except when I sat the flowers by the sink I would have just decided to go ahead and water them and then I might as well water all the flowers in the house. then my lunch would be cold so while I'm reheating it I would find something else to do, and then forget about the food and find it later and then realize why I'm so hungry!!!!
A little adhd irony for you all today: i accidentally zoned out, then got distracted, while watching this video. I realised 10 minutes later that it was still playing on loop (next to my now-cold reheated pasta……. And no fork).
Im soon 40 and still want to believe that this is normal state🙈 I constantly do these things, and often carry around unnecissary stuff around the apartement, while cleaning or when im about to leave the flat. Also Ive stopped getting surprised or angry with myself when neighbours ring the Bell to tell me Keys are in the door. And the chatterbox in the head. But I still dont know why I should get a diagnose, how would it help me, or If Its Autism, ADHD or just system overload. Or just what its like beeing a mom. But then, Ive been like this since I was a kid. And there are soo many other small things as well Ive always thought of as me beeing weird and different🥵
Omg yesssss!!!! I’m 47, and it blows my MIND that some people have only 1 conversation going in their heads at a time. I’m like, how does that even work?!?
@@jennifer6833 people without adhd don't? it's always or most of the time quiet in your head? there is also a music playing in the background of all of that almost always and it changes channels by trigger words usually if it's not stuck on one.
@@Sufferingsassafrass my brain be like my computer tab list. 1 is playing music 3 are watching movies, one is having an error and idk where tf the shouting is coming from....
This is so helpful to me as the mother of a young man with ADHD. Since watching your simulator, I have tried really hard not to add to all those thoughts and provide sympathy and support when it all overwhelms him. You are a godsend!
The only thing I’ll add is forgetting that you put the fork on the counter, going to get a new one, eating, then finding the clean fork on the counter when you’re done 😂
and then you're panicky because you don't know if you actually used the fork for something and forgot and it only looks clean so you better put it in the sink anyways but should you really waste water cleaning it if it's not actually dirty and "mom, do you know what the fork on the counter is for?!" before you inevitably clean it anyways because better safe than sorry and by now you probably should do the other dishes in the sink but it's trash day and you need to put it on the curb and oh, you should check the mail that's a pretty stamp that grandma used where did she get it why is that car honking at me... oh sorry i'm in the road. and that previously clean and recleaned fork ends up sitting in the sink with actually dirty dishes for several days. the end
I have severe dissociation and concentration problems and oh my God, even saying stuff aloud with every list/reminder/calendar/alarm I can do this atleast 5/6 times in one go 😭
It’s important to note that this is very common behavior and it doesn’t necessarily mean you have ADHD. If you suspect you have ADHD please see a mental health professional if possible before you claim to have it.
She also forgot the part where she put her fork down, sat down to eat, remembered that she put her fork down, then went to the place where she *thought* she put it at just to remember that it was in the refrigerator because she aint pay attention to where she put it. 😢😂
You forgot about 10 other diversions and then a time skip to 5 hours later, where you still haven't eaten and are starving but the food is now too cold/hot/ been out too long and must now be binned and omg, NOW what am I going to eat, my fridge is full but I don't feel like any of those options, let's pull out the takeout menus, hmm too many choices, ah of course! But oh damn I took so long they are closed now, etc etc.
OMG yesss! The one thing I have that I'm never see any where is that she just walked up to the flatware drawer and pulls out a fork. A random fork. Without the deliberation of whether she would need a dinner size fork or a smaller fork.... And the choice being based on what was being eaten....ugh....
I don't have that issue thankfully since I'm basically never thinking about absolutely anything; just the musical tune that changes from time to time without fail😊
I was in the supermarket once thinking, man, this place smells like trash. When I looked down, I saw that I had brought my - full - trash bag with me :o
And then not remembering what you were actually suppose to bring with you? I have that struggle, bringing something else than what I actually wanted to bring.. I have to pat my pockets 2-3 times to make sure I have at least my phone, wallet, keys and headphones with me. D:
😂 they say I don't have it but that's exactly how it sounds in my head. The main monologue and this constant chatter of other random stuff in the background.
This is so well done. The multiple background tracks of dialogue! Spot on. Also, this was a relatively straightforward process. Hardly any major detours aside from the flowers. I like that as well. It really shows how hard we work at stuff.
Why is this so weirdly accurate. Doing something, immediately getting distracted, completely forgetting about the original task and the random chatter/music in the back of your head
Sometimes I'm washing the dishes and I end... Later my mom have to remember me what happened with the rest of the dishes and I'm like "What dishes? I wash everything... Oh wait, there's was something else?"
The very last part was the most striking to me. “Where is my fork?” Lately, misplacing things has been driving me absolutely crazy. To the point where I’m having meltdowns and crying. Thank you. I needed to see this.
