Lost a handful of jobs. Existing feels monotonous, tedious, and mundane. All my maximum effort moments never seem to reap any awards. At least I become good at lots of different arts.
me too, i was wondering do you think it would be worth trying to use that artistic talent to start a business? with the help of someone supportive of course. I genuinely cannot see myself doing anything else at this point
One of the biggest things got me was always feeling a step behind socially and trying to replicate the behaviour and mannerisms of those around me to appear more normal it was and is frustrating because I feel most people just breeze through life socially
I'm the same, just feel like everyone else in the world clicks with each other more easy than I do with them, the situations ive got myself in over the years are hilarious, it's like everyone got an instruction manual to life but mine didn't arrive quite yet, but I'm here winging it
I can relate. It seems like life comes easy for everyone else. While I feel like my whole life I have been putting a square peg in a round hole. No matter how hard I try it seems like I keep working that much harder to keep up, and I am still behind. 😮💨
I am in my 40's and recently diagnosed with ADHD. Only just understanding how much of my life might have been different if I got an earlier diagnosis. I've disappointed friends and family by failing to remember important stuff or being late for things constantly. Some relationships can never be repaired. The shame and frustration of feeling depressed, that I'm stupid or just a horrible person has been a constant companion. I've been educating myself about this condition and for the first time in a long long time I can give myself a break and be kinder to myself. These videos really help! Thank you ❤
They forgot to add impulsivity. I tend to have emotional outbursts a lot and it affected my love life and my relation to friends. I lost a lot of friends throughout my life, I feel like I can't keep a friendship and I know most of the times I am the issue. Even if I know I have an issue, if I work on myself I can change for maybe a couple of days or weeks and then I get emotional outbursts again... I was tested to ADHD by a doctor back when I was a kid and the test results came back negative, that's why I never tested again but I definetly will after watching this video. Thank you!
Having adhd while also being a perfectionist is the hardest thing I’ve had to live with. Everything has to be a certain way for me to thrive, and instead of just keep trying until i get that perfection, i procrastinate and get distracted by the smallest of things. Failed one of the biggest career opportunities in my life, because i couldn’t stop getting distracted. Basically the lady who interviewed me had a mustache, and i couldn’t help but to keep staring at the mustache. I knew i didn’t get the job the minute i heard “ you know it’s not nice to stare Mr Walden?”. It was at that moment i realized i had a serious issue. I didn’t hear anything she asked me, i couldn’t help but focus on her stache.
I am in my 60s and feel like I have adhd and always had it. I was always considered as lazy and lack of discipline. Now it's diagnosed as menopausal in my situation But honestly, the more I look into it, the more I believe I have and always had adhd.
It was my menopause, that finally broke me and I got diagnosed at 57. I didn't think I would because after that long all the shame and guilt is ingrained and masking becomes a way of life. But now I'm slowly learning to accept myself and be kinder to myself. Do a self referral, I wish you well ❤
This channel has really helped understand my ADHD. I’ve always had trouble holding down a job after a year. I become uninterested and so exhausted after masking my ADHD for so long. Like I have good pay and benefits but I can’t focus my minds somewhere else and I keep making so many mistakes. Thank you for the helping ♥️♥️♥️
3,159 and I attempt to tend to it almost everyday. But nearly at the end of everyday, I try to organize my 50+ tabs by adding unwatched videos to the watch later list and the cycle repeats.
You're also allowed to have bad days, realise you're always learning and admit that so long as you aren't hurting anyone or breaking any laws, it's ok to suck at life sometimes.
I just got diagnosed with this. I have issues keeping work. My longest job has been 2 years...and at 35 it's an issue. I lose interest in things too. I issues doing simple things but for some reason complex things hold my attention. I'm still learning about myself. I just wish others could feel my pain and what it is like to be me.
