it’s crazy hearing someone else say they did that it’s makes it more eye opening

Yup, did this too. It is aweful, but you get to the point, where you realise that you can't do anything anymore so you start to make others look bad. :(

Ashley Jackson my friends and i would go on health kicks and eat healthy and work out i would tell them to wait a month after i started so i could get a head start because i was so afraid of them looking even more better than me than they already did and also wanted people to notice me losing weight and i thought that if they did too they wouldn’t notice me

I kind of feel like my friend does that to me sometimes, does anyone know how to deal with that?

Omg I do that to just to feel better with myself 😕

I agree, I’m so petty I’d never get over that.

@@ihateyouall7026 Yesss you are SLAY QUEEN

@@ihateyouall7026 i would be too resentful

This is a beautifully written comment!! You seem like a good person ❤

Big facts

Well im watching this a 13 yo lol , listen , love yourself always , every one is made pretty is their own way ! I feel that too , i used to compare myself to my classmates but now i love myself , idc what ppl and im tryingto be as healthy as i can 😆

14 gang

You're not pressuring yourself; you're experiencing the cultural effects of mass objectification and sexualization of women’s bodies.

Me too. I’m a dancer and the spots where bones usually stick out mine do A LOT making me feel like I can’t be graceful and just look absolutely awful. The body image stuff like you’re saying doesn’t help anyone.

My advice to you is to change the media you see, search and surround yourself with people who has a similar body type as you do. With time you'll start to think they're beautiful and then you'll too find yourself pretty. And with doing it you start to know how to "deal" with your type of body, type of clothes, styles and colours that make your own beauty shine. Hope it helps

I hate how human beings are trends. You're in one second and out the next. And to think that literally any insecurity you have, you can 100% trace it back to an ancient time when that was considered desirerable.

not in ballet in ballet its all about being skinny and having no body at all

Thicc isnt in. It's just the same skinny girls with wider hips. Ideal body shape has changed but the acceptable size hasn't changed

HEY KYU being thicc is in but then you still gotta have a flat stomach and tiny waist lol. Not very achievable for a lot of people. Body image trends are just annoying

Kelly E. Yeah slim thicc is usually preferred nowadays so only skinny girls can achieve it but even for them it can be hard to achieve

Thank you for giving me inspiration the same thing was happening and I thought I was the only one THANK you

Beautifully said ❤

I always heard the "you're growing up" thing actually. didint work to be honest as many of my friends still were insecure

Exactly this. Since us girls are young, we hear others around us spill negative comments about women's stretch marks, cellulite, weight, bigger stomach, acne, too big nose, literally everything. As we grow and start to gain weight, stretch marks and acne, we start to feel insecure because of that. Now that social media is more prominent, all those fake retouched pictures of Instagram models create new impossible standards for young people too. Combine these two things and you get very insecure people. I'm glad you're better now!

@@MilkyWay-vr7ku You just said everything and I'm soo agree with you ❤

I feel exactly the same !!!

yay i love that for you! gonna be honest, i've always wanted freckles - they're so cute and i'm sure you rock them!! x

You go! Freckles are seriously one of the cutest things that could ever be on a face!

pau la Freckles are adorable! I’ve wanted them all my life, embrace them girl! X

samee!

Isolde Forsman I hope you make progress in finding peace w your body and food. I’m sure you’re a beautiful person and you deserve to know that. You deserve to know that you are worth so much more than what you look like. Good luck, I wish you all the best 💓

You deserve to be happy. Know that you don’t have to stick to social norms to be beautiful and stunning, you already were. You’ll always be incredible to someone, good luck❤️

Ur perfect how u are

Anya Irvin she’s egotistical and not relatable

Sansa Stark how is she egotistical?

@@medoingrandomthings4288 I respectfully disagree. Sure the video was about herself and her own struggles, but that does not equal being egotistical. As a young woman, I found this video comforting to know that we who struggle with our bodies are not alone in that feeling. That is my opinion though - to each their own.

Anya Irvin aww I’m so sorry you relate to this but I hope you love your body more now

as a 24 y/o this is still pretty relatable... I’m starting fresh with my body, trying to build a healthy relationship through yoga and meditation. wishing u the best

Well you are beautiful even though I can't see you lol 😂❤

i cant see you but i bet youre gorgeous 💗

It would be nice if she told you that you are beautiful, but maybe you DO eat too much and she really wants to help you not to put on too much weight. It is not helping you telling you that you eat healthy if that is not the case. On the other hand, maybe you eat the right way and don't have any problem with the way you look, in this case she should leave you alone.

