ADHD: What parents need to know about attention deficit hyperactivity disorder 

I can relate with every word u have written.

Thank you for this comment. It was nice to be able to relate.

It brought me to tears recalling my childhood and I just wish so much that I had someone like you throughout my childhood

Evelyn Grace my mom also hates it when i use a label 😞

Natalie G. I don’t understand why they don’t see that giving yourself a label helps you define and figure out who you are and what you need to succeed

Tears of Race hi

IHave NoIdeaWhatIAmDoing hello, how are you?

You should talk to someone like another family member or someone at ur school...like a safe guarding team or something and tell them what's going on...its best to know if u have adhd or not otherwise your just gonna be constantly think if u have it or not....let's just say that if u have the symptoms of adhd then u most likely have it

Lauren Macneill my friend helped me with my anger stuff but school is much a challenge and sometimes it’s hard to find value in highschool education and it’s also hard to read my documents and be deemed as “disabled” :((

I recall not being able to open my lock on my locker because I was rushing between classes and it was hard to do fast.. my boyfriend would help but wow if he didn’t I would be late for class.

same :( oof

Me too thats exactly how i was like

Sounds like me... but i dont realy know if i have it I have most the symptoms but i still dont know if i have ADHD 😔😔😔😔

How do you control yourself? Or how do you avoid the situation ?? Is there any way?

I do the same. I try to stop myself but it’s like I will die if I don’t say what I want to say

Imo, I justify it because all my life I held back soon much. Now I'm like on autopilot and unfiltered, it's a huge relief in a way.

I felt that

Ríann Sheridan me the last word I remeber is behavior but I ended up reading the comments and playing w a pencil I found on my bed

In English class I start randomly head banging while doing an assignment

Ríann Sheridan I was watching this then I went to smt forgetting about the video only 50 seconds in and I just opened yt again and saw the video 💀💀💀💀

I put it on 2x

Me..

Yooooo. I get that ALL THE TIME. People always tell me I’m deaf. I dont pay attention to what’s going on or what they’re saying and I’m like “what” and they’re like “ARE YOU DEAF????” “YOUR SO DEAF” “YOU NEED A HEARING AID”. One of my old friends did that every single day at lunch and kept calling me “deaf head” and saying I was deaf and kept yelling at me. It pissed me off so I told her to shut the fuck up before I make her deaf...

Lazy people are smart, they don’t do hard work because it isn’t always necessary. U r lazy and lazy is good for success

@@shmexyshrimp6828 Same, the deaf thing happens all the time, it's not even funny, I genuinely struggle doing simple tasks like studying or chores because I forget them a lot.

JnL adhd isn’t being lazy. It’s a fucking neurological disorders

Vodka Addict same. And my mom doesn’t believe me so I’m not medicated and it sucks. One time I was so hyper that she thought I was doing drugs so she bought a drug test

Boy Girl my adhd makes me super emotional. I cry a lot. how do you manage?

IHave NoIdeaWhatIAmDoing I also have adhd

IHave NoIdeaWhatIAmDoing same

I have adhd and I’m turning 22 in 3 months, it will get worse depending on your situation. If you have toxic people around you and toxic family members it will be your worse nightmare. This is what I’ve had to deal with but I am still unmedicated and it’s been hell. All the best!

IHave NoIdeaWhatIAmDoing I cry when I get mad and it’s annoying

Being labelled with adha makes kid a feel uncomfortable not fitting in. no one wants to be naughty and shouted at but its a reaction which myself still do now your brother just need one to one he looks up to you he might he annoying but thats the, energy kids need im 26 with two childen and a wife ive never let it hold me back tbh it's made me who i am to today its my personality 👍

cameron simpson I have adhd and I fit in just fine

cameron simpson whats ADHA? You mean ADD or ADHD or is there another one, called ADHA?

Drixify ! Your no human.

IHave NoIdeaWhatIAmDoing what?

No u probably don’t I couldn’t focus at home even taking my pills that worked pretty well. You probably just need better environment, not necessary found at home but u definitely focus at school for example

Ze noob ur not a noob im a noob

i had ADHD and my symptoms were worse working at home so your probably could or couldn't im not a doctor im just a person who has it

It will get better. Keep working on yourself :)

Awe I’m sorry

I'm so sorry to hear that. I can relate to what you are feeling and going through. I live in Pennsylvania and its the same. No matter where u go if people are not educated on ADHD, they wouldn't understand. Just stay strong and continue to love and support your son. Never give up hope and get him all the treatment that he needs. I wish u both the best and pray things get better for you out there.