I'm in the same boat. I suggest learning more about it and watching more RU-vid videos about ADHD so you can be comfortable understanding how your brain works and know what you can do to help live the life you want. the RU-vidr How to ADHD was helpful, and I enjoyed some of her videos. After watching a few, the algorithm also starts suggesting some good videos. Learn about it and reassure or dismiss your assumptions with a mental health expert. That is my next step as I want to clarify things with someone as I have a lot of what ifs and how do I know kind of questions that videos can't really help with anymore.
i got diagnosed last week and I'm having to take some days off because its all too overwhelming. The psychologist that diagnosed me stopped me halfway through the assessment to tell me I definitely have it, but for formality we'll continue, because of things like: as she was asking a question about me tending to look out the window i was doing just that, as she was asking a question about fidgeting i was swinging in my chair and fiddling with God knows what on my desk. She began looking at me like a lost child and i started to realise how unaware i was of my own condition. She felt bad that it took me this much to go wrong in my life for me to finally take action The straw that broke the camels back that basically forced me to see if i have adhd was that i literally cannot drive safely. I've been learning to drive for half a year and I'm still doing junctions because i either wing it or get choice paralysis on whether or not its safe to go. After hearing my instructor say the same thing 6 weeks in a row i had enough. The straw before that is a situation so potentially influential to the rest of my life and so obviously ADHD that i feel embarrassed to say, and even then i dismissed the possibility. Did the diagnosis turns out everything ive ever done in childhood and early adulthood (im 22) has been linked to a severe case of combined ADHD. I thought i had it as a joke but when i actually started researching it in depth it didn't become funny anymore. For my whole life id fractured things that made my life so hard into different reasons, not realising it was all due to ADHD
I hate to sound like a broken record, but same, even the age 😂. Didn't bother picking up driving because I knew way ahead that choice paralysis would absolutely kick my ass every time I attempted, among other things (I doubt depression and driving is a good combination). Hopefully it gets better for us weird folk
I am 27, been living with ADHD until today, I have been labelled as an idiot, retard, lazy and stupid, Until today i haven't given uo, I have started university now, from September, I have been working in the service industry ever since i was 18 My hobbies are boxing, calisthenics and playing bass guitar, Honestly if i had the chance when i was younger, ibwpuld have chosen to be a professional boxer or an actor and musician, But i chose something else that i like, business administration, NEVER EVER EVER BACK DOWN OR GIVE UP, WE CAN DO THIS WE ARE FIGHTERS DON'T LET THIS ANOMALY OR ANY ANOMALY YOU HAVE PUT YOU DOWN.👊💪
I don't know why but this ADHD, I became so familiar with it when I turned 18. Like every symptoms and ups and dows sides of the disorder, my life makes sense now because I have been experiencing all od it. But it's hard accessing mental health in our country, it's very expensive. Thank you for this.
Age 34, diagnosed at 13. Impulsiveness has been my biggest shortcoming, followed by forgetfulness. I've moved across the country on a moments notice 6 times. There are times when I'm looking right through the person speaking to me... my mind is in another place. Depression and anxiety started in my early 20's. While I do feel "held back" regularly - there are some really good days in my life where everything feels in sync. It makes the rest of life worth living. Peace to you.
I am heavily ADHD and got diagnosed at 23 (I’m 26) and I’m currently at work just typing this out because I was getting no stimulus at all and when I don’t get my stimuli I start to do literally anything to get it
My eyes are tearing up watching, learning and reading everyone’s experiences. This is me, my entire life explained in 4 letters. My daughter brought it to me a few weeks ago after her going to the docs. When she gave me the test I laughed at the “this is just a day in the life” to which she replied Exactly! That’s why I’m showing you 😂 I feel so much relief and joy at the “simple diagnosis” rather than me think alllllllsorts is wrong with me. I’m 46 and definitely going to see the doctor. Watching reels on ADHD driving and some are so funnily (and scarily) like me. I think I’m a good driver the reality is far different lol
Basically everything that was covered in the video. I feel very sad about how certain aspects of my life like education, work and relationships could have been different, as I'm in my 50s and only now being assessed. I'm exhausted.