@@maelle1819 I mean even if she’s right the way she’s wording it is prolly not the best

Curves are beautiful!💗

Julia Wassenaar I’m glad it makes you happy, but it might make others sad. It’s already a thing to say “real women have curves.” Which is not true at all.

@@mynamo12 I know what you mean, but most women will get wider hips and breasts, more than a child would. Doesn't matter the size or how much everything grows, but puberty usually comes in curves! (not curvey in the sense it is understood now, but just the natural changes a woman's body goes through)

Hanna B I guess I’m still a child then. 😬 Edit: I forgot to mention, she’s talking about weight gain here. So she’s not talking about the subtle curves girls get during puberty even if she’s skinny, she’s talking about the round fleshy kinds that come with weight gain. So in her view those are the ones making her a woman.

Not always lol not all women have curves.

Perfectly said!💗

I'm 13 too :) but I just wanted to say, exactly. Every single thing she was saying I could relate to so deeply. I've been trying to eat under 1000 calories every day which I realize is so messed up, and there's always like that one girl I can't stop looking at and wonder what I'm doing wrong or differently that I'm so "fat" compared to her. Every day I look at myself in the mirror and put my feet together to see if my thighs tough and just start crying. I don't weigh myself every day, but most. On BMI calculators and stuff my weight is at the lower end of "Normal," but it doesn't seem to show. For reference I'm almost 5 ft 4 and weigh roughly 117 pounds. Also my parents have kind of noticed my eating, so I just take smaller portions, or whenever they're going to work I pretend like I'm preparing food but then as soon as they lock the door I put it all back away. It'll probably never go away but this vid genuinely helped me so much and to see comments like yours from people who understand is so relieving. Hope things are better since 6 months ago too.

@@clairejakubowski4805 and op You're loved and you are enough! I'm a similar size to you, maybe an inch or two shorter and an adult now, and I'm coming to realize that I will never have the super long, thin lines like a dancer because of my height - but that's nothing I can change, and actually something I'm proud of because I match my relatives whom I love (we're all short, lol.) It's been easier to accept that first, since it's so obviously unchangeable genetics, and then it's becoming easier to work through other things. Take care of yourself, which means eating enough to support your brain (fats are important) and body growing into a healthy adult!

@Alli Wow. This is exactly the message I've needed and probably always internally known but just refused to listen to because...well, I guess there's no good reason. Because I just hate my body and want to be skinny, really. But it honestly is so important to nourish yourself so that you can have enough energy for base needs and just live well in general. I've been so negative and frustrated and can't think clearly; I began struggling with imposter syndrome (you seem smart so you're probably educated on this but it's pretty much when you don't know who you are), and I saw that nothing was having an effect anyway. My body was remaining the same and this made me enraged, I thought I wasn't restricting enough or working out enough. No. This is so wrong - I wasn't eating enough to be able to properly and effectively do anything at all, so my body went on some plateau where it just got used to the minimal intake. Thankfully I have been watching and reading a lot about weight loss, as I was confused and stressed enough about it, and have started to shift my habits in the right direction. It's so easy to look at others and how much they eat and just feel a deep stinging envy. But comments like yours are what fuel me (no pun intended) to eat and live as I should and need to. Thank you so much for taking the time to help me out like that, who knows, maybe it could have been a life you saved if it had gotten to that point.

@Alli Hey again I don't want to keep bothering you about my problems I feel like such a burden and that's not at all my intentions, I just had to let you know how powerful and touching your comment was to me, I kind of teared up while reading it. You really have such a gift for words and are so helpful, and your advice is brilliant. You make me see so much more than I've been limiting myself to; making me see solutions I thought were impossible and finally making me realize the truth about my health and its impact on every aspect of my life. I'm definitely working on being more grateful for the blessings I have, already I am so privileged in unimaginable ways above so many others. It's so sad to me to hear about your friend, that will definitely stay with me and help me remember not that my problems aren't invalid or irrelevant, but that they aren't severe at all and my suffering is nothing compared to that of so many others'. Even just since your first response I have been trying to create better habits and move my body because it feels good and it makes me feel strong instead of to work off calories to see the number on the scale diminish. You are definitely making such a difference in my life I can't tell you how much you've helped me, just by taking the time to respond to that random girl on youtube lol :) So yeah you should be so proud of yourself, I hope I can be like you and help others learn from my mistakes. I will definitely do my best to find help to make sure I can maintain my mindset of eating regularly again, I know a therapist would be really effective for me in so many ways. You're right, there are probably so many people who look at me and admire things the way I do to others, so I want to be a good role model to them in a way even though I can't imagine why anyone would possibly envy me to be honest. Anyway yeah I can't express how much this has truly changed my life I never thought youtube comments could have such a potent impact on me but I'm really glad you proved me wrong. p.s. I appreciate you complimenting my maturity haha for some reason that's the sweetest thing someone could say to me idk but honestly same to you, I can just tell you're really intelligent :)