What about support for us, the parents? I’m like an abused partner (used to be called battered wife syndrome) because of my son. He’s always acting out, screaming and carrying on. I’m over it. I’m grieving for the child and life I thought I could have. If I’m totally honest, had I known what he’d be like, I wouldn’t have had children at all.

Hope he gets well soon

Siobhán Murphy Hey Siobhán, I can completely understand where you are coming from. The parents are also judged by society without knowing they’re full story. People might make rude comments about how your not a good parent or give you dirty looks. These people don’t know how much stress you go through everyday with your child. Please know that these peoples opinions don’t matter. They would never understand what you go through. Raising a child with ADHD is a full time job. One thing I got used to was not caring what other people think, because they can look at you and your child and think or say whatever they want, but they don’t know your story’s. As a parent there has been countless Extremely tough times. But please know that your child’s behavior that they display, they can’t control. My child was truly out of control. Always getting in trouble and getting yelled at by everyone everyday. As a mom I can tell you that they receive so many negative comments a day and that just piles on to there symptoms which gives them also an insane amount of stress. The most important thing I would like to share with you is that at times I constantly was rethinking parenting and raising my child. But now at the end of the line I can tell you I would never stop raising my child for the world. ALL THESE HARD TIMES PAYED OFF! In elementary-middle school he failed almost every single class and the school kept pushing him on because they knew he had it in him to put up good grades they just weren’t showing. In high school however things changed, he got on the right medicine and succeeded with a 3.9 gpa. And is now a brain surgeon. Please no matter how tough times get, never stop believing in your child. IT ALL PAYS OFF TRUST ME! Please right me back with updates and/or other problems and I will do my best to get back to you as soon as possible. I will always be here for you Siobhán and your child ❤️!

Ashley Seme patience is key. I was diagnosed when I was 6 and have had it ever since. My parents are “old school” and have the philosophy of “tough love”. This worked very well with my older brother and sister (both being very successful at this stage in their lives.) However, while I love my parents resent the way they treated and acted towards me growing up. (I moved out at 18 and never looked back.) Things like, “I don’t understand why you don’t listen” or “you never listen” and “You’re wasting your potential.” All of these really made think I was stupid as kid because I would listen often times I remembered what they said but something else just got my attention. I would suggest little incentive reminders to keep them motivated and focused. Also if your son is on medication don’t say things like “just take your medication” that hurts self esteem greatly. I remember feeling and still feel as though my parents never loved me for me (without the meds).

He can, but chooses not to, it’s something he wants to do, he seeks fun and information he wants. Not stuff that’s supposed to be fun or supposed to be taught

Bazan Mi you’re not stupid

@@zjay6576 you don't know my struggles so shut up

@@bazanmi1310 hey just be nice @zJay was telling you what you probably need to hear

Bazan Mi Yes you’re right I don’t know you but as people with adhd we will find difficulty in certain aspects of our lives when it comes to learning and all our other plethora of problems, but that does not mean you’re stupid.

Ollie Arts tell her she dont know shit

Don’t talk to your mom, talk to a doctor and the doctor will talk to your mom

Same dude I have like all the symptoms that girls do but I don't tell anyone I don't want to say anything because I feel the same as u do Ollie

I think pearents sometimes try to avoid difficult issies (they are not always ready to deal with this issue). Just take care of yourself, talk to a psycologist, talk to a good positive cancellor, be your own greatest support system.

mylife 23 I used to take medication and it turned me into a zombie it reduced my appetite and You needed to say the most funny joke in the world to get a small chuckle or grin Im very happy without it, this is my 9th year medication free

Totally agree 😌

El Gordo just slap the adhd outa him

Frazer yes, but only if we can slap the abelism out of ya!! :']

ah crap *ableism

MEME REVIEW fuck up ya downy bitch

Omg I was looking for this because of my sister, don’t worry stay strong

Tell her it’s not your memory it’s your focusing. Don’t say adhd say what adhd causes

same

The mad Manatee I stood up to her a lot of times only when she stopped being friends with Leen, Leens leaving the school and I’ll miss her but I’m glad because Catharine put pressure on her a lot and I think Leen was depressed..but now she’s leaving the school and I like to cheer her up (Goddamn thats emotional)

