Adoptee Story: " I Didn't Know I Was Black Until You Told Me" 

That is beautiful.

Bless you for giving those children a good home and a good life and so much love. You get back whatever you give in life ten fold, so I can imagine how blessed you are! 🙏🏻👼🏻✝️💗

I am an only child and my parents adopted me and have always told me. I remember when I was very little about 5, 6 and all the girls were talking that they came from their mums belly, and I said well I came from my mummy's heart. I'll always remember that comment and how I responded so proudly. I never had much interest in meeting my birth parents. They just had sex and any idiot can do that, but for my real parents I was God's gift to them. They couldn't have children, so I was the most blessed to have been reassigned to the correct family ❤️ not many get this opportunity. I am now married, I work full time, studying part time towards my second degree, and really want to adopt. Hopefully one day soon I'll have the same God's gift as my 'real mum', the only one for me, the one who raised me and has always been here for me, says she was also lucky to have. My dad... Was the best man I've met. God bless his soul, was the most charismatic and lovable person in the world. We're so lucky to be a family and it is so nice to hear the same in this video! Made me proud of your parents and especially of you! They need to be cherished, just like they cherished us when we were growing up. ❤️

@@brazilianwyorkshireaccent thanks for the comment. I love your spirit. Such a positive outlook. You shine bright. Thank you for the kind comment.

Wow. The love you gave him. Shaped him into the man he is today. His decision to never get a DNA test is because of your unconditional love. May God continue to bless you and you family. I too cried while reading your comment. Be blessed

That is so correct. I love this comment. Thank you.

That’s unfortunate, they should always teach the child about the ethic background. It’s great to live in the fantasy of that we’re all the same but reality will always show you otherwise

@@daniella8400 We'll never be the same if we have people like you pointing out the differences. Sometimes we should just let the main thing be the main thing. My culture as an adoptee from another country was just being an American and as far as I can tell what's so bad about that? My parents don't look like me but they chose me and did all the things that people who look like me wouldn't.

@@mikeb3936 cool story

I genuinely didn't understand. How much as I empathize with this story guy story. I'm like : " Did he ever look at himself in a mirror ?" Then I though may be he's blind, but he's not. Your comment made me realize how much the people whom raised us could have an impact on us, indeed ! Now about difference, it's all about what we want to focus on. You could find differences between 2 black people for instance. And resemblance between a black and a white person. Macolm in the middle have an episode about it S3E18

This is the most beautiful touching story. Kids just want love. We all do. Love makes you family. 💜🫂🙏

Because it's not about skin color. It's about culture. Skin color only lasts for the first minute until someone opens their mouth. Then it's immediately about culture.

@jschudel777 I happened to see your comment. You are wise. That is literally what it is.

@@jschudel777 Well, I didn't care about Janie's "culture" either. She was just my best friend.

Wow

Amazing, giving back the love you receive ×5 💕💕

God bless you.

Wow thats amazing I hope to do that one day as well

😘😘😘

100%. My husband was raised by one overt and one covert severe narcissists and unfortunately he has mild tendencies and became my abuser. He’s still stuck as their victim and it’s so deeply entrenched nothing can penetrate it. Some people don’t deserve to be parents at all

Its love and caring that makes a parent not biology.

So true 👍 👌

Sad but true

Any fool with a dick can make a baby. It takes a man to be a father.

You mean you don’t hear about beautiful stories like this because that’s not what the media is all about! We are not a world full of bad people! We are a world full of many many good people!

Yes this is VERY RARE!! Blessings to this beautiful family this melts my heart fr😭

Gee don't find many that raise 1, 2 , or 3 these days. Too modern, too materialistic, children need the roots of country living not city sidewalks an pavement.

Exactly 💯.

@@oldiebutgoodie2554 There are many, many happy stories I read every day. Where are you looking?

Amen! 🙏

@Juicy Smooliet's Subway Sammich Yeah, but which side are you speaking from? Like, are you saying black and brown people are petty for calling out mistreatment? It’s been 400 plus years of white people acting like there isn’t an issue.

@@housefire6229 really??? there should even be a question of which side.

@@housefire6229 It should be obvious that it’s both sides

@@kittinkins It was rhetorical 🤣

This accept the cross thing.

Love this!