@Alli Same, it's rare that I'll ever comment at all so you're right it definitely is meant to be I think :) I knowww I was thinking that too, I wish there was a way we could keep talking so that it's not completely public 😭 Wow that's crazy to think that I've impacted anyone's life, even mildly, especially somebody who I can accurately judge to be as brilliant as you, like honestly it makes me so flattered and just simply happy. Somehow you've helped me realize so much so quickly about myself and the way I think and how I see myself, I didn't even think such a thing was possible. Also just hearing that assurance that I'll be alright and that I have a bright future makes me feel so at peace, I don't know how to explain it because obviously nothing is certain but it just makes all my stress of meeting expectations and feeling like I'm a failure to everyone fade. I wish you the absolute best too ❤ I'm so grateful to the world for you being able to help me and just make me feel like I'm not alone when everything seems so complicated and inescapable, and that you replied to my comment out of all the billions of others, I mean talk about luck. I couldn't have done any of this without you seriously as exaggerated as that may seem, getting the perspective of somebody else genuinely helps so much because I always shut myself down and invalidate the few positive thoughts that tend to stream through my mind. This is so sad omg I obviously don't want to keep a long conversation chain over youtube going but you've helped me so much it feels weird to just stop talking at the same time I have no idea what to do lol. Anyway I really can't thank you enough for everything, you've guided me to being healthy so well and in the best way which is just incredible and says so much about you as a person, like you should really be so proud of yourself for making somebody find themselves and start to love themselves for who they are again. If there's no way we can communicate more or even just like follow each other on any socials then I just want to say thanks again (I know that's literally all I'm saying but I can't say it enough) for wasting your time on some messed-up teenager like me and making her feel comfortable and cared for and normal, instead of crazy and scared and unfixable.

Odile Mltt THIS!! I thought I’d be super happy if I lose a lot of weight. Haha, nope, hated myself even more. It won’t fix all your problems.

congratulations on your recovery ♥️♥️♥️ such a huge accomplishment

@@hannahkrantz7086 Thank you so much!! : )

My eating disorder has been going on for over a year. I'm 12 and started it when I was 11. I really need some advice 😔 I always feel fat

Exceptional ly please talk to a trusted adult about this. If the first person doesn’t give you the response you need, talk to another person . It gets better, but you need to take the first step - talking about it. It’s not to late, you won’t regret getting help and getting better - but if you don’t get help now, you will regret not doing so if you’re still struggling in 5 or 10 years from now.

@@pastelpink1202 I have always had body issues and, being the same age as you in all, I know EXACTLY how you feel. I look in the mirror and wonder why can't I have a body like other girls, or at least a good metabolism like other girls. I feel ashamed with a having a donut sized mass of stomach fat an cellulite on my legs and torso. Now, I have never been obese or fat, just a little bit chubby on my stomach, back, and thighs but I was to weak minded to see that and saw myself as a hippo. I've always loved to exercise, but that just wasn't enough for me. I have a piece of advice you that might boost your confidence. I know this may sound ridiculous, but it saved me from an even worse eating disorder, like not eating for weeks and exercising for hours eating disorder. I came across body positive Tik Toks on a bunch of different youtube channels, and I realized that NO ONE is perfect. I still cry every time I think that I could've literally fell down a rabbit hole and died from the toxic mindset that social media gave to me.

Susannah Cliff this!!! Took me forever to be proud of my shoulders. Especially starting from a young age, our entire skeletons are different. When I realized that muscular and broad shoulders are not just beautiful but a sign of my lifetime of hard work...? It totally changed my perspective. Love them now :)

Super off topic but I’m gonna try out for this year round swim team in my city (after this quarantine) and I haven’t swam competitive (I ride horses and I was in gymnastics I had to stop due to an injury) I have a great body for swimming and the coaches there saw me swim (I was taking a couple lessons for the 4 strokes) and they said I have a great shot and a fast learner so what would you say as a swimmer to someone starting so late at the age of 16 almost 17 (I’m graduated though so I have a lot of free time) I have a lot of anxiety and worrying I won’t be good enough for the team