You have to protect yourself from people like that. You’re worth it . Never put up with people bringing you down or hang around people who make you feel sad . It’s best to find new friends and avoid them . You don’t have to fight or argue with them just avoid them and try to find new friends . Your friend who is depressed needs to know this to but you have every right to not hang around her when the friend who makes everyone feel bad is around. Someone needs to tell an adult what’s going on. Usually people who hurt others are hurting themselves and it may take a kind adult to help her . Your job though is to protect yourself . I’m glad she’s moved away though . Hopefully you and your friend can have some peace but if you ever find yourself around another person like this just know it’s ok to not interact with them and to find new friends to hang out with if they are allowing such people in their lives. This can damage your heart and spirit more than you know . If you want a happy life , surround yourself with happy kind people . 💜🙏🏼

When I said “ this can damage your heart and spirit ...” i was talking about being around people who say unkind things to you . Cut them out of your life. Your other friend would have to realize if she can’t cut toxic people out if her life and it’s affecting her other friends then she might have to lose you’re company when the toxic person is around . You could still care for your friend and try to get her to see that she should protect herself to but your friend should understand why you don’t want to be around the one who puts you down . Sometimes people just don’t understand until someone else sets boundaries .

Alex Sandoval I did tell them

Alex Sandoval otherwise how would Cathrine have made fun of me having ADHD if she didn’t know I did?

Rogelia Regalado e

How did you confirm ? My 5 year shows similar symptoms and we are worried

subramaniam Madhesu at first I had no idea where to start, so I called his pediatrician and asked if they did thw tests at their office and they gave us the number where to call so he could get a test done!

It's extremely strange for a child to be easily distracted when something they're not interested in is going on. Probably the strangest is when they don't listen to a teacher's lecture and instead want to play. Your best bet is to get them on drugs to make them pay attention.

I love that you are ready to care for your child and understand they have adhd and instead of this poor children in the comments with parents that don’t do shit. Thank you

Dittly Darn it that’s exactly what i said when i was diagnosed XD you know you’re a child of apollo when your coping mechanisms are almost _all_ music-oriented, right?

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Don’t make the mistake of stopping treatment and losing focus on life and friendships

I never took medication because I took it once and it fucked me up.

Hello, I would not recommend relying on the syrup as a main source of recovery for your son, but I would recommend you to watch behavior modification techniques in youtube, or seek an alternative doctor. All the best!

Dont do it please Love their uniqueness

@o k how many languages do you speak? Shes typing in english , can you type in Urdu language?

you can’t really call it treatable when your brain is wired different from birth, but im glad you figured out :D

hey, im 13 and on the path of getting a diagnosis soon too! i wish the best for you!

I’m 13 I was diagnosed at 3 and I’m about to get re-evaluated

You have to wonder if it's even purposeful depending on their ages. Lots of the time I say things I regret isn't because I premeditated it, but rather because my tongue manufactured the sentence and let it loose before my brain could review it and say "maybe I shouldn't say that...". If they're particularly immature children then I could see fights and arguments starting easily. Luckily both my siblings had already moved out by the time I was three.

Jana Bond same I have ADHD too and my parents yell at me, I’m 13 too

LF Productions ok

My son is 8. And he has ADHD. I do shout at him. But only after asking and examining lots of times why he cant interrupt us. Or cant shout in a quiet place etc. I only shout if it gets too much. I may be his mom but I'm still a human :)

Explaining*

I get called annoying by everyone and people keep being mean...I'm 13 and im a girl and im constantly moving and tapping and shaking my leg and foot and alot of the time I doodle in my school books so that i dont keep on having to tap my pen off the table or throw things...i dont know if i have adhd so that's why I'm here looking to see if i have any of the symptoms and something tells me I'm gonna get diagnosed pretty soon with adhd

wait so u can take like two drinks and drive fine?

Jade me too it’s ok it’s just that I also have high functioning autism anxiety DMDD and odd

Fluffy pillow I have anxiety too

I have ADHD, ur not alone

School must suck for you too ya?

How do you deal with it? Do you get anxiety/depressed?

