Adam Ruins Everything - Why Divorce is Actually a Good Thing 

"My husband is trying to kill me." "And where is this husband?" "Knife shopping." I feel guilty for laughing.

100% of all divorces start with marriage though.

"divorce means a happy marriage is over" "no it means that a bad marriage is over" any one else get a mini mind blow.

It isn’t “ruining a happy marriage”! If they’re getting divorced they weren’t happy!

My parents got divorced when I was around 6 years old, and before that every day they would be yelling and screaming at each other and sometimes I would hide in a closet with a cat because they scared me. And I would hide in my moms room and lock my dad out while she smokes, he would somehow unlock the door and come in just to scream at her for no damn reason and one time I told him to knock it off and he punched me in the chest (he was drunk at that time but still doesn’t make it right). So divorce can be a good thing for children, helps them get away from their parents screaming at each other and maybe away from an abusive parent in general.

"Ending a good marriage" DO- DO PEOPLE ACTUALLY THINK DIVORCE ENDS GOOD MARRIAGES?

'no, it means a bad marriage is over' 👍 Makes sense: if a relationship isn't going to work, probably better to not have to stay in it. You might never need it, but it is good that divorce is an option if necessary.

son your father and I are having a divorce. YAY TWO CHRISTMASES!!!

This was more of an "Adam makes it all better".

"And where is this husband?" "Knife shopping"

Everyone is saying "THINK OF THE CHILDREN" But, honestly, if the relationship is toxic, the home life will be toxic, and the child will grow up in a toxic environment and become toxic. And, yes, child psychologists will say that divorce is bad for the children, but maybe that's not divorce's fault, so much as the way we handle it? The stigma of coming from a "broken home"? How some parents will, intentionally or not, drag the kid into arguments that the parents shouldn't even be having in earshot of them? The polarization in the house? I think that every civilly divorced couple with a kid should say this, word for word: "We both love you, we just couldn't love each other anymore." Make sure the kid spends enough time with both parents, just not in the same room if you know there's going to be a fight. Divorce may not be the cause of all the mental scarring we attribute to it. Maybe it's just the way we handle divorce and all the stigma around the concept of divorce. Is there a way to commission scientific study on this? If so, tell me! I will pay money for a study done and I don't care if I'm wrong. What I will be mad at is if they completely dismiss my idea and say "That's ridiculous, no one cares anyway!" Because I care. I want to KNOW, will a child have better mental heath if they have parents in a toxic relationship that stay together for them, or parents that divorced out of a toxic relationship and don't have any fights around the kid and make absolutely clear that this whole divorce thing has nothing to do with them? Of course, the control would be a kid who ha parents that are still married and are in a healthy relationship, but that isn't the case for everyone. And, just on a side note, if I were a kid who's parents are staying in a toxic relationship with each other for me, I would feel really bad and I would think that I was the one making the suffering happen, which, if you're in that situation, is completely false. You're not the one making the suffering happen, the stigma against divorce is the one making the suffering happen.

I dont think adam ruined anything in this vid, I think he improved it actually, well the outlook per se

I've been saving up for a divorce in case I ever get married.

Why would you animate the jury scene but do that horrifying Reagan makeup?

someone said marriage is like a hand grenade pull the ring and bang the house is gone

My parents bickered often as a child. and I learned an important lesson never to buy your wife car parts for Christmas. But they still had dinner almost every day at the table and talked about their day. Sometimes my father would go up to the cottage and do his thing on the weekend, while my mother needed her space but they never stopped loving each other. Now they're old in their late 50s and relaxed. 29 years last June and I'm getting married later this month. I told my fiancee we're shooting for 60 years, my grandpa and Nan were married for 57 years but unfortunately for the last three years she was living in a care home but that didn't stop my grandpa because he bought a house next door and visited her almost every day until she passed last November

As a kid of divorce, I'm actually kinda glad it DOES exist as an option for people in bad relationships. Is it misused? Certainly, as is any means of getting money, but I'd rather there be an option that gets misused that no option for someone in an abusive relationship, especially when kids are involved.

Divorce is not bad, Bad Marriage is. Well said.

Not getting married is even better.

Oh hey Ronald Reagan did a good thing

My parents got divorced and they've never been happier. They're great friends, my dad is engaged and my mom is studying pharmaceuticals so she can be a paramedic so she can do what she really loves, helping people.

Sometimes Adam doesn't ruin everything...the truth does

I mean, who you love shouldn't require a legally-binding government contract to begin with...

Just about to say, if your parents divorce, they're most likely protecting you from future trauma. It's a good decision. As I know from experience it sucks at first and you feel like you're living two lives, but then you remember your parents fighting and how some of your friends have parents that keep each other up yelling at them. In the end, it's not gonna completely ruin your childhood. It's probably a good call.