Yes, indeed. Feed, educate, shelter children regardless of where they are born. I have many in different parts of the world. I am not wealthy or rich. I have not won the lottery. I am not waiting for a miracle. Share your food money, movie money, video money, pizza money, tablet or cell phone money. Pay less for tablets and cells that money can educate and feed many in other countries. I will never be a rich woman because I share. If I were wealthy I would adopt and build small rooms for shelter pay school fees and purchase uniforms for the underprivileged. A sewing shop for training to sew. Farms to feed many. Wells for water. Give me the power. Educate more women they are the ones who raise your children. Knowledge is power and unity is strength. Unite people all over the world. One race the human race. Be safe everyone world-wide.

@@ClarityDetermination this including the cross thing, the challenge is given to you to embrace what God has called you to do. Stop ignoring him

@@ClarityDetermination stop deceiving yourself. You know God is real. I am Asian and me and my family are having dreams of Jesus return just like 100s of people out there. REPENT while u still have time..

Yes. I agree. Thank you.

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@@authorthomaskirst Hi Thomas, How about asking an expert to do the DNA and search for your biological siblings, cousins, aunts/uncles? You might still get some answers that way.

You mean elderly lady

@@KINGJAMES-rp3ex.Thank you very much for your comment. I am not a native speaker, but I will do my homework. From now on I will use this form "an elderly lady "... . 😊😘👍🏾🌞🌹

This might sound weird because I never met you, but thank you for sharing your story. I’m glad you are alive. God bless you.

I Feel You Stand Strong ✊🏽 ✌🏽

I'm so sorry to hear you went through and were raised like that. You're loved.

Oh I sure feel this. Raised by a mentally ill mother, enabler stepfather. Dead beat bio-dad. I'm sorry, it sounds like you got a similar parent lotto I did and it's not easy. I had no resiliency either. It makes life hard. We were children and it's one thing the world doesn't understand.

Same, I always thought people who were adopted were lucky, because they have parents who chose them and love them and have the means to care for them.

Love the comment. Raw and real. Glad you definitely understood what I was saying in that regards. Great comment... thank you.

@@authorthomaskirst Thanks brother stay blessed.

Instead of being a cat lady, she collected humans

I liken this to being a cat lover. I have had a number of cats over the years, even black ones and white ones and spotted ones but they all are all wonderful with unique personalities and their own likes and dislikes. No two of them were exactly alike.

She put me in mind of Dr. Ruth Westheimer.

Oh my goshhhh yes!!! You are right the world does need more people like her! To raise 1 child is a paramount job but to raise 24!!! That is a superwoman! To be so dang sweet too! What an amazing story Thomas has too!

AMEN.

Beautiful heartfelt story. When and Where can I buy your book? What is the Title? I want to read it. Thanks

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@@bertwest656 book is in the link. Thank you very much.

@@authorthomaskirst Thank you

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What a courageous decision. ❤

@@t.h.8475 thank you ♥️

You could be talking about me. So damn sad.

So true!

Hello

The LOVE donors!

Love is all

Thank you. She is a very very special woman.

Love has no race, no human barriers. Love is love, there is no color, no hate. Love conquers all of those things and is such a good thing. LOVE IS LOVE !!

@@lisachatham8690 What you wrote here is the key to everything. Very profound and so true.

I started tearing up when she said she was thrilled to adopt a baby who is black. 😭 I was like... Oh my goodness I hope God blesses her a thousand times. Her heart is gold. I know the feeling of rejection, feeling undesirable, not good enough, being unlovable well enough to know the value of people who are so accepting and so full of love. Gosh I'm gonna cry.

MORE HUMANS NEED TO BE HUMAN..NOT THIS SEEING DIFFERENCES...EMBRACE THEM AND MAY LEARN??

Also, youre an amazing son for making such a heartfelt tribute to your mom

Will be trying to get the book.

Absolutely

That is beautiful. I have two younger boys. One looks exactly like me I think. Even when I had my daughter it was a feeling of serendipity. Thanks for the comment.

Yesss they're hers ,beautiful soul

had me at hello i feel ya

I know right me too

Me too 😭 the brother n his mother is strong

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Chronic joy your comments summed it up. Thanks for sharing.

Oh ide love to sit and talk with you. I been talking with people with our situation. I'm sure we have alot in common.

Yes! You two should definitely meet up.

It don't matter where you came from all that matters is where you're going and I hope I end up in the same place as you two do . You may not know where you're going but I do 😁

I always wanted to bless children. I have 2 biological children, but I feel God is pushing me to love more. My husband is also a great father, he things about adopting as well. We are Brazilian, here mixed Race os something normal (my mother in law is half Black), but I am afraid of this: the child feel dificulties about being raised in a white family. I mean, anyone who has a child feel they are the most beautiful, inteligent, loving and smart kid in the world. But, How would the child feel about It? I am afraid of the child feel like he/se doesn't know their real place in the world, because family gives you that: the feeling of belonging, indentity etc. Well, Sorry for that, but I read your comments and It helps me try to understand a little more about It. God bless you.