Zhanna Healy as someone who was a competitive swimmer for 10 years i want to tell you to always swim for YOU. do it because YOU think it is fun. do it because YOU want to be faster. if you’re trying to perform to impress your coaches or friends you will get burnt out, but if you enjoy pushing yourself in the water you will stick with the sport for years :)

i am also a swimmer, i embrace my shoulders and love how wide and muscular they are, just love em

Zhanna Healy I would say don’t compare yourself to the other swimmers. Your speed and stroke will come with practise, keep going don’t be put off just because you may not be as fast or have the stamina yet. I’ve been swimming now for 18 years (I’m 21) and still I have things I can improve. When racing, only focus on yourself, your form and controlling your breathing. I went through a long period of not even being able to go because I felt so anxious. But this year I forced myself even when I was feeling the worst, and afterwards I always felt 100 times better. So I’d say even if you’re anxious, still go because you’ll feel so accomplished afterwards! Good luck too!! Swimming is an amazing sport and life skill 💕

Its also just how body dysmorphia warps what you see in the mirror. I have it too, and when I look in the mirror, it looks like I’m looking in a fun house mirror that makes me look really wide and round. I’m way bigger now than I was at my dancing peak, and they way I look now is what I thought I saw in the mirror when I was thinner. Its so weird how it distorts your brain!

Jenna Mongrez I feel the exact same way as you do but I’m sending my love and strength to you and I know we can get through this❤️

You are stronger than you know

It's pretty crazy, So I'm a professional dancer (modern though , not ballet) and I'm fortunate to be working in NYC where there is a dance hospital. I was there for an appointment with the nutritionist due to some health issue and she told me that 80% of dancers undercut on a daily basis and 1 in 4 of us have an eating disorder. It's especially tough on ballet dancers because even if they're gaining muscle instead of fat this can affect their careers more than it would mine. But it's sad that dance seems to draw the line for what size a dancer should be at like a size 8. :( In the past, there really wasn't a lot of research or statistics on dancers in sports medicine because we we're not "technically" an athlete according to the profession. but now dance medicine is a more developed field and we can start addressing these things. It'll be hard though because thinness is so ingrained in the culture of dance :0 So it's good to see younger dancers talking about this stuff :P

@@kamilareeder1493 wow, totally agree with you! Wish you all the best in the ballet ;)

@@juliaochwat thanks :3 you too. I have no way of knowing, but you strike me as a dancer lol.

That still does NOT mean she had an eating disorder. It’s a mental illness and not everyone who show signs of ed actually has it. Idk how much experience you have with this stuff, but a lot of people online just know some basic ed symptoms and then they’ll self-diagnose themselves or others and it’s really ignorant.

@@mslollo00 Why should that be ignorant? Many psychotherapists do not believe in diagnoses, because every person has a different symptomatology. She is also not stating that she was anorexic. She is simply stating that she had body dysmorphia. As someone who studies clinical psychology, I think the message in this video is beautiful.

screamingminnow i completely agree. i hate diagnosing people, but when you’ve been there yourself, you’re able to recognize the symptoms so easily and i definitely noticed a bunch in this video. body dysmorphia and eating disorders almost always go hand in hand. and the journal she had is practically proof that she had/has an eating disorder. the symptoms you listed plus the excessive exercising and weighing. definitely all signs of an eating disorder even if it was one other than anorexia. there’s so many subtypes like atypical or ednos. im glad she is able to talk about it and has since accepted weight gain (which wasn’t even noticeable to me)

Lol

Me too! And it's still so strange for me. I absolutely hated myself back then and every time someone smile at me I thought they laughed because I'm fat or disgusting. But now it's different and sometimes I just cannot believe how nice people could be.

My mom too i was mad at her in the beginning but I understand now she’s just don’t want me to experience what she went through now i’m over this and i’m gonna help my mom to go over her past and not letting my little sister to have this problem 😌😌

You are NOT disgusting. You are perfectly YOU! It's all about balance, you should do what feels right for you. And be open about it, talk about it with your mom!

You are beautiful, that I;m sure of. Keep your head up and remember that you are perfectly you!

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Sabrina McConnell Your Mum has obviously been through body image issues. If you don’t speak up things will get worse. TELL her how you feel. It’s really hard to speak up, I know, but you need to do it for yourself. Even just saying, “Mum, I don’t like the way you speak to me about my body.” Or, “Mum, please can you stop commenting on how I look? I am happy with the way I am.” Making these comments might help just a little bit! You’re amazing ❤️

Hope you're doing well!