Everyone argues divorce with the excuse "But think of the children!" Well, coming from a child of a divorced couple, my parent's divorce is one of the best things that ever happened to my siblings and I. I'm happy my brother was young enough when they finally separated that he won't remember the years of unhappy marriage they had. The arguments were explosive and at one point my parents got physical with each other. They tried to stay together because they asked what I, a ten year old little kid at the time, wanted. I obviously asked them to try and work it out, and as I explained previously, the results were disastrous. My parents are both much happier now, and my family has never been happier.

Wait isn't the divorce rate down because more people don't get married anymore and just cohabitate?

Divorce is fine, but Lifetime Alimony isn't.

Louis ck said this years ago.. "Divorce is always good news. I know that sounds weird, but it's true because no good marriage has ever ended in divorce. That would be sad. If two people were married and ... they just had a great thing and then they got divorced, that would be really sad. But that has happened zero times."

Amen for that. hehehe, I'm a divorce lawyer.

Well yeah when you put it that way it is a good thing. Divorce is a good thing. The reasons for divorce is the bad part.

No-Fault divorce was one of the few good things Reagan did. Though he got it wrong with Trickle-Down Economics and neglecting the AIDS epidemic, among other things, he did a lot of good with divorce laws.

Still doesn't explain why the man loses his house and kids...

Best way to avoid getting divorced: not getting married in the first place.

My parents got divorced and my mom has never been happier. Also the "think about the children" if my parents are happy and I don't have to see that toxic relationship ever again then I'm happy.

He doesn't mention that until much more recently than most people would want to believe, a husband was legally allowed to force sex on his spouse, if you were married, no matter what he did, it wasn't legally defined as rape.

This video is not about all divorce. The title is to broad. This video is about why LEGAL divorce is actually a good thing.

correction divorce is awesome....for women its not like men get half the womans things and we all know courts favor women

This show should be called Adam HELPS everything

I'm glad my mother divorced my dad, as much as I loved the being together and all the good times we all had as a family and how much love they had for each other, things happen that make people come apart it's sad at first but then you realize it's a good thing because you don't want your parents to be upset .

Divorce is awesome that's if you don't factor in the woman taking half of everything then hitting you with Alimony, CHILD SUPPORT court, &, or lawyer fees! Yes Divorce is great.

Divorce sucks in the short term, but is beneficial in the long term

We should also stop romanticising our grandparents 60 years of loveless marriage and fighting. They should've been divorced 30 years ago and the only reason they weren't is either stupid laws about it or societal pressure. If peer pressure is the only thing keeping you together, you should be far far apart.

For the people who are saying that divorce is bad because it "harms the children": My parents were divorced when I was around 4 (currently 18). My mother is manic-depressive and is very reluctant to take any medications prescribed to her. This makes her VERY unstable, thus her actions are unpredictable and oftentimes dangerous. If they had stayed married, there is no telling as what more damage she could have caused to myself and the rest of our family. Think more outside the box next time.

Sometimes only one partner wants a divorce and it's hell for the other

Divorce is horrible, but generally I agree, that if you aren't happy together first try to fix it, then divorce.

I will never get married so I don't have to worry about divorce and kids!

i've said it before and i'll say it again: American divorce rates and the great accessibility to divorce is the one thing i am most proud of in American society. Back when divorce was damn near impossible and extremely frowned upon, people would be trapped in abusive or unhappy marriages all because they were pressured to marry off quickly and women in particular would go from being under the ownership of their fathers to the ownership of their husbands. "my great grandparents were together for 75 years! they made the rough times work!" your great grandfather beat your great grandmother and she couldn't leave.

Not that a divorce is actually good, but it is better than a sick marriage. Still the best is to marry and live a long life together

That wasn't ruining it, just improving my opinion of it

My grandmother was trapped in an abusive marriage in the early 60s. She literally had to sneak her kids out of the house so they and she could be safe. Fast forward to the 2010's and my parents had a very civil divorce because my mom couldn't stand my dad. My parents are both way happier separate. They are right. Happy marriages never end in divorce. Once-happy marriages do, but divorce means it's been a looooong time since the marriage was happy

Divorce is going down because less people are getting married. Most people are happy being together without marriage. Even if its there not happy a least they save money. Its a waste of money getting married anyway.

I missed this show so much! I'm so glad it's back!

Divorce rates have gone down because fewer people are getting married.

"What about the children?" I'm sure the children don't want to see their parents fight and be dragged into fights as well.

The Ronald Reagan is pretty bad.

The problem is that these people get married in the first place

While yes Divorce for people in dangerous relationships is a good thing. However, If the couple are divorcing because they are bored of each other but also have kids then I say it's selfish to put your own boredom above your children's wellbeing

Unpopular Opinion: instead of marrying hastily, take time to fully know them by not marrying people with qualities that one can see to be a seed of a bad marriage

-sigh- The more I read the comment section on RU-vid, the more my faith in humanity lessens.

now do one on why divorce favors females heavily.

The largest cause of divorce and separation is financial reasons that lead to arguments. Marriage counsellors know this as a well known statistic. often issues in a relationship can be traced right back to issues with finances. The idea that divorces are to remove a person from a violent or abusive relationship is a good one, but not the usual cause of divorce in modern society. Many countries have a requirement that couples visit a marriage counsellor before divorce to solve issues that have nothing to do with violence for this very reason.