Hi Alice, I'm 29 and thanks to videos such as yours and looking at yours and others life experiences I'm realizing that the struggles I faced all my life may have a root cause that isn't "simple" depression. I'm looking into getting a diagnosis. Thanks a lot
That's funny, I have all of those traits. How I deal with the driving situation is that I have the Google Maps open (especially in the city) so I don't miss turning into roads I'm supposed to. Although my dates think that I'm weird.
I don't know if i have adhd but this video speaks to me a lot to the nail (except that i can hold a job but struggle a lot with organization and task management)
I'm only thinking of going to a therapist to get properly diagnosed. Actually, there is a huge fear inside me of "making that up" even if it's obviously not. Some part of me says that if you know the name of what you're going through then there is no point to see a therapist. This part of me is so scared of being called "a liar" or something. I don't understand how I should even start a dialogue with a therapist. This whole thing of saying it right away, on the doorsteps sounds so... Ridiculous? At least, in my head. "Hi, I might have an ADHD". Bruh... So that might be the main struggle. Just to let myself suggest out loud that I might have an ADHD.
"I was diagnosed just when I turned 30. It's been almost two months since I've been on tablets, and they do help! In my experience, I haven't lost my personality; I've gained so much more. Life's a lot easier, but it's still a journey. I urge people who may think they have ADHD to get tested if they can, though I realize it can be tough and expensive. I tried in the UK a few times; the doctors at the GP weren't that bothered. However, after moving to Australia, I received excellent, affordable help."
I adore your channel, and i feel like i ll be rewatching all videos by tomorrow, because i had another one of those moments where i failed a goal. So, i had a thought, that, it would be really great if you make a video with tips and tricks of managing with adhd, for things like sleep routine, exercises, studying or self learning and self projects.
I can’t even fall asleep without meds and I can’t stay focused on the zoom meetings I have for college so I can barely remember what they say and on top of that I had an injury that is known as an AVM which makes remembering things even harder
ADHD can also turn into depression and anxiety. This happened to me cuz today in therapy I found out I have a lot of doubt in myself. Went to art school, have had multiple people compliment my art and its uniqueness, and stories too, but because I only have 24 likes on instagram, my brain tells me “your not good enough, off yourself, you can’t even art right”. It’s hard cuz it’s now a core belief that I don’t know if I can really fix :(
I have ADHD, and everything applies to me, except being late. I'm lucky I have trained myself to go early each time and I am almost never late, except when there's bad weather. But yeah, ADHD sucks. Managing my tasks and getting distracted all the time is such a struggle for me everyday. I think about it each time.
Oh yea driving can get scarry sometimes. Getting back to reality with seaing car too close in front of you, like yea i forgot i am driving so many times. Unfinished things i hate how this fits. My model ship sits there half finished, got costume in my closet cut, never sewn togather. The musiícal instruments too, got two guitars and saxophone, didn touch those for years now. It is sad if you consider how good i was.