Im so sorry to hear that...what that teacher did wasnt ok at all and especially at such a youn age...hope you are at a better place now

@@yc-vy9lz Thank you! I feel that she was not trying to be harmful but it was. I have learned from her to be more careful with my words and be more intentional so in a way I'm glad I went through it.

Proud of u

oh my god i’m a late starter too!! i feel so behind, like i’m never going to get enough training in before i’m 16, constantly stressing whether or not ill make it into a career, and always stressing about eating too much and having a fat body while all the other 11 year olds in your class look perfect and get complimented by the teacher all the time :(

Julia same I just want to be good and nothing I do works:( what grade are you in and when did u start? I’m so happy I’m not the only late starter here❤️

Yasmin Khadem Aljamaa don’t worry about not being the best dancer! You’ve only been doing ballet for 9 months, ballet takes a lot of time and effort to improve so if you practice as much as you can at home you’ll definitely get better!

Val thank you!! I practice everyday and follow online classes though I can’t do then that well ❤️

Megan Rees I feel you it can be so stressful but I’m sure there is light at the end of the road we just have to keep walking till we reach it

Please know your relationship with body image will get better. You are beautiful, please try be kind to yourself today. Best of luck in your journey ♥️♥️

Kate Sanders thank you ❤️

I'm so sorry to hear that. remember that every single body on this planet i unique and as long as you're healthy your body is absoloutely perfect and it should look the same exact way it does

same bro

i luv ur eyes too

My eyelashes are beautiful but can someone please let them know they're supposed to stay on my face. Not in my eyes

Hello Friday i hope you read the “see more”

Yeah i used to do the same thing Luna did. Slimming my figure even though i was already skinny lmaoo.

Ava Silvestri 💕 wow I am happy to know I am not alone.

@@abbeywyrrick ❤️

Well said!👏👏

Beautiful! :)

Tinkara x you’re not alone, me too❤️ sending you love and strength

The society put all of us into this... We're in this together girl, we'll get trough it! Love from France

you’ve got this!! stay strong beautiful

me too, but seeing someone come out on top of this is so inspiring and I can't wait until we're all as content with our beautiful unique bodies as Luna is

thank you loves 🥺❤️🥺❤️

I know exactly I you feel, being the bigger girl in my friend group and all. Be patient with yourself. Fitness can improve with time and regular exercise. Don't skip meals, it only makes you hungrier and eat more later on. Focus on a balanced diet, rather than eating less. And know that no matter what size you are, you are worth it.

Taylor, No body starts training on a treadmill and can on it stay on for long. Those machines are scary. You have to learn to use them or you will hurt yourself. Try to walk outside and then jog slowly until you are winded or the body feels uncomfortable. Then walk again to regain your equilibrium, then jog again. Keep doing this and soon you will incorporate all of the walking into the jogging. If you need to use the treadmill, go slowly and don't put the incline too high. Walk- jog-walk-jog and you will enjoy the time. I have been running for years and years and I started out slowly on the high school track and I am convinced because I started slowly and increased my mileage and pace reasonably, I am still going! Plus, I actually like the solitude to think my own thoughts and listen to music. Make sure that your shoes have cushioning and are flexible; can you bend the shoe when your foot isn't in it? Shoes lose their cushioning at 300 to 400 miles. Remember that muscle weighs more than fat and you have to eat quality food for energy and bone development. You do not want to be a middle age woman with brittle bones or a blood disease because of bad nutrition. Nothing is worth that. Many women who have gone through their teenage development during a time when there was no food, think of wars, have severe problems when they are older. You don't want that. Be kind to yourself and Enjoy your life.

V.K.I thank you!!! so much. Now that we’re allowed to go outside and excise again i might start just jogging around more because like you said, i enjoy just listening to music so hopefully it will make me love running more and i can do it for fun rather then for the wrong reasons

This is exactly me. I know I am not fat at all but all my friends are skinnier than me and look like how I want to look, I sometimes look at girls and think well they're older than me so I should weigh less or have a smaller size or be skinner or have less chubby cheeks. I do a fair amount of ballet, but not as much as some people do, so when I am not dancing I just do not eat because I am not exercising enough so I will just gain weight. I just wish we lived in a society that accepted everyone for who they are because I feel like all the talk around accepting plus-size people (while it's fantastic and I think it's important to love people with bigger bodies) ignores the fact that there are totally healthy girls (and boys) out there who are not plus-size, but still hate their bodies and struggle with disordered eating.

agreed

Sofia Voudou thank you for saying this. I hope you know how much this means to people, especially me❤️

Yesss!!! This is so true😭thank you for the reminder, i literally was just thinking a should not have had that cookies last night before this!