My son is 3 and he was diagnosed with ADHD at 1 and autism last year. My daughter has autism too and she's 4. She's showing signs if ADHD too so I'm going to get her checked. My kids are really smart though and do they love school but most of the time they will not comprehend to what I'm saying. I've learned that I have to have patience with my kids since they're not like other kids. I love my kids and they're miracle babies. Their dad said he loves seeing them everyday spell and write. We're trying to get them to read. The learning channels on RU-vid have really helped but we limit how many hrs they have video time each week.

no?

Yeah no

I was making a joke to my parents with big shaq when they told me to go in pool I came back with jacket and mans not hot playing lol

Parenting doesn’t work that way if kids are irritating people are judgmental but if they to stop your child and get s but rude same people have problems with you. Some even think you are an imposter and try to save the kid which is actually a wrong thing to do.

I take aderall

u got diagnosed?

Does ADHD make you steal things? And what about doing things that parents don't allow the kid with ADHD, do they still do those things coz of ADHD?

Ulises Sanchez it’s actually good!

Taha Khan I mean not every kid with ADHD is bad. I don’t steal or anything and I listen to my parents. I think if you had ODD along with ADHD you might not listen to adults or teachers because of your diagnosis. ADHD isn’t a bad thing we just struggle sometimes. It depends on each kid. It depends on how severe the level is and how they can handle it. ODD might cause kids to be defiant and not listen to adults and teachers. I actually have it but it’s mostly with teachers but I listen to my parents 100 %

Taha Khan anything else?

@@mariagriffin5873 Does ADHD make a child crave for attention or be less considerate? My nephew never shares ANYTHING with his younger sister unless he knows people are watching and will praise him. He has a hard time sharing or thinking of others unless it directly benefits him.

u shouldn’t want a cure. this is something u gonna embrace and harness. You don’t focus on work or school well work somewhere were u will. maybe start your own business and if your parents want you to become a doctor or lawyer you could end up with some serious big bucks starting your own business. Business would be my example but whatever it is you want to focus on don’t fight it focus on it.

Because ADHD is largely genetic. If you don't have it and your partner doesn't have it, it's unlikely that your kids would have it. It's unlikely that you would be associated with people who do have it - ADHDers can't maintain friendships like neurotypical people can. And adults with adhd have either been diagnosed or developed coping mechanisms. And parents who do have undiagnosed adhd will likely fall into your definition of "poor parents" because they have focus and impulse difficulties that make parenting more difficult and unpredictable. Trust me, I JUST got diagnosed at 32 and parenting was a big factor in going for testing.

You tell me what kid isn't impulsive?

Russell Barkley claims his twin brother died in a car crash due to having ADHD and drink driving. Barkley claims his brother had a habit of drink driving. As sad as his brothers death was, the facts are statistically if you drink drive you are more likely to die in a car crash! He’d done it before, and got away with it. When he died, Ron Barkley ran out of luck. Shit happens. Barkley contradicts himself. He and many others have said “ADHD” is highly heritable. Besides Barkley has spoke of a sparkling personality and “ADHD”. Perhaps Ron had a sparkling personality. Reading about him he must have. If not. he must have inherited it from his parents. Barkley’s mom was 94 when she died in April 2008. His dad dad was 83 in June 1999. Right. He keeps saying that people with ADHD die in car crashes, die prematurely due to accidents, have teenage pregnancies. Ron was 23 when he married. How many kids did he have?

Do you live in the States? The United States of ADHD

@@alanberkeley7282 Ah, I see. We've moved to Asshole Kingdom, in the land of Where Did I Mention That. Have fun preaching to yourself.

Epic Flame How old are you? If you’re old enough to be seen by a doctor you should consult one.

Im 10

I wouldn't get upset. My son is still my son no matter what

Because the test is done so that some half baked quacks can make a judgement on that precious child and then implement a drug regime that will ultimately ruin them.

Keep up the good work Some of the side effects of some of these drugs include depression and suicidal tendencies. All the best. :)

See Little Hittler’s experience below.