@@-Spinach_Soup- and then when you're like "i want to vibe to this song it's nice" IT SOUNDS 1000x WORSE THAN IT DID IN YOUR HEAD TF?? SOMEONE EXPLAIN HOW THIS HAPPENS
The only part you forgot was it suddenly being 8 pm, food's cold, sun's down, and we didn't get that ONE thing done that we REALLY needed to get done today...
What do you mean suddenly? We know exactly where that time went- we watched helplessly as it flew by at a genuinely terrifying speed while we doomscrolled on our phone instead of eating our damn pasta.
not the same thing, but sometimes i'll be about to grab lunch and then i'm like "well it's only 11:30am, i'll probably put on a quick video. oh wait, that youtube short looks interesting, i'm gonna click on it! oh man, that was pretty cool, i'm gonna scroll for a bit more. okay, NOW i'm gonna get lunch. oh wait, i actually have to do something, i could do it later but i'd probably forget so i'll just do it now. okay, i'm going to ACTUALLY get lunch now. wait, it's already 2pm. should i really have lunch right now? i'll probably not be hungry by the time it's dinner. okay, well i guess i'm gonna go play tears of the kingdom now." i haven't been diagnosed with adhd so i'll just assume that i don't have it because i know self-diagnosis isn't good, but these things are REALLY relatable sometimes.
And this is why I need to watch video essays... I need to hear someone else talk, so my brain concentrates on them and then I do everything on autopilot
I love that you did this one. It's like a "best case scenario" - you handled everything well, managed your symptoms with coping mechanisms, and still had a lot of problems.
My husband has adhd and he always says how it’s like a million voices going off at once and it’s just all his thoughts running through his head at once. He tells people he don’t know or understand why I get him and nobody else does. Honestly it’s just being patient and really listening to what he is saying.
You’re awesome! He’s a lucky dude and the world just needs more people like you in general! People willing to actually listen to one another with patience🩵
thank you for being like that to him... If you observe the simulation, she's doing everything regardless of the voices, those "million voices" can feel literally painful physically, but if you've been like that long enough, it's like "ok, that's how everybody around me feels so i gotta function regardless" if your brain allows your body that is😅
My room is always clean. I need it to be like that. It’s something I hyperfixate on a lot and it’ll stress me out and make me overstimulated if it’s too messy. Making the entire thing clean takes up most my day and I definitely feel burnt out and like I wasted so much time in between stopping to do other things I constantly get sidetracked with but yeahh..There are numerous aspects to ADHD as far as cleanliness or non cleanliness. It’s not always the same things haha
Right! Not diagnosed yet, but my house is a scattered mess. I clean but stuff is still everywhere. And I have so many places to look for something because literally nothing is all together in the same place. Plain old regular life should not be mentally exhausting.
As an ADD guy living on his own since almost three weeks, I relate. It is hard to get a single thing done without getting roped into four other things, completing none of them, constantly scolding yourself for your lack of focus, or all three.
I find podcasts, let's plays, and the radio are my best friends whenever I'm on my own. The timing and beats of conversation/music help me not get overwhelmed and such. Best of luck to you!!
There's no need to scold yourself. It's not going to change anything. I have a hard time finishing my meal without getting distracted, so I find it is it really annoying when my friend keeps getting up every 5 minutes to do something else. So I do scold HIM, which he finds equally annoying. 😅
I never knew it til now, but I must be undiagnosed ADD or ADHD because I do exactly what this video shows and what @philleppegauvinguy said! It's soo not a joke and it really makes me feel kinda better to know what might be wrong with me. And the person that mentioned playing music with a beat...come to think of it, I think I do get more tasks completed when I'm listening to some upbeat music with volume up loud! I hope this is a positive turning point for me & I learned something about myself! Thanks guys! 😊
When I get overwhelmed I just pick up something (tablet or paper) and write down everything with all the steps and just start checking them off one by one like in video games
This hits too close to home, except half the time i leave the food in microwave because I start doing 10 other things and forgot I was supposed to eat 😅
@@SamuelsReview I normally will stay close to the microwave so I can open it 1 second before it beeps so that when I do forget it I won't be able to tone out the sound from it cus it feels new to hear
The moment you placed that fork on the bench I knew there would be a search party for the misplaced fork 😅 I do the same thing all the time and it's so nice to know that I'm not the only one stopping mid thought thinking that I need to water the flowers. The power of ADHD❤️
I refuse to once I'm seated 😂 Like, ill think about it, but I def probably I think I didnt leave anything on in there. Ah, wait one time me and my coworker left a waterbath filling 😅
i work in a lab as well and YES!!!! i also have left the lab, gotten into my car, and had to go back and swipe back in to clock out anembarrassingly high number of times lol
Oh god, this! Phone in the freezer, the fridge, random cupboards, bathroom sink. I was once very late to work because I'd put my phone in my sock drawer while getting dressed and closed it in.
