ADHD Aha! | ADHD, anxiety and perfectionism (Laura's story) 

I have been a Successful Artist, Wife, Mother , Community workers & All round … LOVER OF LIFE. ❤I will turn 70 in November. Have always suspected I had ADHD throughout my life. As a Young, Optimistic, Hard working Woman, I had the Abilities to cover up my many failings, fears of Failure, & pain from Judgements😰 Hearing YOU tell your Story is truly a GOD SENT AHAH MOMENT 🙏🏼🐞. Listening to Dr Daniel Amen for hours had given me HOPE. There is Help Available for me to Heal my Brain, Renew a Joyful Purpose for this Season of my Life. I will continue to listen to your podcasts. ❤ Very interested in seeing a Dr in the Winston-Salem , NC area that might Specifically treat Adult Women with ADHD🙏🏼🐞

Whenever I try to disclose people just say so do I. I was diagnosed at 40. I don't fund that people care or even have a correct understanding of ADHD.

Never really knew you could be so emotional as a woman w ADHD .. I’m hyper vigilant I scare easily and I have the softest heart of anyone ik empathy out there wazoo .. ❤

As a kid I brute forced through school while having a hard time but always high scoring. After my last diploma I never managed to get a job and have been abusing weed and being depressed and gotten social anxiety for the latter half of my life, to scared to seek help. Just had my aha moment last week. I never knew much of the ADD version, and thus like you mentioned I always thought the hyperactivity is visible. For now im selfdiagnosing, (got appointment to psychologist so will soon know if for sure) but in my free time im now I think hyperfocussed on watching youtube content explaining ADHD and people talking about their experiences with it like this podcast. And im quite sure I have it as everything clicks, and descriptions fit me like a glove. Its almost scary, but such a relieve to know what has been keeping me down for most of my live, Im 32 now and knowing I can work on that feels like im about to explore a new world. Already with the knowledge im soaking up im being less harsh on myself. Thanks was a great listen.

Nice story sharing. Would have been great if you had explained a bit the link between ADHD and perfectionism, perhaps mentioning some research I am sure you have done :)

I messed up so much with my oldest. I am doing so much better with my youngest. I realized I was most likely ADHD neurotype this year when I began studying for a class. 44 and self diagnosed. Now I know where my kids got it from 😅

This channel is so helpful to me. I self-diagnosed on about my 65th birthday. Within weeks I was formally diagnosed, and the doctor apologized for not seeing it sooner. I mostly wanted to say, I am so weary of women saying that because they are women, they don't get diagnosed. I had so many of these allegedly "female symptoms" and I was missed. Sure women get missed, just as men with the same symptoms get missed. You do no one any service by gendering symptoms. We have more in common than in difference.

I loled when she said her daughter talk back! This podcast has been very relatable, thank you!

I relate to this so hard. I was diagnosed as a third grader now I am a professional with a graduate degree and I still fear failure and struggle with attention every day.

OMG! You might as well have been me talking with everything that you’re sharing! Just sub in music and obsessive volunteerism with animals and other children’s hospital instead of sports as a teen. Also, I’m still hard on myself though.

Finally diagnosed today. I’m depressed and angry (for all kinds of reasons) but listening to this podcast gives me hope. Thank you! 😚

Thank you Laura for this podcast it just reconfirm my push to learn more about myself learn more about me having ADHD you know and just moving forward and I think you I think so much you know it’s so sad that I do know I haven’t found more you know contact for Black black women talking about their ADHD status because you know most don’t and it’s a problem in black culture, so thank you

Thank you🤗

Can't relate much to this one sadly. I've never been the highest in my class, and now in college year after year of failure has lead me to discover my adhd and anxiety (now finally, properly diagnosed by a professional). I often see what happens to those who succeed in school and work despite the anxiety and adhd, but what about those of us who have failed? I'm not writing this to diminish anyone's experience, I think both are equally valid and obviously it's hard for everyone. Just venting a little bit.

17:50 ADHD is REAL it is unique and complicated😢😢

And with having ADD even playing this on 1.25 speed it’s still too slow to be able to get to the point fast enough to be able to sit through it. Maybe make an abridged version with key points. -Another Midwest Laura with adhd.

ehm, this thing with women and men adhd, I have what you guys refer to Women adhd and I am a man.

Aaargh! Oh please. Perfectionism is how I was able to be a "competent" RN! Me, I have to over-prepare! I need to instill the book learning deeply into my long term memory so the information is quickly available to compensate for my slow or disorganized or whatever reaction in the clinical setting. There is too much riding on my performance! Get it? I was actually a very good nurse. I have two performance levels: 1. Over-prepared and excellent 2. Under-prepared and incompetent. Give me a break. I would NEVER want to go along being easy on myself because I have ADD. I am glad and proud of my twenty year career as a very good registered nurse across several specialties. I did not like this video.

It's too distracting to have the aha word disappear and reappear, consider not having pointless distractions in a video about adhd!