Too long? Didn’t watch? Here’s the short version. It sucks that divorce is necessary, but when it is necessary, it’s a good thing that it’s available. It ends bad relationships, not good ones.

You're forgetting quite a bit and making a very complex issue seem mundane. Financially divorce can be very devastating to both parties and if children are involved it can have a major impact on their lives. Divorce can be a better alternative to an abusive relationship but most causes for divorce are avoidable with counseling. My wife is the child of three divorces and it really tore apart her family...

Divorce means I have to give half my hard-earned stuff to my ex. Divorce aint good.

Adam! Take out the Myers-Briggs test! And psychoanalysis! NOW!!!

Thank God that I got a divorce from my horrible marriage. People tried to tell me that it would ruin my life, but the marriage was ruining it. My life is better now than it's ever been and now I am free to be in a healthy relationship.

what about marriage in its current form? There is a rather large down side to being a man in divorce proceedings. Why wasn't that brought up.

if you are not happy with a person, why should you be forced to spend the rest of your life with him

Divorce is a solution to a bad situation and signs there is a problem. It is not a preferable thing on it's own.

Simply put. If it won't work, split. Thanks Reagan.

My grandmother celebrated her divorce! Went to England with some friends lol.

As someone with divorced parents, it’s sad to see your family split but my dad had anger issues. His emotions could change from happy to mad in a couple minutes. He’s getting better and I still get to see him often. But divorce was something that was needed. My dad and mom argued a lot and my mom just didn’t love him anymore. So I see what you mean Adam. (Did...did I just have a normal conversation with someone on a RU-vid video? Yes, yes i did.)

Less than half of all marriages end in divorce? So you're saying that the majority of divorces end in death? I'm not sure that's better.

My great-Aunt somehow managed to get a divorce in the 1930s. The husband in question was beating her and the kids but we all still scratch our heads on how she did it.

Marriage is a spook.

I can't help but feel that Adam didn't actually ruin anything in this clip.

"Adam makes divorce better"

say this to the men paying lifetime alimony

Wait so divorce is this really awesome thing? I must try it immediately!

Actually, studies show that 75% of divorces are due to "boredom in the bedroom." Most marriages nowadays are based on sex, so couples split because their "spark" is gone. Reagan, a former actor, passed the "No-grieves Divorce" Law due to Hollywood's multiple couples routine. Now, being single isn't a bad thing. But marriage isn't something to rush into. And when you do get married, remember divorce is evil. It doesn't just break up a couple, but families, friend circles, and even communities. Marriage is for life. Don't make a promise you can't keep.

You really need to watch Divorce Corp. It's on Netflix. Divorce is a horror show for the people involved, and if you have kids, it can ruin their lives.

I love how in this episode, they praise Reagan and give him credit, but in the episode abt gun control, they criticize him and even imply he's a racist. It really shows how they know the world isn't black and white and they just wanna show the truth, not push any specific agenda.

It's so cool seeing these college humor cast members have cameos in ARE. I'm positive that was Mike Trapp doing the judge's voice.

"Divorce is a good thing", Tell that to the chidren.

Adam couldn't ruin my parent's marriage! because they already got the divorce. :'(

As a child of divorce I can assure as necessary as it may be it is really horrible

When I got divorced friends and colleagues would say "I'm sorry" my reply? "I'm not"!

having divorced parents, i already knew this without the facts. when i was really young, i wanted my parents together again. but i ignored or just didn't realize how much of a good thing for me and my parents that divorce was. now my dad is happy with my step mom and my half brother on the way, and i love my mom all the same.

If only watched adam ruins everything instead of going to school I would probably learn more and enjoy it *A L O T* more

its not good for the kids....

Divorced, Beheaded, Died. Divorced, Beheaded, Survived.

I love Reagan. He's one of the least Republican Republicans (by modern standards) but is revered like a god while also being the cause of most of what's wrong with the modern GOP.

1:22 What about the men trapped in abusive marriages.

change the name to Adam Teaches Everyone.

Isn't "undoing" a marriage called an "annulment"? Those people wouldn't NEED "no-fault" divorces if they didn't keep rushing their relationships... so many of my friends are married a year after high school, to the person they've dated for months! A lot of them don't even have steady jobs!

My mom has divorced three times, and I can say you become numb to divorces after the second time of losing you're father figure. Anyways, women can be the cause of the divorce too (keep that in mind). She divorced them after she drained them of money and I can't leave her for my father figure because she my real mom and they aren't my biological fathers. Personally I felt like you should have talked about the women too because they can also cause a bad marriage.

I thought this was Adam RUINS Everything. This is actually a positive video. o_o

1:23 So... Men cannot be the victims of domestic abuse?

“I tried to stab him with scissors” “YES DICE” I never thought she’d be happy to say that

This didnt age well even when it came out, divorce rates are well over 60% since 2010 lol