I’ve always known that I have ADHD but now at 22 I think it’s time to get properly diagnosed, it really consumes you and relationships, work everything. I can’t sleep because of my thoughts, I can’t seem to get anything done, I’m always late, I lose my wallet, passport, phone etc. all the time, I forget appointments and important dates, I’m so unorganised and it is so frustrating, I always leave stuff half done and I’m overly emotional about everything. I mean it made me moderately good at guitar, piano, flute, making digital music, writing, painting, crafting, knitting, cooking, editing, photography, videography, drawing, growing plants, designing but I can’t focus on one skill and none of them are perfected and I can’t even imagine myself doing only one thing at a time. And that will be the only public rant I’ll ever post hopefully. 😂
My undiagnosed ADHD has left my life utterly devastated. I'm 55 menopausal , and have lost the love of my life after 35 years and now 30 year career due to my outbursts. ADHD and recently diagnosed co morbid mental illness has left my life utterly devastated. Only stumbled upon the word ADHD last year, knew nothing, psychiatry never mentioned it . Please, could ADHD meds help calm my destructive emotional outbursts Desperate for help. Thank you
Doctor: well you have anxiety diagnosed and show signs of depression. Me: yes but why? My minds racing and for some reason everything seems harder for me. Doctor: yes, you're depressed. And after lots of research and talking to others about it i went to the doctors about adhd and after soem questions go "oh yes definitely however its a long wait to get a formal diagnosis and see a professional about it. Me: so this is how come im anxious and seem depressed? Doctor: oh definitely. Me: guess i had to wait to struggle as an adult for years with the same complaints 😢😅
Looks like i may get evicted out of my apartment have no place to go or anyone to help me pack. I can not finish a task or get motivated to start let alone a bath now and fibromyalgia in mix😮
would a symptom of ADHD having like racing thoughts all the time & almost having trouble organizing thoughts & when you speak you speak super fast & everything is just chaotic
the question is: what can you do? it affects all areas of life and it accumulated many different issues. could it be hormonal problems? childhood trauma? bad parenting? help
👆🏻👆🏻👆🏻👆🏻........ People think ADD is just being too loud or “nuts”. But that’s not what it is. It’s the inability to focus; it’s the inability to sit, pick up a pen and do your homework.
I was diagnosed by my neurologists I have ADHD. All my life I was struggling with focusing but no one ever tried to helped or seen anything wrong. After my second child things started to get worse. Now I am unemployed because my partner forced us to move to Florida right before Covid loving with my in-laws past 3.5 years who are very controlling. I feel like stressing out about all this I have anxiety & depression. I am scared to take this medication retinal 😬 I barely take pain meds. Is there a natural way to help?
No. There is no "natural remedy" that will work with ADHD, though you will have people trying to get your money who will say otherwise. There ARE strategies you can use to reduce symptoms that do not involve medication, but if I'm being honest, that's like playing on hard mode. There are a million websites that will give you helpful tips and action plans, but it's going to be stuff like: meditate, use a dayplanner, follow routines, get sleep, exercise... etc. My best advice would be to talk with your personal doctor/neurologist who will have suggestions based on your symptoms. They might suggest medication. Know that you can say you're uncomfortable with that, and they will work with you to find the best solutions. However, if things aren't improving with just those strategies mentioned earlier, I would try a medication. It might take a few times to see what works best with your brain, but once you're past that things should settle.
Dhea. Take prenatal vitamins has vitamin b9 in it also, which is folic acid both help anxiety and depression. Prenatal vitamins have dhea in it, alone they are very expensive. I feel more rested when waking now and less anxiety, yet I'm 63
Sorry Start reading up on it and take folic acid and dhea along with fish oil...or prenatal vitamins, alot cheaper and has all of those..I get the gummy ones from Walgreens..very potent formula
Calling it a mood and anxiety disorder. I don't think that's right. . .but the worst case is I say I told you so and fire the professionals and get new ones.
I'm taking Coffea Cruda. It's a homeopathic medicine for relieving sleeplessness when you have mental hyperactivity. It has been very helpful. I also listen to relaxing music while I sleep sometimes.
Apparently, they are frequently co-occurring, though they affect different genes and do different things to the brain. I understand that the symptoms overlap but for opposing reasons. Also, if you have ADHD, you're more likely to have someone with OCD in your family. Hooray, genetics!
having adhd and working somewhere you feel no joy or no utility is just mind wrecking i would rather DIE than to ever do it again (i will die unemployed in this capitalist system)
Funny how the video gets into others perception of you as lazy ,lacking motivation and numerous other judgemental ideas. I have lost so many jobs and doubt my ability to do more complex work because of poor comprehension and excessive time needed to complete tasks. I.remember I believe Depression and Anxiety are a direct result of not being able to reach the goals that we want for ourselves.