@@Esperandoonoivo I think you should adopt any child you love and it'll work out no parent is perfect and if you love the kid you adopt it won't matter at all it's better than that same child growing up having never been adopted and feeling no one loved him at all

Yes, when i heard the mother in the video tell this, i became angry at the racism of the missionary. But then i considered, many adoptive parents she talks to probably want kids looking similar, so not everybody - the kid or strangers - know right away they are not the biological parents. It's not even the missionaries fault, it's just she was considering potential adoptive parents trying to avoid a stigma, the stigma of being obviously not the biological parent, and therefore being less of a parent or second class parent. Even though we still have a lot to learn as a society, i think these kids of social pressures go away, the stigma, the racism, and people see parents of adopted children as what they are: parents. Loving parents. Not more, not less.

@@Jonathanizer thats pretty much it. Most people want to avoid the social effect

@@veritablyvermilion4726 the backlash has been far stronger then the embers. Even thrn that regime has surpricingly little to say on other coloured people

@@veritablyvermilion4726 You should really educate yourself before you make such claims, because you're talking absolute bollocks. I am from Germany, and there is nothing taboo about WW2 and the Holocaust. You learn about it in school, basically every grade children are taught about it. I don't think i've had a school year where this was not a big topic in at least one subject. And it does not stop there, documentaries and educational shows about it are on tv all the time. And the history lessons in school and tv don't hold back. They show corpses, they show war, and they show victims from concentration camps and everything. To say this is taboo, when the opposite is true, is completely absurd, and quite frankly somewhat insulting. If a country faces it's historic guilt for having caused enormous suffering, and that country makes amends and tries to prevent future generations from repeating mistakes of the past, that should be seen as a good thing, not ignorantly disregarded.

There's noting wrong in saying g he's black..... Not everyone wants to make it obvious that their kids are adopted...People who are adopted with same color don't get asked questions or raise brows. So it's best to be honest upfront with the adoptive parents who havent seen the kids.

True n som very few cases,but it's always a hidden agenda wit a lot of cases!

Mmmm It does matter. It's who you are.

@@pancho33pistolas28 it IS a big part of who you are. It’s your story. Your journey. But I understand what you mean too. He lost his parents and he was adopted by loving people who cared for him. That’s beautiful. Social political and cultural structures can interfere with the simple honest love and care between everyone. As he grew he wanted to find his natural family and history and his culture. I understand 💯. The lesson from this ultimately is love. ✌️❣️Honestly what a lovely guy. What an amazing story.

Awesome comment.

I wish you a loving and happy future. ✌️❤️

You are very, very welcome. Thank you for taking time to watch. Good bless you

Yes, Amen ❤️❤️❤️

Well said. ♥️

Yes

Yeah racism needs to die

Thank you for leaving a comment. I want you to know this is why I do this. For people in our situations. My book is deep and from the heart. If I could hand it to you I would. I hope all the best for you and thanks again.

Thanks dear

I just wish when I was younger I understood that. Life would have been much easier. However, that's how it went and I wouldn't change it. I'm glad you got to meet your family. I hope you get all the fulfillment, and answers you need. Thank you for the comment. Well wishes for you and your family.

Absolutely correct.

Yes. there is this person and that person and we are all different in some way. I know what you are saying. While of course if you were to draw likeness of the person they are what they are but all the extra baggage and preconceived notions placed on race in our media is appalling. An intentional divisional wedge.

My brothers and sisters were born in lome, Togo. my dad and mom are both European however they met in West Africa in 84'. She was married previously, my dad fell in love with her and the kids and they all came over to the US and then I was born. I never once knew in all my life until high school that my brothers and sisters were different or I was different from them until it was pointed out. To me they're not half-brothers and half-sisters their brothers and sisters.

@@goshnodo I don't know why this is so touching but it is. I think its because this is how it should be.

Repent to Jesus Christ ““Even now,” declares the Lord, “return to me with all your heart, with fasting and weeping and mourning.”” ‭‭Joel‬ ‭2:12‬ ‭NIV‬‬

silence.

@@berta.9912 ?

@@emcoop8552 silence

Bravo!

Bravo...amen to that ..

Well thank you very much. She is special. Very special. Thank you thank you.

Hello

@Author Thomas Kirst , hi your story is beautiful ❤, I want to purchase your book. What's the title and were can I get it

@@elijahwhacker5525 I didn't know I was black until you told me. It's also in the description. Thank you very much.