Ok, so sucidial tendencies arent on the list SHORT-TERM EFFECTS Loss of appetite Increased heart rate, blood pressure, body temperature Dilation of pupils Disturbed sleep patterns Nausea Bizarre, erratic, sometimes violent behavior Hallucinations, hyperexcitability, irritability Panic and psychosis Convulsions, seizures and death from high doses LONG-TERM EFFECTS Permanent damage to blood vessels of heart and brain, high blood pressure leading to heart attacks, strokes and death Liver, kidney and lung damage Destruction of tissues in nose if sniffed Respiratory (breathing) problems if smoked Infectious diseases and abscesses if injected Malnutrition, weight loss Disorientation, apathy, confused exhaustion Strong psychological dependence Psychosis Depression Damage to the brain including strokes and possibly epilepsy

it does! it affects the appetite of a lot of people on adhd medication. i remember when i first started meds, i never felt hungry until late at night. it sucks. however, there are ways to make it less sucky! for instance, eat a large breakfast before you take your medicine. it usually goes away after not too long. however, if you're experiencing significant weight loss, consider seeing a doctor. but don’t give up immediately. i have no clue why it does that lmao google it or ask your doctor XD

Joseph Peterson yes, when I was taking my pills I ate 1 meal a day and I faced severe depression and it was hard for me to laugh often and I’m a laughing person (it changed me a lot)

Really? I feel hungry

My son has ADHD. And he has it no matter what I do. But I do not let him get away with things. Like. Shouting out. Running around in stores. Destruction. I dont allow it because he has ADHD. So yes parents can make it worse by thinking 'they have ADHD' yeah but dont let them get away with shir because of it

Or the horrible public education system. Kids imaginations run wild and they have almost unlimited energy, no stress, no real problems so there mind is fresh and wants to be active and learn at the same time. All the symptoms she just said I guess I been having it forever (I'm 27) and many ,many people that I know. Everything is a business money talks and Big Pharma will diagnose you with anything to get you hooked. If you were to diagnose all 7.7billion in the world they would 99.9% of them would come up with something. It's all a scam, like you said, just learn how to be a good parent.

This is the most , insensitive and illogical comment ever😭. ADHD is not just normal distractions or bad bad parenting, or even the school system, your memory sucks, you can barley focus and when u do u miss at 60% of the conversation. Of course it’s normal to be distracted yes, but not to the extent of a person with adhd

It has nothing to do with parents, do more research before u try to tell doctors when something isn’t real

@@monetdavis1913 I have done enough, every kid I know that has this made up "disease" has lazy parents who never discipline their child.

@@monetdavis1913 and good, it needs to be insensitive. Too many parents are their child's friend and not a parent. They'd rather dope them up on medication than be a parent and pop them in the mouth.

While over diagnosed and too often medicated, this is a legitimate condition. The child takes in too much environmental information and tends to relieve the overwhelming stimuli by movement (ADHD) or excessive lack of task completion "just sits there"(ADD). Ideas that have helped in my classroom are personal headphones to dampen auditory input, breaking up task into smaller portions (still do entire assignment), less distraction on classroom walls(visual input). We also use task reminders and timers with achievable goals, small rewards.

Awesome, but you are not describing a condition that everybody doesnt have at one time or another. We would all do well to have personal headphones and our daily task being presented in an understandable and achievable manner.

Go Gan while this is typical of everyone SOMETIMES, when it is all the time, it’s a problem. I’m not a believer in meds, but accommodations and behavior modification really can help these kids in school.

If this condition is typical of everyone at sometime or another then its normal and not a disorder. Maybe there is something wrong with the school system and not the children.

Go Gan your opinion won’t change facts. Blaming parents or schools is not a solution. What do you propose?

Your poor child... He doesn't have the same ability to regulate emotions, mood, internalize consequences or control impulses like that of a normal person. He is already not working with a full toolbox and the negativity, shame, judgement, and disappointment you're conveying to him will only exacerbate his symptoms. Try having some empathy. I and my 5 year old daughter both have ADHD. I find when I spend more time with her, remove the shame/judgement around her defecits, and praise her strengths and progress, her symptoms are greatly alleviated and my life is easier as a result. I can enjoy my relationship with her now since viewing her differently and a new approach. You create a self fulfilling prophecy when you talk about your child the way you do. Let him know he has other options. Let him know you love him even when he is making bad choices. Let him know you are there to help. Take him to a doctor. If you don't, you are dooming him to be the person you described and nothing else.

Siobhán Murphy I’m sorry but first of all, ITS A FUCKING KID! You can’t blame the kid. Second of all, it’s a mental disorder and the symptoms are behavioural, their brains work different. It is NOT their fault. They don’t have the same self control as someone without ADHD would have. Please help your kid, and help yourself to understand ADHD more as well.