When I lose my phone and don't want to wait for the hourly "here I am" alarm that I literally have set on it I ask my daughter to help and this brat goes straight to the freezer every time. She knows me too well 😂
This is exactly how it feels to live my life almost all of the time. I’ve seen on the internet that said “not everyone thinks their inner thoughts in words, sometimes it’s in concepts or images”. Mine are a combination of both. The “top monologue” is verbal; it’s the one you hear most clearly in the video. The rest are sometimes music, words, concepts, and/or images.
@@JawshMcCullaugh ~ Oh, nah, mine does switch, just not often. I can try to switch manually, which only works occasionally, and it’s funny cause sometimes it’s like trying to watch a RU-vid video at 42% volume while another video plays on the same computer at 100% volume and I’m pretending not to hear it. But mainly it stays one in front. Sometimes a second, ever so slightly quieter one. Having many switching constantly or having more then 3 being “in front” constantly would be absolutely terrible.
It’s really weird to think that people don’t have like 2-3 different types of thoughts at once while music is playing in their heads… Do people really get up to get a fork and just think nothing but “I am getting my fork.” That doesn’t seem right at all… How would they multitask? Driving and talking wouldn’t be possible for neurotypical people if their brains could only ever think one thought at all times.
It's the same for me. The "top monologue" is the ONLY part that's verbal. My brain doesn't just come up with dialogue/sentences on its own - only when I'm actively, consciously thinking. My subconscious/automatic thoughts are definitely more just concepts, ideas, daydreams, scenarios, etc... I'm not even sure how to describe or identify it exactly. No images for me as I also have aphantasia. To be honest I have a hard time fully connecting to what goes on in my own mind
@@kay-collins Same, but it does help me so much with focus and motivation. One thing I've never been able to do is meditate... I don't know HOW anyone can quiet their brain so much as to not have any thoughts during meditation. That is absolutely unimaginable to me!
I tried CBD gummies for the first time, and the noise went away! It was like when the power goes off, and that hum which you didn’t quite notice is always there, stops.
Sensory deprivation helps. I’ll sit in a room as the sun sets and the room gets dark with nothing on around me (no lights, no anything) and just allow myself to get used to absolute quiet and darkness. It’s something I really enjoy doing because I usually have so much going on in my head at all times.
@@SweetStuffOnMonarchLane - it’s not about quieting the brain. Focusing on trying to quiet your mind is actually a huge distraction. Meditation that work for me is allowing the thoughts to flow through without focusing on any of them. It just becomes a flow and you don’t pay any attention. You just let the thoughts pass. It relieves the anxiety and allows you to not focus on them. They come into your mind but they aren’t ever focused on.
I can never just sit down and eat. I always end up getting up for a drink, utensil, napkins, seasoning or some other randomness. It took me three hours to get back to my tea today 😅.
I wish I knew the stats on what % of the time I’ve let my coffee or tea get cold before finally getting around to drinking it 🤦🏻♀️ I expect it would be around 50%, but I wouldn’t be surprised if it’s higher.
@msd7544 Get some of those tumblers that keep drinks hot or cold for hours. Some of them last a whole day! It's a game changer. It has saved me tons of reheating drinks or adding ice.
As someone with ADHD, I don’t hear all the voices but I can relate to the walking back and forth and forgetting and remembering things randomly. Thought everyone did that.
Almost crying here, this is me! Voices, conversations in my head that never stop plus there’s always background music going on as well. Then there’s the forgetting the drink, cutlery etc 😢
I love that one of the ADHD voices is singing a theme :D I do that to make me focus easier and to keep up the momentum so adding that with the thousand other thoughts was a nice touch.
it’s really interesting to see how other neurodivergent people experience their symptoms! i don’t have an inner dialogue- i think more with pictures & concepts & sometimes images of words. only “sound” that’s in my head is music sometimes. i have adhd symptoms from ptsd so not the exact same thing but mine feels more like a looming sense of stress that i have to do everything all at once and just a massive to-do list that i don’t know where to start on. & whenever i start working on something i’ll remember another thing i have to do and do that instead lol
Show it to a neurologist might help them understand how you came to think that and might actually believe you. From someone having a hard time getting retested
OMG the flowers by the sink though! As a fellow ADHD, I can confirm that this is the life, putting things in conspicuous places as a reminder to do something with them. Everything I need to take with me when I leave the house gets put in a bag in the middle of the hallway near the front door when I'm getting ready, and there's still no guarantee I'll remember to take it. 😂
I put stuff out of place bc it annoys me, but the way I can just totally ignore it and forget it. 💀 I put my lunch bag on my doorknob, and I left without it. 💀
That's funny because ivé learned to put a bag blocking my door and I put stuff I need in it as I get ready. . I used to hang it ON the door lever but I'd leave it . I learned I have to put it where I have to pick it up to move it
You needa search for the fork for a while and then you cannot find it so you grab another one and when you're done with eating you find the old fork staring at you on the cabinet 😭
Yes it will be loud. The thoughts will still intrude. It’s not about quieting the mind but letting those thoughts flow and pop in your head without you focusing on them. It’s perfectly fine if the thoughts come. Practicing on letting the thoughts go is the meditation. Hope that helps.