That is great. Motivation Is honestly what I want to see. We are great in one way or another. Thank you for the comment. I know you can and will do better. You take care.

I have another video of her telling some of her story. 2017 I recorded about an hour and a half of her talking about her life, and how she got us all. I will slowly put out the material. It's on my page. I'm my opinion, there is nobody on this earth 🌎 like her. Her story and what she did for us unwanted kids should be celebrated. Thank you so much for the kind comment. It means allot. Thanks for taking time out of you day to watch this video.

@@authorthomaskirst please do so. What a wonderful family…

Out of curiosity, why? To me it sounds like he resents the fact he was adopted and would have much preferred to be with his blood family, then said the most important moment of his life was when he had a child that was "his own flesh and blood". It sounds like he doesnt even consider the people who adopted him, or all his brothers and sisters to acutally be family. It sounds like he spent his whole life tortured trying to find his original birth parents, clearly adoption wasnt enough for him and he literally can never recover from his initial abandonment.

Mine as well !

@@nullakjg767 that’s quite a reach with this comment. No not even close. I’m very very close to my mother. Think about what it would be like to care for 24 kids. She was stretched very thin. I don’t think you could imagine with 18 boys being the 2nd to the youngest what it was like. But I never focused on that part. I was a kid in a confusing situation. So I wrote about it. There are others in the same situation. I think you would get a lot out of my book. Thanks for the comment. I take no offense. You can’t know until I tell you.

@@authorthomaskirst Its not a reach, i listened to what he said about how he feels. If its not blood related, it means nothing to him. And maybe were in a bad place because people tell you how they feel, and you dont listen to them when they do.

@@nullakjg767 well I can assure you that is not it. I appreciate the comment. I’m sorry you saw it that way. Definitely not my intention.

You will be a wonderful parent ♥️♥️♥️

Ask Jesus…He will answer, I promise

@@mr.smithgnrsmith7808 people who stand by with closed eyes and ears and just say “Jesus will take care of it” are the people that allow the worst atrocities to happen. Open your eyes and be part of the world. That’s actually what Jesus had in mind.

You shouldn't pick from a certain race, you should try to help the child who is most in need, preferably of your own race.

Good Luck 👍

Share this video on fb or where ever. I know I am😊

Amen

Yes I am

I can't thank you enough for the kind words. People like you are the ones that keep me going. It has been a long process. However, I feel it was the path he chose for me that I must fulfill. Good bless you, and thanks again.

@@authorthomaskirst your daughter is beautiful. Your story, your truth, doesn't hinge on your birth donors. My parents had 4 of us in 5 years and then divorced when I was 2. Pretty much have had zero parenting from either of them. 50 years later, no change. They don't care, but that mom of yours, she's gold. And now you are too.

Been a long time. Yes I have found peace. Thanks for the comment. Our stories intertwined. I just want to spread good positive content. I hope all is well for you and your family. Thanks again. I'm sure we will run into each other sometime. Take care.

Sorry to interrupt this exchange. I just wanted to say I'm so glad you found peace. You can tell how much you love your child and how much your mom loves you. I wish you nothing but the best.

AMEN!

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Thank you. It's hard though. It is. But I feel like this is my path. I knew I would do this since age 12. On my Facebook I have a picture of my signature my brother got from me at church on a tithing envelope. He kept it all these years. I never let go of what I saw in my head. Thank you for the nice comment. Thanks for the encouragement. I really appreciate it.

@@authorthomaskirst YOUR SO LUCKY TO BE LOVED BY YOUR ADOPTIVE PARENTS...THEY CHOSE YOU, & SHOWED YOU THAT YOU ARE LOVED...SOME ARN'T THAT LUCKY WITH THEIR BIRTH PARENTS...I'M SURE YOUR BIRTH MOTHER DIDN'T WANT TO GIVE YOU UP, BUT HER CERCUMSTANCES FORCED HER, & TO GIVE YOU TO A FAMILY THAT COULD CARE FOR YOU...WAS AN ACT OF LOVE, & FAITH. YOUR DAUGHTER IS BEAUTIFUL, SHE TAKES AFTER HER DAD...YOU SHOULD BE PROUD OF THE MAN, & FATHER YOU HAVE BECOME...I KNOW IF I WAS BLESSED TO BE YOUR MOTHER...I WOULD BE SO PROUD OF YOU TOO...NEVER DOUBT THAT YOU ARE WORTHY...."YOU ARE A CHILD OF THE UNIVERSE, NO LESS THAN THE TREES & THE STARS, YOU HAVE A RIGHT TO BE HERE "!! YOU ARE A BEAUTIFUL HUMANE BEING!! ♡☆♡ BLESSINGS ON YOU, & YOUR FAMILY...♡☆♡

Me too

That was beautifully written. You are so so correct. Thank you for the comment. Thank you for taking time out of your day. Very much appreciated.

@@authorthomaskirst Thomas, Always know that you were put on earth as God desired. We all have a story to tell, so go out there and make an impact. Be blessed😊

I’m almost speechless at this response….lol. Very well articulated. I guess it hit me because this is exactly what I wish and yearned to have. I’m slowly picking up the pieces. Thank you so much. This helps a ton 🙏🏾🙏🏾

Maybe if we had a real main stream media who broadcast about the good in this world and not all the bad things and didn’t make their money off of the hate they perpetrate you would hear a lot more stories like this! And I’m not putting his story down it’s just his is not the only one!

@@oldiebutgoodie2554 I totally agree. The media has not helped and it’s shameful that so much of our media focuses on negativity. Wish it would change because we need more positivity to help bring us together.

I LOVE THAT- I was chosen ♥️beautiful 🌹

I can remember the story like it was yesterday. It wouldn't be considered politically correct in today's views. My mom explained that there were rows of babies and that my black hair and brown eyes caught their attention. She knew in that moment that I was meant to be with them. It was my being different that made me stand out, and they chose me to be their daughter. Mind you she was explaining this to a 6 year old. I had a cousin that was adopted a year before me, and her parents shouldn't have been parents. As we grew up it became sad and uncomfortable because she would wonder why it wasn't her that was chosen. I count my lucky stars every day for the love they gave me.

That’s beautiful to think of being as chosen. I do wonder why your parents held off on explaining to you about adoption though? Kids don’t have filters and they also aren’t stupid. The girl who told you didn’t understand that being adopted didn’t mean you were not with your real family because you were. But she could tell you weren’t genetically related. I’m just surprised it didn’t occur to your parents that another child would pick up on it. Your mom should have foreseen that as should all parents who adopt kids who don’t look like them. Other kids will notice and adoptive parents need to take that into account.

@@ameliesayshola8854 I think because it was just my 2 brothers and I growing up and being the only playmates that I had before we started the same elementary school.

Wow. The Germany part got me. My last name is German. I'm sure you know that though. My adopted parents came from their in the 1950's. The video that says "Anna remembers" is her talking a bit about living during the Nazi times. She has been through allot. I hope you get to reconnect with your family soon. Im sure you miss them. Thank you for watching and commenting. I will be thinking about you, as I do understand how you feel. Take care.

So you were adopted separated from your siblings? Sad that happened. I hope you can do well enough in life and your siblings to be able to visit one another.

@@reflectionsinthebible3579 after i met my bio family I found out I'm actually a middle child. She told everyone I was a stillborn. In the description there is an article of it that you might like. Thanks again for the comment.

Yes. Perfectly said. Allot of these comments shows there is some love in the world. As a fellow human I will say I love you and hope all the best for you. You seem like a strong person. Thank you for the comment. I appreciate it.

Blessings sweetheart, OneLove

Hey you are loved say that to yourself everyday 🥰💋💙❤

Everyday.

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"so well spoken"? what does that even mean? that normally Black people are not well spoken?

@@akwaabab8504 um, it means that he told the story well.."well put/well spoken". You should prob calm down a little....🙄

@@eyesthatsee2708 maybe learn to speak

@@cantunderstandfoolishpeeps2036 ??

sorry that was meant for Akwaaba.

Thank you. The burden is worth it so long as I can bring hope to just one person. I'm older now, and I get to appreciate my kids. I don't take one moment for granted. Actually I did find some answers. I spoke to the lady that was at the hospital with her. After my mother walked out to the car. She came back said she couldn't do. She made a stir in the hospital. But they said it was too late after she signed the papers. I found out she would cry at night for me and lost the sparkle in her eye. I made a video with that in it but had to remove it. But I'm remaking it. Thanks again. Good bless you!

@@authorthomaskirst 😭 thank you so much for sharing the information with me that you found out! My heart feels so much better for you now knowing that you know what you know💖 Happy New Year🎉🎊🥳 also I'm so glad you're going to remake the video I can't wait to Tune in✊🏿

Beautiful comment. Thanks for sharing.

Yes there is. Love is not shown much. Maybe there's not a market for it. So I will create the market. Thank you for the comment.