Hi just a fellow adhd person here telling you you don’t have to try meditation just cus a bunch of meditation loving people tell you to. I think non adhd people don’t understand that we might actually need a distraction from our thoughts and that complete silence makes our thoughts louder. Reading with the tv on in the background is the closest I can get to meditation. Also , some people with ptsd will feel vulnerable during meditation, it’s really not for everyone ❤
I enjoy guided meditation sometimes. My mind is never quiet, but listening to the music and following the instructions is still relaxing. Straight up meditating on my own just isn't going to happen lol.
Look, bearing in mind the two above comments, I think I have a workable medium. Not that you asked, I totally get the whole "Just meditate then!" thing and it doesn't feel like well meant advice even when it is! But if you're interested... I'm someone with ADHD and C-PTSD who did a course which involved meditating for 1.5 hours in 30 minute increments every day for 6 months. Weekends included. The course had a lot of other stuff to it, but that was an hour and a half of what we did each day. I didn't know my diagnosis at the time (ADHD, did know C-PTSD) but I managed to get through it pretty well. Apart from a brief stint with crazy abdominal cramps that meant I had to stay in bed for a week or so (might have been the meditation, might have been a lot of things), I only missed the occasional session to be a bratty rebel and sit on a log or hang out with the kids for an hour on Halloween. That might have been what I needed to do, because sometimes meditation is what you DON'T need, like anything else. Honestly, it's just the same as sitting on a train or a bus or in a waiting room somewhere when you have nothing to do but think - it's the chorus of voices like in the above video, just without the activity that you're needing to focus on. So I used it as an opportunity to practise focus. I'd single out one voice/thought/vibe as much as I could and try and let it be in my head on its own. Not to develop it or follow it, because that always opens up new pathways for more thoughts which take up space, but just keep one thing in my mind for as long and as well as I could. Then I'd let everything else come rushing in, and the volume would go up with all the voices back, like normal. I guess it's the ADHD version of meditation - we have trouble focusing, THAT'S our unnatural state a lot of the time, so attempting to focus is our equivalent to "emptying your mind". We're not trying to let thoughts pass us by, because there are so many, it's like being caught in a whirlpool - not meditative, at least not for the average person. And since we spend a lot of time in this state already, trying to chase a thought while a million things go on around us, meditation can seem counterintuitive. But if we aim for the middle, not trying to follow a thought to it's multiple conclusions, I think that works. As long as you aren't trying to force yourself when you feel stressed, it's not a bad mode. But yeah, you're right - it WILL just be loud still, a lot of the time. Sometimes you know best and other people should naff off. Practise does help, it gets easier - like, I absolutely hated earplugs because of stuff in your ears/amplified internal sounds but being overstimulated by external sound was really messing me up, so I tried Loops. It DEFINITELY took a few days of experimentation but now I really really like having the rubbery ones in to get a break, especially when I'm sleeping with heavy traffic outside, first thing in the morning or when the dogs are being extra before a walk. So yeah, maybe give the ADHD version of meditation a go, if you ever feel like it, but you don't have to - that is also a valid way to be. Oh and if you're wanting to try these Loops, they're the basic Quiets (though I add mutes, cos they're cute and maybe quieter). Loops aren't perfect, but they have been helping me so I feel like I should say so, even if the influencers have it covered. They're not the only type of noise reducing product by any means, but they are pretty cheap compared to a lot of headphones. You do you ❤ I hope this was helpful but if not, thanks for getting me to think about it - this comment was what made me realise I wasn't doing the standard "let your thoughts pass you by like a flowing river" technique at all, but my own modification. Sorry about the neurotofus that imply a bit of quiet would solve all your difficulties - they know not the spicy marinade we're working with 😄
bro... i cannot imagine you guys in that one soundproof room with the foam spikes. ya'll would literally go insane in 10 minutes. Veratasium video on YT if you haven't checked it out yet.
I once lost my phone charger for more than a week. I only found it when I got up from my desk and sneezed cartoonishly hard. As I reeled back from the recoil, my eyes instantly locked onto the charger- neatly coiled up on the shelf next to my bed. I like to think some higher power took pity on me and finally nudged me in the right direction.
